I love how on-point you are, hitting the nail on the head of the issue, explaining it all gently yet firmly. All in under 10 minutes. WOW. Immediately subscribed!
Sometimes they're only invested in what you can do for them. You know they were never emotionally invested in the relationship when they don't fight for you and are able to walk away and hook up with someone else who'll now assume the role that you were once in.
@sreach93 that’s exactly where I’m at. I just ended something with someone tonight and I guarantee you their bed is not even cold because they had a string of dates…. Incredibly selfish people unfortunately are out there and they will use you until they’re done. I’m glad I only wasted a few months. And not years like this guy.
@@Hikingbandit19 unfortunately, sometimes it can take that long to realize, or accept, that what you've been seeing is really what you're seeing - that they're only interested in what you can do for them . Or also finally recognizing it's our own hope that is blinding us. 🥺 Ending hope is sad.
To Brian I also was an option for over a year. Just went no contact a month ago. I hoped he would see my value. He played a cruel game of truth telling me I wasn’t the one as often as he could. But then would say your such a good wife, or how could I live without you comments he even said he loved me. Which blurred and confused me. He started dating other women, And still played his game. It’s a mean game but there are people out there who love doing this. Don’t let him steal your value and confidence. Don’t be his prop any longer. Ask your self if this was reversed would you treat him the same way he treated you? Then you’ll see just how hurtful he is. He can’t love like you love. Let him go. You deserve better!
This was so timely, I have spent the past year allowing other's to define my worth and I vow to never do it again. Thank you SO much Susan, you are changing lives❤
Been there, got the t-shirt, (although not the Susan t-shirt, unfortunately). 'It's you, not me'. Spent months, years trying to prove my worth, hoping he would see me and my worth. Now, when I look back, I only feel sorry for him. x
It's crucial to recognize early signs and set clear expectations in dating. Your points about not waiting on a 'maybe' and taking control of one's worth are spot on. As a dating coach myself, I emphasize the importance of self-confidence and establishing healthy boundaries. Keep empowering your audience with valuable advice!
Love that all your videos don't take like the first 2mins just to talk about who you are& asking to subscribe😂 like so many other channels. Of course subscribed!!!
I am really happy this question was posted. I can understand also why someone would hope or be on a maybe for years. For me it was abondonment issues and also like I feel they are more worth than me, because of their achievements or my admiration to them. So, only if I could make them admire me, if I could get a new skill or body type or whatever which takes time (or I learned more relationship/communication skills), maybe then I am good enough. So, I am waiting on them and on me, until I am good and admirable enough. So, I am even scared to ask - about status of relationship, because I am not good enough for them yet. (maybe only in my eyes)
Susan I’ve followed you ever since I started dating back in High school in 2017😂 Thank you so much for your insights and advice. Still subscribed and always refer to your forums and videos for self reflection 💛 Thank you for being you!
What i am going thru. Being kept on hold, while she sleeps around. I need to let go. Your response is what I needed to hear. I'm so glad I found this and you, love your style of coaching.
I'm not going to lie guys, the gay dating world, mostly on grindr, is exceptionally brutal. Luckily I'm just focusing on healing myself after a 13 year relationship that ended badly for me (got cheated on, gas lighted, lied, mentally and physically abusing me, narrowly escaped getting gonorhoea)
I relate to the other guy. I’ve had clingers on who lived in hope and never communicated what they wanted from me until push came to shove and they realized I wasn’t interested.
I understand your position. And I am sure that you were clear about your intentions or should I say lack of. But just out of curiosity… did you continue seeing them? My understanding is that this man’s lover continued to see him for four years, so a 1000 “No’s” looked like a yes.
@@SusanWinter I continued to see them because we were “just friends” and I didn’t realize that they wanted to be more than friends until it eventually came out later. Even though I had communicated that I just wanted to be friends, they hoped I would change my mind one day, but they didn’t tell me that part until much later. It was unfair for both of us. I wanted a friend, and they wanted a lover, and we both failed to have a direct and clear enough conversation about our intentions to save each other the time and hurt emotions long term. I’m so happy I found your videos because I’ve always struggled to be direct and clear in my intentions, but I’ve gotten so much better at it after watching hundreds of your videos and putting the advice into practice :) so thank you so much for sharing your wisdom
I know how this guy feels there also was a guy I met pretty often we liked each others company but when I said Im interessted in him he said i like men but not men like you what did he mean whit that he could had said in a more nicer way for Ex: "you are cute and kind person but my feelings are not towards you". Because when he said he prefers other guys but not guys like me I started to feel that no one likes me or ever fall for me and that im not attractive enough people never think properly when they answer back😬😐🤔.
