Thanks for watching! Remember, these signs are not set in stone! Everyone is different, so interpreting their appearance, words and actions may or may not always be accurate, and there are always exceptions. Please keep this in mind when reading people!
Maybe you should have started with that dude!!! Sarcasm is culturally conditioned, and crossed arm or legs, is a relaxing position for many. The baby thing is just fucking stupid, unless you know, what hand they prefer to use in general. Furthermore, is there no scientific evidence on what you are suggesting at the beginning of the video - the percentages doesn’t match the reality. Otherwise, it was informative, unless the obvious parts, you should have been left out.. 😇
Sometimes I think we get more concerned with the fact that someone likes us that we forget how important it is to be valued. Being liked is good, but being valued is so much better.
For mostly healthy, “normal” people, these signs are quite relevant, though you have to be wary of the D personalities who tend to mirror everything you do. It would be good to note that many of these tips are not always applicable to those with disabilities, particularly chronic pain and fatigue or other unseen injuries, who have to move or sit in certain positions for comfort, wear certain types of shoes to walk, or have limitations on their range of movement, etc.
People with Autism and other learning disabilities will display different body language than what most people are accustomed to. Avoiding eye contact and fidgeting are common among high-energy and tense people -- ADHD, Autism, and chronic-PTSD for example.
I have this "gift", being able to read people so easily. It's not something they do, their facial expression or body language, I just know what they're really feeling and can sometimes say what they're thinking as well. My advice is; always trust your gut feeling/first instinct. ALWAYS. Never, ever overthink.
Exactly. I have the same gift. Right about 95% of the time. Maybe higher. Some are very good at being deceitful. So, I may not recognize it right off. But I eventually see.
I feel you I'm actually able to read their emotions depending on the person I'm able to tell right away how they are feeling and what there next move is
Palmina D'Alessandro I agree. That person could also be an introvert who finds the direct eye contact of strangers disturbing. They could also be on the autism spectrum.
@Su!c!de Surv!vor HUH? was that supposed to be a joke or sarcastic or something? I don't understand. Please don't use suicide as a joke or to get reaction, your user name is "Suicide Survivor" so I would think that you'd be sensitive about the subject... My nephew committed suicide and there's absolutely nothing at all remotely funny or even sarcastically funny or fake funny or anything, as a matter of fact your comment wasn't even relevant to what's on the video! I pray that you're ok and that you chose to live. I also pray that you're not just tryin to get attention, cause suicide is not funny and it in no way should be used as a joke. In whatever you were tryin to say or do. Stay safe... ✌️🙏🏼
Me: *Talking and having Eye Contact with my friend* Friend Thoughts: I got to be brave but... His eyes are like laser daggers ready to penetrate deep into my soul
What does it mean when a guy is just standing there looking at you and you ask him “ are you analysing me ? “ and he says “ yes kind off “ what does that mean someone help ?
I Notice Everything, Shoes Definitely, Style, Cleaniness, Side Eye 👀, Eye Contact...Im A Great Listener & Ask Alot Of Questions Because Im Truly Intrested In Understanding Where He Or She Is Coming From & Their Intentions
Hello Gamer! I know, that for sensitive people, is difficult to make eye contact. Depends on the culture too-you can do some self-studies about that... Being well put together, can give you some boost of confidence, and even create a "security blanket". But, an introvert, is feeling so much better, in its own company):
I'm often reminded to take people at their word but... Are you sure you're not just unsociable? I'm not a pro but I think there can be a huge difference. Anti-social folks don't always avoid people. It's no fun if you like making people suffer! You might have problems processing some things that seem common to folks you'd otherwise like to meet. If you'd rather be a hero than a bad guy, you probably aren't really anti-social.; maybe just wanting revenge on persons unknown. Just ease yourself into life if you can. You don't have to be anyone just because people act like you're supposed to be. Just try to find folks temperate zone and learn to have fun.
I avoid it because I feel like my eyes make people interested in me n I don’t wanna give random people the wrong impression like I want them.. is that weird?
@@kudatamaas someone who consistently gets cut off , I go into conversations PREPARED to listen ..believe it or not, A LOT of people enjoy talking {not necessarily a bad thing} or at least, enjoy talking when they’ve found an active listener. Not only are you the one gathering SO much information from people by constantly being the listener than the speaker but it also provides the opportunity to read body language, tone inflections & facial expressions ..my advice?? go into conversations PREPARED to listen & ONLY speak when you know for sure they’re done talking
I have a major psychology degree I absolutely love psychology and the study of human behaviour it's the most fascinating subject for me psych and has always been a huge passion of mine and a subject of great interest and fascination.For myself Psych is more than just a subject or a study it is a way of life and it provides us with so many different and exciting facts and theories reseaarch
The fact that many people think folding your arms means you are uncomfortable means folding my arms to make me comfortable now makes me uncomfortable knowing others think I'm uncomfortable. ;)
@@jamesnw 😂😂😂😂😂 😂😂😂 This only means a person would actually have to know a person in order to know that particular person body language style😂😂😂😂OH NO😂😂
It is a myth that crossing arms and legs is creating a barrier. This actually suggests the person is self soothing because they may be uncomfortable mentally or physically (it's cold). In either case, it's about them.... not you.
From what ive read... it could mean you have a weak personality.. tho it sounds fucked up i wouldnt take offense... you probably get nervous easily and walk the same way, nervous, quickly and avoiding eye contact looking down mainly
You can change that, be more brave and look them straight in the eyes don’t care about what they would think about you, that will give you a stronger attitude
I know I am the same way. Plus I have a lazy eye it always looks away I've had that since 5 yrs old it's never going to get better so when I look at someone they look behind them because my eye looks away.
I always pay attention to what they are saying. People reveal their interest by their thinking strategies and words. Once I figure out what they're really intrested in. I act accordingly and present myself as a favorable person to his interest and that's how I make new friends. If I find that person being too nuisance I get rid of him. And hold on to those who I really feel significant
When it comes to eye contact, I was taught/forced to stare adults in the eye from beginning to end of conversation. I got so used to it that it became a competition, so almost rather than paying attention to what they were saying, I would be thinking "I bet you break first". It became a dominance challenge of sorts. As an adult myself, I intentionally break eye contact because I consciously consider whether or not I'm trying to psychologically dominate a person. As I do not want to dominate anyone that I respect, I find constant eye contact to be borderline arrogant and domineering. Making sure that I'm maintaining eye contact during key parts of conversation where you want to make sure that the points are understood on both sides, is far more important to me than a staring contest.
Totally correct! Doesn’t mean we’re nervous or duplicitous. We know the game and often just can’t be bothered engaging. Prolonged contact of any kind is also regarded as disrespectful in many cultures . Handshakes are often distasteful too. Give me space and I’m just fine - for a while !
I've always been one to sit back quietly when meeting new people. To see what type of person they are. If someone I's negative and they are one to bring me down I'll avoid then. See how someone acts in a group setting also is a good way to read a person's character.
True, but greeting others is an instant way to find out more or less what types they are, because if they don’t answer or only scowl, they’re not nice/warm/friendly, or just don’t want to be bothered. If they reciprocate with a genuine smile or a friendly tone of voice then they’re more approachable, but obviously it takes time to really know what someone’s true personality is. Some can pretend/are good actors/mislead others easily/hide their true feelings
@@kathleenstress no not really. More like my left arm is severely damaged and it helps keep the pressure off of bad joints with it supported like that. I'm very conscious of any and all issues I have in life and have no problem talking with others about them. Sorry but you simply just dont have to be defensive to cross your arms and find it comfortable. Are crossed arms a sign of discomfort or a barrier for some? Absolutely. However, that just doesn't apply to everyone. Unlike most people, I welcome others to be aware of any problems or fears I may have. It helps them know me deeper and as well it helps me address them. I sometimes use a sling for the same purpose of crossing my arms and when I do use it, guess what....I dont try to cross my left with the other arm. If yours was damaged as mine, it would make perfect sense to you why I do it and find it comfortable. You do have a sound theory there in why some people may do it and I'd say you're correct far as some people go but not everybody. 😊
@@fromashestoangels378 I can identify with that! A long time ago I was crossing my arms in public after a surgery because it helped relieve pain. This led to me getting a lecture in front of a lot of people for being "closed off" from what others are saying. It seems almost ironic that I can never remember if I emailed that acquaintance to explain (I didn't have a chance to explain at the time). If I did email them, I never got a response :). Now I have newer injuries in both arms and crossing them helps to keep them warm which relieves discomfort. Btw, your mention of joints reminded me that I may need to go back to using glucosamine capsules. They've done wonders for my knees in the past and may help with my elbows.
Well, I think I just have the ability to do it. When I ask someone I look at him in the eyes and they tell me everything. Or when I am mad I look bad at him and start to ask me to stop it. But they also told me that I have strong gaze so I think that is the reason. But when someone is smiling I look at his eyes and sometimes I see sadness and things happen.
You're absolutely right. This factor should have been taken into consideration in the preparation of this video. I have lived in two other countries where the culture is very different from my own. Although English-speaking societies see making direct eye contact as a a sign of trustworthiness, making direct eye contact in other societies can be seen as aggressive or disrespectful. The meaning of a gesture can be vastly different from one culture to another. An innocent gesture in one culture may be extremely vulgar in another. There are countless examples.
When I meet someone, the first thing I notice is their smile and teeth. Teeth are very important to me. Then it's the face. These points are very interesting and well taken. Thanks for sharing!
@@mikeb8638 lol. Actually they meant, " I know that you think that me staring at you means I really care and I'm a decent human being but hahaha what they Really mean is, you'd better watch out or I'll make sure the rest of your life is unimaginably terrible"
I really don't interact with people often, I'm kind of an introvert and I love being who I am, I don't give eye contact and I don't smile often but that doesn't mean am not genuine
I can't over express how important these kind of videos are to me because I'm an idiot. And even though they won't fix that, they can help a lot when it comes to just getting along with people better. Thanks.
I dont know who u are but u are not an idiot. Maybe u can't read body language like alot of us. Usually people that can read body language are psychologists, profilers, and creepy people. So don't call yourself an idiot.
Whenever I meet a person or pass a person in the the airport, if they nod up, they are either too friendly or they know me well, if they nod down it's a respectful greeting. I would rather be respected than liked.
The 1st thing i take notice of is how they "feel" to be near them and i do it on an intuitive level so i'm often not aware of what i've picked up til i think about it later. But sometimes something about them is so "loud" that it hits me on a conscious level straight away too...
A lot of these non-verbal cues are straight up signs of introversion or social anxiety, and NOT signs of lying or bad personality. This is a video that is telling people to "judge a book by the cover" and reject someone before you even give them a chance, just because they are nervous or shy around new people. That doesn't make them unfriendly or worthy of your scorn. Shame on you.
Yes...people with social anxiety are usual very soft/gentle warm-hearted. . (but get into their shelll/self-preservation mode. .by crossing arms. ..In general fear...but you have to have talked to them one-on-one. .to see whether. .they behave relaxed. .in a room of 2 people
I’m not a psychologist but I study it and these are all pretty basic “not always true” things. Like these aren’t bad to go off of but they do help for a start
I once met this man who was extremely nice but after a while he realised I wasn’t someone he could dominate when I held differing views on some matters and he changed to a different person altogether. If u really want to know what a person is like test them by challenging what they think or believe and see how they react.
Emily Emmons it was obvious he was never interested in knowing me but to make use of me. What happened between us was between us but it is a lesson we should all learn from.
When meeting strangers convo should be kept as small talk. Small building blocks of micro-development... It takes many years to immerse into a deep opinionated discussion w/ someone and ask them what they "think" about an issue, then review their response based upon intrinsic value or moral... I think it is much too short of time for probing "life stances" thru initial human relations w/ a potential new friend. And the focus for me is can i have a simple natural down to earth dialogue w/ this person on an even wave-length.
@@MannyCalderari Depends on age. Your way is fine for teens & early twenties, but not for those who have begun to value time. With experience, you can learn how to read a person very quickly by introducing certain topics.
I've always had a problem with leaning away from people when they get relatively close to me. It's not like I mean to or feel uncomfortable; it just happens.
Body language is important but not always accurate depending on the situation, individual and the overall difference between the two people while you might get good vibes from someone in reality only time will show the true meaning of your relationship and the selfpreservation of the people you are dealing with! So keep your guard up at all times .
I use to look down a lot. But doing exercise can make you more confident I believe. Everyone is different. And it also depends how long you know the person.
Crossing your arms can mean different things to various people the reason we do it, is maybe just like what you said or maybe because of something else or he/she is just feeling chilly the reason may vary so dont act like your reason is the real deal
Great video EXCEPT 18 MAYDAY!! Almost all Narcassistic intimate relationships begin this way. They imitate/mirror/copy you in every way. You technically end up falling in love with yourself. In time you see who they really are but then you've been trama bonded. I could go on and on with what they're going to do because they're so predictable. Once recognizing the red flags you'll see how they copied/mirrored you. Just be careful if they seem too good to be true. PS: love your channel...Thanks!
Awesome video! one thing that stood out though is that the crossing of the arms doesn't always come up as a blocking behaviour, it's rather more of a self hug commonly seen if people are stressed and anxious etc. Its a soothing behavior
In some cultures looking straight into the eyes of another person is considered improper. It does not mean that they are not honest. Also, some people are shy by nature , so they avoid direct gaze . It does not mean that they are telling a lie.
My husband is the most loving and most trustworthy person I know, and he just feels uncomfortable to look anyone in the eyes for more than a minute, even me. That said, he is a shy person, but his words and the rest of his body language shows that he is hiding nothing and is interrested in me and what I'm saying. Constant eye contact is uncomfortable for most people. Nothing to hide, just weird looking someone in the eyes the whole time!
I agree that when we neglect to look others in the eye it may signal nervousness. I don't usual look others in the eye unless I feel comfy. Everyone is unique and we all at times feel nervous, unless you a proud son of a bitch and and want to invade another space. Love, Tricia
Personally, I think that body language is too dependent on many factors. You have to take into cosideration the circumstances and the people involved. In my case for example; I've noticed that I tend to cross my arms when I want to comfort myself as well as when I feel insecure or nervous about something, most likely related to the conversation at hand. I could be very interested in the person talking but vulnerable over my opinion or personal experience on the topic, or even just be intimidated by the person.
agreed! genuine and sincere and honest win with me! If we are genuine and another is not then we may not connect at all and miss out on getting to know the real bitty gritty in someone. How unfortunate because I'm sure we can all relate somehow to each. Only 1% of our DNA makes each of us unique and different from each at mos. We at most share the same make up. so let's unite in our flaws and imperfections as well as with our more positive qualities! We are all perfect in our imperfection. Love, Tricia
the truth is though, even if you understand all these points , how you interpret them is and will always be subjective and based upon your own experience and understanding of personality.
Or go with our intuitive natures? Ask us how we feel in this moment with so and so. No don't ask just feel it out ... as you go! It really works! Love, Tricia
True, this is why you need some good litterature that is more of a big picture, I haven't read an awful lot about communication but I have still been able to attribute some differences in real life to gender for example (which has that effect that it takes you down to earth, not obsessing over a comment), of course speaking generally in case anyone should take offense.
I don't like to listen to these type of video's for the simple reason that I can get critical about myself. I know for a fact that I have things I identify with in this video! I often sit with arms crossed or even while standing but it doesnt have anything to do with being upset or dismissal of other it simple is comfort,warmth, just not know where I want them at the time. Now grantwd I also do it for safety if someone is going to attack I want my first defense close to protecting my face and heart!!! The point about shoes I agree mostly. someone who wears white shoes and that keeps them white can't be trusted!! Same for someone that clips there cell on there belt or pocket especially when wearing a business suit!! You have pockets everywhere use them know one cares what phone you have... Also it doesn't look good,cool .. You look like your mommy pin your mittens to your coat so you wouldn't lose them/remember to use them !!! Perception is just one thing you can not ever perceive.. It is forever changing it design to fit the situation at that particular time..
This is interesting. I have found from my experiences, that when you are being patronized you will find the other person nod excessively. That is to say that "I may be listening but I don't care what you're saying". Also I am not the type to be rude to people but I'm a very busy person and so when somebody goes on and on with everything that goes on in their world and the drama I have a tendency to to sigh. I mean to do it silently but it doesn't always come out that way. Lol these are pretty good signs of the natural reaction people have but like you said they're not set in stone because we humans are the most unpredictable creatures on the face of this Earth!
Informative, and interesting. Some of these things I am a little “ unsure “ about . I had to learn how to read people, my dad was a police officer, and he gave me a lot of “ pointers “ , to be able to “ read “ people. I’m actually pretty good at it , and also the “ lying “ thing . Body language is definitely necessary for reading people.
@@kiana8228 if they can’t concentrate. If they’re fidgety, they’re eyes are darting all over the place and not on you . If they talk in double negatives , or keep repeating themselves. Ya know you got them if you get them to break . Try observing someone interrogating a criminal sometime , you’ll see what I mean . Whether it’s a criminal or a crazy ex , or a husband who just likes lying to you… you’ll totally understand
Hmmm. Not trying to say your dad wasn't good at spotting liars or guilt, but statistics say, in general, police officers are actually no better than the general public at spotting lies or other any other "psychological tendencies" and actually come out worse in some studies. (Just look up "are police better than the general public at spotting liars" and you can find the results of more than one study.) Most of the "tips" in this video should be taken with several large grains of salt, as any of them by themselves, should not to be used as a judgement of others' feelings or motivations. There are countless reasons why any / of of these tips will give you false "readings" and should only be considered as mild entertainment. @@makeupboss3568
A lot of this needs to take into account culture. i.e it’s very rude in my culture to look someone in the eyes for a long period of time. it’s considered very aggressive- you look into someone’s eyes when you are about to fight/ make a strong point; verbally, emotionally or indeed...physically.
These are all fair perspectives but I think it's important to remember how complex a human life/psyche is. With regards to people's shoes, I must be aggressive lol People emulate a lot of my traits and techniques but it's not until they've known me for a while. It sometimes used to annoy me when I was younger but I now I find it sorta comforting . When one considers how much we all emulate those who they respect, such as a parent, it's actually quite amazing on the whole.
Something I have noticed like when I met my boss for the first a month ago! I could tell that he is laid back and knows what he is doing and why he is there as a dinning room manager!! And that was all just by a handshake pretty amazing!! I was also nervous when I met him because I didn't know what to expect and I laughed afterwards because I didn't need to be that way at all
A smile,a handshake and shoes do say a lot about a person and it's pretty accurate in my eyes. Of course, the shoes example applies when you dress up on a regular basis maybe even work if you don't have a strict dress code.
Yeah, and everyone (that's millions of people watching hundreds of these videos) watching these starts faking their bodylanguage. Plus they only work in western culture because cultural, or even professional, differences affect how we use our bodies. For example, women are often expected or even required to wear short skirts, so they cross their legs for modesty. Likewise, certain jobs expect you wear high heeled shoes whereas in others it is a no-no. In eastern cultures eyebrows do not help reading body language. Not only it is a cultural feature not showing strong emotions, I remember watching a Korean show that explained there is a difference between the facial muscles of westerners and Asians, which makes raising eyebrows naturally harder for some and which makes them look grumpy even when they are not.
I always seek tone of voice, facial and body expressions! Whether they align with conversations or reason for meeting vs running into one another. Then emphasis or none about topic
Not all are true but yes makes a lot of sense.... For example, In general looking down while walking (habit) is a sign of being wise, calm and humble and it has nothing to do with self esteem or confidence... Often people who don't look ahead fall down more :)
#16... I don't judge people based on their shoes, lol. And hand shakes / cheek kisses depends on culture and the type of circumstances. But overall, great video!!
first things I look a when Immeet somebody are : eyes contact and hand shake. If they don't look at me in the eyes or give me a sloppy handshake I know for sure we will not get along or make business together.. Every time I did not follow my instinct in this it always ended bad. Everything else you say in your video is correct. I have had a very long inernational business expereince around the planet, since the age of 25 starting in 1966, in 72 countries, 8 different languages and different cultures, BUT knowing how to read people is primordial. I am now retired ( I am 82 y.o.) but still make some business now and then to help others. I am an economist, specialized in marketing and sales and a polyglott. A french-speaking Swiss citizen who lives in South America since 1992. I like and appreciate your videos.
I can also feel people's energy wherever I go and it gets frustrated sometimes to take all their negative energy to myself. I have to back off a bit and left behind or spend some time for my own and then get back with them. It is all about energy and every word and tone of the voice tell you about people's character and personality. Also it takes time to get to know all these things and most of us don't pay attention to it and they say it is all in our mind.
I did learn something about myself in this video. Though you can't expect to learn all the psychological basics of another person's behavior in a short video, it does present truth to at least one of the points with each topic presented. Good job.
All summer, I was with people at work on thier first days. The impressions left with me were the listening skills they showed. And responsiveness. When someone can put themselves aside and be in the moment to something new, more gets done. The "getting to know you," takes backseat. It's there, just not what leads all the conversation. I appreciate people. We cool beings!
Thanks, Linda for that. I have a problem with that. One problem I had was if someone was training at a new job and I already knew what I was would always say oh yeah I know how to do that I've done that for. Now I'll just sit back and watch how they do it very intensive and ask questions and be very engaged much better result
The video gave me a lot of insight. The first thing I notice about someone I'm meeting for the first time is the person's general appearance in terms of neatness. Secondly their facial expressions. Nice video, though I must say not everything said there is entirely true. Thumbs up all the same
The first thing I pay attention to when meeting someone is the energy vibe I feel inside my body from them. It happens in spit seconds and then I can just tell more and more about them as the seconds pass. This is interesting, but you missed a few other alternatives to some things. I don’t consciously pay attention to these things, I just intuitively feel them, although what you said is mostly accurate, missing some exceptions to some rules 💗
I wear ankle boots because they are the type that is proportionate to my body type and height. Selection of outfits, accessories as well as footwear must enhance one's physical features and conceal some imperfections. If one has a little knowledge of harmony, balance, and proportion, we choose items to wear that is becoming to us. Things that bring out our best feature and conceal some flaws. It is all about illusions. So, being labeled as 'aggressive' because one is wearing ankle boots is highly debatable. Sorry, just saying. Nothing personal. Cheers.
I nod my head almost all the time if I am interested or in agreement with the person or topic. I could be described as a bobble head if I am really agreeing. I noticed if I am not in full agreement my head will move at a much slower pace with a raised eyebrow or eyes looking up as I am processing the suggestions, ideas or thoughts ❤️❤️❤️
@@leaholson33 then reduce people down to energy and mind. A body isn't a person. That's not who they are, but merely a reflection of the real entity contained inside. This stops a lot of deception for me because looks are deceptive, they keep changing directions and leaving your heart in a daze/mind in a maze.
@@xxxod I said mental disorders. Even if I reduce them to mind, the mental disorders will still be there. People with narcissistic personality disorder are hard to read. Psychopaths I think are even harder to read as they lack empathy, and thus a lot of emotion and tone in voice.
I look right into a person like I am trying to see their soul. No one messes with me. People have a lot to hide because I have NOTHING and I am as real as they come.
Great advice. I'd like to see older people in these clips. I don't smile except for a grin. I rarely show my teeth. It's in my eyes, so that's true: Eye contact matters. It also continues to matter once you know someone. I understand that younger people grapple with these sorts of things. But it is the Elders in a community who actually know the stuff of life (I'm talking about people who didn't degenerate once they retired). The Internet is great. I learn a lot here. I learn more in person. Way more. And I learn a great deal from people older than me and I'm 62 and that crowd is thinning out. Sit with someone who has logged some serious hours on this planet. Whatever their experience, they know something I do not know. Every "tip" I see lately is about how to behave in an office or work setting. That's alarming. Yes, I spent 50 years working some job or another and it was where I met many different types of people. But it represented but a fraction of my life beyond the meet and greet world of buying and selling and shepherding information. Good tips? Yes. But incomplete.
Out of curiosity do/did you work in a hazardous environment? I've worked in the woods and I fight wildand fire and am constantly aware of what's up down and around.
The handshake in addition to the manner in which they shake, you can also recognize the dominant vs submissive by which has their palm facing down for the former and up for the latter. Those who are panhandling or asking for money will have their palm up. Revealing the underside of the wrist and palm can be seen as the opposite of having closed off body language.
A first impression is what we all make and to analyse someone to read someone like a book, is more of what and how to interpret about how and when another makes a first impression. People are different in the same ways they are common. 80 percent of the 86,000 people you will meet in a lifetime you will only meet once!
I've always been able to read people VERY well and know their true intentions since I can remember. Starting at 4 years old I didn't know that I was reading kids body language in kindergarten. They would look at me and their body language and eye contact would make me feel so anxious and nervous that I would go hide in the bathroom and at that age I didn't know what anxiety was so the only way I could try to explain it to an adult was that I thought they could read my mind... lol But as I got older I realized I was reading people's body language and when it didn't match up with what they were saying I would feel so uncomfortable because I new they were lying about something. I'm a very straight forward person who says exactly what's on my mind unless it's inappropriate or something. I don't lie and can immediately tell when someone's lying by the tone of their voice etc. I've always been a very anxious person around others and realized that anxiety stemmed from me being super aware and intuitive about the other person and I would get all these nervous anxious feelings. But now that I know what it really is I use it to my advantage to not get taken advantage of by someone. Rewind back to when I was like 7, if I was having a tantrum or crying about something and noticed my mom would say something like "Heyy honey do you remember when we watched that super funny movie and couldn't stop laughing? Or hey honey would you like to help me cook dinner or play a board game I know how much you love the game "SORRY". I would immediately say, mom I know you're trying to distract me and get me out of this mood I'm in please just stop!. Rewind even further to when I was 3 years old and would draw a picture and one of my moms friends would say in a high pitch voice (like how adults talk to youngins) they would say "Amandaaaa that picture is sooooo good!!!!! You are so talented!!!😊" And I knew immediately that they were either lying to make me feel good about my drawing and exaggerating how good it was, and also talking to me like that made me feel stupid. So I would get "anxious and embarrassed" about my drawing and rip it up.. It came across to them as anger.. But I was just feeling anxious and embarrassed that they were lying and exaggerating. So as I got older I started to understand why I did those things and have explained to my mom why I had weird anger outbursts that weren't coming from being angry it was me feeling super anxious, nervous, and/or embarrassed that someone wasn't telling me what they really meant or was talking to me like I was stupid. Now that I'm 26 Ive come to realize over the years how aware I am of peoples body languages and why I was never able to keep friends in school because as soon as I sensed they were fake I dropped them as friends. I can only have friends who are genuine and don't lie and gossip about others. And if there's a guy I like the first thing I always say is "What are your intentions with me? If it's just to get in my pants then we shouldn't talk any further cus I will know very quickly what your intentions are so you might as well tell me now if you're genuine or not cus I don't do one night stands I'm not easy. I like genuine humble guys, and if you lie right now and say you're genuine, humble and not trying to get in my pants i will know waaaay sooner than later if it was a lie.. and alot of people can't handle how honest and genuine I am cus most people in this world are gossips, liars, fake and when I come along and am completely straight forward and say the things that most people are afraid to say out loud etc. People don't really know how to talk to me because I won't engage in gossip and pick up on their lies super quickly so they know they have nothing in common with me and can't play me....
I really enjoy this channel. Glad I found it. I was thinking what is it I notice about a person first, man or woman. I realized it's their personal cleanliness, hair, clothing. If it's a man I notice their nails.
Most of it was stereotype, complete BS because it depends on the circumstances of the situation of the "Meeting for the first time". Is it in a bar or at a party, is alcohol a contributing factor, a job interview, a date, etc. Some of it could be true on some level, but at the same time if say someone is playing you or being manipulative they would know how to be deceitful and know how to avoid the tells, so with that being said, it would be pointless to try and SEE THE SIGNS so to speak BECAUSE you could misread someone being sweet and shy for a total con PLAYER ♡ as a Narcissistic and an abusive person is skilled at reading a persons demeanor and manipulative behaviors. They would draw you out and want to get to know you, flatter you and show great interest in you, find your weekness and insecurities and use them against you to their own advantage, that's what they do:(( pathological liars will look you straight in the face and lie to you and Smile while doing it even laugh :0 LOL SO FUNNY THAT'S WHAT THEY DO!
