God bless you sister. These are good points; thank you for sharing! One place that you may want to reconsider, is the part you mentioned about hook-ups. The word of God commands us to expose the works of darkness, we should not condone them. (Ephesians 5:11). Although some of your followers may not be believers, it’s important to be a light to them and not let them think that lifestyles such as hook ups are good or okay. Or else why would they want to become a Christian if we talk about sins as if they’re alright? God wants to be a light! Being a light involves scattering darkness. Christ loved sinners, yes, but He never spoke of any sin as if it were okay to do in the first place. God bless you. I felt to share this. I appreciate your channel, but when we say we’re Christians, we must be true to the whole Word of God. Be blessed.
Glad you could be such a good resource for trans women who are looking for such respectful encouragement in enhancing their feminine characteristics. Great allyship.
2:38 Watch your tone 4:39 Choose tender gentleness 6:18 Say no to vulgarity 8:06 Learn to say no 10:55 Expand your vocabulary 12:31 Be quick to listen & slow to speak Thank you 🥰
How to walk. What to do with our hands when listening to someone speak, when both of you are standing. How feet should be positioned while standing. I'm fine while sitting as my body is at rest. An easy knee together hand ontop of the other is natural. However when I stand, I'm fidgeting with my hands and feet and thinking and worrying about if I'm looking ok. Is this hand position ok or does it make me look uncomfortable? Toes out ? Toes straight?
Taylor hi Taylor :) Id love to make a few suggestions to help! First, when someone’s speaking to you, a smile and eye contact will radiate femininity and sweetness ☺️ as for hands then, they could be clasped in front of you (in front of your hips for example), or even clasped behind you will give off a very feminine and girly vibe when a man is speaking to you. When you are the one speaking, allow your body to be relaxed and use your hands to gesticulate along with your words, as you see Caitlyn doing in her videos. Just remember, if you feel uncomfortable, people will be too focused on your eye contact and smile/expressions for them to be focused on your hands if you are fidgety ☺️ and in case you are nervous, don’t worry if you do fidget, especially if a guy likes you then seeing you being a bit nervous will be very endearing to him.
@@tayashley3539 I think Cynthia L has made a video on this on her channel. However let me try and help. First when standing avoid standing on both your feet. Now don't keep on shuffling your weight. Learn what feet angles work for you. Express yourself with them, yes there is something like that. As for your hands ideally they should be in front of you. Imagine yourself holding an imaginary clutch infront of you at full arm length. If standing when talking to someone keep in mind that how much of yourself you show it indicates attention (I hope that is understood the way I meant it). In listening eye contact and less movement...or to be honest just pay attention body language will come.
I’m so glad you touched on the topic of being tender and gentle when you are SAFE. you’re 110% right this isn’t a utopia there will always be someone with cruel intentions...and safety is always a top priority.💕
Yes, very important. An ex tricked me out of my money and I can't help but speak in a very low growl around this person. With new men I sound like bluebirds are circling me.
I was raised and grew up very feminine, classy and friendly. I did notice that some times people men/ women would take my tenderness and femininity as a sign of being "easy" or "dumb". I learned how to be firm and correct them on the spot right away. I am firm when I need to. Could you please do books review and share with us your favorite books?
You don’t wanna “push” femininity and firmness. It comes out as “b**chy” One big factor in being firm and feminine is not talking too much garbage and nonsense. Talk when you need to and say important things...that way people actually pay more attention when you speak. You also don’t want *attention* you want respect. So do what it takes to be respected...wear proper clothing, respect others, and most of all be a godly woman.
Bee B I love it, Bee. I feel a lot of us ladies can relate to what you said. Part of tht, which you ans is about using your words to convey tenderness, however, let the gentleness also demonstrate a confidence. I feel ppl can tell the difference between being kind or timid. I also had to learn how to speak gently without coming across this way. One, is to find your voice like clearly pronounce words. Speak with conviction every time while still maintaining a calm tone
My grandmother always told me to save cursing for when you really meant it. She almost never cursed unless she was VERY angry (which I only saw once) , and because of that, it had a much more cutting effect when she did. I do this as well 😂
But even when angry we should take the time to think before a quick reaction. Yelling and cursing never solves any problems if anything its just causes more conflict. Being in the heat of a moment can make us not think properly. Always ask yourself is what I'm about to say, going to help me or the other person in any form.❤️
I have never seen my grandmother argue with anyone, not even once in my whole life. May she forever rest in peace. I always thought she made people walk over her, but I only realized how smart she really was when she died.
@@soapy2587 It lets me down a little bit when a youtuber who usually doesn't use profanity all of a sudden does. I admire people who dont swear because it shows their maturity and wisdom.
I’m not Christian but I really admire how you value your religion and it’s teaching all while respecting everyone’s beliefs. I think that is so elegant and beautiful.
*Also, when a woman admires a man, she automatically heightens her voice pitch.* Femininity lies within every woman, it just needs some nurture and cultivating to explore it even more.
Same here. I've been told numerous times I need to be more aggressive and not as soft and gentle. Otherwise people dont take me seriously esp in the work place.
@@autumnspring6624 No one in their right mind is to listen to a person who is so intolerant of other religons and bashes them just to prove that my faith is the absolute correct one . Thankyou ,but no .
I love how you indirectly address the toxic femininity when we have a hard time setting boundaries and saying no. I've noticed myself dumbing myself down to make people feel better about themselves, and that's not fair to me or to anybody. Once I understood what selfesteem and self care was all about, I've gotten better at not being afraid to show my intelligence and savoir faire. I love channels like this where we can learn how to be strong feminine women.
SHE SPEAKS SOOOOOO!!!!BEAUTIFULLY!!!!🌸❤🌸 Isn't it something that our mothers grandmothers great grandmothers etc knew all this deeply and inherently within....but sadly... it's very needed that women hear this now, especially younger generations of women.
Real Talk. I appreciate and respect any girl who speaks with that type of tenderness, calmness and care. I wouldn't even be able to get angry in a heated discussion, where I know I was obviously wrong. I'll just take the "L" and correct my mistake... It's definitely a trait that many men secretly look for in a woman but don't often find. Nowadays many woman have lost these qualities, it's a shame. I went on a blind date once. I met a girl who acted too much like a guy. Really didn't vibe for me. She was kind and pretty. But... Nahh (For Me.) The behaviour, It doesn't connect. After some time in a ok conversation, dinner and laughing. I just nervously smiled at her and said, "Aight, man. I gotta go." Yes. I actually used the term "Man." 😖 Real Talk it wasn't intentional. I guess My mind just couldn't find any feminine nurturing qualities in her.
@@afearfuljeffrey9478 And where did I go wrong there?... Because I said "Aight, Man I'm out." At the end of the date?... She likes to act like a guy so I treated her like a guy. I'm not going to judge her. she can act however she wants to and I will treat her according to her behaviour. Yh, I don't vibe with woman that act like guys, but doesn't mean I don't talk to them and befriend them. But to date, no not my thing. I leave that for for guys that vibe w that. I'm not one of em. Am I therefore wrong for having my own preference regarding woman's behaviour?... People like what they like, and don't what they don't like. She acted like a "Bro" throughout the whole date, so I treat her like a Bro, throughout the whole date. What's the problem? Maybe, by the way how I explained It you thought I left in the middle of the conversation and said: "Aight' Man I'm Out." No, I did not leave her hanging. We finished the blind date and I went my way. So how is that, as you put it: "Messed up of me." please, explain.
Or, as we just learned: "Please would you be so kind to make a book recommendation list?" Just joking 😇😉 But YES that's an awesome idea! I would like that so much as well 😍
Sometimes I wonder if you were this elegant and graceful even in your teenage years.Any woman would have something to learn from you,because your soul is old,honey.
2022 Update: I decided to completely delete what I said because I just don’t even want that rhetoric out there anymore. Just be yourself! Authenticity is beautiful! BIPOC women are beautiful! And this youtuber’s beliefs that she expresses on other social media platforms are not okay with me.
Amen me too but Im white lol. I was a tomboy as a kid and never got lady lessons although I try to be.. The voice pitching is so important and I get it now.. I think im gonna practice this. Having inner joy and happiness of the Lord is key to keep us from worldly behavior.
Ade V Look up being "frank" instead of being "blunt" (sorry I had some difficulties in wording this well lol). It has helped me immensely in approaching situations where I feel the need to be blunt!
Love your character and your videos! Can you do a video about feminine way of walking and moving, as well as body language and gesticualtion? I would love to hear your opinion on this topic. Kisses ❤️
I needed this video. Being in a competitive career and in pursuit of entrepreneurship can cause you to navigate communication in all arenas of life with an overtly assertive tone and defensive ear. Om truly feminine in appearance, but I can definitely be softer in communicating my needs and desires within a relationship. Thank you for this video.
That must be tough! but I'm glad you strike a balance unfortunately, in this society some people view femininity as weakness. I struggle with dealing w the world as an independent woman and not being' ran over' but still being feminine in my tone.
I 100% agree with all of this. I wish it had more views. I'm tired of being the only woman that embraces her own femininity. When did it become a bad thing to be a woman? I've felt very alone but it's nice to find videos like this and know that I'm not the only woman that feels as if femininity is important. One of the keys to life. It's what balances the world. So do men. We have our own roles and we should embrace them! Great video!
@@homosexualitymydearwatson4109 You do you, OP does OP. Thats the great thing about our modern times, we can do what we want, and have our own values. Personally I love being feminine.
I myself do not speak very femininely at all but still found this video quite interesting to watch and get to know a different perspective😊, thanks for sharing🤗❤️
If sounding more feminine isn't something you're used to it may feel fake. For example, trying to do something new in front of an audience can make you hyper aware of your inexperience. It doesn't make you a fraud though, just a novice. Practice makes perfect, practice until it feels more natural. Hope this was helpful!
I identify with this issue. I support your quest to keep cultivating that feminity. It's there! We just have to get in tune with it. I feel the EXACT same way. It's scary stepping out, trying to venture into a more nuturing mindset, especially if people hold old habits against you. But keep speaking life over yourself and remember the treasure that lies within you. I am instructing myself as well. I feel that I sometimes sound fake because anxiety prompts me to act right away and "prove" that I am feminine, whether it be speaking in a high pitched tone or trying to soften my usually brash voice, it can get discouraging sometimes. I think we have to remember that before the world told us who we were or how to be a "strong" woman, we were and are beautiful, nurturing, sweet, tender and capable young ladies and women, worthy of respect and love. We are allowed to make mistakes in the process of being refined. And there is always room to grow... for all. Do not let people box you in with those accusations of " being fake". Nor let yourself stop your progress. We can do this. I pray that God sends us friends to surround us and help instill courage in us to get further in touch with or feminity and be who we are. God bless you, Sister.
I'm also trying to embrace my femininity more. Your channel has been helpful to me in that aspect. Personally one thing I've stopped doing is cursing, it's hard and sometimes if I'm upset I slipp up. I am just an honest and direct person so it can be a challenge from time to time. My father would always tell me that women shouldn't curse and I think he is right. A clean gentle language is more feminine.
I would love to see a video discussing advice on how the young girly girls can work towards transitioning to women. Something I feel like I struggle with as I do tend to think of myself as mature in many ways, however in many others I still feel as though I still project myself as a young girl instead of a woman. In many ways I still feel like a young girl and I'm not sure where to start in growing towards that 'feminine woman' goal..... Love your channel and all your helpful advice!!
I just came home after a test in the university, I'm very glad to find a new video !! I really enjoy your content and it has been very helpful, thank you very much for everything.
I cannot thank God enough for such an encouragement like you. I don't hear women talk about this topic, and it is a very important subject that I, myself, need. I grew up with very sweet brothers, but I still didn't have many feminine role models in my life. As I grew up, I felt insecure and afraid of being called girly and that masculine behavior was the only rational way to act. I believed that enjoying feminine projects and hobbies were impractical and not important. Thankfully, I now have learned how femininity has such importance and power in this world; feminity has so much influence in culture, society, and relationship connections. I am honored to be a female created by God and am passionate to explore even more of the feminity with which God has gifted me.
I love that you highlighted, a moment to pause. That is very important especially today. Sadly, I have seen too many adults become over emotional when speaking in public to other adults or during a conversation.
@@brittanysmith3716 Yes, a true feminine woman will allow her husband to freely squirt his seed inside her. A real woman will be fruitful and birth his children. It's the only way to be truly feminine in a marriage.
I am muslim, and Mohammad pbuh said that every person who acts and speaks soft, kind and good, the hellfire will not touch him. I searched for how to be that way and i opened your video, and i loved it💖💖 thank you so much sis
May peace be upon you my dear muslim sisters 🌹 Hold to your chastity and virtue which represent the real (nowadays forgotten) beauty of femininity. 🌹 hold upon your religion very well and learn the wise teachings of the prophet (عليه الصلاة والسلام ) and his wives(رضي الله عنهن ) and that is the way to success in this life and in the afterlife.
I love the way you expressed our non- Christian sisters! How beautiful. I will use that. I am a Christian as well and I have many non-Christian friends and family. They are just as wonderful and precious as my Christian family and friends. Loving and valuing others is paramount.😊 this entire video is great. You are an amazing person!
Thank you for covering this topic. I appreciate you going more in depth than just 'pitch your voice higher' etc. I was so happy to see that you uploaded this today, I got to watch it on my meal break.
Can you make a video on how to be able to embrace your femininity in the workplace without being disrespected? I work in a male-dominated field, and I love fashion/makeup, but I also have a very happy-go-lucky personality, and when the women are too sweet, the men sexualize us or tell us we are too sweet/weak to be taken seriously. Do you have any advice?
ugh i LOVE how careful, fair and inclusive you are. and it's in a way that doesn't seem passive or patronizing, like it comes to you with grace and genuine care!! this video was pleasantly really wonderful, even to someone like me who is very new to this stuff. :')
Came on to your channel by accident , It was a bit of a shock . I had no idea these things were still being taught . It has been so many years since I have heard a woman speak in such a manner . Or hear the word “ nurture “ used that many times . I chuckled when you combined enunciate and pronounce ... a great word , pronunciate ... I’m going to use it a lot . I also found you prioritizing softness , femininity , maturity and intelligence rather surprising . Not what I’m used to in female ( or male for that matter ) speech . Women try to emulate what they think is male speech patterns so hard nowadays , just like they try and emulate their body language and actions . I know it’s an affectation adopted for fear of appearing weak or ineffectual . I also find it irritating that many males affect a faux feminine way of speaking . A lilt or lisp that is off-putting to me . As a person who uses speech in a professional manner ... as a tool ... I pay close attention to how others speak . Usually as an indicator of compliance , stress or an escalation of hostility . Im sure your husband , as a police officer , understands . I pay close attention to how females mimic how they perceive men to behave , as an indicator of their underlying belief of men’s natures . It’s usually not very flattering . As you may have gathered , I sometimes write a bit of fiction from time to time as well , and I plan to mine your posts for speech patterns for fictional female characters , with your permission , of course ... since I encounter the real thing so seldom . Quite exceptional . If I were aquatinted with a young lady that needed to be instructed in manners , speech and behavior , I would recommend she subscribe to you ... as I am doing so , myself . Ladylike behavior is such a rarity in today’s world . Thank you , and please continue your good work .
An exceptionally powerful learning tool is watching your videos. Thank you! Beautiful video as always. I would love if you would do another video catered to a younger audience, very nice to see that! You are a gentle inspiration, love.
In a world that has embraced Hip Hop and rap culture your video on femininity is long overdue. Being feminine is a lost art these days. Young ladies these days are not being taught how to act like a lady. Young girls today watch these hip hop rap videos and they see the girls in those videos and think that that's what it takes to get a man. Thank you for making this video, this video should be shown to every girl in high school. In fact femininity and etiquette should be taught in high school.
Omg I’ve been waiting on this video! I was thinking about my speech yesterday and I was like how do you carry a feminine way of speech? Mine is definitely super masculine so I’m trying to refine it. Thanks for this video!
why do you all want to speak with more femininity? I don't understand, why you feel the need or want to. No judgement here, I'm doing research on the empowering factors of femininity to understand my own. It would be truly helpful.
I hope you don’t operate. Please do your research. You don’t want hair growing inside your fake vagina causing infections which could end up killing you. What you truly need is therapy. It’s what lies inside of you that needs to change and accept who you are which is just a feminine man. We are all on a spectrum of masculinity and femininity. This obsession with identity, labels, and unnecessary strict adherence to male/female roles has led us here. It is a mental health disorder that needs mental help therapy.
Is wearing a lot of blush a feminine thing? Your cheeks look really cute on you. And I'm not being a smart ass I really want to know. I don't really wear blush just bronzer. My skin Is pale without it.
lupi ta90 I’m not an expert but just read an article that full lips and flushed cheeks are a sign of fertility which men subconsciously are drawn to. So yep, blush is feminine :)
I am overweight and have short curly hair, that never grows past a certain length. I feel so masculine. Especially since my mother never taught me how to be feminine. My biggest wish is to be skinny and have long shiny straight hair :(
Hi Saja, Femininity can come in many different forms; we were not all meant to look alike. To make yourself feel more feminine, wear soft pretty fragrances, makeup and feminine jewelry and accessories. There are lovely feminine dresses that come in all sizes. Treat yourself to a makeover at your favorite department store. Most of all wear your prettiest smile. Best wishes!
Were you taught how to properly care for curly hair? It's more finicky than straight hair, and most people, even stylists, don't know how. Reddit's r/curlyhair is a godsend if you need help.
I'm not quite sure how I came across your channel but I loved it! I love being feminine, I love everything about the topic and I loved all the videos I watched from you so far. I'm looking forward to the next one already!
Thank you Mrs. Midwest!! I'm genuinely curious, have you heard about the book called Fascinating Womanhood? Because all your videos go hand in hand with it:)
Thank you mrs. Midwest as a mom of 3 daughters and 1 son this is so needed for me i appreciate you💖 Edit: is there any way you could make a video about difficult people? I have people in my life that are harsh/vulgar humor, also someone who is flirtacious/feminine in a manipulative way. I just thought i would throw that out there 🤷🏼♀️ thank you if you read this
Women shouldn’t have to try to be or bend to any perceived social norms. Be yourself. Life is short. This woman will be weakened and not take seriously in the business world. This video actually makes me sad.
This is so hard for black women because you get around a bunch of black people trying to talk more feminine and they think you're trying to talk white🤦🏽♀️😂🤷🏽♀️
✨You should seriously consider writing self-help books in this area. I've been taking notes on a lot of your "lady like" videos and seriously feel like I can't learn enough, lol. Keep up the good work!✨
I agree but you should have two voices, one in public with strange men, and one with your family and your husband. There is no reason to use your softer voice with strange men, unless you are trying to charm them or something, and as a Christian, you should know what I am talking about.
I'm have been going through so many videos, at last i found what i actually wanted. There are so many videos for men to train their voice to sound attractive, polite, gentle and confident. Finally, found for women. ❤❤
it is my firm belief that if everyone talked like this... (Men n women both) We would solve 99% of the worlds problem regarding ego, war, prejudice and hostility.... What a wonderful world that'll be. Kudos for making this!
I'm not sure whether to love or hate this video. While I do value femininity, I am a firm believer in saying what you mean and meaning what you say. If I had to ask my significant other "hey! Would you mind taking out the trash??" I would feel like I was speaking to him as if he were a distant acquaintance. I feel like when you're with your "tribe", all of those fussy formalities aren't necessary...and would almost even seem patronizing.
Could you please please please do a tutorial on your hair? It looks so effortless yet very feminine and sexy at the same time with so much volume! Would love to know your haircut style if possible.
This was the first video of yours that I saw. It hurt me at the time because I knew how far off I was. I have watched so many of your others now that my heart was primed for this one 😂 I have a lot to go...but I’m so grateful for your willingness to share and guide us on this journey.
