How to handle it when a coworker tries to make you look bad 

I don't understand why people would go out of their way to make others look bad. I noticed that they mainly do it to quiet people. Trust me, I know from experience! People prey on the quiet people cuz they obviously envy something about them and think that they're weak. I'm a quiet person myself and pretty much everybody around me is always tryna find something's wrong with me and put me down every chance they get. Even though I get aggravated at times, I don't pay my haters no mind cuz they ain't nothing but attention-seekers anyhow. I would just keep it moving and go on by my business.

It's a classic someone who wants to blow out your candle to make there's look brighter Classic inferiority complex ego issue

I dont understand why a person that is double my age wants to push me down daily. And sabotaging my work i'm a trainee i just get so mad. I like my job but seeing the person when i walk in just makes me wanna walk out again.

If you look like a weak quiet person you are an easy target coworker’s will snitch you even if you didn’t do anything wrong. If you work with guys they don’t do anything but working with girls they would make your job miserable.

Omg this happened to me when I first started at my job. I was really nice and sweet and quiet...This one girl seemed extremely jealous of me. She would try so hard to put me down or make me look bad. Then one day I flipped out on her so bad like crazy in front of everyone and put her on the spot. Lol after that I didn't get any bullying from her. I feel like maybe some ppl respect you more after you stand up for yourself? Maybe she was looking for that or didn't expect it. I will never understand. They're so sad and pathetic it's funny

No solution for people like this. Escpecially if they are in the click. Had it happen to me. Went to the manager and HR and no help..

You must stand up for your self and those people must learn the lesson!

I've had results with these people by giving them a taste of their own medicine. It seems with these types the more you take the high road the worse they become. First out perform them, and then treat them like shit. They will be your best friend. I never could figure why you have to be an A-hole to get them to be decent. Some people's children!

I work as a dishwasher and I have had many coworkers gang up to try to make me look bad when I am working. When I am catching the plates that come out of the dish washing machine they try to put in the plates quickly to beat me. One time they tried doing it so fast that the machine broke down 5-10 minutes before my shift was over. I just smiled and said: "Oh look at the time, I gotta go." They all stayed serious and quiet lol. I beat them at their own game, and because they tried being dirty with me they lost and now had to wash all the dishes by hand. 😅

Great advice, Marie. I also think that when you love yourself and are confident and secure in who you are, none of this type of behaviour from other people will effect you. They do this to people just to test if you're weak or not. If you feed into their hooks and tests by being too verbal with them or by giving them attention they will feel like they own you. Don't put anyone at work on a pedestal and don't be fake with anyone. Sometimes they think that just because you're new you're going to try and be fake and try to fit in with everyone. Once they see that you're actually okay in your own skin, not there to please anyone and not phased by their behaviour, they'll leave you alone straight away.

i think its a kind of people that are just like that. All kind of people like this should be chased out of a workplace immediately and fast because if not they'll keep doing it and they are the wont they cause the real drama. They don't come to work because they just wanna have a good time and work hard. They come to work because they hate people and this make it hard for work to move forward. These people should definitely be fired. These people don't make workplace harmonious, they make it worse

If you retaliate, they love that. they are part animal, remember.

a coworkers always talks down to me and acts high and mighty with me but is nice to his friends. I try to act confident and indifferent but its hard when everyone is laughing and acting like he is so great and I'm the loser.

I remember when I was 18, I had transferred to a different store within McDonald's and there was a lady in her early 40's who was unrelentingly ordering me around like a manager would. She obviously was not aware that I had previous experience and was very efficient at my job, so she saw me as an easy target. I put my emotional feelings aside until I had gained the respect from my new colleagues and then one day when she bossed me around, I confronted her in front of everybody. Our voices were raised but I was calm and logical. She NEVER bossed me around after that and funnily enough, we actually became super good friends lol. I'll never forget that. Belittling coworkers, especially when they are respectful does not even compute to me. Such toxic behaviour goes against every fibre in my body and soul.

My girlfriend just got a new job and shes being treated very bad by her co workers I sent her the link to this video for her to watch it I'm very disappointed she is such a good women who is always working hard and these co workers are putting her down talking behind her back and gossiping about her

People respect you more when you fight back professionally.

Stick to your guns. Yell back when being yelled at and don't give a shit about what a few co workers think of you. Remember you have friends and family who like you and you're not being paid to impress your co workers. Your there to work, pay your bills and go home. I doubt any of you thought about making new friends when you were job hunting. The need to have people accept or like you is a natural human weakness. Do what you do. Do your thing and fuck them because they don't matter in the long run.

I deal with this shit all the time at work. They just love pointing out my "mistakes". I think this advice is good. Just ignore them, they're the workplace equivalent of internet trolls.

abuse shouldn't be tolerated . I understand that getting out may be an option but why not address the abuser and fire thier asses!!!!! they are harming the company in the long run. there needs to be new rules in place to deal with workplace behavior.

I've noticed that when that person tries to put others down and doesn't succeed, she starts acting like a victim somewhat or starts talking about something terrible that happened to her outside of work on and on and on so she can get I dunno, pity from people because what else is she gonna get. She doesn't really need advice. Then she says stuff like I'm sorry I'm venting and thanks for being someone who listens and doesn't judge. And she says that in a way so others who she's trying to get back at, can hear. I mean sometimes I'm like, wow what do I say or do?! Then If she sees you're smart about it, she quickly changes tactics like lightning and acts like a saint

A coworker of mine is over all a person who is a trouble maker, yet plays victim if anything is done to them. I started at my job a year before she started. Within a week of her starting she was extremely rude to me, barely talked to me. Then whenever I was near her, she would proclaim loudly she needed to be in a different role because she has been in the industry nearly 10 years and shouldn't be in a low role. Then for the first time at my job a rumor had been spread about me not liking my role. Only one person fitted the description. I found out a few months ago the coworker had bragged to another coworker she tried desperately to get me fired. Even though there is no grounds to get me fired and I had a strong professional relationship with my boss. It backfired on my coworker and my boss had put the coworker in her place. I don't know why I'm a target, I guess it is because I come across as happy quiet person that minds my own business. So it makes me look like a weaker person.

I was raised by a military father who told me you should sometimes treat the work place like its your first week in prison, make it known you're not the one to be f**k with. People are only gonna do what you allow them to do.

I hate when I get disrespected and miss treated at work.i snap at them and I tell them off

I agree; if you are calm and smile and disregard their demands while engaging with your team, they'll hopefully realize that they have no power over you. I'd rather give them a fake smile and basically just act as though I'm politely avoiding them while not doing what they say. They will probably start learning that their words have no value to you when they begin acting superior. Don't even give them the time of day to argue; it shows them that their words aren't even valuable enough for you to get a reaction

My co-worker, my supervisor and my crazy boss. HR just tried to gaslight me the whole time

If you deflect they will keep trying to find new angles to attack.These moves are only stopped by meeting force with a greater force.Its simply how hierarchies are made in an office

Your so pretty and always dress so nice with the cutest accessories. Thanks for the great advice as always.

She's right. I am a "senior" person in my role. Not a manager at present. I am the opposite, I get joy out of seeing people succeed. Get asked to train/mentor newer folks. I always joke, but serious "so this is how I do it, but X signs our paycheck, so if they say different, run with that." Some of the people that I trained are now training some of the newer folks! That makes me feel amazing.

Some people are insecure and they behave badly then worry that people have seen their true colours and so then try to put other people down to justify that other peoples opinions dont matter. I work with someone like this and at first I really tried to help but it just drained me and they got worse. Now Ive stepped right back, de-stressed and am watching that person unravel while I still get the same wage with none of the drama :-)

do unto others as others do to you. if your coworker can still keep her job and act like an ass, whats stopping you from doing the same?

She has changed her hair color to my color. Tried to make me look bad in front of the boss. Eating what I eat, doesn't eat when I don't. Imitates the way I bat my eyes, tries to work the way I work. Pretends in front of others that she likes me, but mutters smart comments under her breath when no one is around. Gives backhanded comments. At first it was as if she was competing with me for the attention of others (male or female-whoever I'm talking to at the moment), now it's like she is trying to be me. How do I deal with this? I've tried to take the high road and ignore it. I've tried praying about it. I am too through. Can you think of anything else I can try.

Popping in to say...ALL OF THE COWORKERS WHO DID THIS ARE GONE NOW ...😂people who try to make others look bad are really the ones who have issues in themselves

This topic is still relevant even though I haven't seen it for 3 years. When I changed professions, one of the agents said" we bully you new hires"! I certainly don't look like the type you would bully, but because I'm quiet she misunderstood. What I learned later on is that she set me up to fail and to look bad. That was her way of bullying. People like that our mere pittance. They have no power at home so they come to work and throw their weight around. Take the high road

I have had this problem numerous times and lost my job because of it. I work in the beauty sales industry. I am an attractive bubbly female with great communication skills. Whenever i join a company there is always this one female coworker who is jealous of me and tries to sabotage me. This has happened over and over again. And I have ended up blaming myself and losing my job. I dont know what to do because they have seniority and the manager is always biased to their opinion. What should you do if this keeps happening to you over and over again and management is biased to the nasty coworkers side because she has seniority?

deysi, this woman is clearly jealous of your mom. She has to simply ignore her as best she can. I know that is not always possible. So, don't give her a reaction at all. Just "hi and "bye," and that's it. Only speak to her if she absolutely has to, and keep the conversation extremely professional. Never, ever talk to her about anything personal. Basically, rise above it. I am sure coworkers see right through this person.

I ALWAYS found it funny how a person can EASILY point the finger at someone else, but can NEVER turn the finger at themselves. A longtime friend of mine told me that when you point a finger at someone else, you got the others pointing right back at you. That's how I deal with people that try to put me down, or talk bad about me. I make them look at themselves. It works everytime, because they get quiet and don't say anything else. They get mad at me, but I don't care. I tell them, don't dish out what you can't take. If you don't want others talking about you, then keep other people's name out of your mouth. Simple and plain.

Marie Dubuque I got here by accident lol but you deliver some sage advice in a very collected and appealing way! If you are a mother, they are indeed very blessed to have such a wise mother!

I'm stuck working closely with a difficult coworker who is constantly criticising me the entire shift. I've even tried blowing up on the dude. He seems to actually enjoy it. It's like I can't do anything right. I will try taking your advice and hope it works. Thanks for the video.

Thank you for this video, yeah they try to make my life their business & try to tell me what to do, so rude, I can't stand people who are like that. All they need to do is mind their own business that's what's wrong with the world today. Sick of it.

I just found your channel yesterday and subscribed. Thanks for all the good advice. Many good people have benefited, I'm sure. I hope and pray everything is going well for you. God bless you more.

I needed to hear this! I just had a talk with my manager about staying in my department and that someone told him that I was in the restaurant talking to guests.. I legit was baffled that my manager was mad that I spoke to guests and that he listened to that rat. Ugh just annoying of how petty people are

When I'm right and I know it I'm not arguing. I just keep going about my work. This is it.

Slash their tires!

I can't go anywhere, we are at the same office 😨😨😨

I have this co worker, who ignores me on a regular basis but has no problem talking to my other co workers, yet he imitates me in all sorts of things, like I started working out. He also started working out, I grew a beard, he does too for example or I started talking to a new person, he started talking to that person too. I tried to stop talking to him because I would not waste my time on a co worker ignoring me. He did not take that well it seems, and started texting me “Why do you ignore me” and stuff. I guess some people like to control others with their emotions or its just jealousy.

And then people always ask why do we have workplace violence, this is why. Everybody always looked stunned. Leave people the fuck alone at work.

My co-worker is the classic back stabber. She smiles in my face but has reported me to my Supervisor, my manager and the General manager. I’m really stressed and even confronted her once and she bold face lied. She’s good at her job and not that I’m a slouch but it’s been this way from day one. Life is too short. She is also young enough to be my daughter if that means anything. She gives 🐍 a new meaning 🏳️‍🌈

I think now half the people who don't want to work is because of heartless people in the workplace!

I'm in a situation like this at my job as well. I have a coworker who is mad because I got the job that she wanted. I'm a new worker who was hire from outside and she has been there for a couple of months before I got there. Every since I got there I was warned by my supervisor of her behavior because of the fact that I got this job. She would be nice to my face one minute and then talk about me behind my back the next. She has a two-faced personality because she has talked about other coworkers to me behind their back. She waits until I walk out of the room and then talks about me right along with my other coworkers. These women have not liked me ever since I started this job. I know and feel this and I just keep to myself and do my job. They do things to try and get under my skin such as saying insults when I walk by, I have one of these women who accuses me of being gay, she accuses me of being jealous of her and she accuses me of listening to her conversations when it's the other way around. She makes comments about the way that I talk. I never talk to her at all. How do I handle this toxic workplace without losing my cool? I've been ignoring their behavior ever since I started this job.

Whenever I have a question to a colleague who is in the middle of something and busy, I have a habit of starting with a whispering voice “Sorry to bother you......”. In response, 99% of the time I get a vacant sullen look. On the other hand, if somebody interrupts me during my hectic hours, I respond with a smile, “Sure, no problem”. Now, here is one example of real life incidents. I have a colleague, who is half-deaf, slow and understands only a few words in English. One day she was working with an optical device, and I asked with a whispering voice if she was going to finish soon, as I was going to need it rest of the day. She answered, “No, no.”. I said with a smile, “Take your time. No hurry.” I had other things to do in the meantime anyway. Unfortunately, she didn’t understand the expression “Take your time”; she had no idea what “No hurry” means. In response, she gave me an obnoxious look with bunched eyebrows and barked, “Whatttttt?” Later she complained to my boss that, I was being rude to her. There was absolutely no witness, so my boss took her side, I was speechless, and I have never been able to correct my boss’s impression about me until today, and this incident still keeps bothering me, even though it was about 2 years ago. My question to you, what did I say wrong? Is there a better choice of words in English vocabulary or better sentence construction or polite expression in order to avoid such misinterpretation? Please tell me........

I deal with this all the time!!!! It's ridiculous because I'm not allowed to be mad at this certain co-worker. They demand an apology from me and of course I apologize. But when they get mad at me. They never apologize. It frustrates me to no end.

OMG this happeneds me to me at work. Some people just don't take the hint, even though you make faces they still think they're the boss. Sometimes I feel like punching them in the face 😂😂😂 but I still want to keep my job though lol

Sometimes you just can’t make people happy, just let them be, it’s very true people have personal issues and bring them to work unfortunately.

I hired my worst nightmare. I’m am not her boss but gave the thumbs up when asked my opinion. Four years later it is my biggest regret. She spends her day rallying people against me. Especially new hires. Once she gets their ear they hate me. She “warns them” about me. I know it is because I am looked at as the strongest employee in the office that makes her nuts. Meanwhile She struggles to get the smallest task done and still screws it up. Yet I have always been supportive of her! I’m done now. Hoping the newbies will see through her superficial flattering and cheesy gifts that she brings them. It’s so childish because we are both close to 50 years old. The newbies are in their 20s. It’s hard to ignore because it’s a small office.

Ive had this happen to me in my last job, it was a family owned business and the bosses siblings that worked there were trying to make me look bad and they kept putting me down because i didnt kiss their asses like every one else so i was the one they targeted when they were in a bad mood, i will never work for a family owned business again.

Respectfully, I disagree with this. What needs to be done is you need to pull this person aside and say look. I feel like there’s miscommunication between us and our roles. This is my role and this is your role. And I feel like this miscommunication is causing problems. To show you respect, I am discussing this with you directly. If this continues, it’s going to go above to HR.… And then work it out.

7 years ago but still relate able

I got a question I have a problem at work with a person that's always joking around. I just go to work to work and for the most part im pretty serious. I don't mind having a few laughs but this person is always joking around everytime they see me.I really don't want to lose my cool and make it into a argument but it's very annoying when your trying to work.

I have to deal with someone like this. The problem is, she's untouchable because she's been there for well over a decade. Another guy who she seemingly took an instant disliking to basically got asked to leave the job because he called her out on her rudeness. She went to the management and they instantly took her side.

If someone keeps doing that and you don't speak up eventually you will fill like you don't know and doubt your self.

My employer had already have been through 3 schedulers I’d be the 4th I immediately told my supervisor when she started what was going on in the department and sure enough the trouble making employee got pissed off when the boss and I were working on a project together and the next day she tried to sabotage my work said I had made a mistake and I’d have to write an incident report I told my boss and she agreed it was totally out of line i told her she was the one to stop this nonsense and if I leave my coworker would be the reason every one in the office applauded me said thank goodness finally someone is stepping up and saying something she even transferred because the other office was on to her and she followed a friend that got the manager position to our office well she got fired and now she thinks she’s going to boss me around because she trained me while our new manager is in training wrong answer sweetie I’ll just smile politely and tell her to stay the hell out of my office and get a lock for my desk drawers

What if I don't respect what my boss has to say, and I just want to punch him?

Dear Marie, I am following you for 1 year, and I can't thank you enough. You already helped me so much! This subject really hit me... I looking for another job as the behaviour you described is the one I have to deal with absolutely everyday for 2 years. We are a very little team, 3 me included. We have a stressful job, but my direct coworkers are well know as being ' difficult personalities' it would not be so hard if our manager didn't got they back every time and then sugar coated me during evaluation meetings and then blank me out totally in front of everybody else. I was a very positive and outgoing person, not anymore. My couple suffers of it... The only option is to find another job...not that easy. If you have any advices... I just want to be back to my old me and be the person I liked again. Thank you again for being there, you give me faith in humanity.

You give the best advise ever! Thank you so much.

I don’t engage. But they keep getting worse for so long. I just want it to end..when will they ever get tired? I’m vibing on my own. Why keep bothering me when I don’t even bother them. They are so annoying

This just happened to me within the past week. Thank you so much for this advice.

Don’t allow them in your skin head or heart.

My mom has a situation with her coworker. Her coworker is 42 and loves attention and talks to everyone including my mom but recently it's as if she's trying to make my mom look bad. Recently another coworker asked my mom for money which he'd pay back and my mom told him she couldn't because she needed the money for utilities, this lady was nearby and started saying "yourrrr so rudeeeeeeeeee omg did you guys hear her she's sooooo rude wow" this is the same thing she has repeatedly used with my mom for any small situation. How she can she stop this odd dramatic behavior from her coworker?

Yeah ive been at a new location with the same company and it went over like that. People only interact with me when they absolutely have to. When i go to lunch this guy says loudly "are you leaving us?" trying to draw eyes as if im storming out quitting. I say politely "no im just going on lunch." Little things like this they do frequently. The manager over me hasnt even looked me in the eye except maybe once per week when we're on shift together like 40 hours a week. The manager above him, facility manager, does talk to me. Only after i stood my ground about him obviously mocking me in front of others. He denied it of course pretended like he didnt do anything but then stopped the behavior mostly. Once i went to HR and i swear i could almost hear laughing in the background of my call with them as if they were making fun of me too. Then my district manager told me that calling HR was "airing out my dirty laundry" and i needed to settle it locally with my manager. Its like every where i turned i hit a brick wall. Chain of command is a joke cuz all the higher ups are buddies with each other and confidentiality doesnt actually exist. Then the curve ball they vote me "rookie of the year" for that location to shut me up. The facade that they like me is there but every day they dont even look my direction so.

yes this evil people love giving commands and intimidate you and worst things is they love telling it to other people to make you look bad. diappointing them is a big deal.they will not stop

Hello. I have this co-worker who is 65 year old always tried to get me into trouble. I already told the boss about it and he didn't say much too her. I am 23 year old. Please help me. How should I deal with her?

The funniest and sad thing at the same time is that the company I'm working at doesn't really have an HR

Hello Marie, I made the mistake of going out for drinks with my coworker, and it did not go well. I'm upset with how he treated me and I think he's disrespectful to women. I told him that it bothered me, and that I won't go out with him again because he's not dependable. He's well-liked at work & well-behaved, and has been there longer than me. I am terrible at pretending to like people I dislike, and I feel so uncomfortable when I go to work now. I'm afraid that the other coworkers will side with him in case he says anything about me. (Also, I've revealed too much about myself with him and this other untrustworthy coworker who's friends with him, and realize that now) What do you think I should do? Thank you and I enjoy your videos

your videos always hit my subscription box at the right time, so helpful.. thank you Marie x

Im on a one man site doing night security. From the second I started my first night training the permanent guy made it difficult for me. He tried sabotaging me by telling me help yourself to the food and drink in the resteraunt kitchen which now I know would of been an instant dismiss. I literally only see him twice a week for like 2mins as he works the day shifts sat sunday and yet everytime I come in its something new. If hes not slagging me off to staff in the departments hes trying to make out im not doing patrols etc. I dont know how trouble follows me but it really does. These insecure miserable people! I love the site and love working on my own but its really getting me down. I literally explained about 10% of what hes been doing on the sly.

My antagonist is married to my manager. She knows all the bosses. One day while we were working on assembly line. Her husband txtd her. (Apple phone against rules to use) something was being changed she didn’t want. She stopped working went to the phone and chastised our supervisor. She told everyone so people realize she has “power “. So when she demonstrates lack of respect for me and undermines me they of course go along.

What to do? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. In the end, the universe tends to unfold as it should. Karma.

i too am in the same position except this girl thinks she has a big head more than anyone at work. some people notice and tell me whilst others don't breathe a word but can certainly see that its just her being her. we got along well in the beginning until she started to low key stalk my Instagram account and then from then it led her to what i can only put down to is extreme jealousy and outright bossiness that was projected onto me for her insecurities. she started treating me differently through ostracism and through order of how i should do things when my manager is completely happy with the way i go about things. ive got one piece of advice never add your colleagues on social media especially if you hardly know them you have no idea what judgement they will make of you or your life from pictures (mine were innocent with family and friends) however some people don't want to see you happy or sharing your best life no matter what.

That is good vice but something needs to be done on top of that too. It's unfortunate but you may need to set them up for failure and to make them look bad as well. In a way where they either do or don't know that it's you, yet they can't prove it at all. This lady makes a great point but something additional needs to be done as well. That way they know not to fuck with you anymore.

I live you're videos! The advice you give and real life examples are amazing and super helpful! Thankyou so much :)

She has a superiority complex because she has worked their for 20 years 😂 she thinks her workplace is her home and she owns it. 😂

I have a family member who's like this. He's nothing but a bully. Being older than him, I watched him being raised and his parents were hard on him. He will even say that his Dad's a %@#$*. I know he's this way, at least in part, because of his upbringing. He got admitted to the hospital yesterday and I went to see him. Almost the entire time I was there, he and his wife both were being just flat out mean. And this morning when I checked my e-mail, there was a message from someone else and informing me that he was still goin' off about me. I've always let it slide because I don't want the family to get into a battle but this morning I was determined to just tell him to stay out of my life from now on. Anyway, after watching this, I have a much better perspective on it. Thank you for the help.

Your vids are great , i just had similar prob with a co worker. I complained to management and she came to me and with her tail between her legs apologised. I didn't let her get off lightly though I asked her why she did say the malicious things that she said about me. Suffice to say I don't think she'll be doing it again and when I do have to be in a room with her I just do the same as what you said just speak when spoken to keep it absolutely professional and do not speak any other words to her i.e. polite but cool.

Marie makes a good point about other people also knowing what this person is like. This is so true.

what about a worker that is so over and beyond accommodating to staff and does everything for her manager , I have worked with a co-worker that no one believes she does any wrong..yet she in engages in a behavour as if these people cannot live without her,. She does everything for them, she buys lunches, she knows everything, I do not how to explain it but she is just so attentive to everyone, even if they are new. She is so well liked and the co-workers do everything for her also, bring her lunch, bring coffee. She has cried when she is in a situation with a co worker that is trying to get her to do something saying that they are just annoying her. I feel like she has thrown me under the bus, I was her co worker for a three month temp position as they find someone to hire for the position, she was so nice from the get go! buying me lunch, acting as if I was her very very best friend. But something inside me did not sit well, and I'm wondering if they did not pick me for the position as she could of told them I am not a fit as that was the result of my hard work trying to impress these people so that I get the job. What do you call this person??

Thank you I so needed this you have no idea how you've helped me

I had a coworker call me annoying in front of everybody. I said to her ti be direct with me if she has a problem rather than being sarcastic and debate. She continues i disconnected the cinversation with her. How would you have handled something like this? It started with her sayin she wont be here next day and i said to her did u let the manager know. And she went off on me as if i asked her a dumb question. And said she will be condescending with me. and she ussually says alot that she likes to mess with me. So i dont always take what she says seriously. I cant tell whether she is joking or being serious. But now im just strikly speak only when i need somethin from her professsional.

Omg this happened to me yesterday. It is my second week but second official day. I was told my name came up in a report in regards to something deleted in the system. You have to go out of your way to delete stuff in this system so I wasn't sure what he was talking about. I asked to see the report and he didn't show me lol. I just smiled and said I'll be careful when clicking around while doing my job. I showed him the work I was doing. He said he wasn't saying it was me but my name came up? Hmm. Anyway, I am at this job until someone tells me otherwise and will ignore it

Your soooo right. I won a bullying faceoff that lasted 2 years. By not engaging I won. She blew and left

Also trying to bum cigarettes off me constantly is annoying & rude to, if you're going to smoke support your own habit. geez-

Love this! Short, sweet and to the point! DO NOT ENGAGE!!!! Not to mention, this lady in the vid has great teeth!!!

I have the opposite. People try to intimidate me cause I come off too strong. And Want to put me down but once they see I dont really bother them that's where it starts. And once they try me they see my other side and I become more unwanted if I may say. How do I get out of this loop. I see friends and other coworkers that are arrogant mean or unpleasant or whatever and they still are adored? how on earth do they do this?

I have had this happen, both with the boss and coworkers. It happens almost daily with my boss. I finally found my niche when I started turned it right around on her.

This happens to me a lot, because of my years of experience and know how, I'm very good at my positions and coworkers feel threatened by that....😒I guess they expect me to shrink so that my performance don't make them feel inferior.....stupid people worry about all the wrong things...I'm focused on ways of making the day run smoother while they are trying to figure out how to confuse the day so that they have more opportunity to yell at me in front of customers and belittle me more........Yeah most of those people are in the fast food restaurants......that's why their days always go crazy because they are always on a power trip...too busy trying to set others up to fail so that they can look stupid or get yelled at and cause customers to wait longer...these are the types of insecure idiots that will yell because they think it makes them look better by making you look like you are one doing everything wrong.......especially when you been there for years, then a new hire/new manager comes in and decides to treat you like you are new.....its funny the types of people they hire that go straight to management positions that dont even have any experience...I had to show her how to run register......that's one of the things that conniving😠.......I just sit back and observe and watch how karma unfolds immediately after they mistreat someone😔it happens all the time....lol when everything starts going wrong......computer fails,,, etc......I work with some nasty people that work hard at cutting me down everyday and making me feel lower than dirt as if they don't make any mistakes..........I'm suppose to feel crappy everyday because they feel insecure., and if these type of people think that another coworker is in desperate need of their job, they will think they can get away with abusing and bullying you.....they are under the impression that I am desperate for my job......😔they will be in for a big surprise when I ghost on them.......

Excellent content. Right on head. I quit, dont accept disrespect.

I had a co-worker, that did not like me because I was cool with the boss. He would play games, still don't understand. Fast forward to today, I approach him and told him, I should have came up to you and said I wanted to work alone more and somethings you did I took personally, but I did not went to my boss and that was not the right thing to do, did not even give him a chance. Had to tell because I felt like crap. Now I found from him that management is protecting me!! Now I look real bad. He says thank you for telling me, no worries, water under the bridge...no way this is going away. I am a coward, a asshole.

Especially if you are a visible minority AND quiet.

Hello Marie, I just watched your video and I must say you’ve given some absolutely brilliant advice. I’m going through a stressful tough situation, with a manager at my training centre. She critics everything wrong about me, wearing a coat in the work room etc, and she mocked my friend in an interview knowing that he is dyslexic. She is very arrogant in the voice, and is very narcissistic. She has told me that if I have not found a work placement soon, it would be a matter of time before she stops funding the training. She told me that everything I was saying about my efforts on job seeking, was a load of rubbish and mocks me for wearing a coat when others are too. The tutor started backing her up when he was wearing a coat too which was contradictive. I’d gladly appreciate your personal advice! Much love! ❤️

There needs to be stores for customers and employees who go into overdrive with the ass kissing each other. Then have stores where neither one cares about each other. Just do your business and get out.

A quiet person is a coward in their eyes.