This so true. It took my wife nearly a year to realize i was serious 'this time'. I have celebrated 39 years of sobriety and think with gratitude daily. It is the best decision made in my life besides marrying wife of 54 years. Two years ago, i made a presentation at Families Against Narcotics. That is when my wife told me that the day i went to my first two AA meetings, was the day she was leaving me. A close call Indeed. She told me this after proofreading my presentation in which i told of throwing away so many photos of her not smiling at holiday time.
I just found your channel and REALLY love what you say here about trust. Really would be interested in watching a video of your wife talking about how she dealt with your alcoholism ...and how she made the decision to trust you again. Thank you
Hi Christine, Thanks for stopping by and the nice feedback. We actually do talk about and cover the whole TRUST thing from Serena's view point inside one of the modules in the 8 program. Will try & dig something out and upload some part of it soon. Can I circle back when we have something uploaded? If you need any other more specific input by all means leave a message here as I do check it and in weekly or if you have a more specific request you can email direct at questions@beyondbooze.com Regaining Trust is such an integral and often complex part of the process for sure so happy to help further if I can. Once again thanks Deryck
Three months sober and going through this right now but your video helps she’s doing it in her own because she’s a strong person but it helps to have this video to show her that she’s doing things as am I thank you for making this
Thanks I will give that some thought and let you know. It’s definitely a very tough issue to work through at times to hear each others side when both have such different needs to rebuild the trust. I commend you both for working at it!
@@lauradavies2869 Cool, It's one of the reasons why we built the Beyond Booze program and I post the occasional relevant video. There are so many crossroads and forks in the road and it can often feel a little like 'Deer in Headlights' when it comes to the big decisions around the rebound journey. Enjoy.
I'm having a hard time my wife trusting me, I just ended my addiction 2 months ago and I moved because of my surgery to my parents and idk what to do I need help :[
Thanks for reaching out. Time, transparency, and learning to be open to new healthy habits round your addictive behaviours is a good place to start. Ultimately trust starts with yourself first, you gotta get the house in order and write out an agenda on how you are going to do this. Eliminate all the things that get you into a funk and can lead to a possible relapse. You also have to be realistic about your situation. Ask yourself everyday, what's the ideal outcome you'd like & be really authentic & true about this and to yourself and how can you get there. Whatever you decide It has to be done consistently over a long period of time too until this becomes non-negotiable. Over time it will become hard wired into your subconscious as a new healthy behaviour, that's a fact. This can take many months & even years. But having faith & patience will get you there and build your confidence back up and of course TRUST. Only then will those you've betrayed or wronged find in their heart to possibly TRUST again. But that said you may never really fully gain the trust of those you've betrayed & maybe you just have to open to things not working out. Tough reality but sometime that's the cost of mistakes, it's how we become better human beings... by learning from our mistakes. Reframing how we react to others peoples judgement around your past mistakes is a good exercise too. Practice this often no matter how small the situation is. Remember TRUST and how other people think and react towards you is purely based on your past track record. From my own experience rebuilding the trust with my wife has taken years and there is always some element of doubt for sure. But we are both committed to the marriage working, and creating our own road map for when either one of us has a wobble. If your partner sees and experiences you doing the work, if you and your partner keep an open line of communication communication communication, share your struggles, challenges and celebrate your successes no matter how big or small you'll be fine. These are all things we teach in the Beyond Booze program of course. And if you'd like a video on something specific round this, or personal coaching the reach out or email us at questions@beyondbooze.com good luck.
I have recently stopped drinking and the man that I love has decided to walk away because I've promised in the past that I wouldn't drink again and I had. I am serious about it this time but he doesn't believe me. How can I rebuild Trust from where I am today? Is it at all possible?
