HOW TO FIND A REALLY GOOD GIRL - IN THE PHILIPPINES 

To those who are seeking and looking for a serious Filipina, Sign up for Christian Filipina Dating site with my link below: www.christianfilipina.com/?affid=1796 To apply for Filipino visa: www.filipinovisa.com/?affid=1796 Also, please check out and subscribe to my wife's channel. Philippine Family Life With Leah ru-vid.com/show-UCoNbjiMmQ3c8CdiHu-TaYKw Gary's email: americanchristianinphilippines@gmail.com

"I've noticed a lot of foreigners have been moving to the Philippines and sharing their perspectives on relationships and religion on RU-vid. While my own experience of over 35 years living in the Philippines has given me a unique perspective on the country, I realize that it's just one person's story. I'm always interested to hear from other expats who may have different experiences, as each person's journey is unique. It's important to remember that each perspective adds to the rich tapestry of what makes the Philippines such a diverse and fascinating country."

As a US guy, it's hard to understand what it means to be with an amazing women in Philippines until you get here. I couldn't be happier.

Its the first time ive seen someone who is affiliated with the online dating sites provide a real understanding of the risks as well as the rewards. So i highly applaud your honesty and guidance on that. As for me, ive spend my whole life living in a mindset of scarcity and that mindset compelled me to find the quickest way to a relationship. Unfortunately, when ya don't take your time and be discerning about who you get into a relationship with you often end up with a partner with a low quality of character. I lived terrible relationship to terrible relationship for years, but 2 years ago i said no more. I've focused on becoming a better man myself, and now im unwilling to take shortcuts to my next relationship. For the next 3 years ill be visiting the Philippines for 2-4 months a year to seek out a community in what i call the deep province in the mountains north of Baguio (ill be there in dec & jan). My plan is to find the community i want to live & begin to integrate into it. Ill then move there in 3 years when i turn 40, and at that time I'll find a quality woman in that community. As part of this journey ill also be learning Ilocano and hope to be very fluent in 3 years. Learning the language will give me the ability to integrate into the community at a much deeper level than if i just speak English (in my humble opinion). I won't be online dating, but instead will be very active in the community i live. Because the best way to meet a woman of high quality of character is to show the community your quality of character over a long period of time (no flash in the pan). Working in the community also give you the ability to watch how the ladies treat others from a distance. You get to see how they treat others, children & the elderly. Plus knowing the language you'll be able to understand what she says to others and what others say about her. If the juice (a quality woman) is worth the squeeze (time & effort put forth) then take the time to really integrate. Because nothing in this world of great value is achieved & kept without putting in a real effort with the exception of the grace given to us by Jesus. As for me, ill put in the time and effort because i know that ill get out of life what i put into it. Much love my friends, and i continue to look forward to your videos in the future 😁👍

Im planning to visit & seek a godly women too

Perfect outlook, as an older man I noticed that society has pushed this topic aside and lost focus. It was a nice video to watch! Thank you

Gary, I am so happy to see you witness for Christ the truth about relationships. Hopefully the foreigner will be touched by your witness and attend your Bible studies regularly.

I have to say I failed in almost everything you suggested. Met online. I sent money right away. I drink and smoke. And we had sex the first night we were together all be it we had an LDR for 2 years because of covid. Yet we have a wonderful loving relationship. All the guys want a woman like my Filipino wife. Guys it comes down to a few things in my opinion. 1 having many things in life in common. 2 If you worry about giving her money or she worries about getting money from you what does that say about your relationship. And 3 use your God given common sense. I agree with you stay away from the bar girls and women under at least 28 years old. And last but not least I always tell you guys not to send more money to her than you can afford to loose. I've been watching your wife's channel on and off every since she started it after being on old dogs channel. Have a great day you guys.

Congrats,most of your points where spot on.

Desperate people do desperate things and nasty people take advantage of their desperation.

To a real Christian men who’s looking for a wife. My advice to you is pray for Gods leading and if you are in the Philippines the best place is the church and ask the pastor the real Christian woman in that church,not just a professing Christian.Meeting people in the mall or somewhere you will encountered a lot of unbeliever and take advantage on you. It’s dangerous. Find a real Christian woman and it’s in the church know her background.

about around time 16:30 Leah speaking very good advise! DON`t be desperate finding SOMEone but wait for THE ONE! Take time as you are sure about your OWN feelings finding a true love vice versa. We did met easter 2007, married Jan 2011 after 3 visits both of us in others homecountries and now living here and there in our both homes happy as could be.

I understand perfectly what you're talking about. And I know that it's not the Lord's will for us. Save man to be doing with a woman before we get married😊

Good subject. Always good to focus on personal growth and social maturity. Think of the type of partner you would value and want to be with, then focus on being someone that person would want.

Hi Gary, I found your channel today and subscribed. I'm 62 and I'm really interested in your subject matter. I'm a borne again Christian and been watching many different videos about retirement in the Philippines but my priority is my relationship with the Lord so I was glad to find your channel. It scares me to death though moving to a foreign country when I don't know anyone. Even visiting would be scary as I have never been out of The U.S. before. I am praying about it though.

Good video…well done!

Hello, me and my husband really enjoy your videos. We are Christians too. I am filipina and my husband is American. He wants to move soon to Dumaguete with me and 14 years old son. I am planning to go down there sometimes by this month June 26-30 of 2023. I am hoping to meet you guys in person if possible because me and my husband wanted to learn more about Dumaguete. Is there anyways we can communicate in private. Thank you and God bless you both.

I am very happy to find a Christian video. I am in a LDR with a Christian woman and I have been a Christian for the past 15 years. I am coming out soon and I want to start slowly with intimacy. We are both older and have been talking for two years; we met on Christian Philippina. I hope to watch your videos and hopefully meet you with my girl. You and your wife seem to have a great relationship. Thanks and God bless both of you.

Yes, you are both spot on, respect for one another is key. May God keep blessings you and your family. 🙏

What a great video and packed with so much great information. Thank you for sharing. 👍👍👍🙏

Oh, the crickets jumped in near the end of the video. They are so loud. Hahaaa. Good video mate.

I thankfully already found mine, and would urge any man looking for a Filipina partner to treat her with respect, always or you lose the treasure you found. Good Luck all👍

Very nice video with great information. Only a mountain province girl for me. I have no desire for a bar girl or a party animal. I don't drink, smoke or take drugs and desire the same. I agree with the two of you when you say God must play a role in the relationship

But because of what happened in my first marriage? I've decided when I get there. Whatever woman I find, I have to live with her at least before. I decide to marry her. Because I do not want to ever get a divorce again. I know that it's not the Lord's will. I'm saying that now. However, I do not want to fall in love. Marry the person to find out later. She is not the right person for me. I'm not justifying my decision. I'm just saying this is the one that I'm making. Because I do not want to divorce ever again. And I am a Christian man but the Christian for more than 40 years now.

Thank You Both, God Bless!

Such a nice couple and very good advice. When you have this you hope others can find it also.

Thanks for sharing you two!!

I joined filipean Cristian dating from the UK but thought the cost even in uk £ & the possible scammers made me cancel it. Also I'm none religious. I think logically the best way to meet someone is to go to the Philippines & actually meet people in person.

My advice is to come over here and start dating after a while and get a feeling for the good ones. Best way is to made friends and ask them if they know some single women. Preselected women. If they ask for money right away just skip them. If they could use your support, just decide on your own if and how much you want to give. 3-6K php here and then don’t hurt but can make a difference for somebody here. In any case you should date for a while

THANK YOU YOU HAVE A VERY NICE CHANNEL GOD BLESS YOU AND FAMILY

You are both looking happy and healthy, God bless you both. Well done for your chanels and the information and advice you give❤

I paid for the 3 month service for christian Filipina. All the girls I've talked to have asked me for money one way or another. I'm just going to travel there

Good stuff. From what I can gather, a huge problem in the Philippines is women posing as single, but in fact, they are separated, which technically means they are still married. I agree that getting involved with the church particularly a church that has a lot of members is the best way, but I am assuming even in church, there are a lot of separated women.

My recommendation is to fly out there stay for a while get to know the city you live in once established then start looking if that is your intent

I actually saw your wife in a different channel where they're were 3 wonderful ladies discussed about passport bro. Anyways, you both look wonderful and great couple. Me and my husband met at ChristianFilipina, as well for about 10 years ago. We're currently living in Texas with our kids and hopefully will retire in Dumaguete on day. I'm from Canlaon City, Negros Oriental and Dumaguete is a beautiful place. God bless❤

This is easy yet not so simple for me. I live in southeast Louisiana U.S.A. I am of Cajun/Creole culture. I am mostly Cajun French. In 1988 I met a beautiful younger black woman. Her smile made one stare. Before we dated Mechelle told me there was one place I would have to go with her. Church! I had never been on a date to church!😁 So wanting to know her better. Of course I went. Had I said NO I would not have experienced this wonderful yet complex relationship. In 31 year's I became a father to 2 beautiful son's. A better person. Most importantly closer to JESUS CHRIST! 4 year's ago we started working separate job's. Traveling and not seeing each other as much. This is where the enemy entered. I will simply say when she left, I was heartbroken. Money my friend is important. We need it to pay bills. GOD addresses the danger's of money in I Timothy 6:10. First sentence in verse. For the LOVE of MONEY is the ROOT of ALL evil. Many error and forget who brought them through trial's and tribulation's. You see GOD used Mechelle to bring me closer to JESUS! The enemy set's out to destroy anything that is good. I didn't allow it to take me out of my beliefs and my faith. Even though divorced. We remain friends. I haven't dated in 4 year's. Through many prayers and conversations I have come to realize I am at my best with a good woman in my life. NO drinking, smoking. NO bar room's or club's. Church is the best for me. I miss family life. Our church has outreach to the Philippines. They have a beautiful culture and love their family values. LOVE will always CONQUER hate!! GOD BLESS!!

Well your wife is quite gorgeous and you are honest decent man you deserve a woman like that.. She seems to be very honest and decent you guys make a great couple

I am always cautious when women of any sort ask me for money. No matter who they are or where they are. Thank you for the info Gary and Leah I have subscribed to both of your channels.

Lucky man and lucky woman

Great advice

Sorry everybody , but I already found the best girl 🤓😁😁😁😁

This is a very different approach with meeting Filipina in the Philippines. I’m glad you are both are in agreement. Men need guidance. 1) Respect, be patient, take your time. Have the right intentions for the Filipina girl. All will work out if you are patient. Oh and don’t sell everything until you gone to the Philippines and live there for At least six months. Meet with the girl at least two times.. before making a life changing decision .

It is your fault. The wifey is very pretty, soft spoken, feminine and healthy….everything we don’t have in the west. Thanks for the video

Thanks for the helpful info.. When I visit Phillipines from the U.S., tell Leah to be prepared to play matchmaker with a potential good single filipina for me 😃 And you are correct Filipina Cupid is expensive and I'm not sure if the cost is justifiable, since knowing someone's true motives is not so easy to discern.

thank you for your videos

I loved the reaction when Leah said you are a loud talker!! Very informative, by the way. There's only one question that I would like to ask. I have found a Filipina on Christian Filipina who belongs to the Iglesia Ni Cristo religion. Do you have any knowledge or information about that religion? I am not familiar with it.

Hello , new subscriber here .

A very realistic approach to a very important topic! According to God's Word sex before marriage is called "Fornication", so it doesn't matter if one is in a "LDR" or not! No is no!

Your wife is beautiful inside and out ❤

THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THAT I'VE WATCHED HER RU-vid CHANNEL I WOULD LIKE TO FIND A VERY GOOD BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN FILIPINA FOR A RELATIONSHIP LEADING TO MARRIAGE IM FROM THE U.S.A PENNSYLVANIA

I Found my Woman online 😅 thank God for that!

Good information because I'm looking for a wife!💯

Praying works very well if you’re Christian

You are a lucky man sir.

New subscriber, great video. I think you hit the nail on the head. Never send money and just slow things down. Take your time, there is no rush. Quality takes time. If you are a Christian like you and I, church is 110% the best place to meet someone!!

Nice

Recent subscriber. Like yours and your wife's channels very much. I hope to become as lucky fortunate/blessed at finding love as you. 1st question is "American" Christian in Philippines - where did you get that accent? No 50 states I know of.

My Christian wife ( since 2004) became my best friend via the telephone ! $500 a month phone bills 😳 Would I do it again ….😲Oh Heck Yes !!! We re still best friends in 2024 , through thick and thin and she is still amazing 😊

Your loving and beautiful wife brother Gary ☺️

Gary, I hear a slight accent in your speaking, did you spend time in Australia before moving to the Philippines?

Hello Gary, great video from you and Leah. I think a part-2 video would be good. 👍

It is not a good idea to jump into bed with a LDR relationship. The bible says guard your hearts with all due diligence for out of it are the issues of life. We should always look into what the bible says. You should only have sex when you are married and not when you are just dating. There is also transference of spirits between two people who have sexual relations.

I have heard almost every story in the book for reasons to send money to a girl you chat too. Being honest does not always work, I have told so many I am not rich and have to stick to a budget. Before I came here many would say I got have lots. I ended up telling them my expenses in peso so they would understand and they would still say oh you have lots you can send. I have so many blocked for this reason. There are certain sites that have video ads on RU-vid that start out with Filipinas love American men. What about Canadian or European men or any other nationality so I avoid those sites as I feel like the sites only want American men and discriminate against all othe men in the world. I have had no luck to find a good one yet and been here 4 months now. Either they are not good or they are married and looking for someone, already have a boyfriend, not looking for a boyfriend. Good thing I am not in a rush to find someone

I am a big fan of heading to the Providences to find a good woman

Silent viewer's, im finding my memo...😊

What are your thoughts on Cebu to retire to? Also are there any Calvary Chapel Churches near Cebu? I do BJJ and they have a decent school located there. I am a Disabled Veteran of the USMC looking to retire there here in a few years and trying to do my homework. Thank you for your channel!!!!

It is her fault, she sets the bar VERY high!!

My Brother, where is prayer in this search. Who will obtain favor in the Lord? My suggestion is acknowledge the Lord in all your ways and He will direct your steps

I’ve spent 2 months on CF. Very superficial chat leads nowhere. Else women hide their kids

The best is stop on line date from foreigner you can find girls being not in a hurry you can find them naturally

Hi Gary, this is Michael! We met at Ground Zero! Not sure how to message you? 1:06 Hope we can meet again!

First of all lets start from the beginning...If a guy doesn't have a good heart than it makes no difference if he finds a good woman or not...these topics are Great but they must come with a Disclaimer that the Advice only works for someone willing to Love a Filipina. Too many people just go to the Philippines to play around..they are not capable of falling in Love and they have no experience being in Love. That being said...there is so many good Filipina and so many bas ones..and for those people who are new to dating a Filipina than use common sense...pick a girl who has a good family structure..and little baggage..there are good girls with kids but there is just as good ones with no kids. Im not a big believer that you can find a good filipina in certain places..some people have success online dating and some people don't....Churches.. University..and Places of business are good places to start because you have a idea that the filipina is willing to study and work...but some people like province girls that can clean...im not going to say Cook because most don't cook western food...

I have registered for the Philippine Christian site you mentioned, the response is overwhelming, have not paid yet, but am suspicious, because the ages are way younger than me. This doesn't happen here. It feels like a fishing expedition, as it's expensive. Have sent the company a similar message without response. Colin.

Unfortunately it has been my experience that if I am being followed by a beautiful woman, chances are, it’s not a woman😂.

oh let her speak mate

AMEN IM LOOKING FOR A VERY GODLY WOMAN

come here then find a girl friend. much better and very easy.

Every body got old but A lots of people remains Boy n Girl. Sorry A Girl is 4 A Boy, who loves to play Around. Sad A Body is Theme Park ( garbage ) and Sex is Recreation. A Woman is 4 A Man. Knows what she want. Not lonely nor needy. Remember a Decent Woman loves A Man who loves her Soul more than her body. 🙏😻♥️😻🙏

Hi Gary! I recently sent you an 📧

This dating sites the men has to pay a high price to use it and then women its just for free 😂😂 . U cant makes this S up . Man has always have harder at all Time .

🤲👑🙌❤️

We just clone Leah.

I’m amazed that so few people appear to proceed w/o the advice of the smartest most holy man who ever lived: Jesus! It is only on account of our sinful confusion that we dismiss his advice (even ‘commands’). If I were looking for a wife from the Philippines, I would never even hazard a date unless I had met the woman in church! “By their fruit, you shall know them!” So why should we trust each other unless we show the obedience of being church members? Less than that shows levels of confusion! Secondly, trusting in sexual intimacy prior to marriage is totally crazy! It trusts in our own psychological strengths more than the Lord’s. As Gary emphasizes, time and talking are totally important. Talking reveals the soul! I would never marry based on premarital sex; but neither would I marry someone who couldn’t have a careful, mature talk about our future sexual relationship! Again, God created us to be verbal creatures. If we can talk about these things, it shows that we have healthy views of them.

So what's the appropriate age gap

The question is how does she keep you

Is it a red flag when a girl asks for money? Not always. During the pandemic in the Philippines, many people weren't working and could be desperate just to have food. They have no safety net there and only a few small churches there do a limited amount to help the poor. If you're serious about having a traditional marriage where a man supports his family and the woman stays home and takes care of the kids, then you'll be supporting her when you marry. So I figured that since I was going to marry her anyway, I might as well, under the Lord's guidance send my LDR enough to meet some basic needs. How could I not do so when I had the means to help and my God-given manly instincts to care and support were fully activated? And one of the things a woman looks for in a man is someone who will provide for her and their children. Everything worked out and we're now happily married.

Boots on ground and perhaps find your mate in your church.

If you're addressing Christians it should be "How to find a believer". What does she believe? Which church does she attend? If not then follow the advice of all the vloggers backed by real experience. 2 Corinthians 6:14 - Amplified Bible 14 Do not be unequally bound together with unbelievers [do not make mismatched alliances with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership can righteousness have with lawlessness? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

IF SOMEONE REALLY TRUE TO YOU, YOU MUST BE TRUE TO THEM, ONLY VERY CAREFUL TO FOREIGNERS WHICH ARE NOT GOSSIPING YOU AS A GOLDIGGERS BECAUSE THAT IS REPUTATION OF PILIPINA TO AVOID ABOUT DEFAMATION OF FOREIGNERS,, MOST OF THOSE FOREIGNERS CARRIYING DESEASES WHICH INFECTED YOU AND GIVE YOU MORE MISERY IN YOUR DAILY LIVING. LOVE SOMEONE WHO IS LOVING YOU,, EXAMINE THEM BEFORE IMMIDIATE FALLING IN LOVE,, BE WISE PILIPINA,, NOT GIVING IMMIDIATE PREGNANCY TO THOSE THAT MAKES YOUR LIFE MISERY.. MOST OF THOSE FOREIGNERS DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY,, THEY ARE MAKING ONLY VLOG MOST OF THEM CAME FROM VERY POOR COUNTRIES

What’s a man to do if he is married to a filipina and he want to move to the Philippines with her when he finally retires because he is tired of the moral rot that is happening in America but she doesn’t want to move back to her own country? Should he divorce her and leave her in America?

Can't find her

Simple: No sex until marriage. Do not be unequally yoked. Do not send money- no matter if they ask for it or not. Have love and respect for each other. Communication is critical. Few will do this, but it is the way to go.

Biblically speaking according to Gods word and his principles you should only have sex with your wife. If you are dating no sex because that is showing respect to her. I believe you should not be casual on speaking god truths and standards because we are held to a higher standard. Just my thoughts on it from gods word. God says let gods word be true and every man a liar. Thank you Gary

GIRL? That's also a red flag.

I SINCERELY HOPE YOU AREN’T STILL RECOMMENDING CHRISTIAN FILIPPINA? 9/10 interactions we’re scammers. Of course, there are good women who are less desirable. 5 days into Christian FILIPPINA, I threatened to report their scammers ratio and they refunded me.

I'm sorry. Christian Filipina is just overly hyped. And overly priced and I don't think you need to pay $300. Just to get to have a communication with somebody. There has gotta be a better way? It's a monopoly at the moment because no one other Christian site exist in the area.

Red flag, age difference.

This American Atheist totally disagrees with the American Christian about giving money to Filipinas you’ve been chatting with online.If you really really like her and you think that she has been honest with you because she has been completely open, non- evasive and non -contradictory with you, and you know that she could really use the money, than why in the world would you not send her some money?

Scammers are all over the world

Christian Filipina site is an expensive scam. Worthless for a good woman.