How to Make Friends (Even as an Introvert) 

Great topic!!! Many people believe they understand these points but they truly do not. No matter what age you it is so important to constantly be aware of how to be liked and not hated. On a side note, in the future please summarize your video points at the end of your video and also in the Notes section. Below are my top 5 points of how to make people like you 1. Be very warm and kind to people. Similar to your point smile and be cheerful but not phony. 2. Give the person your full attention and seem interested. Don't look at your phone. Make eye contact comment on everything they say. Fake laugh if you have to and try to agree with them as much as possible Promptly return their calls, emails or text messages. 3. Invite people to something, send them a text or email on a topic they are interested in. Comment on posting they make. Do that person a favor if you can. 4. Focus the conversation on the person. Unfortunately people do not care about you but they care about themselves. Ask them questions about their passions in life. Comment about a topic they mentioned to you before. Be interesting. Unless some is a very very close friend, never share your problems with people. Men in especially will look down upon you as being a loser. 5. People are very sensitive but you can not be. Control your speech and thoughts. The wrong action, no matter how small, may make a person hate you forever. However you can not be sensitive to their actions. Otherwise it is easy to write-off almost everyone you come into contact with. There will be people you will, for some reason based on your looks, race, nationality, etc, will never give you a chance and will immediately hate you. Those people you just need to ignore and keep out of your life.

Hi Lea, Nice video again. I am smiling to tell you that. Making friend is important and for some people indeed difficult. But What is also important is maintaining that friendship. Maybe a suggestion for a followup video? Active listening is - in my experience - difficult for many people. Throwing words out like a waterfall. Taking an interest helps one to active listen. And Eyecontact, which you also mentioned can help with that. A sidenote which I really liked. When you emphesise a word in your video's, I noticed that you zoom in on yourself. Good way I think to keep your audience engaged. Monday another video, I was really early on this sunday. Btw, I am going to use many of your social tips in class. Look if I can use them to be more myself for my students and engage them more. Grtz, Patrick

These are all good reminders, especially the advice to smile. That's actually the hardest thing for me to do and any time I try, I feel like it is forced. An advanced technique to add to your list is to be receptive to feedback. And I mean being truly receptive. I used to ask for feedback from my team at the end of a rotation and realized that when a resident would give feedback, I would find myself justifying myself which had the effect of invalidating their feedback. I have finally learned to just take it in and process it in a non-defensive manner. This has reaped huge benefits with residents feeling more comfortable giving feedback and me learning things I can improve.