Dr. Paul is literally a Godsend for me. God led me to these videos when I learned my son has ADD and started researching how I could help him. Thank God, and thank Dr. Paul.
Thank you so much. I'm 13 and I alsways overthink about one day getting old, dying and missing out and whenever I hink about it, I worry a lot. But this made me stop. Thank you so much, I feel a lot better now.
Hello , don’t worry about getting old, worry about not getting the chance too , I’m 76 and learned not to plan too much but go with the flow and enjoy every moment we can ,this came after serious enough cancer at 50 , I’ve been so grateful for the chance to get older , I’m still having fun , remember you can’t please everyone it’s not your job , learn to say no! Don’t put anyone on a pedestal. , value your time , have a great life ,xx
I’m lost for words . This was the best video I had a headache when I started watching this and toward the end of this video my headache was gone I can’t explain the peace I can’t thank you enough for this. I come from a family of over thinkers I can’t stop saying “WOW”!!
Hello Dr Paul. Iranian girl here🙋 Thanks for your great videos. Your voice and calm manner of speaking is so relaxing 😊🌷 I'm a Highly Sensitive Person, suffering from a disorder that I think is both similar to anxiety disorder and bipolar disorder (Drs here never gave me an explicit diagnosis. Only tons of medications). Overthinking+ overanalysing+ a terribly good memory for daily details is my awful signature! It bothers me more than everyone else, and if I'm in a relationship, it annoys that person too. And it sucks even more, here in Iran, because no one understands me😭 Everyone just says "you're too sensitive, u'll never find a husband n die a spinster"😒
As soon as he said, “all situations are neutral”, I KNEW it was Eckhart Tolle. I’ve learned so much from him…and then forgot it all like high school Spanish. So glad Dr. Paul is reminding me.
This literally just blew me away. I assumed everyone just thinks constantly. I thought this was normal. Always been told I think about things too much. This always confused me, because I assumed this is how we exist. This was like a WOW moment for me. 😅
Dr. Paul, I need to literally and metaphorically pay you! Thinking too much is a huge problem for me as it is for many of us. I've been meditating and it helps but what you said truly helps me even more. Thank so very much! THANK YOU!
The older hippie in me keeps screaming BE HERE NOW and the present day second generation parent grandparent wants to argue with the principal of being in the present moment and letting go of the overthinking about all the changes and challenges of the current times and situations that I am living in! Thank you for helping me re-gear my synapses!!
Timely video regarding our ability to get tied up in cognitive knots! This is also the theme and undercurrent of a recent video I made about parents wrapping their brains around school for their kids this fall. Keep up the fine work! I “think” you’re doing a great job! - your friendly neighborhood psychiatrist
Dr. Paul, I recently listened to your podcast with a lady Minister from the Caribbean who pointed out a healthy perspective on when we think we are in the worst situation ever in our personal lives. She has a history of horrific abuse/trauma but overcame it using a few strategies. One of them is that we are not alone and that there are so many millions of others that are so worse off and in severe pain. So our situation may feel like the worst of everyone but it is actually not. Then she pointed out that what kept her going was nurturing the feeling of hope.🌈 She found ways to nurture that. She also pointed out that she survived because she told herself that he situation was temporary and believed that things would change. There were a few more perspectives that were helpful. During the pandemic, 😷and now with more variant strains of covid on the lose all over the world, these vids of this topic are a regular "go to" to help with the coping. Thank you so much! 💚🇨🇦
“Thinking is our biggest addiction” ... bingo! Instead of accepting what is, many of us (myself included) over-think. This could be how all those crazy conspiracy theories take hold. Very enlightening.
I'm a new subscriber and I think I will flag this to watch over and over until it's imprinted in my brain. Going thru some troubled times and my mind will not stop....this helped me so very much - Thank you!!
3:34 Byron Katie, The Work... she states that we can't and need not stop thinking, but question our thoughts and thereby meet them with greater understanding... because 1. thinking just happens and 2. when we happen to think stressful thoughts again, we will he able to see them from a different angle... love your exercises 👍
Great videos, really helpful. I overthink worrying about what people think, whether I have offended them, whether my comment was taken the wrong way, it is exhausting overthinking everything
Known as fear of people. In truth, most people don't even bother thinking about us. Nor can we control what people think about us anymore than they can control us. If you do offend someone, they will probably let you know. Then, you can set things straight. Nor are you responsible for other folk's reaction to what you say.
Maybe if you go to end of vid. Options for next one will show. Choose cancel. Press circular arrow. Vid will replay without ads. Works for me on movies etc. Never tried it on this type of video.
You are so wonderful and helpful Dr. Paul! Thank you for these practical tips on our thinking and also about how best to handle kids. You explain everything so well! I love the ones with your wife too!
I thank God for leading me to your videos. Thank you for your sharing and teaching Dr Paul. You are right about overthinking, that we try to predict how things will turn out. And based on our past experience, we predict the outcome negatively. How do we overcome this? Thank you and God Bless.
Overthinking is my biggest issue and I’ve figured out it’s a defense mechanism when I’m afraid to make a move….a by-product of my own insecurity. To not decide, is to decide,right? I tend to have an addictive personality anyway with sugar, cleaning, eating so this really resonated with me. Great insights that gave me plenty to THINK about! !
Hi Dr Paul, I am thankful that the RU-vid algorithm brought me your channel. I was at a particularly low point in my life, and your videos have honestly been a turning point for me. Thank you so much.
I love this!!! I have problems overthinking and tormenting myself about the past and future and the exercise to watch for something to pop into your mind worked!!! I had that space of thinking of nothing and then of swimming - nothing to do with past or future but present.
Yep! A past relationship was constantly telling me this ... I get that, yet this person would not own their own is stuff! It's easy to make others to be feel that they are totally to blame for everything...
I really like your way to talk to us. You are so right that we can’t predict the future. For me worrying is such a bad habit and after this video I will try really hard to stop this bad habit. Thank you so much Dr. Paul for being here for us!
Thank you so much your methods are so amazing, I'm so glad that I found your channel. You are humorous as well. I've only seen two videos but it's been so meaningful for learning how to live a more grounded and purpose filled life. You make a difference.
Observing from the best, I like your practises thank you. I am going to be training to be a psychologist soon. I cannot wait to offer some support back into the world. I adore it and understood your philosophy here, brilliant. 🌍💛💚
I read the Power of Now a couple of years ago, and it was definitely eye opening. We do need to be mindful of what is consuming our thoughts. By the way...I love that picture behind you in the video. Looks like a gorgeous sunset. :)
Live On Purpose TV been doing better the last 3 days, then at a card show had a panic attack , had to walk away from selling to a customer and walk it off. Between the depression feelings , and the panic feelings I had a great day. Your videos are the better ones on you tube. Can you believe a car accident started all this.... Had panic in the ER and have been overcoming ever since. Thus the hope you share. THANKS AGAIN
Overthinking? Please...my inner voice doesn't shut the f@ck up! You'all might know this but some people do not have an "inner voice", do not hear themselves think, or what's otherwise known as "having an inner monologue"! Some think in pictures, or abstract concepts, seriously, I really don't understand it myself...this totally blew my mind. OK, now off to watch the video :) edit: If overthinking is an addiction, I must be a hardcore junkie. I'm going to need a lot more practice before I get anything that resembles peace in my head...but I still liked the video.
Practicing the suggestions today, or in this moment. Sigh! Rough times but these vids help. 🇨🇦 And, yes Dr. Paul, I remember the rolling of the dice youtube vid you did. That vid brought reality and peace of mind when you presented the accuracy of predicting; a low prediction. Also, I watch and practice Eckhart Tolle as well. Great resources; you and Eckhart Tolle! 💚
Good techniques. I focus on my breath through deep breathing. Mind wanders, immediately, I bring it back on focussing on my breath work. Your videos are quite good. I wish to interact with you, may be via mail.. Is that possible?
Thanks for sharing! The only way to work with me is through one on one coaching, just too busy developing new content for members at Live On Purpose Central and trying to find time for family. You can schedule a call at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you so much for your reply. Being a counselor, I find your contents very interesting and effective. I have applied many of your knowledge in my practice. It works!! Thank you! I am just a newbie in this field. Thank you so much for doing this great job!!
Hello I love ur vids soo much live on purpose tv can u make a vid on what u do when u feel sad and lonely bc sometimes I feel sad and lonely for no reason so can you make a vid on that?
This topic is something my 7 year old is going through, last night she admitted she is over thinking life and happiness is a choice, she also mentioned she should pick up a hobby to help. Will this video help someone so young?
Yvette D., I think it can help. What I do is point out principles and then the way that we apply those principles can be a little different with a minor, but we can still apply the principle to help, just get it to their level.
"Thinking about it" is really, really not the main problem with cancer. Feeling excruciating pain is way more of a problem. Dying is often way more of a problem (even if you wouldn't think about it). Do you ever think critically about anything? Do you ever try to argue both sides of the coin, or are you always just jumping head first into the deep end of your confirmation bias pool?
my kids and i left my abusive spouse months ago. i see a lot of the same negative (rude harsh impatient angry self centered egotistical ) attitudes and behavior in our 16 year old daughter now. I have read a lot about the effects of domestic abuse on the children. do you have any specific advice for single mom parenting teen daughter in this recovery stage of our lives? My son is older and he internalizes more and shuts out anything from his life that he cant control. I'm a Christian mom so any advice based on those values is appreciated!
M D, be there for your daughter when she wants to talk or when things are coming up for her. Open communication and make sure she knows you love her no matter what and even if.
Thank you so much! You are the only source of child psychology out there that I've heard put UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FIRST if we dont have that and truly believe they are gifts from God everything else is just empty words.
Give ur brain a diff thing to think about. When u r trying to sleep & ur brain is going blahblahblahblahblah & wont hush, count. Just count. 1,2,3, & on. U literally cant focus on 2 things at once. I use this a lot. Sometimes i dont make it to 50, other times i get to 500 BUT the point is, my brain is busy w/ something else so i can relax & sleep. This way Im not just fighting the thoughts till 2 or 3 in the morning. 👍
I need this vid I starting overthinking about thinking after I heard thinking a lot and now I’m thinking why I’m thinking about that thinking because of thinking I know now I’m lost thinking I’m halfway the vid and I’m feeling hypnotized when u said now part I was drooling and was blank in my head i take medicine to help me sleep at night and it because I tend to overthink when I’m standing still thinking what I’m gonna do y I’m I not getting y I’m I not asleep maybe I will use my phone till I fall asleep no maybe I will stay awake because of it and I won’t get any sleep maybe I just stay still and relax I should get something to eat I need a pee no If I go pee I will wake my body and make my blood flow and I will be hyper and fall asleep maybe I will force my body to stay still I’m so excited for tomorrow because I’m going to this place and it gonna be so fun I wanna go to sleep so time goes by faster and tomorrow will be in a instant I see a shadow near me it looks like a demon but it’s fake I gotta remember that wait but I believe in god so demons are real so what if no if I’m scared it will attract demons gotta act neutral gotta put my covers over my whole body I don’t want to wake my mom sleeping next to me so I can’t make any noise uhm but I’m so bored maybe I use my phone ya people use their phone at night ya I will I will put it on night mode so it’s not that bad for my brain or is it is it a lie maybe I will do some exercise to use my energy so I fall asleep better but I might wake my body I cant make any noise wait why I’m i writing what I’m thinking well I aready did and I do tend to share my thoughts but i wonder how long this is omg what if someone reads this wait don’t no I but I hate when I’m doing essays in school or writing I have attention span of a fish and my hands are tired after 10minutes but I hyperfocus on stuff like this and ok ya I will send this maybe the creator will see this or someone that knows something idk but this is probably rlly long and there’s 64 comments no one cares about me anyway my phyciyatris and theripist and counselor and everyone tells me to write in a journal to dump my thoughts and organize them dang if I wish I could hyperfocus writing on it but by time I pull my journal out I would probably forget and it take to long to take it out and I don’t like writing I’m lost in my thoughts y I’m I sweating a bit it’s cold I should play my ps4 oh my I’m embarrassed ugh what if no I should be watching more vids idk but it’s boring but I need the information to help myself wait y I’m I overthinking when I just a video about overthinking I forgot like what he said except the now and now thing wait what did I just say I’m blank now oh wow y did I write this I’m stopping
That’s easy to say because I overthink and I’m aware. But when I realize it it’s frustrating because when realize it, it’s too late…. Am I making any sense ?
I can totally feel you. I try so hard to live in the now, but I can’t stop worrying about the lives of my children. It’s like if I have to have under control four lives. And then I hear quotes like „Think every morning that this will be the best day of your life“ and I ask myself if the inventor of that quote was a parent.
Mystee Pulcine, you might need to check out some of the other videos on the channel first about relaxation before diving into this video. We are here for you.
No one should stop over thinking, you are saying that over thinking is bad? I say its good, over thinking stops us to make too quick and bad decisions, it is far better to over think than not think, if you over think you may see the hidden aspects of otherwise too obvious things, the over thinking makes you to go against the crowd in a distorted reality.
