How To Play The Long Game With An Ex 

Please let this happen to me soon. I love her too much. I definitely love myself. My tenacious behavior and the fortitude to never give up compels me to fight for the relationship. But if she isn’t doing the same…. My persistence is futile .

Words of wisdom Rolo!!!

Unless you start loving strategies and techniques more than people around you. that you lose love and empathy for people, but not love for techniques. You didn't mention you wish the person to find happiness anyway no matter whether the person stays single or with someone. the person has probably parents. and you will probably have kids and wish someone respected you as a father as well as your child because you invested a lot of energy and emotions into your child. You focus in comments on what other person does, feels but not on your own moral values thoughts feelings etc. The problem is that people treat their partner as some property nota s a human being. they deserve empathy even if they have some flaws, that they just need to unlearn and find purpose.

Did you win?

So, you played him/her?

You just move on you win by not playing

Same here

Thanks!

Update? The same thing happened to me!

@@vanitysmurf5145 Well we haven't talked for a month but we do see each other's stories and I see him liking posts etc, so that's the only connection we have right now. All the best, fam.

@@priyankagiridharan8293 When do you plan to talk to him?

@@vanitysmurf5145 he was the one who asked for space so he should be the one to talk to me. So I'm just focusing on myself and also open to other options. Let him come to me on his own. But it depends on ur situation. Just do what ur intuition tells is the right thing for u. Follow ur gut feeling.

@@priyankagiridharan8293 In my case he didn't ask for space. He just ghosted and hasn't talked to me for 2 weeks now. He's an avoidant and probably confused. When do I reach out next? Idk if I have the patience for him to reach me, cus he probably never will being an avoidant.

Yes , let's talk about that Chris.

Probably the best way to think about it is if they are in a rebound relationship they are doing everything possible NOT to confront the grief associated with your relationship. So, they use the other person to cope.

Thats for replying Chris Seiter

Maybe try to have like an open dialogue with her about how it is making you feel. If she's an anxious attachment style person then it is likely she is going through hell. If its possible you have feelings for her still, maybe you owe it to yourself to find out. Try not to have any regrets in life. If there is even a part of you that still wants her back then talk to her about it. If you think you can reconcile with her then give it a try. The fact that you're watching such videos tell me that you still have a soft corner for her. So take a chance and talk things out. If anything you'll probably get closure out of it and you'll be able to finally heal right. ♡ Lots of love and prayers. I hope you find happiness. :)

Well be patient ..

I agree, wouldn’t pay anyone money who claims to help you get your ex back. I look more for strategies to help me be my best self and how to move on but also gain insight on approaches if/when an ex reaches out and I’m interested in talking again. But no “get your ex back” games!

To be fair to this guy, he does not guarantee success and he promotes self-improvement through the process. Speaking for myself, watching all his free content is helping me understand why my last relationship ended and moving forward from it

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Omg same!!

Update?

He contacted me back day 27th to invite me out for dinner. I thought about accepting but, he never expressed desire to reunite to talk about anything that happened, and us going different directions. He knew I wanted a relationship. He never expressed he wanted to restore what we had, or start over, never called, never said he missed me . He acted as in nothing happened being all extra polite & bubbly. (Every 2 weeks he STILL contacts me. If I am short he keeps on looking for ways to talk.) Going back to day 27th of NC his lack of acknowledgement that something's happened actually bothered me & I mentioned I wasn't interested in continuing providing friendship and company. That if I wasn't enough for a relationship I wouldn't be around to provide company. He insisted. But when he realized I didn't want to, he said he was trying to only be friends but okay. I wasn't interested in friendship so we went back to NC. Probably a month after he contacted me. Same outcome. Then every two weeks he would send a picture, a song from our favorite band, a message with a memory. Same thing, he would invite me out. When I objected that I prefer for us to have a conversation he insisted he only wanted to go out as friends that he didn't want to argue. I would go back to no contact and he would insist. I would explain my boundary and he would stonewall me. Until this year. He invited me to hang out with his friends. I said no. He said he was going on a trip. That he was seeing someone and he was going to go visit her hometown. I discovered he has been traveling with her every month to a different country. She lives abroad and they meet somewhere new every month. This has been going on since August last year. All this time he was trying to see me, invited me out for dinner, concerts, trips: he was already talking to her. After that I ignore him completely. I still can't understand why he continued contacting me if he if happy with her and never wanted me anyways.

Fatime! I am not good at no contact. I have texted/called my ex everyday last month & this month.

I haven’t texted him, not even once.

@@fatimeshahin5936 you're good! What's the secret to go that long? Also, what's your FB or IG name?

I have no idea why but my replies aren’t added.

@@fatimeshahin5936 I need to meet you! Anybody will your will power is the greatest! You inspired me to begin the no contact rule. But I need support.

Be careful i was doing this with my ex for over a year. It happened because I had an attachment style with him, or a trauma bond and let him use me because I loved him Our sex and friendship stopped when he met his new partner which has been 3 weeks ago The same time that we were last together Now he says we can't be friends because our sex was so good. Wtf? You will only start healing when it stops and moves out of your life

O and she is a good woman, never cheated in her life, never drank or parties..... now she does, completely changed and all her friends and family are moving away from her and now are starting to reach out to me. And are seeing through her lies

@@danielcarroll1816 Is it possible she's going through something emotionally that is making her lash out like that and cheat with 5 men. I mean talk to her and have an open dialogue with her about where she's at and get her to slowly open up about what led to this point that she felt the need to be with different men. People likely make such poor decisions when they are going through something. But at the same time it is possible that she wants to lead this type of lifestyle and does not want to settle down yet and want to be young, wild and free. Until you don't understand her mindset, you won't be able to make peace with why it happened and you are likely to carry that resentment with you if you don't get your answers. And that will come out in passive agressive ways when you reach out to her. Instesd take a break from her and when you finally feel ready, build a rapport with her. When you feel her ready to open up about it and talk, talk to her about this and try to get her point of view. I hope you find the answers you are looking for and happiness. :)

I hope you left for good. 5 men in 2 months?! No excuse good enough to make that okay

You should've married her. 11 years and kids? She wasn't interested in getting married? What ended up happening? I hope you both are doing great!

@@tercsi1 hey hun I’m great … looking forward to the holidays and no complaints

@@tercsi1 ohh noooooooo I’m so sorry … I really how u can pull it together this year to try and have a good holiday .. this too shall pass

@@tercsi1 Awwww well it does hurt not being with the person u love but what’s stopping y’all from reconnecting after 7 months I think that was more than enough time to fully sit back and understand what u both want ?

@@tercsi1 but if both of u worked on urself why not have a discussion about that if it’s what u both want eventually

@@tercsi1 idk he could just be keeping his options open who knows but typically when u want someone ur not gonna wait forever to make a move . I know for me after 7 months I’d prob be moved on completely by now but that’s just me I believe time waits for now one .

What I have learnt about a relationship over such a long period of time is probably second to none! So short times will rarely produce a potentially lasting relationship

What ended up happening?

@@beccf.s.8012 well you grow up and you grow to realize life is bigger in perspective. I joined the Marine corps last year and left my hometown. Escaped my tragedies and triumphs. Left my past, in the past. I did not join because I was heartbroken, that I made sure of. I joined because of other reasons. But anyways, with the relationship in question, when I came back home on leave last December, I drunkenly texted her one night and met up for a “date” but really just to catch up with her, not really a date in either of our minds. I did treat it like a date, but It was most definitely not one. Anyways it went good, and I got some closure. That was the last I’ve seen of her. Came home in may, and had no desire to reach out. It’s been 2 years since our break up, and honestly you start to come to terms with that shit. Some things are out of your control, and all you can do is what’s important outside of that, and that’s who you are/who you’re becoming. Essentially how you respond. And if you look inward you’ll find the answers to your wrongings and where things went sour. I did, and now I’m healthy and more confident than ever that I may be in a place to take care of woman in a way that I’m proud of. After our breakup two years ago, I couldn’t have imagined being in the position I’m in today. Anyways that’s the update

@@beccf.s.8012 I hope you find what you’re looking for

it is about respecting their emotional needs (rythm) and protecting yourself at the same time.

It's not. Relationships are a game, you don't want to commit too early, come off as needy, etc.