How to Cope with the Challenges of Living with BPD

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Cope with your BPD symptoms using my BPD Card Deck: The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
shorturl.at/bxB05
If you're living with BPD, then you know that life can be a struggle. This video we'll discuss some of the common challenges and struggles that people living with BPD face. We'll also discuss how to cope with these challenges and live a more healthy and fulfilling life!
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
rb.gy/hdyqyy
Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: tinyurl.com/2a...
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: goo.gl/sZYhym
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: goo.gl/ZAVe9v
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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Thank you for your attention and I hope you enjoy my videos and find them helpful and subscribe. I always welcome topic suggestions and comments.
If you or a loved one is struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), then this video is for you. In it, Dr. Fox shares advice on how to cope with the challenges of living with BPD.

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@itsmejoy8918 Год назад

I will feel depression after hanging out with people, even if it was seemingly a positive social interaction. I am convinced that the other person has decided that I'm weird now and that I said a lot of weird things when that's probably not the case. I will be stuck in an intense spiral for a week or two afterwards. I hate it because I know I need to be more social but it's hard to when these feelings are so extreme.

@nerdybird6532 11 месяцев назад

Yea me 2.

@stars_for_night_lights 8 месяцев назад

I relate to this. I create stories in my mind of what others think of me and even what they say when I leave. It's such a distorted view of reality. I found this channel to be very helpful. I also think the audiobook on RU-vid called Untethered Soul is amazing for those of us with BPD.

@theshumanat0r537 4 месяца назад

Is there any way to not think this way? I don’t think Im comfortable living this way anymore.

@unebaskyte4250 3 месяца назад

You are not alone.

@lauramcclain8651 Год назад

I self-sabotage when things seem too calm because I feel like if I punish myself enough I will finally be able to “atone “ for my inherent wickedness. It’s a constant and vicious cycle . I can’t break free .

@bcrwarlock1974 Год назад

I understand and relate completely to what you are saying. You are not alone in this.

@JuneTurner-rn8ui Год назад

I’ve never been diagnosed with anything, but this is exactly how I feel. I’m sorry y’all feel this too

@SiriusDraconis Год назад

Watch me from your cage As I rejoin my painful prime You and I are relics We provoke and we recline Walking in the shadows Of my blackened mind Angels crave my sorrow Sorrow they will find What if there's a God a hell and heaven Fire is the torment I must face Dying by the souls I have forsaken No one's going to catch my fall from grace

@angelfuentes9397 Год назад

I feel the same way. My self-sabataging nature and need to be punished have caused someone I love great pain because I felt she would be better of without me and I'd be better off alone.

@martyscott1974 Год назад

I can completely relate to this

@borderline2022 Год назад

I'm 38 yr old male and I want everyone to know that has BPD that I do hope we have another chance in another life and I want you all to know that I know how hard we love, how heavy we feel abandonment I feel your feelings too you are not alone and to all your Souls I send a piece of my love. I'm feeling your feelings dont forget you are not alone ok ❤🖤❤🖤❤

@JennyLynn-x9o 11 месяцев назад

It's no joke. You be easy too. And yes we feel their emotions plus ours plus the bpd emotions plus our "lityles' emotions all at once. I disgust myself that my children ever were scared of me getting mad. I remember being raised by bpd mom. It's the last thing I ever wanted to be. Sometimes the shame is unbearable. They know I'm doing everything I can to not hurt anyone. I'm longer than I ever imagined you could be , though. I'm scared i will inevitably be tooooo much. I don't think I can take another loss. At 49 bpd I'm exhausted

@Happysoul_3 6 месяцев назад

I always thought I had bipolar.. recently I realised that I have bpd

@kjd3339 5 месяцев назад

I really love how you stated that. Thanks for sending the love♥

@natechaloux5436 5 месяцев назад

Thank you. I'm not sure what life would be like without this grave emotional dissorder. I think I'll know when I'm dead.

@christophergatt7062 4 месяца назад

You have no idea how badly I needed to read this. Thank you so much❤

@painoftheheart12 Год назад

Chronic stress is such a trigger for BPD. I thought I had things under control, but BPD never really goes away. Go too long without checking in with yourself, and you can find bad habits coming back to the surface.

@dannystark7668 Год назад

Can you help me , I have some questions about my bpd ex.

@clouddancer46 Год назад

100 💯 someday Sharif completely full functioning even four months and then one day one stressor after another and your debilitated and cannot function probably need to be hospitalized and your whole world shatters.

@kezmenflowers8691 11 месяцев назад

I've finally come to accept that I have this, so I'm looking for coping skills in order to help calm me when I do go through an episode

@moringaottawa 10 месяцев назад

Chronic stress is such a trigger for inflammation in the human body, period.

@linalg10 5 месяцев назад

AMEN!!

@selfsabotagingbanana0451 Год назад

Being broken is my comfort zone. I mean constant instabililty and misery is a kind of stability on its own, when you think about it. Thinking about what my life COULD be on the other hand makes me feel incredibly anxious and sad, anxious when I think about all the obstacles I have put in my own way over the years and sad because I`m mourning all the things that could have been. I honestly prefer feeling angry and like a bad person all the time over feeling anxious, sad and hopeless.

@tabithaarnsdorf7527 Год назад

Every word you wrote I can honestly say I relate to the fullest

@justkim339 Год назад

Some people with this condition dont get help also end up hurting others & making them ill!!!!!

@kstrat14 4 месяца назад

I'm only happy when it rains lol

@marym3355 Месяц назад

You just described my life experience. I’m 32 and only now I’m realizing I have BPD.

@CanadianPhinsFan853 Год назад

1) It's too hard. 2) I feel like I am a horrible liar no matter what I try to tell myself. 3) I am never going to be CURED so what's the bloody point? 4) Sick of being alive, but don't have enough courage to take my own life.

@lifeoutsidecomfortzone 2 месяца назад

Courage comes from the heart, and your heart doesn’t want to stop. ❤

@Jason-eh3uj 2 месяца назад

I am 64.Been trying to "fit in"my whole life. It does not happen.You must have SOMETHING THAT GIVES YOU PEACE AND JOY. Music. NATURE.Crafts. Art. USE THAT .EVERY DAY IS A INTENSE EFFORT TO BE "NORMAL" What makes me different I tap into and that is how I try to cope.Get a pet. Volunteer for something. Get a canoe or kayak or Mountain bike and look for friends that way .We often end up self isolating. I try to LISTN MORE THAN SPEAK.That way people won't run away. Keep interactions brief.Less chance to offend someone.I will never be "cured".But Don't Give Up.

@vanessap.4810 Год назад

I did it 😁. For once being alive doesn't hurt. It's been months since I've had a crisis. You're videos have helped me through the years. Thank you 💜

@JennyLynn-x9o 11 месяцев назад

I hope you are still feeling positive

@regularlyinconsistent5788 10 месяцев назад

So proud 🥹 ❤❤❤

@DavidAKZ 8 месяцев назад

Much love ❤️

@vanessap.4810 8 месяцев назад

@@JennyLynn-x9o I am 😊, it's been almost year and a half since I've had a crisis. I used to have them weekly. Life is still good 👍

@seththechefnola 5 месяцев назад

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@alpbasar9813 Год назад

I m a person living with bpd in Turkey and i follow you for sometime and in the most darkest times you are helping me out. I am also an actor and i will be on stage when your video starts but i d like to watch it. Hope everyone who has this condition can find a council like you at some point. Regards.

@dannystark7668 Год назад

Can you help me. I have some questions about my bpd ex ? please reply.

@nathanndumb8190 Год назад

I want friends with BPD so that I can talk to them and feel understood ,, let's create a whatsapp group

@Christine-jg3hf Год назад

YES ME TOO! AM ALL 4 IT! GOD BLESSED US ALL!💋💞🌷💪🙏

@ryan.1990 Год назад

"Oh no my life is amazing and I have an acting job" You don't have BPD

@PricelessJesus 6 месяцев назад

JESUS LOVES YOU ❤SO MUCH

@MamaCancer23 Год назад

I desire greatly to be in a healthy & stable relationship, as well as career. I’ve had plenty of opportunities for that but self sabotage came into play 😔 so, I’m taking the time & necessary steps to become better. It’s certainly not easy but I will have these things! ❤

@hard_at_work 8 месяцев назад

I once was given advice by a pastor who had gotten out of a hole many of us find ourselves in. He said whatever shape you wake up in, do your best to work with that shape. If one morning you're a circle, be the best circle. If one morning you're a square, be the best square. If you are a triangle, be the best triangle. I'm 44 and I have never heard that before so if it helps credit to the man willing to give advice.🙏👍 I wish to put it to practice more 🙂

@JeyFox Месяц назад

I have no fear of self-abandonment anymore. I've terminated all personal relationships, so there is no one to abandon me any more. Take that, BPD! 😂

@19dresses Год назад

I have been watching you for years now, and I just want to say THANK YOU from those of us who have been struggling to afford the mental health help & support they need. Your videos and workbooks are wonderful tools to help me gain benefits that I truly need from therapy ❤ You are helping so many - God bless you 🙏🙌

@Lex-je1jd Год назад

I’m married but now that I know I struggle with BPD, I often think I would be better to everyone else if I was not in a relationship. I feel bad for my hubby but I’m trying my best for him. He’s put up with a lot of drama from me and deserves the best for sure.

@tabithaarnsdorf7527 Год назад

I completely understand what you're going through. I'm not in a relationship but I'm a single mother to a wonderful 6 year old... I stay feeling guilty and sad and depressed and like a bad mother... I constantly beat myself up.. if we don't go to the park on the weekend and choose to stay home I'll beat myself up. I will convince myself I'm a bad mother.

@DavidAKZ 8 месяцев назад

Much love ❤

@AshA-bt5fg 4 месяца назад

do u hate him sometimes

@InstrumentvanVrede Год назад

I am using your book, a DBT workbook by Matthew Mckay, Jefferet Wood, and Jefferey Brantley. I seem to live in this cycle of doing well and then falling apart in a very destructive manner. Your videos have helped my sister and mom understand this disorder and why I act as I do at times. I am 42 and male, in case you are curious. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos as they seem to show up on my feed at just the right time. Could be divine intervention, who knows! I am a subscriber to this channel as well.

@qazplmm632 Год назад

I would say that this book actually changed my life. I’m almost 27 and I have gotten to doing well in terms of how BPD affects me for the first time after getting through the workbook

@InstrumentvanVrede Год назад

@@qazplmm632 It took me a year to finish the book by Mckay and I'm 42% into Dr. Fox's book. Reading is the easiest part but establishing that constant mindful awareness, journaling, meditation, and accepting the way I am is still very challenging for me. I am aiming for remission of my symptoms.

@qazplmm632 Год назад

@@InstrumentvanVrede I wish you good luck. I took notes from the book and made myself a macro for my phone. So I can open it and for example remind myself of how to challenge my core content or how can I calm myself down. Maybe you could try something like that as well. And it really works, when someone pushes my emotional button now, I'm able to notice that I am getting agitated, understand why do I feel this way and instead of being impulsive I calm myself down. I never knew that was possible

@InstrumentvanVrede Год назад

@@qazplmm632 My progress has been dependent on my being active in reviewing the original DBT book I bought a year ago and making my way through Dr. Fox's book. I went through the initial assessments, and I hand-wrote all my answers. I am 42% into his workbook. If I skip a few days of study, I begin to regress back into my maladaptive behaviors. Usually leading to me melting down and rupturing my relationship with my mom and sister. I am 42, and was misdiagnosed with bipolar 1 for 13 years (I don't mind sharing).

@wanderingIvy67 Год назад

This is the comment I was looking for. This is the first video I've seen of this doctor. I was impressed so I had to check the comments and now I see he's just like the other doctors on RU-vid. They give you a little bit of information and then sell you the rest. This kind of thing is really making me lose hope in humanity. 😢

@zero_bs_tolerance8646 Год назад

I can't tell you how badly I needed a little perspective, a little validation, a little hope just now and boom! This video popped up. Thank you.

@raniaislam__ 7 месяцев назад

me too, hope your feeling better

@SlyLilly Год назад

Seeing everyone commenting gives me hope. I’m in a very high period with symptoms and it’s making life hellish. Much respect to everyone struggling with this illness. I just received the workbook and I am very much hopeful it will help bring much needed balance to my moods and life over time. I’m really glad I found this account.

@BonitaBrandt Год назад

I'm 77 years young and had this label put on me at age 22; and I can verify that the label itself makes a person's life difficult....in too many ways to mention. I wish the "powers that be" would change this label.

@stephaniemorgan6284 Год назад

Psychedelics is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression. The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself

@Marksonfixedmatches Год назад

Yes , doctor_mckenzie Sells psychedelics

@derickmartens Год назад

I made researches and found out that shrooms are very helpful, it has really helped to reduce anxiety and depression and some other mental health issues

@lauramaria2212 Год назад

@@Marksonfixedmatcheswow, where can I locate him, Is it on IG?

@geraldmiller5343 Год назад

All the problems that these compounds can help solve, and the potential for peace they have.

@Marksonfixedmatches Год назад

@@lauramaria2212Yeah, as doctor_mckenzie he has been my supplier for a year now

@Huntington12345678 4 месяца назад

I've given up on thinking I'll ever be "cured." My brain is just too fucked up to fantasize about that, anymore. I'm just hoping to find some... some... "thing" that can help me get through my difficult times/moments. A mantra. A saying or anything. I've tried a thousand different coping mechanisms. Nothing really sticks. It either loses effectiveness after saying it a dozen times or is just not memorable enough. I pray for the day I find an inner voice that's just as effective as the one currently in my brain, constantly telling me I'm a fucking idiot and a loser. Now, THAT voice has been going strong for YEARS! 😅😢

@DrDanielFox 4 месяца назад

The focus on cure may be the issue. Focus on managing it. Very different.

@favouritemusic8959 Месяц назад

@@DrDanielFox excellent reply. Thank you Doc You are a true doctor of the mind.

@vivienlegeisha3425 Год назад

Thank you Dr Fox. You have no idea how helpful this video is. The shame I feel, the internal negative voice, take such huge effort to overcome. “Normal” people don’t understand how much energy it takes for people with BPD to function as “normal”.

@86Sentra Год назад

i jus wish ppl realize we feel more than most like i swear im not mean fr

@Vinchi2k 6 месяцев назад

I just want to be happy.

@bijpls4059 Год назад

Sigh it's so tiring, im rly grateful fr my fam, friends and doctors 😭. Im moderate-severe too... Its so tiring just fkin existing jfc. I realize most others feel the same way as i do, i just feel it 28489248x more intense 💀😊

@la-liz7682 Год назад

I so so so needed this tonight. Bf of three years was secretly married and I found out in the most crushing way. I didn’t eat for three days and ended up at urgent care with anxiety *but* what helped me was remembering that I could not overly attach to these feelings, that they are telling me a much more intense tale than actually exists. I was fine before this (lying) man and will be fine after 💪 the dramatic voices fearing otherwise are just that-voices that mislead me away from calmness and sanity and into darkness. Definitely a work in progress ! :)

@hb6839 Год назад

Oh my gosh that's Terrible. Sending you lots of love and positive wishes ❤ hope you'll find happiness

@vulhorn Год назад

Holy shit that's absolutely horrible. Take the time you need to recover, I wish you luck

@amyharding7150 Год назад

Just wanted to say your so strong and that you are worth more than that and that there are people out there who deserve your love ❤

@la-liz7682 Год назад

@@amyharding7150 thank you so so much💖💖you are so sweet and I have tried to live in a way in the time since in a manner that my future self will be proud of😊I’ve done a ton of EMDR, concentrated so much of my energy as a mom and in my professional life, have a personal trainer and fulfilled a personal dream to go to Tahiti ☀️I feel like if I keep doing the right things, my heart will heal more and more over time 💖💖

@ronniselvan6243 6 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's crushing when that happens especially when that person almost seems like they weren't really there. It's a terrifying feeling. I'm glad that urgent care was there for you. I hope you can recover from this person and know your worth. You are wonderful regardless of what this man chose to do. ❤️

@meherunmeher4195 Год назад

Man It's no joke hoe much relief this video gave me,I finally got officially diagnosed BPD & OCD today. I have suspected it for so long,I am scheduled to start DBT next week.I am in my earliest tweenies here fighting these with abusive narcissistic family with anyone much to rely on for emotional or financial support. I am so scared inside I needed this assurances,

@DrDanielFox Год назад

I’m glad you found the video helpful.

@Christine-jg3hf Год назад

Me Too!GOD BLESSED US ALL STAY STRONG!💋💞🌷💪🙏

@lovaaaa2451 Год назад

Thank you so much Dr Fox. Your videos really help and comfort me as well as helps me as I am trying to learn to live as my girlfriend left me after lots of problems a few days ago. Learning to value myself and my life for other things than my relationship with her.

@ChandlerMuriBing Год назад

Sending positive thoughts your way. Glad to hear you’re choosing to focus on yourself following your breakup. All the best 😊

@lovaaaa2451 Год назад

@@ChandlerMuriBing Obviously that is a lie I am fucking dying

@Jade-gb2xr Год назад

Hard to deal with my fear of abandonment especially when I purposely push people away… when really I want to be held.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

I think this shows really good insight and I think that you can use this to develop adaptive strategies to help you build healthy relationships.

@dcullen8681 3 месяца назад

I'm 42 and after a life of chaos n pain, to finally understand, this is such a bittersweet pill for me, thank you for your work Sir I finally see a little bit of hope ✌️❤️

@drankjuice5271 5 месяцев назад

I’m so tired of being my worst enemy! 😢 I’m an author and I have a degree but I’m so ready to give up! I have no support system

@stars_for_night_lights 8 месяцев назад

Your channel is GOLD

@15bernard33 Год назад

When I got out of a cult after in for several years I was age 23. I had little knowledge staying out of a cult and abandonment issues that got me in the cult. I studied comparative religion by Joseph Campbell and James Joyce classic litt. that helped the ptsd big time. Studies in psychology helped big time. Then I realized how my humor is so concrete and zanny. I am the last to get higher order of humor. I realized I had some mild form of autism as a hunch. Knowing about treats of cluster B by personality profile helped moderate PTSD, helped moderate BPD. It also helped me carry the ball and chain of autism. I find mental health messy but ironically sanity is related to sanitation. That is living a tidy lifestyle helps I would say. I find complex conversations in group therapy challenging. is this over sharing? probably not-- thou BPD is like that is can come back in odd ways like poor executive function to move from one activity such as dinner is over to do this needed task to prevent boredom and emptiness.

@DavidAKZ 8 месяцев назад

Thanks for posting. Keep that sense of humour;-)

@thevansickelherps Год назад

I first started watching your videos about a year and a half ago when I was in the midst of the lowest mental health season I'd ever experienced. I was only recently diagnosed with BPD and everything I found on the internet made it seem like a relational and literal death sentence - except your channel. I remember hearing you talk about symptom remission and thinking that just wasn't realistic for me ... Here I am, now 210 days clean of SH, 6.5 months pregnant with a sweet baby boy, and in remission from a majority of my symptoms! I've been able to reduce my therapy attendance from twice a week to twice a month! My commitment towards staying in the "maintenance mode" with my BPD is strong and I have so much more grace for myself on the days where I wake up and my comorbidities (MDD and CPTSD) make it a struggle - a commitment to changing my perspective has made all the difference. I know that a feeling is just a feeling and it will pass. I utilized my personal therapy, your videos and your workbook to help me get here! Thank you for your commitment to the mental health field, but specifically the BPD community. You're a beacon of hope for so many of us.

@SlyLilly Год назад

Thanks for this comment, I needed to read this more than I can explain. Congratulations truly! Knowing it’s realistically possible to get where you are, where I felt like I was not too terribly long ago, is very reassuring that it can be done! Idk if this is a thing anywhere, but are there like support/constructive aid groups for other people with same disorder? Sorry if that’s weird to ask, it’s just overwhelming to also not know anyone in my age who can understand my brain even a little. Again congratulations on all your progress. ☺️

@bcrwarlock1974 Год назад

@@SlyLilly There are DBT groups held in some areas, and maybe online. I haven't attended one as of yet, but my therapist said that he facilitates one once a week. So maybe/hopefully you can find one too!

@bcrwarlock1974 Год назад

@@SlyLilly Also r3ddit has some groups for BPD, and I have found that it is a nice place to at least have conversations with others that understand what we are going through. I hope this helps!

@SlyLilly Год назад

@@bcrwarlock1974thank you. I have no idea how R3ddit works but imma look into learning it 😅 I have no one to relate with and I’m freshly moved back to EU. Thank you again!

@LinYouToo Год назад

❤ 🙏 ❤

@paulshields5938 Месяц назад

Try falling in love with a woman who suffers from clinical depression and anxiety…. The no contact phases almost killed me and I still feel like we can be together!!! My current nightmare being an almost 50 year old borderliner

@bobbygemini5435 Год назад

I Am A Person With BPD, And I Also Have A Fiancé. It's Difficult Trying To Explain To Him What It Feels Like. Thank You For This Professional Outside Perspective On Something That Is Not Easily Helped 🙏🏾

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You’re very welcome 😊

@reaude Год назад

Thanks for always bringing back compassion and understanding of people with this disorder☮

@anna-rosephipps3132 Год назад

Was just now crying lstening to Schostakovich in the bath saying like a child i want my mummy and why didnt you love me? But my mood was otherwise ok and the tears were triggered by the sad music and general sense of tragedy about life, and my own insignificance, my own sad life. I then felt good again and ate a nice snack and listened to this video. The unkind things said about bpd people online, plus the family in my head were gone as a result. It's as if Dr Fox is defending us bpd people and has our back. I needed to feel that hope again!

@breahgardiner3702 Год назад

After 6 years of therapy, I reconize my cognitive distortions/ dellusions but still have them & still somtimes avoid situations because of them.

@senyfelix1525 Год назад

I keep watching your videos cause it's the only way I feel validated but I've made up my mind that I wanna end this, I gave myself a year just to keep going but I'm extremely exhausted, I just keep going back to my worst and nothing changes for good. I do wish that if anyone else is going through it, they can survive and live the life they want and deserve.

@tmystery9505 Год назад

Have you tried DBT?

@Christine-jg3hf Год назад

God Blessed You Always!💞🌷💪🙏

@TheMellsBells Год назад

DBT will change your life. Hang on

@reddirtreptilespetsexotics3304 9 дней назад

I have spent many years self sabotaging my relationships and my marriage because I feel the need to have conflict within them even though I hate confrontation and avoid it at all cost. I realize it does nothing but cause harm to me and my loved ones but when things are calm, I have an overwhelming feeling that we are in a bad place because are aren’t “arguing” or discussing something that is bothering us. I’m still trying to understand why I search out the bad in any situation.

@IbnTufayl1 Год назад

Thank you! This video gave me a lot of hope ❤❤

@alphadog3384 Год назад

Please make a video about decluttering and BPD. The struggle is real, about objects relationship and letting go, plus the thought of l might need this item down the road. I'm trying to be in the mindful logic, mindset, less emotional.

@danielestaub9445 Год назад

😎 Agree. It's very difficult. Especially when having a BPD lens on EACH eye! Self-destruction gets old but at a slower pace than my aging process. 😯 'Maladaptive' is my wife's favorite descriptor. Does she see something that I don't see?? This video gives me a lot of hope! 😊

@thereisnosanctuary6184 Год назад

Arnold Schwarzenegger has a broadcast at 2 pm. Cutting it close, Doc! I can do both.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

That is rough competition, with the terminator, but my videos will be there for whenever you need them. I wish you all the best and thanks for the feedback.

@thereisnosanctuary6184 Год назад

I got Arnie to move it to noon.

@LRT___ Год назад

I’ve just been diagnosed with BPD. Thank you for this video, helps a lot 🙏🏻

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You're so welcome!

@lonestar1104 3 месяца назад

As someone who suffers bpd this hurts to hear because it's all true especially the abandonment fears 😢

@DrDanielFox 3 месяца назад

I appreciate your honesty and sharing your experience.

@lynnmalin 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this message. I've recently had a crisis in my beliefs of improving my bpd. You have made me feel that I Can beat this terrible condition and the screaming in my head will eventually leave. Thank you for giving me hope.

@JennyLynn-x9o 11 месяцев назад

Knowledge is our only power. Ty for your tools so much😊

@MichaelDerousselle Год назад

This is so true for me. I can start weeping if I let my thoughts go where they want.

@JoeDadii Год назад

I am the same way. If I let my mind run I find myself in the same position especially when you feel you could have handled it differently but it’s just hard.

@666ABCDEFG 9 месяцев назад

I love you doctor. You give me hope and peace of mind.❤

@DrDanielFox 9 месяцев назад

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

@666ABCDEFG 9 месяцев назад

@@DrDanielFox 💐❤️🙏🏼

@rose4490 Год назад

His Houston accent relaxes me. 😊

@Rainybliss Год назад

I love this so much. Recently purchased one of your workbooks. Thank you ❤

@johnmuselmann7886 6 месяцев назад

It’s very hard. I’m very tired. I just want to be happy

@andreahernandez9182 Год назад

Thank you so much for your empathy

@mYcRiSpDiScK Год назад

BPD has a surprisingly good prognosis for all the doomist stats you read about it online lol

@Sue-ck5yk Год назад

Prognosis is a lot better when people aren't armchair diagnosed with illnesses they don't have just because they did something to piss someone else off.

@grlsneverdie 10 месяцев назад

my mother is very narcissistic emotionally abusive. i think she had undiagnosed bpd as well, and i think because of her behavior i’ve developed bpd as well. i cannot ask for her to get me help because she’d be furious, so these videos help me so much. thank you.

@chrisyroche7633 Год назад

I was misdiagnosed two years ago with bipolar disorder; however, I’m just figuring out that I’m struggling with BPD. This is such a challenging disorder to live with and I feel so sorry for my fiancé.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Very true, but you and your fiancé consider down and develop parameters and strategies so that reactions to overreactions, by both of you, can be managed. I wish you all the best.

@chrisyroche7633 Год назад

@@DrDanielFox Thank you Dr. Fox, I think that is the hardest thing for us, simply because he asks me questions like, “what are you triggers” and honestly, I don’t know… sometimes I’m upset for no reason I feel like

@bridadon7371 4 месяца назад

I just wanna be happy without failure

@DrDanielFox 4 месяца назад

Failure is only when you stop trying, sounds cliche but it's true. Never give up, especially on yourself.

@kezmenflowers8691 11 месяцев назад

I was also diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder for the hallucinations i experience. That feeling of emptiness is what really drives me crazy because its like i need to be feeling something but im not and i dont know whats going on so ill do something impulsive just to feel something. Im older now so i have more control over my impulses but when i was younger i did some extreme stuff like become homeless and then also drove from Florida to California on a whim. Also drinking and driving and doing drugs. Self harming and suicide attempts. In and out of jail or mental hospitals. I overcame my drug and alcohol addiction and my last sucide attempt was back in 2019. Im doing better. Just have to overcome my food addiction. I know one of my triggers is social media so i need to back away and limit that.

@DavidAKZ 8 месяцев назад

Much love ❤

@MaryPalen-o6s 6 месяцев назад

In less than 2 minutes of listening, I felt hopeless. Basically Rain is and always will be wet. Roses do and always will have thorns. So basically, stay away from people that you love. Little to no contact, love them by Mail

@DrDanielFox 6 месяцев назад

It's important to find a balance in relationships to protect yourself while still enjoying the beauty of love.

@David-nu6kw 5 месяцев назад

After 9 years she kicked me out and closed the door. Worst experience of my life .

@Zaber_Za 5 месяцев назад

If there's no drama I'd create it just so I can feel noticed or something like that.

@hillarisosa7032 Год назад

I’ve got called narcissist and that shit pissed me off 😂

@jadepatrick7644 9 месяцев назад

My biggest challenge is how hard it is to get a diagnosis at my age. Every evaluation for anything has been unfulfilling. I'm really good at masking. So I feel like I can't totally progress

@reneelove7513 Год назад

Thank you!

@carolineprenoveau7655 Год назад

I never met any so called professional who could help, at all. I never met any so called professional who was kind. They don't help, it's not true. One's life doesn't get better, it's just less of a nuisance for others, because when you've been suffering for so long you become stoic and less of a problem for the rest of the world.

@traumadiffuser3705 Год назад

The only thing that has ever really helped me was to do DBT group therapy. 8-10 borderline patients and 2 professionals doing the DBT work together in an ambulant setting. Maybe you'd like to try something like this? Best wishes!

@carolineprenoveau7655 Год назад

@@traumadiffuser3705 I tried to find it. I knocked on every door in Montreal. I even made it into a BPD program in McGill, which has a reputation, but I had the misfortune of meeting a psychiatrist who was literally evil. He made my life hell. The amount of pain he put me through was excruciating. I have lots of things to say, but I'll relate one episode. Before treatment even began, he said I would fail treatment because, according to him, I think too much. He said he's giving me a chance, but I could feel deep inside it was a lie. It's obvious to me now he never had any intention of treating me. I went into complete freeze mode and asked with a tiny child voice if this treatment was a setup for failure. He said: I'm concerned it may be. Eventually, I was kicked out of treatment because I said I disagree with the way they were (mis)treating me. And that was that. He also threatened to use the legal system against me, but he never did. Again, it was all bluff, designed to put the fear of god into me. This person is dangerous and shouldn't be a psychiatrist or a professor. I'm all out of options. I tried other institutions and people in Montreal and abroad but no luck so far.

@reneegardner2286 Год назад

exactly how I feel 😓

@zackrundell5469 14 дней назад

I can be who I want to be

@DrDanielFox 14 дней назад

True

@CadmusAU 8 месяцев назад

Im over having it - im sick and tired of feeling every emotion at 2000% and especially during a BPD episode feeling so powerful & bulletproof, yet being terrified of myself but not having any sort of control or awareness of this till i reach my "emotional comedown" and then have to feel the shame, regret and self hatred over what i said or did only for the other person who unfortunately was either the trigger or just was in wrong place and time to feel so damn hurt in my words and actions they want nothing to do with me going forward :-( Im starting to understand the 1 in 10 statistic of us suffers choosing to unalive ourselves - because eventually hurting those closest to us, eventually chips away at the last fragment of our very soul. I am lucky that my greatest fear is death, so personally im safe from that easy route out. And yes before anyone asks - im currently in DBT and are up to the part where both opposites of things arent always left or right but rather they can exist at the same time. Still doesnt help me to regulate my emotions to one where it doesn't leave an extinction level event behind.... Not only did i have to survive Childhood cancer, and dealing with the father figure who raised me that was more than likely the cause of me developing this curse, i also have to live with the consequences and be cursed forever.

@psychonaut2173 Год назад

Video says how to cope but my mans just telling me the shit I live with...yeah I know thats why I clicked on your vid and youre just telling me what I know about the disaese

@kurmi33 Год назад

I am sure I have bpd traits watching your videos is amazing. But when watch another videos psychologist out there talk about bpd people like they would be narcissist 😔 absolutely discouraging. It makes you feel there is not way out

@VIDS2013 5 месяцев назад

BPD is a brain circuitry anomaly, and it NEVER changes. Anyone who meets the diagnostic criteria for BPD as an adult will never be cured. (There's a major difference in this regard between people with some BPD traits vs. a BPD diagnosis.)

@DrDanielFox 5 месяцев назад

These statements about change are not based on research and clinical outcomes of the last 20+ years. I want to encourage you to review this literature. Thank you for your opinion. Be well

@VIDS2013 5 месяцев назад

@@DrDanielFox I am aware of recent clinical literature. However, in my dealings with Borderlines, Narcissists, psychopaths, etc., it is my personal observation that these people can easily fool psychologists in a clinical setting. The people who live with them and encounter them 'in the wild' are much better barometers of their progress (or lack of it). The other problem is that a huge number of mental health professionals are Narcissists, and that factor isn't accounted for in the conclusions. So what you're probably seeing in studies is, to some degree, the result of confirmation bias--basically psychopaths saying, "We're not so bad!"

@polarbearbianca Год назад

I just had a terrible thought and it was I hate myself so what would be so wrong with self destructing??? And that was such a bleak BPD fueled thought...

@BBFCCO733 5 месяцев назад

I am in denial about my bpd diagnosis

@DrDanielFox 5 месяцев назад

It's okay to feel that way. Remember, you're not alone in this journey.

@키티-r9k 2 месяца назад

Me too but after 3 psychologists 2 therapists I accepted it

@GabrielGutierrez-hn9mz Год назад

I had a few questions if you could please help me. What is the easiest way to explain to others what BPD is? Am 42 I was diagnosed last year and people get even more confused when I try to explain it. Is it normal that I haven't been able to keep a job for longer than 2 years? Does anyone know a legitimate job I can do from home I am about to lose everything and am so desperate for money but I can't leave my room to get a job.

@brianimoto4634 10 месяцев назад

My mom and my sister in law are both BPD. EXAMPLE: (October), "Everyone come to our house for the holidays and leave your issues at the door". (Late November), "We aren't speaking and it's all her fault", and then the holiday plans crumble. DONT WORRY: We all had predicted it from the beginning and had our alternate plans.

@DrDanielFox 10 месяцев назад

I'm sorry to hear that your holiday plans fell through. It can be challenging when family dynamics come into play. I hope you were able to make the best of the situation and enjoy the holidays in your own way.

@Sun_moon_1111 Год назад

There are some people, some call themselves abuse victims. They say narcissistic people, disorder can’t be fixed. They speak quite vindictive. They usually call their X partners as dusty weirdo’s, evil etc. I just feel that it is not helping their audiance at all. What is your view on that? Does BD have higher chance of recovery? I have spent more than a decade for the hope the reconcile with the love of my life, but she has pushed me away everytime after the pull. Left me quite confuse and heartbroken. I feel played, and betrayed. Her father has died in an tragic accident when she was 2,3. And this makes me think that she has abondontment issues. 😔 I’m really sad for both of us. We deserved to love and trust each other. But now I understand, all of this happen because of the disorder. I have to let this go.

@jackiegrice714 Год назад

Thanks for another informative and helpful video Dr. Fox.

@lukei6255 4 месяца назад

There is no voice or chorus. Just thoughts.

@Hhbdr 6 месяцев назад

Family in the head. Omg. "You suck" "You are worthless" then "Fuck it" life is worthless.

@0DdOne Год назад

Dude but you are careful with your words

@ConveyApp Год назад

My estranged wife clearly shows 8 of 9 of the diagnostic criteria for BPD. It was really triggered 8 years ago. I believe it was a combination of age and social pressure. She is 9 yrs older than me and she had just turned 44 at that time. Plus she is very well and highly educated. Our business took a step and crazy down turn at that time. We lost a lot of money. We were married for about 12 years very happily before the trigger. I tried incredibly hard to get her help. She sabotaged anything and everything I tried. She became extraordinary abusive towards me, physically (random physical attacks), mentally (gaslighting), emotionally (hurting me with horrible things she was going to do). Then she started drinking wine. (2) bottles before noon everyday. She would continue to drink until 4:00-5:00 pm. This continued for years. Eventually I had enough and filled for divorce and had enough evidence to get custody of our children. The divorce never finalized. Now she has a new man but she has been partying 2-4 times per week at clubs for the last 4 yrs. Her friends and new boyfriend just think she a fun lady. She is a pretty 52 yr old woman that acts like an out of control 14 yr old for the last 4-5 yrs. Very sad and incredibly heartbreaking for me. I have no contacted her after finding out about the other guy. I need to move on. I can no longer be responsible for her behavior and decisions.

@socialisttrafficregulator2015 Год назад

@conveyapp Yep. I'm still married to one. She does everything but the wine drinking. She's put me thru a living hell after I was forced into life on the road as a truck driver. Divorce is on the menu as I've recently retired. Live and be well.

@ConveyApp Год назад

@@socialisttrafficregulator2015 I’m sorry to hear that.

@DD-jm5ug Год назад

It's a massive ball ache. Every minute of the day. Exhausting. 😢 I just feel worthless and not good enough and I'm fed up of all this. It's stopping me progressing in my job and relationships. Plus thankyou Daniel ❤ you xxxxx

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You’re welcome. Pushback on that negative self talk. Be well

@jamesrobinson1173 Год назад

thanks :( I feel like I am crumbling and I just want people to understand me but I feel like no one does in any way thats good for either of us I am so lonely but I hope someday I wont feel as much like this

@letitgo5818 6 месяцев назад

same. You’re not alone❤

@jessicacranmer4436 Год назад

I have been living with bpd for 26 years. I have found being Able to not only spot my triggers but have my DBT skills behind me when I do get triggered.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

That’s terrific.be well.

@bpd_emi Год назад

thank you Dr. Fox, your content helps me feel understood and inspired to change.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You're very welcome

@tedwhiting6192 Год назад

Can a person with bpd not have a fear of abandonment?

@carolinemorrissey4602 Год назад

I am well into my second year "dbt" enlightened, i dont want to overshare, it is a pathalogical re learning process, absolutley exhausting at times, but i can finally look at myself in the mirror and say you did good kid. It is a pervasive disorder but definitely not impossible to heal, but you have to be 100% commited to that process. Will be ordering my dbt cards for my handbag🙂

@JagoShogun Год назад

doc are you shredded? the challenge of bpd is ill never be cured but suffer it's full stigma lol

@palapalak.8907 Год назад

Gym and exercise help alot.

@AllTaxisRYellow 6 месяцев назад

Is this for doctors or for people with BPD? You’re not suggesting much for living with ti

@nataliachies8623 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this. I struggle with having BPD and your encouraging words felt so heart warming.

@DrDanielFox 11 месяцев назад

You are so welcome!

@mtex1024 Год назад

will isolation work until the meds work and i get my emotions in control?

@Pash21 Год назад

Well I just found out something about how I used to be I just detach from people before they do it to me

@pritygyal9017 Год назад

Same...

@jeremysmith8696 9 месяцев назад

Yeah well get rid of the red tape, and all the loophole for psychologist and psychiatrists, to just drag out therapies, and meds, just to make bank, your never going to be out of work, so do your job and help the person, so the next person can come get the help.

@lydiaalexian1435 4 месяца назад

I was kinda hoping that the video would actually talk about the coping skills.

@leighjordan2478 2 месяца назад

I wonder if i self sabotage because deep down i feel i dont deserve any better..

@DrDanielFox 2 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It takes courage to confront those feelings, and you’re not alone in this journey.

@The.JessicaJames 2 месяца назад

I have bpd I had to force my parents to send me to therapy n well i don’t go to therapy anymore they won’t send me n I have been off my meds for 5 months n now I’m addicted to drugs just because they trapped me in my room I can’t do anything I can’t work I’m just glued to my bed depressed i want to be able to go to walks too help me please

@frigolo1279 Месяц назад

I'd rather be alone by myself then feeling alone with people around me.

@HgkhVfjbh-tm5iv Год назад

It's hard for me to get professional help what can I do now so that I overcome trauma

@DrDanielFox Год назад

It hard to give specific feedback, since I don’t know the barriers.

@64maxpower 3 месяца назад

Where's the videos of support for the victims of loving a person w bpd

@gandj9941 9 месяцев назад

If s nice to know I’m not alone

@DrDanielFox 9 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for your comment! It means a lot to me to know that my videos have resonated with you and made you feel less alone. Keep watching and I'll keep creating!