1. Hyper Feminine Behavior - Act very girly, always smiling, usually a fake smile, laugh at your jokes, even the ones that aren’t funny. 2. Virginal Behavior - Promote that she is reserved, not the type to sleep around. 3. Simulating Competition - Making it seem she doesn’t have time, always busy, project the feeling other Men are vying for her time. 4. Proximity Behavior - She will pop up at places you frequent. 5. Submissive Behavior - When she’s talking to you, position herself where her curves are highlighted (subconsciously) 6. Emotional Closeness Behavior - Trying to be your friend without actually Friend Zoning you.
Are you kidding me? Maybe you think that women you're attracted to are subconsciously projecting their "curves" to you, but you're really just staring.
@@cryptic2610 Cryptic had a point here. Because I had the opposite experienced for myself. And see many ladies do that too probably because of Asian cultures which are very reserved and was raised that way . The more they fell in love with a man, the more they will hide their themselves unconsciously ( slouching body posture and head facing low) which are the opposite of their womanly side.
@@mynonleatherlife You should collaborate with some of these channels you have great perspective and insight , men are women have never been further from each other you are a rare woman one who is comfortable to be vunerable and tell the truth keep up the good work we need your insight
What I like about this woman is that she just shoots a video with little or no makeup in a regular t shirt or sweatshirt without an impeccable room in the backdrop-so unlike these other female dating coaches who I long-stopped watching.
@@ezralikepie The O.P. is saying that it's not like a desert but like a mirage in the desert. Basically something that is an optical illusion typically associated with deserts.
See games to me are supposed to be fun. But when girls do that it comes of immature and annoying. Because it could be a waste of time. Girls dont have to approach so how would we know from their subconscious mind
@@petroglyph79 It’s nature, bro ! Most women will NEVER be upfront or clear about it, rather you like it or not. So Ima talk for all my other brothers reading the comments : pay attention to the signs and go for it !
One thing nobody talks about when it comes to signs that girls are interested is how they look at a guy when he speaks even if they aren't interacting with each other. I always notice this with girls I have a thing with. They might be on the other side of the room in another conversation but I'll see them look my way out of my peripheral vision every time I speak. They are basically communicating"Oooh, what's he saying?"
The secret is to play games?? No gem there.. Only headache Good luck. Wish she would advise women to stop playing games, get to know themselves and practice clear communication of wants and desires.
@Vinny Mac I can count my wants and what I offer on one hand. Trust Honesty Communication Respect Patience Single has been the happiest I have ever been. Gonna take one hell of a authentic woman to convince me to be otherwise.
@Vinny Mac your adorable 😘 I tried the gay path to make sure that wasn't the right thing for me. It's not. I'm secure in my masculinity and who I am and you are bold judging based on a few RU-vid comments. Have fun following a woman in playing games vs finding true value.
Girls WANT the secrets given away!! If you have to TEACH a man to be dominant, that probably isn’t gonna work. This girl will probably be the ONLY chance you’ll have to read a woman’s mind. 🤷🏻♀️
I appreciated the video, but from a male prospective I would say that some of these behaviours are just turn-offs and rejection signals for us: - men and women have different attraction criteria: the more women crave a man, the more that man rises in value and desirability to the female eyes, so I assume that girls think that it would be the same for guys, but it just isn't . Men don't want that tipe of competition. We really like girls who make us feel desirable, and talking about other men is really not going to bring you anywhere lol - Also pretend to be busy could work only if you are busy for real or if you can fake it really well, but if I know that a girl is 24h on her phone or that she has not really much going on and just pretends to be busy, the most basic and logical assumption is obviously that she is not into me - I understand the idea of taking it slow, but the point is how slow: 1-2 Weeks? It may be ok, but 1 Month or more? Hell no 😂 In that case a person would just assume that the girl is not sexually interested in him, and also men are not foolish, most of us knows that girls can fuck a guy the same day they met him and be ok with that, and then put men (who really wants to date those girls) on a line to give them sex only as some sort of "reward" as if they were pets? Just no. Not in man's brain. That was just a view from a man's prospective, hope it had make you clear some points that you maybe didn't really know about Also sorry for eventual grammatical errors, English is not my first language
Man, you just nailed it, as a guy I totally agree with you. I often see girls in real life behaving this way, and even in videos like this explaining female behavior, where they put up a fake show, just hoping that such lunacy attracts a man. I personally believe that such female behavior is not just toxic on so many levels, but it clearly shows that women live in a fairy dream land and they have no basic realistic clue about what men want or how men operate. Mind games to promote competition is not sexy; it is downright repulsive and offensive. I personally never consider a woman's social status, and I do not know of any other guy that do. We men only look for a woman whom we can have a nice conversation with and have a good time, not have a wild time guessing and second guessing what she means when she says something, or waiting for a super busy girl, when in reality that's all a show and she could have spent time with me but she would rather be pretentious. Playing hard to get does not get men interested; it just tells a man that a girl is not worth his time.
This is some great advice. I finally had the courage to flirt and be assertive and grounded in my masculinity recently and was blown away by the beauty of the yin-yang energy dynamic at play. It felt very natural and rewarding for both of us and we both fell for each other; it's a life-affirming experience I'll never forget! In the past, I would play the "nice guy" role to an extreme and essentially had no confidence or direction other than to please them, but could feel that this was unattractive for both of us.
@@mynonleatherlife It was a long, slow, and painful process of self-discovery, insights, and letting go of beliefs and perspectives that no longer served me, such as "men are dangerous and predatory by nature" or "I intimidate and scare women" or "I am unworthy of love and acceptance." These beliefs were internalized at a young age, as my mother was the victim of sexual abuse and that was a message I was constantly receiving both from her and society. On top of that my Dad was misogynistic and emotionally abusive and embodied true "toxic masculinity." In addition, being a highly sensitive person / empath, I was avoidant of intense emotions and energy, especially anger and aggression. I had to go through hell to process my past and fortunately survived it to be able to rise from my ashes, so to speak. Now I trust my intuition and instincts, which allows me to be more confident and resilient, while still being compassionate and empathetic. I can now sense and trust the natural attraction and magnetism generated by being grounded in my authentic self and boy, does it feel good!
@@ChandlerSavage It's awesome that you've come so far and that you're able to articulate it so well! Have you thought about making videos on your experiences? You could definitely help guys who have similar backgrounds.
@@evanduquette Thanks, Evan for your positive feedback and also encouraging me to make videos, which I have given some thought to recently. It's amazing to be able to share our lived experience and knowledge to help others for essentially just the cost of our time. It gives me hope for a better future! =)
Personally I feel it's not that u should assume they're interested, but whether they're interested or not is irrelevant because until you talk to them a bit and ask them out you'll never know. Many women become interested only after being asked out or perhaps your conversation will spark their interest. The mindset might be good, just there might be a danger in assuming someone is interested if they end up not being
OK, I’m 65. Seen a lot. Went from naive to content. Learned a lot after my divorce. Watched a lot of content, and learned a lot which turned my life around. This woman does the best intersexual dynamic videos on the web. She’s honest and seems spot on based my lived experience. You can trust her. Kudos on not being over-produced. It’s just great content delivered in the most efficient way thinkable. Great work. Thank you. 👍
10:17 I have to disagree here Vicky. I think that most men could care less whether a woman they are very attracted to are being touted by other men. I think most men would probably prefer if there was LESS competition for her. That mindset is a very feminine one women feel about their male courtiers. They are more attracted to men whom are desired by many women for whatever reason.
@@protorhinocerator142 I was very lucky to find a much older but very honest woman 50 years ago. I am not a member of any church but I believe in heaven, she was it. After a year of decline she passed away peacefully one night. I really miss that wonderful, wise woman. We were a perfect match. I encourage everyone to follow their heart. Love is a winner.
It's always about the Level of attraction The more highly attracted A woman is to a man the stronger the interest she will Show Constantly looking at you Smiling at you, walking by you, speaking to you, touching you if she's physically attracted to you And if she's shy she won't Be able hold eye contact with you. Only men that women are not Highly attracted to have deal With women mind games A woman isn't going to play Mind games with a man That she values, she won't Run the risk of losing him Point blank
"Making it seem she doesn’t have time, always busy, project the feeling other Men are vying for her time. " No reasonable man will take that, relationship is very easy and you can feel it straight away the one that is yours they won't mess you about, the ones that makes it hard in the beginning should avoided as that's a taste of what to expect
Pretending to have other dudes after you is not a smart strategy. Bro code dictates that we must give up the chase immediately upon hearing that someone else got there first.
The "not answering texts and always busy" tip is tricky and i feel a lot of guys will misunderstand and it's easy to confuse playing hard to get with simply not interested.
Not all “foreign women”. This is heavily influenced by culture. You might find more openness in Canada, Australia or some parts of Europe, but far less openness in parts of Asia.
I think you are very honest and authentic and what you say makes perfect sense. Whenever I watch some other dating advice video on youtube, it is mostly advice that comes from men because I didn't use to trust what women say. The reason why I didn't is because I thought that women would always lie about these kinds of things because it was for their own benefit to lie. For example they say things that imply that the guy should validate them in order for them to like him (this never works). So basically I always felt like these advice were just fake because they never put them in a vulnerable position. However, whenever I stumbled upon your videos, I felt that what you were saying was very genuine and actually very helpful because you are not saying these things with the intent of self-benefit. You are just trying to help guys out. I respect that. I have learned so much just from watching a couple of videos from you because I am getting real and genuine feminine perspective of dating. Thank you for what you are doing.
You are the most honest. I'm not surprised that you have such a big following, without all the branding and coaching packages and editing cinematography that probably legitimizes other channels like yours, you arrived here by the raw material and wealth of insight you seem to have. You are like the sister so many guys need. I've often laughed after figuring something out with women that seemed so difficult or i labored over and suffered, going to depths with my time and still not getting results but when I figure it out it's as simple as what you were saying in the other video about the power men have of masculinity. It wasn't until I was 100 pounds overweight that I started hooking up with the most attractive girls of my adult life, into my late 30s and throughout my 40s. Not that they were unattractive in my 20s but I let so many lookers get away in my 20s cause I put myself in my own range and thought it was universal if that makes sense. It wasn't until a few hit on me that I realized my weight gain and age wasn't getting in my way, I was. The wildest part though is the age from 18 to 23 were wrecking years. I didn't know what I was doing but I wasconfident and in the best shape of my life and I hooked up with more girls in that time than I have in the 25 years since. I'm 48 now and my weight gain is definitely not healthy and I'm finally serious about losing it. I know I will always have that predator spirit in a sexy way, and I cannot wait to unleash my max potential. Your videos are gold. I wish you didn't have so many followers. I want to access you and maybe make a produced video. If you want I went to school for photography and video production. Could be fun. Thanks!
This vid randomly appeared in my recommendations lol and I have something I can add from personal experience. If a woman really likes you (especially if she's already a friend) she'll slowly start to turn into you, she'll start to like what you like and adopt some of your hobbies to get your attention.
It seems pretty accurate from what I experienced. Also here's another tidbit of advice, if a girl likes you and she wants to pursue you. Play a little hard to get. Most of the time it drives them wild. It's like reverse psychology they are not expecting that. I mean still flirt with them, but don't give in so easily. Don't be the dog you are, until you need to be.
Well time has changed dear...now guys won't chase girls anymore...we are sick and tired of being framed as desperate jerks or Men will be Men memes. We are afraid of being framed in false cases. Only time we give a consideration when we actually get a hint...otherwise we don't like that so called friend zone.
The plan has worked. Now that the pups have all gone home. The self aware wolfs will go in for the kill. Like a King said, "If we can't kill the enemy we will breed them out."
The fact is I don’t approach women much anymore, because so many times I’ve been given the impression of that im bothering them, or I’m behaving creepy or out if context. I really do feel im being harshly judged by them. Therefore i only do so when im really motivated, which is pretty rare. I think the “creep” is a huge thing to overcome unless you’re a super stud chad type.
Sadly, women are just as superficial as men- probably more. So unless you are physically attractive, they will probably stop any advances from you. You may not be able to change your appearance, but you can improve your health and improve your hygiene and fashion. I can't believe how many times I have come across men who don't bother brushing their teeth, or are smelly, or just dress really sloppy, or they have long hair and unkempt beard. And they wonder why women don't act positively around them.
There are no shortcuts, sadly. Getting in shape, having a good haircut, getting well-fitting clothes, and developing that masculine "don't give a fuck" assertiveness is key. Women won't admit that the difference between "creepy" and "charming" can be "physical attractiveness".
Talking to women without having received any signs from them that they are interested is not only a question of confidence but also a question of productivity and a question of dominance. Most women who do not send out signs of interest are likely either genuinely not interested (enough) in an interaction with a male or they have other things on their mind and are just not mentally prepared/receptive (enough) for it, unless maybe the place (bar, disco, club, hotel for singles, cruise ship for singles etc.), her dress (showing much skin), her shoes (high-heels), her hair, her make up, the way she moves, carries her hair etc. etc. suggests otherwise. You can still try if u feel an urge for action and if there are no other interesting women in that very moment but in a setting with multiple/many options, your likelihood of success will be higher if u take your chance on those who are showing that they are in good/friendly/sexual mood, interested in what’s going on around them and open to interaction. Also, there are many women who are well capable of sending all sorts of clear signals but chose not to do so because they want to be the dominant part in the interactions with men. These women will deliberately make it harder for men to approach them because the one who is (or appears to be) less interested in the interaction usually has gets upper hand in that interaction. Another important aspect to consider is whether the situation in which you approach a woman is one that conveys her hints about who u r and what value u could provide to her. Talking to a woman who is passing by u, while u r sitting on your multi-million dollar yacht, smoking a cigar and having your stewardess serving you a cocktail and talking to a woman on the street is not the same thing. In the latter case, u don’t have a reason to expect her showing u immediate interest therefore u have to be persistent. In the first case however, if she doesn’t show immediate interest, then she likely genuinely isn’t interested.
Sadly, I don't set off these positive vibes when I meet women. I have many friends that are women, but hardly ever GET a girlfriend. They all agree that I'm a nice guy, with a good sense of humor, and treat women like a lady. But that's as far as it goes. I am their friend - that's it. It's funny, because I've heard many nice things said about me, yet they wouldn't think about wanting to actually BE with me. The advice always is: Be Yourself. Well, I don't know how to be anyone else! I wish I could! If I did, I'd have girlfriends. Instead, I am alone, sad, depresssed, and very much alone. Have been for a very long time. Evidently, I dont have what it takes ... and I dont know what that is.
I'm married with kids but still enjoy your channel. I enjoy learning from someone as intellectually humble as you. Maybe I can swoon my wife again after all these years.
The introduction before the categories was what I found most enlightening. I hadn't thought of it, but it makes sense that a man should actually do something before he can expect to see signs of attraction. Just because a woman doesn't have to do anything before she see's signs from men does not mean that it works the other way. So we have to be careful not to project. On the point of projection I feel that the points about playing hard to get and a woman showing high social value are to some degree projecting feminine pychology onto men. I know a woman can be put off if a guy seems too eager too soon because it makes him seem needy, but neediness does not have such a dramatically negative effect on men as it does women. It is fine for a woman to let a guy see early on that she likes him in my view. Also it is a waste of a womans time trying to project high value. eg. trying to make a guy jealous by appearing to be highly sought after by other guys. Most men this would go right over our heads. Attraction to high social value is more a feminine trait. However I get the point that a woman doing these things is demonstrating that she likes a guy, even if what she is doing does not work.
The advice for guys is : what's meant to be yours will be yours no matter what, when it is time she'll fall right into your arms, meanwhile work on yourself and develop yourself and don't even look their way.
That's a lie. What will be yours will not be yours if you don't step out and do the work. That advice is what has kept many idiots single for a long time.
I agree with most of what is being said, however when it comes to adult behavior, I believe a wise man can bypass a woman’s ambiguousness by displaying purpose driven character & then he will notice the “signals” for the opportunities for him to approach. Otherwise he’s just “shooting from the hip”
Kinda paradoxically, all of the signs you have described in this video would make me run the hell away from that woman, I don't care that she likes me, I am not interested in her and completely not attracted to her
#3 has always been, and is, a signal for me that I'm either being played or that a woman is not interested. so I move on to another, who is more open. Then I get the "why did you stop talking to me?" text. Well, I don't talk to people that don't want to talk to me, duh.
I'm in love with your voice. I could listen to you all day long and not get tired of it. I hate girls that are too loud, skreaming and shouting like baboons...lol
#3 simulating competition is something seems to work on women, not on men. Or at least in my experience. I get turned off really fast if I think she is juggling multiple dudes' attention. Maybe it's the time we are growing up in that makes me feel that way. If she wants me then she will show her interest by giving me her time and we can proceed from there.
Really deep topics. One thing my pop used to tell me when I was in my mid 20s was "son, if you ever have to ask yourself whether or not a woman is interested in you, 99% of the time she isn't ".
@@alvincook8970 I just think women do a lot of things which might seem like disinterest but they're actually playing hard to get or waiting for the man to step up and take the initiative and lead the course of the relationship
The go getter mentality and action is important but reading others is powerful side tool. You need both. You interact, but observe. Don’t go blurting your intentions. Get the number/socials after you spend a little time talking first.
i LOVE IT when a girl acts dumb and weak and laughs at my jokes! i like to explain stuff to them and lift heavy things for them. and it boosts my confidence when she laughs at my jokes! :)
Great video. It explains a lot. I could also see every single one of these having no effect or even backfiring on the woman. Growing up, I was hyper-aware that men were often perceived as creeps by women. So I would go out of my way to not be mistaken as one. To me, women were always just friendly unless they gave me unquestionable, in-my-face proof that they wanted more. High pitched voice? Overly friendly? Throwing a smile? She’s just being nice. Subtle hints will often get tossed to the side by considerate guys trying to avoid making the woman uncomfortable and being seen as a creep misinterpreting her signs. I’d rather be seen as oblivious than a creep. Another thing, if a man has had bad experiences with women being manipulative or deceitful in the past, if they catch on to any of the “phony signs” like the fake voice, pretending to not know something, wanting help when they really don’t, etc, they will see these as the woman being potentially dishonest rather than a flirtation, and end up being on higher guard with them than usual if not avoiding them altogether. That’s the story of my (non)dating life.
Thanks Jeff, I enjoyed reading your experiences with dating. So how would a woman have to let you know if she was interested? What would be the best way? and also why do you think being called a creep was so scary for you and so many other men, I want to make a video on this topic so I would love to hear a bit more
@@mynonleatherlife That's a good question! I think just as a man would I suppose. Depending on the situation and the relationship of the two people I'd say start small and become more increasingly obvious. Whatever feels right. For me personally, the signs would have to be glaring. And even if I noticed it, it'd need to break through all the layers of denial, doubt and restraint to reach an acceptance for me to reciprocate. For me, the very idea that someone could consider me offensive or uncomfortable to be around is horrifying. I don't want to make anyone ever feel negatively as a result of me. As with a lot of other people, regardless of gender, some folks simply don't want to be disruptive to others. Especially if they're friends or people you know. When I was a teenager in high school there was a girl I had a crush on. We were both super shy, never spoke directly to one another and just passed each other in the hallway. Mutual friends said I should consider asking her out as she would likely say yes. While I never would've done it without my friend's encouragement, I finally worked up the courage to ask her. Her response was the polar opposite of what I expected. Not only did she reject me, she went out of her way to avoid me in the hallway from then on. I'd never felt so uncomfortable in my life. It was at that moment I realized that everything I'd assumed about her was wrong. Just because a girl might act shy or even throw you a smirk on occasion doesn't mean she likes you that way. Now, living in the age of #metoo and cancel culture, with all kinds of sexual improprieties in the news and employers doubling down on sexual harassment education in the workplace, it's pushed lots of men like me even further into a mind bubble of making sure anything I'm saying or doing won't be mistaken as improper. So when I hear women say they like men to be the pursuer I immediately think, "yeah, not happening". There's just too much at stake to make the wrong assumption.
i binged 80% of your videos now. respect for making this kind of content. i live in germany and the young women here are definitely like you describe them. its almost like a boot camp now since im living the d/s lifestyle (without the clothes, just the state of mind/behavior) and get every girl to build up their sexual confidence / teaching them the basics to look for (and appreciate) in a great relationship. im usually their first or second boyfriend so its kinda... altruistic to give them a good example (how a man should be in a relationship) so that they have a reference point in the future to compare their current situation to. im not arrogant enough to think a relationship will last forever so i at least give something positive no matter what happens. a female stalker teached me that lesson when she told me years later how impressed she was ( by my behavior towards her on our first date) that she got into actual fights with her next guys... because she compared their behavior to mine and wasnt happy with them. 90% of my girlfriends LOVED to act cute/younger/like a cat even... to tease me instead of showing me more directly what they wanted. they felt safe enough to let me do whatever i want and in turn i gave them both things they love most.... dominant sexual experiences + the absolute confidence that i wouldnt leave them. passion that goes beyond soft boundries & safety... like you talked about in some of your videos. sorry for rambling but i wanted to tell you that you are spot on & appreciated since you ask for our input. enjoy your weekend^^
Oh wow that is fantastic to hear from a guy who is experienced with this stuff. Like a cat.. I want to put that in my next vid about 3 more female fantasies. do u have any additional tips or advice for guys on how to do some of the things u do naturally or even video topic ideas. I am sure u have so much good advice to share from ur experiences
@@mynonleatherlife do you have some kind of "channel" email to send my answer to? not sure how long my text will be but i know youtube has bugs with long texts sometimes and a word limit too (i think i reached that once). otherwise i would need to cut my answer into little segments (and hope that youtube doesnt censor me).
Personally I am only vulnerable to #6, numbers 1, 2, 3 & 5 are actually turn offs; serious red flags in fact. No surprises I spent most of my adult life single, eventually abandoning dating altogether due to finding so few emotionally healthy women. Having said that I think you are correct on all counts.
I will be patient for the woman that actually wants to be around me without the games. I am the catch 😂 I own a great home in the best area possible; I am financially secure. What does a woman have to bring to compliment MY LIFE? I have it all already. I don’t want a game. But I do appreciate the advice this lady gives. She’s dropping knowledge.
Hello Dear, First of all i appreciate you for this video. Beside the video i want to add few points... If a girl is really interested into you she will not make an eye contact with you because she feel shy and start blushing if she look into your eyes... Second thing, make sure to be honest with her about your personality, do tell her about the bad/ negative side of your personality and something wrong that you did in past, after listening if girl didn't change her behavior with you, it means she love you... She will ask you if you are not busy... She will text you that she miss you... She will text you after call that she feel nice/ happy talking to you... She will ask you about how she look... Advice: Don't try to check if boy/ girl is interested in you or not, better is if you are interested in someone, make sure your words and gestures must be filled with feelings... Like i say, if you talk from heart, a heart will listen and if you talk from your mind, a mind will listen... Love is a domain of heart not mind. And i am confident to say that you can win heart of anyone, even of the person who hates you. Take your time to learn about her and make sure to sync yourself with her feelings if you want to win her heart. Just for Info: its easy to understand guys because their good and bad are clear but its very difficult to understand a girl because every girl is a mistery and every girl is different then every other girl.
😅 You know I once finally asked a girl out and I bellyflopped-HARD. But while it hurt, I got over it and realized that I had nothing to be scared of; well, at least not SO scared of! As always, thanks for the great advice! This was all good to know!
A few years ago I hung out with this girl a lot because we were in work study together. I felt real chemistry when I was around her, but at the time I thought there was no chance that she could really be interested in me. I thought she was way out of my league. However, there were times I really wondered if she was interested. There were times where we both made really strong eye contact and just smiled the biggest smiles at each other. Then she would do shit like talk about other guys when she talked to her friends around me. That confused me and it made me conclude she was just teasing me and playing games, but looking back I can see that she was clearly interested and my lack of confidence kept me from seeing it
You have a gift and I am now hooked on your channel. I have been watching a lot of videos from women who give dating tips and I have learned a lot from them. Your energy makes you stand out above the others. For me, you are like the sister that I never had who could tell me about girls that I could never know from my guy friends because they don't know either. Women don't realize the confusion that boys have toward girls from a very young age. For example, when I was in grade school there was a saying that plants a seed early that boys are less than girls. The poem was called, “What Are Little Boys Made of?” The lyrics were: What are little boys made of?” Snips and snails and puppy-dog tails, that's what little boys are made of. What are little girls made of? Sugar and spice and everything nice, that's what little girls are made of.” Growing up I heard women talk about all guys want is sex. I grew up thinking that women didn't like sex and looked down on guys like we were perverts. Of course, as an adult, I know that this is not true. My point is that girls don't understand why guys are confused and lack confidence. How can we when we are growing up with mixed messages from society? Remember the ad from Gillette where boys were looked down upon for just behaving like boys? I think the reason why I like you is that I don't see an agenda on your part. Maybe it's because, in the two videos that I just watched, you didn't mention press the like button and subscribe. While it is ok to ask for that I felt that you were telling me secrets without wanting anything in return. I actually learned more in your two videos than the many videos from other channels. You are a natural at this. Keep smiling!
girls don't understand why guys are confused and lack confidence--you are so right, most women project this hyper masculine fantasy on men...I'm actually going to try to make a video about that soon. The only way I figured this out was by having a social anxiety meetup called the rejection club and seeing how many guys were struggling talking to women and also talking to a friend I met in a social anxiety group online in depth about male female dynamics. I NEVER would have got it if not for that I think. I also lacked a LOT of sympathy for men. That snips and snails and puppy dog tails thing is so interesting because even as a young girl hearing that I was kinda jealous of the freedom, scrappiness and mischief that I thought that rhyme implied but you're right, it does make men seem less good than girls in a way. great point! And thank u for saying u appreciate my not asking for likes and subscribes I might start doing it idk but it never felt right cause if u do like it u will like it, and my goal truly is to help men who are struggling. So thank u very much Brian for your wonderful and interesting perspective.
02:18 🚀 Confidence is key: Don't wait for clear signals before asking a girl out; be confident, proactive, and have a go-getter mentality. 03:16 💃 Hyper-feminine behaviors: Exaggerated feminine traits like fake smiling, bubbly voice, acting weaker or dumber, and laughing at jokes are indicators of a girl's interest. 07:16 🌺 Virginal behaviors: Some girls may portray themselves as virginal, classy, and less interested in sex to appeal as a "prize" worth pursuing. 09:34 🎭 Simulating competition: Behaviors like playing hard to get, pretending to be busy, and mentioning other guys are tactics to create an impression of desirability. 10:40 🔄 Proximity behaviors: Girls interested in you may orchestrate "coincidental" encounters to be near you, showing a strategic interest.
I don't know... the problem is that lately women do this with every guy (at the gym for example). And not only with you. I think times have changed and you can't trust those signs anymore. I mean... I think women no longer go after just one man, but they flirt (I think they actually date too) with as many men as possible, and when they flirt with you they are just inviting you to be part of their harem (which I reject not out of jealousy, but for purely hygienic reasons).
Well said. I can add that if a girl likes you, she won’t turture and drag you over the coals and finally list a litany of reasons why she has to reject you. She will make the journey smooth and less bumpy. Great service you are doing. Keep it up.
@@mynonleatherlife If she is self conscious enough about the importance of communication and has a slight respect for her and his time, she will be stragiht forward with it : I don't want to give you false hope. I am not into you ! Go ahead with your life, be abundant and find someone that wants you in her life.
So if she likes me she will proceed to misrepresent herself in every way? Why the mating dance? What is she hiding? How long until the facade breaks down? A year maybe? Before I start to find out who she really is and behaves? What is she trying to get me hooked on before I find out who she really is? Just thinking out loud Good video
Not to mention women will do all of this things just to get simps to do stuff for them without being even remotely interested in them. I'm thinking maybe this is why guys don't even pick up on these signs anymore. When you've seen these signs over and over but it often turned out the girl wasn't interested you draw the conclusion it doesn't mean anything. Your brain doesn't associate it with anything in particular.
@@mrkiky So true. For the longest time I thought maybe it was just me. Was I trying to swoop in too fast? Was I overly aggressive? So there was this one hot girl I was interested in and purely for science I decided to be the perfect gentleman. We hung out and I became her emotional sponge too. She'd call me at night with her problems and I'd talk her down from the ledge. Before I knew it a year had gone by. Still nothing. Time to end the experiment. I told her I wanted a kiss. She said No way and gave me that "you're some kind of rapist" look. I told her to get out and not come back. Buh-bye. The problem wasn't that I was being too aggressive, but that girls like to use me for a simp. That all stopped right then and there. Never again.
The way to tell someone likes you, is if they are interested in you. They will go out of their way to just talk to you. They will notice and remember alot of things about you. When I was crushing on my crush, I became friends with them first, and I just wanted to get to know them. The more I got to know them, the more I ended up liking them. They ended up liking me to, the more we hung out and talked. The biggest danger is the "friend zone." Just be confident, and be your best self, and whoever you find attractive will come naturally to you.
The friend zone is for guys she doesn't find attractive. It's just an excuse to keep them at a distance. There's no such thing as "i only see you as a friend". If you're both single, both attracted to each other and on top of that get along too, there's no way you'll just stay friends. I was in similar situations to the one you described. I was friends with my crush but I wasn't friendzoned because I didn't make a move just to get rejected. When we got close enough we got together. It has also happened that I got a crush on someone completely incompatible with me, since a crush is really just an addiction to someone's presence. Many time people will have a crush on someone that's totally bad for them. In many of those cases, it just falls flat and doesn't work out. Other times they get together just to turn into a disaster farther down the road.
You dropping more knowledge than these “alpha male” channels lmaooo🤣 I jus got in a girl guts I met 2 days ago by being a “nice guy”🤷🏽♂️ as long as she dig you you gon be digging her in no time that’s just the bottom line.... there’s no secret.
Good video. Men should not want to be in a position where a woman wants a steady boyfriend. While she is playing games with this man for weeks and months, she is usually sleeping with another guy that she just wants sexually or a boyfriend she is contemplating of leaving. Women are never single or without options. Women are not crocheting while they play these games with men, they are getting their backs blown until she is ready to settle with that man.
Have you ever heard of H.O.T A.P.E? It stands for humor, openness, touch, area, proximity, eye contact. Watching for some/most of these signs can give a man good confirmation if a woman is interested, but the most powerful imo is eye contact. Attraction isn't a choice and a woman can give this away easily with holding eye contact, but a man must know what to look for in those 2 seconds.
that part about pretending to be busy hit me, I was literally dating a girl who said she was busy all the time and took hours to answer my messages but not for a second did I think of her as the popular type among guys, I literally got concerned that she wasn't interested. she also mentioned other guys at times, I did not feel that competition vibe at all, I just thought: wow if she thinks about them while being around me, maybe i'm not enough
@@LegendaryMamba24 She eventually called me one night and told me that I "deserve someone better" and that she still had feelings for her ex. idk if this was a game or something but 16 year old me trusted her words and I moved on, haven't spoken to her ever since
@@LegendaryMamba24 my thought exactly, it did hurt to let her go but thinking back, even if I managed to win her over she would probably have cheated on me later on, today I'm 19 and living the single life, I'm not rushing things, just waiting for the right one
The beginning was sufficient for me, ive been away from dating for sometime working on myself and that was more than enough information. You a real one!
The girl I used to talk to would like always tell me randomly shit going on in her life and personal things. She would always tell me when she rejected guys and what not. She even was like “I’m rejecting everyone” once she also told me a friend of hers told her I liked her. And she asked if its true.
@@mirinboy1745 yes absolutely (sorry RU-vid wouldn’t let my original comment post but) I have done all of these in some way or another except I never faked an ☄️✨✨✨⚡️
Everyone freaking out that Vicky’s not replying to their messages needs to understand she’s coming to terms with her new found YT fame , it cant be easy having this shit dumped in your lap out of the blue
I like how you have this authentic vibe when saying this things. I have heard them over and over again. Some of them i deduced using evolutionary biology, other theories. It's rare for me to see woman explaining this with pure intention. However. Some of your biases restrict women into boxes. There aren't quite a many of them and most of things you say is i think true. Everyone has biases. They help us to predict the world. They are essantial for functioning in my opinion. Just be aware of that and don't change anything that you do.
@@mynonleatherlife I don't know which are specific. But i am sure that not all women think like you do. There are some general patterns on what women like. Yesterday i watched you and your boyfriend where you asked him questions. I sense that you LIKE him ofc and think that's only way that man has to be. It feels like everything he does is always right. That's awesome if you feel like that but in general terms it's not like that. For example stoicism. Some women like men who can persevere in negative emotions. While you said little anger is okay and maybe attractive.That's not a bias but an opinion. But i see that here are women who dislike angry men cause they seem like they lose control. I see both types of women liking different things. There are some universal truths probably. Your perspective is valuable due to being from women who thinks about this things. It's not pickup vibe which men will sell you for $. Also female fantasies suggest some women want to be controled phyisicaly. Also worst traumas are RAPE traumas. It's sexually experience but with wrong men. It's so so so much deeper. I can point out contradictions and bias towards 1 side. But anyway as i said keep doing what you are doing it has some truth value and for me perspective is much more valuable to my personal mind.
@@multicrogamer ur right meow...there are so many different ways for men to succeed in life, dating and relationships and it's not all this one way I am describing. I do see it as a much larger theme though than many guys realize which is why I try to get the message out there since a lot of guys are resisting the darker things women crave and don't like to admit. Also these things are subtle and have a lot of nuance to them and I tend to oversimplify them a bit cuz of time constraints. For example I also hate angry men! A lot of things relating to our sexuality are actually paradoxical so it can be pretty confusing.
I'm 21 and I've never dated anyone before but I have been binge watching your videos and they are just so insightful. Have you done a video on what a guy should and/or shouldn't do on a first date? I'd love to see that. Also I hope you plan on getting some better equipment, I feel like this channel is going to really blow up soon!
ru-vid.com/group/PLcQ7GtdzCs3dEFJVJg3a8o1j54epnOtpl This is the playlist I made...there are some that are relevant on there but I should make 1 specifically about what u said. thanks for the idea!
I agree with that jealousy thing that women do. I don’t know if how react is a good thing or a bad thing. My reaction is more like no reaction tbh. I don’t know if that attracts women more or make them feel like I’m not that interested. I compartmentalise my feelings a lot. Love your content too, I’ve just subscribed. Its always good to hear and see a woman’s perspective on things
@@mynonleatherlife cheers thank you. Another thing, like for you how do you figure out if a man is either confident or arrogant due to like his body language? It seem more like woman are more attentive to details towards men where from a guys perspective we don’t pay as much attention to detail towards woman we just assume. Not all men though
My #1 sign of female interest is her body language, specially her look behavior. Don't miss her eyes but don't bother her, either, and you'll have a reading of her while you are conveying a statement about yourself. Also, attend her movements and her tone of voice. Listen to her as if you were deciphering and enjoying a polyphony and intervene when you must. Keep discrete and make her feel assured at being understood. Note: I'm a 61 y.o. university professor successful in making female friends since childhood.
If a woman is interested in you, they will call out your name when they see you. They will wave at you from across the room. They will give you a genuine smile. But most importantly, when a woman truly admires you, they will speak well of you to all their friends. They will also laugh at all your jokes. Women at work are more fearful of others finding out about them dating a coworker. So before they open up to you, they have to really trust you.
Hey so I'm a 19 yr old virgin and alot of this stuff I had knew thru a gut feeling but kept getting confused😂 thx for helping me connect the gap, looking forward to more vids
One advice, don't be like me being a virgin for too long. If a proper relationship/marriage is your thing, talk to girls, find the right one and formalise your relationship and enjoy intimacy. Being a virgin at 30, etc, is nonsensical and stupid. I'm sorry if I come across as harsh. But in the real world ladies will judge you if you are that age and don't know nada about sex and sexuality. I wish you the best of luck in everything in life. Cheers.
This is a vid I really want to make...it's complicated cause women use it as a weapon against men whenever they're uncomfortable with something so it could be a huge range of things
