How to heal from a traumatic breakup: Practical tips that have helped me through my divorce at 21 

Hi there, friend break ups can some times be harder than a relationship in a way. I am so sorry to hear that but am really glad these tips helped!

I feel like I could’ve wrote this. How are things now? I’m still in early/ planning/ preparing stages.

Same here, but I finally did it recently. I hope all of you are doing okay.

Hi Treena, I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you. That is awful and yes, is very shocking. Its shocking when someone you love and care about and even respect betrays you. There is no wrong or right way to feel this heartbreak and you are so strong for just being here today. I am proud of you

I was hurt by that and he could tell then he continued to make a joke and said they kissed and after he told me that I felt sad and cried a little I kind of forgave him but it was still on my mind. The same day I texted him and told him how I was feeling but he just kept saying that I’m just overthinking and should just trust him but in my mind it’s like I can’t trust someone who told me they wanted a break I gave it to them just for them to entertain someone else while I was missing them.. couple of days later he told me he’s gonna go talk to a friend but a girl he used to messed with would be there . I asked him three times what they would talk about and he said he would tell me after they speak. After they had the discussion he told me what happened and what they talked about but he didn’t tell me that it was just him and the girl he used to mess with that was there instead he gave off the impression that all three of them were present . I confronted him about it and he lied saying that the other girl was Otp so technically she was there which made no sense.

After that, he decided that he wanted us to stop talking or to date because it was too overwhelming, and I was asking him questions and didn’t trust him if I kept asking him questions. I was hurt because it’s like I forgave him for many things, and now that it was his turn to nurture me because he’s why I couldn’t trust him, he decided to leave. I felt betrayed and as if my time was wasted because it’s like, damn, why are you not willing to fight for us like I am eager to.. it’s like he didn’t care honestly I expressed how I felt time and time again and he would just say that I’m constantly repeating myself , I’m acting like a have a spirit inside of me, I’m childish, I’m obsessed all these hurtful things when all I wanted was for him to understand how I was deeply feeling inside. I ended up being rude back and told him to go to hell. He blocked me and unfollowed me on Instagram. Something happened couple days later and something told me to go the spot that we would normally hang. I arrived there and I caught him with the girl he was entertaining the girl he told me not to worry about. I knew it n I felt betrayed he later on texted me saying it’s not like that n he was just giving her advice .

I ended up letting him back in just for him to give me false hope again and just leaving like nothing happened and told me to lose all expectations of him and that “but who’s to say that you take this time and build yourself and your own genuine relationship with god that things may change. But we can’t get there cause you won’t do that.” Now I just don’t know how to feel. I just want to get rid of this feeling.

I found learning about “attachment style” ( a ton of content, you can just look it up on RU-vid.) Can set you free, understand our behaviors & theirs. Provides compassion for ourselves & care for ourselves to avoid giving , accepting too much & see unhealthy dynamics going forward. Sending you blessings

Thank you for watching!!

I am so glad! Thank you for watching!🫶🏼

Aw thank you 🥺

some how I stumbled on yo your story..I am more than 40 yrs older but somehow resonated with your story and journey of healing...wish I had done what you are now doing 15 yrs ago...you are an inspiration