systembytodd.com Platonic, non-flirtatious interactions are, unfortunately, the norm for guys who aren't yet highly competent at game. Here is how to avoid them... even with smart, logical, classy girls ;).
Lol a part of me doesn't want to try some of this rude stuff. But another part of me knows I'll have fun, and that I'm usually pleasantly surprised when I try stuff I never have, before.
There’s a way to interrupt without being rude. Sometimes interjecting is more about being an active participant in the conversation EDIT: and to be clear, I'm not suggesting that Todd's advice was wrong, just suggesting a different way of looking at it. You're not being rude as much as it is you being playful. Fuck around in the context of what you're talking about
@@f_a_d_u_s you're 100% right. I was just on a call with a girl and I was talking as blunt as possible. At the the end I felt like a was kind of teasing her too much, but she couldn't help herself. She was questioning herself and wanted my approval throughout the whole phone call. This is just like what I saw in one of Todd's videos yesterday. Make yourself a source of validation for the girl and she can not help but chase you. And at the end it's a win win for both the man and the woman.
Myself ,I've learned to just talk to em like I would a guy,throw in some b.s.compliments and flirting once in awhile.It comes across as sincere and allows me to be myself instead of some pecker hard 17 yr old.The dames can tell if ur all nut tied and intimidated.
@@NavaGamingxo It is reasonable to assume that no girl want a stranger as boyfriend. But you can still date or hang out together to learn about the female interaction. They are no failure in approaching just learning experience.
Hey Todd you’re The best I remember that you had a video about how you study and learn things Can you please upload it again somewhere? It was really precious
Can you walk us through how to set up a good dating account for “passive income” you have touched on it lightly before but you never went into depth on it and whether or not the app matters like if ur on tinder vs bumble or tinder vs match ect
Hi Todd. Thanks for your immense help. Question for Ask ToddTV....What does game look like after sex on the 1st date - specifically if the girl is a 9 or 10. How do you keep yourself on her radar if there could be other prospective guys In the same position as you? Many thanks Nick
Well why do you want to keep a girl that's probably b*ngin' plenty of other dudes? Any case the better you're in bed the most likely she'll want to see you again
I matched with this girl on Hinge during the pandemic in Britain. We’ve been talking a month, I wanted to get her out quickly, but I was patient and waited until she was comfortable. So we began using voice notes and had a phone call and we agreed to meet last weekend. Bearing in mind that she didn’t stop laughing on the phone or when we’ve been texting, we have also been flirting and teasing each other, making the interactions fun. So, we finally met, I took the train and she met me at the station in her car. Immediately I went for the physical so I said “come on let’s have a hug”. We went for a good walk where we talked about life in general and I teased her a lot e.g. she knew the area, but one of the paths was incredibly muddy so I said “if it’s really bad I know who to blame”. She didn’t stop laughing at the things I was saying. We went to the store to buy ingredients to cook that night and even that was fun. I made sure I led the way, taking the basket etc. We went back to hers where I cooked a spaghetti Bolognese and where we teased each other and it just genuinely felt like we knew each other already. I went for the kiss, rubbed her nose before and gave her a quick kiss but she seemed shocked and went red so I pulled back. We ate dinner where she found out I liked country and she seemed really into it plus she didn’t stop asking me questions, had a game of scrabble where the banter was flying about how bad the other’s words were. We were making references about future plans. She said something like “well next time I’ll use my dictionary”. Anyway, I kept putting my leg on hers, initiating touch. She took me to the station and before I left, we shared a few kisses where both of us leaned in. She even touched my chest saying “you’re really warm”. I thought bingo. Got home, sent her a jokey message about her car because she’s got her own personalized number plate and then I said “I enjoyed myself today, especially winning at Scrabble with a gooseberry gin” to which she replied “Gooseberry gin was good, Scrabble hmmm…Company wasn’t bad though” with a smiley, cheeks blushing emoji. I replied “10/10 choice by me getting the gooseberry, bet you were sole destroyed at losing”. She’s a shoemaker so I always shoe puns with her to tease. But, she hasn’t replied. She did say she was meeting her friends the day after, but she read my message at 8:30am and was online for most of the day and I didn't get a reply. I truly thought I did everything right. Until, she texts me later that night saying "we should be friends". I've literally worked for a year to try and stop this happening and I've just come full f***g circle.
I wonder if teasing the disconnect would work: “If you kiss your friends like we did, then we can call it whatever floats your boat.” Some girls just don’t want the label until they’ve gone to bed with the guy. Even then, they’ll still use middle school concepts of “just friends who do it every Saturday.” Judge the actions, not the words.
Pretty much what the guy above me said and I would also like to add, if she was online for most of the time and didn't reply, it's very likely that her friend/s were looking at your chat and were judging her and telling her what to do next. I mean, you already know how female friends can be so this is most likely why she said "we should just be friends". I know it's a late reply but if it helps to readers then that's all that matters
That's so bullshit man, but I gotta say, if SHE invited you to HER HOME where you two were ALL ALONE and even with a bottle of motherfucking gin and you didn't get to fuck her, that's on you 100% of the time.
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Q: i’m generally pretty confident but when it comes to girls I like or find really attractive I become someone I’m not. What is the best attitude I should go in when confronting her
“I was too busy objectifying you to listen to that last little boring bit.” - That’s way too sleezy. I’d never want a woman who finds that attractive. I guess if someone is chasing a numbers game of low value, maybe it works. That is a low value flirt that will not work with a high value woman. It’s way too risky and if you can pull it off with an entire set on a high value woman, you’re likely advanced enough and way beyond being a PUA, to even use it.
Calling it "YOU tease vs WE tease" made it much more clear to me honestly even though the concect has already been touched on in other videos with other words. I think i have the "you tease" part figured out, could you go more in depth in the "we tease" thing?
use the word you and I in an interaction for eg. You and I aren't gonna get along(Eg.You and I).You should take me to dinner(Eg.You and me).I am flattered that you like me(I and You).You and me we are going to run the world(You and me).So in any interaction if you use (you and I,You and me,we,I and you)and make it about relationship.
Hey ,Todd, you talk about spiking emotions,or emotional spikes in the girl,I know there are diferent emotion that you can spike in a girl,a lot of your former colleagues from RSD,are mentioning about how to spike the girl emotions in order to attract them,and get them to engage, Max mentions this phrase a lot in his repertoirs,also i have seen you in your videos on the youtube channel talking about spiking emotions in some girls when you did coaching with a client, but can you actually do an entire video about how to spike emotions in the girls,what are the common emotion that you want to spike in a girl, and a sort of a maybe step by step process,in tehnical terms,for everyone,to do this easily. I hope you will see and read this comment ,Thank you ! Much appreciated!
Question for Ask ToddV. On a date that she has recently broke up, or she is emotionally unstable, what is the most correct way to proceed if she gives you hard time, even tho she likes you and even tho she agreed on a date ("pushing" until you r sure it's not gona happen or step back and aim on a second date?) Thanks in advance!
Here are some lines I have written on WE FRAME (We, You & I, You and Me, Us, Together) :- 1. That’s how we’re going to be? 2. That’s how it’s going to be between us 3. You’re definitely excited when we are together 4. You can’t turn back the time, who wants to ? We are cherishing this moment right now 5. I don’t like having bad habits but if it’s you I can surely manage 6. Every minute gets sexy as we go with the flow 7. If we ever have to decide that who’s the cooler one among us, I’ll let you be the cooler one cause it’s among us! 8. I just don’t want you to get cranky/grouchy till the time I comeback/ when we are not with each other 9. I can now assure you and me are the most crazy people of this era 10. Oh! So that easily you will let us drift away 11. We can surely turn off our brain and surrender ourselves to each other for a while 12. The world would have highest regards for us after they experience our level of joy 13. Yeah that’s exactly how we roll 14. You know what we look like? A girl and guy who looks innocent individually but devious when together 😉 15. Haha! This tells me that we’re rekindling our lives 16. I think you found your sanity in me 17. I had no clue we’re gonna meet someday 18. You’re a lil offbeat but we can work on that 19. We are going to faint if we don’t stop admiring each other 20. We are going to die if we don’t stop laughing I don’t know how good or bad are these but they can surely work if one knows how to use them (not all of them at once, in between the interaction) to regenerate i to you to we, for man-woman convo, intimacy, showing intent, not making it platonic! I hope it helps to whoever is struggling to understand or create some lines to use as I myself for a quite few days struggled with this. You can use these and slowly try to build yours. Keep gaming and keep killing it! Love, Ritwik 💙 India.
Hi Todd! You are amaizing. Let me ask you, what would you do in case like this: She mentiones a few times, that she doesnt want to kiss on the first time, she even told a story about her previous date when a guy escalated phisically too much and demanded kiss and that she likes it very slow, hovewer following her narrative we would probably end up being friends. So how do you think you would solve it?
“That sucks. Okay, I’ll let you be the one to kiss me then. I don’t mind the wait.” “I’m flattered you’re already thinking about my lips, but I’m actually on the same page. Let’s save it for the next date.” Her telling you a prior bad experience should be taken as a sign she trusts you. She isn’t friendzoning. This sounds like a legitimate bad experience. She is aware that not wanting to kiss on the first date might be strange. Just be empathetic, but keep it man to woman.
Hey Todd, Thanks for everything bro. Quick question: gaming In a relationship. In a exclusive monogamous relationship how do U not go back to being a chode and forget all your skills instead keep growing? Is it appropriate to go out, open women and interact with them on a some-what sexual level (even when U honestly have no intention of cheating)
Mav Generally speaking , humans are weak unlike a harddisk of Pc that memorises everything everytime . Often ,things we learn slightly fade overtime . Im going straight into your question. If you feel like you’ve lost some of your skills or parts of “gaming” that you had learnt before , re-read those e-books or whatever it may be or re-watch those videos like you did your first time that you learned about “game”. The memories will come back and “gaming” will be likely more powerful than it was even before because of your new experiences and knowing how to handle situations differently. You may then go out and approach different women to keep your mind fresh as you practice often , or you may practice directly gaming in your relationship no need to find new women to game as you are already using your techniques and not forgeting them.
Todd has a video on this (search the term "AMOG" or Alpha Male Other Guy to find it). Basically, you want to highlight the fact that this other dude coming in and trying to pick up the girl you've been talking to doesn't know her at all. The line you want to say is, "Wait a second. How do you two know each other again?" and the dude will be put on the spot trying to act like he knows her better than he actually does. When he gets flustered from it, it makes him look needy and desperate, to which you reply, "Aight man, just give us a few minutes, then y'all can get back to getting to know each-other" with a dismissing gesture. If he tries to push back on that, he's gonna look even more desperate. I did this trick a few weeks ago, and after dropping the second line, the guy tried to tell me to leave, and the girl I was hitting on turned to him and told him to give us a few minutes. Toddfather knows all.
@@JayWhyThree yeah, that's a great thing to do when the guy is a stranger to a girl, I totally agree. However, my question relates more to the situation where you both know the girl for a while, (e.g. she's a friend of both of you) and you see that guy is being sexual to the girl you like . So basically, should you be cool and not needy about that and act indifferent, or should you clearly compete with the guy in such a situation?
@@Drovoceka The philosophy of not being emotionally affected by the other guy still applies, so don't be affected by him, implement your own game and let him react to you.
Has she already been romantic towards you? If so you should be possessive.. That being indifferent and "confident in yourself" stuff is a myth, its alpha to fight over a girl.
Hey, I have some problems with understanding of the difference between the first and the second date? (English isn't my first, so sorry. Can I ask here he answer?)
@ares sthetics No, I mean, for example, that I need push/pull only on the First date or and on the Second (and on the first I had sex or didn't, how it will change the second)
yow Todd! picture this: I broke up with a girl 5-6 years ago, and for the majority of that time we didn't have any contact or any concrete communication during that time since we were apart both geographically and socially (not a lot of common friends). so I see her after all this time and she went from a 7 to a 9.5 so naturally, I want to hit that lol. how would one go about doing that? should I treat her like a stranger or should I play around our shared history more? appreciate the content man! love your work!
Todd - do you flirt and show some premise etc before you have attraction from the girl? I know taht mystery said you must only show intent once she is showing clear attraction, but often for me, no matter how much I DHV and tease and stuff, I don't sense attraction from the girl, and after a while i'm at a loss of what the hell to say/do lol. I sometimes think about showing premise at that point purely as a bit of a hail-mary move just in case i've read it wrong (although my instincts seems to be crazy accurate based on experience). I had this the other night when I was trying to game a beautiful yet fairly shy girl. Opened, teased, asked about herself, cold read etc etc, but she just wasn't into me, dammit lol.
There has to be something interesting you're passionate about in your studies. Or.. Just go try something not boring for an hour once in a week for starters. I bet you can allow/afford that. Start small. For a boring college student your 'boring' might be interesting enough, but if you want someone actually interesting you will have to become that yourself first.
I am absolutely a loser with women, have been all of my life but with the women i was i never had to do any of that, it was them who wanted it more and earlier than me, weird idea that i have to bring them into sexual mood. When there is chemistry that just happens. Never made the friendzone as far as i can remember.
Fuck me... learned how to code on 2 different languages, made a playable third person game with the level design in Unreal Engine 4...... but picking up girls..... why the hell is it so hard ?! :D I`m fit as fuck, good looking etc. I guess its all about what you say, or what you dont ?! How are you guys doing ?!
Lol, what?? This isn’t teasing - it’s just rude. Teasing from a guy is actually very cute and flirty, so I agree with the basic premise. The way he suggests doing so is comically and ridiculously off base. I’d walk away instantly. LMAO.
@AskToddV Does a style of game get outdated by the next generation of girls? Let's keep it real; the most physically hot girls are usually 18-20, maybe 23 if they're lucky. I heard one older dating coach admit he dates only older women. I fear he may not know what he's talking about when it comes to 20-year-olds. Your infields sound like you're talking to older women too. I think age is something that should be disclosed during infield narration.
