How to Know They’ll Cheat on You - Cheating Expert Reveals Warning Signs! - Neil Strauss

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Today, Lewis sits down with best-selling author Neil Strauss to explore the complex world of relationships, infidelity, and how to spot a manipulator. Strauss opens up about his own journey from infidelity to intimacy rehab, sharing powerful lessons on rebuilding trust and nurturing secure connections. He delves into the psychology behind cheating and the signs that can indicate whether a partner might be unfaithful. Strauss provides a candid look into his most secure and insecure moments in adulthood, discusses the challenges of monogamy, and reveals the keys to a healthy relationship.
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0:00 Intro
00:03:34 - Recovery after Cheating and Signs of a Potential Cheater
00:07:28 - The Evolution of Relationship Structures
00:11:19 - Choosing Healthy Relationships
00:14:49 - Insecurity in Relationships
00:18:24 - Healing and Self-Reflection
00:22:11 - The Healing Process and the Power of Therapy Groups
00:25:44 - Creating a Safe Space for Men to Share Their Feelings
00:29:06 - The Impact of Enmeshment
00:32:38 - The Inner Child and Emotional Safety
00:36:18 - Healing and Transforming Through Personal Journey
00:40:18 - The Key Question of Behavior and Belief
00:43:59 - Awareness and Honesty in Relationships
00:47:31 - Setting Boundaries in Relationships
00:50:57 - Communicating in Relationships
00:54:14 - The Importance of Uncomfortable Conversations
00:57:37 - The Toxicity of Seeking Self-Esteem from Others
01:01:20 - Training in Seduction and Manipulation
01:05:23 - Techniques of Manipulation
01:08:58 - Signs of a Healthy Relationship
01:12:37 - Manipulation Techniques: Circles of Hell, Flattery & Anchoring
01:16:12 - Lessons Learned from Childhood
01:19:42 - Acknowledgement of Neil's Commitment
01:23:00 - Defining Greatness and Happiness
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@lewishowes 27 дней назад

Thanks to Neil for sharing his wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again RU-vid.com/lewishowes

@DominionAnako-bb7ry 27 дней назад

Motivation

@meetfreedom333 26 дней назад

I love what you do, you are great 😇Love to you’re heart and mind✨🙏✨❤️☮️

@Portia620 24 дня назад

I suspect betrayal in multi partners because rarely a small portion of pop is healthy!!!

@Portia620 24 дня назад

Not wanting to explore at all. The more u learn the more I underarm why people are so heartbroken

@Sammpeep 23 дня назад

Por favor podrías poner este video en tu otro canal de español !!! NEIL STRAUSS TAMBIÉN TIENE FANS LATINOS !!! Saludos desde 🇨🇴

@Mmmmkaaay 26 дней назад

The entire point of monogamy is to create a bubble of emotional and physical intimacy. When that is broken, it's game over.

@khanyingosi9229 23 дня назад

Really I don't understand what exactly monogamy,

@travelchannel304 22 дня назад

Polyamory closed relationships can too. Good point!

@Sarara-mv5sx 22 дня назад

Obviously. Cheaters have a character disorder.

@alenaadamkova5322 22 дня назад

Now European scientists in Sweden or somewhere found out that Artificial intelligence, is not very intelligent it puts together wrong information about humans, all kinds of inaccurate information about humans and it looks like a strange mixture "mambo jumbo" nonsense or like some strange caricature of information. ....But they found pout AI has very strong "convincing" power. They found out that Artificial intelligence is able to convince people about "it´s own" truth by 82 percent. So be careful what you read on internet and dont take it seriously, if some channel or article say to you some nonsense, it may be also result of AI "convincing" powers and strategies. Especially dont give these informations to little children or to teenagers who dont understand life and who need positive example.

@immers2410 22 дня назад

@@Sarara-mv5sxyeah, some people are just much more prone to shitty behaviour. They’re fairly easy to spot. Trump is a great example

@tensevo 21 день назад

when somebody cheats, it is essentially over.

@stevewitwicki1854 6 дней назад

Not for a man

@CorporateQueen 27 дней назад

When my husband cheated, he always gave himself away. He told me about the person for a start.. one was south American and he started learning Spanish.. saying she'd offered to help and do a language exchange. 😅 They usually tell you about the person but create plausibility for them.

@Prophezora 26 дней назад

That's true.

@KimKennedy-fu9re 25 дней назад

So true!

@reneclark2556 25 дней назад

#TRUTH

@mazzamaz3827 22 дня назад

OR in my case, have a great disdain toward them!

@emilyhurst4829 21 день назад

Yep! Sometimes even introduce them to you! Narcassist love to tell on themselves! Believe what they say! That's not their "Home girl "!

@VivienReacts 26 дней назад

I will not accept infidelity, violence and addiction in my relationship...

@VivienReacts 25 дней назад

@@embethnewlandauthor my ex husband has addiction with gambling and he put me and the kids in trouble, so yeah addiction in any form...

@anoncspan4129 24 дня назад

@@VivienReactsI'm not trying to be critical, at all. But I agree with the addiction thing being nebulous. Would you mind, please share your definition of addiction? Is it about the result of the action, like, in your case, damage. I am sorry to hear about your situation. I sympathize. ❤️ Every time I think of addiction, I always go back to Dr. Matés perspective, which changed my own.

@VivienReacts 24 дня назад

@@anoncspan4129 i didn't know he has that gambling addiction until someone came to our house and he said that our house belongs to them bcuz he sold our house behind my back, and I confronted it to him also I called his mom and brother so they can deal with him also, and that time he confessed that he sold our house and cars and he has pile of debts bcuz of gambling that he's been doing for long time 🙈🤷

@jenniferbrown3782 23 дня назад

IMO addiction is the overriding impulse to participate/do something that is out of alignment with the direction you want for your life (or relationship). If “it” is interfering and you can’t stop, but you don’t want your life to head in that direction, it’s an addiction. If you like what you’re doing, want to keep doing it, and other people have a problem with it, you’re just not in alignment to be in a relationship with them. So end the relationship (instead of hiding the addiction).

@idaliahernandez1083 22 дня назад

Create boundaries based on what you just said.

@aubreylowe1361 26 дней назад

Not every woman doesn’t want sex during menopause and every woman does not experience post partum depression. Feels like an excuse for bored men to cheat during these times in a woman’s life.

@corrinastone4683 25 дней назад

I don't think he meant all women, he was speaking about a specific relationship.

@sheenaupmost876 21 день назад

I had post partum depression really bad on my last child..never experienced it before and I have had multiple pregnancies

@Faithgrace295 19 дней назад

If she /he is sexual and a good love life may be forever if lack is evident. urges are prevalent and evident in behaviour arousement to energy reciprocation within a loving respectful union 💕 or shy. Single

@jennyj0007 17 дней назад

Men need to get more clued up on how women's bodies work. My husband used to work with older married men and he'd listened to their advice. Men may have a job that is extremely stressful and they just want to come home to piece and quiet (within reason if you've got kids). Have grown up conversations instead of screaming at each other.Unfortunately, in the world there's lots of dysfunctional people and trying be in a relationship with these type of people is a recipe for disaster.

@susantalebzadeh9741 5 дней назад

Agreed

@Judyjlefebvre 26 дней назад

Betrayal trauma is huge to get over and heal from. Especially when the one cheating hasn't learned from his mistake..

@SS-fd2pc 26 дней назад

"Her" mistakes in my case and yes I am completely devastated but I have healed before and will do it again. I was moving across the pond to change someone's world and my own. Very sad....

@iamthegreatiam2075 26 дней назад

“Their” mistakes. Now we sound like alphabet soup crowd.

@davidc2072 26 дней назад

Guessing you’re not a millennial. Women cheat more often than men do now. They are enrolling in college at higher rates, getting higher paying jobs, etc so they have more opportunity like men used to. Not to mention the dating apps giving them instant validation and opportunity.

@staciacrick3373 25 дней назад

Probably because that person is selfish and truly doesn’t care how the behavior effects their partner

@mrnice7570 22 дня назад

*her choice

@cm4644 24 дня назад

Consent isn't an issued when the partner isn't aware of what is REALLY going on. It's humiliating

@tinasmith5213 22 дня назад

I still don’t think you answered the question about how do you recognize a person that is going to cheat?

@Ornatish 20 дней назад

Agreed. They never said the thing.

@msolomon7389 19 дней назад

At 42:40 they do get into the answer, briefly.

@chocolatemonster949 12 дней назад

He said several times - enmeshment with a parent.

@robbo3132 8 дней назад

@@chocolatemonster949would enmeshment with a sibling be the same?

@ExecutiveZombie 26 дней назад

I let men know up front that if they cheat, I cannot stay. I’m gone. I have not cheated as exposed to temptation as I’ve been. I don’t understand cheating and so I do not accept it!

@sherriflemming3218 26 дней назад

Infidelity is a dealbreaker. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast Cheating Triangulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future - Sam Vaknin podcast The Genetics Of Cheaters --Maken Murphy podcast

@BUBBLESPOGO 26 дней назад

So he knows what to do if he wants to get rid of you.😅😅😅

@ExecutiveZombie 26 дней назад

@@BUBBLESPOGO Or he can save all the drama and admit, confront it’s time to go?! Drama Free. 🆓

@abram2535 25 дней назад

I think womans who cheat cannot stand to husbands who cheat on them.

@staciacrick3373 25 дней назад

@@BUBBLESPOGOThat behavior is exhibited by an emotionally weak and immature man

@hope4463 26 дней назад

Women usually tolerate it for financial reasons and children. It is so immature for men to think that their need for sex is more important than their wife and their knew born. It's very immature and selfish.

@samco63 26 дней назад

Bingo! What happened to personal responsibility and accountability? People are so selfish and all about their own needs and me me me these days. Crazy.

@user-ex3mx7hk4l 22 дня назад

WHAT ABOUT ME WHAT ABOUT ME WHAT ABOUT ME The mantra of the cheater!

@Faithgrace295 19 дней назад

Give to charity what about me feels great. And keys to peace

@MX-CO 15 дней назад

And it's also immature of a wife to get into a relationship with a man that she doesn't want go have sex with. (Sex is the glue) to the relationship

@susannafox-impostorsyndrom8781 12 дней назад

financial security will always give you the power to make the right choice for you, that's why they take financial freedom away from you...men and women.

@CraigMacdonaldAeon 26 дней назад

Respected and Pick-Up Artist are contradictory terms.

@ipesina 19 дней назад

he seems really awkward and giggly for a successful pick up artist. if he was around me i would just think he seemed like a weirdo.

@Play4keeks 4 дня назад

Right. Because they use tools of manipulation to get what they want. I think they are very unethical.

@FelipeL67 День назад

⁠⁠⁠@@ipesinaYou think he cares at his age? Why do you think naturally awkward and giggly guys go as far as learning pickup?

@MissBrennan 26 дней назад

You lost me at polyamory as being functional and healthy for raising children. About four minutes in yeah, no.

@margaretgollnick5262 26 дней назад

💯💯💯💯

@rkeppel4243 26 дней назад

Where did you find this guy, Lewis? His life sounds like he swings from one extreme to another. This conversation is difficult to focus on and follow. His voice is also very irritating.He is considered an expert?

@sweet2sourr 26 дней назад

To me it sounds better than many other factors that disrupt childhood development. Like not having parents, when your parents are addicts, or having a parent with untreated mental illness.

@laurencerosenthalwinckler4439 26 дней назад

Thanks for your expert opinion. I wonder how many polyamorous families you have interviewed to conclude your thesis that "it isnt fuctional and healthy for raising children".

@user-jv5do6wc8c 26 дней назад

You miss the point

@Ana-bn9tw 26 дней назад

This guy's not honestly talking about relationships. He will turn with the wind it seems from hearing about his life and choices back and forth. Not worth really listening to him

@TJ-cn9wq 25 дней назад

we called them "slimey"

@esmeramsay8179 23 дня назад

Flakey narcissist with tons of word salad coming out of his mouth , honestly one of the most basic and immature conversations I’ve ever heard between 2 older men like them - embarrassing

@leniyemsvictorero2360 22 дня назад

he gives a weird vibe

@kimmyfenn6313 17 дней назад

Omg you guys are my spirit animals, he wreaks of slimmy pratt …….

@kendrahughes8622 26 дней назад

Gosh, Lewis is such a mature man. His empathy and love for his girlfriend/fiancé is palpable.

@lggig534 26 дней назад

Makes me want to stay single.

@queenie8677 26 дней назад

Hahhahaa me too 😂😂

@irinadumitru9088 26 дней назад

@@eagleeyeeagleeye3143omg I can't believe what you said 😅...hoping you re just joking😅

@eagleeyeeagleeye3143 26 дней назад

@@irinadumitru9088 not joking :))) 🤟🏻

@eagleeyeeagleeye3143 26 дней назад

@@irinadumitru9088 why is that insuling for you? Wake up we're almost 2025 🤣

@anthonykarnes6804 26 дней назад

Like you have a choice

@MayaChadalavada-nz7qg 22 дня назад

Cheat on me and we are done in the spot. The trust is gone and I will never trust you again. Cheating for me is a guaranteed ending to my relationship with me. More power to women who can forgive.. not a chance in hell for me.

@jmbrown3502 4 дня назад

I hope you never do anything that a close friend won’t forgive. Withholding forgiveness turns a person bitter.

@dits2007 26 дней назад

How is having no self-control and boundries, hurting a partners feelings healthy for raising kids? Because that is what polyamory is. Not being adult enough to make a decision, comit to one person and decide each day to love that person, no matter how much temptations there are elsewhere.

@northofyou33 26 дней назад

No it isn't. It's an admission that anyone can care for more than one person. That's just a fact. Polyamory is an attempt to allow the heart to do what it naturally does.

@dits2007 25 дней назад

@@northofyou33 you are not talking about the heart, but about the egoistic s*x drive. It is our self-control that distinguishes us from animals.

@soul-etude 25 дней назад

I agree polyamourous relationship is a response to not being able to establish deep connections. You just can't have that one significant connection with morecthan one. The fact he "has seen" happy families like that give me a hint he has not seen far enough and close enough. Polyamourous relationships are a chaotic life on all levels - emotional and physical and create only harmful, desease-prone future.

@Holistretch 25 дней назад

Um, no. It’s not.

@davidjonburke2729 22 дня назад

You don't have a clue how much work people have to do in polyamorous relationships. 😂

@shantihstar 24 дня назад

Wanting to be a better person, consciously and working at it, is my pre-requisite for any friendship, and most definitely an intimate relationship! No one is perfect, and we all have triggers, so starting a relationship with an agreement that makes both parties feel safe is brilliant!

@user-xv3zr4lm1j 26 дней назад

I disagree. You can change yourself but it doesn’t mean they ever will and because you have changed, you’re perspective will change and the relationship won’t work. I’m all for growth but if there’s only one person willing to do the work then it will never work out because we’re always evolving and all have different seasons of ourselves.

@sherriflemming3218 26 дней назад

Personality and character is fixed. People don't often change. Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record.

@user-xv3zr4lm1j 26 дней назад

@@sherriflemming3218 totally agree! Two things you can’t change

@EllieE-kz3zr 24 дня назад

I see it more like if you change yourself it's about healing the wounds that made you attract that kind of non-monogamous partner in the first place.

@user-xv3zr4lm1j 24 дня назад

@@EllieE-kz3zr wow. So true. And you’re so right.

@ernestoberger7589 26 дней назад

The thing about children raised in polyamorous relationships being healthier is pure nonsense. For starters, the motivation of bashing the nuclear family has always been a theme in academia at least since the Communist Manifesto. In terms of science, polyamorous relationships are scarcer in comparison to monogamous ones. Therefore, you will find all kinds of people in monogamous relationships. The chance to get a more representative sample among the polyamorous ones will be way harder.

@Bloodsport1337 20 дней назад

The stats show that the nuclear family worlds for less than half of the country. Facts don’t care about your feelings

@SS-fd2pc 26 дней назад

In the process of selling and packing my things in order to be with someone in the UK only for her to totally lie, deceive, and cheat. So broken hearted that people are like this.

@SS-fd2pc 26 дней назад

@@d.6861 Agreed.....dodged the biggest bullet of my life to date for sure. I help others everyday so I got that part covered. The heart is powerful and heals up if we stay in a good vibe. Thx for the reply!

@pinkturbomoto 18 дней назад

"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Lindsay Gibson is the book Lewis mentions and everyone should absolutely read it. It changed my life and made so much sense for some of what Ive struggled with.

@gigiciniski9580 26 дней назад

Thank you Neil. Great wake up call to stay away from TOXIC PEOPLE. ❤

@irinadumitru9088 26 дней назад

Exactly! He mentioned narcissistic individuals!

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

👍

@sherylnguyen5684 26 дней назад

How can you find a person who is open to start the relationship with therapy? There's none. I think you're one in a million Lewis! I agree with you!

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

I was blessed to find her 🙏

@hope4463 26 дней назад

It works only in the beginning. Before everything starts.

@toilaCarissa 25 дней назад

There are people. I would be upfront in the early dating phase & watch for their sincere commitment to it (through enough time), etc. Be honest with yourself, and be willing to leave if this is a deal breaker. Take care.

@rmac3217 25 дней назад

Probably the type of ppl who think consent forms are a thing both parties sign before having sex, aka progressive incels and cat ladies.

@rmac3217 25 дней назад

Probably the type of ppl who think consent forms are a thing both parties should sign with a legal witness, aka progressive incels and cat ladies.

@MichaelUnbroken 26 дней назад

Thank you so much for this episode. I know this is a super hard conversation to have. When I read the truth by Neil, it changed my life forever. It’s arguably the most important book I’ve ever read in my life because I grew up in a very similar way to him, while obviously different so much of his story and mine related. And when that book 1st came out, I was kind of spiraling and trying to figure out why my life and relationships are such a disaster and then I realize the same thing that he did, and it solidified my need to go on this healing journey. So thank you so much for this episode. It means the world to me just as someone who loves both you guys.🔥

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

So glad it resonated

@esmeramsay8179 23 дня назад

Jesus , the most important book you have ever read? That’s so so sad considering the masterpieces that have long existed in this world. Unbelievable

@MichaelUnbroken 23 дня назад

@@esmeramsay8179 have you read it? I said for me... Not the world. I've read over 400 books and written three. I stand by what I said

@SJ-zd9el 26 дней назад

He has dabbled in a different type of lifestyle I would not, but I can still appreciate his perspective. I like what he said, if you aren't healthy in one type of relationship you won't be healthy in another. Which says to me it's the integrity of the person....being open and honest, real with self and their partner. And, I can see poly relationships raising healthy children. It takes a village. Traditional homes fail every day. Another great thought provoking conversation.

@bzb2932 20 дней назад

Lewis, the pain of deception is partly described as "not knowing." That's the definition of deception. If someone wants to deceive you, they will and you won't know it until the deception is revealed.

@irinadumitru9088 26 дней назад

I love how you made the whole thing exposing through Psychology studies! I already said that the most prevalent personality structure at this point is the narcissistic one!...wow Lewis I wish more ppl would consider doing inner healing work! Much love and light to you....Healing oneself is a very long process taking a long amount of time!

@anikaray4192 26 дней назад

I really appreciated this interview and this perspective.It would be easier if we were all honest with each other in relationships as to what works and what our needs and values are instead of wearing masks.I can't do polyamorous relationships or open relationships and I'm always upfront about it, also loyalty is one one of my highest values because it is about respect.I rather someone walk away then hide behind my back.Own it as things happen and people fall out of love, just don't be the "have my cake and eat it too" kind of person.That is called being a hypocrite.Thanks again, very enlightening 🙏🧡

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light 22 дня назад

Hi dudes, where are the signs of them possibly cheating??

@esthermaloney1108 26 дней назад

Mr. Howes this guy has an opinion but I don't believe healthy believers in Christ Cheat I don't believe everyone cheats. Communication is so important and Christ at the Center is so important. I truly know people that don't cheat and they life shows that. It's work .

@user-jv5do6wc8c 26 дней назад

hahaha you sound naive sorry

@demigoddess3311 22 дня назад

Lame

@esthermaloney1108 22 дня назад

@@demigoddess3311 it's ok just keep praying

@demigoddess3311 22 дня назад

I never beg and I stopped praying I have everything I need and ever wanted without a saviour or any man

@emilyhurst4829 21 день назад

Amen!

@romy3582 26 дней назад

I really appreciated the honesty of the both of you. It is beautiful to watch. Thanks gentlemen for the content!

@misterdeebs1990 20 дней назад

So...how will I know if they'll cheat on me? The conversation got off topic & never addressed that... After being cheated on & it beinh hiddem for years, THAT'S why I'm watching this video. I'm now single & looking for my person (who I tbought i had found) & having a hard time with trust...

@SaulEmersonAuthor 25 дней назад

'Ex-wife & best friend...' Someone hasn't figured out what kinds of lines need to be drawn in order to give a monogamous relationship any chance.

@guadalupeguardado4815 26 дней назад

Awesome information

@michelleelliott3827 25 дней назад

Sounds like classic narcissistic behavior to me!

@Barbara.P7 26 дней назад

Hi Lewis! Thanks for sharing 🙏🙌

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

Thank you so much for watching!

@AlwaysLearningtoTeach 23 дня назад

Love what you said about feeling like “the big me can take care of the little me”. I think that is the ultimate goal. Working on that as well. Great interview.

@Nicole-ck1fn 23 дня назад

Yes Lewis, I enjoyed this! Very insightful!

@lewishowes 23 дня назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@doloresglass8881 26 дней назад

Thank you. This is what every sweetheart should know. It’s the missing “sex education” lecture. Often learned too late in life. Thanks again.

@irinadumitru9088 26 дней назад

Lewis s point was not to do a ,sex education , but exposing cheaters!

@bandida99 26 дней назад

What a great conversation. Thank you for sharing this

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

@maxwell-cole 21 день назад

Excellent conversation.

@lewishowes 21 день назад

Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

@megancrittenden4508 10 дней назад

Thank you so much to you both, especially for sharing the personal relationship with this topic with transparency 🙏 very powerful, chills. Such an important conversation/topic for all of us to consider in our own relationship and lives.

@megancrittenden4508 10 дней назад

Yes

@k.1425 26 дней назад

Super interesting episode! Thank you 🙏 🎉

@lewishowes 25 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose 26 дней назад

As a Kavkaz & Kazakh lady myself 😂 I'm not really surprised about the Kazakh story because I even heard about dating agencies in Eastern Europe that are specified in training the ladies there to get in a relationship with men abroad. But to the main topic of cheatin, I'm very honest that I NEVER couldn't reunite with such kind of man again because I was & am still often unfortunately a crush to married men around me but I'm giving zero effs about them & in my hotel job, I even saw such kinds of men with their affairs in their arms & still acted like "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" by checking out & flirting with another ladies including me. That's why I really appreciate my quiet single life because since all happenings, I have seriously trust conflicts❣️

@VivMaplewood 25 дней назад

I loved this conversation and the enthusiasm to connect you both have! “The truths don’t work if you don’t find them yourself.”

@esmeramsay8179 23 дня назад

Word salad

@feyzak7667 24 дня назад

Trust your gut

@MINDMUSCLESPIRIT 3 дня назад

💯!! God sees everything 👌🏽

@joannsoltero4287 20 дней назад

Very interesting and is so true!

@rickynunez3109 7 дней назад

it's nice to see neil again, his book the game was the first book recommended to read after a heart brake and that lead to my path of self improvement and my healing journey.

@esthermaloney1108 26 дней назад

Thank you 🙏 Relationship can be very difficult

@user-ee5om8wy7u 26 дней назад

Constant discussion sounds as a good recipe. I think it's like a successful business that always gets customer feedback in order to maintain changing customer satisfaction. Feedback is communication and it has to be non-stop and open and honest.

@findingnadinyo369 26 дней назад

Amazing to hear, see and experience men being so vulnerable, authentic and open to help us exponentially in our healing journeys. You chaps deserve medals/trophies for sharing and enlightening us. Thank you from the heart

@adavlora3801 25 дней назад

I'm not buying it.. .

@esmeramsay8179 23 дня назад

😂😂you can’t read people at all , this is all so shallow and silly it made me laugh at their weird basic interactions and poor questions, really sad and odd to see men at this age talking like this my goodness!

@mitzitakes522 26 дней назад

Renowned but defo not respected, at least by me.

@Bloodsport1337 20 дней назад

Who asked?

@brucecorman7304 20 дней назад

Yes. I appreciated the comment about going to counseling in the beginning of the relationship. Genius!

@vickyfernandes7081 25 дней назад

You all have made me realise that therapy - especially as a family - is necessary.👍🙏

@PaigeCosta-jn7ez 19 дней назад

I love your insights on encashment. Thank you!

@lewishowes 19 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@wendyharper2474 12 дней назад

😮thank you so very much for sharing this because it's a trigger for me I realize just now and I realize now I have a trauma I have to deal with ty so much for bringing it to my reality. It really helps.

@nancyhynes8775 20 дней назад

Yes, thank you both.

@tavarez415 21 день назад

I learned a lot from this interview! ❤

@lewishowes 21 день назад

🧡

@Mercermm 25 дней назад

This choice of guests is a surprise for me. I am a big fan of you Lewis, and I always see the good in all your interviews for the past 3 years. This guest is not a good representation of the type of relationship most people strive to have. His values are not good, and I liken this to a criminal teaching people his tricks to help avoid interaction with this kind of a person. No real value to me as a spiritual person looking for growth and guidance in this new world. I could not listen to this for too long, because my time is valuable and can’t waste it. Maybe he was a sex addict before the term was coined.

@annahayes1007 24 дня назад

Agree. I'm an intelligent, educated, well-travelled woman, who interacts conversationally with many people from many different cultures. i am an American who moved to France at age 60. I found it difficult to comprehend much of his responses to the questions Lewis asked. Surprised that Lewis scraped the bottom of the barrel with this guest.

@esmeramsay8179 23 дня назад

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

@MarinaNic8 21 день назад

Same

@mariiaisa3053 27 дней назад

Thank you for this information to be revealed! 😊

@musicbrazilian7065 26 дней назад

That was fascinating! Thank you Lewis you often bring the best food for thought.😊💋💚 Lewis can you please put here the link to the previous interview you did with him? I tried to find but I could not. Thank you.

@lewishowes 25 дней назад

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

@briandonovan5687 26 дней назад

Yes great content

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@jackymakgati4832 24 дня назад

Thank you Lewis for bringing my legend (Neil) on your show, this conversation is so advantages in my life at this present moment in time, and I have to confess that I have listened to this podcast via Google podcast and now on RU-vid and I have just completed the To Die For and cant wait for the 4 June, Love sent always from South Africa.

@lewishowes 23 дня назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@aoifequirke 22 дня назад

Would love to hear more of the signs of a cheater x

@d-patel 26 дней назад

Cheating expert? Wow! What the world has come to.

@mississippiatheistette8769 26 дней назад

i asked the same question about him being the most respected and renown pick up artist in the world

@rmac3217 25 дней назад

The most renowned pick up artist is like the most beautiful insta model, not hot to normal ppl.

@esmeramsay8179 23 дня назад

Can’t imagine he ever ‘picked up’ any woman with that voice and awkward demeanor, delusional little story teller I think

@shannongilmourpeersupport 20 дней назад

He is all over the place… parroting therapy lingo giving off a sense of incencerity- creepy vibes

@Katrn30 17 дней назад

I have found that being in a relationship where one person is ok with accepting lots of help and attention, but when the other partner needs help, there is radio silence. Be very careful with getting involved with narcissists, a tough feat since some experts say 1 in 6 are narcissistic. A relationship with a narc is always one sided after in initial honeymoon phase. Being alone is 1000 times better.

@julieeeeeee7 22 дня назад

It's too bad that the dissenting voices are the loudest in this comment section. This interview was insightful and had a lot of gems. Neil has lived a life of curiosity, exploration, and adventure into some things I wouldn't dare step into. He's gained wisdom and shares it through his talents. It's okay to take what you want to and leave the rest. I enjoy his books...even The Game, which was infuriating and informational. Lewis was amazing as always. I enjoyed this session. Thank you!

@laurareinaga6736 19 дней назад

I 100% percent agree some people in the comments missed out on wonderful enlightment in this conversation because they can not get past their own judgment .

@lucilledion5344 17 дней назад

Thank you gentlemen for this most interesting presentation !!! Good communication is a VERY and ESSENTIAL key in any relationship...

@lewishowes 17 дней назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@tedknudstrup6101 26 дней назад

Great show

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

Thanks for being here! 🧡

@mattanderson6672 4 дня назад

Thanks guys

@lewishowes 4 дня назад

You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡

@davestuff100 6 дней назад

I love Neil. He was my introduction to improvement when i had given up years ago. I have read a lot of his stuff but found The Truth to be hard going yet at the same time interesting. Not sure I could manage those kind of relationships but some may do well. Anyway good content Lewis as always I am new to this channel but love what I have found so far

@gamergurl666 26 дней назад

Anyone got a short hand version? Tldr? This vid is waaaay too long 😮‍💨

@dits2007 26 дней назад

Stay single.

@AxelleAigner 26 дней назад

Watch this on double speed. I always do.❤😊

@rmac3217 25 дней назад

Single is better than a bad relationship. This is from someone who is married with a kid, but I did get lucky as we didn't plan it and U obviously have to just guess if a woman is going to be a good mother and look after the house if U are working, or that a husband is going to still dedicate time to his family after work.

@jenniferbrown3782 23 дня назад

Can someone explain to me how another person can want to have one night stands when they truly believe they’re in a relationship with someone they love? 13:58 I can understand how some people can have sex without emotional connection, and I can understand how people can have sex with an emotional connection, but I can’t understand how one can have an emotional connection/love and then have sex with a different person with no emotional attachment.

@KellyJoseline-jg2wi 23 дня назад

Make sure you watch him closely by getting a clone copy of his messenger apps, to know what his been up to and activities going on backdoor

@jho3902 26 дней назад

You need to invite Teal Swan on your show. She’s the expert on the root causes of this topic as well as relationships.

@MissBrennan 26 дней назад

I completely agree!! She is amazing!!

@missteikio 26 дней назад

There was a recent documentary called The Deep End on Teal Swan as being accused of being a cult leader

@AndreeaT-fj6dd 26 дней назад

Would love to see her

@Prophezora 26 дней назад

Look up batel skater...

@EmyAmi 26 дней назад

Teals the truest deal ❤

@craigosterberg5045 26 дней назад

Thanks

@Emmm-ii6tx 26 дней назад

Please put time stamps no one’s gonna watch an hour and half of this to find one part they want to see

@davinarasmussen 17 дней назад

There are chapters, not sure if they were added post publishing?

@adrianasorgi 21 день назад

I don’t resonate with this at all but I respect it.

@anoncspan4129 24 дня назад

Lewis, I loved this pod episode. It's too bad to see a majority of your commentors being so negative on this thought provoking guest. I thought there were some exceedingly helpful life tips in it. Thank you!

@lewishowes 23 дня назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@cm4644 24 дня назад

Commitment is to transparency - I can make my own decision based on that. Which isn't happening in a broken relationship

@chocolatemonster949 12 дней назад

Awesome eye opening podcast. Was with someone for 5 years that kept me completely away from his mom until the final year, which revealed they were completely enmeshed and she had full control of him. So either he would avoid her altogether, which didn't seem healthy to me, so I kept pushing for peace, which led to losing him completely and him getting under her spell and changing personality entirely. He was never fully present in the relationship, both of them were functional alcoholics and habitual liers, and it's so satisfying to learn why it was the case. Thank you. 😌 Learning lessons the hard way!

@jom.6075 26 дней назад

Great discussion! So many questions remain: What is a healthy relationship? Do most women ever do the work on themselves when they cheat or do they often just blame their partners?

@gilgaladinfp8452 22 дня назад

I still didn't get the sign

@Bluebirdhouse 21 день назад

He never did address this, he kept bouncing off subject down another rabbit hole. Ironically it’s the name of this video, yet he never gives the signs.

@gangstamum 20 дней назад

How do you know if someone is using you? How do they respond when you say no to what they want. Theres your answer.

@carolynnpfaff9775 21 день назад

As a general rule, therapy is helpful. That said, it’s not a good idea to go to therapy with a partner who has significant controlling or narcissistic tendencies. You refrain from telling the truth (bc that type of person is easily hurt, and you’ll “pay” for it later - after your therapy session), and that kind of partner tends to easily point out what’s “wrong” with you, that makes them a “victim”. And that type of person can be charming, and very convincing - bc they genuinely only see things from their own perspective. The therapist inadvertently ends up helping the partner with controlling/narcissistic tendencies.

@Manuel-6 27 дней назад

This is interesting

@tensevo 21 день назад

test for true love....are they willing to spend time with you, in a non transactional manner.

@kristinmcnulty518 25 дней назад

Only one of Lewis's interviews I couldn't finish. Healthy polyamorous relationships???

@shantihstar 24 дня назад

It gets good he only mentions it at the start to make a point. They don’t go on about it. They get into why it's unhealthy to lie and traumas that cause certain behaviours.

@shivanthikulasingham6131 20 дней назад

Healthy ANDD Polyamorous do not belong in the same sentence. Same here, I started watching and a few minutes in, I was done.

@michelebknight 19 дней назад

This conversation of enmeshment could be highlighted more, it is surprising and more common then one thinks. Kenneth Adam’s has good research on this.

@LinYouToo 9 дней назад

Once someone cheats you now have an open relationship because of the one cheating. And I’d be out immediately.

@user-si4us1bf4h 18 дней назад

The problem is days are usually busy. That's why doing it before bed when everything's quiet n your done w the day seems like a good time, but I do understand your point about being tired.

@1birdlove 25 дней назад

I only agree with monogamy in relationships but the rest of the podcast was great. I almost stopped listening to it after 5-10 minutes but glad I listened to the whole thing. GREAT INFORMATION!! Thank you!

@lewishowes 25 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@blueberries1221 24 дня назад

It was only a study he mentioned; not necessarily that he supports it. This interview has valuable advice on relationships that you miss out on by being too judgemental in the beginning.