How to Deal with a Toxic, Bitter, Vindictive Ex | "Baby Mama" 

I could and never would let a man suffer by keeping him from his child. That’s horrible. I don’t care how much I hate him. We don’t have to talk or see each other, but his child should be in his life. I hate women like that!

There should be consequences for women on making false police calls or reports.

Literally going through this right now smh. Mentally draining

Been through this and now i have primary custody GOD is good! Good video sir!

This explains a lot... depending on the level of mental illness this can get really ugly.. too bad women WASTE thier lives doing these type of things...Nothing HEALTHY about it... Who in thier RIGHT SANE MIND does this? God cant bring new joy, love, or opportunity in your life like this... #therapist#counseling#healing #release#loveyourself

Whatever you do don't play their game, don't argue back.and forth, this man is correct it's mentally draining and will suck the life out of you, it can destroy a man if you let it

Men it's not worth going to jail or loosing your career by trying to have a relationship with your child/ kids. WALK AWAY. Those kids/child will eventually contact you when they are older

This is a great subject topic. Please Don’t forget about us women who are in relationships as a supportive partner of the men with toxic Ex baby mamas. A how to be a better supporter to this man. Also don’t forget that these women may have been toxic before these man came into their lives. If you have time could you do a video on how to deal with the borderline and narcissistic personality disorder type of baby mama.

My mother, now in her late 60s, and she is STILL trying to destroy my father. Some bitter women never heal or change their ways. She also abused me and my brother.

I'm going thru it now too. Thanks to you all for sharing your experiences and hopefully it will help me navigate thru the hellscape of an evil, selfish, vindictive, blinded by social media, narcissistic bm 🙏

Put it out there for these dads, be a man & stand up to these toxic baby mamas. Because it’s not fair for the new girls to deal with y’all shit. It’s bad enough there caring for a kid that is not there’s plus your baby mama, Really! The solution is grow some balls and be up front draw some boundaries & handle your shit!

I agree totally never argue with someone unreasonable.

Facts. Get a restraining order I did problem solved

Hope that works for some. It is sad to hear these stories that are more common than not. Many men lives are destroyed. Oshay video yesterday referenceing Ringotvraw video suggests to make the woman choose child support or a father is an option as well.

My ex does all this shit. It's crazy cause her mother and sister the same way. Probably should of seen it coming.

Thanks very clean and mellow advice

Dealing with this rn bro.. It's always the good dudes that get the shit end of the stick bro I pay my child support I see my kids as often as possible and out of nowhere she don't want me to see them or keep them from me I got 3 boys it hurts me to my core I can relate to all what you're saying good shit home boy! From chiraq 💯💯💯

Man i could write a whole book on all the toxic shit my fiances ex has done to me, him and our family and their own child in common, for the last 14 years because some bitches just cant handle being a mom.

Man dealing this right now $1505 a month and she's still talking to me about women I'm dating and harassing me.

My Bm is married and 8months pregnant!! & won't let me send my kids things they ask for... Craziness!!

GREAT advice you are absolutely right. I hope I can get my boyfriend to do all this do his ex, she is a psycho nutbag

much respect for keeping it real

Ill tell you my solution ...i totally cut all communication with one of mines to avoid any conflict and its unfortunate for the child but i do pay child support...this woman caused problems with my wife tried to get me fired from jobs and could under the radar be causing problems for me because i choose not to deal with ignorance .i do wish i could be in the childs life but the mother is dangerous capable of many negative things and im not the guy to be involved.when the kid can make their own mind to decide ill be there

Man you really just described my life to the teeth right now man. Jesus

Man my ex has been dragging me through hell for years, she just won't stop n won't let me go. I've tried to settle, I've even agreed to her terms. All she does is play these stupid games. N keep dragging this out. She treats her other baby daddy normal n he's a loser little thug with no money. N only comes seeking once every couple years. Here i am being a good dad n helpful n year my ex with respect and all she does is put me through hell. I don't get it

I have a vindictive ex. I left him two months ago and and two weeks ago I found out he had hacked my hotmail and facebook and deleted both of them. The irony is I left him because I discovered he had a vindictive character. Thank GOD we did not get married or have kids. I only lost 7 months of my life dating him, a hotmail account and facebook account. I consider that a blessing, what a relief.

My husbands ex is like this. And his mom takes his exs side. I told him if you don't fix it I'm out yo. I don't have time for that kind of mind fuck shit.

My fiance and I have been going through this shit with his ex for the last 14 years, she is just an money hungry bitch, no amount of money or anything will ever be enough for her and sadly has raised their daughter the same way. I told my fiance to block em you DO NOT HAVE TO TOLERATE THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR FROM ANYONE! EVER, I PERSONALLY would have never allowed her to do that to me for all that time. Misery loves company!

insane!!!!! great video!

This shit is hard bro , she pick and choose when I see her. That baby got my last name

Fuck man I’m 25 with a almost 2 year old and all she does is bash me on social media. I’m glad I found this video.

I believe I got pregnant by a narcissist, I’m 23 now with a one year old child . In the beginning he was very charming , bought me expensive gifts , took me everywhere.. but I always got this weird vibe about him like hmm there’s something off about him when it comes to him being overly nice and never wanting anything in return. He used to pop up at my job unannounced and bring me things here and there or he would come and pick me up just to give me a ride home when he lived an hour away which I thought was so strange but looked pasted it unfortunately. Fast forward four months into the relationship he buys me an expensive ring and proposes to me. At the time he didn’t have a car so he used to take buses , Uber’s , whatever to come see me . Then one day I said hey you should try to get your permit / license so that you can drive and at the snap of a finger in about a week or so he had his permit. Fast forward I decided to leave my job and move into his house with his parents when I first found out I was pregnant to attend college . Big mistake ! I lasted 3 weeks he kicked me out all because I didn’t “pay him enough attention” and wanted to visit my family on The Weeknd’s and here and there hang out with my friends. He hated when I was on the phone he would constantly make his presence known when I was. He always tried to rush me into marrying him and when I would say hey what’s the rush he would throw tantrums . He would throw tantrums when he couldn’t get his way or if I didn’t agree with him. He eventually moved out of his parents and got his own apartment while I was pregnant, and tried his hardest to convince me to move in I stuck with my gut and said hell no you kicked me out once , who says you wouldn’t do it again if not worse . He completely has checked out of our daughters life and only sends money. And when he was in the picture it was when he was dealing with me. Oh and I forgot to mention his mom seems to have it out for me to it got to the point where I was starting to feel like they both were trying to mentally torture me in a game of tag team . He would be off and on with me for months , with zero explanation.. Just recently I called to speak to him regarding him sending money for his daughter and he deliberately had some female Get on the phone , then he has the nerve to text me happy Mother’s Day . Now his excuse is we just don’t work , some people were brought together to recreate like what the heck ! how do you deal with this ? I try to reach out regarding my daughter and he never responds . He even stopped sending money . Im beyond hurt because I felt like I gave the relationship my all now I’m left to be a single mom.

keeping it real 100 thanks

Sir...have you been following me the last three years (and counting because I see no end in sight)???🤔🤔🤔

What about when the man gets in a relationship and she does those things

You dealing with one of these "things" or r u just giving advice?

Sounds like my sons mom

My issue is money my baby mother when I don't give her money evrytime she asks when she says it's for my kid who lives with her who has her surname and only her on the brith certificate I try and give what I can but she dose not care about that just gets mad and angry when she asks and I can't give but not like I don't give at all witch confuses me but I suppose how women are

I believe that women get such a bad rap for their reasonable response/reaction to done children's father's bad behavior. For example, men that do not actively participate in their children's lives, whether it be financial and/or by sharing the daily, momentous responsibilities of child rearing, yet demonize and label the child's mother as "bitter" have no real justification. We are tired and exhausted, often with little to no outside help, as we scratch and claw our way through the trenches, while dad gets a pass. When she reaches out for support of any kind, she's often men with resistance, ie lies and excuses, as to why he isn't able to help, or i getting his life in order, while he places the children and her on a back burner left to fend for themselves. It's not okay that as a society fathers are viewed as accessory parents, with optional responsibilities, while mothers are left to figure it out alone.

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