How to Know Your True Friends - Prof. Jordan Peterson 

I am sad because I found this video too late

"enabling" so is the pain enabling Jordan Peterson to abuse his pain medication? Man is nothing but an over glorified pretentious junkie that has misled Canadians for decades.

@@matguimond92 could be, yet still millions listen to him instead of you.

@@A2Lettuce millions of pompous and pretentious idiots

So if somebody is at bad state in life and desperately need somebody to hold them for a bit to gain strenght again....gues fuck em right ?

I apply this to everything. Friends, shirts, vacations, shoes, etc.

Wasn't that a Melania Trump quote?

I fuck with it. Good quote

@KDen ShowEm nothing wrong with throwing some dime pieces in there

“I’d rather have a dollar than 4 quarters!” Beau Limbu

That’s why he’s dead. A real friend wouldn’t let him go down the drug route to o.d. land

@@Tousanx wow you took that a little to far

@@Tousanx he accidentally overdosed he was on anti depressants and took pain killers with them thanks for making me miss the whole video you jerk

@@samfaul6133 it wasn’t his fault you missed the video. There’s a pause button you know. Can also rewind, there’s multiple options here

@@samfaul6133 How exactly is it his fault that you missed the video?

Most definitely. 😇🍻

Underrated comment !💫🙌

Factual

Some responsibility that

ESPECIALLY that. Almost no one knows how to be an even basic friend, very close to no one...

Good resume, Nice work

Precisely.

Mida Multitool I love being the good, supporting friend, what are you talking about?

thats not true you lead by example till they understand why you are doing it for them. because u care

I have found that being the good friend feels just as good as having the good friend. That glimmer in their eyes when they come back for more conversation is totally worth it. Plus being in that mindset to love and accept others feels great. This is a hard lesson to learn, though, especially if you don’t have the heart to give without the guarantee of getting something back

Mida Multitool you've been my supportive friend since year one MIDA

Speak for yourself

That is a true friend!!! Unfortunately a lot of people fail to understand that concept.

I wish my buddy would tell me something to that effect; instead, he told me,” I hurt his feelings,” but I was only trying to look out for him, and I unironically didn't want him to get hurt. I was the only person who told him the truth, but apparently, he just wanted me to tell him what he wanted to hear.

m_blitz good for you though for telling the truth. It takes courage to do that. Unfortunately most people just can’t handle it.

My experience with truth telling is scorn.

@@m_blitz3638 there are many people like that. You did your part as a friend, and if he isn’t able to see that perhaps your friend is still too immature to recognize it. Sometimes it has to be with immaturity

this is so beautifully said

Partially true...bcs there are cases when you are yet to realise they are not true friends at all (happened to me onceಥ⁠‿⁠ಥ)

@@celine3708 Oh no 🥺. I have an idea what that's like but not full throttle.

​@@celine3708 you are absolutely right

It's not a feeling, it's an acknowledgement of recognizing the situation, day to day feelings can change and be inaccurate

I have only 1 that I can really call a friend.... no, actually I have 2 if I count my father.

@@kevinkarbonik2928 Same here. Only one person who I've known for 20 years I can call best friend. Pretty much everyone else is an acquaintance.

I don't have 'real' friends.

Shock 44- not counting my wife and family. I have one.

Only myself

Huh never heard that before, very nice John. BTW if you were in Wu Tang your name would be Inspectah Decker

I'mposs ible sounds like my ex-wife

Can you please not give me half your not money?

John Decker here here. That is as true a statement as I've ever herd

Geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid. Geteilte Freude ist doppelte Freude. - same thing in german

if only it were that easy

@@videostash413 Exactly! It's always good to try to learn and make progress, but things can also be a life long struggle. And... In reality, I think there are more nuance to the topic as well. The imortant thing is what you think - not what other people think that you should think.

Friendship is overrated

That's exactly right. Most people are friends only as long as it doesn't cost them anything (I'm not talking money, 'cost' is time, effort, or anything else that requires a person to expend something).

I did the same. 200km. 01:00 clock

Glen Marius Manum Bakken LMAOOOO

@@glenmariusmanumbakken6755 lol

You're welcome daniel

damn daniel...

Why do you have a picture of a murderous serial killer as your profile picture!?

Aaron Haugh what kind of friend?

One of the last greatest advices I received before the end of high school years ago

Yet walk away If they stop You achieving Your God given goals into Your Heart because of fear in them to live full Life just like God meanted Us to Live in Rejoicing in Him. First I was sad when They left me yet now I am happy because My Dreams are finally coming into reality and God is most certainly the strongest and closest help for Me and everyone Else to achieve those Dreams. I am building a racecar and I know that I will be Good driver in it. No doubt.

This is far from true. I've been a friend to every fucking person I know, this didn't stop them from being assholes though

True that !

😂😂😂😂

Just get a dog.

👊🏾😁

On the right track then

Me too 😂

Lmao me too

Must be something you feel guilty about

What happens when you are a good friend? You can look at others and find the same qualities in them. If they don't have it they are not your friend.

Same...I felt like...he is scolding me for doing things wrong...I just feel like trash after listening to this..that explains why I eventually get distanced from everyone...

By his definition, I am the best friend anyone can have. But to be honest, I listen because I get bored if I don't. I don't like to talk about myself and I congratulate other people on their success because I feel sorry for their miserable lives. So Prof. Jordan thinks I'm a true friend. what a loser.

ThTs how you get good friends

I suspect that in order find good friends, you must first be one yourself.

I have no friends... but I have determination to succeed.

@@GhstInShadow I'm a loner as well, I just know a lot of people, and none of them are my true friends, including who used to be my "best friend", and now to me are a bunch of fake friends that I've known once will never see or talk to ever again from one place to another. I am also introverted, so socializing isn't really my strength, but spending a whole lot of time to myself, and literally no one invites me to anything, sigh. Hello other introverts out there! 🙋

@Centauri A hello fellow introvert 👋

Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are

Judan Peterstein has special friends.

💯 nothing worst when a friend makes you feel bad for not spending time with you

💯

That's good advice for relationships too, I had a girlfriend who wanted to see me every day and when I needed a break and said not today she'd try to guilt trip me for not coming over. needless to say that relationship didn't last very long

@@crunchbar777 💯 ... Red flags

This one is really important, and I think I need to remember this one better. There are a lot of times I want to say no, but don't feel like I have a choice since everyone else is busy and I don't have anything else going on. I've gotta respect myself more than to waste my money on movies like Free Guy just cause "I like my friend, he's a good guy"

Same experience here, it's tough and hurtful to realise this, strength to you.

​@@grownupandgardening4216good advice

This. Found out who my friends were when the silly lockdowns were happening. Sitting alone in your home on your birthday, and only getting 1 text and 1 call from frens, was a painful awakening, as I realized the rest were just using me for career advancement or because I was useful.

If everyone had this philosophy, then nobody would have friends. Friendship begins within, and who travels with you on that journey is an added bonus.

How sad.

Tim L fuck. :(

I was hoping to find a comment like this. There's no such thing as a 'true friend', that's just boring.

😂😂😂

Are you a good friend yourself?

Make me your friend and you will have a good friend!

I miss mine too, she died in 2004 when I just graduated high school. She was a Christian woman and I haven't seen her in 16 years almost half my life. It's strange but I have a wife who is very similar to my mother which may sound wierd to some people but it brings me comfort. Stay strong, your not alone and I'm sorry for your loss.

@@Gabriel.1985. It is not weird, people tend to Love Other people who Share traits with the mother If you are a man or father If you are a Woman .

A man I'm sorry to hear that. My. Mother's unwell, I hear you

@@ihrkriegtmeinennamennichtf7263 thanks for that...cool. Have a good day sir or madam.

@@Gabriel.1985. Doesn't sound weird. Good for you. Your Mom did a great job.

This is your 6 month reminder

Thats awesome ngl

Same im taking notes

I'm kind of in between but i'll now be a better me

The fact that you are aware of that possibility and the fact that you are not afraid to admit it makes me think otherwise. Your now conscious to the idea that you may possibly not be a real friend when you should be. The fact that you admit it shows you care to be a real friend and the fact that you weren’t aware of these qualities determining a real friend shows you weren’t intentionally being a bad friend. The only reason why you can be a bad friend or fake friend now since your aware of these qualities is by completely ignoring them and doing the opposite of what you know you should be doing. You’ll be alright brotha don’t be too hard on yourself.

Possibly one of the wisest comments on this feed

True!

Facts actually wanna try it

Very true! Same for smoking weed

ChangedName _ I was just about to comment this. When I stopped smoking and moved out of my apartment (it was the hangout spot for all of us) I suddenly saw eight people magically disappear from my life. No phone calls, no texts, nothing. I was pissed for a few years but later realized that was the best thing that ever happened to me. Six of the eight still live with their parents and all are 34-36 years old.

Omar Mir wowww!!! That’s wild. It just goes to show who your true friends are. It’s also a great reflection of your growth since that time. I want to show you my respect & give you my applause. I don’t think it was easy! Gotta say though, I’m curious for you to wonder how much more you will achieve and how much further you will have self developed in just a few years from now. Just like before

"Being alone is nowhere near as bad as being with people who make you feel like you're alone." Such a good line. Thank you, Button Man, for summing it up. Not only does it apply to friends, but personally this has been my experience with most huge parties and dances as well.

Amen

I had a friend that always tried to belittle, undermine or devalue anything I (or others) said. It was often wrapped up in humour however the end result was always a devaluing effect. For a long while I ignored it as friendly banter because we did have a laugh. In the end it became too wearing and I kept my distance. We don't speak now and it doesn't bother me. He wasn't a bad person, he just had a superiority complex and social issues. He honestly thought he was the smartest person in the room, his mum and sister were the same. Easier to walk away.

@@person8203 I have the same issue man, someone I went to school with and now play Xbox with. He likes to take the piss a lot and if I post something on social media they belittle me and say someone nasty, if something goes well they bring me down. Probably best if I just have no friends at all and just rock the shit out of it

@Jack and Bt Sandwich respect the words bro! Shame it takes a chill dude on RU-vid to get me but there are decent people in the world just got to be yourself and if they find you let it happen naturally don’t look for it 😃 I actually have a girlfriend now who loves me and I love her and I’m starting my own business so putting all the pieces together myself and not telling anyone until I put it out there on social media because I don’t want anyone to pull me back! I’m doing it for myself these so called friends aren’t going to pay my mortgage for me or bills so why not focus on my future right now! 👊 If you’ve read this far and got the time- I once had a best mate 3 years ago, we had gone to secondary school together probably been mates for 10 years. I remember going to a party and getting a little drunk but I meant good and was having fun. I remember telling him that he was my best mate and that I loved him as a brother! Really opened up so he knew. Little did I know that he would completely avoid me after this and throw it in my face 😢 we don’t talk anymore straight after the party. I can’t believe it happened like this- it really affected me and obviously still to this day. 😣 I used to be such a fun chill dude that would say thing like ‘I love you man’ ( I’m not gay lmao) just never had an issue saying it before but then this dude just made me feel shit and worthless and I just became more introvert. The next week I remember him having his birthday at his and me not being invited / wasn’t told about it even though all the people who went to the party where I said it went aswell. Oh well his loss man. He just wasn’t the best mate I thought. Now I don’t open myself up because otherwise people will take advantage (or they won’t) but it’s definitely because of him that I’ve changed. Even my best mate now he tells me I am his but I don’t say it back because I’m afraid the same thing will happen. All the best 😢❤️

Thanks!

Thank you

Agreed.....that is something so many agree with but do not live.. You can tell that by those with an angry reply...

Hung around a friend 1 on 1 today for a pic nic, her ex boyfriend got his first welfare check today and after YEARS of having him live with her because he can't look after himself due to depression and they have a few kids together. Gave her a high 5. Now she's moving farrr away to live with her boyfriend. Never knew celebrating a friends success can feel so bad.

@Fat Girl Gone Slim clean your room

Which military?

@@HOTD108_ USAF..

Like that thanks :) or should i say.... that sucks..... im confused lol

@@MrWolfheart111 Friends are honest with you, if you screw up, to your face. Your enemies only talk about you behind your back.

@@Ammo08 that's the same here in Ireland

Jacob Favret Not always tho. Sometimes true friendship is about informing each other of the harsh truths before somebody else does.

@@heavymetalrox268 But the point is they do that because they care about you and want to see you better yourself. That’s the type of people you want to hold close to you.

@@heavymetalrox268 *But that's exactly what that quote is saying.* *Speaking out the truth is one of the best things a person can do.*

So damn factual to this day, I'll take it to the grave.

@@heavymetalrox268 YO MR ROBOT! GREAT DAMN SHOW.

Marvel villains getting more and more relatable

Lmfao.

Exactly. A good friend sees you as an equal. Not better or worse, equal.

@@edp3202 exactly

@@thenotorioustaha took me 49 years to figure that out.

Wise words

I have none. I don't fit in. I am an immigrant. A legal alien.

@@iamsuccess6634 Wich makes it harder. Many people are superficial and won't give you a chance to even show them, who you are. Don't give up please. There a also many people who aren't superficial and take you the way you are. Love what makes you and embrace it. Don't bring yourself down. Head up my friend, I believe in you.

Great piece of advice

How do you know who to let in? Like what are the actual traits

Maybe that is only you because you are a bit weird or something

@@thoughtoflegend1761 yeah because people are just amazing…

True friend

That my friend is a lie

Eddie Yammine you went to Africa? Is Africa a country, you POS

@@side-eyewarrior823 where did I say it was a country.

Na dying for someone else is easy. Many people would jump in front of q bullet for another person but ask them to stick around. While you're sad and you'll see them gone by the end of the week

Hey it’s ok, it’s never too late to turn things around.

You are good at identifying the problem. I know you care about your friend, let your conscience lead you, not your comforts. Find comfort in pushing on and becoming that amazing friend!

@@badpiggy2403 yeah slowlt getting there hehe thank you so much! :)

@@jonathanholloway2127 omg I preach this! thank you so much! :)

At least you took your time and thought about it, that’s better than anyone I know, myself included

Kenneth Kaiser | do you still have friends?

Zycho ---- friends all over the world. More wanting to be my friend all the time. What about you? Any friends that you don't have to hide anything from? A friend who has your back in any situation that isn't completely stupid? A friend that would tell you when you are fucking up? Women don't count because they are never really your friend even if you are married. She may act like your friend and like she has your back but, she's only with you for status, cash and prizes. When you no longer have enough of those three, she's leaving. Then she'll act the way she really is and you'll be treated as if you were never a couple and as if you had one, one night stand and you are a stalker for trying to talk to her after she leaves you. If that or a close version to that hasn't happened to you yet, it will.

Kenneth Kaiser | I don’t have friends

Zycho ----that can be a hard thing to live with, or it can be a good thing, depending on your personality. For instance, I have many people I can say are my friends and they consider me a friend but, I don't hang out with them very much because as you get older, your lives get busier and almost all of my friends are married with kids and grandchildren and I'm single, no kids,own my own successful business that I put in 14-16 hour days minimum usually six days a week. I make time to hangout with some but all of them know I'll be there for them in a minute if they need something and vice versa. As you get older if you have siblings that you don't hate, they usually become your best friends.

Kenneth Kaiser very wise and true words.

One of my best friends growing up, Joe, and I lost touch with each other as our lives went separate ways after high school. I hadn't spoken with him in 10 years when he called with a problem on his truck. I went right over and there I met a new friend of his. The new friend observed that we hadn't spoke in 10 years and just showed up when I was called to help. He asked why I would do that and i replied "Because he is my friend." It turns out Joe and I staid in contact regularly until his death a couple years ago at 62 YO. I miss that guy.

TRUE I can relate 100% to this! Comparable to the feeling of coming home after being away for a while

That's exactly why they are your good friend. Coz you don't get to be with each other that much.😂😂😂 Spend time together do stuff together and see if you both feel the same. The friend you don't see often, you're less likely to share your deep issues with, you keep it lighthearted and you wouldn't even know if they are in deep depression. That's acquaintance NOT A FRIEND. It's funny how easily and lightly the word friend is thrown around

😂 riiight

Never understood that, to me it sounds they arent really your friend cuz they dont mind about not seeing you often.

Very true. People's character aren't statues.

Toooooooooo optimistic ....... Not everyone is good.

That’s good advice. Not everyone is deliberately trying to be toxic. Sometimes people just need feedback.

Well said.

@Adam Tesfai Be careful before people change

Clutch Cargo excellent point!! Extroverts who like to connect with others tend to believe they are closer to coworkers than they really are. It’s a mistake I made when younger.

Jessica LT right. Right. Perfect place to be friends, just most people are trash...

I lived with coworker for 4 years and made him my sons godfather. Does he count?

@@jessicalt4121 is over basically they hate me more since servile

Yes! People like to call me a friend but I’m like, we’re just acquaintances, despite I’ve been talking for some people for quite some time, I don’t let anyone in my close circle most of the time.

This is a revelation to you? Seriously?

@@mp5249 just noted who else I shouldn't surround myself with..

but do you deserve it

@@mp5249 To me Jordan Peterson just stated the obvious more often than not and people eat it up like wow I've never heard this before 😂 Jordan Peterson says wash your ass Craig well gee he's right my ass is dirty clean your room Miguel he might be on to something what a genius🤯 Watch for more tips on not being an abhorrent slob with no social skills😂

@@Juan800PimpBot 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯😂😂😂🤣😂😂😂😭😭😭😂😂👍

I am happy for you. It sounds like you deserve such a good friend in your life.

marry him

Tell Rudy how much you appreciate him hell be so happy 😌

Don’t tell us!! Tell that to Rudy :)

Ur blessed

Say "if you are my friend, and you think i'm thinking a bad idea that could ruin me, will you tell me to stop me or let me ruin myself?" People these days thinks that every mistake should be made no matter how many people already did the same mistake... "experience it yourself"

just because it's a bad idea to you doesn't means its a bad idea for them,

@@Mhats So killing himself is a good idea in their mind because they are heavily depressed... isn't correct to try convince them it's a bad idea? Not because you believe something is good it means it's true that it's good

@@BlaxeFrost-X no one said anything about anyone killing themselves. so stop

@@Mhats That's an extreme example of a bad idea... you can easly find this case with somrthing less extreme like... telling his married ex-girlfriend that he still loves her... or becoming the enemy of some powerful dude

My favorite verse!

Love this verse

The Bible + Psychology = happiness

Wow... had no idea that verse existed. Thank you. I have no friends as such, but it's good to see that it's written in the good book. It's comforting. I miss my brother.

He is beyond brotherhood my friend.

Yes, I used this same idea with many family. When no one makes the effort to even call it becomes pretty obvious.

@@bundyboy961 Right? I've had multiple apartments and homes over the last 10 years and my family has never once visited and I've never been more than 30 minutes away. It's always me coming to them. Bunch of assholes.

I feel you… I did the same, they choose meth while I continue following my goals…. You can’t fix stupid, no matter how long you’ve known them

Good job man, if there's no mutuality it's not worth it. Cut off a really "good friend" too who always used me but never gave back

I’ve done exactly the same, spent 8 years with a group of friends that I loved and still love, and that I respect and will always respect, but it wasn’t the place that would let me explode my potential. I’m glad to know I am not the only one on a journey to find new and productive friends to be around, this realization really does change your life doesn’t it… Salute to all of you going through the same situation or something similar! Keep grinding people.

I've come to a sad realization that my twin brother is like this, he often gets complacent in life but I have ambition and goals. Whenever I feel discouraged I talk about them but whenever I bring them up to him he puts me down actually he does even if I don't mention them it's like we are competing but he doesn't want to win he just wants me to lose.. it hurts because I love him alot and I know he loves me, he is just a little jealous because he likes being content truly and that is something that goes against my nature and he can't stand me being better off then him in some aspects because of it.

The opposite is also true. When I developed chronic health problems, only 3-4 people made a real effort to stay in touch. You really see someone's character when you aren't "useful" or obviously "fun" anymore.

This is mostly untrue though. People love splendor and popularity. Look how much people idolise celebrities when they will never personally know eachother. It's because they have status and success and most humans are infatuated with power and wealth. Where as people low on the social ladder get treated like dirt. Those suffering with illnesses are ignored.

@@user-yo9xs8tl5o You haven't heard of the tall poppy syndrome then.

That mindset is the breeding facility of elitists and people who are full of themselves

Dump that bitch.

H D “Had” is past tense so means he broke up with her, learn to read you dumb biitch

@@terrelljones4953 I dont like you

Oof!

Well... Most woment dont want you too sucseed... I dont know whats wrong with them.... They respect their boss at work more then they respect their husband/parnter... My ex refused to support me in my business, i got rid of her, told her to go marry her boss lol

Smith & Wessie?

@@hundreddollarbiller right hand and occasionally left hand

same

Ppl think you can have so many friends . . . The confuse colleges and ppl you know with friends. If you have 1 thats already a lot.

Me too. Ive never been happier knowing 2 best friends because i can actually enjoy spending time with them and we go anywhere together. If you have too many friends you connect with no one.

True enough, though narcissism is often rooted in insecurity, and when they do things as described in the video, I'm not sure there is a difference between the two. Someone who downplays another person's successes may be truly in love with their own achievements, as you suggest, but that may only be a symptom of a deeper need for validation which has interfered with their ability to provide that back to others.

Tyler Mod Spoken like a true narcissist.

Tyler Mod You can have narcissistic traits without going in for a diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. I feel like you just took Pysch 101 and now you are just looking to argue over semantics.

@Tyler Mod ok, so by that logic, don't be friends with people who exhibit narcissistic traits. Original point is pretty much the same

@Tyler Mod You said everyone exhibits traits associated with a psychological disorder. Logic would follow that you could meet someone with narcissistic traits, ergo, fuck them

L. Ricardo Colpari I'd argue the best part of me is the selfless part that doesn't judge my friends.

That probably IS the most appealing part of you, to other people. That's not necessarily the best part of you for your own interests though. The two are separate issues. You may even disregard your own interests, which is unhealthy long term. There's a fine line between self-sacrifice and self-martyrdom. Only one is noble.

Sounds like golddiggers.

@Eaglett so true man thst comment is making me want to appreciate my family more

And for goodness sake people, get off Facebook !

Is Az Excellent move!! All I have are family, our family friends, and my gf and I honestly couldn’t be happier :)

Blind Squid yeah. Sarkasim

😭

If you think this is legitimate content your are an idiot. This man is a pseudo intellectual for stupid people.

@@juliosanchez8263 I'm an idiot? Big words for a little man. How about "your are an idiot", idiot.

Sisko the kid Careful with that grammar book, Sisko. There’s a grammar error in your original comment!

Especially since we aren’t paying anything to watch him on RU-vid

I’ve found him to be hit and miss; but this was more of a hit.

If you enjoy subjects about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would respect. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can also benefit from them. All the best to you!

bad news: you have no qualification and training to pilot.

And because we are the pilot we cannot blame others for our mistakes! We take responsibility and fly a different direction in our journey in life. Let the good angels and positive light of our best selves and our creatior lead the way.....

@Leide Keine Dummköpfe Goodluck!

@Leide Keine Dummköpfe don't ever give up, you can do it! 🙏

@@csillakaszas7285 Good News: With the right perspective it just makes it a crazy, reckless, fun adventure that few can say they have experienced. Even if you noseplant into the ground, there's still a unique, if terrifying thrill.

Its a great quote. The people you choose to hang out with can impact you negatively or positively. Thats a fact. So yep choose wisely for your health and wellbeing 😇

@Logic it really depends on who you are; some people believe in others' opinions more than their own, changing themselves accordingly, and some people stay the same and let others change to be like them. You have to have a balance of both.

"Birds of a feather..." What color is your plumage?

@Logic Have you ever heard of the saying, "Hanging out with the wrong crowd"? Many people tend to go with the flow with the people they hangout with because they want to fit in or be a part of something even without looking into what they are getting themselves into. They may not be you, but they can influence you to doing what they say.

what about the lone wolfes?

I was the 100th like😅

Gold K I am no one's frienemy but I am no one's friend either. I don't care about people much and if some of them die I will probably be like "meh" and move on to the next "friend" in line.

Nihilism awful mindset

@@905silver So what, people use me and I use them. Being nice about it won't change absolutely anything about that.

Jordan Peterson is one of those frenemies. He works for the UN

What should you do with those?

@@orienTube01 the ones that stick around? Keep them around

This means i don't have real friends😭😩

Key word is caring, as you said. Keep in mind a person with Autism may not take steps to contact you for fear of being an inconvenience, or on the opposite extreme may "call you to tell you how great they are" because that's how they feel in the moment after an achievement and don't know how that comes off. Furthermore, be sure you are doing the same, and not exclusively expecting that treatment.

If you do 90% of the listening, and ask questions so they can talk some more then you are being used. That's not a conversation, it's a listening session. A great conversation is a mutual exchange. Read Dale Carnegie books, but be careful because you can end up just being "the listener", and feel like a stuffed person could take your place if you are rarely in a mutual exchange.

Love everything of your comment, and particularly your last sentence

Thank you for your reply. You have found gold when you are with someone pleasant to be with and you have a mutual caring exchange of conversation. Otherwise it's like playing ping pong by yourself. If your doing the listening and asking all the questions

@Evil Jester How can you say op let it happen? They might have been best friends for so long because things weren't always so bad at first, whatever the case is there aren't enough details to say they let it happen.

That's a real common problem. With some it's more obvious, others more covert. I've learned over the years to not show or share my joy over good fortune, and generally don't say much about bad fortune either. People are flawed, I've just come to accept that.

Yep! Women do that.

@@MiguelFight men behave like that too. And there is women that are more “manly” than those men, who are cowards.

@@LagiohX3 *Are. And depends on your definition of "manly".

I wonder what his excuse is. Brain damage? Drunk 24/7? Or just an Ass? My old "best friend" from my teen years until my early 20's didn't invite me to his wedding and then a month later told my other friend how much he missed me. I told her that I hadn't even heard from him in over two years. She was shocked because he was acting like he had done so much to reconnect. All our other friends were at the wedding. And the reason we weren't talking anymore is because when we were neighbors he would constantly put me down and tell me how I needed to change (like needing to be more social and how I should wear makeup and dress up when we all would go out.) The day I moved I heard him screaming down the road in a fit of rage. He never apologized for how he treated me, but he cries drunk to our friends and his wife how bad he misses me. I'm glad I'm not a part of the shit show that he's acting in.

Nice name🤣

He has never been your friend 😀😀😀.

You finally realized how toxic and one-sided your "friendship" was, and had the intelligence and guts to walk away from it.

Your fault he doesn't have to invite you there. You should have gone