How To Not Be Controlling In Your Relationship [5 STEPS] 

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It's important to learn how not to be controlling in your relationship as that can lead to arguments and tension between you and your significant other.
Most likely if you have controlling behavior, you may have heard comments from your significant other telling you that you're being too controlling in the relationship. Therefore, it's really important to learn how to not be controlling in your relationship in order for it to successful and healthy.
It's not uncommon to have controlling behavior and not think you're being controlling, because it's hard to see other peoples perspectives other than your own.
But if you've heard these types of comments in the past and/or ongoing, most likely you are demonstrating some type of controlling behavior in your relationship.
I want to help you make some changes to stop these behaviors because they can push your partner away emotionally over time, especially if there is no effort into trying to make changes.
Side Note: If you feel that your partner is controlling at times, feel free to click on my other video, "Do you have a controlling spouse or husband?" This has helpful tips on what to do if you're on the opposite end of the situation.
But if you are the one being accused of your controlling ways, here are 5 tips to stop being controlling in your relationship:
1. Think About Your Partners Needs
When it comes to healthy relationships, we need to make sure that our partners are also happy with the decisions that are happening, so factor in your partners needs and wants, and make changes so they feel accommodated.
2. Don't Let Insecurities Make Your Decisions
Often times the need to be in control can come from our own insecurities. We worry about our partners possibly lying to us or cheating on us, so we do what we can to control the situation so that doesn't happen. But at the end of the day, relationships are all about trust and you have to let your partner be their independent self. The more secure you are with you, the less worried you will be about your partner.
3. Be Respectful
A great way to stop being controlling is to respect your significant other. Remember that your relationship is a team effort and a partnership. So treat it as such. Don't put your self above your partner and don't make sure that your needs are only being met. Respect is about appreciation as well.
4. Be Open To Change
Look, you're never going to do different behaviors in your relationship unless you're open to change. Remember that you are not perfect and you have flaws just like everyone else. so make changes that promote you being a better partner and a better human being.
5. Accept Your Significant Other
Sometimes we engage in controlling behaviors because we are trying to change our partner to become who we want them to be. Often times this can be subconscious as well. It's important to accept who your partner is as an individual, and appreciate your partner for the qualities that they do have. If that isn't good enough for you, then they might not be the one to spend the rest of your life with.
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