She Needs Space From the Relationship (3 STEPS to WIN Her Back) 

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If she wants to take a break. She needs to win you back. Don't contact her. In the interim, if you haven't already been working on yourself, it's time to start. And then never stop working on yourself.

I’ve been in 4 relationships since 18 and I’m 24. The worst mistake I ever made was being controlling and not giving space when needed. Needless to say I’m now single again but I’m ready to learn and grow thanks to your video! 🔜👌🏻

Hang in there guys. Many of us were groomed to keep our emotions hidden and now that the world is changing we are behind. We need to be more vocal about our emotions but like many guys I don't know how to correctly vocalize my emotions.

Man this is my relationship 100% literally step by step the way you broke it down. Thank you for the great advise.

My gf said this to me and I reacted badly thank you for this advice

I'm not a man, but this advice is helping soothe my anxiety attack and heartbreak. I'm starting to understand how I contributed to our issues and feel more hopeful about working on my marriage. Thank you for your channel.

I'm recently going through this situation right now and it's really crazy how you described everything and how much Sense it made and actually how much sense it makes but the instant change negative feelings are gone and that took me a long time

I caused my girlfriend (ex) to feel hopelessness about the relationship by constantly reacting poorly to conflict and not giving her the comfort and trust the relationship needs for her to be able to unpack her baggage and relationship issues with me. However, I am really hoping to instil this trust again and work on myself during this break period so we can have a healthy relationship dynamic once again.

This is gold thank you. I feel like engaging the world and my loved one wholeheartedly. I really feel an opening in my chest when realizing this, since it is the best I can do, and whatever the outcome, I've worked from my heart and done what feels right, which is the best I can do for myself and others.

Thanks man. 2 year old video and it’s still helping people, I’m going through this right now and all that “she belongs to the streets now” crap was getting to my head. I’m the one who messed up by projecting crap from my previous partner on her.

I am glad I found this video. It's an eye opener to guys who experienced the same thing as me. Thank you, Geoffrey!

This video is EXACTLY what I desperately needed. It put a lot of things into an incredible perspective that I haven't been able to see for a long time. Thank you.

Mind-blowing advice here!

Geoffrey, I came across your video because my girlfriend of 3 years wanted a separation. We’ve lived together for a year and just moved back to our hometown. I didn’t immediately come to RU-vid for answers, I’ve been spending time with my family and talking about it. However, I realize one of the things that I love about her is the potential to start a family removed from many of the bad habits of thought that are practiced in my family. This realization came after my dad just gave me the “big dick” advice: “shit, give her all the space she needs, leave her ass, there are other people.” Typically I’d listen, but you don’t just meet people who are worth fighting for every day, and she’s that woman for me. So then I googled around and came across your video. For better and worse, I don’t know how this will go, but I already cannot thank you enough for your timely advice and train of thought.

Very powerful words man. Thank you. I truly believe you saved my relationship when i had no clue what to do or who to turn to. Thanks again!

Your video is my bus stop. Thank you.. I’m going through this right now, I was able to get her to express herself and she is willing to see us work things out, meanwhile I’ve prepared myself for the good and worst, I’m goin to keep working on myself as I’ve always.

This is my relationship to a T. Thank you for your guidance and solid advice. I hope to come back here some day and report that we used this space to grow better individually and later as a couple.

Awesome advice, perfect. Thank you. Everything you stated, honestly is facts for me.

This is the exact relationship problem I have been facing since so long .. This has really really helped me a lot , I could feel myself in it thoroughly . This video has made me feel that I’m right at my own place to feel such things n to stop doubting on myself. Thank you so much

Thank you so much Geoffrey! You are absolutely amazing brother!

Love this so much Geoffrey! So much freedom in surrendering to space.

I can’t thank you enough for having these perfectly detailed videos. A lot of times we as men get tones of bad advice when we’re in these marriage situations. Thank you and I will continue to watch your videos.

The 3 steps provided in the video seem practical and respectful. It's important to give her the space she needs while working on self-improvement

Thank you I needed to hear this , it’s going to help me heal 💪🏾

this has been really useful! Its helped me feel at ease and given me things to work toward for myself. Thank you

Subscribed! Hands down the most on point advice I’ve seen for the past 3-4 weeks. I had been searching for this very advice. Thank you!!

Wish I saw this earlier. We're about a month into giving each other space, been on good terms the whole time but sometimes I had a lot of trouble controlling my emotions and I got a little excessive with the how are you texts for the first week or so. Now that I'm seeing this, I'm really realizing that patience is key.

Thanks for this video. It helps me to understand better why she reacted that way. I don’t think we’ll get back together but at least she did reach out a few times and manage to amicably speak on things that matters.

great solid advice Geoffrey ! No begging for sure !

Man, you are really spot on, on what is going on with my fiance and I. I really think she keeps things bottled in to avoid conflict, but she feels if she speaks up, she will get angry and say things she does not mean out of anger. So, she feels hopeless right now.

What a great video! I have watched several videos on the topic but yours put it in perspective the best. Thank you!

3 years later and this video still on point. Thanks!

Im going through this right now, and Im doing my best to better myself. I would try and explain that she was doing the same things as I was being accused of and she would shut down. I didnt beg or plead when she asked for space, I said that I think it would be healthy for us both. Im only talking to her when we have to exchange our daughter. We talked for 4 hours prior to her leaving and Im so proud of myself that I stayed calm the whole time. Thanks for this amazing video, your calm way to explain a difficult topic is amazing !

Been watching a lot of your videos and it blows my mind how many comments you reply to. Your level of commitment is incredible. You are helping so many people who feel helpless and don't have anywhere else to turn and for that I want to thank you! If everyone was as committed to their relationship as you are to your comment section you wouldn't have a need for a youtube channel lol

Also thanks Geoffrey, your advice is gold.

I force unconditional love time after time again and I know she doesn’t deserve that self love from my part!

Thanks for the advice, nice video Geoffrey!

I cannot thank you enough man, i was in a breakdown after 6 years of relation she wanted space and things looked so bad you taught me everything i was doing wrong and finally i won her back after 2 months of never ending time i am really thankful to you man thank you so much 🔥

New perspective and I’ve listened to literally 100s of videos on this subject. Glad RU-vid put you in my feed

Jheeeze you are spot on. My girl just said she wants a break and it’s no selfish it’s because she wants to save the relationship. Thanks

I am following your advice and reflecting on all that has happened within my relationship. We have our issue but love is there. I am continuing to listen and grow. Thanks a million.

Me and my wife just separated. I have enlisted in the course to better my self . Your words have help me take the first steps in changing my self for the better . Thank you Geoffrey your the man with the plan .

I'm going through this right now and your video is really helpful, man. God bless you.

I rarely comment videos but this one really helped me man. She left me a couple of weeks ago and I really recognize myself in the things you said. Now I started to work on myself, going to the gym, be more productive. Even if she doesn't want to come back then these efforts will pay in the long term for me. Thank you

Great advice always!

I am really happy I saw this video and I appreciate it the more it is coming from a guy himself! It validates my feeling that it’s ok to react and want space. To need space means you want to work with it. Thank you

great take so much better than most of the "break up doctors" on youtube. Thank you for a grounded mutually respectful take on fixing relationship problems.

Thank you so much for this bro! This really made me feel better and to make myself better for the one that I love! ❤

Thanks for watching! This is a big topic, so let me know if you have any other questions/concerns that are not addressed in this video!

Just saw this for the first time and just got on a break with my girl of 5 yrs. So tough but everything was accurate so will follow the advice and pray everything works better!

I really appreciate this video. I really feel broken and lost and spiraling down. This gave me hope for the future I can’t thank you enough

Dang, this is exactly what is happening to me right now. Thanks man!

Hey Geoffrey Great Info. "Grow your Mindset" Awesome Concept.

Hi Geoffrey, your videos have been extremely helpful, thank you!

istg this is the type of video I've been searching for. I'll thank you for sliding into my recommendation. You deserve a subscribe.

Such a better explanation.Very much grateful.Thanks so much for such insight.

Thanks for the video. It's really hard to get a true quality content about "in need space" subject. Cause most of video i have seen, handle the situation in a toxic way. You are the first one to handle it in a very mature and simple way cause sometime, when someone say "i need space", that person mean it. There is no cheating or desire to stop relation behind, just the person need space to rebuild her/his "individual". So the best things to do is to let that person the space she/he wants. Also i wanted to add one more point. Sometime, the problem is inside the partner who ask for distance. It's important to understand partner's background, where he/she came from, what he/she have been through, with who? was it toxic? for how long? After all these events, did he/she manage time to recover or he/she jump into a new relation? I believe there is always a timing for a new relation, and when someone didn't had the time to fix her/his inner shadow, then at some point, she/he might need some space and your advice are really usefull on that case too.

Only dude thst made sense n have frameworks so underrated

Thank you!! This confirms something I already thought to be true.

I needed this, I was blinded by my own actions trying to force something when in reality I just have to back off and do my own thing

This is spot on. I should have watched this a long time ago. Every time she had a concern, I felt attacked and defended myself. This ended up in her getting hurt and the destruction of the emotional safety. When she asked for a break I broke down and asked her not to. She left about a month later. We're working on rebuilding the relationship and seeing a couples therapist but we're separated and living apart now. This is exactly how she felt and why she left.

This is one of the best video I’ve ever watch about the argument, thank you!!

Thank you 🙏🏾 I needed this for sure

Thank you for all the amazing advice!

On point! We were fighting over little things constantly, then talked it out, then fought again, then I told him I'm so unsure not only about the relationship itself but also my feelings for him decreased... so he said that's not a base for a relationship, we both decided that it's best to have some distance also for me to get clearance. After a few days I told him I really felt how much pressured I felt lately in the relationship, that everything is alright so far, I'm at my friends place (he needs to be close always, often called 3 times a day when I was still in home office and he wasn't anymore, even though we live together) and that I really need this space and asked him to please give me that space, especially after me struggling with setting boundaries beforehand in this relationship. After 1,5 weeks he set a deadline, telling me I have to have made up my mind, he can't do this... So we HAD to meet and talk, I had no choice. We fought again and broke up. Talked, still both wanted to try somehow but I left. I feel so unseen and misunderstood. It still doesn't feel right to stop trying. I don't know what to do

Omg this is exactly the reason why I asked him for a break... I really miss him but the relationship was getting so difficult. I felt he wasn't understanding or hearing what I really needed to feel appreciated....

I like the way you broke this down. I wish I heard this along time ago

Whenever i feel like i am out of track, i come back to this video and watch it again. Thank you for guidance Geoffrey 😊

Hey, me and the girl I love have recently decided to take a step back and work on ourselves for the time being. For the first few days I realized I was being excessive with my texts and almost forcing her to talk to me in a way. This video gave me a lot of hope and am sure one day me and her will be able to resolve things and begin dating once again. I hope the best for both of us on this break we are giving each other and will keep you guys updated. Thank you so much. I love you Aymara .

Dude, thanks for your videos. This one is actually where I am with my wife now. My anger issues led to our separation. I'm working on myself and my anger issues. Over time I'm positive we will see thru this and be able to mend our marriage.

This is the best video on seperation i have seen. Thank you!

I wish I could upvote this 100 times. Thank you for this.

I would love to see a video about being confident and how to handle everything at this time

Thank you so much for making this video as you described it very well why I am asking for a break from my husband of 13 years. And the recommendations that you have given for the husbands are actually bang on.

Thanks so much for this, very insightful and helpful

I've looked and listened to a lot of videos on this subject, you are genius, totally resonated with me, please keep doing what you're doing, you are absolutely the best

I like the video man. Great tips. Subbed

Wow, this sums up my relationship perfectly and everything I've done wrong.

Broke up with her yesterday ,I will follow your steps bro . Thanks

Good stuff Geoffrey! Thanks for the advice. Also you seem like a good guy and I can support that!

Great Job on this Geoffrey. I definitely agree with your point of not begging, pleading or getting angry. Interestingly enough this pushes them further away and a lot of the time can show selfishness and/or scarcity which neither is attractive. Doing the opposite gives you a much higher chance to salvage the relationship with the person you are dating/in a relationship with and demonstrates emotional stability. Great vid.

I just found you. All that you say makes sense. I will put it to work tomorrow. No good morning text. Thank you. 🙏🏼

Anybody who may be going through this at the moment, or see this coming… this video is genuinely the best advice I have ever heard and is very relatable to most situations where breaks are necessary

Geoffrey, I would definitely love to see something on how to keep yourself positive while working on yourself. To create a better environment when you are taking a break. I happen to be in a situation now where we really can't separate but we're not really talking to each other because we have children and financially it's just not possible to leave. Covid-19 has really played a lot of havoc because of being stuck together. There's not much t We do can't really get a part especially cuz we have two young children. Any ideas could be awesome I would really appreciate that.!

Hello Geoffrey! Thank you so much for this advise. This really helps me a lot and gives me lesson and my girl come back. Now i understand more my girl, and we talk about our issues and arguments to each other, understand each other and now it really feel so good that you and your partner talks about in that way. I am really thankful to you Geoffrey. Really helps me a lot. Thank you so much.. 😊😊

Sooo impressed with the content of this video. Thank you

This is Arvin. I'm still watching this once a week, in order for me to understand her for everything she do everyday.

Brother, thanks for caring enough to make all the difference. God bless you and yours, Wulfy

Thanks for the advice because this has been going on for 3 years im doing all those things and you made me understand what I'm doing wrong ive been with my fiance 10 years and she's not showing emotion now we got 2 kids and I do not want to lose my family and my true love thanks man

Literally the most helpful video on RU-vid on this topic. Thank You so much brother.

Great advice, thanks Geoffrey!

You actually talked my relationship word for word thank you you helped me so much

for all of you going through tough times I wish you the best!! make sure you improve yourself and be the best version of yourself and she will eventually see this and want you back! but if it isnt meant to be then move on and be stronger and never do the things you've done before to anyone else. Learn from your mistakes and let that pain make you into a beast!! join the gym get shredded and I promise you brothers, you will attract everyone around you.

This really helped me understand how behavior is received by the other person. Thanks!

Saw so many videos this is the best one. This guy realt been through this himself and he broken it down like how it is. You the man bro

Dude you just helped me in a way that no one could. My girlfriend told me she needed a break yesterday and things happened exactly how you lay them out. Everything you mentioned from the beginning of the video to the end happened to us and now it led her no choice but to take a break from our relationship. Thank you so much.

I’m trying this thing that I’ve been taught growing up. Speak when spoken too. I only talk to her when she reaches out. The only bad thing is that after a while I can continue on without her and won’t speak to her even when she reaches out. I’m at a point where I’m being okay with being alone again and getting use to how quiet the house is so it’s only a matter of time before I move on and she’ll become another chapter in my book but I do hope she works on herself and I’ll be here when she needs me the most.

I don’t know how to give her a break. We have been on a break for about 3/4 days but i handled the situation like an ass, but now i see clearer. Thank you so much.

Your advice is Gold. You are gold.