How To Deal with Difficult Coworkers

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@Pilot_10 5 лет назад

I feel like the best way to deal with coworkers is to make sure you look and feel your best. Say hello/good night... walk past them, work hard, be unbothered. You are there for a check.

@brittnih7758 3 года назад

Periodt!

@ForensicsOnTheScene 7 лет назад

Thank you so much for posting this. I'm in tears right now over the toxic backstabbing coworkers.

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

Hang tough my friend!! A way will always be found

@madeleineherencialarsen7731 6 лет назад

Same here. I was crying ..I am quiting. .today my clients told me..how great they felt with my services. .I am in sales department. ...

@barbatvs8959 5 лет назад

God hates them, and they will burn forever.

@ItsNicola 6 лет назад

I'm in this situation right now and it's soul destroying. I love my job but it's ruining my desire to be there

@xmnyx888 5 лет назад

Nicola how did it turn out?

@dasdimatichaani8309 4 года назад

there is a old bitch in my office that purposely trying to make me look incompetent infront of my boss by nit picking shit out of my spreadsheets. Bitch is retiring in 2 years i am trying to self contain.

@shutit4024 3 года назад

DasdiMatich Aani hang in there it’s happening to me too

@libbyholbrook9071 7 лет назад

my coworkers see me as a open target. they focus on what i am doing badly and i don't know what to tell them. i just to scream and run away

@50kekk 5 лет назад

I had to deal with a coworker who basically hates me for no reason. Idk whats up with her tbh

@pinkrose4322 2 года назад

She hates herself.

@bayleymiddleton5281 7 лет назад

I have a co-worker that acts like she is nice to me but then I here from other girls that she is talking behind my back. she always picks out things im doing and says they are wrong and i hate going to work now any advice?

@rebeccajimenez6109 6 лет назад

Bayley Middleton this is when you might need to ask questions nd ask what you're doing wrong and ask to correct whatever you're doing wrong. I am always accountable for my mistakes and I want to make sure things are done correct. If they still are reluctant to enlighten them then this might show their toxic thinking by miscommunicaring with you by withholding info so you can't progress. Be proactive and ask what you might need to improve on. If that confrontation doesnt work then manager meeting is the way to go. I am dealing with similar situation at work as an entry level medical receptionist so I am expected to be perfect after 3 weeks. When they handle with so many patients and you need to know which procedure codes and insurance stuff and if they require auth or not. If they go in for an MRI or ct they require special instructions. So many steps when checking patients in that imaging clinic. But the two receptionist girls give me straight attitude when I asked a question. And undermine my knowledge when they decide to quiz me on what they trained me on. Which I only had a day and a half of training as a scheduler tho. That is also hard also because I am bilingual so they need help with spanish patients. I have been talked about as if I werent in the room. Like ok I hear you talk about me and the things I didn't so right. The head receptionist and I already had talked about how wrong I have been dping things but they're the ones who trained me so it's difficult to not take it seriously when you just want to do the job right but someone wants to rain on everyone's parade. I was expecting the patients to be mean and with attitude but I was totally wrong. Do what you can to do a good job at work and remember that what they do is a reflection on their character.

@purrronica 6 лет назад

I have a similar situation but she’s also rude to my (read: everyone’s) face, she’s sort of the black sheep and all the other girls get along. For good reason but I won’t bore you with backstory. Sounds like your friends that are nice enough to let you know she’s backstabbing you, mine told me and I was glad to know they sort of hand by back. A few tactics that I’ve used with like 70% success is to try to remind them that as coworkers you are on the same level, she has no right to critique your work and if it’s an issue it should be taken to management so they can coach you through those mistakes. I also mentioned to her that I know she’s been talking about me behind my back, but she should know well enough that my friends will tell me whatever she’s saying, so next time she can say it to my face. You could also threaten her with going to HR. Actually doing that isn’t something I’ve yet to do but I’ve “threatened” her with it. I hope any of these tips help

@ericaguerrero7597 5 лет назад

Leave but before that give her a good slap

@dasdimatichaani8309 4 года назад

@shutit4024 3 года назад

DasdiMatich Aani sameeeeee I won’t be a the job for too long because I’m moving but still

@Amysbiblereads 7 лет назад

I started my job 2 months ago and I come home from work crying every weekend that I am there. It is so toxic. They all hate me. They're all younger than me or around my age. They don't have kids, I am the only one that does. They all have each other on Facebook, most except my team leader added me but they don't talk, they make fun of me and the way I am. They found out I do Tarot readings and that became the gossip of the century. It's devastating and I feel so drained and dreading every weekend I work there. I'm at my wits end ! They're ALL problem people Bar one person who they all hate too!

@hollythomason9013 7 лет назад

IMO, keep going and show personal strength and stop worrying what they think. You do you, and they will respect you after you do more than they expected. You are the new person, and life is a hard ass game, so toughen up buttercup. I say this with love as an ex-doormat.

@luckyangel4251 6 лет назад

Amy's Angel Guidance looking for a different job is less exhausting than crying your eyes out is. just make sure you save up enough while u r wkg. I've got a similar situation so i understand completely

@FLICKOFF1000 6 лет назад

This is a comment unrealted to your problem, but a wise suggestion to get rid of the tarot cards. The reason is that its witchcraft and is abored by God and is very evil to be practicing. Get rid of it and start making a relationship with God instead of using witchcraft to find out all the answers you are looking for in life. He will show you as your faith grows with Him. As for your problems at work, its all over the place, no matter where you go its still the same.I deal with it too, its the way how you deal with it too.

@Marco.91 6 лет назад

FLICKOFF1000 she can read tarot cards if she wishes ,that's her life her business .

@jonienglish3231 5 лет назад

i have that same situation 1 is MARRIED but Acts like a ANGEL with his Wife Around , the Other DIVORCED, Another is a GERM afobe , and another his wife is a YOGA instructor but aLSO acts liek a Angel when the Wife is not Present

@parker9383 5 лет назад

Thank you! Ugh I'm sick with the shitty attitudes at work

@hinazeb6752 4 года назад

Same here

@supbabe7203 5 лет назад

I know work in Health Care and its seriously the worse environment Ive ever had to work in. Im surprised since its literally centered around caring for people.

@wilfigs9705 4 года назад

👍👍👍

@shawnbateman79 7 лет назад

I work as a caregiver, third shift. The work can be difficult sometimes, even just staying awake is hard at times, and it makes concentration difficult. I sometimes miss a few things, most of them minor. The problem is the first shift workers come in and they are always very negative. They ignore me and go and find things that I missed or did wrong in their eyes and they attack me. They are pretty hostile, raise their voice and use colorful language. They are completely unprofessional and belittle me. I am getting pretty sick of them and have even contemplated quitting my job and finding a new one. But the pay is great so I don't wanna let them win and laugh that they got rid of me and let them know they got to me.

@helenrogers5569 7 лет назад

Shawn Bateman Wow! I am a new employee and find this happening to me. Problem is, since I am new and others are afraid to open their mouths, I look like the bad guy. I have had to just take the lies, back stabbing and passive aggressive bullying. Otherwise, I stand to lose my job. There is no defending yourself. If I try, it only gets worse. Very sad that management is blind to this person and others are afraid to speak up. I am not prideful. I simply see the impact of such actions upon other employees, patients and families. But nothing will change. It hurts!!

@rana.s9907 8 лет назад

I just started a job and this pwrson is really annoying and picks on everything and interfering and negative commets in every conversation i make with anyone and it is getting to me not sure how to deal with it

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

I hear you Rana!! i think that the tips in here will help, but most importantly, it will help to work on how not to take things personally. I made a video about that so I won't go into detail now, but between working on that and working on YOU, to feel empowered, those things will help take some that edge off.

@Siel-bm7gx 6 лет назад

I have the same situation I think with a coworker. This video is good at representing what needs to be done. Hang in there be strong.

@rachelhenry4357 5 лет назад

Can you avoid them? Eg sit away from them? Dont be in isolation with them in the breakroom?

@34789199 7 лет назад

How about when the co-worker I'm having problems with his best friend with the manager and I don't want to take it to H.R. eather

@normalopezingle7732 8 лет назад

great advice. I wish I would of known that 4 years ago. lol I actually walked out of my job. I now have a great job!

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+N Lopez Ingle that's so amazing though, who knows how life would have been had you not walked out? Props to YOU!!!!

@lesliethomas5088 6 лет назад

Norma Lopez Ingle I feel like that everyday.I just want to leave! Walk out on them

@IsmailTuncel 7 лет назад

What if the issue is the person? She/He is issue creator?

@cirukarago7251 4 года назад

She brings out those feelings to me because am paid aliitle higher than her, my duties not much like hers, she forgets i have experience more than her but she seems not to swallow that fact... Just by how she talks i know it kills her inside.

@terryquinn7347 3 года назад

The hardest part of your working day is dealing with other people

@miguelrobb5719 7 лет назад

I lost my job due to difficult co-workers. I tried to talk to them and squash things, but each and every time they run to the supervisor (who are friends) and tell them some bullshit story. it was 5 of them against me. I even requested a transfer. my transfer was approved, but they got me fired before my transfer date was due. They disliked me for some petty reasons. I was the youngest and a bit darker if u know what I mean lol. well whatever. screw this office shit I'm doing trucking. less people to deal with

@hinazeb6752 4 года назад

It's very difficult to deal with mean, manipulative people,such experiences show you the ugly side of humanity,that is really sad.

@miguelrobb5719 4 года назад

Hina Zeb yeah it is difficult, but it is what it is. Like I mentioned in my 3 year old comment. I got into trucking. 2 months after that (12/11/17) I bough my own truck for $15k and I’m pocketing $2k-$4k a week and can take time off for as long as I want. Life is pretty sweet now. I thank those difficult people I worked with because I wouldn’t had gotten a taste of this kind of life if it wasn’t for those assholes lol

@hinazeb6752 4 года назад

@@miguelrobb5719 I am so happy for you👍yes, it's true, life teaches us lessons through such kind of people, this is how life is. I have had a tough experience with previous job and it was very hard, it cost me my health.

@miguelrobb5719 4 года назад

Hina Zeb thanks a lot. I do believe life lessons holds far more value than any currency 💴. How did your previous job hurt your health?

@hinazeb6752 4 года назад

@@miguelrobb5719 Affected my mental health, had to consult a psychiatrist, as I was forced to believe by my employer that I was the problematic person,then psychiatrist told I had been working In a toxic environment, and my reactions were justified.he said, I should be happy that I am out of that sick place.

@eribabygurl 7 лет назад

You're super gorgeous ! I could see why your light may threatens some insecure colleagues

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

You are so beautiful and so kind! I appreciate you honey, thanks so much for watching!

@premg6019 6 лет назад

Well Appreciated! Its these kind of comments from viewers that inspire a Professional like Alexandra give out her best, more and more, in times to come! :-)

@hinazeb6752 4 года назад

Yes, she is gorgeous💕

@salazar556 4 года назад

Just started a new job and this one girl is really pissing me off. So, this is my first serving job and, unfortunately, I always work with this girl on the busiest (and my most stressful) days. I can't tell you how many times this girl only added onto my anxiety and nearly had me going into a mental breakdown. Of course, I'm a little slow because this is my first waitressing job. This girl has the nerve to act like she's the manager and tell me to move faster and boss me around. On top of that, I'll try and be nice and offer to help somehow and she straight up responds in a rude tone every time. She even has the nerve to try and get me to let her go home early. Of course, I always tell her no because one, she's rude to me, two, I worked a longer day, and three, she doesn't do shit when it comes to side work. I'm the one always trying to get it done. I'm just so frustrated and done with her.

@ailov3 7 лет назад

Hmmm I'm kind of scared to keep pursing healthcare field because I felt that way when I interned. I hated going to the clinic every morning. All the girls there were fake and toxic. They treat the job as a competition and sadly as an intern I was treated as if I was there to take their job and didn't really learn much except the environment and I wonder if it is like that in all healthcare....

@Citrusfruits50 5 лет назад

Ooooohhhhh yes my dear... and beware nursing is the worst..😣

@pinkylopez3055 5 лет назад

Nurses can be some of the meanest people in the World. A lot of them are straight up bullies

@suzannengotedga 7 лет назад

This is the first video of you that I watch, and the first two minutes made me want to subscribe. You seem very confident and likable, I love your personality!

@premg6019 6 лет назад

So true and So did I :-)

@PengiChyan 5 лет назад

Your video helped thank you. Just wanted to say no matter what jobs we have we should be proud we go everyday despite conflicts like this happening.

@jessicabury7620 5 лет назад

I always feel like my coworkers don’t like me Or I walk in and always feel like I’m going to get fired

@pinkgal206 5 лет назад

Lol

@EverythingOnIce22 8 лет назад

How do you deal with a coworker where you've done everything from telling them repeatedly to even writing out in notes to them that if they have any issues about the work that I'm doing they can just bring it up to me to resolve it and they're still creating gossip and conflicts?

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

hi honey! Have you escalated to your manager?

@premg6019 6 лет назад

Everythingonice22 Greetings from me ! I suggest you go back and watch Alexandra's video a couple of times( its a researched fact that when you watch a video 7 times and at intervals , you "digest" the knowledge. why I am saying this ? because your answer is already replied in the video. I could easily point out where, but i would not do that as I am a Coach and would rather let you " discover" the answer yourself as it would be more effective and long lasting. All the Best !

@alexcantlow2920 5 лет назад

All I want is for them to come to me I can't think of anything I done wrong so if I can't think of anything then not my problem anymore

@winonadaphne6445 5 лет назад

you're so composed and eloquent -- i have so much to learn from you 💗💗

@marefaoasis 7 лет назад

I like the positive way you are talking .... you have effective personality. Keep going.

@hendrixk09 8 лет назад

I needed this today. I was starting wonder if making a list of all the issues was effective or necessary.

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

Sending you the best vibes my friend, I'm really grateful that you're here and hope this helped :) Let's keep in touch xoxoxo

@bettyjtanner 6 лет назад

So glad I found other people who over came gossip petty co workers

@theswcoaching 4 года назад

Wonderful video with great information. Thank you. I find it really useful to depersonalise it and refocus on facts, options and outcomes, like your point of separating people from behaviour.

@waisee80 5 лет назад

Thank you for sharing on this.

@Siel-bm7gx 6 лет назад

Great video your awsome, I have a difficult coworker who works under me who is very hostile towards me and difficult to teach at Times. Finds ways to undercut my leadership with his negative comments makes it at times difficult work environment.

@amiradeshon5501 6 лет назад

Excellent video !!! Learning so much.

@guidofeliz8384 5 лет назад

How do YOU handle coworkers who are diligently trying to get YOU fired? Tell me that, great wizard.

@michaelknightly7341 8 лет назад

This was helpful, thank you. Tomorrow I'm going to deal with my coworker with your tips in mind.

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

Thank you for watching! Hopefully everything is going good with work!

@carpenoctem775 5 лет назад

Relevant to everyone. Thanks. If all else go to HR, or the head manager.

@613crystald 6 лет назад

Your awesome ! Thank u so much .. I've struggled with coworkers more then 35 years

@glassm6560 7 лет назад

It is happening to me now.. thank so much beautiful 😊

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

hope things are going better for you beautiful!

@sharisss2608 4 года назад

I literally have had this problem more than once and every time this happens what makes me feel better is the close my eyes and picture punching them in the face and then after that I focus on what I can get out of the job I try to find positive the money could be a positive maybe you focus on that while looking for a new job you can’t run away a from bad people because they are everywhere but if you’re in a job where it’s too toxic you have to leave or else you will end up becoming a different person never settle for less than what you deserve never let anyone disrespect you but for as long as you need to use the job as a resource do so and then get the hell out as quick as you can but think of your job as something that will give you what things you can use not as the main thing in your life and don’t take any thoughts home with you always come home and get focused on other things

@homebody61 4 года назад

Excellent video!

@613crystald 6 лет назад

you are amazing !!! wish i heard this when i was younger

@donskyhotiep7979 8 лет назад

new subscriber here and you really inspired me... thanks for your advice....

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

welcome to the family, I really appreciate you being here doll! Pls keep in touch :)

@Mrs.Hunk206 5 лет назад

I needed this video thank you!!!!

@campsummer6811 5 лет назад

well, one of the thing that I felt so hard to overcome is that I made a bad image in front of them, then I have been trying my best for a year but sadly that nothing gonna change, every bad thing happens they still came to me and pointed out that was because of me. Now I still have 1 more year of this master program. Hope that I can survive out of this toxic environment

@jlynnyyc 5 лет назад

Thank you

@Donewith.u 5 лет назад

Really off topic but I love your hair color. You are gorgeous!

@naninhastudios 5 лет назад

GREAT video thanks ♥️✨

@emmanuelperez9490 3 года назад

I found your video very helpful. Thank you. 😊

@aerialtorres2024 7 лет назад

Thanks! btw I love your makeup :)

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

thank you lovely Aerial!! xo

@dohaelsheikh91 7 лет назад

I came across your video and subscribed immediately bcz I really like your personality, you are beautiful from the inside and outside. I work in small office where there is 3 other ladies other than me, I've never met toxic and negative people, so I was nice to them but they are jealous people and they start by all the possible ways to pissed me off and talk about bad things and give wrong statements about me to new people and make themselves angels. I even get to a point where I want to quit my job and oh by the way your solution to act when needed, I used some of these steps more than one time but it didn't work so well bcz when I tell them facts and times they will get mad and start talking no sense and they are always right and I'm wrong and hateful, arrogant, mean ....

@hannahmeislikholmes4253 6 лет назад

I tried this. The person is worse. Customers complain and argue or yell at person. Yet head manager does nothing

@PrincessDiamondCut 8 лет назад

Your videos are so inspiring! I need positivity in my life.

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+S Young much appreciated, thank you so much for watching :)

@Jwhitehd 2 года назад

GREAT MOTIVATIONAL TIPS SHORT AND TO THE POINT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@jelenaperisic9340 7 лет назад

Great video!!! ♡

@AmericanDreamer 8 лет назад

Amazing video! Thank you! :)

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

Means so much that you said that AD, I appreciate you!!! xoxo

@ChronoTriggerHappy85 8 лет назад

THANK YOU!!!!!

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

Thank YOU Julie, I really appreciate you!! xoxo

@charlesvictoria6800 5 лет назад

When a difficult coworker acts like a kid, some times you have to humor them like a kid.

@chriswalls5831 4 года назад

ignore them

@fritzchic 6 лет назад

I've came across this video just in perfect timing as I am struggling on how to deal with a b*tch at work. I would just find out from other people that she backstabs me and it hurts me. When I've watched your video, I'd do the exact advice you gave about pre-planning how to avoid her and note my exposure to that person. Such a wonderful video, this is awesome! Thank you so much!

@Ittybittysteph 8 лет назад

I loved this video, I am a communication major so I found this very resourceful, I love the power of learning how to communicate effectively! 😊

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+steph vega real powerful indeed Steph, thank you honey!! xx

@alinacroitoru8820 8 лет назад

Such great advice! I love it when you share from your own experience. You're wonderful and I've learned so many things from you since I started following you. Hope we will see more of you, more often. Kisses!!

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+Alina Croitoru nothing but love for you my dearest Alina, I'm so happy every time I hear from you, how are you doll? Things good with you?

@alinacroitoru8820 8 лет назад

+Alexandra Potora I'm well, I am getting ready to move to the States actually, in a few months. Nervous but excited. I am curious to learn as much as I can before I get there, I'm sure it will be a lot different. This topic hits home because I will probably have to go through things like this, so I want to be prepared. You know how life is in both Romania and the US, so that is why I love watching you and I am supporting you as much as I can. I will probably be more connected once I get there. Right now I'm just working really hard to make this happen. Lots of love for you too my beautiful

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+Alina Croitoru congratulations babe, that's wonderful!! You'll be amazing and you'll make a beautiful life for yourself!! Which state will you be moving to?

@alinacroitoru8820 8 лет назад

+Alexandra Potora I will be moving to Houston,TX. Wish you were closer, haha. I won't be having any friends or family in the beginning, so I have to start from scratch. It's a scary thought but I am confident I'll be ok. Thank you for your words of encouragement! :)

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+Alina Croitoru you will be so fine honey, don't worry! Find coping ways for the times when you'll miss family and stay focused on YOUrself! I'm here too, so you're not alone! Everything will be amazing, you'll see!!! ;)

@DJQTUBE 4 года назад

I enjoyed this video and am newly subscribed.

@joeythomas1405 7 лет назад

Very good!

@jayster426 7 лет назад

Love it

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

Thank you so much!

@MsMdc1234 7 лет назад

New subscriber I needed to hear this

@phyllislindeboom5396 6 лет назад

I have a coworker who I have to go on trips with, and be involved with regularly. We work in a nursing home. She talks "at me, not to me" most of the time. She gives command and has no problem correcting me publicly. She is not a supervisor but wants to be when our supervisor retires. She has no "professionalism behavior skills" when addressing myself and others. Our real supervisor has seen her in action but will not address it! I'm ready to lose my temper but know that will t help in the long run. Any advice?

@purrronica 6 лет назад

SAME. This girl will hand me a ton of papers and say “Oh V you can do these.” And I’ll reply sarcastically like “REALLY? I can? Thank you so much!” She is does speak ESL but no way that accounts for everything she says/does. And I’ve had the same experience with supervisors watching it happen and doing nothing. (I tried the “Did you just hear that?” but it was blown off) My best advice would be to ask to speak with your supervisor privately and let them know how much it’s affecting your day to day. It would probably help if you have other coworkers who feel the same. Best of luck!

@evianmason2330 5 лет назад

this is What i deal with thank u for your understanding

@lovelyalyssa5592 7 лет назад

I understand and know how to cope with co workers that are a problem but what I can't understand or know how to deal with an office manager who listens to the "clique " and doesn't even ask questions, I feel like I Can't win!! Should I take it to the higher authority? I already spoke to my boss which is at another location but I have to work there everyday! And it makes me feel uncomfortable!

@AlexandraPotora 7 лет назад

ugh, that's tough my friend! Have you addressed that with the manager directly? Maybe express those exact feelings in a respectful manner? That way you can at least give it a first try without going above his/her head, which could spark up more trouble. And if things don't change after that, maybe HR or (option 2) that person's superior. And in the process, if you can work on not taking things personally, that may be one of the better alternatives. Unfortunately people will be how they are, and in certain situations, we just have to learn to tune them out and not get so affected by them. I made a video about that too. So try those techniques + talk directly with that manager and see where that takes you. good luck my friend!

@lovelyalyssa5592 7 лет назад

I'm assuming she is approving their actions, she has done some similar things.

@Siel-bm7gx 6 лет назад

Tough situation, I would talk with the manager and your boss together to have like a mediator or HR..guy/gal. Have a honest conversation. Good luck.

@FLICKOFF1000 6 лет назад

Have you ever heard the saying " birds of a feather, come together? Then yes! that is probably the reason your manager isnt listening to you then.

@miryamishot 5 лет назад

Omg Lol I have not taken breaks to avoid people and use my headphones to avoid the daily gossip...so weird but sure did help. I love my job and I can’t change People but can change myself.

@joannekramirez 6 лет назад

Bert here thank you for advise going to try be comb talk about problems not to pin point at anyone

@patburg6855 5 лет назад

I work in a department where the 3 of us share a very long desk, so there is no avoiding the other person. Every day the work is suppose to be divided up but its usually me and 1 other person doing it. The other person comes in late every day, clocks in, logs into the internet and scrolls on facebook and texts her husband all day long. She spends hours putting on her make up and playing with her hair. She takes longer lunches and then doesn't eat at home and brings food and warms them up in the microwave and we have to smell it everyday. She takes 25 minute breaks instead of 15. She basically gets paid to scroll on her phone. She is very selfish, we have potlucks and she is the first to eat and never brings anything. Me and the other lady are hard workers and have had it. I am new to this department (6months) the other lady 8 years and the selfish one has been there 8 years also. The boss knows all about it and turns a blind eye. Wondering if HR would do anything but doubt it. It just sucks. I try not to get too involved but I am a hard worker and cant put up with this. The lady before retired early because nothing was done about this. Anyone have advice?

@ivypaulina7314 4 года назад

How about when you are the manager and you seemed can't be mad when they are making problems?

@gemini1926 7 лет назад

Great video, that's a great way to be a leader as well. So my issue at work is that I'm not very close with my coworkers , and there is little communication . I would like to break the barrier and talk more, I just don't know how. I already have a reputation As a quiet girl and I'd like to change that, because I've changed as a person, but every time I go into work, the same feeling of my old self comes back. if you have any similar situations can you please make a video on this ??

@spacelyman9482 6 лет назад

There nothing wrong with that, that's how you stay out of trouble.

@corinalushi2612 8 лет назад

Hi Alexandra. I'll be honest with you. Some of your videos helped me so much during a very difficult period of my life (last year) , I start everything from zero alone in a foreign country. Now I found a man who is exactly the way I was looking for. It's to beautiful to be true. Sometimes I m so afraid and I start crying for no reason . Maybe it s also the fact that I m alone here and when I have the minimum discussion with him I feel lost, even though I know in life I can only count on myself . But I swear to god it s so perfect in every sense , he protects me , loves me ,he even told me that he want me to be his wife and plans to marry me soon. What can I do to not let those feelings kill me every time I feel fragile and ....I'm afraid ...... Thanks a lot. Kisses from Italy

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+Corina Lushi hi beautiful! I totally get it, I felt very much the same when I came to this country. My biggest advice to you is to work on things to strengthen yourself, as opposed to get lost in the love of a man. I did that and let's just say that I wish I had done things differently.... Enjoying the love, loving back and being together is great, but since you're carving a new path for yourself, your future path needs to take priority. And if that man is good enough for you, time will show it, by him staying by your side no matter what. For yourself, I recommend working on building some confidence and love and belief in yourself (I made videos about that if you want to watch). Work your mind (I.e. gain knowledge - learn new applicable skills, learn things that will help you career wise, read inspirational books, listen to audio and podcasts, etc. Knowledge also brings confidence) - work on your body (eat healthy, exercise, spend time outdoors, stretch). Stay organized (keep your space clean and decluttered). These are some examples of things that will keep you busy and keep you focused on YOU. Quality men (the kind of man a woman Should marry) is attracted and loves a woman who's got her own ish going on. Be that woman, which I know you can be! Work on yourself and your life, and if he's good enough for you and hold true weight, than he'll be nothing but supportive of that. Hope this makes sense. Good luck girl ;)

@Lightner445555555555 6 лет назад

Do you guys ever hang out with your coworkers sometimes? Or is it just one of those things where everybody's just being " fickle" with one another?

@Siel-bm7gx 6 лет назад

Lightner445555555555 I don't hang out with coworkers but some people do. I think it can affect your work relationship when your good friends with your coworkers I would caution against that.

@Lightner445555555555 6 лет назад

Siel8387.Well it's not right to lead them on either.

@purrronica 6 лет назад

I’m very close to coworkers, some I’ve only known a year. We go out to the bar occasionally, text when we’re not working together, talk about relationship/family problems. A few even came to my brother’s funeral in November. I don’t see a problem with it, at least not in our circumstances.

@Siel-bm7gx 6 лет назад

Lightner445555555555 I agree

@Siel-bm7gx 6 лет назад

Veronica Montaro Its great to have coworkers as friends if it works out that way had it in the past. I agree every situation is different.

@jen7512 5 лет назад

I have a problem one of my coworkers wouldn't stop following me everywhere on my breaks and I have open my mouth to them to leave me alone but they keep doing it. I feel uncomfortable and creep out, I don't want to go to work because of it. I have gone to my boss and team leader on it, but i need help very badly

@karemortensen7548 6 лет назад

Whenever I have to ask something to a colleague who is in the middle of his/her duties, I have a habit of starting with a whispering voice “Sorry to bother you......”. In response, 99% of the time I get a vacant sullen look. On the other hand, if somebody interrupts me during my hectic hours, I respond with a smile, “Sure, no problem”. Now, here is one example of real life incidents. I have a colleague, who is half-deaf, slow and understands only a few words in English. One day she was working with an optical device, and I asked with a whispering voice if she was going to finish soon, as I was going to need it rest of the day. She answered, “No, no.”. I said with a smile, “Take your time. No hurry.” I had other things to do in the meantime anyway. Unfortunately, she didn’t understand the expression “Take your time”; she had no idea what “No hurry” means. In response, she gave me an obnoxious look with bunched eyebrows and barked, “Whatttttt?” Later she complained to my boss that, I was being rude to her. There was absolutely no witness, so my boss took her side, not mine. I was speechless, and I have never been able to correct my boss’s impression about me until today, and this incident still keeps haunting me, even though it was about 2 years ago. My question to you, what did I say wrong?

@AdamSelvig 4 года назад

So far one of my co workers had beef with something particular I do and she makes it sound so serious and no one ever cares how I handled my position

@kutuma1 5 лет назад

Favorite time of the day - knock off time!

@funnytime512 6 лет назад

I have been working at job for 3 years and I have one very bad co-worker and he has been jelling in front of My face and he repeat his self more then once and he gets on My narrative’s .

@TraviTerrorize 4 года назад

same I love my job but this one person is so rude its ruining it for everyone

@jasminec2280 5 лет назад

Thanks for this video! I am currently in this situation where my co-workers and the office environment is so toxic to be in. Hoping I can push back, grow and learn from your videos! J x

@natalieharquail4845 4 года назад

Can you make a video on when your boss says they don't like you

@Annaliisalove 6 лет назад

How is a behaviour considered bullying for example am new at the job for the past 3 months a senior co-worker who is also supposed to give me on the job training (i depends on her help on a daily basis) likes to put me down say things like my hair is not looking nice or my dressing is not nice or what i eat she can say things like these young people can eat stupid things or shout at me infront of clients if i ask something and she did not explain it fully or make comments like this is common sense did you not go to school and laugh but than she acts nice with the other girl i started work with. Am the nicest person at my work place am kind with everyone. If she starts a conversation with me and treat me nice thats only if she is gossiping about someone. How do i deal with these i never confronted her i just ignore but problem is i seat next to her.

@ivyivy927 5 лет назад

Annaliisa Amutenya jealousy

@tourbike 3 года назад

What happens when the issue is that your colleague wants you to go. They are willing to take toxic to full on psycho that denies facts?

@EmGames41 5 лет назад

Soo i wanna see if any of yall can figure this out. I got this job through my ex's mom. And i love my job. I love the hours, the flexibility. Well as you read before, i got it through my ex's mom.. and she works here too.. and she works right beside me. We both kept the peace of course. Shes super nice, my coworkers are great, theres just a problem. She talks about my ex constantly. (I would like to point out. It was a mutual ending of the relationship. We both agreed to end it. No hard feelings in the end even though it was a breakup and breakups are tough and sad obviously.) So anyways, i dont blame her talking about her son. Shes allowed to and she even asked me if it was okay if she could talk about him. (What am i suppose to say? No, youre not allowed to talk about your life?) So of course i said yes, she could talk about her family, even though its annoying she keeps me updated on them. And its not like shes talking to everyone and i could just put in headphones, sometimes she pokes me and tells me what he or her daughter said the other day. NOW I KNOW WHAT YOURE GOING TO SAY! "why dont you just tell her to stop?" Well... I try to give out hints when she does that like im not that interested because If i tell her i dont want to hear it, she'll spread it.. because she likes to gossip and shes VERY dramatic even though like i said, shes super nice and she is, im not being sarcastic. Lol **I just think she needs to think well my son wouldnt like it if someone kept him updated on what his ex was doing every weekend, right!?!?** Shes suppose to move into an office soon but she can still come over and talk. Im sorry i made this super long. Everyone tells me to find another job. Honestly, i dont think i could find a job thats as great as this job and will let me take off as much as i need to (bc of my disability and needs) I want to hear your opinions.

@apeach6212 4 года назад

I work in a kitchen and when I was first hired there was this lady who wasn’t so well at cooking so she would do cleaning, dishes prep food ext. one day I came in and the main cook told me to leave all this dishes for her. “That’s all she’s good at”. All I said was. I one participate in bullying . So I did them. 2 months go by and she quit cause of how bad the bullying was. I’ve stayed cause I can’t find another job at the moment. Anyways I’ve had experience with cooking and I’d say I’m quite well. But he wanted to bully me into doing dishes and etc. I’ve spoken to my boss already but nothing is being done. He’s driving me crazy and I have no idea what to do. He’s like a goddamn child I can’t deal with him anymore. Anyone have advice?

@jrpacer6355 5 лет назад

I have learned the hard way people social media can also play a part I never had my coworkers on any of my FB page until.....I opened the door on it and let my personal life come in to my workplace. So my advice is leave coworkers out of your personal life

@trudyletson1264 Год назад

i'm dealing with this really bad at my job

@lilyelseser4716 5 лет назад

My coworker follows none of the rules. She’s rude and disrespectful. A situation today left me in tears. I have to put up with her for four more days. I can’t stand her. She and some other people are the only reason I want to quit and not continue again next year. It’s really frustrating.

@rroulette2660 5 лет назад

Being calm does not help..that does not instill respect ..

@nenep6343 5 лет назад

They are avoidable!!! I keep it moving!

@alexmunozjify 5 лет назад

Only clicked on this video because you're hot. But came to the realization that you make more sense than some of these other vids. Thank you for the advice

@tenperone7525 4 года назад

Dear Alexandra, How should I deal with my supervisor whom I have asked out for dinner by mistake who rejected me because she has a boyfriend? Now she is passively avoiding me, giving me very short instructions in lab and very short answers to my emails. How can I make the work environment better, she is behaving now very professionally, a bit too formal around me. I do not know if I am emotionally hurt by her initial rejection or if I should confront her to be less ''professional'' towards me. Thank you very much!

@AlexandraPotora 4 года назад

Jia Yao hi my friend! What I would personally do in your shoes is just be professional and give it time. She’s being like that because she doesn’t want to send any signals of emotional availability and that’s perfectly normal. Do your best not to take it personally, because it’s not personal. Well, I know that’s easy to say; but trust me, bringing it up again will only make things weirder. Weirder and longer to bounce back from. Best thing to do IMO is to let this blow over on its own, and try to take your mind away from it. Definitely don’t look into it too much if you can. Let time heal things if you know what I mean; in the meantime just be yourself. Hope this helps

@tenperone7525 4 года назад

@@AlexandraPotora Thank you very much for your kind words and for hearing me out. It helps a lot!

@HM-er4zw 6 лет назад

2:50 liked how u spell it

@RegularGal86 8 лет назад

foarte util! 😉 te pup!

@AlexandraPotora 8 лет назад

+Regular Gal ma bucur mult honey, te pup si eu!! xx

@fidelebaraka5756 4 года назад

It always women and girls that have that kind of behaviour at work and some of them don’t mind their on business but will talk about you all the time

@eddiesmith9556 3 года назад

I have several managers who resorts to yelling and screaming at me in front of others. Hr refuses to do anything and is from a third world country. Always assainating my character and accusing me of doing nothing throughout the night.

@willowclay3137 5 лет назад

My job can be the same way at times.

@mackeyjaylozada2453 5 лет назад

And it sucks because you can’t put your hands on people and I wish I can

@apalboi1985 6 лет назад

taking things personally shouldnt be a problem in my opinion because we are persons, right?

@AlexandraPotora 6 лет назад

Good question! When we take things personally, we are allowing ourselves to get consumed in one capacity or another, by what was said or done to us. That's Never good!