1) Humans for the most part subconsciously assign values to other individuals - Those with a higher value are obviously perceived and treated with more respect people are drawn to you automatically desire to become your friend - As for those with a lower value are not and are often ignored 2) How do we determine value? & How do we increase it? a) Hygiene, If you can't even take care of yourself people won't expect you to be able to take care of them Physical Attractiveness, Having generally good health and having characteristics such as being ill, overweight and tired. Secondly, people also look for good genetics to ensure the survival of offspring Fashion is able to obscure or take the attention away from those flaws or at least make the perception of you more appealing b) Status, How influential is this person (wealth is usually something people use to indicate this) Career is tied to status is as well the better the career the more a person tends to be valued c) Social proof, being well known or having a large number of friends, this is one of the most powerful indicators of the perception of value placed on you d) Demeanour, how a person carries themselves, IE body language e) Tonality, the way one speaks f) Frame, The ability to handle stressful conditions essentially stoicism and confidence
Only the shallow and superficially ignorant masses judge people based on these criteria. The enlightened make no judgement, but look at someone and wonder what's under the surface, because everything in this list can be nothing but a facade and you'll never know if you make judgemental preconceptions.
As harsh as it sounds, it is very eye opening. I believe that as long as you take the best of the advice and not blindely follow every word you hear on the internet, you can tremendously improve your life and that’s what it’s really about. The desire to be better is what separates us from animals :) Thank you, Improvement Pill
Indeed, there are some points in this vid that we'd preffer not to be like that , but that's just how it is and how things works on society. For those who really want to improve at making friends, these are some valid advices.
Thank you, Improvement Pill. Being high value is good but a word of warning be aware of those who try to be 'friends' with you, only to take from you and not add value. I always find there's an issue where people are always trying to make friends with those of higher value but do not operate in a state of giving value, instead they take or worse act too needy.
Amaani exactly! i feel like i‘m somewhere in a middle ground and i only rarely struggle with fake friends. friends of mine that are very attractive seem to draw them in like moths. not sure what i‘d want more lol
I absolutely love your videos! Thank you for deciding to make your "Be Tamed" and "Bee Friend" course free; as they provide such value, to everyone. Your hard work and passion for what you do, TRULY come through in the final products, which are your videos.
dear Mr. I.P. will you do a video about how to keep your cool when others insult and/or force you to snap out to get an unwanted reaction of you? if no, any possible advice on the topic?
I hate that this is called “value”. Hate it. Social significance, power, or popularity but not value. Every life has value. It’s the unfortunate ones who miss the hidden treasures all around us.
wether you like it or dont like it there, you can change it with hard work except if a accident happend and you have to accept it. you cant change the fact, crying abt it doesnt work
I feel like the title is misleading. I tried to find a video that rather made you feel worthy regardless of suiting to others. I think that is key, especially if you are in a desolate state. It is important to value yourself regardless of the circumstances.
Everyone has value based on perspective and it's real and its will always be there no matter how much you like. You either take advantage of the social system or fall behind because you think its unimportant. The best option is to beat the system of the judgemental society be genuinely happy with your self.
I am Doctoral graduate of psychology. A lot of the information provided on this channel is pop psychology. Meaning, it’s not based on psychological theory. What separates a person with an opinion from one with a facts is empirical evidence. Psychology is based on empirical evidence and data. This video maker is just opinionated and relays pop psychology for entertainment. Every person is different and not all gestures, body language and behavior mean the same thing for everyone
Dude, people in psychology are still rolling with Freud due to his closeness to western values but undermine the ideas of Jung due to how Eastern inspired they are and how they lack large scale proper empirical evidence. But 7 times out of 10 I would go with ideas of Jung due to how applicable they are, irrelevant of background research. What you have is over reliance on work of others. Plus knowledge of cultural context is pretty obvious. I am not sure whether you try to comfort yourself by undermining value of perceived values, but information in the video was uninspiringly obvious.
True. I find some of the videos give me something interesting to think about at least, but I've also noticed a few that contain obviously bad advice. If I saw someone exhibiting all the behaviors encouraged in this particular video, I would very much not want to be friends with them, because they're showing that they feel self-important, whether intentional or not, and giving off vibes of unapproachability.
well, psychology should help us in our lives right? so it should be like subjective, right? so people like me can understand it and relate to it irl? and use real time working methods and info? I know what you mean by different people have different views. But that means, for a fraction of people, be it half, 1/4th, or 3/4th, this info is relatable.
Dude, this is so great. This is basically learning how to make friends for people who are really intelligent when it comes to most things but idiots to the basic things. Aka me. Also I’m partially a visual learner so the color coding in this entire thing seems like professional teaching. Great job bro.
To anyone reading this, don't feel pressured to have and exhibit everything. It will sap the life and love outta you. Choose one thing and work on that until it becomes unconscious and a part of you-a habit. It's not a formula. Don't lose yourself trying to gain others, but remember that no one is an island; we need others, too.
What i've seen - most (90% of) ppl ignored and isolated me becuz i was so called [low valued] person. A loner, who nobody respected. I never fit in much.... is what i felt, so it becomes a dream for ppl like me to have a loot of friends and stuff. Yes prolly low self esteem, but as we achieve some stuff, we can see our self esteem grow a lil bit!! But, tell me, does anyone have a 100% of self esteem at all times? No right If yes.pls tell meWhat to do to get such agreat self esteem power
it's the second day of school and I watched so many videos last night because I was having a hard time speaking to people and now I have an entire friend group, ur videos work wonders my man
Walking into work and everyone greets you happily and giving our self-made handshakes before the managers get mad is the best feeling on Earth. It makes me feel wanted
Be yourself is relative. Of course it is important to be authentic. But Who you are today and who you were five years ago is probably not The same person. What if you do not want to be yourself? What if you want to improve?
Omg im always crossing my arms when talking with people im not close with but if im with my family or close friends they're never crossed and im always using them along with my talking. Wow that was a big realization for me 😂👍
Hopefully going to make a video on this in the not to distant future. A few things, make a to do list, remove all distractions until the task is complete, break down the goal into actionable chunks and reward yourself with little treats on completing actions
I am always amazed by the quality of the content Improvement pill comes with. The quality gets better and better and that's such an inspiration for people like me who just started their animation channel. Keep up the amazing work. You deserve each and every subscriber!
Being self-reliant is far more important than having friends. I deleted the social aspect of my existence long ago. I require no approval, nor attention, from anybody. I learned the hard waym. Being social has an enormous amount of negatives. However, it offers very few benefits. I have no friends, no girlfriend. I have no value to others. I require no social status. However, my self-reliance, independence, resourcefulness, level of peace, freedom, amounts of free time, and inventiveness are far higher than that of any social person.
I really thank you that you showed the biggest factor of relationships even in kids being the tall or handsome kid at class can give you popularity guess is just instict.
Personally, thinking of our own worth depending on our social status or assets is wrong and only leads us to demise. That led me to see myself as worthless all these years, so i decided to stray away from it.
I think that... it cannot be ignored that value exists. Some you wear(like clothes) Some you are (personality) Some are part of you ( skills like fixing stuff playing instruments)
This is very narrowminded to say the least. Expressing somebody's "value" like that. I think that having the same value is more important it make you feel like you have something in common. For instance millonaires are more likely to have friends that are also millionaires. And most often both partners like to have a comparable value in looks and finance.
Bro a new guy game to our class. It was his 2nd day in our school and there was a small test of 25 marks. The teacher gave him a exemption from writing the test since he’s new. But he rejected the offer and wrote the test instead. He scored the highest marks. Everyone ever since looked at him as a valuable person He don’t socialise or talk much. He socialise only when others socialise with him. He’s not rich he’s not handsome but he got a whole huge gang. He just stays idle in that group, like he dosnt do anything but his gang does everything for him.
Even if we don't like the advice in this video let's be honest what he's saying is true. We'd all rather hang out with our friends than with the rude, narcissistic teacher that we all had at one point
Question: you mentioned Social Proof as a factor, you gave the example that if someone sits in a corner people are less likely to interact and care as opposed to witnessing someone who’s more popular than the quiet corner guy. Personally, I find myself finding more easy to reach out to and interact with the quiet guy in the corner because I think they’re more approachable vs the guy who seems more popular and is all over the room because I perceive it as less threatening and more accepting I guess. Maybe it’s because I’m an introvert idk. So, is it the case that some people may have opposing views about this? Maybe some of us and intimidated by the popular guys and feel more comfortable reaching out to the guy in the corner.
Don't take everything said in this video for granted. this guy isn't some kind of seer or prophet. this is just a general theory and honestly most of these improvement channels say all of these as if they would be undeniable facts, they sound like know it all smartasses. not saying they are bad, they can be helpful sometimes. but the amount of advices i listened from these people and figured out to be complete BS later in life is quite alot. In the past i was the same but i gained confidence over the years and now i find it easier to talk to popular people and im slightly more anxious to talk to less popular people especially if they have a cool or qurky personality or appearance (for girls). mainly because i dont care anymore if i get ignored or rejected by popular people since it happend so many times in the past. but being rejected by someone on "the lower end of the social ladder" would really fucking hurt. its not even as if i ignore them because i think less of them, i dont know, the roles somehow switched for me over the years. i'd have no stress dating a girl who is considered "super hot and mainstream" by the general society but i would be pretty anxious if i would date a girl who is less popular but has a personality that i find interesting
Me and my friends spend half of our time insulting each other and laughing it off with sarcastic remarks. But that’s only with friends I know don’t mind. Every now and then I slip a joke to some of my other friends and they get upset and it just leaves me with an unpleasant feeling.
It’s crushing to know that looking sick/tired lowers how other people perceive you. “Hit the gym, improve your diet” what if I’m chronically ill? I’m constantly fatigued and in pain. I am sick, and that’s just how things are. I’m still beautiful & worthy but I know in social situations people notice how “unhealthy” I look:
What if you literally feel exhausted by having to maintain a ton of relationships, and just feel happy with having a solid group of great friends? Other people might perceive you to have less worth but that doesn't mean you should think that of yourself.
Reminder for me to start implementing changes in my life so that at least 1 year from now i can be high value worth person. For my satisfaction and having some nice impression on world while i m living.
Iv been using your method of climber to socialize with new people and have found that it gets me to a much stronger relationship very quickly and now I am able to network much. thank you
Improvement Pill, I once loved you, but as time goes by you seem to have developed delusions of grandeur. You sent me an email contaning "Want To Talk To Me On The Phone For Almost Free?!?!?!!" - Dude, this is unacceptable.
Any advice on how to remember a lot of names in short time? I am meeting a bunch of new people and in the future it will be likely that we'll meet again. What should I do to not forget their names? So that I will not embarass myself. Btw Good video, simply aims to the point.
@@InumnantOmnia Ikr, but it's kinda hard when you meeting 15 people for about an hour. In this time I may miss the topic. Anyway thanks for advice, I'll try to use it more often.
I just write people's names down. The first time people find it funy, but when you can recall their name (don't read while speaking to them, do it a minute before) they are ok with it c:
I'm sorry but for for some reason, the "Looks" and "wealth" section just lowered my self-esteem, even if I'd conquered one of them. Its like your telling me to don't be yourself and do this instead. Remember guys, working on your looks and wealth in ORDER TO MAKE FRIENDS will only increase you SELF CONFIDENCE, not make you high value or automatically attractive IMO. If your doing it to make friends, your seeking validation and thats a bad thing to do, only do it for yourself, not others. Dress whatever you want, not what people tell you to wear or do. I.e. I'm dressed emo and I feel more confident than looking like what every stereotypical handsome guys are etc. and more people admired that because I was "being Myself/original' an made me more of an interesting person. And gym is not the only way to get fit, I skateboard and I'm fine with being skinny than swole, and that makes me feel more valuable (I'm not saying don't go to the gym, I'm saying there's so many ways to exercise, like it can be your favorite sport and such). Hence, learn how to LOVE YOURSELF in order to increase value. And with wealth, its kindof a different subject, again, work on wealth to value your time and freedom, not validate to others. And it doesn't matter how much money you make just as long as you feel fulfilled, you don't need to be millionaire in order to be wealthy. LOVING YOURSELF is the best way to be high value than any other, even if you are poor and fat but happy as ever, its superfine. Remember that guys.
This is actually an awesome subject to talk about. Be yourself will always be your best option in order to be happy and gain real friends but it’s also true that if you are looking for get “status” (status is a tricky subject) then you will need to fit into some of the categories that society thinks that are valuable. Not saying that this is how things should be but if you want a nice job or search for network then being entirely yourself (unless your true self happens to be everything society likes) is not going to always help you. Let’s say that you need booth a being you persona and a social approved persona, talking about the real world this is more convenient that just being yourself regardless of anything. With that being said I really dream of a world when people can just be however they like and none judge them, but meanwhile if you want to have conventional “success” then this is the best I think you can do.
Okay if you feel like looking less attractive and having less money it’s okay, but it’s a fact that the more attractive you look and the more money you have in your bank account the more people will want to be with you. Anyhow, social proof (personality basically) is worth much more than looks and wealth. So even looking “emo” and being “broke” you could get friends. Being rich and looking as attractive as you can would just make the process of getting friends easier.
6:31 is Frame the same thing as self-control. If someone calls you insultingly, or a car cuts you off, ignoring it means you are unaffected but you are also able to control your resulting emotions and actions.
Gotta work on those multiplier to increase my perceived value! It's something that I have been lazing about, but to be honest, other people quickly judge you for a lot of things nowadays. What mentioned here are things that can be work overtime (may take years of practice). But once you give in halfway, well, get back up!
I don't like this at all. People should just stop placing labels of how much a certain person is worth. This is supporting the fact that it's okay to calculate the worth of a person which in my opinion should not be. I believe everyone is of equal worth and are all capable of so much. We should in fact look past their appearance, their money, their demeanor, and try to get to know what makes their individuality unique. If you're not genuine and are trying to act your way through life to become more likable, you won't be happy at all and possibly end up lashing out onto people due to your unhappiness. Just be more compassionate and patient to everyone around you, and approach those who aren't always approached. Talk to a homeless person on the street or a coworker or classmate, regardless of how they look and speak, and get to know them more. Respect everyone and most importantly, be yourself. :)
Increasing your own value is not "not being yourself". When one learns to love and respect themselves, one naturally improves and works on impressing /oneself/. Also, when you respect yourself you don't let just anyone into your life. There are standards you out onto yourself, and being selective with who you interact with shows who you really are. This video isn't asking you to go out of your way. This video is asking you to love yourself
You can complain about human nature or you can take advantage of it. Bring value to yourself, and use that to bring value to others. Be a positive force in the world. Use psychology and use it virtuously.
there is this guy on RU-vid called Universal Man, when he talks about stuff like this, he always differentiates between „dignity“ and „status“, saying that every person has an equal amount of inherent dignity as soon as they‘re born, but everyone has a different status. Status would then be what I.P talks about here. Maybe it sounds better to you to say „he has a higher status“ than „he is worth more“. Hope this made any sense 🙂
So when i joined a new school i knew nobody but there was this girl who really didn't have that presence in class but had some ok friends and i spoted that almost everything in these videos are the things she didn't have
To be honest, i don't give a damn who they know. Even if they know someone that well off, they are still working under me. As long as they are in my space/my place/area of my control, i dont give a damn who they are associated with. They are under my command now(i am responsible for their doing). Either they listen, or they can get the f out, i can do this myself with or without them!!! Just know who is in control. Wolfs follow the leader, and no one will cares about their past, either follow the lead, or you can find someone else
I am a teenage guy with no self esteem no friends no talent terrible at social skills and I can see how many mistakes I made every freaking day Thanks for this series
I'll be your friend even if all we can give each other is a smile. Death will take every thing from us any way, billionaire or beggar we all exit empty handed. Our spirits will be strengthened by soul connection and unity consciousness, the love that we give when others have nothing to give us in return. Life will humble all of us.
The Cookie Girl Gamer I hope you will be able to understand his message nonetheless. Not that “fat people are ugly” but rather that “being fat is seen as unhealthy and makes our primal instincts less attracted to that trait”
There is a difference between saying fat and just plus size. There's nothing wrong with being plus size it looks beautiful ❤️ what he was talking about was about people who are extremely overweight because they're eating unhealthy and develop bad habits that can seriously harm them.
I just want to say, he's right we judge people because of their heath, looks, and wealth. But If we go and talk to them for a while then they may judge us differently, Depending on our or they're personality. I call it the power of personalities.
