The Best Line to Use When Asking a Girl Out and the #1 Mistake Guys w Approach Anxiety Make 

This young and beautiful woman is telling us what no woman could talk about. Lets have a round of applause for expressing her thoughts and inner voice into words. Having said that, I don't believe in a line. Whatever comes out of my mouth is The Line.

"Hello.. my name is George. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents" 😏

What I've noticed in my experiences with women is it's often less about what you do and more about how you do it. This line's framing versus the generic "Can I have your number" is a great example. Executing this perspective comes down to mindset. It's why people talk about confidence so much. The kind of confidence that's attractive to women can't be faked. It's exuded in every little micro-gesture your brain doesn't even consciously register doing or seeing in someone else. Sure you can sit in a straight up but relaxed position to look confident, but if you're at base unconfident, there'll be something about the way you sit that gives you away, even if the "macro-gesture" is identical to being genuinely confident. All I can say is own who you are. Bad boys are attractive because they absolutely own it and do not apologize for being masculine or for their bad behavior. If you're the opposite as a kind, nice, upstanding dude, own it. Be confident in your kindness. Be confident that if someone were to take advantage of your kindness you cam handle the situation. Building up this confidence comes from putting yourself in challenging situations, outside your comfort zone, and coming out of them okay. You realize: "Hell yeah I can do things. I'll handle anything as it comes to me." Once you've done this in genuinely difficult parts of life, talking to, hitting on, flirting with women will be easy. It might feel a little awkward the first few times even after you've built confidence in other areas of your life, but once you internalize your own value as a person and recognize your own strength, you'll recognize there's no reason to be nervous, shy, or awkward about anything with a woman you're not married to or engaged to be married to. And if you're nervous, shy, or awkward with your fiancée or spouse, then there's some serious problem you need to resolve.

Guys aren'treally looking for the green light... They are looking to avoid landmines that could destroy them.

Best tip I ever learned is that to increase your success rate, you have to increase your failure rate. This applies to everything, but especially asking girls out. In truth, if you're not overly creepy and just get on with it, 90% of girls are thrilled to be asked and you win even if they say no.

When you have to do 99% of the work yeah it can be tough.

That's the way attraction works! At first as human, we are attracted to something physically about each other and only then we can move beyond that point and look deeper into that person.

I've found that line has many great variations, according to the specific circumstance, and have used it many times with great success. One time, I met a girl in a bookstore...I opened by mentioning something about the book she was reading, and we got in a great discussion for a few minutes. Finally, as we were about to break off....let me stress, this part is deliberate, because now for a split second she's thinking "omg, I'm never going to see him again!"...I said "nice to meet you!" and turned as if to go away, and then at the last second, I turned and said "Hey, I really enjoyed our conversation and I really want to do it again...what's your number?" She practically shot her number at me! On our first of several dates, she mentioned the incident and said "That was realllly smooth...this is obviously not your first rodeo!" and then I took her home. Part of the takeaway is, guys.....she WANTS you to ask for the number! Do it!!

Over the decades my most successful line has been "I want to learn what is unique about you." Very effective.

i would add: nice guys are scared to be jerk so they extra careful and avoid making the move jerk just dont care so they will go foward even if they just care about themselve and see the girl as a object so my advice to all the nice guys out there: be couragous and ask her be bold! and you may actually prevent that nice girl falling for the next jerk after you that will most likely broke her (i have way to many female friends that have PTSD because they fall for the bad guy)

That line makes a lot of sense. Whether you’re a woman or a man, we’re all individuals trying to be normal, to be acceptable, to be validated.

I just straight up ask. I’m a salesmen so I’m used to rejection and the women are the same as my customers so I don’t ever take it personal when they say no to me.

Asked for her for phone number after telling her I find her attractive. She said maybe later. Rejected, I know, but I’m still keeping my head up high for at least attempting

I sure wish I was 16 again and could watch this! My life would be completely different! 🤩 This is great stuff!

I actually used the line on a girl at school and it worked holy shit.

"You seem thin enough so I had to ask you for your number" LOL

One of my old girlfriends who was quite a stunner told me that when guys asked her for her number she would give them the number to the local fire department.

I was 17 doing US Navy basic training in San Diego. Took the bus to go to the beach and sat across the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. Just when I got the courage to say something...... The bus stops, she gets out, then looks up at me and shrugs her shoulders as if to say: " You missed your chance Dummy " I'll never forget it.

Go with your gut. If you have to consider whether or not to approach her and second guess it, then don’t. Just remember: if she says “yes” after this, then you’ve got to spend an extended amount of time with a girl u had to think about to begin with.

Yes your line works and yes men look at body and looks, but really what men seeks is personality companionship and respect

In another video, Victoria mentioned that women crave a guy to be honest with her. By honest, she gave the example of not telling the woman is “beautiful” but rather telling her that he wants to “push her on the bed” (or something like that, I don’t remember the details). This video reminds me a bit of that scenario because Victoria is saying to ask for the number despite getting the green light and to not make an excuse for asking. I think there is one thing that might be missing here that could be helpful, which is a line to help ease the initial approach. Using the principle of honesty, I was very successful with the line “Hi, I liked you and wanted to meet you.” It always took me a lot of courage because I never totally shook my anxiety but it worked 99% of the time. Proceed after this line to chat for a short time, and then Victoria’s phone number line would fit well here. This presents an honest, authentic flow that doesn’t leave the guy creating an awkward, drawn out situation trying to extract a green light that she may never explicitly reveal, even if she likes him. Thank you, Victoria, for such great videos.

This girl is an angel...so wise and sweet. Everything she says makes sense...now I'm gotta continue watching all her vids..lol

I agred...being flirty and complimenting woman's appearance will turn her on but to get her to go out with you there needs to be a sign of genuinely being interested in getting to know her better.

right before she gives you the number, she's like .."wait! did you get that line from a youtube video??"

It is like that line in "As Good As It Gets". "Your greatest asset is your ability to humiliate yourself." And the more embarrassed you are, the better it works.

The way u move, the way u smile the way u are angry the way u welcome

It's about being authentic. Practice being authentic until you are comfortable and confident being authentic.

Victoria: its uncanny, how spot-on you always are.

There are no lines or one line. Just talk to them and be interested in what they say. Talk to them like you’ve known them for years.

I think your video just removing my social anxiety to talk to women Plus giving me a better understanding of women perspective how they want it and clearing the real confusion of me . Your channel must be at the topest of youtube channel so nicely explained. I just love the way you think and express the way you feels about something honestly

done this a couple times out of honesty and its always taken well. shows empathy

Exactly how much axe body spray should I use before approaching a woman to ask her out?

I'm happily married for 15 plus years and sooo in love with my wife just fyi, but I find your channel amazing nonetheless. fascinating information from a real perspective. Reminds me of being single, yet still gives me confidence with my wonderful wife to this day. Your work is much appreciated!

"This might sound strange and out of the blue, but can I have the coordinates to your 32k weapon dupe stash?"

dont ask for the number tell her to give it to you....hold out the phone, say "give me your number" and then shut your mouth.

I once knew this guy who had really low self-esteem and NEVER had dates. I asked him what the problem was. He said he'd never date a woman whose standards were so low that she'd go out with a guy like him.

When you have met enough entitled woman, dated a few and gone through hell... you stop bothering and life becomes fun and free 😏😬

The line is good I think. The point is the intent of it, which is to be an icebreaker and to get the question out and to short circuit all of the avoidance for the guy who is too chicken to find a reason to ask when the point is to just ask anyway and not be nervous and ponderous. I like the qualifier "this might seem out of the blue but ..." it gives the guy a dignified out if the answer is a negative, he hasn't come on too strong, its just casual.

Let me make it a whole lot easier.. Be soothing and Lock eye contact.. Do not look down.. And if she rejects you just be cool and after that every time you see her do small talk, joke.. Say something nice about her.. The key is confidence..

I have never asked a woman out in my life. They have all approached me. Learn to enjoy hard work and women will follow. If you got a desk job then flex you money, if you got a labor job then flex your arms. It's not complicated.

This is what all men need ! An honest info on what women wanted to hear in dating. Thank you.. gonna your channel to men like me in our group.

The best line for me is, “as fine as you are, you ain’t got no man?’ Works every time because it compliments and asks a declarative statement.

VERY interesting! Love your vids, unscripted, honest, and a true insight into the female psyche. You are helping a LOT of men out there. Fantastic work!! 👍🏻👍🏻

I see your subscribers growing daily and I honestly am confused why u don't have a million subscribers already, your amazing.

It (the line) does cover all of basics; get her attention, make her feel special while getting to the point. 👍

What's the worst she can say? No? You'd be surprised by how many say yes. It's worth the effort.

The line was working really well for me ... until my wife asked what I was going to do with all those numbers.

Victoria, every guy that watches your videos should send you at least one hundred dollars. You have done more for men than all the dating gurus combined. You build so much confidence for men by telling them exactly what to do and say, and it's coming from a very pretty, intelligent woman. It can't get any better than that. I keep telling asking myself, where were you at twenty years ago. Then I realize that there was no RU-vid back then or videos to watch on picking up women....Smile Thank you again for your wonderful wisdom and for teaching us men the art of seduction.

Man... you're a genius. i've been picking up this stuff myself recently and i randomly came across you and have connected a ton with what you're saying. thank you. hopefully you can put an end to all these terrible dating coaches lol

The more she interests you, the deeper you're going to fall if she says no.

Bravo! You hit the nail on the head. She wants to know she's THAT! kind of unique and special.

I ignore women. It makes them come around and wonder who you are and why you’re not chasing them. Then I say, do you want to exchange numbers? If you get a no, just say “cool”. Most of the time it’s yes.

My "line" with my wife wasn't so much a line as a look; we were nerding out together and some rando asked a dumb question, and we shared this intimate "how should we address this?" kind of glance. Someone else here said guys aren't looking for green lights but for avoiding landmines. It's generally true, but also a loser mindset, which is maybe why guys generally fail at opening ladies. Confidence = king, and avoiding landmines is fear-thinking.

I'll give it a shot!

I tried it in the supermarket on the cashier, but she said, that she is married. We didn't really talk, but she broke my beer bottle and something in the way she reacted and fixed the problem impressed me. It was the exe contact when she gave me the new bottle. But it was very busy and we had everybodys attention. I brought the items in my car and wrote a note with my number. I thought she would be busy and I just could give her the note. But when I was back there was nobody and I feel that I should say something, so it happend. I think I blushed and there was an awkward silent moment but I cannot say that I felt uncomfortable at all. Also it surprised me that she was enjoying the approach as a compliment, while I fear that she will laugh at me or call me gross. No, she said thank you and that she is married. It is silly but most important to me is the experience that she would describe it as friendly, while I think that it is gross. I know that I didn't change my mind by only one experience but I think and hope that seeking for more experience like that will be the way to understand it deep inside and change my mind. I feel so spurred. It is great.

A green light is simply eye contact a smile and a smile back .....

Unless a woman is really hot to me(subjective), I will cold approach. I don’t understand why these guys aren’t getting laid. Women send signals if they are interested all the time. The trick is not to let them know that you’ve seen them signaling you. Because when they go into signal acting by standing next to you, you can play it off like you’ve never seen them signaling earlier lol and give her your name and number. I’ve gotten to know a few women this way. I think you are absolutely right about women not wanting to be obvious about signaling men. When you catch a woman googling eyes during her signaling, most times you will have to cold approach because she will avoid you like the plague because she does not want to come off as easy.. Again good video

I appreciate a woman who isn’t afraid to make the first move. Nowadays, some people ask directly for sex, like asking out for lunch, and it works for them. For some, it has to be really subtle and takes years.

This makes total sense to me. I also heard you can say, hey you look interesting to me. Then proceed with the I had to ask for your number. Thank you!

Miss, you are a genius. I aspire to one day understand the fine people of your gender as much as you clearly understand ours

For me it is complimenting her out of the blue in a witty, playful and non-aggressive way.

External is the only thing that either attracts You to a stranger or not.

This channels a gift to Men and Women. So useful 👌

Is so sad that people have reached the stage that to lack as much confidence as needed to pair (or feel they can be suited for any match or confidently partner up with another)- .. that instructions (and thank you for your help (if any of those who need find it useful)-...).. are required -(I'm all good though thanks 😁😇🥰 but well done for sharing and being confident about opening up for those with such difficulties as well 🤓

I've done this, and it works. Thank you for your youtube channel! You are performing a valuable public service.

What color fedora should I wear to pick up m'ladies? Also, what is the best flavor of Axe bodyspray?

Don't focus on pick up lines. Just be yourself and say how you feel. Throwing a joke in there doesn't hurt either. Just be open, honest, sincere, and funny. A little compliment goes a long way. Btw.... your cute 😏👍

This works because it gives the woman the impression that this guy is very self-aware by acknowledging the strangeness of the question he asks and that, in and of itself, is a very attractive trait in a man.

6:48 What you just described right here is what most guys "feel", when they get rejected by the "hot" girl. Guys feel it before the date(that never happened) Women feel it after the date (pump and dump)

It all depends on her interest at first sight for you No effort is necessary for an interested girl No effort is possible for an uninterested girl

One thing also is you can’t ever let a woman know right up front all you want is sex even if deep down that’s all she wants from you. They want to somehow get your emotional investment wrapped up into them even if it’s short term. If they give it up to easily they feel devalued and upset with themselves.

I'm reading "No More MR Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. I got told by a female friend I'm very, "intense". I think I know what it is now -trying to make people laugh all the time so they'll like me -> they think I'm crazy/too nice. Gotta be human, be real, be fallible, be yourself.

This is great advice. I just passed up an opportunity today to ask for a number after a little flirtation in the apartment lobby. I've gotten way to used to being comfortable and afraid to get out of my comfort zone.

It all depends on the vibe if women digs you she'll give you her number first. I'm confident enough just to ask but with character. My line for asking "I'm not the type of guy who ask just any girl for her number with all respect we should exchange numbers how does that sound"

My opening line has always been "Hey, I'd like to be your next bad decision"

I'd only add it can be useful to frame WHY you need her number, basically to introduce her to the idea of a low-stakes first date. "I appreciate this is awkward but can I get your phone number? You're interesting and I'd like to take you for a cup of coffee sometime so we can get to know each other a bit better" And Victoria is right - you should forget about picking up on the "five signs she's really into you" nonsense. Approaching a girl can be stressful enough without that. Simply approach, acknowledge the awkwardness (but don't apologize) and say you just felt you had to talk to her and either imply or state attraction. Be ready with a quick introduction if she want to know more about you but otherwise just ask for the number and plant the idea in her head of a simple first date. A cup of coffee and a pastry or a couple of drinks in a bar. Nothing too high-stakes but instead something that is simple and comfortable and easy to say yes to.

I think you are wonderful, Victoria. It is a lucky guy who has you in their life. ❤❤❤😊

my advice... if you can't see yourself marrying the girl do not talk to her. and if you do talk to her be prepared to go all the way and marry her. anything else is a waste of her time and your time and will nearly always end in tears

Humans aren’t really designed for monogamy. If any couple has achieved that (assuming both were faithful), they’re the exception.

That was good to hear from a woman’s perspective, that really sounds like a good way for a guy to put it. Thank you for that information!l

Not that you haven’t said some wise things in other videos, but I don’t listen to women when it comes to how they want to be approached. First off, women rely heavily on their looks, it’s all they really have to catch a man’s attention. Your words remind me of the movie “Tootsie” wherein Jessica Lang tells Dustin Hoffman (as a woman) how she’d like to be approached by a man. And when Dustin Hoffman approaches her while he’s a man and uses her line, she throws water on him. Cold approaches rarely work. Some kind of conversation is necessary. You’re right about one thing, girls won’t let you know how interested they are at first.

They choose us. Always has been that way...

How about the line “ we don’t know each other at all but that should change “

I guess being deep, fun, inquisitive, mysterious, and all the above, is the key to being human. And in deciphering another persons "..." is the social-emotional intelligence that gets a man/woman laid. "Fantastic"

*sigh* sure, I'll give it a try. Might as well. Who knows what'll happen.

Hey I understand what you’re saying towards the end about how women want to be known as a person rather then their looks, and I get that. But with my experience its not exactly like that, and maybe I’m wrong, I guess that’s why I’m typing the comment in the first place. But basically I noticed that the men who like a woman for her personality rather then just being sexually attracted to her, end up failing more often then the men who are only sexually attracted to them (in most cases at least). I’m guessing it’s because women find the men who care about personality less attractive because they come across as less dominant then the guy who just wants sex. I’m not exactly sure why, maybe it’s because their mindsets are different, maybe they feel that these men who seem nice have some sort of weird alternative motive that they’re hiding and see the guys who care about looks as more genuine. I’m not sure exactly. This is just from what I’ve seen happen to various friends of mine, so it might just be a rare occurrence, I’m not sure. Me personally, I don’t necessarily have a hard time, getting a girls number (anymore at least), there have been even times where I’ve met a girl and we’ve had such a good conversation that they’ve asked for my number. But no matter what, it seems to always go downhill after I get it. I’m not sure if maybe they feel undervalued, because I usually wait a few days to call or text so I don’t seem needy, because I understand that being needy can sometimes come across as annoying. In the end I have no clue, but I’d like to hear what you think about this...

I think this is very good advice. It shows that you are interested in the person and not just the physical appearance. It si more of I find your vibe compelling and would love to get to know you a bit better.

thank you for the life hack. I'm using it as soon as i can.

Really great stuff about not needing 1 million signals of interest from her.

Great video! But what is the other line? I don't see any video about that. Thanks.

I've recently listened to RU-vid Reddit responses about women giving out very obvious signals that men missed, and men also commenting on signals they didn't figure out till way later. Entertaining, but in a way sometimes sad as the connection to future possibilities was missed.

MAKES A LOT OF SENSE WHAT U SAY. GUYS PLEASE LIKE A GIRL FOR MORE THAN THERE BODY/FACE...YOU WILL BE HAPPY YOU DID.

The best line to use on women "here's my wallet".

“My face is on fire, please sit on it!”

This line puts you in her frame

u changing my life, not just with women. cant thank you enough

Victoria you're the last and the only honest woman on planet Earth, probably a glitch in a Matrix, but still, thank God for that 🙌

i want to add to this. i have been shy with women all my life but when i want to go for one, i do. this kind of makes me suspect that behid shyness really there is lack of interest as in the effor is not worth the result and so in this sence i am actually afraid of wasting time rather then being afraid of what she would think of me per se. the fear of what she would think of me is more about how much of a colossal waste of time her silly thoughts would make of the situation.

Believe me, even if you made it super obvious that you were inviting a guy back to a hotel, we’d still miss it

Valuable advice that make senes. Thanks.