My sister blames others for everything that goes wrong in her life, whether its decades ago or just now. Everything, big or small, has to be micro-analyzed to discover who was at fault, and its never her.
I was raised by my parents .blaming each other every single day, arguing in front of us, sometimes I couldn't sleep well because they were in a fight for hours. Nowadays my father does the blame game also with me, on the other day he told me that I can't handle with my work, so when I said that he said that he said nothing and I'm too nervous.
This is me and my girlfriend equally and it sucks. I wish she was in a place that she was ready to work on herself. I know she loves me as I love her but the hurt and emotional and mental trauma she has I didn't cause and I can only work on myself and unfortunately that's not going to be the key to the magic wand to fix our unresolved conflict
This is just what I was looking for on my healing journey thanks so much . I got so worn down with the finger pointing between us part of the healing is also acknowledging the part I also played ... hurt people hurt people ... doing the work so I don’t find myself going through this again !!!
Very good video and applicable to most people. However.... There are people who adamantly refuse to acknowledge feelings they consider “weakness”. They hide behind masks of being “ right” and in control. If they are unmasked (imperfection revealed) by someone, they are vicious and vindictive. They are not open to introspection or change. So what course of action do you suggest when , after 30-40 years of dealing with a person who refuses accountability, continues to blame AND shame, and refuses any introspection or counseling? Does that person’s “ hurt” trump the hurt they cause others? How does one unravel this gnarled web? Thank you for your great videos. If I still lived in Utah I would defiantly attend one of your conferences.
Wow this video is by far the best video I have seen yet! My brain likes to thoroughly analyze problems with a strong need to find a solution and getting down to the root of the problem helps bring me understanding so that I am able to adjust my actions , attitude s, and behaviors and in return apply them to the situation in the most effective and affective ways for the most positive outcome . Most brain fulfilling information ever and I love the way it explains how to help a marriage rather than just throw it away. Thank you!!!! ❤️❤️❤️😀😀😀😀🙏🙏🙏
At what point do you let the person go? Thoughts: Staying in this type of relationship regardless of it being (family, spouse or friend)seems to no longer be supportive with their growth based on providing tools they chose to blatantly disregard. In fact, your own mental health feels like borderline abuse... thus, putting an end to it becomes the only option, right?
It's not 5050 imagine someone getting mugged. It's not their fault they are getting mugged, it's the muggers fault. Sometimes it really is just one person to blame. Otherwise you end up blaming the victims
Rght on .I wish both of us could jus gave a conversation direct no media honesty and love and jus I want to tell you this and I would say ok I want to tell you this .thst real progress . Confess and own part .that's healing .not continued media passive aggressive communication
What about a person who does accept responsibility and the person keeps blaming especially for past things that you already accepted responsibility for that they can’t let go
Do not say just sorry, if you keep repeating the things you say you are sorry, if you only say sorry but do not do the things to repair afterward, she will feel like hurt is still there unresolved. Do not give your partner so much pain she cannot forget.
So what happens when the person does all these action steps, writing etc, to find the root of their hurt...but is still blaming the other person. " I'm like this because of you, you did this to me, you ruin my life, I can't do anything because of you, youre not tryimg, you dont love me"?
What if your partner insults you, swears on you whenever he is angry, whenever you disagree or bring what hurts you, is this “us” against a problem, is it him and the problem he creates? Idk how to overcome this.
Hello I'm an Empath, was since I was a small child. Please help with my quesion. I want to know where my ability has come from? I'm a Christian, so I don't get it. I know what people are thinking. Area of places, I feel.ectect Where did this come from?????
Yeah he is hurt but so is she! Why she has to take all the blame? And how can she change the situation so he either change his actions or the least recognize it is his fault!@@33rdStreet
Get a pad paper. Why can't they write the feeling directly to me .. instead of making me forever be guy .now all the people I cared about too far being passive aggressive toward me ..not a place I choose to stay
