But you do great things for people. I’ll be moving to the Philippines in December 2024 and I’m really excited about that. Paul, your videos are preparing me for the move. I feel terrible for people like John but I don’t feel John has grasped the reasons for his financial issues and because of that I fear that history will repeat itself. It’s nice to help people up when they fall down but at some point they have to pull themselves up to get whatever it takes to survive. Thanks for everything you do Paul.
@@alamrafique6216 I'm getting this vibe too. I hope we're wrong though. How any man can leave his family behind is beyond me. I was talking to a friend of mine in Japan whose sister got knocked up by an African American. I told him she should go after his ass to pay for the little girl's living expense. The Japanese family doesn't want to go through the hurdles, so this little girl will be fatherless and probably have a tough time growing up in Japan.
4 decade age difference....this dude is on his way out of life. And she can see that. Now she knows she's fucked. This dude is selfish for stealing this girl's life away from her
Initially I thought the same thing, but after hearing her talk and previous videos, I think she is just in burnout. I've been there, it's difficult to smile or be happy
It is very clear from her body language this girl has no love for this man. She never looks him eye to eye, shows any affection, and acts uncomfortable or irritated when he moves close to her. This is probably a very honest example of how young filipinas truly feel about the old men they partner with.
@@NotYourChannel23 , John knew what he was getting into. He got what he deserved trying to be with a young girl. Now he wants to cry about it. Old $&& men always crying when the young girl use them for money. Did he really believe she loved him? He is a broke crybaby. These old men making videos acting as if these young girls love them please. You have to be crazy to believe these young girls love these old men. John stop crying and suck it up. Everyone knows the family wants the women to help if she has a foreigner. You’re no different from any other foreigner. When I hear about a old guy with a young girl I laugh if they speak about love. Money is what attracts these women. At any point you could have left this lady. No you stayed so you could blame her for being broke and useless. Keep crying RU-vid viewers will send you donations. 🥲🥲🥲
@@NotYourChannel23 , western women have kids from previous relationships too so are they using the men? John money has run out and he is crying. Stop trying to think with the little head. No happy endings with young girl and old man. Same old story every time. Old man crying young girl help spend his money. How about dating a young girl in the states. Oh I forgot they would never have you. You need a poverty stricken lady to be her King and save her with your low income social security check that if you receive that. Stop dealing with these damn pedophiles.
Thats a child guys. The perspectives shared here are heartless. This is a guy exploitng a young woman. These are people driven by their dicks until death, with no morals or ethics.
I wouldn't be happy either if Id just had twins to a no hoper .. imagine bringing up twins in a state of poverty . Bringing up twins would be a real handful . She needs to quickly go find some rich dude that will take her and the twins on .. there'd would be plenty of older bored lonely men who would love too I think ..
Are you being SARCASTIC? She is revolted by John, as an teenager/20-something would be with a big talker who suddenly goes broke. He never should have gotten her pregnant! Outrageously irresponsible behavior. He is the educated one.
@@reigninblood123 is that a must then? To leave a genetic lineage? Kids cost you a fortune from baby to adulthood, that’s a fact. Beter know that, before you go down that alley, right?
An old guy comes to the Philippines, and tricked a young girl into thinking that he had money. Knocked her up, ran out of cash, and now has to return to the U.S. Not only should John have had more money and a source of income, he also should have gotten snipped before he started banging young girls without protection. I feel zero sympathy for this man. He left this poor girl in a worse position than before he met her.
Golden Rule in the Philippines: if you are older by 20 years or more to your Filipina(many cases of filipina=19 , foreigner= 65 to 79 years old), your money is a fair trade, at least $300 for her family per month is a good deal. You got a wife for sex, you got a maid to clean, to cook , to wash your clothes, iron your clothes ,free tour guide, you can stay permanently without hassle and most importantly you have protection in the community. Don't go to the Philippines and live like a King without enough resources, do these foreigners wash and iron their clothes? No they use the Filipina as Sex and Maid, Here is a perspective , in USA if you use a young blonde american as Sex, Cook, Cleaner , Wash your clothes, Iron your clothes, Tour guide, it will cost you $10,000 a month. Remember this every family member in the Philippines must help her/his family if she/he can.
Thanks for everything you put together Paul ❤ you reminds me of Paul in the Bible. You are doing good work. Surely God will reward you brother. I solute you" be strong my brother ❤
Paul needs to suggest to John that he take those twins DNA to America and get the DNA tested independently over there Should do that before he has any doctor in the Philippines teach their DNA do his own research
Golden Rule in the Philippines: if you are older by 20 years or more to your Filipina(many cases of filipina=19 , foreigner= 65 to 79 years old), your money is a fair trade, at least $300 for her family per month is a good deal. You got a wife for sex, you got a maid to clean, to cook , to wash your clothes, iron your clothes ,free tour guide, you can stay permanently without hassle and most importantly you have protection in the community. Don't go to the Philippines and live like a King without enough resources, do these foreigners wash and iron their clothes? No they use the Filipina as Sex and Maid, Here is a perspective , in USA if you use a young blonde american as Sex, Cook, Cleaner , Wash your clothes, Iron your clothes, Tour guide, it will cost you $10,000 a month. Remember this every family member in the Philippines must help her/his family if she/he can.
Diana looks very unhappy and unattached..the man is obviously a loser and the poor kids are at the losing end..no future ahead for them. So unfortunate situation.
This lady will be online before he hits the tarmac. Rinse and Repeat Gents, avoid the baby trap at all cost.(unless that's YOUR PLAN) Lots to learn from these videos, thanks a bunch from Texas.
John is a textbook example of how things can go wrong fast..irresponsible. Something tells me this has been an issue for John is whole life because this level of irresponsibility does not just come out of nowhere. 🤷♂
He's an example of someone who has had a safety net all of his life most likely from his parents and now they are gone and he is learning life's lessons most of us have learned in our early 20's
@@12yearssober Heck ya. Just doing customer service for 35 years, 300k in my 401 at age 60, paid for my bachelors and mortgage. Also returned every dime gifted from my parents. However I understand how addiction and mental issues at all levels can affect lives.
John broke the first law which is not to live under the same roof with the in-laws. This rule is more relevant in the Philippines. I'm a Filipino, grew up in the PI, and one thing I'm not proud of about our culture is parents using their children as retirement plans. If you are the foreigner who married their child and share the same dwelling, YOU will be the retirement plan. Yes, I've seen foreigners who live with their in-laws happily but that's a very minute exception and most of the time the parents are already financially secured, educated, or have good-paying jobs like policemen, teachers, doctors, or run their own business.
So in a country with no retirement plans how do you suppose your parents to survive their old age with no income and no pension? Dont be selfish. Your parents spent their youth taking care of you and its your duty to take care of your elderly parents.
It was John's choice to get a young female pregnant. It was John's choice to build the house. It was John's choice not to work. It was John's choice to move in with the in-laws. John is not a victim. He is an accomplice. He had his own motives for everything he did. He needs to start owning his part. Man up, get a job and take care of the family you made.
@@chuckrobinson599 Saying and doing are different things. I need to support my family,. can someone pay our rent and give us food and medical? Once his kids are declared U.S. citizens, The taxpayers Stateside will be paying for their benefits.
Acting like Bill Gates when you're eligible for a cardboard tent in the streets of LA is what started this whole rollercoaster. A course in financial responsibility and management is mandatory before he sets foot back in the Philippines. He can then restore his self-image and self-respect as he works his way to stability and raise these kids and proves that he is capable of learning from his mistakes.
Many men have several more kids that they simply abandon. So, yes, he needs to wise up, but at least he's manning up to provide for his family, which is more than many men do. Hopefully, he'll get a vasectomy as well.
If he's not discovered that by age 60 he never will. I've known a few characters like this and come to accept they don't change no matter how much advice you offer. They just go from one disaster to the next.
Not sure his Social security will meet the needs of a family of 4 even in the Philippines. John may need a skill to earn more income in PI. It would be good for the wife to develop a skill as well. The children will grow, and John will not be around forever.
try to cut him a little slack... not only was he in an unfamiliar culture, but he endured a stroke at the same time ! A bit tough to think clearly, when your neurons are struggling to survive. It's easy to play armchair quarterback, not so easy to magically understand all the nuances of Barangay culture, without having experienced it before.
Unfortunately that’s not going to happen. John doesn’t have the mental capabilities to put his life back together, let alone hers in a serious relationship. It’s a failed proposition!
Paul , u did a good video about John's life in the Philippines. I thought retirement in Philippines is simple but it turns out to be more complicated than I thought originally. Now, I have to cancel my retirement plan in Philippines, thank you Paul for bringing viewers to the actual situation on the ground . God bless you for returning John to the USA .
LOL, retirement IS complicated. I do not know where these Werstern men got the idea that is is easy to go to Asia, get a young woman, have babies... without first understanding the culture ! SMH
I'm really glad you made this video. It showed me how different Americans and Filipinos are. Apparently in the Phillipines, nobody, not even your girlfriend will tell you to save your money. She colluded with other people to get money from him to build a house and buy a truck which drained his account. Nobody told him to save his money for his future or his kids future. Now that he is broke, they are mad. They still have their hands out. They view American's as ATM's and they want money from him as he goes back to the USA. She even admitted it.
Definitely not all Filipinos are like this. His problem was chasing young girls he couldn't afford and not thinking of the consequences of getting her pregnant. If he had gone for a woman closer to his own age who wasn't dependant on a man supporting her he might've stood a chance.
Thats universal my friend when you start a relationship with your money and you give the impression your rich once your money is done everyone will hate you worse if they have to see your face everyday...
I think John fell in love with the idea of love........ Diane fell in love with the idea of money/security/upgrading her life & having someone to take care of her, her other child & her family- a sugar daddy...... This is not a "real relationship"..... The whole thing is sad.
It was not a serious relationship, what kind of conversation is between 60 years old foreigner with a 20 years old girl from provinces? Spending money from John to get laid with a young girl meanwhile shit hits the fan, she got pregnant with twins and he ran out of money.
@@RG-hf4et I completely agree but I don't blame any one of them. It's just not the best of ideas to settle down in a foreign country without having your stuff together.
It's important that John takes care of Diana and the children. Everything else is secondary. If he can do that, then I can respect him. Take care of your family John! That's what a man does. Be the man that Paul and all the good people who've helped you and all of us who have watched your story want you to be. I want you to succeed and I want to respect you. Take care of your family John!
@Growseth Jones It's good to take care of children that have no one else to take care of them whether they are his or not. It's not the children's fault if they have a deadbeat dad, which is sadly far too common in the Philippines
Golden Rule in the Philippines: if you are older by 20 years or more to your Filipina(many cases of filipina=19 , foreigner= 65 to 79 years old), your money is a fair trade, at least $300 for her family per month is a good deal. You got a wife for sex, you got a maid to clean, to cook , to wash your clothes, iron your clothes ,free tour guide, you can stay permanently without hassle and most importantly you have protection in the community. Don't go to the Philippines and live like a King without enough resources, do these foreigners wash and iron their clothes? No they use the Filipina as Sex and Maid, Here is a perspective , in USA if you use a young blonde american as Sex, Cook, Cleaner , Wash your clothes, Iron your clothes, Tour guide, it will cost you $10,000 a month. Remember this every family member in the Philippines must help her/his family if she/he can.
@@xpusostomos John's behavior as discussed in this forum is that of a loser and a parasite who depends on the kindness of others to clean up his mistakes and take care of his responsibilities. Whatever your opinion of the girl may be, John is responsible for the children he helped bring into the world and therefore for supporting the mother who cares for the children
@@calebbonsu2447 Not sure about that... John is taking most of the blame. Diana herself deserves some of the blame, but John, being educated in a 1st world country, should have more brains than what he has displayed. His strokes must have fried whatever brain he once had, unfortunately.
I have binge-watched all the videos about John and felt sorry for what happened to him and his relationship with Diana. I am 101% Filipino and I can tell you, guys, that most but NOT all Filipinas who are looking to marry an older foreigner online, whether it's American, Canadian, or European, are expecting that the guy they will marry will be able to help them get out of poverty. So if you are a retiree from America or another western country and you want to get into a relationship with a younger Filipina, who you know from a poor family, you should be aware that your girl is expecting you to provide not only for her but also for her immediate family. If you fail to become a good provider for your girl, expect that in the coming days, lots of quarrels between you will happen to the point that you will feel like you are not wanted anymore by your girlfriend. Again, I am not saying that all Filipinas are like this, but this happens. A young Filipina girl would never marry a guy that is 40 or 50 years older than her if she knows the guy would never be able to give him a better life (IMO). And to John, I wish you all the best sir.
Nothing should be surprising about this really, except for the expectation that the whole family is taken care of and not just her and her children. In most western countries people aren't expected to take care and finance the life of their parents (at least not while they are still in good health) so it seems to come as a surprise to some who have not done their research when that is typically expected if not explicitly addressed in countries like the Philippines or Thailand.
I wanted to say how well you stated your comment. There are obvious cultural differences. Maybe John simply did not understand those differences. He got himself in what we call a "pickle". I saw a "final" video that summed up John's journey. It looks like he is back in the U.S. and working hard to get back to his family. I hope things get much better for John and his family. Take care.
I believe you have the right to live your life the way you want and no one has the right to tell you how to live. If you are 60 years old and want to retire in the Philippines with a 18 year old girl that’s your business. But be responsible and get a dam snip snip and don’t bring kids in to the situation.
Golden Rule in the Philippines: if you are older by 20 years or more to your Filipina(many cases of filipina=19 , foreigner= 65 to 79 years old), your money is a fair trade, at least $300 for her family per month is a good deal. You got a wife for sex, you got a maid to clean, to cook , to wash your clothes, iron your clothes ,free tour guide, you can stay permanently without hassle and most importantly you have protection in the community. Don't go to the Philippines and live like a King without enough resources, do these foreigners wash and iron their clothes? No they use the Filipina as Sex and Maid, Here is a perspective , in USA if you use a young blonde american as Sex, Cook, Cleaner , Wash your clothes, Iron your clothes, Tour guide, it will cost you $10,000 a month. Remember this every family member in the Philippines must help her/his family if she/he can.
When the golden goose stops laying the dollar eggs....... Jeez this is like watching a couple of 10 year olds playing mummies and daddies. For the sake of those children, I hope things work out when John returns with the golden goose back to its factory settings.
Oh My God ... I am glad that Diana is not pregnant again, but I feel her predicament. She'll be alone with the babies whether in the barangay or in the city, but in the barangay she'll be expected to share in the money she'll be getting for the babies ... I feel really bad for her especially because her family only expects money from her and they will not help with the babies. Her family is family in name only
Sadly, I feel she will be in the same situation 3 - 4 months after he leaves. Another baby on the way. And, I predict she will be back in the barancay immediately.
Diana's face betrays everything she feels - wearied, depressed, sad and miserable towards this whole relationship. She smiles slightly when the babies are near, but her mind seems overwhelmed by despair. Perhaps there is some sincere love struggling far below the surface, but it's not enough to buoy her strength. My heart goes out to her more than anyone else. It was not her responsibility to orchestrate how this teaming up should play out and be managed - it was entirely John's responsibility when he asked her to marry him. However, it becomes more and more evident that he didn't give much foresight to his plans, and now he is reaping the rewards. He needs to do some serious introspection when in the US, and work like he's never worked before, if he intends to rectify this nearly doomed episode of his life. Paul has been an utterly life-saving friend for John in his unequivocal acceptance, tolerance, charity and encouragement. Paul has done as much as anyone could do in his situation - thank you for a sobering yet inspiring series!
Here is a chance to help make a difference in the world . No one is perfect and we are all continuing to learn. With the help of many John and Diana can win. Better than singing in church how much we love.
I see two possibilities: (1.) Diana thought John was a financial "meal ticket" and found him repulsive when he blew through his money. (2.) Diana was genuinely enamored with him (in the beginning), but found him repulsive when he blew through his money. One thing I like about good Filipinas is they actually want a masculine man who's got a solid plan, good financial acumen and will take charge...as opposed to a clueless guy with no direction and financial discipline to budget correctly. It'll be interesting to see what John does when he gets back to the States.
@@rickoleary9975 Truly said; though how much better for Diana's hope if John himself were the one who by his own efforts made the difference in her world - as I'm sure she dearly wished from the start. Fortunately, he is given now a second chance, thanks to the "many" you speak of. Time will tell if that push will be enough for him to find stability again.
For the love of those two adorable babies I really hope this has a happy outcome, though I feel we have just started the 'real' journey. I have been following this from the outset & would like to thank Paul & all his ex pat buddies for their continued support to John, Diana & Family.
I have been watching this from the beginning...Paul You are Amazing...Everything that you have done financially..Organizing..ETC... It's a very SAD SITUATION... MY Problem is that I dont ever recall him ever thanking you for all that you and all the others have done...Basically have saved his life... I'm Sorry.. but I am not sure that John can do life without someone monitoring him...Handling the finances....I'm not trying to be Negative...I am just afraid that he needs more than just money... Thank You Paul..Reekay...and everyone else that has been helping him...PRAYERS for All...Especially those 2 little Babies.💔💔
You wrote a good post Michael. I presume John brought these babies or at least helped to bring them into the world. Old men & young Filipina kinda upsets me to see. But the reality is in a poverty stricken country this happens. I accept that to a degree. But what I don’t accept is the mess that John has created and this poor young girl is now in this predicament. To imply all this is the extended families problem is beyond the pale with me, Michael. This is squarely on John & John alone. Regards. NZ
Michael Lukehart I did not hear John or Diana uttered Thank you to Paul, Reekay, Jim and the group who helped him financially. Thank you for Baby Mae for taking care of the babies while the interview was going on. Thank you Paul Mc Gill, Reekay (Life Beyond the Sea), Jim and the rest of the generous group. Bless you more!
John, there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no and standing your ground. A good, loving family understands this! Y'all are sadly in a "quagmire" with no positive end in sight for ya if y'all continue to do what y'all are doing!For now? Take care of your daughters & Diana and cut your loses and get away from this family asap. If Diana truly loves ya she will follow y'all wherever ya go! Gorgeous babies both of y'all have! Wishing ya the best! ~Scott & Cherryl~ Davao City, Philippines.
I am a soft touch. But she couldn't get sympathy from me if she wanted to pay for it. He said before he fixed upstairs a little. NOW HE BUILT A HOUSE? HE plays dumb when it suits him. She looks nasty. Not because of missing tooth. It's the lack of emotion behind her eyes. She barely looked at the kids when they were crying. She would have liked Mae to deal with it. Poor babies. But good riddance. When he goes. She will try to move on to another sucker/moron. IMHO. You, Mae, and your buddies are great. God Bless.
@@reigninblood123 How I am interpreting it is that, because she's young, the whole family is overbearing and she doesn't yet have her own voice in the family or the ability to standup for her own decisions. So it's easy for them to control her and push her around. If anyone has had friends or family like that, it can be really difficult to manage those situations and often can beat you down to the point you make emotional decisions rather than logical ones. Almost like questioning your own sanity or decision making. Personally I think it's safe to say that what she is like outside of the burungay is her natural state and she's better off not going back for any extended time.
The truth is always somewhere in the middle there’s three sides to every story yours mine and the truth.. I’m not accusing anyone of lying but human nature we all have our own perspective of what happens
The real truth is I don't think she really cares much for John. Her body language and facial expressions are very telling. I call it the way I see it. This is one messed up situation. I would not like to be in his shoes believe me 😎
The series of videos about John & Dianas Story should be shared in all YT channels about the Philippines. it's an example and cumulation of everything can go wrong when you settle here, go into relationship, make babies, get ill and much more, without stable income. I dont judge I only take notice. Guys.... if you want to have a good relationship & life with a Filipina use your brain... that's the part on top of you, not below the waist line...!!
I agree, but it needs to be edited down to about three minutes. This gets very repetitive, yes we’ve heard about the neighbor‘s begging yes we’ve heard about the mother yes we hear how he got himself into the situation in the beginning, all of that needs to be condensed, this just drags out an hour plus the audio really needs adjusting on this. Paul is doing a great job with this and has what seems like a very educated approach to counseling, but a simple thing like sound could be greatly improved if he invested in a couple of $40 clip on microphones. Since Paul is a RU-vid video maker, it would make sense to have the right microphones, also hanging a sheet or blanket on a couple of chairs behind the camera will reduce a lot of the echo. The stuff is seriously not rocket science
Loulou555, you find cases like this throughout SE Asia. The real unfortunate thing here is the fact that children are involved. I hope that I am wrong, but I don’t see there being a happy ending.
This can happen in Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, etc. The girls there grow up in poverty and the last thing they are thinking about is finding love. They are trying to survive and looking for someone with lots of money or a lot to offer them.
Paul, thanks for the update. Diana could care less about this idiot. He’s drooling all over himself thinking that he hit the jackpot. She doesn’t look happy at all, probably thinking that she’s made a major mistake! Both need to just move along with their lives. He would like to marry her not the entire village. They both need to cut their losses and move along with life.
Watch out Paul, Baby Mae was lit up with the twins in her arms! Twins look healthier than I thought they would, just need to keep them away from smokers. Maybe you can get Baby Mae to translate what you said about Social Security & DNA Test back into Diana's native language, so she will understand better. Since John has already had a stroke, there is a strong possibility of having a 2nd stroke, which will price John out of Life Insurance coverage. Once the children are set up on the Social Security system then they will be eligible for survivor's benefits, a great help for Diana to raise the twins.
If I was John I'd be sweating anytime I was in the Barangay knowing that "they" knew about something called Survivors benefits! ("So what your saying is if John happens to die for whatever reason we get more money, right??"...)
one way to express the situation to Diana, regarding DNA proof of parentage. Tell her some Americans might try to scam the system by saying they fathered 3 children, to get more money from Social Security, when they fathered none. This way, the government does the test and knows the truth. The U.S. Government can't rely on what people say, they have to verify before increasing the Social Security amount. It is not at all a criticism of Diana.
It's not responsible to the husband if he cannot help the woman's family, the responsible of the husband is his own family only,not the whole family of the woman, Oh my goodness,accept the truth , God bless you John and Diana and kids.Amen.
I've watched the whole saga from John's first interview. I get it that the boys over there are trying to be decent by rescuing the bloke.... but eventually patience will wear thin. I speak from experience of bailing people out..... John appears from the very start to be extremely gullible and lacking emotional intelligence. It's almost like he's lived with his own parents until recently and just breaking into adult life. His desire for a "girl" led to him getting rinsed out (move in, pay for a house, share resources), but not all going to plan (from Diana and her families perspective) when she gets pregnant. He said it himself that no-one was happy throughout the pregnancy except him... and they are even less happy to discover that he doesn't have a Federal Reserve account after all. It's blindly obvious, even in the interview, she's not bothered about him.... at all. More red flags than a chinese communist parade. He's not a victim, nor is she .... only those children are victims. Whether the babies are "beautiful" (as per the comments) or not is besides the point. They didn't consent to being brought into the world and they've inherited all this crap. Even if John could erase the past, he'd do it again.... and again. He'll be in love with the next barely adult "girl" he claps eyes on.
Well, you can't exactly change history, cause what is done is done... I mean, i kind of agree with you, as i think John has been blanketed most of he's life and since he moved to the Philippines, he has learnt the hard way and probably for the first time in he's life, but who knows; i could be wrong... But all in all, John and Diana are both responsible for all of this, regardless who might be older or more wiser; it doesn't take Einstein to figure out whats going to happen... They just need to take accountability for their actions and deal with it.
@@ananumatanu7621 Yeah sure, he has done it before (barely adult girl, married her, got rinsed out). but managed to effectively erase the past (divorced). Learned nothing. What I'd call success at this point, as you say accountability / deal with it would be open honesty from Diana about the status quo on the relationship, acceptance from John that he has two children to support for many years. Lucky for him it seems US social security provides a surplus for children which he could funnel straight to her and hey presto he is bailed out by the US Government. Being an involved Father would be even better..... but the relationship? it's a load of rubbish.
Not sure I agree with the detailed analysis, but do agree 1. this John guy seems to have very little emotional and intellectual maturity (certainly not enough to be a father), and 2. the girl has zero interest in him as a husband/man--she will immediately dump him if anything better comes along (and I would not blame her).
Wow! Humans are the same the world over regardless of color or tribe prone to similar mistakes. Hope John, Diana & the kids have picked up well on their life's journey. Paul, please give us an update on how they are doing now? Encourage them & show them some ❤ they are only human!
Thank you Paul and Baby Mae for hosting this video. Like a car wreck, it was difficult to watch but an important example for foreigners to understand and learn from. Dumaguete ain't no Mayberry.
Calling you selfish is a shaming tactic. Don't fall for it. A responsible person will take ownership for their own life not blame others. I dated a filipina, it seems to be common in that culture.
Forgive me for saying this but Diana doesnt seem well educated or particularly bright. In her culture a 'rich' foriegner partner brings prestige & an uplift out of grinding poverty. John's pragmafic step of moving in with inlaws made her lose face & dragged her back into the cesspit of barangay life. Best move was getting him back to work in the US so the two of them can begin to extricate from relatives/barangay.
I have no words or comprehension in this situation. I am only leaving a comment to help the video get promoted on RU-vid, so people can learn what not to do. I think this video and the others videos about John will help others avoid similar situations.
Her only pain is in missing out on the money. Both are losers. They deserve each other. But real pain is for the two little girls they created. John better get the dna test done. Her facial expression changed when that subject was brought up
You saw pain, I saw guilt and regret. Regret mostly, guilt when the DNA test and the suggestion that she may need to work came into play. She and John also present conflicting ideas on how the truck was used and who gives the babies what attention. It makes me wonder, the attitude in this video was different than others I have seen.
This just goes from bad to worse and I'm afraid to say John DID play a part. You asked "Some guys go into the province and be the big shot?" Despite the fact he said no actually he did. HE BUILT A HOUSE. To him he spent virtually all his money on that house. To them it's like Christmas "Hey this guy can afford to build this nice house he'll have no problem supporting us we hit the jackpot." Seems to me like Diana and those babies may be being weaponised. Like you I'm shocked by the attitude of the family. Those babies had nothing to do with any of this. I note the topic of Marriage was nentioned
From my understanding he did not build a house -he just added a second level to an existing one,.He was foolish but he probably thought it saved paying rent and didnt he get sucked into investing in a truck with the wife's brother that was going to provide them with an income.John is obviously not very bright but that goes for many men who arrive at the age of 60 with no savings. In PI all foreigners are considered tp be rich and they are compared to PI wages.John and Diane could live quite nicely on his social security payments
Also, let’s remember there are always two sides to the story. I just go back to the fact, if it’s that miserable there, why not bring she and the kids back to the US? What am I missing? People do this all the time.
@@peter-pg5yc Granted but his children will benefit even if his relationship with Diana ends.A lot of ex-pats in PI build houses sometimes very expensive ones but they have no legal right to part own with their wife as foreigners are not allowed to own land although I think you buy a condominium. However they all know this but what does it matter -most relationships are stable.Its a risk they take
I won't get in to what's what here. But I have a feeling she wants a condo, a laptop and an allowance, if he comes back, maybe nothing left for him, sounds hard but it's a reality here.... Some times hard desicions have to be made
Rubbish!!! This will work out fine for John. He just needs to get Diane out of the Baranga, into a flat of her own and get a good job to send money back to her for the babies.
Guys come to PI to escape drama. This relationship has been a train-wreck for so long. Wish all of them luck. You have great interviewing skills Paul. Peace
John strikes me as an utter fool. A 58 year old man moves to the Philippines with 30k and no revenue stream and thinks this is a good idea? How much calculation does it take to figure out that saving 5k a year for 4 more years and moving with 50k and a SS check makes more sense? Then he meets a 19 year old girl that is desperate to escape the slum in which she lives and he takes advantage of her and impregnates her even though he has no ability to support himself much less her and children. If I were her family I would hate him as well.
He had enough money to support them both. The thing is, he gave it all away. Building a house he can never own. Buying a truck for her brother. Such and so forth.
First of all I appreciate Paul, (especially) and the expats for extending all the assistance in financial, emotional and all the support rendered to the couple John and Diana. Although the cultural, language differences are always there at least the basic of all is the love and the caring. Diana, all I can say is you guys are still blessed to have people around you that cares, stay positive in the outlook of life, be strong for your babies and John but most of all pray 🙏 Me and my husband struggled when we migrated here in the USA but I never give up. I remembered telling my husband, this life will soon pass and the struggles, sacrifices, the tears we shed soon will have it's reward. Lo and behold after more than 40 years, we are now looking forward to retire in the Philippines. Thanks God for the strength of all the years, now we're ripping what we sowed.
Golden Rule in the Philippines: if you are older by 20 years or more to your Filipina(many cases of filipina=19 , foreigner= 65 to 79 years old), your money is a fair trade, at least $300 for her family per month is a good deal. You got a wife for sex, you got a maid to clean, to cook , to wash your clothes, iron your clothes ,free tour guide, you can stay permanently without hassle and most importantly you have protection in the community. Don't go to the Philippines and live like a King without enough resources, do these foreigners wash and iron their clothes? No they use the Filipina as Sex and Maid, Here is a perspective , in USA if you use a young blonde american as Sex, Cook, Cleaner , Wash your clothes, Iron your clothes, Tour guide, it will cost you $10,000 a month. Remember this every family member in the Philippines must help her/his family if she/he can.
It’s John’s responsibility to set boundaries on money. The family may not understand. I help my Thai fiancé’s family out, but I introduced them to the concept of “very few foreigners are rich” right away.
Why should Americans who pay up to $9600 a year in social security taxes for people who don't live and has NEVER contributed to American taxes. Why should we have to pay for this? This law needs to change!
I experienced that myself, I helped her family a few times, however it seems that the demanding is getting worse until I said enough no more, now they hate me but they don't forgot what I did for them in the past, as long as you give they love you, once you stop they hate you.
Paul you and the expat community all have big hearts. Regardless of the mess this dude made you guys stepped up to help. Paul “ Best thing you can do for Diana is work your ass off”
I don’t think she’s doing it from her heart. I think she’s playing to convince John and everyone who watches this, so they keep supporting her with money. Money that will ended up spent on her family .
Yes, I questioned this as well. Is Diane going to live in the Barangay for the next 18 months, if so, thats not going to be healthy or conducive for the Babies or Diane. Obviously Dianne knows its not a good life there. She is going to be alone in the Barangay and upstairs with the babies is going to be very difficult for her. Also, the Barangay will be pressuring Diane because she has money from her rich boyfriend.
I would love to retire in the Philippines but I am still waiting until I am close to Social security age before I make a move. being prepared is better than rushing. Money and health are two keys for a good retirement.
Me too. The bare minimum for me to go is getting my pension when I turn 56. I will probably wait until at least 62 so I can have more savings,401k, Sosocial Security, etc.
Yes watching videos like this on RU-vid can help you also with what not to do when you arrive here in the Philippines...........I have lived in the Philippines over 35 years and I had to learn the hard way and didn't have much help in the beginning. Paul doing all this help is really nice I wish I could meet Paul one day but I live in Cavite on Luzon.
@@ARedMotorcycle well I am 71 retired US Army been coming to the Philippines starting in 1984 but I love Thailand even more and started going there in 1973
I live in a barangay, built a house with a wonderful wife and family and I have never had a problem. Some residents ask for money but the family fully protects me and themselves with a NO. And very few foreigners in this clean city near the sea.
I am shocked by the story but also by the courage. Maybe we start with something small and temporary for Diana till John's promise kicks in. Some roof over her and the kids head. It does not have to be much listening to Paul. Maybe one of the supporters we trust can oversee this our effort. Support for 4 months comes to my mind.
John's not going to work his way to financial support or for his family, he said multiple times he's "going for the rubber stamp" to collect SS funds. He never agreed to work for this family. He's going to have his hand out, just in the US.
These John/Diana videos are like watching a slow train wreck. OMG and WTF in so many ways. Ok, I'm off to binge watch the next video in line of this series.
About her waist she's showing, Filipinos say ' 'tighten your belt' which is the same as 'Whatever you have, make it work to its best.' But obviously in Diana's and John's case, it will still be very hard.
@@amadoparragua6989 Come on... the average Filipino makes $5 a day. John can go back to USA get a MCdo job and send her way more cash than most Filipinas can dream of. He just need to get his act together for 16 months. Hardship in the Philippines vs hardship in the US is two completely different things.
Well, when are foreigners and expats going to learn the lesson that going to live in the Philippines is like going to live in the whood? It requires whood skills if you want to live among the locals in the Philippines. I see these whxte, naive folks being taken advxntage of all the time. I'm not bhlack by the way.
Good advice Paul on social security dependants. One of John's and Diana's priorities now should be to get their two children added as dependants on John's social security account. Cheers and God Bless..
I’ve been watching this unfold since the first video. At first I thought this poor guy is a victim and I was glad to see you step in. Now I believe you have created a video of WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN YOU MOVE TO THE PHILIPPINES. This guy thought he’d find love and happiness on a small budget and refuses believe he’s been scammed. This guy is a mark. Shame there’s innocent children involved.
@@chrism4008 it's not that easy for her to move on like that..... look at her....c'mon man... no man is going to want a broke Filipina with three children
@@misutasutanto6312 i think you severely underestimate the power of simpery in the world these days. I think if she wanted to she could almost certainly find another expat
I'm really glad that the twins are healthy and doing better. Really awesome that caring people got together to develop a plan to help these children when they needed it most.
Social security minimum benefit in 2022 is $950.80. you can receive up to 50% extra for each dependant under the age of 18 in the household. This is just from checking the SS website, but it looks like he would be getting around $1900 a month if he were getting it today. There should be a big Cola adjustment this year with inflation, but this number should be close
I've lived here in the Philippines since 2009 and have seen many people who been forced to the streets to beg for food by their family... I know this for a fact because my wife gets up 4am every Sunday to prepare chicken and rice and water tubes to distribute to four groups who lineup as follows... line 1 are widows... line 2 are street kids... line 3 are mom's with kids... line 4 are men (most of whom are drug addicts or alcoholics) and if any food is left over we give the remaining food and water to the mentally ill and drug addicts who are huddled up along the sidewalks and park pagodas. Because of this weekly experience with my wife for over a decade... I'm mystified why vloggers here on RU-vid are seemingly unaware of the reality of life here in the Philippines. So this young lady's claim of how her family is treating her is not unusual... and she is lucky she has found someone to give her money for food... because hundreds if not thousands of Filipinos are routinely mistreated or abandoned by their families nationwide for being a financial burden to their family... so hopefully this man will continue to send money to his wife while he is in the USA... because if not... she could easily end up on the streets begging for food and end in food lines along with many others.
Been here since 2012, tried wot yor doin, didnt see much in the way of gratitude so started rescuing abandoned kittens & cats. In a place where they can barely afford to feed themselves, only a mental defective would take on a pet & then condemn it to a life of misery & desperation. 40 plus cats now & neva looked back. The animals show heaps more gratitude & we neva hav to listen to any aditional whining.
@@BearInThePhillipines I'm blessed that she loves them just as much as I do Otherwise it wouldnt b possible. She lived in my country 28yrs & so developed a different understanding than the local local.
