@@jonatans.5080 You do not have to play games. If a woman wants to be with you, she will do the work. She will adapt. Also know that you cannot negotiate attraction. A person's desire to be with you can end at any time, for any reason. Therefore, do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. People who play games are trying to 'game' the 'system.' It may work for a few months, but invariably it will become an burden to the player. Just become your best self. Be polite, honest, & direct. And make sure you will do what you say, even when it's difficult. Doing this will show all people you are a man of your word. This is the way to earn respect.
Even if she rather dump a good boy who knows and who they both talk about having strong bond even when she got two jobs only becusee she wants to move so bad becusee of mom problems that can easily be in controll why say she might break up with me if I don't move in iwth her say I dont want tocachive more when where u live now and have a job thats good why would u leave if ur good and that other person is having problems its a big move on me leaving my fam to go be with a girl who wants to move outbso bad but got a second job and say dont need u financially but now says she wants your love and sweetness lol but breaks up with u a week later so now shes all livin life lol with teo jobs tryn pay off her dept and get a house then what ur gonna find someone eles lol what about me what about the guy u dumped for no reason who was down to ride lol n now u cant call it a rebound cause by then it would be a yesr already and now prolly think how better they are and al lthis stuff while im over here like the relationship was unfinished like I got left dry and high what about that
It's so funny how people miss you when you're gone but when you're around they don't miss you .we live in an evil world where women want the guy who does not care about them which is actually really childish
LOL. Exactly what happened with me and a girl who really loved me when i didn't give a damn about her. And now, karma has pulled an Uno reverse card on my ass: I like her and now she doesn't like me.
Wanting someone to miss you, will only destroy you. Because seeking someone else's approval for your self worth, does not validate self importance. But is a clear indication that you are insecure. So when you text someone which in this case 'her' just text her because you want to text her and everything else should flow naturally. So remember to love yourself first; body, mind and spirit. Stay safe y'all, peace ✌.
@@sjm7290 So long as you express what genuinely want and your happiness is independent of the outcome, you'll never be disappointed. To be in this place only requires that you love yourself.
You just have to accept how things are. If you want to play, these are the rules to follow. If not....well, then go into the desert and be forever alone.
Not really, just don't come off desperate. When I was in high school I used to be super nonchalant/laid back and that attracted a lot of girls. In college I had more of pressure from friends who were in relationships to get a girlfriend and that eventually gave me crippling anxiety around women I found attractive. This also killed off any attraction from girls who were initially interested in me. It's all about prioritizing yourself and not putting too much value in trying to get a girl. It goes both ways, I have also rejected girls who were too clingy and pushing a relationship with me in the past. Desperation is an unattractive trait regardless of gender, it simply makes people look unstable and crazy. Nobody wants to be in a fatal attraction situation lol.
That would be useful if, and only if, the woman in case has a clear, non conflicting process of thought. My guess is that women in general have a mind that is confusing and contradictory.
Girl this stuff works!! Lol I tried exactly as you said and really dissed her for a couple of days and she was the one now calling me or texting me. I’ve learned to stop “being needy” thanks for the advice gurl!!!
If the relationship has got to this stage where you have to watch this junk advice vid mate walk away. Miss rightis out there somewhere. Don't change you for anyone. Once you start questioning then it's time to move on. Grow a pair, be on your own.
I blame social media. Women now are more visible than ever and have an abundance of options. Good guys are too boring, the only ones who keep their interest are the bad boys who have a record, no job and cheat on them! I just accept it for what it is, no need to get mad about it.
@@cascadeblue7268 Can't agree more. Bad guys always win when it comes to attracting women. Even in movies or drama😂. The nice guy will get sick, lonely, or die in drama. While the bad guy eventually become sweet, romantic and caring for the girl which he ignored before, then they'll fall in love and live happily ever after.
hell yeah i agree 100 percent. the only thing ive ever wanted from a woman is companioonship. but n. i dont want a weak woman. I want a woman who knows who she is and what she wants in life. I wont take her hand and lead. basically woman operate on emotion like little children.
4 tips to make her miss you 3:00 Focused to something else more than Your Girl 5:00 Never be needy,never get attached 6:10 ignoring is not pushing her away 7:40 stop being 100% available,100%in, be decisive 8:25 (you offer her something obviously) observe what she is offering if she is not, leave her,man. ....... Ignore Ignore Ignore a lot Everyone else is giving her time whats the uniqueness you have ......
🤣🤣🤣 this why relationships are not working. Women dating coaches are telling them to be hard to get, men dating coaches telling them to be hard to get. In the end both partners waiting on each other to reach out to the other because no one wants to seem weak. Damn I came here to see what kind of advice men receive, seems like the same advice we women get, let him text you,let him come to you, give him silence,give him space...meanwhile his dating coach telling him to do the same thing 💆
😂😂😂😂, Angel we are all screwed, can you imagine your ex ends it with you and you get advice to go do something like skiing or find a hobby chances are your ex is at the same ski resort or is doing the same hobby as she’s getting the same advice !!!!!, bring back the old mans pub where women aren’t allowed in that’s our only escape, even the women rubber doll has its own dating advice Channel
Jesus christ, can't people just cut the bloody crap and be honest?! "I'm pretending to not like you so you like me, because I like you" what the hell?!
But as Think about it. It clear to me. In dating game you got be interesting and not desperate. So right now I going trying figure out how to more money. That will help me lead a more interesting life and everything else should fall into place.
this is exactly a sticking point for me too. The only way I can understand it is to put it in the context of the entire relationship in terms of a long-term relationship. That maybe this is just for a beginning or leading into a more serious relationship at the beginning of the relationship. Then it might make a little bit of sense. But I'm really struggling with this idea that I have to spend my life playing some f****** game in order for a woman to like me. Personally I want someone one in my life that wants to be around me and with me doing every activity that gets done being done together.I thought there were people who had marriage is like that they would start a business together work together cook meals together sleep together shower together do everything together. At least for a. Of time in the beginning while you're infatuated with each other. That's the kind of relationship I want that's the God's honest truth. I want somebody that wants to be around me all the time and shower me with her affection on a daily basis
and that's why 50% of marriages end in divorce after about 8 years. how can you not know someone fully after 8 years. the remaining 50% are sensible people :)
@@MrDJROGERS Thats what irritates the hell out of me about women. Once I see that a woman is mine, thats when I give her everything I got. Women are the opposite.
The problem is that when she pulled away , we are so needy , we are so attached. And when we are stable in the life without her , when she come back , we don't want those girls again
News flash Pimp , thass 90% of women . They love chaos 🤣 . Once a women sense she got you OTS OVA . Thats why I recommend a guy have atleast 6-7 females “friends” on the side that are Waaaayyy more attractive then her . This will place her in a scarcity mind state or a competitive one either way DONT CARE . If it comes down to it fuck one of the girls you call your “friend” and watch how your emotions change toward her . It sound harsh but its human nature bruh
Care but produce first shift gears like an F1 driver. Be your own man, care about others and have your own life but fuck her good. Be mysterious without being a cock but deliver the cock. Have your own shit she just becomes part of what you’re doing. Be a gentlemen. Take care of “us”
1. Attraction was killed 2. You have to become the man she desires 3. Missing INHANCES the MYSTERY! 4. Follow something you are Passion about, whatever; be busy and gone from her life. 5. Book at trip and start posting stuff on social media - she will see it and wonder about you... 6. Get rid of all NEEDINESS! Change the Attentiveness, constant talking to her, make yourself scary, & stop being attached to her. 7. Change the Behaviors that Pushed her away. You need to deal with your weaknesses. 8. She will start missing you, once you back off. Do not tell her full out what you are doing. Don't give details, Mystery, Mystery, Mystery! 9 Calm your inner voices down, that you will lose her if you don't press in - NEVER CHASE her, unless you have really screwed up. Let her come to you. 10. Let her try to figure out what you are doing. 11. Always show her Respect, but do not give your Mystery or Power away to her.
How to make her miss you 4 tips 1. Do something your passionate about 2. Don't accept all invitations 3. Change behaviors 4. Close ended answers. (Don't be completely available for her)
Some girls sadly are incapable of missing you, because they're far too independent, hell some of em are so cold they don't even know how to love because they've spent too much time on these "self healing" things that they feel they don't need anyone in their lives, so girls like that will never say they miss you or show you their feelings, they'll just watch you walk away and not care. It's about finding a happy balance, someone that shows the emotions to you and shows they want to be with you in actions and words and doesn't want to lose you out of how they feel for you, not out of if they can manage alone or not.
No my friend you kind of want her to think that actually! Then just normal human psychology will take over and she will begin to try to get you to notice her again
This works. It's really true. Every relationship I've had, they would always start with women wanting to be around me all the time. When I give in, they start backing away.
The cold hard truth is that the Game never stops my friend. You men gotta get over the idea that women are sane and logical like us men. Women are agents of Chaos. They despise order and stability. They get bored easily. They need emotional turmoil to enjoy life. That's why you gotta create some form of turmoil to keep them on their toes. Never make a woman too comfortable around you. Dont shower her with gifts and compliments. Skip 2 or 3 weeks without calling her. Break patterns of behaviour. Dont bust when you have sex with her. Know how to make her cum real good. Fuck with her ego a little bit. And watch how her interest level skyrockets.
Isn't it mysterious when he starts talking to her as if she were some other woman? Won't that cause her to take action to at least try to figure out how anyone could be chosen over her for intimate conversation? This will cause immediate attraction and spark a short term sexual renewal. Well, unless she has already made her decisions with her friends and relatives to quit the man. I sometimes feel like no woman is worth this much effort to have. If she needs me to constantly up my game, she is the one with the emotional issues. She may have taken the leap to a relationship long before she understood the man or life she was getting into. Continue to make adjustments to your style, as a man, and you will find yourself pushing her away. Be a man. Let her go. Find a woman who has the intestinal fortitude, intelligence and morals equal to yours, whatever those may be. .
100% agree...Just be patient and honest and true to YOURSELF..If she walks away, then its her loss, because I know me, I know what I want , and what I dont want...
Because it only works on people with insecure attachment styles ( which is actually quite a lot of people). Men and woman who have secure attachment styles will find all this crap transparent and boring. I guess you need to decide what kind of partner you want.
Nicely put “you have to be the man she desires”. Honestly, this does not work on every woman. For instance, if I reach out to my guy after he returns from his trip away, and he shows indifference to me and doesn’t immediately want to see me upon his return. I would instantly think he was not considerate and/or interested in this relationship to work. I would cease and withdraw my interest completely. I’m not interested in “mind games“. Guys be honest with yourselves and follow your inner intuition.
Ez-zackly!!! Men, don’t let no female run their silly games on you. When it doesn’t make sense or you got that knot in your stomach (sixth sense) then it’s time to have a conversation. If she’s combative, passive aggressive or evasive - show her the door. Time is precious and I don’t have time for the bullshit. Guard your mind & self respect!
Posting things on social media immediately tells others that you're actually not that busy... Also doesn't it actually kill the mystery of what you're doing?
Definitely not if I have a crush on a girl and all she has on her Instagram is the same thing from 3 years ago I immediately assume she’s not done anything interesting in her life.
me: *gives her all the love and attention she needs* her: *Doesn´t want it/ thinks it´s needy* me: *focusing on myself/ not caring about her at all* her: Oh my god, I want to get his attention and be loved by him....
@@antcri730 Oh, well if it isn’t ant cri, a true scholar from the School of Athens here to bestow his bean-counter knowledge of the English language upon us. Thank God you ran into the Protector of Diction and he prevented you from looking like a fool on the internet. Let’s all give ant cri an applause for being the favorite at every party. Let us encourage him to also grow out a pony tail so that one day it may aid him in pulling his own head out of his ass. English is a liquid language. Fight me.
I just realized that there is all these videos on how to keep the women, make her want you, kiss her, and all this other stuff. F that, the women should prove themselves to us men
Think two people should prove their worth to each other. When it starts with one side having to put in more effort then you already know it won't last.
Well said. I wrote a letter to my best friend who I have known for almost 3 years. She rejected the letter, so I am avoiding her to see if she can prove herself, or was she just playing games with me all these years.
Guys simply be a player. Make sure you got 10 women you fooling around with all times. These women of today ain't worth it. Let them be passed around with the homies.
Ugh as much as I agree with your opinion, it’s super difficult not to want to be there with someone you are extremely attracted to, not only physically but mentally attracted. I have not felt this way in a long time about a woman and my head hurts from wanting to be with her. My chest hurts when I’m around her from the attraction. It’s harder when your a more mature man because you know how good love can be and it’s hard to wait for that to develop. When I was in my teens and twenties I had no problem giving a girl space, I was to busy only thinking about me. Now in my thirties I yearn for affection it’s ridiculous how my body starts to ache over this new found prospect that makes me feel good where it counts.
Right there with you Kool. Its worse at 51. And when your dating older people, they dont often have time or patience for games. Yeah, psychologically this stuff does work, but I think it works more on younger women then women in their mid 40's. I find things that worked for me when I was 25 dont work anymore. Crazy world we live in.
Also thank you for this. Everything in life is about focusing on myself first and then relationship. I have a girl who have same interests as I do. We been doing good but before graduation, my relationship almost fell apart by being desperate. Today and after today, I wait for her to come to me.
Apollonia, you are so right on with everything. I wish I heard this when I was 22. It took me so long to figure it out on my own. What was I thinking? Thank you for sharing!
Alot of guys say dont go to a fish to catch a fish, but this lady is pretty spot on. She not really saying how she feels like most women do. She actually says the facts, and I like that. 10/10
Honestly this is so helpful. I was struggling with too much availability, actually lost time for myself. I am sure this is a way to actually focus on bettering the things you had fears about
I love being muslim. It's allow us to marry upto 4 woman. Once you have 4 wives. You are the man. All these wives will challenge on them self. You will be the man. Trust me become Muslim and have 4 wives and enjoy life.
complex creatures that need everything opposite from logic! my whole life is logic so in order for me to accept this i try to convince myself woman are stupid. maybe it sounds wrong but its starting to work for me so what can i say?
You can't make someone feel anything , even if you give them a reason, they need to come to terms with there own feelings to know which way there going with it, so honestly, your taking the same amount of chances by not calling her or not being available and acting like your busy or whatever it is to get her attention to turn around in your favor that it may or it may not work.......However, some people don't realize that they take people for granted when they were right there and when they are not there thats when they want to see there value, it sucks but its true.
your videos are very refreshing to watch. I wish I had this stuff all figured out but ultimately I am feeling very positive about the idea of focusing on self actualisation and developing myself for me. Thanks Apollonia. Subscribed!
Apollonia, I love you! I know I would have to say this in private, but you deserve it in public! By few videos you managed to calm down my mind which was blown for the last few weeks, because I realize that I didn't do anything wrong and it is all about how psichologically things works. I'm getting now more confident where perhaps other 100 would have failled. Thanks Lady, you are more helpful and camarade than lots of men friends I have are :)
I’m new to your channel...currently binge watching. You give a ton of great information that will really, truly help me in my new relationship. So I just want to take a moment to simply say, “Thank you,” for the work you’ve put into these post and the valuable information you give.
Biggest mistakes I've made the past 3 months is being to available, to needy,and chasing her to much. Crowding and most likely putting pressure on her. She pulled back but has not ended it and set a some boundaries. So shod I go partial no contact and do the missing enhancing mystery? I have noticed that if I dont contact for awhile she will reach out. So I'm not texting as much or blowing up her phone or liking her posts on fb. Crazy about her and she said the same and is still sexually attracted to me. Is giving her time and space good at this point?
Yes, nowadays is all about games. I'm in that situation right now, so I am just focusing on myself, and avoiding the girl. If she can prove herself, and show that she can be loyal, then I'll give her a shot, otherwise, nope.
Biggest mystery is not to post anything on social media. Let her miss you when she is not able to find your presence even. Even if you start something to learn don't post anything immediately till the time you don't master it. Once confident enough then you may think of dropping a bomb. New skills, new personality and new lifw.
Thanks Apollonia, I love hearing these words coming from an intelligent woman, it means so much more. @8:00 are the key points here, solid stuff right there. I am a man of mystery by nature, I just don't let anyone in my house, you have to earn it. Be kind, respectful, and generous with your time. If she is not reciprocating back and making the playing field fair or one-sided., then slowly pull back on the text messages, phone calls, and the attention. Then you will see her squirm and miss the attention that she once took for granted. No woman is going to open up to you and commit to you if you are clingy and needy. Be a gladiator, not a poodle
Well, everyone is different, and every relationship is different and we have to understand that if her attraction for u is decreasing and u pull away, take a trip, dont call or text and continue to give her sort dry answers when she reaches out, that can go either way, it may draw her to u but it may also drive her away
If you gotta re-ignite the attraction even before you're "in a relationship" , then she ain't tha one.. or maybe you ain't tha one... .. however you spin it, y'all ain't it💯
A girl did this mystery thing with me, and I freaked out about it. I absolutely can’t stand it if my partner is hiding something even if I specifically asked about it or is dishonest.
@@ventures9560 bro if u cared about your needs you wouldnt be here be real with ureself ure either here bcoz of youtube algorithm or u cant get over a girl.
Not really. Back away from her and do your own shit.. You don't even have to do anything fancy. Take a class or start lifting weights. Basically stop making them the only priority and interest you have. Either they get interested again or they don't. That's not your concern. Your living your life.
It does work, I tried it with a girl that would take a long time to respond, I did not text back and waited a day, she reached out the next day :) and is more interested now
i'm watching this. but she cheated on with withsome els. while we were still together. (to make it short. it all happend when corona lockdowns were going on so i could not see her as much) i felt less activitie/romantic between us, we are almost together for 2 years.... and i found out when i took my laptop at her place. she was still logged on on something. and damn the text messages and more. they hurt. she called him every night. but when i asked she said she was lisn to music.. anyways its my second day of knowing that she texted someone els and that person replace me in to the new boyfriend. i hope this never happens to anyone of you who read this. be healty stay safe and i hope for everyone who read or took some time to read my problems i hope you have a great day or night.
I legit cant believe people need to be taught how to handle relationships ect. If woman and mens expectation werent so unrealistic due to social media, how to guides, top 10 things to do or not have screwed up peoples brains, 15 years ago I never needed to try and fake myself ect to become attractive or play mind games, she either wanted you or not period, now days its extremely insecure that a guy could literally say nothing and get rejected or say alot get rejected, so many woman and men are suffering with mental illness compared to 15 years ago, why isnt anyone talking about this!? No one should feel the need to play mind games or ignore woman or men, thats just insane, what we need to be doing is highlighting the mental illness, its not normal to have high levels if anxiety or lose interest extremely easily, all that does is encourage woman and men to give up too easily in life, which explains the high level of loneliness and depression, people need to grow a set of balls, take leaps of faith, allow love and affection into life and realise we’ve all been conditioned to become this emotional confused reck.
I don't always agree with everything that you say Apollonia. However, I feel that this lesson is really sound advice and well presented. I appreciate you and the work you do with your channel. Thanks!
Im currently a student, so it’s quite easy to work on yourself by focusing hard on schoolwork, sports, and after school clubs. When I’m not studying or going to practice, I’m building my community service hours as a counselor for a group of kids ages 6-13. Stay active. If she’s not willing to stay with a person who’s dedicating more time to personal development and the community than on her, she’s not even worth the spare time you have to begin with.
I was seeing this girl for over a month, it was going great,we have sood much things in common it was crazy, i wasn't being needy, i learned it from my last relationship, I actually turned her down when she wanted to see me cause o made plans, we were seeing eachother every weekend, having sex in random places, planning trips, she was the one that was initiating to see me, she wanted me to meet her family,and everything was great, then after the weekend i made plans and couldn't see her that following week she was supper cold, hardly texted, and then when she did she said sorry for late response she had a hell of a week and I replied a day after saying what happened is she ok? And no response from her since any advice? Or just continue to mirror her action and act like I'm unphased ?
It is an one of the best video I have ever watched this exactly happens with me I had been seeing a girl since 13 years I am 22 years since childhood we have a relationship now she has been changed
Why do you women even play these friggin games ? What is it that you REALLY want ?! Do you want a truly good, decent, and loving man who wants to spend the rest of his life with you, who won't cheat, who will "satisfy" you, who will protect and cherish you etc... ? Or do you want a man who you can't trust, who will cheat, who will subject you to verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, who will spend more time with his "buds" than with you ? My parents were married in 1942 two months after they met at a WW 2 USO dance, and were married for 42 years until death. And then my mother was faithful to him even after death. My grandparents were married 53 years, great grandparents 58 years. They all had their share of problems and such, but they loved each other and stayed together. And they didn't play these stupid games ! Is it too much for you ladies to just be real and genuine ? Do any of you know what you really want ? My sister started her "man hunt" by the time she reached 21. Became an airline stewardess, host at the Playboy Club etc... She wanted a guy who was the Perfect 10 in looks, 8 or more " ", and a 6 figure bank account. She ended up in two bad and abusive marriages, and died old, broke, alone, and living off the charity of obscure relations. And she deserved it !
