Are you having a hard time overcoming rejection? What has been your biggest challenge? I'd love to hear your feedback below. It helps me to create new content that is helpful to your journey!
Should I be concerned that I now have zero interest in having a relationship? Call me a misogynist MGTOW if you wish, but I just can't relate to modern women, especially in our politically charged climate (I voted for Trump). The first thing that I think about when I see a woman, even a very attractive woman, is the enormous burden it would be to try to keep her happy. Even the thought seems exhausting. All for what? Just sex? I do not seek validation, in fact maybe the opposite. I am somewhat wealthy and I think I partially prefer to be left alone out of fear of being a gold digger's victim. I am honestly disgusted by the difference in the way people treat me after they learn I am a millionaire so I now hide all indicators of wealth (within reason) Do I sound like someone who let my avoidant personality go too far for too long? Do you have any advice for me to overcome my misogyny and actually start respecting women? Is it bad that I view others as a burden without giving them a chance? Ok, that's all. Keep up the good content.
@@TqSNv9R0iG5Ckxew hey! That's how I have been feeling all year. Except I'm the female. I used to have a very anxious attachment style. Now I switched to major avoidance style. I just don't see that the effort is worth it especially when I'm so happy and content without a relationship.
I struggle with my health problems and every relationship ends with my health being the problem. I didn't ask for this but it's the hand I've been dealt. I'm shamed for being sick. I'm also a open heart attachment style so I get confused if I'm the one who has been making the mistakes.
My first guideline of dating: I am in deeply love with my perfectly beautifully and lovably imperfect, flawed and making mistake self. Second guideline: I find men who are available, consistent, interested, attuned, communicative and capable of repair…. Anything else is gross. Third guideline…. I welcome people to come and stay and gratefully welcome go.
OMG. I came from an anxious attachment to an earned secure. But during the pandemic, I numbed with video games, becamse over obsessed and triggered by politics, and gained a bit of weight with little to no exercise. The person I attracted was THE MOST avoidant person ever, and one of the most toxic relationships of my life. THIS!! This video is so accurate. You very much attract your inner state. Now that I'm healed and better than ever...I'm no longer attracting those people to me
This is what I always say, if you find yourself in a Walmart, then you've come there to shop. If you're in a toxic relationship, imo that ain't no accident. (You earned my like because this video was fantastic.)
7.30, nailed it Brianna. i found that person who had the will and the capacity to take a long hard look, and it turns out they're not really that interested afterall. the inner critic is crowing from the rooftops now.
Incredibly helpful, Briana, thank you! I can see how I’ve been putting energy in the wrong places for years - outside of myself. Thanks for your detailed descriptions and examples - very insightful.
Hello Briana! I love your videos and I've been binge watching for days! We'd love to see you with a better camera quality and audio! I noticed you're using a web cam which is not ideal for the current generation lol. I think you'd have a lot better watch times if you had a better camera. Better quality makes us feel like you're more a live to us! If that makes sense haha.. I recommend Sony ZV-1 it's 4k and used by many of us and pretty budget friendly or canon g7x mark 3 which in my opinion is better! As a thank you for your amazing content please let me know if those aren't with in your budget for this channel and I'd love to send you one!! 🥰 -Salman with an "open heart".
Thank you for watching. I’m glad you enjoyed the content. Most of my videos are re-purposed from live stream events. In which case the camera quality is necessarily not that great. But I don’t let it stop me :)
This video was very insightful! Thank you. It is spot on point! Doing the work to change is now the step to take. I'm interested in taking your course to make those changes.
Wow, wow, wow! So many great insights in this video! The lipstick analogy, the kitchen analogy; you really have a great way of making concept stick in the mind in a way that practical sense. I’ll be playing this on repeat for weeks to come. Awesome stuff. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
This was very detailed and I appreciate it very much. I have enjoyed your work more and more as I engage with it more and more and continue to think about what you say
All of your videos are so interesting. I am going through my third year and fourth breakup with an avoidant who is hot and cold. I don't know how to eventually tell him that I think he is one, so he can at least be aware. I'm afraid he will find it difficult to accept from me. He believes it's because of a relationship he had that ended 7 years ago. But from what I'm learning it's a childhood wound.
Why does it seem women take on more responsibility for seeking self help / relationship / therapy help than men ? Is that an indication that men are generally not interested in the topic or that men are woefully inadequate at having relationships therefore women are just out there searching for answers ??? In general I just don’t see men putting forth as much effort into understanding themselves or their relationships as women
I could understand how it can seem that way, and I wouldn't be surprised if there's some truth to it - but I'd be careful about generalizing. Since we're speaking generally though, I'd say that men and boys are more often than not taught - by parents, teachers, peers, media, overall societal expectations - that emotional repression is "right". So for many, the question of attachment styles, even mental health in general, is largely out the window. Then there's also the whole redpill side of things, that not only reinforces these same notions but also actively promotes dismissal of (especially partners') emotional needs in relationships, and expression thereof.
