@surprisedpikachu As a woman I can confirm this, the man's looks and more importantly his height is way more important to me than this body language stuff.
I just want to let you know that the shoulder thing is real. I've been on a few dates recently and I would say 3/4 of the women that I went out with actually mentioned my shoulders to me. I thought it was weird at first. But now it just helps me walk more confidently. Hope that helps someone.
Sunday morning 21 November 2021. 1. Good posture. Sit up straight, shoulders back, chest out! 2. Open body language. Be aware of the situation. A good one is to drive with left hand on the steering wheel and right hand on the back of the seat. 3. Eye contact. 4. Making small adjustments. Fix hair, adjust coat or tie. Be carful about this one, don't fidget. 5. Let loose on your shoulders, a little sway while walking. Thanks Courtney!
Even if it's not about attracting women, i have started implementing me these and internally, I notice that I feel more confident and attractive in myself. I think it's good to start doing it for yourself first. You have better conversations with people whether you find them attractive or not. And you will naturally feel more relaxed and have a good time.
Can confirm brother. I actually started implementing these things like 4-5 months ago without even realizing it, and I guarantee you I'm a totally different person right now.
Thank you courtney, one of Jordan Peterson's 12 rules is "to stand up straight with your shoulders back"... it is a small trick but it really helps with my confidence.
@@gargantuangoose9098 You must be sexist. She's literally in the self-improvement business and you fucking think she doesn't know who Jordan Peterson is?
I was watching your "Why Aren't People Satisfied" video yesterday, and combined with this video, it explains why younger people are so depressed, anxious, melancholy, etc. It because you're all slouching. When you put your head down you automatically put yourself in a submissive body position which demotes lack of confidence, which is not only bad for your mental health but your physical health as well. And many people aren't consciously aware of this, but they tend to slouch every time they stare into their cell phones when scrolling their texts, phone calls, Facebook feeds, etc. You're absolutely right about body posture, and while simply sitting up straight with your shoulders spread across and your head up facing forward isn't going to cure depression, it will absolutely change your mood and your state of mind, not to mention take pressure off your neck and shoulders.
I disagree with it making you more "submissive" I personally walk,sit, stand with a slight slouch and in jobs iv had over the years the lead person really on me and my opinions to do things/ make decisions. If I was viewed as "submissive" they wouldnt bother asking my opinions on things when I'm not in a management roll at all
@@lockonstratos7787 I feel like it makes you look submissive. That doesn’t mean you are submissive. I’m sure you’ve proved yourself more than enough brotha! Keep on keepin on
You almost bought me to tears. You said my life. It messed me up. I didn't understand until Kevin Samuels said something about it. It made me get a therapist. It helped me see clearly. Thank you Ms Rivah.
Eye contact is something I struggle with a ton! For many years, I've had too many scream "STOP LOOKING AT ME!" People are nuts. I'm actually working on it
Long story short, I was a shy kid/guy back then, didn't make a lot of eyecontact, but i'm not sure what made me change it, but for me now, I can make/keep eyecontact with people, when talking/listing.
as someone who also struggled (still struggles) with this, start with someone you know, maybe even a person on the screen like Courntey here... not in terms of staring contest, but pretend you have a conversation with a youtube person talking into their camera and try to hold eye contact for a bit. What also can help is a relaxed setting and do not actually stare right into the eyes, if it gets boring or tedious, you can also fixate on a point slightly below or beneath or next to the eyes of the person in front of you, sort of like with a webcam. they sometimes have a little dot or something to help you look into or next to the camera. same principle. I think what helps in a conversation is holding eye contact while listening and when it is your turn to speak, you can maybe use your hands for gestures or let your eyes wander around when maybe explaining something, this is sort of your pause time where you are allowed to look away. Maybe not for all the time, try to establish eye contact later again, but that way it may be less awkward than just staring the entire time. But also that can be really interesting, especially with strangers... I mean there are all sorts of challenges around like who blinks first, who can hold the longest and so on, and especially when you start to wander and for example stare at the lips instead, this can get really electrifying and sensual even.
I went from dad bod to shredded V tapered look in 7 months which has boosted my confidence level and in turn i automatically adopted this kind of body language. I get A LOT more attention from women as opposed to when I wasn't as fit. The physical look only gets your foot in the door though, so to speak, it's maybe 10% of my "swag". The other 90% stems from an abundance mentality that comes with all of the attention. If you add a few qualities to your mentality, outlook, and physical nature (body language) you can keep the attention of a woman a lot longer than what your physique can achieve. Remember, looks only gets your foot in the door. These qualities include, but are not limited to; relaxed, care free, abundance, self entertained/amused, energetic, stoic, strong eye contact, unyielding frame.
Morals, principles, code of honour etc is another one that matters. Having your own opinions, and courage in your convictions, is another good one, even if you piss women off with them. For example, I oppose abortion (especially when it is used as a form of contraception for irresponsible couples), and I stand by that opinion, even if it makes women mad. And yet, women, no matter how much they get triggered, always end up respecting me for sticking to my guns and refusing to back down. In many cases, you can use the angry butthurt women as a springboard to bounce off, to impress the more attractive ones. Show them that you are not going to back down, no matter how much they try to bully and shame you for your thought crimes, and other women will look at you and see a guy with a big pair of balls. Because many men will tell women what they want to hear, because they are ingratiating and begging for approval. So if you show women that you can think for yourself and have your own opinions, that you are no pushover, and that you will stand your ground and fight for what you believe in, they will be impressed, because they will see you as a real man, not a supplicating simp.
@@zalamael True, but it's a balancing act too. Sure, you should have strong and personal opinions and principles no matter to whom you interact with. Showing a I-will-not-change-for-anyone attitude does not automatically attract any pretty girl however, they may sometimes just dislike for your opinions. Sometimes being open and flexible about things can have a desired effect of respect from the other person, yet not becoming a pushover, like you said.
You come off as someone who truly gives honest insight and you actually care about guys and want to see them succeed. There's more good guys out there than bad. You throw a rope out there to the good ones. God bless you sweets.
Last month, I was the lead actor in a dramatic theater production, my first ever play. Many people who saw the performances (all women, now that I reflect on it) told me afterwards how much they noticed my body language. There were lots of times when I wasn’t saying a word but a facial expression, a look, or just how I positioned myself relative to the other actors on stage without saying a word was very noticed by people out in the audience 20 or 30 feet away from the stage. This wasn’t just once, I heard this from three or four different performances. So there is definitely a lot of visual power in position and movement even when you’re not saying anything.
before i start watching this video, i just wanna thank you for all your content (fun fact: i'm about to strt listening to the video while i'm working out)
I have always had trouble getting to a first date, but after that I was good. I have been unknowingly doing all of these things. Great advise Miss Courtney as always.
Body language is one of the very first things a woman will notice about you when you approach her (to ask her out). And one of the most important things you need, is confidence. If you are confident, your body language will radiate it, and women will pick up on it, in the way you walk, the way you sit, how relaxed you are, how you hold eye contact etc. The best advice I could give a young guy who hasn't got a clue how to go about making himself more attractive, is to learn martial arts. Whether it is boxing, MMA, thai boxing etc, learn a fighting art, so you can learn to defend yourself. Being able to handle yourself in a fight, is a guaranteed method of increasing your confidence. And it will come with additional bonuses if you take it seriously, such as developing a lean, athletic body (which is also highly attractive to women). And if you want to level up even more, learn to dance (such as Salsa etc). Having the confidence to be able to dance with a woman, will have them flocking to you. I don't do Salsa, my music is Electro Swing, and I can dance fairly well to it. Whenever I get up and dance, I often get women coming over to me asking if I will dance with them. It is a great way of putting yourself out there and getting women to come to you, rather than being invisible and having to make the first move.
Also walking : dont walk to fast. Slow and easy just relaxed. Walking too fast is like if you are hiding away or running away from women. Take a breath relax walk in a relaxed pace.
I like how this 20 something year old woman dating coach used a photo of a 53 year old man to show masculine ... truth be told, I've never felt more like a man than my 40's and now early 50's..
This is another helpful gem Courtney. It's crazy that us guys and women aren't taught this at a younger age. One thing i do when in public is i present a kind, friendly energy. I always smile or look approachable. It's naturally how i am. I'll also greet people too with a friendly hi. I definitely had to work on my posture and eye contact. As i get older, that and the open body language part becomes more natural for me. Thanks for telling me about the one arm thing. You rock and i wish you a lovely day/rest of the weekend my friend 😊🙌🌻
Shoulders - lol - Courtney - I have had many women, yes, even at work, back when there was an "office" just GRAB my shoulder... I couldn't understand why, but it's just hilarious like they just GRAB onto you randomly... Never really thought about it before til now.
There is something that can be said for what your physique says about you. However- Never EVER underestimate what cannot be developed in a gym or on a floor mat. Its an inner quality: Confidence. Confidence from within most definately enhances the positive impression of you in the eyes of others. (And don't confuse an overinflated ego with true confidence. The former will only alienate you from others). I made up my mind to take steps to improve my health and wellbeing. I made drastic changes to my diet, eating wholesome healthy food. I exercised regularly. I felt better, slept better, my cognition greatly improved as did my overall mood. Of course my physical appearance changed for the better. It goes without saying women around me took notice and before long sometimes I noticed they would turn around and glance at me as I walked past them. But it wasn't their attention that was my main motivation for doing do. I was doing it for MYSELF. If anyone else took notice of any changes in me, that was secondary, and I am sure probably most didn't. No concern for me. I just kept it moving on my personal agenda for self improvement. I have learned that when you Invest in yourself and dont worry about trying to catch the attention of women around you, sooner or later, It is inevitable that they will take notice of you. What you do from there is up to you. But continue on your path to self improvement.
It's important to understand that putting on the "mask" of confidence by adopting these habits, they can help a little bit to decrease anxiety. BUT.....but.....it's no substitute for doing the work it takes to actually gain true confidence or reflect genuine interest in a woman.
Hi Courtney. I want to thank you for caring about us men succeeding with ladies. I love your mindset, especially the 2%er things you've said. I find you thorough in your presentations. If I go on dates again, at least I'll know what I'm getting into from now on.
I have built a habit of doing all of these even subconsciously already (except for one) and I agree, these are all true! I like to think I can tell whenever I walk more confidently but I have never paid attention to my shoulders. That’s my takeaway from this video.
Good tips! Good posture is important for so many reasons, ranging from being more attractive, to affecting your mental health ("Stand Up Straight w/ Your Shoulders Back" Jordan Peterson Rule #1). Your perspective on small adjustments was interesting ot hear someone mention, because when people talk about preening, it's often in relation to helping guys pick up on signs of interest from girls.
I swear Courtney was put on this planet to help guys like me I was doing okay out of highschool but sheeesh have I been letting lust take over. I'm learning many things hopefully I can pull it together before I'm 30. If I make it I will help my brothers 🤘🏻💚
I implement some of these into my life, made some changes to my style! And i got mistaken for an employee at 7 different stores at the local shopping mall where i live 🤣🤣
It’s like that phenomenon, when you get a new jacket that you love., When it’s new you get looks. But when you’ve worn it a couple of times no one’s looking anymore. This has always kind of baffeled me, since the women probably don’t know if it’s brand new or if you have had it for a week. It’s probably not the new jacket that get the looks, as much as my body language when i’m wearing something brand new.
Okay again solid content, you got me (subscribed). Even the stuff I don't fully agree with you is not bullcrap. I think your advice can help me be more balanced in my views as well. Good stuff, thanks.
Speaking with a little bit of masculine depth in your voice is always great too. Not really “body language,” but I think chicks take note of that. As always, great tips Courtney.
Alright, time to practice these steps on Courtney 😂. On a serious note, these are things that other ladies have mentioned when I’ve asked what led to the attractiveness as time went on. When all these characteristics come natural it helps greatly.
It does help, but confidence has to real instead of logically thinking about how to stand makes you look weird. Honestly, these body language tips work best when other men are around and don’t have good body language. Your good body language makes you look more alpha and that’s what women are attracted to the alpha male. That’s the one secret that most of these people don’t tell you.
@Courtney, good posture is also vital for women too...yes, we like to see a girl with good posture, who puts on some fine outfit and goes out. Heels and perfume are just a small part, you have to look awesome already from the distance.
I like the James Bond thumbnail 👍 Body Language is very much underestimated.These tips are awesome and you look like you’re about to hit the GYM after the video is done 💯👌 Great Video Courtney! And I Love your work ethic so much, I appreciate the time and effort you do to do your research to give us the right advice we should be using instead of telling us what we need to hear and not what we want to hear 💯🙏🏽 much Respect and Love ❤️🙏🏽
I skipped the vedios first . Bcz I didn't want woman's tips on masculine things. But , there is no other vedio available . Finally I have got my answer.
Ms Ryan, thank you again & that part about the eyes & the staring was soooo funny, made me laugh so hard. All of your knowledge & skills have been & are so extremely helpful to me. This is such an amazing channel. Thank you...
Body language is something I tend to struggle with. Not just with what I am trying to convey, but what they are conveying to me as well. Its one of the things I am trying to work one, but its not easy to say the least.
Thank you so much for this insightful video! You are right the, shoulder thing really does help and eye contact is a big one! Thank you so much girlfriend! Keep up the good work!
This reminds me of the triangle movement of eyes. For business eye eye forehead rotation. Seduction eye eye mouth. Calmed body posture, being relax in the place you are and taking your space I like caressing their knee thigh in the car like : good girl, when I’m proud of her. Hahaha crazy gf eyes. I love watching you sleep. You know what this also reminds me of? My driving test. I was so nervous my knee even twitched making the pedals so difficult to control. I passed the test when i was seen as relaxed. Even if I almost ran over a baby cart. Confidence and security in yourself to provide her with security to be her vixxxen self with you and trust you to open is key.
*Thinking about putting my arm behind the lady's seat* Well driving my stick shift is going to get interesting... Love the videos Courtney and glad to see your channel growing! You'll hit that quarter million in no time.
I decided to follow you for a little bit and fact Is a man should not have to learn from someone how to be a man, sometimes I slouch it’s because I am looking at something on a computer screen or lean in to listen to a conversation. Good hygiene, good body language should be practiced because those things are for personal confidence not necessarily for women.
I agree with Everything. I've been trying to practice eye contact but Adhd can get in the way. At that point, I'd just let them know so they wouldn't get the wrong idea... Plus, when you said loosen up your shoulders, I did a dance to loosen them up... surprisingly it worked 😂
That saying, "The eyes are the window to the soul." Is absolutely correct! I work in optics. A standard retinal scan can show almost 1000 different disease and conditions. Our Dr. Has saved 1 guy who started a stroke.
Courtney, could you please make a video about helpful tips for men with Asperger's Syndrome and/or ADHD when it comes to attracting women? While I do many of the things mentioned in this video, I struggle with body language and eye contact because of my condition.
Think about "manspreading" is that you tend to do it most when you're slouched down in your seat. If your butt is slid all the way back against the back of the seat your spine will be straighter and your legs will tend to stay hip-width apart (slightly spread but not wide open)
This is very smart advice. It's weird but it's helped so much. A lot of this is from a woman. She's telling us what she wants. I feel so silly not knowing I was being hit on so many times while doing all of this lol.
