How to Respond When A Student Disrespects You 

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This is my first year teaching and I was absolutely shocked at how mean and disrespectful the students are toward each other.

Yes, you're right. It's a challenge. This is where attention-gettering strategies come in handy.

Respect is only with Asia and Africa. The few Africans that mingled with the west we are really struggling to put up with them. The human right spoilt everything

I've seen teachers 1) give a verbal warning 2) send student to different class for a bit 3) if behavior continues, send them to front office

Hi there,. I am teacher in Jamaica. So my consequences going to be their play time. Am gonna try that. Let them sit with me during their break.

Punishment is taking something they want, or iike away from them temporary.

Exactly no one seems to have the answers to logical consequences in classroom!

@@starforbes4596 Sounds like a complete and utter dereliction of duty of college and university Education departments, state education departments, school districts, and individual school leadership.

Same, kinder and everything, i cant figure it out at all

Hi @TheKnallkorper, see me an email, let's work this out :)

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ditto to what you just said, I'm sub for paraeducator I and II _ please help us out with naming examples of consequences - thank you!

Will do. Thanks.

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You're right. It's not just in the schools. We are seeing troubling behaviors in different areas of our community.

Hi, when I say it's not ok and it will not be tolerated, that is communicating to the student that their behavior will not go unaddressed in my classroom. That also means there will be consistent consequences coming their way. Sometimes I feel like it's a student's job to make it seem like the consequence does not matter on the front end. The consequences I've used for even the most challenging students were not effective because they were severe but because I was consistent.

Thank you! Will do!

Hi Lacey, here are some suggestions: In regards to the negativity, ask to have friendly conversations with the teachers (1:1 if you can) to talk about what's happening on both sides. Let the goal be to work out expectations and actions (i.e. compromise) that both of you can take to make it work for everyone. Let them know your plan with the 40 minutes and maybe they can lesson plan or grade papers while in your classroom so they can see some benefit to being timely. To establish rules and boundaries you will have to teach, practice and give feedback. I have online 1 hour workshop that shows you how to set up a classroom management system that you can customize. I'll leave the link. When I say teach, I mean introduce your rules an expectations, support your teaching with activities (maybe an art project or cartoon that demonstrates the rules or one rule at time) , also it's important to be proactive and review the rules and/or expectations before activity (if you can do it in a fun/creative way). This effective especially in the beginning. Then provide consistent encouraging and constructive feedback when they follow or don't follow the rules/expectations. I would be happy to help you come up with something specific to your needs if you want. ROOTING FOR YOU!!! Check out these links: michele-s-school-e13f.thinkific.com/courses/free-mini-workshop-strategies-for-the-first-month-of-school www.feedtheirneeds.com/classroom-management-framework-workshop www.feedtheirneeds.com/consultations

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Yesss!! That's is what I have been advocating. Or at least TEACH what respect looks like in a class setting. We can't afford to wait for the respect to simply show up in our current society.

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Hi, I think the key in your situation is to find strategies that work at your school. I know that having a student face the wall for 8 minutes would have never been supported at the different schools, I've worked in. That's why I provide typically school-approved examples in my workshops. I do have some videos on my channel that give specific consequences, maybe they could work for you.

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Hello, Thank You.

Happy to hear that!

Exactly. I am also a University lecturer. Most of these videos are just related to kids. However, there are so many disrespectful and defiant students even at university level. I sometimes have to struggle alot with their behaviour. What would you personally suggest me?

I'm so glad!

There is ALWAYS something we can do!! Yes, times have changed and our students are a reflection of that. However, there are thousands of teachers who are willing to step up to the plate and be the change. I get your frustration. And NOBODY is saying it is easy, but giving up on our students as a whole is not an option. PERIOD.

Many of the students come from home already convicted that they do whatever they want cause this is how their parents raised them. The bad behaviour has provinience and it is the kids home.

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That is amazing!!! Woot Woot!

If so then explain what you do to keep it so, dont just brag for nothing...thank you for tips

@@CR-pf1es Its not me. I'm terrible at classroom management. Its the kids. They are just very well behaved, for the most part.

You're right the disrespect is bad. I was not sure these methods worked until I was forced to try them myself (i.e. out of options). And the disrespect was out of control! But when I did I was surprised by how much my mindset played a part in the success of using them. You have to take a risk and try it out, I did. NOTE: Not saying this works with every student.

Welcome!

Are you talking about actual verbiage to use in the classroom?

Yeah, this is challenging! Thanks for sharing.

You're welcome :)Glad it was helpful!

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I think she/he hinted at it. With 23 years of experience and still in teaching, you will definitely pick up some effective strategies and practices to manage student behaviors.

Hi, I don't know what "pull them up means", but when I am working towards shaping a specific behavior, a few things...(1) I fully expect students to respond negatively because change can be hard and they may be using this response to discourage me from keeping the boundary or expectation set. , so I don't not let those initial responses deter me (2) I make sure I have taught, modeled, possibly role played the replacement behaviors. (3) I continue to give feedback (correction, redirection or encouragement) consistently, however I may change the format to planned ignoring or signals to decrease the disruptive impact on the class. But also explaining ahead of time that just because I did not respond in the moment does not mean the behavior was not noticed or accepted. (4) I follow up with 1:1 conversations with the student to get an idea of why they are having difficulty or pre-determined mostly classroom-based consequences from my classroom management system. Hope you can pull some nuggets from this :)

When students communicate inappropriately, I tend to respond in 3 tiers. First time: I verbally correct the behavior, then redirect behavior. For example, " That's not acceptable (or you are being disrespectful/ inappropriate, etc.), instead you can say... or you can respond with (Fill In The Blank...) Second time: In the moment I will give the student options. For example, "Try again." or "Change your tone" or " You can... or be quiet." Later in the period or day, I will have a brief 1:1 conversation where I ask the student about the behavior, remind them of the expectation or rule then ask if they are willing to change their behavior or follow the direction. Third time: I may or may not verbally redirect briefly. But usually I simply implement a specific consequence from my classroom management system. I would probably communicate with the parent after the third time (which not a consequence from my perspective). I would involve the principal if the behavior significantly disrupts instruction for the class or if the behavior escalates to something more disruptive. Hope this helps:)

Hi, not sure what the behavior is exactly, but I would determine which one is the most disruptive first and address that one. Then address the second one later in the day or week.

Not sure what type of examples you mean. Examples of student behaviors? Or strategies?

I say don't be moved by their initial response. In fact, expect a negative reaction to boundaries being set with challenging students. Continue to be consistent in using your management system. I have taught and worked with many students who started with and "FU" to end with "Thank you", " I love your class", and " You're the best".