“If following your heart leads you away from your peace, it’s time for you to TAKE your heart, and follow your peace AWAY from the person who is making you choose between the two.” This is SO hard but was what I needed to hear.
I 100% agree with you on your views on casual dating. Hence why I don’t date at all and I’ve been single since end of 2013. I’m not in a hurry. I’d rather it be right than rushed.
"Threshold for Grace" gives a term for what I've observed in someone I know who is suffering. They do not like who they have to be to protect their heart with the significant other. Harshness has developed where it previously had no place. "Not who I want to be". Thanks, , Derek.
I have left two twenty year or more relationships. I still love both of them very much. I left because my peace was more important to me than staying with them.
The internet is the pardox of choice. Transactional and expendable. There are many wounded and screwed up men on the internet that are looking for casual relationships. Best to meet people organically and hardball on the first meeting. Casual is mediocrity. For disposable people.
I understand now you don't have to try and break his pride so I just keep it 💯 I need my energy matched I'm not excepting anything less my energy is sacred like my love I'm not just giving anything to anyone who is not doing the work period it's hard and I understand universe law and my spirit team is not playing about me .
Its IMP to know that if you experience one of these four discussed is enough its time to GO. You don't be necessarily need all four. If your needs aren't ubeing bet met, and you've discussed and been dismissed, that's a big sgn. 3 strikes and you're out is a good boundary to enforce.
It must have taken me long to end the relationship but we were not building each other but mostly hurting each other by being together. I had to call it quits as this was emotionally draining me. I love the statements he really nailed it
Hey Derrick I appreciate all that you do so I'm going to throw this out Here while it's on my mind you talk about evolve men have you every thought about getting your own evolved dating site your smart and has lots of wisdom u feel it would be a success then again these are just my thoughts again I really appreciate all that you do
Detrick, always on point. Be discerning focused on compatibility. Date like a Power Ranger. You've got to be your own detective.. Don't collect red flags or dealbreakers. Love needs logic. 2:pdfs The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker.and Why Does He DoThis? by Lundy Bancroft The book Non Violent Communication is for conflict resolution skills. Many people are in the wrong relationships.
I completely agree with everything you’re saying but what do I do if he says he wants to work things out but he doesn’t put any effort in. Everytime he gets mad at me he starts talking down to me ,insults me,puts me down and believes I made him do it by insulting him first. Which is not true. He considers me insulting him by not calling him when he want me to or not texting him back when he wants me to or by me walking away from him being disrespectful he considers that being me insulting first.
Every time I ask my partner for time and he has children that are young for them to go to bed so we can spend time together it’s always an argument we can’t be alone without someone attorney does when I ask I have to ask for six he turns me down is it time to leave
I let him go were ok but suddenly his ignoring me that I’m not exist he does like a pattern I asked him he ignoring me till now is the worst feeling 😢😢 I a
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