@@sisanakay i was talking to my brother about this literally just before I logged on RU-vid and this was a recommended video- I’m now downloading apps to edit videos… my weakness is I create content and just keep it…
I look at it this way, if I wouldn’t want my supervisor at work to see it, if I wouldn’t want my sweet 91 year old grandmother or my dear 83 year old great aunt Agnes see it, I just simply won’t post it. Hope that helps.
*"Your self worth is determined by YOU. You don't have to depend on someone telling you who you are."* -_Beyonce_ Don't let other people define *who you are.* 🖤🙏
*Most people sit around and wait for inspiration, just some rare people get up and get to work.* *I may not know you personally, but I believe in you that you will succeed!* 🙏
100% how I felt when I wanted to start my channel. What makes me think I'm qualified to talk about this or that anyone would want to hear coming out of my mouth. And so I just started saying F it I'm making it for myself and if anyone likes it great and if they don't that's okay because I liked it lol
When you have so much to say but are afraid to say it. When you are passionate but don't have the conviction to do it. When you have all the above but are afraid to post it. It's kind of sad because there will always be someone who needs to hear it.
Thank you so much for this! 🙏🏼I finally started my RU-vid channel journey and I received so much love, beautiful messages and incredible connections by doing something close and personal to me. This changed so much for me already so thank you! 💛
To all the introverts with a big heart to serve and show up - shoutout! It took me awhile to start my RU-vid channel because of the many reasons that held me back. So I said, "Screw it and started anyway." You got this! Thanks Mel. ;)
Thank you so much. I just started a little RU-vid channel is super small right now but im super grateful to this video that really helped me so very much for your inspiration and support 🐎💛🐎💛🌹
This is so me 😰😰😰, I wanna start something but I'm so scared to get my thoughts out there, worried about the response. . .. you have no idea how much impact your videos have on me.
*If you have a dream, you don't just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it reality.* I believe in you. 🚀
1000%! There is an audience for everyone, just be yourself, be passionate about it and people will enjoy it! That's that I did for my RU-vid channel and it just made me wonder why I didn't start this sooner. I may not have a lot of subscribers but I get views I'm happy with and the comments have been wonderful and kind
I post every week, but struggle with not getting caught up in the likes and watch time😒 I believe in the mandate God has given me, now I need to learn to be bold and show passion as I show off Australia
Thanks Mel! As I am relistening (picking up new things the 2nd time around) to your audiobook Take Control of your life. I love the brick analogy, and how Dan did not know where he is going and it panned out. This video reminds me of taking that one step and seeing where things go! Today, I am going to take that deep breathe, 5-4-3-2-1 and just do that thing I have been afraid to do. Take that step and keep going. Do things despite the fear. :) thanks!
Thanks for this and all your content Mel, I have not had the blessing to meet you but I know some day I will. I have been in this precise situation you describe in this video, but today earlier in the morning I jumped from the bed fueled with an extraordinary force and just did it and you know what it was not just one video but 2!! and now my brain is not stopping and I am happy not because of the likes or viewers but because I did it and I enjoy it and I liked the result THANKS THANKS THANKS
Just done a live - just this second! Also pushed myself to have no make up - showing up as less than perfect! I also leave up old videos with mistakes cause I think people need to see the journey too. It was a live and had just two online!!!!
I needed this more than you could possiblity imagine. I specifically was looking for a video like this. Thank you so so much. Edit: wanted to say that I immediately subscribed after 53 seconds of this video. Thank you a million times over. Can't wait to binge watch your other content!!!
I just love you, Mel. I follow you on FB and IG too, and I have your book! Still reading it. You're so authentic but very substantial. And we're the same age! Yay!!!
I don’t post on social media because I don’t need the haters. I’ve put stuff online and then I have a bunch of people that talk crap or pick it apart and treat others like crap. I choose not to put myself through it. It’s not worth it. I totally love you Mel but this one I have to disagree with you on it. There are so many negative people that love to prey on others.
Yes I totally agree. Especially during covid people didn’t have anything else to do but troll and bring others down. I’ve seen a lot of posts and videos that upset me without even looking for them. My friend wanted to start a podcast a few months ago and I declined cause I knew the hate would get to me. Sad way to live but you have to take care of your mental health too right?
I am inclined to agree with you here. The more I have spoke up the more I am unfollowed …the more I am myself and share the more rejected I have been. It’s not my interpretation or the situation it’s just a fact. My current debate is whether I continue to share. I love art and am passionate about topics but it doesn’t mean it will be received or accepted just because you are bold enough to do it
@@heathersterling_ So true! We can post a seemingly "safe" video but unfortunately someone will say something unkind. I don't like be be the focus of attention online. I'm much happier being out of chat rooms or instagram, etc. No one needs to know what I'm doing, or who I'm with.
So true. It’s been a big step for me to put myself online. But covid was the catalyst. I’m passionate about my work. But always think why would anyone listen to me when there’s a million other fitness people out there more known than me. So Just tagged you in my latest video. Thanks for your pep talk
Geat! I needed to hear this, I feel so discouraged by the people in my life, I only get a few likes and I feel so unworthy and devalued...although I have so much to share
Well, sometimes it's the quality of people (well, the one person) who drops you the occasional like, I assume it's just pity, still it looks pretty kewl actually! :D She hasn't liked one of my narration experiences though, yet, I'm still assuming they inspire a different reflection of things. So, if this too doesn't make you happy, sorry, just stop reading here! I'm feeling good about it though. :) Back to the sm-base though, always imply the idea, yeah, "aunt Sue" has read that, cousin x, her kid actually might too, that girlfriend will drop in here eventually, the other most likely did and totally got it otherwise she would behave differently towards me, that talent hunter is out there, you will check the reality with what you put out and what you're actually are, and you should always be open about the latter, imo. :)
@@silkegehtyoutubegarnichtsa892 Yeah! you're right, receiving likes only from the family or from some people who pitty you but still compete with you in the shadow is still better than nothing, what I have seen is that you can be envied even if you aren't successful and this is something to encourage you actually :D
My negative beliefs are fear, insecurity, regret, and envy. I fear rejection, failure, not being good enough,etc which leads to insecurity. If I post a video then I regret doing it because my insecurities heighten or if I don't post it and erase it I envy those who do and start regretting not posting it.
those are all my excuses Mel, you are so right, i was so afraid to try to show up in bigger ways .but i wanted to try so i made a start, i feel like i have so much i want to talk about - with passion, i am being my own cheerleader, my own supporter - i made my first video a couple weeks ago - so exciting, but scary! THANK YOU for being out there with us cheering us on
I thought this was gonna be a generic video with empty platitudes. But this was very helpful in inspiring me to take action and create content without overthinking it too much.
I started my own U-Tube Channel and being that I have always been really shy most of my life .Not easy thing to get up the courage to do. This is something I have been talking about doing for many years. This year I did it!
Mel, when you pointed at the camera I felt like I was being punched in the gut! I mean that in the kindest sense, because everything you've said is truth! I am a vocalist/songwriter, and I keep "trying" to post myself performing a song...and I keep picking myself apart...58, dimpled skin, turkey neck....oh the list goes on :(
Thank you so much Mel this video was ment for me. I have started my RU-vid channel 2 1/2 months ago after people said I need to reach more people because I inspire some many people already. Never know I would love it so much. Yesterday was my 56 birthday and my husband said to me he doesn't like my videos its amuture and home made. I said but people loved it. Endless I will not convey the conversation further but I was rethinking tomorrow Tuesday is the day I set aside for my channel. Mel its after 8 pm here in Johannesburg South Africa and just think this I went on RU-vid to play my song and it open with you video. God send, I will do one tomorrow on courage. Mel I only know off you for the last 2 weeks you have inspire my so much. Sending love to you. Sanet Van Breda
I love you, Mel!!!!! Such a brilliant affirmation today!!!! I love being subscribed to your channel and I genuinely get excited about every new notification. It must be the conviction and passion. And thank you for the invitation to tag you - I might just do that! ❤️ With love and thanks. Keep rocking!!!!
Thank you. yes..you spoke to me. Lots I want to say...everyday. So many stories and AHA moments I have gathered over the course of my 51 years that would probably be helpful to others who are searching for something deeper in themselves. I have been an elementary educator for the last 22 years, so public speaking and being a leader is already part of my skill set. But the EXPANSIVENESS of RU-vid feels so extreme in comparison. What I would be interested to know...and maybe Mel, you can discuss this in more depth,...is what the difference is between those who just go for it and those, like me, who spend more time wondering. What skill or quality am I lacking or unaware of that's keeping me from being comfortable "going for it?"
@@pinnedgraceforpurpse3185 Hey You are not Mel Robbins. This is a Fraud to do something like this. No way, You are either hacking her RU-vid commenting site or trying to Scam us. No Way David. Stay Away from me. I rather do it myself. You guys are unbelievable. I only commented on Mel Videos Not Yours. Go Away Please!! Thank YOU
We all question the value of what we have to say because we are putting ourselves out there (being vulnerable) - the difference is that one person will actually do it (overcome the fear by doing) and the other will live in their head with a million "what ifs".
There’s always going to be someone who is not going to like what you post. Someone is always going to criticize or disagree with what you are saying. It’s sounds cliche but YOU CAN’T PLEASE EVERYONE! If you don’t like someone’s video, don’t watch! You don’t like someone’s blog, don’t read it. Simple as that.
Hey Mel ! I've just buy about 9 cables and electric stuff for my mac , and thank God you've just showing your cable i this video... hahahaha... Thanks Mel
Ok, I’m going to play devils advocate a bit….Because It’s a great message but I don’t think it’s fully accurate and I would be happy to have someone follow up with a counterpoint. But the more I have spoken up, through vulnerability and with my passions the more I have been “rejected” on social media. People unfollow constantly and the likes consistently go down the more passionately i speak. the more I try to uplift or be honest the more isolated I have become and then it extends into my personal life where people don’t like when I share about personal growth etc. It took (and still does) take courage to put myself out there but in my experience Mel’s thoughts are great but not accurate. Trust me I would love to be wrong on this haha
I will love to start a RU-vid channel talking about how to champion self esteem in young kids as I run an after school club. I just keep doubting myself to make the start.
I love listening to you Mel. When I listen to you, everything always seems so much easier! :D Thank you for sharing your thoughts on various topics with us. Greetings from Poland. ^^ Evelyn
I’m not shy of social media but I’m pulled to bits when making social media posts on prejudice in the media. It’s so important I can’t not talk about it but it’s so hot potato I fear I’ll lose work and potential contracts as well. It’s an ethical dilemma. I talk about it from a kinda academic pov to be less firebrand, but it still worries me. What should I do?
