Great video! One thing I disagree with is that you can absolutely have hookups while living with your parents. Go straight to your room, skip the intros and polite small talk, get it done. They very well might be cool with it and congratulate you. Or you get forced to move out, but in that case that’s really what you want in the first place.
One thing that I have always had difficulty with is hookups as a teenager. At this stage in my life whether I'm a late teenager or 20 and I still live with my parents. I always wondered it would be possible.
From my experience after a few hook ups with multiple women, I realized that this ain’t worth it for me. Sex for me as a very vulnerable thing, and not an insecure type of way, but it’s very intimate. And to be super intimate with someone who doesn’t even care about you like that or that I don’t care about just feels very shallow, an empty and honestly not even worth it. It’s not that I don’t like sex. I love sex with somebody in an exclusive relationship when we actually really love each other and are committed to one another. It’s so much better then.
I have a agreeable opinion on this. I mean I’m much younger then the majority of this channels audience ( I assume at mid to late 20’s as I’m 21 2 months ago.) I know I have the ability to have sex with girls but I choose not to for the sole reason of my believe in god. There is also the factor of just wanting to have the control over my urges
@@stevea2125 yeah, I’m talking about me particularly… If you think hooking up and sleeping around with random women is fun then by all means you did you. I’ve always been a monogamous person. I can totally be hooking up with a lot of girls if I felt like it, but like my comments at it before I realized it just wasn’t worth it. Never resonated with hook up culture.
@@Getitdone21084 so wanting meaningful relationships and preferring that over meaningless hook ups is beta? If anything, thinking you need to have a high body count in order to be alpha or thinking you have to be Alpha Male at all is really beta. Lol I used to think like that actually, that I would be a Chad if I was racking up my body count, but the idea of where am I really trying to be promiscuous just so I can tell the boys I hit? That’s true beta mentality. Like if you wanna be like that that’s fine, but you’re not more or less valuable because of how many girls sleep with. Anyone who thinks that is beta.
David is one of the most important self help guys on the internet no doubt. Between admitting ED, taking TRT, etc, dude is going out of his way to make men feel better about themselves compared to other influencers that act like they have no flaws. Plus, being “red pill” yet still believing in marriage and monogamy instead of insisting otherwise? Very important figure in the space.
Hey, I'm 29 and still a virgin. I'm a 50/50 in ok with it and somewhat ashamed of it. Hopefully I can find and know a gal that will be cool/comfortable with me. I've been close over 5 times in my life and now I owe it to myself after physically recovering from losing my ability to walk for over a year. Thanks with your video man!
Same I also still live with parents it’s tough to live on your own. Just think you’d be at risk for having a kid birth control and condoms don’t always work. I know I’m not financially stable to take care of a kid right now many people seem to rush having a kid they aren’t prepared for. But still I wish you luck not trying to talk you out of this. I want a girlfriend more for companionship rather than just sex.
I'm in the same situation (just turned 28). I was ashamed of it a couple of years ago but then I thought that doing it with some random chick from tinder or hinge just ain't worth it. I got my own place, I meditate, found a proper skincare routine, I'm going to the gym 3-4 times a week (+boxing once a week) and I quit my job to focus on my own business (affiliate marketing/seo). Since going all-in with self-improvement, I'm literally the happiest I've ever been. That feeling of progress and peace is just awesome and it's very addicting. And I don't even care about it anymore. Chasing girls is just not a priority in my life. I wish you guys all the best and don't ever let it bring you down... it's all in your head.
What actions did you take after you decided you wanted to get laid, im in a rut right now when it comes to dating tryna get back in there and meet some women
are you a virgin right now? Learnt a lot of pick up content and started approaching women in any situations basically, downloaded tinder, hitted gym, got my fashion etc. @@MrMoneyBlowin
In 2 months I think. I dunno, girls started appearing in my life magically and I started to be not scared and actually approaching myself. I was too hungry for ejaculation. And also Tinder gave me some kind of illuision of choice to get confidence, but I had 0 sex from there. Only offline approaches @@djdude001
From experience, nothing compares to hooking up with a girl you have feelings for. Dont think hooking up with random chicks will leave you satisfied and happy long term...
21 year old virgin? Rookie numbers💁♂️ I was 26 the first time🤣 When I was 22-23 women were running from me because the could smell my insecurities and anxiety from miles away
What do you mean by better? Having an easier time getting laid, or having ''skills'' in the bedroom? I got better in the bedroom, that just takes a lot of practice. This video explains that well. But I have no idea how to get laid other than the old school getting to know eachother face to face and have sex on the 3rd date type of stuff. I mean, if you lower your standards you can get laid after parties and easily via Tinder. But when you aren't one of those top 10-20% of the guys that sleep with 80-90% of the women you end up sleeping with someone so ugly that you'll hate yourself. As long as you look okay and are in good shape, you can get a decent looking woman if you approach her face to face.
28 years I had when I finally didi it and am still not getting consistent hookups. But it all comes down to financial resources, this is what is holding me to having more freedom plus more results.
Some guys like casual sex, some not. Some, need emotional attachment, some not. It's completely fine. Live in harmony with yourself and do what's right for you.
I've hooked up with many women not sober, but have had the problem with ED like you Dave. Sober I can't remember having sex with penetration. It's the biggest fear, along with abandonment holding me back from a relationship. But more so it's the sober sex. I tried the worrying route and failed 8 times staying hard, worrying if it'll happen again this time and avoiding escalating sexually. Your point of you going through it, accepting those 2 fears and being ok with it if it happens is such a valuable insight for me. I've watched you for the past 3 years, thanks for sharing you're story about ED and in general. I'm accepting that it could happen and I'm going to be ok. Because it has happened and I"m ok.
I also experienced Ed once last and like I was a walking humiliation. The girl left me, my self confidence became low but later decided that it ll soon go and since then it hasn't happened, I just had to understand that sometimes a lot myt be through yo mind but u should put too much pressure on yourself.
@@geraldsimbao3163 thank you for sharing brother. Yeah it's a lot of pressure I put to perform. I stress myself out. I will tell that to myself "it'll soon go away".
Bro should have used fire and ice condoms by trojan shit literally keeps u hard wo trying,most ed is bs, guys just get anxiety during performance, and create the though of ed in there head
@@geraldsimbao3163this is cue craving response reward When we have sex brain says “oh this is cool” but when it dont work brain is dissapointed You need to realise how brain works
Bro its not that easy. I cant even get one date. I've asked out dozens of girls at the gym. They either say no or give me a number then change their mind when I text them. The last girl said she simply isnt interested
@@francispanny5068 I've never had an issue. As long as you're respectful and read the room there won't be a problem. These horror stories where a man gets kicked out happens in some weird state like Arkansas
@@bro918 Girls are also pretty awkward and expect you to be confident. I'm not always in a charismatic mindset. This is one thing that really ticks me off about dating
I honestly like how relatable this guy is and how honest he is about his past, he doesn't just BS and play a character but actually has had similar experiences and was honest
I've slept with around 100 women. It didn't improve my life, but it did take away from a lot of time that I could've used building my body, business, and mental fortitude.
ive also been also around 40 women, and sure while it doesnt improve life objectively, you do need to harness this skill as a man but alas, you do need to sometimes spurn it to build your brand, I have one chick who I just DM'ed on fb lol, who is inviting me over, for it but i have to spend the weekend building my business and tommorow is my last day of gym sub for a week so gotta skip the girl to work on my company and gym, but you are 100% right, if I had been less in control of it I probably wouldnt have built my business if i was spending all that time with women, but anyways no point in writing these kind of comments.. there are just some guys who are starving for cheeks, so dont discourage them lol, being a rizzgod is an extremely important skill whether you want to admit it or not, could be good to get a gf lol
MY EXPERIENCE : Its better to have a genuine girlfriend / good wife , than wasting lots of time & energy on these junk relationships. Since more than 6 months i never mastrubated , nor saw any po*rn , nor got any attracted to any women. I decided to FOCUS on my GOALS which helped me out of all these distractions. Having a better time now spending time with mom, dad, sister, friends.
Do you not have any feeling that something is missing in your life without a girlfriend/sex? I don’t mean you need to have it every week but it’s a part in life if I’m speaking for myself that is important as well with the good benefits it gives
@@manchesterunited5614 Bro, to be honest, i dont feel anything now that i am missing anything. I will tell you why. I am more focused in doing lots of other activities like - Playing Guitar, Going to Gym, Spending time with friends , family , Learning health cooking.. So, there is no time to think about a girl or sex or po*n movie to watch. I will have proper sex when the time comes to marry with the right girl where there will be emotions and love . Right now i feel these are all distractions ruining our life with a girl friend, paid sex, watching po*n etc. I am having a healthy life now stopping all these activities, Having good sleep, good peaceful energy inside soul and mind.
Having sex and being intimate with the person, you’re with also helps the relationship to grow and make everything very exotic and special and the love keep growing
My body count 0 and I’m 39 with no game. I’m living the 40 year old virgin story soon. What you are telling me in this video about how you used to feel around women. Thanks for video
What if your a guy(like me)who wants to find a girl,build a good,sustainable relationship.I dont know why but i dont want to do multiple hook ups with multiple woman,i probably want to find one woman to love and be in a relationship with
Honestly bro it all starts with dating multiple women. That way you get to know them and understand what you're really looking for in a woman. You don't have to hook up on the first date ofc, even if it happens for the first time on the 5th date it's alright
Brp just ask god for the right woman youd rather listen to advice from some sprag than believing god even if you dont believe in yourself and that you will meet your dream girl soon , you dont needa date alot of chicks
I think being a virgin is a good thing, I'm 24 years old and still going strong .i think the world that we live in now is that society wants to make it seem like being a virgin is something to be ashamed of ,when in reality it's not at the end of the it's your choice 💯
For step four and if your still living with your parents and she isn't and the date (most likely for just a hock uo) goes well. Do you just say something like "Hey, I'm having a good time. Would love to keep this going, should we go back to your place to listen to some music and have a drink?" I know if you want to have an actual relationship, then you say something like "Hey I had a great time with you tonight and would like to see you again"
It’s funny how most of your videos that have the highest views are based off titles about how to get women. Rather than men focusing on how to level up their own minds / $ / fitness videos. You can know everything about game / pulling women , but if you don’t focus on your mind / $ / body ~ all you’re left with is game / knowledge & no pussy / no money.
I had my time in my mid 20's (I was 24 when I chose to lose it), and about 12 years later, it wasn't worth it.. Rather have a real relationship. But nowadays thats impossible too.
David don't lead people astray. No sex before marriage is a good thing because the bible says so. What is the use of sleeping with tones of women when it is a sin? Jesus died for you and all these earthly pleasures are nothing, use your platform for good. I am a fan of yours but when it comes to this I ain't
David, you teach young guys to stay away from *orn but 90% of your thumbnails and your wife showing too much of her boobs are trigger and they always make me go back to *orn hubs and i have decided to turn off notification for ur channel. i know a lot of guys can testify to this
Self improve looks max keep groomed be well rounded and at the same time practice and work on your skills with women but always remember your purpose is always above that be mysterious build your body understand attraction and deal with women that want to deal with you and rather than dealing with women for how good they look vet them properly and complement and deal with them for the person they are and for the value they bring to your life not for the way they look treat them no better than anyone else make them compete nice guys finish last 💯
I never had that stress and my first hook up was on my 14th birthday which I used as an excuse to hookup lol we both did it together for our first time
Book a flight out of the U.S. to a country with less hippo's. Rent a pretty young garden tool every night for two weeks. Then fly back to the U.S. and ignore the B's. Repeat as needed. You will be happier then 99% of married men that have the same stale hole. And will get divorce graped if they want out.
Hey David, I'm a junior in college and what I have noticed is that all the hot girls in college are NOT serious about getting into a relationship. I've tried probably 100 times at this point and women just care about partying and staying single so they can meet lots of guys. I have a good body, job, etc. but because I'm not a frat boy I feel like I'm seen as low value. Any advice? Thanks
They are a lost cause. Forget about them because the higher value women you will find elsewhere. I'm a junior in High school so I cannot provide with further advices so good luck
Sorry bud but college is very much highly based on social status. I was a very handsome fit guy too but frat boys who were 5/10 smoked me cause their social status. In college days the popular and athletic guys will get all the girls. Good news is once those guys graduate they loose their status so your time to shine will come
You're on a college campus, surrounded by hundreds, if not thousands, of young women still in the last throws of the raging hormones of puberty, and you seek a relationship? There's your problem right there. Classic mistake. You're taking marriage on the first date, when you should be taking sex. You're jumping ahead in the Lust, Like, Love progression when she's still on the first step. If you want to imprint on her, give her a few o's to relax her deeply, then give her neck a lot of attention in the aftercare cuddles. She'll melt. Take it from an old Bad Boy, it's all about attitude. Frat boys ain't nothing, man. They're dogs, joiners, conformists. Would a Bad Boy submit so abjectly to other men, as they do when they pledge? Hell no! A true man has his pride. Dogs chase the cats and the cats chase the rats. The Bad Boy scares the hell out of the Frat Boy. He really wishes he could be one, but he loves the leash way too much. Submissives. Don't pay them no mind. They're just background noise. You've got all those kittens to study.
jerkoff beforehand, wear a condom, switch positions when you start to get near the point of no return, learn to focus on other things like her body rather than how you feel
Sex is suppose to define a strong bond between you and your partner, it’s not just a good feeling situation it’s the moment that you can feel the most attached to your partner. People that have sex constantly are not fulfilling them selves, but creating a deeper hole in them selves where it makes harder for them to feel true love, because all the love falls in that hole making it harder to get it back. Hebrews 13:4 “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
I have so many problems with this video. Makes me sad that you are an example to young men, yet promoting hookup culture. Being a real man is having the self control to respect women and not indulge in satisfying your lust through hookups. Furthermore you mentioned that you used to think a girl wouldn’t be comfortable going back to your place after a first date. THEY SHOULDN’T. The quality women out there know their worth and have morals. They too should have the self control to resist the urge to let themselves be a hit and run
I don't know but for me the hardest thing is the first approach. Sometimes I wanna hang out with a girl I don't know yet and this process of getting to know her is almost impossible cause we have never seen each other. Also my circle is not around women. But when I already know a girl is a lot easier and then I ask her out and this whole process of getting to know is much easier and smoothier.
get out of your head and just chat her up like "are you from here?" is a good one, but really the secret is practice makes perfect, the more approaches you do the easier it becomes
@@szn1580 bro that’s all in your head, just go out in a club with friends or at the gym and introduce yourself to random girls they are human too like why being scared
The email baited is on asking if we have a body count less than six..as if people need help if their body count is less than.Being a hoe is not cool man or woman I'm not saying anyone who has had sex with more than 6 women is a hoe just saying there is nothing wrong with qualifying women better and being super picky as you can get a lot of experience or meet your future wife with less than six body count.
I am glad being a Christian where following God is a priority over s3x. I want to be a godly man, not a man that fks everything that moves. Idk, s3x has just not ever appealed to me and I have never thought about it. I'm too busy either in the gym or at my job to think about it. I'm 28, still a virgin. Also, peer pressure to have s3x isn't a good reason to have it either. You're just asking for stds.
I have to admit I've watched several videos based on this and although I'm not a virgin I have s3x not that regular but I do but this video really changed my perspective on how to approach girls in hope to get more s3x and obviously understand girls more so definitely I'll test the tips, thank you very much bro keep up the good work.
Can we take a moment to show How to Beast some appreciation 👏 I've been missing for 3 months… I've just started posting videos on my RU-vid channel again. Thank you for supporting my journey. We got this men. 🤜🤛
Getting dates for me is easy. Once I'm on the date I need to learn how to relax, have a good time and connect with her. Be playful and charming and not let it turn into a question and answer interrogation
It’s easy. Just be the Alpha “Guy friend” or the backup QB. You learn a lot about women that way. It’s almost like being a real boyfriend , but without the headaches or responsibilities
The only way to overcome this is to face your fear and talk to women. Go to the mall and think of bs things to ask the women that work in the stores to get them talking don't ask them out just talk about other things.
As a former shy guy, you need to improve your social skills in general. Learn how to carry a conversation with people in your life. Try to talk to one new person a day, man or woman, it doesn’t matter, even if it’s brief. After you done this for a few months, talk to women in low risk, socially acceptable situations. For example, asking directions. After you are comfortable doing that, you can have regular conversations and ask for numbers. Ask for their opinion about something, start a conversation about something they have, etc. Be prepared to do 90% of the talking and, most importantly keep talking, even if you’re not sure what to say. Once you’ve talked for 10 minutes or so, the vibe is good and it seems like she wants to know more about you, exchange numbers. The anxiety never goes away 100% but once you get enough practice, you’ll feel confident and you’ll realize that it’s not a big deal.
Im at the point in my life (27) that I am bored of hook ups. This is not meant to sound like a brag but I ve done so many hook ups that it kind of became boring for me now. Im just trying to look for wifey now. Trust if you are into hook ups, by all means go for it! It can be fun but it does get boring after a while or at least I eventually got bored of it. I also like how you brought up the awkward part. In the very beginning, it can be awkward especially if its your first time but just remember, even if it ends up being awkward, dont be hard on yourself. Just keep trying. After a few times, youll be a pro and know what to do for the next time you bring a girl over.
After some time, you begin to understand that sex is not the most important thing. Crucial word "the most". Sex is fun and pleasure, but in the long term, better is to have someone by your side than only easy girl to hookup with. Wisdom come with experience.
There is a hard reality to women and relationships. A man should be focused on himself and his career, not a female. Men, build your assets and your core values. Stop waisting time chasing women and chase things that make you more valuable. Focus on building a better version of you and high quality women will chase you. A woman who falls in love with you quickly, will fall out of love with you just as quick. Same principle for women who will jump quickly into bed with you, will jump out of your bed quickly and into another man's bed.
I think it is important to learn that girls are like beautiful flowers one the road, you can pick up.. just remember, dont pick her up, if you dont want to be with her, that is self respect, and makes you a Man.. because when you have learned this, you are the Lion in the Jungle,
I hate that world works this way, that there's chads and incels, that i so ashamed of myself to even just talk to a girl, that everyone will criticize your every f*cking action, you may pretend other's opinion don't matter, but it DOES
Very informative, thanks David. I have the POOOOOWWWEEEERRRR!!!! If you got that reference congrats if you don't that's from old 80's cartoon of He-Man and the Masters of the Universe.
