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EP #56 - Not for Instagram + Choosing Between Ambition and Self Care
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The hater and lover are reunited after a month of doing absolutely nothing besides sending each other bedtime texts. Caroline does have one more thing to show for her break, though: a new sport she’s invented. Or at least a concept that will improve the sporting experience for her? The details aren’t important.
The two move onto bigger topics as Caroline shares a Tony Robbins quote that stirred her into action recently: “the path of least resistance will never make you happy.” She’s happily taking on new challenges in her work, while Jess shares a story of turning down a new opportunity in favor of balance and long-term goals. She even references a book (*gasp!*), Radical Candor by Kim Scott, to elucidate her point. They settle on the hard truth that periods of ambition can only exist thanks to periods of rest, and discipline is in the eye of the beholder.
Finally, a couple of dating red flags that SEEM fine, until you get a good morning text from a Hinge dude who thinks he should run for president.
Also referenced in the episode: ⁠this podcast episode⁠ featuring NFE Producer, Abi Newhouse!
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Contents of this Video
00:00 - Intro
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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@jackiebenson11 8 месяцев назад

As an artist and creative I’ve found I have to hate 85 to 90 percent of my work before I get into a flow of something worthwhile. And even then my paintings I love the most may start off horribly and takes time to start evolving into something totally different. Those crappy starts are essential.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

appreciate this, i find the same! i observe that all the artists i know go through periods of absolutely doubting their ability, "all my talent is gone", "im not funny anymore", "i'm not skilled enough", "it was all a fraud" -- and then that season of doubt eventually ends. there are just ebbs and flows

@jackiebenson11 8 месяцев назад

Yes! It feels like such a common experience for creative types. I’d love to see your standup if you decide to share!

@ClaireCelticMystic 8 месяцев назад

I grew up steeped in the royalty of Hollywood and it is a universal reality; co-creating with divinity's spark lighting the way is a spiral, and includes many aspects in the labyrinthine exodus from not creating. ~ Aloha, Claire The 1st. @@Not4EveryonePod

@kellie5130 8 месяцев назад

The conversation about ambition really resonated with me. I’m 28 and have been (what feels like) stuck in an entry level corporate position but allows me peace in my personal life. It’s my comfort zone, but also an insecurity of mine as I feel like I should be doing “more”. My goal this year is to try something new and it’s been so hard as the opportunities just feel few and far between at the moment but we’ll get there! Love y’all!

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

i'm so glad to hear it! it's a tough balance to strike, personal to the individual, and will probably continue to change through your life!

@ksink2910 8 месяцев назад

I don't think someone who achieved a lot in something like Marathon or whatever just “naturally good” at it. Behind success like such there are years of hard work. We just don't see it, that's why people think this person just good at it. Nobody is naturally good at something from birth. It's easy to devalue somebody's achievement these way. I am drawing all my life and at school I was working so hard, I was going to after school drawing classes, then I would go to art school after my normal school and come back home like at 9 pm almost every day, and I was like 12 years old. And everybody would just assume I'm naturally good at drawing. But I spend every day all day drawing. If you don’t want to put so much effort you are not going to get the same results so don’t be surprised

@shanopossum 8 месяцев назад

for the subscriber makeover, if you want to do it what about something like having them make a pinterest board of generally the style they'd like, but also a board of things they absolutely hate (to then be avoided) so that there can be a bit of a surprise, but also, hopefully no real disappointments if thats the worry

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

oo this is a good idea. yeah i think i'm going to do something around having them sign off on the high-level choices (like paint, layout) and then keep the details/accessories as a surprise

@savanahmuses 8 месяцев назад

(I quit Instagram in April 2021, literally that's why I have to comment here! I come from Spotify just to express my love to y'all.) Anyways y'all are the best, consistently cracking up at y'all and also feeling so heart-warmed. I appreciate y'all's unique flavor of kookiness. -- also, maybe a little woo-woo for you guys, idk -- but I think The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, and Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, might be really inspiring fuel for you two as creatives. -- you're killing it! Xoxo.

@santisanti8386 8 месяцев назад

I think The Artist's Way is the book that Caroline already recommended in one of her videos.

@savanahmuses 8 месяцев назад

@@santisanti8386 I must've missed that one!

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

love these reccs! havent read the latter yet

@alisonbrugge 8 месяцев назад

“I do think the audience is depressed” 😂

@kekica11 7 месяцев назад

Yup! Depressed, smelly, non-runner reporting for duty 🙋‍♀

@FrogeniusW.G. 8 месяцев назад

My favourite sentence of the week: "I'm not a crazy person..in that specific flavour." Even have to like my own comment due to it.

@michelemartin9907 8 месяцев назад

God i love you guys. I smile through all of your videos. Thank you both. 😊 from Canada 🇨🇦

@RJones-tn5vg 8 месяцев назад

I do not run, but I do struggle with depression

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

i'd love to give you a hug. we see you

@kekica11 7 месяцев назад

Yeah, but let's get down to brass tacks: Are ya smelly??

@KellySmithDavis 8 месяцев назад

Smoothe... I approve this message. 🇺🇸👍

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

thank you for your vote

@amynow 8 месяцев назад

That’s a great insight about energy patterns, Jess! And Caroline’s addition of not running 5 marathons in a row- that’s it! Thank you! Very helpful 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

@vfoxdesigns 8 месяцев назад

Your friendship is the most wholesome and hilarious thing I ever ever witnessed!!

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

it's just a kiss fest

@jessicacarpentier4124 8 месяцев назад

OMG! Thank you for this episode!!!! Especially the topic of career and pushing versus not pushing yourself.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

ah bb you're so welcome!

@jolene0407 8 месяцев назад

I've never witten anything that i didnt't equate the process to giving birth. Its painful and messy and at so many points along the way I thought "why the fuck am i doing this"? I feel like a total fraud and completely incapable of the task. Yep, just like giving birth.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

Wow this is amazing, yes. This ❤️🙏

@vfoxdesigns 8 месяцев назад

Good morning! Getting ready for work while listening ❤to

@Shnnnzlsmth 8 месяцев назад

Me too! ❤

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

yesss! that's what i figured, which is why i chose to release this earlier in the AM than usual - good to know people listen before work - we'll keep releasing them early AM then on YT

@tiffytattoo2450 8 месяцев назад

You are my two favourite scientists ♡

@annam8310 8 месяцев назад

“Your growing edge” - I love this phrase and mindset so much. Happy 2024 & thank you for the brilliant show as always!

@Suboptimalconditions 8 месяцев назад

I am no longer dating that guy either! He can be free forever as far as I’m concerned. ❤ i love the end of this. I love the whole thing too.

@kassandrafurtado3234 8 месяцев назад

As a @not4everyonepod community scientist, If you were to measure the marathon runners heart rate there are a lot of variables that have to go into the equation to get the outcome of the winner. I enjoy the principle of this new sport, although I am unsure how to measure a winner.

@kassandrafurtado3234 8 месяцев назад

Also great job Jess for getting most improved

@jazzyg530 8 месяцев назад

While listening I was thinking that the point of a marathon doesn't even seem to be about one winner, imo. It's more about each individual runner pushing themselves and gaining strength, endurance, confidence, being proud of completing the goal, etc. So I don't think Caroline invented a new sport but rather chose to reframe what "winning" looks like compared to when you measure something beyond the one person who crosses the line first. And in this way almost everyone is a winner because they all improved and have something to be proud of for even training and running in the marathon.

@classicallyclaire 8 месяцев назад

Ive been using a dumbed down phone for 3 years now. No SM. No internet. And i love it. I can get so addicted to technology so quickly, that i had to just cut the cord to get my time and brain back. For the argument of consistency: if you add an "e" to "smooth", then you would have to do the same to moon, fool, school, and food.

@anyaroz8619 8 месяцев назад

Dears, thank you much for sharing the wisdoms again. ❤❤❤

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

trying our best out here as a couple loose kooks

@af54321 8 месяцев назад

Hey! Love your content! I definitely listen to you guys at home so I feel less alone. I feel like you guys are my bffs! Whattado: Im dating this new guy that has a smaller package than my previous one. I dont have a lot of experience. But I am taken aback a little bit. I've only had 2 serious relationships so far. My new person is definitely more considerate than my last one. How to not compare? Help!

@mariadias8959 8 месяцев назад

We always compare... You just compared his "consideration for you" package. Whats important to you is what matters

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

thank you for sending a whattado!!!! i'm saving this and will hope to hit it in a future episode. 2 clarifications - "more considerate" meaning more generous lover? and "smaller package" meaning smaller penis? Wanna make sure i dont get this wrong. love the question!

@af54321 8 месяцев назад

Yes, more generous lover,he asks what i want and is willing to please.he's also overall a nice guy. and smaller package = smaller penis Thank you!

@pb11118 7 месяцев назад

I'm a creative, writer & academic. I don't consume social media , I'm not on it & feeling like every sentence I write in my thesis is 'shit' is a part of the creative process. I have spoken to so many ppl about this. Don't get discouraged. It's actually part of creation.

@nnnbooks1211 7 месяцев назад

I am still happy about my achievements, even years after. and that is because, in today's rat race, they are MINE, I had worked so hard to reach them, and nobody can take them away from me now. (so I may be an exception but I still feel that high from these past achievements. of course I don't ever rest on my laurels)

@thedepthsofrepair 8 месяцев назад

Would you awesome two consider not having a down-up camera angle? The perspective in general is hard on the eyes. Not on your persons, but generally seeing things that way is weird. At least to me. And probably my soul mate, too.

@sanne5412 6 месяцев назад

One of my favorite episodes ❤ But ofcourse I love them all!

@chelsealake4873 8 месяцев назад

The walls in my home are covered in my own artwork (for lack of decorative know-how), and I hate all of it.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

haha this is the true "artist's way"

@MoonthistleHouse 8 месяцев назад

I think Caroline's new sport is just torture...

@kekica11 7 месяцев назад

I see it more as taking "A for Effort" to another level, where there's also a "B, C, D" and "F for Effort"

@SecurelyInsecure 8 месяцев назад

Hi y’all 👋. It’s goooood to hear y’all together again 🙌…. Getting ready to listen to this podcast. So excited 😆 😂❤❤

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

we missed you too

@SecurelyInsecure 8 месяцев назад

@@Not4EveryonePod 🤗

@Idkokyes 8 месяцев назад

I’m only 8 minutes in and your new sport talk reminded me of when people have congratulated me and called me brave for things that weren’t scary for me. i don’t feel like I’m brave if it wasn’t scary even if it’s technically a scary thing. So if the marathon wasn’t that hard for someone because usually they do iron man’s or something, i like the idea of the person who persevered the most getting celebrated.

@laurafayelewis 8 месяцев назад

I’ve been waitingggggg for this. Love you guys!

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

big ol' kiss

@hansaugustsson7288 8 месяцев назад

Golf handicaps enable competition between people who are not on the same level. You win if you beat your benchmark more than the others beat theirs. Your new sport could be applying handicaps to other sports than golf.