"Even if removing all the toxic people means that you'll be left all alone, it's still worth it. Suffering from solitude for a time before you meet genuine people is always better than enduring the daily misery that toxic people provide." - Jason Voorhees
Its good to socialise with people and be among people. Just remember you chose you want to b with True friends everybody have 1,2,3,4,5 or less ❤️🦋. You are 1 b true to youre self. ❤️🦋🕊🙏
I feel SO lucky to have been able to cut out all of my toxic “friends” this year. I was always aware that they never made me happy and only made me feel unappreciated, but I felt that I just had to see it through and couldn’t find new friends at school since everyone already established their friend groups. But, after a certain point, I realized I needed to distance myself even if it meant being alone, and from here, some of the nicest people I’ve ever met started talking to me and are now the main group of friends that I hang out with. I don’t know where I’d be without them now, they just make me so genuinely happy every day
I‘m glad and very happy for you that you have found your true friends and feel happier :) When I was in school, I had problems with making friends as I was a loner. During the years, I have build up some wonderful friendships but also some toxic „friendships“. It was a major factor that kept constantly stirring up my depression and anxiety. But now I have been able to remove these toxic people from my life and cling on to the true friendships and I also feel much happier. Better have a small group of people around you that truly care for you instead of hundreds of people who don‘t care about you at all.
when I was 15, I was sleeping in a foul mood and it was the middle of the night, my family was downstairs drinking and partrying, they decided arbitrarily to want to play a game that I had in my bedroom, so naturally they decided to ignore my locked door, ignore the fact I was sleeping, ignore the fact I was in a bad mood and decided to break down the door and take it. How does one avoid such toxic environments when they dont respect boundaries without abandoning your family entirely?
Being friends with toxic people because you’re lonely is like drinking poison because you’re thirsty. Don’t put yourself through that kind of pain, it’ll only make things worse for you and escalate and I know from experience it’s better to just end the relationship. Stay strong ❤️
Its very hard for me,,i wanna be cold to her and ignore her but because some situation i can't,,, shee thinks talking toxic shit about me means that we are good friends wow!there is a limit to it bruh,,,but imma try my best,, from tomorrow i will start ignoring her and wouldn’t melt,,,cs i easily forgive these shits but then they again come to me with much more power so can't deal with it no more,,,the disrespect that she shows to me is really hurting,,and imma not let anybody crose the limits ever again,,,,respect is a really big thing to me,,i am always nice to herr,,but when she says shits i can also say those but i know these things are really hurtful and these are the things that keep u at night,,,so i always end up not saying anything but not everybody deserves kindness from you,,,that person literally enjoys hurting you and still u behave nicely with her,,I'm very angry with me bcs of that,,,from tmrrw i will really try to ignore herr,,and if comes with negetivity imma just slap her hard with wordsss,,,Don't think too much about being nice in this kinda scenario,,,if it means happiness then be a bitch to people like that,,they deserve it,,,i Won't endure no more duh
@@k-addictt6315 wow i’m in the same fucked up situation you’re in right now and respect is also a big deal for me. i absolutely do not allow disrespect in my life so i’m cutting off contact with her but her and her other friends are turning my life into a living hell. can you and i be friends or at least stay in contact? we don’t have to talk at all that much i just want to know there’s someone else in the same situation like mine out there. that just helps me stay strong
Cut toxic people out of your life and you'll feel like you're finally walking in sunshine rather than in darkness. After decades, i finally learned to say "My life is none of your business." She (my narc sister) sputtered, spewed, argued, and cringed, and hated losing one of her minions/victims. But i felt great, and finally free. I'll never let that darkness back into my life.
My cousins aré all so negative they always ignore me my messages ect my moms damn nieces care More about her then me they talk to my mom More then me and they ignore me but one day when i die they Will regret all this shit or if not one day when i die illl come haunt them at night lol 😅
I even planned on killing myself too be honest i had planned my own death seriouly sometimes i still get suicidal thoughts but theres three special people that keep making me strong 💕💕💕💕
@@elizabethmarielunacordoba9956 If they're negative, bitter, mean, etc, its probably better to just avoid them, and be around cheerful, positive people, instead.
@@elizabethmarielunacordoba9956 Don't let them drag you into depression and suicide. Do some things you love, and hang out with cheerful, positive people instead, i believe you'll feel happy and alive again.
I managed to ditch all the toxic people in my life. Now I live alone and have no family or friends. I would rather be alone than surrounded by assholes
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At my point I will straight up harass and beat them up. Instead it’s worthy they get an taste of their own medicine. I know my mom I personally don’t hate her but she managed to convince others that I’m the villain here, she should go out and touch some grass, she has been spending all of her break time day scroll Tik Tok at least her cooking is excellent and she actually spends money unmean heavy money on us.
Ikr especially if its one your parents or both 😆😆 im a joker and not easily hurt by words but if its my dad why does it hurts a lot 😒 and i became a drama actress instead of a comediane actress 😔
One day, when I'm finally financially capable of supporting my own needs, I'll be able to leave this house. I'm doing my best to succeed so I could leave this toxic household environment in the future. But for now, this video will somehow help me to get through with my current situation. Thanks a lot! Sending you lots of hugs and kisses for making videos like this😽
Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken."
As Maya Angelou has been quoted as saying, "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." So much for "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Physical pain usually fades with time and is often significantly easier to treat than psychological pain, which can potentially last for decades.
@@OreadNYC true 😔😔 and sometimes its hard to notice that youre already in that situation in a couple of years already and when your limit comes its hard to calm down and to ease all the pain within
Sometimes it is kinda creepy, how accurate the timing of your videos is - yesterday I realized for the first time, that I'm having a toxic realationship and have no idea, how to deal with it. Thank you for sharing this!
i've tried doing that but its like my toxic person takes that to their advantage and i do consider myself a kind person and i can get pretty timid sometimes but i have started to realize that maybe i need to start being more tough
We all gotta agree that there is a limit to being kind. Like, yes at the start we can kill them with kindness, but at some point, you just realise that, that person doesn’t deserve all that kindness for all the toxicity they’ve put in your life. Never feel bad for placing boundaries for yourself from them!
Dealing with toxic ppl is toxic itself, it's exhausting on both mental and spiritual level! I used to deal with toxic co-workers but got them grow tired of making me feel on egg shell (eventually) Nope, I didn't resign. I just learned how to deal with them without sacrificing my principles and personal boundaries. I made it pretty obvious that I don't want anything to do with them cause of their idea of having fun by gossiping about other coworkers, they also tried to make me spill a couple of teas before, expecting me to fit in but they didn't get anything out of it so they moved on.. (I guess 😂) luckily for me, I have very minimal interaction with them in line with work, even though I have to see them everyday before the pandemic. Silence, 'kill them with kindness' and maintaining respectful demeanor is still sure the best armor against those kinds of ppl (esp if they're older than you and considered veteran in the field). For sure it won't be a guarantee that they won't talk behind your back but they can't help not to treat you properly when you approach them professionally. Having toxic family member on the other hand could be extra challenging cause unlike co-workers, they're irreplaceable. They're part of who you are so dealing with them could take a lot of patience, tolerance and courage to make them understand that they're disturbing your peace. But I believe it isn't impossible esp with proper communication
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I had a few toxic relationships. It ended up with me pounding the guy’s stomach in a heated fight. I regret the fight, but I don’t regret ending my friendship with him and his friends.
I'm a magnet for toxic people. Finding true genuine people is a rarity these days, and fake, pretentious, negative people seem to outnumber the real people. Where is the real people in this world? Where are they hiding? I am sick of having toxic people in my life and rather have true friends than fake ones.
Sorta helpful, but it's especially tasking when said people are your roommates, never listen and keep intruding your personal space when you give yourself space 😪
I hate gossip. There are *so* many other more interesting things to talk about than people behind their back. Luckily I don't think I have any toxic friends now (fingers crossed) as I've managed to get better over the years at surrounding myself with people who aren't toxic. I reckon positive gossip needs to become a thing, too.
Thank you, i actually really needed this as since i am now back in school, i have to deal with an "old friend" (they were abusive and toxic, say they've changed, but.. it doesn't quite show.)
I personally advise my friends to joining online classes everyday..i gathered all my courage to do that..but then they disrespect me..i just felt poor to those who always joining those online classes and the teacher who stay motivating us till the end..and i dont want them to waste it..such ungrateful friends..i hate being like this..so stress
Without gossip girl group, I admit life has been quieter, there's no longer excitement when you hear notifications on your phone. But it has definitely been more peaceful. At some point in life you're tired of hearning 'the scoop' of every drama every day.
0:31 You establish your physical and emotional boundaries 1:11 You avoid playing into their reality 1:55 you don't share secrets with the gossipers 2:35 You focus on solutions not problems 3:11: You spend time with loyal friends 3:38 You recognize the insult, ignore them or toss up a joke 4:18 Change your routine Hope this helps:)
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If you have an opportunity to leave them, use it. It can be hard to do because maybe you are too nice but remember that it's the main reason they "befriended you".
so true. i have always been the "kind, good friend". they used to lend my money but never give it back, bully me in form of jokes and insults, leave me when i needed them, constantly made me feel little. it's so hard being nice.
I came here specifically for this, thank you so much for your content, I recently found my self in the middle of a toxic group of people, rude, complaining, gossiping and trying to get a reaction from me, and today I felt so tired of it, thank you so so much!
I like that step in focusing on the solution. A family member I know is always focused on the problem. So toxic that everyday is mostly complains I hear from the mouth of that person.
This is helpful. I recently ended a friendship with someone who always said mean things, pretended it was a joke, and if you confronted them about it or told anyone else, they would try to gaslight you and say it was a rumor. As much as I dislike this person and in some ways hope they feel miserable, I appreciate them for teaching me that not everyone is gonna be nice to me or treat me how I deserve to be treated. And this situation has showed me who my real friends are, because my real friends also dropped this person after realizing how terrible they are.
Actually.. if they are toxic we dont want to be just like them, so i prefer to not saying smth bad for them, just get this person out of your life in some way if u can
As soon as I saw this I clicked Immediately because I mostly have toxic friends and I only have one true friend we don't talk much but they're a true friend
Thank you for this video, Psych2Go! You always tell people that they are amazing, but I hope you know you are also amazing. Regarding the topic: Sometimes it is best to part ways with toxic people. Whether they were old classmates, family members, or a coworker, toxic relationships must be eradicated if YOU want to be happy. Trust me.
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I have to deal with toxic people far to much, considering I’m in the dream smp fandom, and that fandom gets a LOT of hate, sometimes for stupid reasons. It gets very annoying, and sometimes when I’m playing a game, and someone is being toxic towards me because I’m in the dsmp fandom, I sometimes won’t play for several days, because I feel unwanted, and unwelcomed. One time I didn’t play for a whole week because of people like this. Edit: I just remembered a story. I have a friend who had a friend who guilty tripped them and was extremely toxic, and would attack people they were friends with, and guess what their excuse was? It was: “I’m scared they’re taking you away” . Like- Thats a stupid excuse…I seriously am glad that my friend isn’t friends with that person anymore.
I realised only earlier this year that I was stuck with toxic people for 4 years of my university that eneded this year. I always felt drained and so mentally tired when I was around them. I thought it was normal coz I am an introvert. I was stuck with these people because people had already formed groups. Looking back I realise how they never respected my boundaries and always jokingly made fun of me being quite all the time. Believe it or not I swear. I receive the sentence" why are you so quite" atleast... ATLEAST 3-4 times a day all throughout the year!! Until I finally was so sick and tired of that sentence it drove me crazy. But I started saying nothing whenever they ask me that, but that anger burns in me. Long story short I was used completely for their own good and completely sucked out of energy by the end of the day. Whenever I try to express something they were completely dismissive about it. And I freaking thought they genuinely didn't understand me or I wasn't heard properly until I finally caught up with their pattern. It makes me so angry and sad till this day and I try not to remember all of it..until I saw this video. I completely cut off all kinds of contact with every single one of them and I'm finally at absolute peace. " If it costs u your peace don't buy into it". I finally understand that sentence. Sharing this through a comment here make me feel free for some reason:). I've finally let it all out and it makes me feel good :). Whoever's reading this I hope u slowly but surely let go of such relationships with toxic people. Wish you nothing but the best people and the best things in the world:)
I have a friend who would constantly insult me and say I wasn't a pretty or smart person. He would compare me to another girl in our group who was both of our friends. Another girl joined our group later and he was giving her the same treatment. Me & the two other girls noticed this and we decided to confront him about it. We tried to drift away from him or we would block him and not talk to him anymore, but somehow he would find a way to get back into contact with us. When me & him would argue and I would leave mad, I would always receive a text from a random friend saying that he was ranting on to them about on how he was depressed & wanted to die. So I thought it would be best if I checked in on him and the 2 other girls did too, we still cared about him and wanted what was best for him. We would end up getting dragged back into a friendship with him time after time because the same reason, one of use would hear from another person that he was saying some stuff about himself, and every time this would happen he would just hurt us again and say the same things! Eventually I had enough and stopped talking to him for good, but recently today I had to hear from someone that he was badmouthing about me and saying hurtful things. I took all the strength in me not just go off and text him. I knew I was gonna get dragged back into the friendship, so I didn't say anything. He was saying on how when he saw me next school year he was gonna start some drama and was going to purposly start a conflict with me. My best advice for people is to pick and choose your friends, look out. Are they laughing with you or are they laughing at you? I send my prayers to everyone who is struggling with the same issue.
I thought I was mentally strong until I met a person who was supposed to be my "friend". I don't know how she used to do it, but she somehow managed to make me feel guilty for scoring more on my tests. She was a little below average and I used to get pretty good grades. When I look back at all the things she said to me and how I used to come home feeling so trapped and thinking this is all I deserve, I feel so angry at myself and want to hug my younger self and say that "one day you'll meet people who deserve you" Thanks if you read this far. I just needed to vent somewhere, if you feel like venting too you're very much welcome to reply. I'm eager to hear your stories ☺️
My stepdad who would punish me or double down on his yelling every time I made a joke to try and defuse the situation: Genjutsu of that level doesnt work on me
at first me and my friends were just joking around, but they seem to not know when to end a joke once it gets harsh, they also were my longest best friends. So it hurts when they were mean to me. I dont even have loyal friends! they are all leaving my school
Thank you, I really needed this. I am dealing with a difficult co-worker at my part-time job recently. I am doing everything possible to get my tasks done for my shift and Miss Toxic has the nerve to yell at me to do more things and accuse me of being incompetent when she was the one who didn't clarify her demands. I was losing my temper and I badly wanted to drive my fist through her face, which I couldn't do out of fear of being fired. I will keep these tips in mind for my next shift.
I have this young co-worker who is a gossiper and a whirlpool of negativity. I wasn't able to establish boundaries thus finding myself tangled with her drama! Boundaries are important indeed.
I’ve only had 3 real friends in my middleschool career. Right now I’m surrounded by toxic friends and people who talk behind my back. I just don’t understand.. i’m nice to people and I mind my business I just don’t get why I’m treated this way. I’ve cried so many times this year over this and I don’t know how to deal with it
0:29 1. You establish your physical and emotional boundaries. 1:11 2. You avoid playing into their reality. 1:55 3. You don't share secrets with the gossipers. 2:34 4. You focus on solutions, not problems. 3:09 5 . You spend time with loyal friends. 3:35 6. You recognise the insults, ignore them or toss up a joke. 4:18 7. You change your routine.
I love your videos and also thanks for that ADHD video. I have it and my life is mostly depressing and your videos help a lot I'm mostly bullied so thank you!!!!!
Easier to ask “do you have anyone in your life who isn’t toxic”. I’m deep in sorting things by basically walking away from everyone I know and starting again.
Of course the problem for me is I view myself as the toxic person, as the energy vampire of self negativity and thus often just trapped in my own world in my own head for there is nothing "out there."
Just bloody tell them right in the face what you think and start a debate if necessary. It's more productive for both parties. I've been feeling so good about myself eversince I started being bold and sincere because I do it with a heart hoping people would better themselves for everybody's good, especially themselves.
Funny thing, learnt all these myself living years deep in toxic environments XD Now they are my bane, and literally the first thing I'll always detect and stay away from. Have to really watch out on social media though, toxicity is rampant under the sense of anonymity.
Toxic people love to bring everyone down to their level, because they are experts in being toxic. As such, when you try to confront them, or leave, they will only try to be more toxic/gaslight you because that's the only thing they know how to do well. That's why we should cultivate the ability to dissipate toxic energy. Fight toxicity with love, joy, and solutions. Spread them to the people that treat you with respect and loyalty. Let the toxic person be toxic. They will naturally drive everyone away, and then they will have nothing left but their toxicity - which is a very good case of karma for them. And, in the end, you will have cultivated an extremely strong ability to remain grounded and emit love from your soul - a huge factor in creating a beautiful life filled with gratitude and people who truly love you. Fighting against the toxic person with anger/fear/sadness is a symptom of their toxicity poisoning you. It is easy to continue being toxic - because that's what they want you to do. Instead, practice love. Turn their insults into a joke. Once, my father (the most toxic person I have ever met) came up to me and told me "Wow, I see you're really bringing out your feminine side with that floral shirt you're wearing!". I just put my hand on my chest, and in the most feminine way expelled "Why thank you for noticing!" with a smile. He was so taken aback that he didn't know how to respond. I then continued my conversation with the rest of my family while he spent the rest of the time in the background. Don't fight fire with fire. Don't fight toxicity. Disarm, redirect, and dismiss their arguments by using humor or ignoring them. Then, just focus on the people that make you feel good. The toxic person will hate it, and try to get your attention by being more toxic. When they do, just repeat - disarm, redirect, and dismiss. They will be left with nothing. You are the source of your own love and happiness. You are also the source of your own toxicity. Practice feeling the urge to be toxic, let it rise within you, and then meet it with love and kindness. Remind yourself that you determine what you focus on. Then, let the toxicity dissapatte, by choosing to focus on the things you love. Good luck out there everyone! I love you all
I started to doing all of these ^ toxic people will never change so I let go of them in my life * I became a happier person I surrounded myself with loyal and caring friends : ) ^toxic people drain my energy plus I’m an empath
I am an empath too and same my cousins always drag my Energy down and thanks to them i fell in depression this year until i blocked them all and now i am depression free 💜💜💜💙
@@elizabethmarielunacordoba9956 I’m so sorry to hear that. I used to be like that too ^thats a great thing you cut them off cause you don’t need that toxic energy In your life ^I’m so sorry you had to go through that I know how that feels and it’s horrible I’m glad you overcame that 💙
@@ayanm1867 i had told my friend Edith i was planning on deleting my Facebook account and thanks to her shes the one who gaved me that idea of blockiing them
Some of these toxic people are leaders though or know how to get you in trouble. Part of the reason I got arrested many years ago, because these people reported me to the police, wanting me to get tortured in prison. Usually I am very afraid of talking anything about religion, my views on politics, and more. I am not however, afraid to fight back if I get my ears assaulted by some bullying toddlers (I have hyperacusis, so it hurts similar to kidney stones). The reason is some people have threatened to call the cops and have me locked up in prison (I cannot go through this again).
im muslim, so naturally i heard the "terrorist" & "911" jokes from my own friends. i am scared to tell them i feel bad cause they will probably bully me more.
