When a girl says "I dont sleep with guys on the first date" you could always say something like "Yeah...I dont usually sleep with guys on the first date either"
After so many years of flirting and having heard any kind of advice, I ended to one and only conclusion. Guess what, just have the guts to go for it and then find what works for you best. I've seen brutally direct players being extremely successful and the opposite. Which means the trick is to do what fits best to your type and personality and do not try to copy others or take advice like this for granted. Thanks for the effort though.
from my own personal experience and research, a majority of what he's saying is true. Sure, there are different strokes for different folks, but how long do they last? the problem is most people don't understand our natural biology as human beings. especially the dominant-submissive dynamic that is ingrained into most men and women. And believe me, it goes well beyond just "sexual"
Kachu you sound like you know what you’re doing i need to get better at flirting, i know I can do it I’m not ugly I’ve got a good body I just don’t know how to talk to girls
When I look back to high school after watching these videos, I can help but to kick myself in the ass. All the missed opportunities that I had no idea were right there
Play with fire, you get burnt. I'd much prefer to be an ass, then on the wrong end of a false accusation by a scorned woman.
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The best way to get good at flirting (or anything really) is to just have fun with it... if you're in school there's going to be other girls in your class, if you're working there's going to be female coworkers and in a worst-case scenario, you at least have some friend that has a hot, younger sister. ;-) I must, however, remind you of Article 19 of the Bro Code "A Bro shall not sleep with another Bro's sister. However, a Bro shall not get angry if another Bro says, 'Dude, your sister'shot!'" but "flirting" is not "sleeping with", just remember where the line goes.
Basically, master the art of insinuation. Hit the right amount of vagueness and specificity to let her imagination run wild and let her do her own thinking. Women much rather believe she is loved by what she guesses than what she sees
Do this. Be yourself, keep making efforts to improve yourself and do it for you, move forward in a positive and productive fashion. Lose the Ego, hate and addiction, don't care about what anybody thinks, only what you think, you make you. You create your own reality, don't let others dictate it. Be connected to your highest self spiritually. Do all this and you will be unstoppable, unflappable and a legend in the making!!!
This video "be indirect because it's the way girls talk to each other and she will understand it" last video I watched " be direct because that's masculine and will make her more attracted to you"
That's two school of thought. Being direct is indeed Masculine. So is fighting and being blunt. Which can be turn ons or big turn off, it depends on the girls, be direct when not flirting with her, interacting around her with other people, but when you get your flirt on with her switch to being indirect, shell understand whats going on, seeing you much more in control than you actually are, and as a bonus, if you're not so good at it, at this point you still have the benefice of the doubt about your "true masculine self" just overflowing on your game. Win-win.
Has anyone read the "Attraction King" by Matt Birdy? I see no one talking about it but I have read it and I think its one of the best book written on dating and flirting. Would love to discuss this with fellow readers :)
Great video. Learned subtle speaking is normal to girls. And also the components of flirting was good too. I never thought about exaggeration as normal to girls talking but I see it now. Also becoming the prize was a great trip. So if you make yourself seem soft or weak from the outset, you don't make yourself "the prize". Good tip
+Eddie Allen I learned Womanese through Disney Channel hahaha. "The Suite Life on Deck" show. Dylan Sprouse: Hey, would you like some apple juice from your dear friend that you gave 5 bucks two days ago? Debby Ryan: That reminds me...you owe me 5 bucks pay up or kiss up. Dylan Sprouse: I think i prefer the latter option, how you want it, sweet or dirty. Debby Ryan: Apple juice please. Dylan Sprouse: You know you want it sweetie. Debby Ryan: You are too cute as well.
Yeah, they act dumb but really they're sneaky speaking in code. And if you don't know she could be doing it with other guys n saying it was nothing. I've seen conversations where my gf did it w a guy we knew and I was curious if this indirect stuff is a thing. Now I know what his responses were really saying to her
I think we all agree with the fact that you are in the top 3 man's advice channel on RU-vid. Personally, you are my favorite! Your channel is full of useful information, the graphics are good for those who need more visuals for learning and later recalling, but we don't need to watch the video actually, it's perfectly enough if we just listen to it, just like an audiobook! Amazing! So yeah... Your channel is really Far From Average
Very useful video. Here's an example: I you are walking or driving along with your girlfriend, or with someone with whom you just started dating, and suddenly you approach a "love motel" or a similar place and out of nowhere she asks "would that place be too expensive?", she is actually telling you that she would like to go in there with you. (This happened to me, I was dating her for a couple of weeks and didn't actually know how she went with certain topics so I didn't catch the drift at that moment... wanted to shoot myself in the foot later)
I love how far dating advice has come on RU-vid over the last ten years. No more “product to be sold” IE Those Carlos Xuma and that Jake twit who wrote the Tao of Badass which you had to buy and was ultimately utterly useless. I’m incredibly happy this day has come.
I've talked to so many girls in my age group growing up and never knew about 'womanese'. Maybe that's why I never get anywhere despite not losing my edge. I don't think I've ever exaggerated myself. I mean, I've had rumors I was a player in my school days, but never attempted it. Maybe if I can crack a joke, that'd help a bit. I need to have that mentality that I'm the prize. Eye contact and smooth talk, got it. Maybe a little support from my fellow guys.
Quentin Ellis I was like that till I was 15. Stop making friends with girls, that means talk to them, show your interest, if they don’t byte in a couple of days move on to the next. Also don’t start with the hottest girl, get experience with ones that are interested in hooking up. Then if they pursue and you’re not interested be polite, say you loved their company, but you’re don’t feel ready for a serious commitment at this point in your life.
What I can't understand is how I can be such a great creative writer. Yet, have been completely oblivious to how blunt I am in person! Around 3:35 or, when you were explaining things in poker terms or the story telling I had a massive realization. So thank you!
Why can't they just be straight up forward, always so hard to tell if they real or not. Lol had to deal with a friend situation where is gf said she didn't care if he did something and so he did it, and she got real mad
Definition of Flirting is basically just showing a woman trough your subtle behaviour that you have somewhat a sexual attraction for her. You can do this with eye contact, light touching, teasing her with a sense of humor while being able to laugh at yourself too and just having fun conversations overall. Thats all it is but you gotta be confident in yourself while doing the flirting otherwise its gonna be akward for her cause she then thinks you are doubting yourself and have no experience flirting with women or getting chicks in general. Just be yourself every guy flirts differently just like every girl does too so don‘t get intimidaded by women when they start flirting with you. They like it and want you to join to potentially escalate to more things afterwards so if your flirting and she is too your already half in. After a while you get better at it and then the successes with women will come along. Practice makes perfect. And if you don‘t know how to flirt cause you never did it before just start by talking to women casually like women at work, school, sport clubs, gyms and if you get comfortable you realize how easy it is. You just gotta learn not to be nervous thats a turn off. If youre nervous just talking to her normaly how do you wanna be confident in bed with her(touching, kissing, sex etc). She needs to be the nervous one who gets dominated by you and guided cause you are the leader which is gonna make her nervousness go away so she feels confident around you.
You have to first love yourself and be happy with who you are!! Otherwise you'll never be what a woman wants or needs. Be yourself and focus on bettering your own life because that's attractive and will make women want your attention.
Thank you making these videos, I watched your Alpha Male Videos as well as the girl related videos and my life has changed SO MUCH. I used to get shit on all the time but now thanks to you im the alpha and always am able to claim what i desire. THX
In the late 80's i was young and very handsome, but i was so shy and awkward. I can't count how many times i missed opportunities with gorgeous girls who'd flirt but i didn't know how to pursue them verbally. I worked in a mall and a mullato looking GORGEOUS girl worked next door there, every time i walked home thru the sears there she was at the jewelry counter wearing most often a mint green short dress, the girl had the most gorgeous face and figure, and she'd wave, smile and often we'd speak just a few words. Boy was i young and dumb. I remember one day i decided to ask her out, i walked up to her area where she was behind the glass counters, she smiled a bit but as i got close to her - for the 1st time i saw her natural smile turn to what i thought was dread' at seeing me. LoL. I had planned to ask her out but i'd walked up too serious or something, i said a few words, felt the ice cold reaction (which was probably just her nervousness) and i chickened out. I said 'see ya later' and left LoL again! I had a few cute girls back then with great bodies, but never the totally hot ones that i wanted so bad - why ? Cause back then we were on our own, not a single word of advice from my psycho father made it worse for me. I was like a good looking pretty boy fish out of water. Took me years to know some 'secrets about girls / women. Now i'm flirting with girls half my age to make up for it - what a trip. I can make them feel at ease and i have interesting things to share with them, but i'm too old for the hottest ones :D ...maybe
Use indirect language sparingly. It has its place but should not be your default (or even close to it). Speaking like her girl friends will get you treated like one of them. And ALWAYS be direct with your body language, because the juxtaposition of direct body language with being calibrated and subtle verbally is what will really get her going.
I've never had the faintest urge to flirt with any girl. Either because of bullies shooting down my self esteem in elementary school, and cementing my place in the pecking order for my high school years. or i've just never had the male role model to say "this is what i did and it worked, go out there and try it"
If she asked me if i like the skirt i would immediatelly say “I think skirts are not my best fit” simple, better and confident :) always find the way to make her laugh. Its about mixture of being silly, confident, flirty, and backing up at right time to let her Chase you
So that's how you play the game as a challenge to them because girls are challenging you when they speak Womanese! But if you speak directly aka Man language,, that not only shows you are no fun, it also could unintentionally come off as desperate and a turn off. Ofc, now it makes sense. I have noticed this throughout my life. Everytime I spoke directly in the past, things went wrong with any girl I liked. But when I decided to play it cool, remain calm, mysterious, confident etc and even when I decided to act as if I don't care and decided to be a challenge, the girls would keep chasing.
Love Your Videos soo muuch. Every time you Uploaded a Video I grab my textbook and write all the Important Information and then Study it! Happy New Year May all your Dreams come true this Year
It's all about becoming their targetted prize by learning their thought process and portraying yourself in a way that they understand and fancy, not becoming one of them.
Advice one day: Use indirect communication as women communicate differently than men. Advice a different day: Be direct and let her know what you want or she'll friendzone you In reality: Be hot/attractive This is why I get nowhere with females
Indirect communication. Great point there. This is %1000 true. They will later even say that they didn't say the thing in their mind. Technically true but they always use indirect communication. So they meant it but did not say it directly.
'These are the voyages of the boy Flirter. His continuing mission, to explore the female mind. To seek out new girls and new ways to flirt. To boldly attract girls that have never been attracted before!' I love Star Trek so much.
Shame on you! I sentence you to 1 week of Star Trek marathon, you may skip TOS if you don't have nostalgic memories from childhood... but TNG+ is a must... get to it! ;-)
Uhhh I'm 27 and never actually seen the show because its LAME. I used to watch alot of TV when I was little and it would come on, could never sit through one single episode. After the first 5 minutes I was bored, after 15 minutes I was wondering in regret why I sat and watched nothing of sitcom value.
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Uhh, Fresh Prince? :-( No, thanx! I'd rather watch reruns with Picard and Data for a whole day. :-P In all seriousness, though, I always did like Star Trek. I had high hopes when Netflix was going to make their new TV-series... and then they totally botch it. *Sigh*
Girls/ women love the art of flirting it's a turn on for them. Its kinda like a first key to first base or like being on deck and showing what size of bat you are swinging with and the stance your going to us when you swing your bat! Its all about stimulating her imagination with your flirting....
