Having genuine interests that excite you convey that you are happy with your life and don't need anything from anybody, and it creates a sense of ease and attraction from others
Charming - authentic charisma: Show emotions Read other's emotions Controlling, regulate own emotions Apear calm, cool Social expressiveness: public speaking but encage with every listener Know how to listen Tactic, knows social etiquete How to behave in social interactions, situations Can analyse people Social control, role-playing: take control of any conversation. Avoid getting angry. Leave people pleasantly delighted Make or admit mistake. Confident Humble is think less about yourself Sense of humor Charisma is not get them to like you, but get them to like themselves.
You can absolutely build charisma, I think it's one of the most important things someone can learn in ones life. It helps with your career, dating, and over all happiness. I plan on doing an in depth video on this in the future too! Great content.
+Successful Minds Your key word, over all happiness, this builds charisma. Charisma, the act of finally having the balls to be ourselves in a responsible manner by understanding our emotions, controlling them and projecting happiness from within aka we are whole. We know who we are, we know our skills and we shoot for the moon by understanding human behavior and we know how to delight people with our happiness. It's having the balls to be vulnerable and not perfect. When you are happy, you are able to make someone smile, blush or laugh, they share that part of themselves with you, which in turn makes you feel better. It builds and builds until an emotional connection is formed. The art of honestly expressing yourself.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "hypnotherapy script for anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Reneyton Hypnotify Secrets - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my work buddy got cool results with it.
i can usually find ways to be funny or win someone over but i am stumped now. its tough when there is an age gap, racial gap, and hating on you makes them feel better. or that is just part of who they are, angry all the time. then i get angry with how i'm treated and it goes round and round. or others are quiet, waiting for me to be mr. funny or outgoing. years ago it was easier but i went through some stuff that hardened my heart. i don't look at people the same anymore. obviously that is not productive.
Wow. I practically lived my childhood hiding my emotions as to not be perceived as weak. It's only recently that I've been able to get in touch with my emotions
Im so happy I found this channel, ever since I started listening to this channel I've only had success with women. I cant thank you enough for the knowledge I've learned. I've never felt better about my self thank you 🙏
There's a difference between wearing your heart on your sleeve and being a maudlin. The latter being an extreme. Sharing your emotions is one thing but dumping your problems on others expecting sympathy is what's causing people to construe you as a weak individual which is what puts them off. I'd encourage you to read 'The subtle art of not giving a fuck' by Mark Manson. Hope I've helped you :)
wipe0utpuls3 Been meaning to read that! What I meant is that I'm not bubbly unless I'm really happy. I don't know how I come across to people, but from my POV I feel like someone can tell if I'm not in a good mood that day because I don't feign happiness that well. And if someone asks how I'm doing I'll answer truthfully, albeit succinctly so as not to sound whiney.
+hipnhappenin Oh come on don't be moody, Judy Moody and the Not Bummer Summer. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve cause your heart will get dirty with bacteria, just put the attitude in your ovaries. The biggest problem is that people don't know themselves and when people asking questions about themselves they feel interrogated or attacked. Are you happy? I'm kind of...No kind off doesn't exist you say yes or no. Secret, depression is an illusion.
Seriously? I never think George Clooney was attractive. To me he has too much hair. When people were raven of him when he was in ER, I never join that crowd.
Love the channel, I'm slowly gaining confidence back after years of having low self esteem and such and I can credit it to the lessons I have learned through your channel.
well done. I find that by starting with a sincere compliment is a great way to build charisma. when you are able to make someone smile, blush or laugh, they share that part of themselves with you, which in turn makes you feel better. it builds and builds. you can feel when you light up
Dude, rock on with these informative videos! I really love them, it's extremely useful for me as a person who was blindsided with manipulation...I am increasing my awareness every time I watch.
Charm and being charismatic Is having social and emotional skills, so others remember you. Use these: 1 Express your emotions to others 2 Empathy, read emotions of others, sensitive, feel there pain 3 Controlling regulate there emotions, apear calm 4 Social expressiveness, engage with people personal in conversations, captivate others 5 Listen well, tactfull, know social rules well, can analise people and read tiny details 6 Social role-play, take charge of interaction Leave people pleasantly delighted Convey emotions in a calm cool way. Be able to read people Know how to behave in social situations is social control Avoid getting angry Conversations more meaningfull by authentic charisma Enhance relations 8 pratfall effect, admit your mistakes. They will like you more. 9 Humility is thinking less of yourself, dont talk about how good you are etc 10 confident 11 sense of humor, get the jokes Getting people to like themselves!
Sociopaths or psychopaths lack empathy and have shallow emotions yet they are very charismatic(not all of them). So technically you dont need to be empathetic or emotional. You just have to be a good actor. Hence brad pitt and George are both good at that. You learn how to ACT charismatic not just be it. Though for some it comes very natural and they dont have to think about it and for others its an act that needs to be practices over and over then it becomes second nature.
Your videos are helpful, really. I came from a fatherless home, well partially, so I am a half-alpha introvert with an interest in human interactions. Thanks to you I am learning about how to use body language, social skills, and masculine traits to get what I want, and seeing as how i want the most important job in America (the POTUS) I needed this. More so since the past few years weren't very happy, and so I have had to relearn a few things.
You reminded me what are the things to look at! And you have given answers for the questions what I was looking for in all these years. I will take it forward.
Kudos! You speak of empathy as though you truly understand. I usually hear or read the word used in a context that I'm left sitting there thinking, "he meant 'sympathy,' not 'empathy'." I enjoy your work, young man.
The shoutout to the viewers of your video and thing about spreading knowledge inspired me to subscribe to your channel. Great job, I consciously knew that’s what you were trying to make me do, and then you made me feel like it’s perfectly okay to do it and that I would benefit from it.
Charisma: “Is the ability to help others like themselves, when they are around you”.... That is powerful. I totally understand. BTW: George Clooney is TOTALLY my “man crush”; more so than Brad, I love and I observe seeing him interact and work the crowd.... he’s awesome 👍🏼💪🏼
Thank you for putting your life experience, wisdom and subjective reality into such engaging and effective videos in order to help people. You are much appreciated. Infinite love
good morning. last year in 2 weeks due to 2 category 5 hurricanes i lost everything i own except my dog and computer. and yes, have been suffering ptsd. i used to be charismatic. that will return - along with dishware, linen, music, a home, jeep, etc. etc. slowly, okay, but my life will be back. thanks for wonderful, upbeat message.
I remember going out & getting 3 girls numbers on the same piece of paper. Treat them like options. You are the prize! They are just a potential compliment. Stop buying them shit.
This is great stuff! Thank you for creating these much-needed videos...For those of us that can truly appreciate, and apply this knowledge...the world is a lovely place :)
Your brain works similarly to mine. You are very skilled at articulating your thoughts into words. Def not your average dude in respects to the way you think. Cool videos, I subbed.
Rule #1 to be Charismatic, you must be a good listener. Learn to actively listen your audience if you want to charm them. To know what to say when to say it, you must first listen. Also, for the people out there that are highly suggestible ~~ affirmations such as “I am a very good listener” will do wonders
Hey glad I read your comment, it is a good way to see it for me. You can detach yourself from the outcome and not take it personal because it is just a game.
The biggest part of charisma, is the appearence of happyness. Happy people are fascinating and everybody want to hang out with them. Happyness spread positive feelings for those who whitness it: it reminds them success, confidence and strenght. When you try to appear happy, you will naturally smile, use some humour, look people in the eyes when you talk to them, listen to them carrefully and pay attention to everyone around... Plus, appearing happy in social interactions leads to more actual happyness in your life: you will find yourself invited to more evens, poeple will check on you more often and be more ready to give you a hand everytime you need! And of course, you will have more success in love !! So if you don't have any charisma... just fake it!! with time, it become the true you !!
I met George Clooney on the set of Out of Sight at 13 years old. I was super nervous to get my picture taken with him, I think he could tell. He was super warm and charismatic, he said come here you bum, are you married? I was like no, nervously. He smiled and said ohh you must be divorced. He put his arm around me to take a picture and had a genuine smile. I was a very obese 13 year old, so the way Mr. Clooney treated and acted around me, has been a very fond memory of mine.
Thank you for this video. I do need to improve my habilité to make people feel great around me without overdoing it. I will watch it again n take notes it reminded me of The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene.
I don't feel like I have it, but with some people it seems like I'm really good at it. Guess it depends on who I talk to. As I went through the video it made more sense, I guess I am fairly charismatic. I'm very observant and quiet so I always try to avoid conflictive conversations, I hate it honestly, so maybe it just came naturally.
my mom always seems to say i have above average charisma , well it sometimes can be true like , no one seems to dislike me that much . well , some do , but they are probably just jealous of me because people accept me easily in any circle
I agree with everything you say here except the examples you used . When you have the money, success and looks of those two ,you do t even have to try to be charismatic, you just are.
My problem is that I seem to know what to do but the courage and motivation are missing. It's hard to even try when you are broken and problematic or full of anxieties.
Luna Merci lmao you think cause you forced your charisma you can act all superior? millions of people just like you. Step ya game up, then come back for me haha.
Joseph Amosa I never forced my charisma, you just acting all scared with your over reaction and your neediness by letting this bother you in the first place, idiot.
Luna Merci replying to my comment defensively obviously means I've triggered some emotions within you that hit your ego. Thus you felt the need to defend yourself. If this in any way didn't apply to you, you wouldn't have felt the need to reply.
First off - great video. And I mean, really thoughtful and informative video. Thanks for taking the time to put it together and share it. Secondly - Studying human psychology and behavior in social situations is a hobby of mine, and when I really see how things are working in most social dynamics, it just kind of pisses me off. So many decent people allow themselves to be walked over by obnoxious or sly dogs. IDK, it's hard not to just drop out completely most of the time. A video on how to help without making things more complicated and hurting someone's pride would be really helpful. :P Thanks again, +1!
It takes a long time to develop charisma but once you master it girls and money will just come to you. There are certain tonalities that you can use to influence and gestures that go alongside them. The hardest thing for me to master was state control. Body language and tonality came kind of easy for me after that. Women and people react to you in a different way and you can truly use it for bad or for evil cause you are influencing people on an emotional level to like you. You also will stand out in any social situation cause you know what you are doing cause you are awake.
I can turn on the charm. In most situations people seems drawn to me, and in group projects I'm often delegated as leader even if I don't want to be. I know I'm good at it though. Having been a waitress for many years has taught me a lot about being charming with many different people.
If you think you’re clever then you’re probably just more calmer in social interactions, and in return you become socially smarter (what to say and when to say it)
Although I understand how socializing and mind games work, I'm open to see and hear things I haven't or hear thoughts and opinions of others because it might help in the future. so thanks FarFromAverage.
I’m a charismatic person by nature. I was really depressed at some point and when I tried opening to someone they told me that they would have never guessed that I was depressed. I’m just human lol 😆 I’ll have to admit that I really don’t like it when people know when I’m depressed or when I’m crying. I feel weak I’ll also have to add the fact that whenever I leave somewhere or I move to a different location. Most of my friends tell me that they feel like there is an empty void. I usually don’t see how I can make people feel like that but I find it crazy. Overall I’m always delighted to put a smile on someone’s face.
Great Channel. I just took an hour and 30 minutes taking notes on what you said in video itself. Stopping, rewinding, doing it over and over. I just had to write down word for word much of what you said. Each sentence is filled with so much purpose that if I were to write the ideas down in bullet points and not sentences, it would lose the effect the sentence creates in the way it's portrayed. Thanks you and keep it up.
truth is, if someone accepts u, no matter what u do and act they will put up w/ anything from u, but if they dont, no matter what u do will never be good enough
Brad Pitt and George Clooney seem to know what is going to happen in social settings and interactions in the movies because they have read the script. I wonder if they are that precognicient in real life?
I hate bland comments such as just be more confident and social. That is easy to say, but how do you practically condition your mind to do these things? Our subconscious mind is usually formed at an early age and we have a core story that controls how we view everything. It is great to say at a conscious level to just be more confident, but what we need are practical steps to convince the boss (subconscious mind) that this will benefit us and make this our default state. How do we accomplish this?
very good question; I also wondered that and the narrator here thinks we will magically pick up charm by being part of more social interactions. Could be practice makes perfect etc. Hopefullly not Catch 22 perhaps whereby lack of charm makes it harder to socialize to less opportunity to learn. Just getting older endows one with more confidence so just wait thirty years or so:)
Do this in every social setting. 1. how do i approach that will make people like me or compli with my agenda. 2. analyze their initial response, and tailor your approach from then on, to get what you want. 3. stay calm collected and outgoing, in a funny disrete way. (make the atmosphere pleasant and nice without forcing the situation to be like this) 4. when conversing with people, listen or just dont talk to those people, nothing is more annoying or rude than someone who doesnt listen 5. dont get attigated by anything unless the situation requires it, someone insult you and you should just brush it off with the confidence from step 3. 6 do background research so you always have a quick reply that is intelligent, but casually expressed. (dont seem like a better knowing person, and be a dick about it) 7. its fine to agree and disagree about opinions, but lay it out politely and seem understanding that the other person doesnt see it the same way (this is actually test used by police selection comitee) ps it shows strong personality and independance 8. if you have nothing good, funny, nice or important to say, then say nothing. (rest in yourself) 9. never do shouting matches or anything alike unless it is required. 10. always asses and analyze the situation from the responses you get, and tailor your next move based on the analysis. Body language is the most important because 90% of people are unconscious about their body language, and people lie. (especially with women, they say one thing and mean onother. unless they meant it, it can be very tricky to tell apart!!!) 11. Appearance, is important but not as much as you would think. (ever seen a ugly guy woman with a good looking partner? because personality is way more important but literally no one deliberately appreciates a slop) 12. different situations calls for different approaches, same as areal social norms, culture and age gap, also in what places it is. (being intellectual and wise in a ghetto will get you nowhere, and being a thug in the office will also get you no where but in trouble) 13. you need to use empathy, thats essential, and many times cognitive empathy just doesnt cut it unless you truly is a smooth talker. 14. flirting can be a short cut, but doing it excessively can have the opposite effect, so do this with caution. (nowadays its even more difficult as genuine politness towards the opposite sex is usually seen as sexual advances) 15. LEARN FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE! (Thats why usually you only see a high number of charismatic people in age groups 25+ is becuase they have life experience in alot of different areas) Now you just need to practice this and maybe even research bodylanguage and people in general. Look up studies about men, women, what they look for, primal appeal, psycological structures and thinking, positive body language and negative body language etc etc. Good Luck McLovin
