It's best to compose the letter, read it repeatedly until you no longer feel anger, then burn the letter! That way, it's strictly personal and there's no reaction from the other person.
1- Parents: Don't keep the anger all the time 2- Relationships: that didn't work, don't blame, forgive and forget negative emotions and say 'I forgive them' 3- Everybody hurt you: your boss, friends,... repeat it; 'I wish them well and forgive them till that negative emotion has go away' 4- YOURSELF: your are different person compare to the past, you have more experience and repeat; 'I forget myself for all mistakes I have done' 'I am a good person and gonna have a wonderful future' Let it go TECHNIQUE: Write a letter or email of forgiveness 1- I forgive you for... 2- List of why you angry about... 3- End of letted: 'I wish you well' >>SEND
I agree about forgiving parents-- it's an important step to take for oneself. HOWEVER, if a parent is still continuing the destructive behavior, simply forgiving him or her will not bring peace. For example, where one's parent has a personality disorder. Sometimes forgiveness must be accompanied by measures of self-protection, such as low or no contact. It seems shortsighted to give people the impression that the only thing holding them back from having a healthy relationship with their parent(s) is choosing to forgive. Skipping off into the sunset with happy, healthy, supportive parents isn't a possibility for many folks, unfortunately.
Brian is 100% correct I forgot this rule for success and it has haunted me the last few years remember forgiving doesn't mean forgetting it just means you let loose of the burden of the hatred and anger can you set yourself free they no longer have power over your thoughts or feelings this is a wonderful thing
I had this conversation with my sister today. This is so true, begin with forgiving the other person, process of forgiving my mistakes, and ends up forgiving myself. Weeks, months, maybe years, but no matter how difficult each day i have peace of mind.
I really needed this! I forgive the whole world but I find it very difficult to forgive myself & my parents (if it’s a serious mistake on their part and they aren’t sorry). I mainly never forgive myself. I have been working on this, and I’m making progress 😇 This video helps me think positively in seconds. Downloading it so I can listen to it again whenever required! Thank you so much! ❤️
This is a little thing, but it felt really good. Back in my 8th grade year (nearly 30 years ago now), I had insulted another girl. That stayed with me. A few years ago was my high school reunion and I contacted this girl (now obviously grown) and reached out to her on Facebook... and I apologized. She didn't remember... but *I* did. And now, whenever I happen to think of that incident in my life... I can also remember that I reached out and apologized for it and took responsibility for it.
+Brian Tracy The parent on was really good for me because I'm 14 and I was starting to develop the inferiority complex as you called it in the video, I would like to thank you for making these videos they are super helpful answer thing me on the right path in life.
After this video i realize that forgiveness is the basic key to success in the life without forgiveness there is no piece of mind and no meaning of life. Thank you very much Mr Brian Tracy
Excellent advice. We are doing ourselves a favor by forgiving other in order to get mental peace. Otherwise the constant negative thought of hatred and anger would eat our mind and body.
i did it..the thing about a letter. by e mail..to my husband..and sure i felt instantly well...i did that before i saw this video..and when i saw it ..i was like wow..thank you so much dear..for these beautiful words
This video made me emotional. I think holding on to anger really affected my life in so many ways. Sometimes I'm thinking that I have already forgiven the people who had hurt me but sometimes when they suddenly appear in my thoughts and the hurtful things they did, I realize I'm still affected and hurt. From now on, little by little, I will do my best to forgive them completely including myself for all the wrong decisions and mistakes I did. By then, I'll be living a free and happy life with a genuine peace of mind ♥️. Thank you Sir Brian Tracy. Even if I haven't met you personally, I consider you as my life mentor. 🙂
Very good talk. This concept of 'forgive and forget' is within every major world religion. "... be ever ready to overlook each other’s mistakes, apologize for harsh words they have uttered, forgive and forget..." Baha'i Faith, Lights of Guidance
Jad Ammouri , forgiveness is, not allowing the people to do same mistakes, you don't have to trust them again, you don't have to give permission for them to do the same thing again, take responsibility...
he is absolutely right It frees a weight on ur soul n heart to finally forgive in any chapter or life changing event in ones life it is repentance to go on with your life and live a life of joy and happiness withthin
Brian, You truly have a gift for impartation to people. This message is very powerful and you present it excellently. I know your videos are part of a bigger picture. I hope you continue to bless people with your positive insights and knowledge. It's a joy to watch you.
"Forgiveness Affirmation:" I release myself from all the demands and judgements that have kept me limited. I allow myself to go free - to live in joy and love and peace. I allow myself to create fulfilling relationships, to have success in my life, to experience pleasure, to know that I am worthy and deserve to have what I want. I now go free. In that process I release all others from my demands and expectations I have placed on them. I choose to be free. I allow others to be free. I forgive myself and I forgive then. And so it is.
I wish spiritual teachers would talk more often about practical ways to forgive. They only state that its super important. This video is a good starting point. As long as we keep working on ourself we will make way better mistakes with our children and the will raise their children even better. Affirmations work pretty well in this regard. I use: "I forgive myself and everyone else in my life. We are all doing the best we can". Then you could record it with moments of silence in between and think of different relationships that need healing (while listening to the tape). If you are willing to forgive you will find ways to do so.
You didn´t get my point. It is not about them its about myself. You can´t really experience the present moment if something (blame and guilt) drags you into the past. If they change or not of course is up to them. I wish for them whatever brings them happiness.
Adriana Gaertner Yeah, I agree with you. I don't know if sending the letter is a smart idea. I think that you should take into consideration what the other person might feel because if you don't, you're basically reaching peace of mind at the expense of others. It should be a short wishing well letter rather than a long forgiveness report.
The other alternative I recommend is not even sending the letter. But at least write it to yourself and then either store the letter away or burn it. That's a great way of gaining closure.
Luke Mitchell Yes, I agree. That's the most mature thing to do. If you send the letter you might get yourself into trouble or even start an argument with the other person, which is the last thing you want. Just make peaces with yourself regarding that person and move on. That's the best type of closure.
yes thats why religion can be resourceful... eventhough I dont literally believe in them I use them as something resourceful.. thats what brian is doing.
This is one of the most important topics in personal growth and one of your best videos. I have been working on this myself a lot recently, and it has been very helpful.
I think its ok to be angry. So long as we bring it to a positive conclusion through forgiveness. For instance, to remain angry with the faults of others, is to revenge their faults upon ourselves.
Excellent points Mr. Tracy. I found this video on one my LinkedIn groups, and will forward to a friend who is having problems letting go of a relationship gone bad. And because this person can't let go, it is ruining their life, but what is worst, they can't see it.
thank you so much.. I couldn't let go of something that hurt me in the past.. but watching this video made me let go of some of it. thank you once again.
Some of this has to be taken on a case-by-case basis. Forgiving one's parents does not always mean telling them you forgive them or seeking a closer relationship with them. It's very possible that Brian Tracy has no experience dealing with toxic, narcissistic, scapegoating parents who continue to abuse (even in subtle ways) their adult children. If that sounds like your situation, it's better to forgive them privately (just between you and God). It may not be wise to hold out hope or feed a yearning to reconcile with toxic parents. In fact, it may be necessary to self-differentiate from parents and set healthy boundaries, and perhaps more distance. There's no such thing as general advice that applies exactly the same for everyone. Seek the solution that's right for *your* situation. God bless you on your journey through life. Peace
Expressing repentance will set you free...! Exactly :) Inner peace!! Love yourself and forgive yourself and everyone who has ever caused harm to you... You're not the same person you were in the past...!
I completely forgive myself and everyone who has ever hurt or harmed me in any way, wittingly and unwittingly. I am a thoroughly good person and I am going to have a bright, wonderful future. I love myself unconditionally. 2021 new year's eve
Very beneficial. Thanks for the upload. I feel many people may hold some sort of anger or resentment towards someone in their lives and in some cases, themselves. Each point mentioned in this video is useful. Thanks again!
Thank you very much Brian. I love listening to you. Beside your clear explanation & calm confident tone, your advices always doable and useful ...many thanks.
Thank you Brian for your contribution. I am working on the issue of forgiveness and your suggestions are helping me. Boy, I do struggle with this issue to swallow and make the concept of forgiveness part of my flesh...you see... I do have all the good concepts in my mind but not in my visceral system... I hope to succeed for the sake of my personal liberation and healing.
Don't pay attention to others' reactions as you're focused on yourself. Focus on yourself to let go of the anger. I forgive them. I wish them well. Time will comfort you though you'd wish that it would come sooner. Forgive yourself for every stupid past mistakes done. You live and learn and move on with life. It's hard to forgive people who F--- you over esp. financially, though. I love myself. I forgive those people who me! Get on with life with a smile :)
Thank you Sir for your amazing video. I was holding lot of regrets and repentance about my past . But your video made it easy to forgive myself. Thank you so much for sharing all your videos and advises and suggestions. It makes life seems so easy and achievable of newer possibilities. Thank you Sir.
Thank you brian this is a Very Powerful message , When we Learn to truly forgive all persons/ people in our past we move forward to a better & happier life & better goals. Thank You ,, May the good lord bless you Brian
