I’m been 10 months, and I’m still hurt and angry I don’t feel I can play it casual as it nothing happened. Betrayal is a hard pill to swallow to overlook.
What I do is keep my composure and treat them like any other stranger on the streets. Don’t give attitudes cause that’s showing you still care, don’t ignore cause that’s still a sign, give a friendly nod and keep walking and if they don’t nod keep it pushing. Worse thing to do is show that you are still hurt and upset even if you are upset pretend to be unbothered as best as you can than when you get home vent, or go to the gym and get a good workout in and get all the toxins out your body. And if you already been to the gym take a yoga class. It works.
There is a principal error in the whole thing: WANTING to get your ex back is already a fixation on the outcome. But all the techniques are designed to reach that outcome. That's an inner contradiction. It is like mental acrobatics. I think the most important thing is the mid range principle, the GOLDEN RULE of the middle. Avoiding extremes. Also applied on the breaking up situation, heartbrake and so on. The balance of letting go and acting. Well, to find out, what is right.
