How To Be More Interesting | Courtney Ryan 

1) insatiable curiousity 2) learn a new skill 3) travel/ cultural immersion 4) finding interest/ passions 5) be a good story teller 6) don't be lazy 7) become well read

My thing is to guys who hear this; don't do things just to impress girls or people in general. Do things to make you feel fulfilled and happy that you are curious about. Sometimes some girls may not be into that; but if she likes your character; she will wanna know what interests you. This is why i like smart, talkative women and people like that in general. I appreciate you trying to help broaden our horizons Courtney. My new skill i learned recently was cooking salmon on the grill and new ways to edit my RU-vid videos. Not as challenging but fun 😄

Being well read also will go a long way toward learning how to be a story teller. The best writers are some of the best story tellers out there.

I really like Jordan Peterson's 9th rule in 12 Rules for Life: "assume the person you're talking to knows something you don't." This is such a useful outlook to have when engaging in a conversation with someone. Instead of trying to score points by making the interaction contentious, go into it with an open mind and be willing to have your pre-existing positions challenged.

The best thing you can ever do is just practice and don't give up until you loose all your fears and get comfortable. Every thing is about not giving up. After all that you can surely achieve what you want, it might be in life or relationship, just don't give up.

I read math and stats and computer science books because I’m a nerd and it interests me, I know it won’t be a topic of conversation with all women but I enjoy it so I keep doing it

Storytelling is difficult for me because I get straight to the point. When I speak or address something, I don’t BS. Unfortunately this leaks over to story telling. It’s something I’m constantly working on.

I have found that in general, people LOVE talking about themselves With a passion. Can't tell you how many conversations I've have where I am curious and ask lots of questions, which gives the other person lots of opportunities to talk further about themselves. At the end of those conversations, they are excited about me and about the conversation, not even realizing what just happened. How can they be excited about me, when they did not learn a thing about me during the entire conversation? They are just ecstatic that they got to tell me all about themselves. I do not mind doing this for one or two conversations, because I do want to learn about people, but as the relationship develops, it becomes a turn off, because self centered-ness is revealed in their personalities. And I cannot be around that, long term.

Simple answer: Get out of your comfort zone for trying new things and develop communication skills..which is also putting your self out 😂..nice points tho

I'm guilty of always responding with "nothing" when asked about "what's going on.." and would only respond differently if I'm doing something immediate or extraordinary. Now I recognize how that can come across.

Can I just throw some appreciation out for how perfectly clear your speaking is? Every word is spoken with clear cadence and pronunciation, great tone etc. It's not very often you come across that even in "professional" spoken entertainment settings. Bravo 👏

You're a breath of fresh air in the often toxic world of dating and personal development. Just subscribed, and I'm looking forward to learning more about your points of view. Thanks Courtney!

I've been perfecting my imaginative artwork and I'm proud with the results, I've also given my created characters a backstory, a goal & a compelling ending which I am confident will get a lot of innovative heads turning and learn much more about them.

Took me a while to understand that listening to audiobooks or podcasts while I drive makes me a more calm and understanding driver without even taking into account the content that can make me a better person.

I’ve always said, “To be interesting, get interested.” I’m an introvert (INFJ), but I’ve hiked up the back of Half-Dome, piloted a 60ft ship under the Golden Gate Bridge three times, been in a flying helicopter and hot air balloon twice each. I’m an English major, with a focus on 19th century romanticism and ancient world literature, and also love going to the theatre, taking acting classes, and constantly study anything artistic. I enjoy martial arts and playing games of all kinds. One of my favorite moments was rowing a boat out in a bay during a thunderstorm, also the first time I held my niece is still at the top of the life affirming moments. I have never run out of topics at a conversation, and people keep asking me for more stories. So my advice is do things that make you interested and people will take an interest in what you do.

Travel: One thing I learned was that you can pick what appears to be a rather boring uninteresting area, but then do some research and then go visit that place. Everywhere has a story and history. Smelterville Idaho? Why of course! Mining processing history. (I love that name for a town.) ;-) People are open to hearing about unusual areas you've visited and what you've learned.

Earlier this year, I've been teaching myself how to play guitar. I also take up writing because I express way better than speaking.

Everyone living in their own ‘echo chamber’, mostly online, and never hearing another point of view is a major problem these days. 👍

Courtney, this was a great video. Gaining life experience, learning new skills and hobbies, taking a genuine interest in other people's lives is a great way to enrich one's life and create interest for others.

Great advice as always - Courtney! If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person. Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about. And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

Listening sincerely is one of the best ways to become more interesting

Great tips, Courtney. I am a person who likes reading, music, and keeping up on current events as well. And you're correct; the do help in the field of conversing, but also as you said to be a good listener as we also learn from those around us. BTW, the half white, half black outfit you were wearing in the video was very becoming on you. You are already an attractive woman and that enhanced your look.

Lol big sister Courtney with advice I discovered last year and this year. Once I learned to achieve what I want without a focus on girls my quality of life has improved significantly.

On your point about passions, it doesn't have to be the coolest thing ever. For example I love customizing and building keyboards, is that the most exciting thing for a woman? Probably not, but the passion that I put into it is enough to impress them

Courtney doesn't only impress with her advice she also impresses with her fashion keeps me more interested in what she has to say big thumbs up Courtney

Interesting and inspiring! I needed this message today. Thanks, Courtney!

If you are dating someone you already like them so there really isn't a need to look out for "green flags" people may naturally gravitate to a "red flags" video not necessarily because they are drawn to negativity but because being able to spot red flags is more useful and actually needed. The risk of missing a red flag is severe while missing green flags has little impact because the person tossing up the flags has already shown enough green flags to draw in the attraction already.

When I was in college I had a job as a salesperson selling major appliances (stove, refrigerators,..). I didn't mind showing off the product, hated selling service contracts, but what I LOVED about the job is all of the interesting people I got to meet. I met people from all walks of life, and everyone had an interesting story to tell! I've discovered that even the most silent person will open up once you find what they are passionate about.... ... great video Courtney!

I’m new here, the sum total of all your videos (and others) made me realize why I gave up dating… all I need to do is change me. My problem is if I can’t crank up my feelings for a woman, I don’t have the motivation to pursue her. When I did my thing and made an intense connection on my first meeting a woman, they cut and ran in fear of their feelings. My feelings were deeply hurt by rejection, so I could never take them back even when they were later very forward friendly.

This was exceptional Courtney! Thank you. Seriously!

11:56 You are totally right. The worst enemy and obstacle of anyone is yourself. That's what I especially learned through my depression.

Brilliant video. You're getting better and better as time goes on. Also love your passion and sincerity. Keep the videos coming.

Travel, hobbies, reading and general curiosity and ability and drive to learn. All great attributes - plus the ability to talk about your work with passion and excitement that makes people understand the challenges of what you do. p.s My wife has always been a great sewer, crafter etc. It was one of the most attractive things early on for me, that she always had "projects" even as a 20yo student, a real girl "nerd" in fact. And as I had my passions too that was cool because she understood that that took time and energy and we could naturally give each other space to pursue these. She even made her own wedding dress and continues to make cocktail and evening dresses for herself, and always looks fantastic. Home furnishings also - lots of cross stitch, embroidery etc. Plus it's rubbed off onto our daughters. Our youngest in particular is really into jewelry making for her and her friends.

My favourite superhero's long been "The Most Interesting Man In The World" and he always has babes clinging to his arms! Good to know that real world surveys back this up. Nice video, Courtney! Now you mention it, I could work to remove some "lazy" from my life.

I'm so glad you brought up audio books. I for one hate the actual act of reading something, and much rather prefer to listen to audio or watch a video if I want to learn something new.

Great topic!!! Read something outside of your regular interests. Try new things, try new foods, try new everything. Learn some old school skills from seniors. Most importantly - "Be Curious, Not Judgmental" - Walt Whitman

I think all of the keys to being a more interesting person which you covered in this video really go hand in hand with one another. A person who is lazy would never even think about doing things such as getting out of their bubble and seeing a world that they are not familiar with, learning a new skill, being a good storyteller, and so forth. I'm a fairly attractive guy physically but being the interesting person I believe I already am is what will ultimately make me a catch. Your videos are awesome, Ms. Ryan! Many thanks.

To be interesting, you have to be interested... love it!

Always enjoy your videos,great advice about life and how to get the most out of our lives in all that we do.Bigg thumps up Courtney!! Thank you.

This is why I've been saying I'm excited for my 30s. I've been a Homebody for most of my short life, but I really want to Learn and Grow over time. I will be a Homebody(Because I wanna to have some Comfortability)but moving on, I have taken interest in some of the things in this video. I've actually done a few things that was said in this video.

I loved every bit of this video!!! Thanks Courtney!!

I am alway trying to learn something new what I found is (especially last year) is the more you know/learn people don’t want to hear it (some people see that as the “know it all”). They stick to what they know. They see it as you don’t have in common what they want you to have in common. That being said you weed lit the ones who are set in that mindset and bring like minded ones who also want to grow.

you're killing it with these videos.

These are great points, especially the one when someone asks you "what's going on?", and you say "nothing much.." I can't count the times I had that boring answer.

I get so much out of your content, and some of it really steps on my toes but I appreciate that. You put out there some things that are hard to swallow, but you do it in a kind, compassionate, caring way. Keep doing what you're doing. Much love. Just wanted to drop some encouragement

Sorry to hear about your grandma, and your right we all need to have a look at ourselves and find ways that we can be interesting

Love your content as always! Can you make a video on books you've read this year? I've been reading a lot of books this year and I'm open to new book suggestions!

For your homework suggestions from the fall style video I got a denim jacket and leather jacket. Hopefully that helps with the boring aspect as well

While I'm reading less regularly now, one thing I wanted to mention that is I didn't start reading with big advanced books, and I started with manga and comics. I got into the habit of tuning out the world while focusing on the book. From there, I was able to read both fiction and nonfiction books in no time. Start with something small. Consistency and progress are what ultimately matter🙂

Yeah! Another awesome video Courtney! So I just got back from flying my remote control plane, my mate and I were slope soaring, which is when your plane rides the updraft of wind hitting a slope giving you free lift (you don't need to use the motor much), it's so much fun, and sort of meditative! The place we go is a seasonal lake in a valley, it's called "Lake George", often we fly from the lakebed, but since it's spring and it's been raining a lot there is heaps of water so we were flying from the top of the hill, perhaps 75m up from the lake surface. I am hoping to start a RU-vid about my hobby, and then get set up to tour getting amazing videos of beautiful locations from the air! so stay tuned for updates on that. Love your channel, keep up the good work ;)

Monday morning 25 October 2021. Seven rules to becoming more interesting: 1. Insatiable curiosity. 2. Learn a new skill. 3. Travel/cultural immersion. 4. Finding your interests/passions. Try new things. 5. Be a good storyteller. Men who are good storytellers are more attractive to women. 6. Don't be lazy. 7. Become well-read (not just books). Cut out all the negativity.

I agree with you; and I add that your channel is one of the good ones that make people be better. Thanks.

Loving these thanks Courtney

Thank you for sharing Courtney Ryan, today I am not interested in learning how to be more interesting to entertain others. The truth is that l do my best to be a better form of my original self, and be of service to the people who need my ability. JUST TO BE A BETTER PERSON, THAN I WAS YESTERDAY. I DO NOT CONCERN MYSELF WITH BEING MORE INTERESTING OR ENTERTAINING TO OTHERS, l HAVE WITNESSED HOW WELL THAT WORKS FOR THE HOLLYWOOD FASHION SENSITIVE CROUD, THEIR TOTAL LACK OF PRIVACY AND PERSONAL SPACE, PRISONERS OF THEIR FAME, AND FORTUNE. Have a nice day little miss high fashion sense.

I think the best way to be interesting is to not worry about it, be yourself and ignore opinion polls.

You are great! Thank You for another video full of great content and food for thought!

I love your content. Very useful for young men.

Courtney is the friend i would go to for advice on everything while grabing a cup of coffee 😀😂

As long as I can remember, even as a small child of 5 year old, I have always had a burning curiosity about almost everything! Today, my family, friends, exes, former employers, etc., know me as "the guy who has answers." It seems I can always come up with a way to solve problems, fix broken things, find new uses for old things, answer a question about a wide range of topics, etc. I have devoted most of my life, even while in college, to learn something new about different subjects, every day. I read a lot, watch documentaries, attend seminars, and yes, even attempt to do things I have never done before, and succeeded at doing it well. I learn by doing and by failing. I love solving problems for and helping people. I have participated in at least a couple dozen different kinds of hobbies (some I am still doing) and I never know when I will come across another one that I will want to take up. My hobbies have included sports and fitness activities (baseball, tennis, weight lifting, archery, pistol & rifle marksmanship and bullet reloading), programming, auto mechanics, writing (short stories and non-fiction articles), reading (fiction and non-fiction), artistic activities (drawing, airbrush painting, wood working, wood carving, ballroom and Latin American dancing, both instrumental music and singing), cooking new and different foods, mycology (mushroom hunting, growing and eating) and intellectual games of skill. I have traveled to multiple major cities in 28 of the 50 states and have made more than 90 airline flights (with some very exciting and scary incidents on some of them). I always have been and will continue to be open to learning new skills and gaining new knowledge until the day I die. I am teachable and am willing to learn from men, women, those younger than me as well as those older than me. I am always interested in hearing about what others like to do and what they know about it, why they like it, etc.

This really opened up my eyes

Great advice Courtney. Thank you 🙏

Negativity is weakness and leads to bad things especially feeding yourself too much of it most people already struggle with negative mindsets so feeding yourself positive things can make some feel uncomfortable and out of place but feeding yourself positive energy through hard work and good goals even if they're small ones can be beneficial.

Great video thanks for the advice!

Spot on , life time learning best through experiences but alway respect others, and there opinions!

Your audiobook story with grandma was so sweet it sounded like a audible advertisement

You're preaching to my choir with that last point about the attraction of negativity. It's so exhausting hearing about negative things all the time, and by and large it does seem to be the sort of thing that draws the most aggregate attention. Seems like a lot of folks would rather roll in the mud than escape the pen.

I read so much stuff I don’t want to read at work (Doctrine, pubs and regulations) it sometimes kills my drive to read the things I want when I’m not at work. So I find myself listening to a lot of podcasts

Thank you, Courtney for feeling comfortable sharing about your grandmother, because I also have a vision problem.

Courtney I just want to say I think you're a really lovely person and so much of what you say hits home and is so true. I think you always come accross really lovely and you are indeed very interesting. Naturally I think you're quietly confident too which for me is really cool too. Watching your vids is helping me Courtney......nice work you amazing woman 😊👌thankyou.

Be mature but sophisticated. Loving the Ying Yang shirt Courtney ❤ ☯️

You have inspired me! I am finally going to learn that new language! .... Starting tomorrow 🤭

Lmfaooooo I swear I can’t tell stories , only in a txt but I’m a good listener & always show that I’m interested . So that really helped me in the past .

Being authentic. Pursue ur passions Everyone is different n no one will please everyone. Live for urself

I need to do this more. There is a few things I'd like to learn how to do.

This is the third video of yours that I have watched and enjoyed. I had to subscribe.

Ok I get it, I'm dying alone. No need to keep rubbing it in.

This is a beautiful video. On point

I always love the two tone shirts you wear. Oh, the videos are pretty good as well 🤘😅

This ought to be helpful. I know I'm a high value gentleman, and have taken much of your advice for online dating profile setup, and even tho i gained more attention, yet many girls can't hold a conversation past how are you and idk if I'm not standing out enough, or if they're not interesting and can't handle a legitimate conversation. Then again many females these days only find value in their body, sadly, so they aren't interested in someone who doesn't constantly talk about the woman's face&body

As always, a great video! Thank you, Courtney! 🙂

This is one topic that drives me crazy. The message in the video is spot on, but these days if you aren't entertaining the room then you are "boring". People don't have any respect for people with quiet, more reserved energy who listen before they ramble on about their lives.

Interests and passions related, I think it would be helpful if you approached the subject of dancing in future videos 😅. I urge fellow men to take dance classes as much as I can, but I keep hitting a machismo wall. Yet girls on the dance floor never look at their men the same after dancing with me 😁. It helps alot. It's such a huge discrepancy between a guys energy on the dance floor and off the dance floor, all the confidence and masculin energy goes bye bye for most guys.

Helpful, thank you.

You are lovely. Thankyou for being good person. Shines through.

When I think about being more interesting vs maximizing my value to others, the answer is obvious.

I actually love that I found this channel

you are amazing courtney

Good points Courtney. To add on to your point about reading, reading aloud is even better. Makes you a better conversationalist and more dynamic. Good stuff.

Yeah I've had to humble myself and grow on this point. It's a good point. My problem was sometimes I was funny and interesting, and then I assumed "okay I'm funny and interesting". Yeah, no. Sometimes I am. Often I'm just rambling. Like now. Moving on.

Oh and regarding reading. I love it but seldom have time to so I stopped listening to music at the gym and started listening to audiobooks. Exercise the body, exercise the mind. That enables me to "read" 2 books a day, and most are free on RU-vid

Good advices, thanks!

Sounds like Courtney watched one or more of Vanessa Van Edwards videos. Great reminder miss Courtney. Hope you have a great day.

100% AGREED Courtney👍🏾

The lady is correct. I've multiple times had 2 to 4 women around me at certain times and venues, that were intent on listening to specific subjects I raised. I kept the convo VERY interesting talking about things most men NEVER or rarely do. I received quite a few phone numbers after that. 😁

Point #7 is the best one. For years, I've made a habit to read at least fifty pages from a book every night before I go to bed instead of watching some mindless sitcom or an inconsequential sporting event. I've read almost forty books this year! Most women are much more interested in someone who can discuss a great book he's just read at the dinner table as opposed to talking about "muh football."

Reading multitudes of technical documentation/requirements/contracts helps your vocabulary but does not improve your conversational skills. It also simultaneously shifts your written and spoken sentence structures heavily to passive voice

Read books on anything. It will not only benefit you as a person but its a great conversation for women.

I would love to learn more about story telling, does anyone have some recommendations for me?

Much better lighting here than in some of your recent videos.I also like that you sit on a sofa now.

Yes! Do interesting things, push yourself beyond the mediocrity. Strong Sharper and solar