I am a Therapist & Relationship Coach, and my passion is to help people like you to have a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship with your significant other. I work specifically on giving you the tools and techniques you need in order to implement them into your relationship so you can feel fulfilled and connected with your partner.
I also offer emotional support to all of the people I work with, because I know how challenging relationships can be at times. Having survived cheating in my relationship, trust issues, and very poor communication, I know first hand what it takes in order to have a thriving relationship as my husband and I are still going strong after 17 years together! Often times, you just need a plan, and a clear perspective on how to heal your situation and tackle the hurdles in front of you.
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How about withholding the identities of her orbiting friends? As in: -Who is texting you to ask you in a date while having a boyfriend? -Oh this is Mark, he is just a friend don't worry about him. -Aha, but who is he? -I honestly can't tell you. Hahahahahaha. In my list this is a BIG secret, all of her orbitings are small dirty little secrets, not just leave run for the hills.
So my wife was talking to a ex a few years back. Swears there was no sex. Only talked about little things. Then little by little she reveals more. Then today she says she was telling him how unhappy she was in our marriage. I don't feel like I'm getting any truth out of her or just partial truths that won't reveal actual sex. How do I navigate this? Please help.
From all the research I’ve done before my boyfriend and I took a break (starting today ironically) the advice given was to give a check in date because having a indefinite break could cause more harm and anxiety than good. Of course at the check in the couple can always agree to extend it. We decided no contact for 2 weeks unless one of us is going out. So that we know what setting our partner is in. But he’s broken no contact a few times today. I had to remind him that it defeats the purpose of a break and no contact. Then 2 hours later he sent me a pic asking if I had left my sunglasses. Which obviously I did. I’m wondering if he’s having a harder time with it than I am and he was the one who said we needed a break. I’m so confused. I haven’t even cried. It was mutual and we did set ground rules. But surprisingly it’s been fairly easy today but I feel it’s been the opposite for him.
Oh my. Such a big one. Don’t discuss negative aspects of your relationship often with family. They will take your side and start not liking your spouse! Unless you are being emotionally or physically abused, keep that other stuff private!!
Hi madam this is aishwarya from india ,do you provide free services for relationship advice .i am suffering and my relationship is totally damaged because of my in laws i am feeling helpless
My husband had my phone next to him all night long. My kid had been using it to watch videos and just left it there. When I woke up I realized, he never woild do that so I woke him up (we’ve been having issues) and I was like, let me see your phone. (I’ve never been the jealous type, always trusted him, 2 kids and married, never done this before) he wouldn’t show me his phone. WHY. Because he’s hiding something
People try their best to ensure that their partner stays only theirs...but relationships are so complex...there is only so much a person can do....and people get love, connection, support, euphoria, validation and desire from multiple people and not only their partner....hence would you lable it as an affair and cheating....
I have realised that just observing a guy go silent and how long it takes for him to reengage is a good way to figure out how emotionally mature he is. If he doesn’t talk for 1 week straight, that’s a big sign that he is not mature enough to be in a relationship. Let him know that’s not gonna work long term and be willing to walk away. My mum used to give me silent treatment all the time and that hurt me a lot. I won’t allow my partner to do the same to me!
I’m sorry but if I could no longer pick up my husband’s phone at random and my finger print was taken off the security thing, I WOULD FILE FOR DIVORCE! PERIOD!!!
I still cant believe what happened it was all shocked and really the worst thing ever , i met her online she was super sweet and then blocked me promising me she'll come back and stuff and that she's doing it for our best it was 2 months ago , and then i had to comment with her on my yt channel until it got worse and i was abt to kill myself and i sent her a text knowing she wouldn't respond but she did in hours later she sent me a super long essay telling me she's sorry and that she's the worst person ever fr and wish if she never met me so she couldn't hurt me , and that do not do this to urself think about your family and friends , i thought it got really better after that , then i sent her a greet in Instagram in few days later and wanted to make sure everything is ok then we had very bad days i mean she made me have them for like 2 days then on sat 6/24 we had a long call and essays a lot she was drawing my name on the call and everything and sent me the photos we took before and everything sweet .. then i blocked her and tried hoping I'll finally do it and not fail again, i started joining her everyday day on Roblox , even before that she sent me too many long essays about me and social media and ppl and and trying to support me like she wasn't trying to say something sweet... Anyways we were playing roblox everything good , then i started talking to her on dc and whatsapp too from 13 days wish i never did .... Everything was kinda great ig.... She was still having feelings , since monday someone was using her phone and it was one of her family all long time fr , and i had to wait untill she comes back and she texted me and told me she got back her old ig acc and sent me a ss of our old chat and her vm there... We played roblox then i went to gym and came back , last friday she sent the longest essay ever trying to convince me i have to leave her for my own best and stuff she kept begging me for over an hour... Anyways so after i came back from gym she wasn't active on roblox and i texted her then mean words cuz i was hurt and she said " i was doing my bed - if you really hate me that much and dont care at all and don't love me just leave me i know you want to do that i know you have very bad emotional things adham me too but this isn't the first time think about it ", then i sent her 15mins vm and she listened to them all and said she wanna text but she's tired of this and she's exhausted , and it was the last day she was sweet with me even when came at 12am on Tuesday she was kinda mean " meh idk i don't feel well actually , i was on my friends house asleep , ok but let me get a cup of tea plz? , i read what you sent on dc iam sorry for the way he's been treating you like shit and dont say that iam the phase here not you please be ok and yes i changed somethings in my dc acc gn stay strong" then i texted her at the moment she didn't see it it was the last time she really was kind , yesterday I've been waiting untill she comes back i saw her playing on roblox at 11pm so i said bad words cuz i was extremely hurt fr but not that mean like curse , and i kept calling her a lot she saw them all then blocked me forever on WhatsApp and my mom's too , and i just found her both ig accs today tried to text her and mention her in a story she didn't opened it yet but iam sure if she did or will she will block me there too... , and then i knew her tiktok acc she had over 11k followers and had very religious vids , i talked to her friend and he told me she said only gn yesterday at 5am , and then he made a gc with me and her I told her did you read what i sent ? She said where? you sent to me everywhere and no i didn't read and i wont , i dont want to do anything with you anymore you harrased me and my family and my friends this is my last message please dont contact me anymore , i tried to just be kind and understanding what's going on cuz it's been only one or 2 days she left the gc and both blocked me and left the server after me writing to her for 20 mins.... , i just cant believe all of this i met her on 5/29 , we had too many chemistry things and fate and i can't play with her on roblox anymore.... , idk what to do she knows iam hurt and completely dead but she didn't seem to care anymore.... Idk ... How?.... I am still shocked really if i had everything she said before I'd ofc type it here but i deleted everything... She always promised me to not be an ex i wish i listened to her on Friday abt leaving her i cant breathe yet i swear and my kitty lexi always reminds me of her too.... Idk what to do... I wanna kms fr fr idk what to do i have her everything and i had too many things with her it's the closest person i really got and someone really unique she doesn't have someone else or anything and i think she completely hates me BUT WHY! WHY THE FUCK WHAT THE FUCK DID I DO?! I really wanna kill myself and get free from all that pain it would take me over 6 or 7 months to get over her fr... But as i said i know her roblox her number her email her ig both accounts her dc her tiktok . i tried to ask her just to change them and make it easy for me to move on.. she didn't.... And she wont... This is extremely impossible for me idk how i can do this she always helped me getting out of social media and always supported me in life and religion and stuff she never seemed toxic to me...idk what else i can say i wish i could say more i can't even cry since my heart is very broken and it doesn't let me...
As a mother in law here I would just like to share what it feels like from my end. We as moms have the wonderful blessing to raise these men/women and we take this responsibility with great love and happiness. We have hopes and dreams for our children. My son and I were always very close and shared a lot of laughs, we had talks about his future and I was there for him. He met the ONE and slowly I felt him slipping away and it hurt because I thought he stopped loving me, stopped needing me and I felt like I was let go of the most important ,best job in the world..raising my son. I was lost and I was very sad. My son just got married and I see the love in their eyes and in their actions and they are perfect for each other. My daughter in law and I get along fine but we are not as close as I would like to be. I am working on that the best that I can.I truly do not intervene in their lives and I hold off on sending texts to them and just letting them be.. I am making a conscious effort to let them live their lives but I would be lying if I said I didn't miss my son and miss the role I used to play. It's very hard ,so daughter in laws please TRY to understand what we as moms are going through We are essentially letting our sons go and that is very,very hard and we are struggling so please give us grace and please be patient. I know his relationship with you is and should be the most important one in his life but we are stepping down from our role and like I said it's tough!! VERY tough!! Mutual respect, mutual understanding, see each other's points of views and just seeing all the good in each other will go miles. We do have at least one very important thing in common....my son/your husband Good luck everyone!
Hello ☺️ im @ same situation , i wanna all diz only a dream that when i wake up , i find my BF with m , but ITS not , its hurting , n honestly kinda confuse what to do 🙏😔
I will never be getting married in the future never because no man will ever loved me. I just very hurt and heartbroken that I’m not going to fall in love again 😭😔💔
I don’t know about your educational background, but to me as a MSW in Canada you sound as an awful, even harmful coach! First of all, you talk under the assumption that all mothers -in-laws are toxic, irrational, controlling, mean & unfair to their daughters-in-law, and it is always a mother-in/law’s fault! I will just say that I’m appalled about your talk, that it will cause nothing but harm to people! You do not know how to talk about problems in a more constructive, meaningful, respectful and unbiased way! I will end at that, as I have no desire to teach, explain right things to someone like you! I for sure only know one thing with certainty: you’ve got to stop talking, causing further damage or to be legally liable!!
No man has been with me no other man has been with me offline for 18 years like that I don't know who else maybe screwing up my account for who I may be communicating with at times unbeknownst to me sometimes. And I'm not marrying anyone long distance. Nobody needs my attention like that. If it's long distance I think I've made that clear. I don't want a husband like that.
I have been accused of cheating by my long distance partner. It really cut deep. I just blocked him because I couldn't take it anymore. He kept accusing me of cheating and the 3rd time, I just had to distance myself 😢I didn't want it to be like this
I was trying sooooooo hard to do all you say in this video. thanks for the video anyway. but in the fact, when he spoke in high note, I’ve been triggered to speak in high note too. but most of the time, I gave him silent treatment when he was angry. I was completely quiet and didn’t react/give any impression. I let him finished. but when I’m alone, sometimes I’m thinking “until when I will get this drama about his anger about all the things even about the small thing. but I don’t wanna be without him”
My in laws have talked about me to my family & his my children my siblings anyone who will listen my own mother they have no F boundaries my grown children & my sister had to tell them to stop it i don't know if my husband has ever defended me i think this is why its gone on for so so long my family treats him with love & respect always his family not so much they stay in competition about everything very weird i come from a place of love his side not so much
I married into a whole family of these kinds of people after a decade i see things will never change ever so i've removed my self i want my husband to have a wonderful relationship them so i backed away so they can have there time together i'm fine with being away from the drama of my in laws mother & her daughter are a whole gang
I’ve ask him to not have them over at our home, when I’m not home. But he says they are my friends, I’m an adult you can’t tell me what to do. So I don’t know what to say or do. He’s not one to talk about feelings, he never has. I would love to have a conversation about this but he says there my friends I just need to get over it. I’m having a lot anxiety over this.
I'm going through this right I'm working my ass off out of town Worse off they moved out I don't know what I'm going home to I'm so pissed hurt a ton of emotions Also it's 1 scenario after another the neighbors,the guy down the road,my ex , it's relentless And for whatever reason he thinks I put a tracker on his phone WTF 😡 I know his ex cheated so he claims I'm not his past or her 🤬
I wouldn’t engage them until they decide to reach out. Then I’ll have the conversation about the impact etc. But before that, I’m ok with responding to silence w silence. Mentally and emotionally preparing to disengage permanently if necessary.
Mine was always causing me of cheating even if I just went for a neighborhood walk. Only reason I can figure he’d do that is because he’s cheating…and I’m sick of thinking of ways to prove that. Horrible base for a relationship
Thank you so much for this video. I've only found it now. My husband and I have most of these signs, it's so obvious that we'd probably be better off apart. The problem is that we are from two different countries and we have an eight year old boy together. If we divorce, I would want to go back home and my child would go with me, which means very limited contact with his dad, maybe twice a year. I don't fancy that. My child is very happy where we are now, he loves his school and not sure how he would be in my country as he doesn't speak the language very well. But our marriage is loveless with no intimacy. I've been trying and wanting to make it work, but my husband has no interest in it, he says he's fed up as it's been too hard. So I'm only persisting because of the child. Any tips what to do in a situation like this? Thank you so much for any advice. Wishing you all the best and sending lots of love.