Another important point is to make a good last impression. What I mean is, if you genuinely enjoyed your date's company, tell them that when you part afterwards. If you enjoyed their topics of conversation, tell them when you part afterwards as well. A positive last impression will put a positive spin on the entire experience, even if it wasn't 100% positive. Great advice, Courtney as per usual.
1:55 picking out an outfit is something I do everyday. It makes sure that I don’t have to stress about what to wear the next day and it just saves a heck of a lot of time :)
Wow first video posted on a Thursday in a while; what a treat! I love the planning out the outfit tip since it really helps to make sure you dress sharply! Cheers! (On a side note, I love to try to ask a few meaningful questions since it helps people talk more about what really counts to them. They always leave feeling like they had a great conversation even if I didn’t say much.)
For me personally, the #1 factor was being attentive and showing interest in what they say or tell them about what they have done or achieved from what she was saying, and show that you were impressed. That worked for me all the time. Also, sense of humor. Genuinely make her feel understood and appreciated for stuff she talks about.
These are all very helpful Courtney. I agree with you on being prepared, having a backup, and dressing our best. Very clever with that AAA analogy haha 😄👍🏽. I would also say use the 80 20 rule. Let a person do 80% of the talking and you do 2o% of the listening/talking. Ask follow up questions about the person and things they are passionate about. This helps when you are shy like i can be. I'm always smiling or bubbly so no worries with that. Have a lovely day
You summed it all up - GEORGIO! Well done. I was going to say all that - but you beat me to it! Lol But I agree with Courtney. First impression are extremely important - because you rarely get a second chance to change things around if you screw it up the first time! And I like point number: “prepare”, or just being prepared in general, because you know what they say: “If you’re always prepared - that’s means, you never need to prepare” or something like that! Lol So keep being “prepared”, and one day - your opportunity will come, it might even show up at your doorsteps! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Aye thanks a ton for sharing your wisdom man. I totally agree with what you said about being prepared. I wish you an awesome upcoming weekend 😁🙌🏽
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 You don't need to tell us that your opinion is "your two cents." It's extraneous. Also, it makes you look weak, and that you doubt your opinion (neither of which are true, judging from the excellence of your other comments). 🙂 If you say it, own it. And if you don't want to own it, don't say it to begin with.
Best first impression is like a shocking sensation, someone rocking your world from the first moment you encounter them. You feel them inside. Nothing is the same from that moment. So alluring you can’t stop noticing them. Like old souls that meet once again.
I agree. First impressions are extremely important - because you rarely get a second chance to change things around if you screw it up the first time! And I like point #1: “prepare”, or just being prepared in general, because you know what they say: “If you’re always prepared - that’s means, you never need to prepare” or something like that! Lol So keep being “prepared”, and one day - your opportunity will come, it might even show up at your doorsteps! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
If you’re ugly, you’re ugly. Doesn’t matter if you wear expensive clothes. I wear casual clothes in first dates and still get the chicks. Woman will find you attractive regardless if your wearing a nice outfit or not. Don’t try hard just let your good looks do the work.
@@23ofSeptember Exactly, I’m no Brad Pitt, but I am considered handsome by many woman. I literally wear normal clothes on dates, and woman still make first moves on me… Still get laid, and they even tell me they like the fact that I’m not trying to act like I got money or try to impress.
Hygiene is very important when you make the first impression with someone I think Courtney Ryan you're the best you're always very helpful and you give out positive feedback
About your fifth point, I tend to go with a stoic approach, although I'm still friendly. It's probably not always a good thing to do though, is it? It's just that a lot of people go around looking as though they have a chip on their shoulder. So it's awkward approaching someone in an upbeat manner only to get unenthusiastic feedback from them. I guess I get less stoic with a person after getting to know them.
The one thing I struggle much with is eye contact, and it stems from years of too many keep saying "Stop looking at me"! But then I do and then someone says "Look at me!" It usually means I'm about to be scolded. And it isn't that I don't care what you're saying, it's just I hate looking at someone for at least 2 seconds
I have a first date tonight, with someone I have never met but who also in my industry. Talk about perfect timing on this video! Sounds like I have a good plan together from what you have talked about, and some of these are good reminders for myself tonight.
I just wanna say Thank You Courtney you're videos are so simple and so easy to understand and you always so calm and relaxed that makes more interesting for me.So thank you for everything and may this year be you're year
I listen to your videos while I work and only rarely do I look at the screen. So, when you said the initial greeting with the stoic voice, I definitely imagined the RBF, as you said right after 😂 Great video.
I think Authentic and Appropriate conflicts with one another, in the context of dates. Being appropriate puts a guy in the neutral zone and doesn’t allow him to freely express him who he really is. It doesn’t conjure up any emotions which is what makes for a memorable date for the girl to remember. I would recommend guys to maybe downplay but not be appropriate. Be polarizing. Being appropriate will only inadvertently position men as the nice guy.
It depends. If a woman isn't comfortable with you to begin with, then you want to keep things appropriate, until you get to know each other a bit better. If things seem *too* comfortable, then you can focus more on being authentic with the other person.
@@marcmays48 You’re touching on social calibration. Guys should handle dates accordingly but too many guys go thru dates very low energy. No girls ain’t gonna remember you like that. Too many men are nice guys. They need to harness the “I don’t give a F” attitude more and be unapologetically them. If she don’t dig you for that, then she wasn’t the one. Again, just use some tact.
@@moolis Exactly! Get to know her, but also, figure out if she wants the same things that you do. Either a woman will be interested, or she won't. Get past the ones who aren't, and you make more space and time available for the ones who are.
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This is very helpful. Doesn't showing up to a date 5 mins early or on time make a person look needy or desperate? According to some dating coaches they say that. They say it's better to late to a date.
No - be on time or a little early - then you get to see when SHE arrives, which is valuable intelligence. It also allows you to pick out your optimal spot and relax.
I met this woman at a music venue and was telling her how great she was but wasn't directly looking at her because I cannot hear people in those situations. So I had my ear towards her so I could hear her. I hope that didn't send the wrong message. She even cocked her head to look at me awkwardly as if to say look at me. So I then would look at her while speaking and then turning my head again to hear her..... :( I hope it didn't ruin it. I need to go to an audiologist...
How about asking on a first date if the woman has a past history of sexual relations with other men so that you can immediately know her value/worth to determine how much you are willing to invest in this venture or not. The exact way that you would with any other used commodities. The bottom line is, used is used, be it one time or one hundred times. You wouldn't pay the same price for an open bag of chips that have been eaten out of or an already opened and drank out of bottle of soda/beer, or would you? Really! Most would be upset and refuse the purchase all together and wonder in their mind why would someone even offer these used items at a value point instead of negotiating them out at much less cost or at least replace it with something else of equal or comparable value. Men a right to refuse BS also.
Apparently it only takes like 7 seconds for someone to garner a first impression of you. And this assessment happens before you even utter a single word. Body language, demeanour, and other non-verbal cues convey so much more about a person than their speech.
Eye contact is super important, it subconsciously communicates confidence and dominance. Best used when she is talking, just smile and nod gently while holding eye contact. You can use it to gauge attraction too. If she holds it, great, she's comfortable. If she breaks contact but keeps talking and starts playing with her hair, also great (playing with hair is subconsciously indicating her femininity and you have arousal). If she breaks contacts but goes quiet, you haven't built enough comfort yet and need to warm up.
Usually my first impression turns into a Conversation Naturally. No matter what I'm wearing(Not saying I look Homeless, but my work clothes... sheesh 😂) but I'd rather have it that way... I just have a Conversation and if I like her, ask her out. If she says no, that's fine.
If you want to make a good impression on a woman, do not care about trying to impress her. A man who tries to impress a woman automatically lowers himself in her eyes.
See I'm so Advanced totally be the best version of your self for the interview, and don't waste people's time be reliable and Responsible it speaks a lot kings. (:
I live in a small town so I run into people I know all the time. A girl who I used to text, went on a first date with then ghosted me for whatever reason, I see her at a restaurant and the club a few years later she just got out of a relationship and she clearly was trying to get my attention in both places sitting one table (restaurant is self seating) in front of me, looking at me, standing next to me at the club etc….I walked by and didn’t acknowledge her. I still liked her but she didn’t like me but It felt kinda odd how much she was trying to get my attention. Just wondering What do you think I should’ve done on this situation? And what is she trying to do
she's likely just seeing if you still find her attractive. Probably bored looking for validation after the break up. That said, there's nothing wrong with talking to her after such a long period of time, but she would have to show MAJOR attraction before you took it any further with her.
I'll say it again getting advice from a woman just tells you about the woman don't listen to what they say watch what they do that even applies for these videos just watch her she thinks she's expensive and high maintenance any guy who goes out or marries this woman I just hungry and that's it. No you guys on her can get pissed off and defender if you want to but to me I don't listen to a woman about catching a fish she'll always lead to the wrong direction then turn around and say that you're not good enough for because you were too nice to her there's a number of things that women do that they are completely double minded all the time that's why just say NO
As far as I'm concerned these are all good if you're going for a job interview. I'm going for a coffee date I don't really give a damn what kind of outfit I wear she can do that if she wants but to me I think it's Overkill you got to realize that 90% to 100% of the women are never going to go back out with you again anyway she's just trying to get a date and if you take it to a coffee date that shows no motivation in your side as far as they're concerned and they're looking for a fancy restaurant or someplace like that I just see money that's when I stop and don't even ask her out to me I can spend my money on the latest and greatest cell phone. To me it's just a job interview also when you go on a date they're checking you out to see what kind of car you've got what kind of clothes you wear it all comes back to their idea of what security is remember everything that they've done in their life they're going to lay it on you and make it double the fact so she's making $100, you better make me making $200,000. Call things in common it is very shallow I've never met one woman yet whether she was high brow or average he doesn't think that she's highbrow you don't go out with egotistical people I'm already egotistical I don't need another one this for a job interview and that's about it.
Girls being on time ... I have lost count of the number of times that I have left a place because they were 15 minutes late without a call. I run on Military time. Early is On Time - On time is LATE - LATE is left behind. It has never been warranted to second guess someone that I left and opted out of early.
Great that you do. The rest of the civilian world doesn't. Maybe look for women who are single and serving in the armed forces already... since they will have the same mindset when it comes to logistics. 😉
2nd lol The things in the video are taught when you are younger, at least thats the case in my country. Dress well to impress, smile but not like this😬 so people dont run away from you. If you show up in stained ripped clothing but qualify for something other than construction worker you need to fix that. Being grumpy is never a good thing...unless you are somekind of bodyguard...or bouncer...
Being authentic.... gee, I wish several of my emotionally unavailable, emotionally depressed ex girlfriends had been authentic on our first dates so that I wouldn't have wasted 2 months of my life to finally see the real them, lol
You never get a second chance to make a first impression! Shoot your one shot! Put your best foot forward...And if you're in your 20's...30's...40' s or above, please act your age and not your I.Q......(i.e.) 12 years old!
@@Demon-Psychiatrist Ahhhh ok. Well a certifiable mental case was elected as President of the United States in 2016 so surely being drunk only temporarily impedes your ability whereas Trump remained mentally impeded for his entire term of office. Amazing how being temporarily out of one's skull is a sure fire way not to be appointed and yet 70 million people essentially appointed a narcissistic sociopath to a job where he has access to nuclear weapons. What an effed up world we live in.
