@@theruler3854 I could only speculate. She'll take that to the grave with her. She has suffered quite few tragedies since then including losing her other son. Best of luck to her ✌
My background: I am 14 yrs US Army. I have 2 daughters by 2 ex wives. Like you said LadyMocha "Go to the courts." I used the following 3 Steps to ERASE babymomma drama: 1. Take a blood test & Get a lawyer. IF the child is in fact yours PAY to get your custody, visitation rights, and child support obligation on black & white. Get EVERYTHING on legal documents. 2. Don't have sex with the mother of your child. Just DON'T DO IT. Save yourself the drama. 3. Always be grown. Don't EVER entertain petty. Don't post your business or respond to jabs on social media. Keep the main thing the main thing--YOUR child. ~ Fellas, these are the steps I took to TAKE CONTROL of my situation & EARN my peace of mind. A boy complains about his circumstances while a man WORKS TO CHANGE his circumstances. Step #1 cost me thousands of dollars. But picking up my daughters & seeing the look on my daughters faces & me knowing that their mothers can never hold my children as a bargaining chip--PRICELESS. Good video. I as a professional black man & loving father appreciate the knowledge & warnings you are passing along to help today's men avoid these pitfalls. Thank you.
Red pill continue to follow these steps. As they get older make sure you get them phones. First contact the mother and speak to them of the phone second if that don't work to it the Judge.
Viola H. Glaze that’s true for the most part all cases are different sometimes the woman is the one to change and you are left out cause she is influenced by others to push the man out.
She the woman have such a problem seeing a man "free to do as he please" when why is it sooooo hard for them to be women enough to say this is hard for me and let the kids go and live with the father if it wasn't about the control they possess when having the child in their control?
dating prospects are significantly lower for women with kids let alone miltiple kids because most men do not want to take on that responsibility...women need to be careful with reproducing with men that have children because the same way she a single mom you can end up the same way
It’s crazy how kids are expensive when living with the mother but soon as the kid lives with the father? It doesn’t cost no where near $500 every single month. And on top of that? If a father who is used to paying child support, gets full custody? He is able to take care of his child with out the mother’s financial help.
My baby mama moved outa state. Took the kids and got the fuck. But I personally know she's a user and a manipulator. And used my kids as a weapon and refused to even meet me in a public place to pick the kids up to see them. I always have been the bread winner in the house before the break up. No i don't pay child support, she filed the papers but she never followed up I guess because I never heard anything else about it. She has nothing and I know for a fact is miserable because all she can do is complain about me. I'm living and engaged now. Even set me up to be robbed at gun point. I can't prove it, but I know it was her. She claim she married now and with this new dude. I've tried and tried to be in their lives but at every turn, I'm downed by her every time.
@@BluefaceTrice-jo8vr then that's when you need to have a deep conversation with your baby not to even be questioning your child about what's going on in dad's house. The mother should have a life of her own and not worry about dad.
My baby mama is too KRAAAZY to deal with. Paranoid Personality disorder. . She violated a court order to take my daughter to the folks once a week. She complains she doesn't get a break but since she wants to never let me be alone with my own kid she doesn't get one. It's her own damned fault. It's my fault for laying up with KRAAAAAAAAZY in the first place.
Always a pleasure watching your videos and being a woman who has also been on all sides of this situation I soooo appreciate you bringing light to a dark situation!! These kids deserve better not bitter!
I'm dating a guy who has a baby mother who is actively trying to mess up our relationship and using the kid, etc. Good information. What has helped was him seeking and getting a visitation schedule with the courts.
Yes honey it's more than one way to squeeze a lemon. You are more than welcomed to share this video with anyone who needs help with this type of issue. Be blessed!
I believe bitter baby mothers contribute a lot to certain men being absent all together. Hard to raise a baby in deep depression. Hard to spread positivity in that state. Not saying it's okay but I am saying that I fully understand the cycle.
Most women want a man to keep the kids and still want child support... I told mine take off child support and we share time... Money was more important to her 🤷🏾♂️
I pay 600 dollars a month for child support on my daughter, and I BEG my daughters mom for any info and she is still is bitter, she barely lets me see her, and asking her for anything about my daughter is like asking for teeth!
@@marcusphilpot1376 man thank you for saying that! Man I had no clue what that ment but I just looked into it and you are 1000 percent right.....it really passes me off that the courts or even child support WILL NOT tell a father how to help himself in anyway....my daughter is my only child and I have absolutely zero experience with the legal system in anyway, have never been arrested or had a need to study law until my daughter. Thank you for that info sir.
@@KingNez89 I'm in process of doing that now. I got court next month on the 14th. She kept me from seeing my son is because I got married. She can't control me or manipulate me. She is manipulating the child so thats emotional abuse to me and keeping the child away from the father to me that is child abduction
Down vote ! If you need more money then get a job. If they didn’t want a child then they shouldn’t allowed sex to go down...most men just want to be in their child’s life and not in the life of their exes.
You hit the nail on the head with this one . Thank you so much , can you do a video for advice on how deal with this situation when you are the stepmother . Just like you said ,damned if you do , damned if you don't . It's hatred from the baby mother since day one when it doesn't have to be . If I'm here to help and don't harm you children ,actually have a great bond with the children ,then why the attitude and drama all the time? I'm also a parent now, but when you are a step parent ,there is a fine line with overstepping your boundaries ,but at the same time even when you do too much good , it make baby mamas mad still ? It confusing to me , please do a video on this . Thank you and god bless.
Rania Dickens yes love, I have many videos concerning these types of issues. Here is one ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-9Gsb9Z4Uj4I.html
I truly like your blogs and i understand your conversation on topics .....please talk about theses sisters who know that a good man likes them but they keep trying to take the good man for a fool and then when that good man moves on that woman gets mad because know that other women is know getting the full benefits of that good man that was getting played.
I don’t know what the new video is about but I think it hit all points here. Your right on every aspect of the situation people have to go thru. For now I’ma hold my peace and hope that my step daughter one day will know how much effort I put into making things right with her mom.
I respect a lot of your videos but this one you dropped the ball on because they are great men out there including me who are always been there for that children I got Stacks and stacks and stacks of receipts to show you that I've been paying child support but I've also met other brothers that going through the same thing that I have going through with these bitter nasty females who have not had a father in their life who try to demonically take the father away from their own children
Keep in mind this video is fairly old compared to all of my new ones; my mind set was in a different place at the time and furthermore this doesn't apply to every case; only specific ones. If you viewed my video having children for profit; you'll see a major difference in my view points. Thanks for viewing though.
The courts should give the children or child to the person who makes Top dollars. Why give the children to a handicap person who don't have it together. That's why our future is F up now.
Top dollar doesn’t mean the person cares. Top dollar doesn’t mean that person actually wants to be a parent. Money isn’t a sign of being a good committed caring loving parent.
Top dollars doesn't necessarily equal mental and emotional stability...Top dollars is why we're all messed up mentally, believing if we just throw some money at a situation it will solve it...well history proves that to be false.
First of all I'm in the military, me and my daughter's mom both currently still serve however she has a tech job, I'm a scout she makes more than me yet she robbed every second of me being there for my daughter bc she's a spiteful bitch you actually think that's logically sane gtfo
Attention females if he had kids before he married you! What makes you think he won't go back and sleep with the ex duh! Get smart if you want a monogomist relationship have the conversation.Get with a man or woman you can agree with.When you are young you make mistakes.Millenials please listen to Wisdom!
My ex left me for another dude, came back,I foolishly took her back, had a baby, I don't regret my child. But then she started acting up again. Turns out she was cheating with a second guy. We ended. Didn't talk for 2.5 years. Then suddenly accusations, withholding child, shit talking, n court of course. She refuses to be civil. Angry at me for apparently no reason. And nothing but attitude and unwilling to compromise with anything. It's clear that she hit a wall in her little playing the field game where she realized that no man wants her because she is screaming with red flags. She saw me doing good, the option that didn't stay put on the shelf. It made her bitter that I realized my worth and saw her as dead weight
Sometimes you just have to wait until the kids are old enough In the state of Mo. even if you have a court order in place.The family court center does not enforce.The family court system is corrupt.Espeacially if the parents are interracial.Missouri always favour the mother.Even if Dad is the better parent.
What you described is the a bitter baby mother at all. That’s just a stressed out mama tryna make it work. A bitter baby mama will leverage their children and use them as pawns for PERSONAL reasons against the father! That’s a bitter baby mama. A woman who intentionally makes it difficult for a man to be a father to his children die to PERSONAL reasons!
If women need a break then those women need to go get a better income on there own n all the men I know r 100% in there kids lives as I am in my kids life but because i don't want to be with this Weirdo she uses my son as a weapon against me n that ain't right
LadyMocha yes ma'am with all due respect thank you for uploading such positive n informative videos to up lift men n women having these types of issues thank you (Queen)💖⚘🌷
Men complain crazy, bipolar, manipulative, etc ..Funny we see none of these signs when you recklessly layed up and had your fun...Deal with the sh*t you created..
My baby mother is justified and bitter and has poisoned my 3 children against me because i broke up with her because she lied and had me arrested facing 60 years and stayed in jail for 20 mths fighting the case while locked she took me to custody court and had custody granted so while in jail i met a new woman and she appeared for me at bail hearing thats when my babymom found out about it but i met her in jail and still with her still to this day but she told my oldest daughter i raped her mother and that's the only reason my daughter has siblings by me 8 and 17 of age so your videos have really helped me to understand her alot better but she doesn't take my phone calls when i tried to apologize to her about our failed relationship but she's still bitter what can do now i love her and my children but im not inlove with my kids mother any more but im not angry about so is she ? She say she forgive me she say she moved on but when she leaves me texts she is always angry and calls my love nasty mean names and talks bad about my family why ??? If. All is true please reply i need futher guidelines about this ok love your videos ROCK
Those first 2 things u spoke of are correct, so why won't these females act right if they'll need this type of support from the father. They should think about that while they're being a shitty mate and a neglectful parent.
My ex is bitter from the past but she moved on I provide what I can what he needs now before I sacrificed everything for them both never looking out for me now I changed that ..she has another man ..and gets frustrated when they just want sex from her she takes it out on me I've found god and paece tryn to fix myself but she is so negative I do security overnight and I have no life four years by myself ..I lost my gig I couldn't cope with anything she did to me ...I cannot call his school to ask how's he doing but I payed for it before . Bow I refuse to because I can't even talk to a teacher I can't see him or even talk to him unless I send money it's allways about money .. I'm tired I have no say so whatsoever . It's killing me to stay away because it's so bad on her end ..I love my son haven't moved on or quit on him or even her ..I've done so much for her and him ..I lost myself.. I'm being held hostage in my life .. I can't do courts won't drag him into this it'll only make it worse on him ..help..I've took time away for three months she wouldn't answer texts she has taken him away the first time and left me I found him ..stepped up again ..I don't live in his state ..there's so much drama ..I'm at peace walk with God now she doesn't believe in the Lord and has bipolar issues and anger allways snaps on me yells at me like I'm her kid I'm a cool nice guy ..very caring ..I've talk many ways nicely kisses butt nothing works like I'm talking to an imature kid ..I've done all I can saved her life lots of times helped her out so much but she wants other men attention I worked alot overnight so she liked and cheated that's not my fault ..bills needed to be paid I had a meltdown depression when she took my son left me ..she wasn't consoling to nothing or caring ..I let her go to a better life with my son all she cares is about men she's a good mom I give her lots of complement s credit praise but I'm allways a dead beat ..I'm tired help plz..it's ovwrwhelmig
Okay I'm trying to be in my son life. I been without my son for 1 year. I had to get away from my son mother move on with my life. I'm not saying she wont me back or I wont her back also. I fail behind on child support 3,000 + okay I'm wrong for doing that to me. And I will fix my problem still having a package deal with me and my son's mother and came out the blue her husband with his mouth jump in... WOW! GG! I still treat them both with respect and my son's step father and thank him for stepping up. The husband talk about me like a dog but I still thank him and keep it moving. They are bitter to one parent is trying to return but okay. My son's mother due me this way to a lot of man she date they better then me. Because they are with you I'm not. But I wont be able to get my son from my mother son if it save my soul.
I am so tired of everyone equating child support and baby mama drama with black women when all races do it. It actually just makes black men look stupid. The fact that you have to take care of your kids is an issue baffles me. You should be worried about your children being taken care of. Making sure the child has an educational account opened and watch the progress. Every child is entitled to be financially supportive. You should demand the court to ask to see how your money is being spent on the child.
I’m not A shame to say I was having to go on public assistance but I always told my kids when you get old enough to come home and do what I asked. My ass was back at work full time I love to work. I love this but like she is explaining men get sometimes in their feeling about how much you have to pay in child support. But damn I wish I was getting five or six hundred dollars a month my ex husband still don’t want to pay a small ass amount of $ 43.00 a week and my kids are adults now. What about father who don’t mind the other or another man to do for your kids.
A bitter Baby Mama is Not important!!!! Forget them and move on with your life most black women are damaged and Not Mother Nor wife material!! This is why most successful black Men don't pick Black women to share their lives with Not All Black Women, But the majority are Not worth a Good Man's Seed to have children at all!! Hard Facts!! I was Blessed to find me a beautiful Black Woman to be my Queen. but I had to change my entire views about Women by discovering her mind before exploring her body to make sure I could live with her having My Kids!! As a God fearing Hebrew Man of Jesus. I could Never Accept a Loud and Clamorous Woman lacking knowledge of her True identity and her God
There's all these videos bashing baby mamas. And the majority of the videos are from the step mom pov. It's not fair. As a single mom, I'm not bitter that my son's father is in a serious relationship. I'm hurt by his actions towards me. Which surprise surprise he's never taken accountability. But goes around like he's gods gift to women. He doesn't help with his child in anyway. But can take her and do all these expensive gifts and trips give ALL his time to. I get it that's your woman.... But you got a special needs kid that needs you too. But im just bitter if i say any of this? 👀 tf?
I don't get it I always need a break so my question is,,,, why do mother's keep kids away from dad's shit I would pay for a break black Americans are better than this
Man men say give me the child I work and ca support the child. When it happened to me I gave my child to him. That's when reality set in with him. The expenses was much and the child was hell of a handful and the wife couldn't handle it. Daycare was he'll of expensive and no support from his family. Now the child is back with me and now I am struggling. The good thing is that now he understands how much goes into raising a child he doesn't complain about the child support which I don't ask for much because I understand he has a family too. Black men child support is meant for your child. Saying she can work too is like saying she should take care of the child herself. Just sounds stupid. When you cry about child support you are saying that you child deserves to starve. I agree some of the women go too far but that doesn't mean you don't take care of your seed
The child was hell of a hand full and the wife couldn't handle it??? So that's not a plus because the child is unruly and was probably encouraged to give the stepmom a hard time. Pitiful
@@natashabarrow2885 Exactly, I go above and beyond for my kids and my stepson I treat as my own. When he goes with his mom, he's encouraged to be defiant and ignore us and our rules.
