How To Tell If A Guy Is Flirting 

My daughter’s guy friend told her” you’re not girlfriend material”. My daughter’s response was” I am, but not for you”.

My mom always said "don't let him notice that you notice that he's not noticing you" as a joke about flirting 😂😂😂

Ugh I am soo bad at recognizing when someone flirts w me!!😆 I am always joking around with people, and I’m pretty energetic so if someone is on the same level, I just see it as normal😭🤣

Great. I found out that there is NOBODY flirting with me. 😁😆

I'm 26 and honestly, I've had my moments where I've taken the lead, trying to figure out how the guy feels bc he's shy, but I feel like that doesn't work for me. I'll just wait for a man that'll lead. No more code cracking for me🙈😅

From what I have seen, I don't mind it if people playfully make fun of me as long as I can back-- but that is a wrong wording. Playful banter is super fun as long as it doesn't go too far. If you are trying to tease me every single sentence, please don't. I still want to have intelligent conversations, though I love to laugh at someone's impeccable wit and sarcasm. But, don't make it a 24/7 thing. Especially if you are interested in someone. You have to show respect as well.

Dating is like an extreme sport these days , sheesh🙄

😂😂😂😂 Morgan: “PRESCHOOL!!!” Your faces ahahaha

I agree with Morgan regarding the "Do not make fun of the girl you're interested in". I feel absolutely embarrassed when a guy makes fun of me. It throws me off a little. Maybe because I'm too insecure and to have someone overfocus on my mistakes (even with good intention) is humiliating. 🥺

I'm so grateful y'all posted this!! I have had an immature guy lead me on before. He told me he was serious about pursuing dating to find another Christian to be his wife, but he was really playing games. I began to notice he did not follow God actively outside of groups, and drama seemed to follow him wherever he went. I began to notice he was disrespectful towards friends, family, and made insensitive jokes about very sensitive topics. It was a smack in the face to me because that's not the kind of person I want to be around-- it's toxic. I wonder if the Lord used that to tell me "Avery, stay single for as loonnnggg as you can". Either way, I just don't want to fall in that trap again.

Yea I think it all boils down to actions speak louder than words with the intentional flirter and the playa flirter. I was led on for 3 months and quickly learned this one. No settling! ❤️

1. I recently found y’all, and y’all have really encouraged me to intentionally date 2. Im new to my area and can’t meet Godly men right now because quarantine and it makes me sad 🥺

6 months is too long. 3 months flirting and then if he doesn't ask you to be his g/f then walk. Don't waste your time. Also if you have to ask what is this, walk. A guy who really likes you, will step up to the plate even if he's shy because he likes you and doesn't want to lose you. 🤷🏽‍♀️ #js

I completely understand where he’s coming from when a guy makes fun of a girl he’s interested in. Personally I like a guy with a good sense of humor.

Morgan I would love to see a get ready with me esp during this quarantine time 💅🏻👄👁😀😀 and ladies, never pin hope on a guy until he tells you he likes you or wants to get out. Before then, when a guy flirts, or even messages, assume it is friendship. If he is interested, you wont have to give things a jumpstart..the right one will want to pursue you even if he is afraid of rejection And don't let your heart get involved before you know He is safe= pursues God, will honor your heart, doesn't pressure you etc.

Literally no guy is at all into me...why am i watching this? ... Oh yeah, cuz i love THE PAUL AND MOooORGAN SHOW!!! WOOT WOOT!! LOL

Paul's rocking that quarantine beard!

If he’s talking to you he’s probably into you... I feel like most dudes (the ones I know) regardless of age, normally just hangout with other guys. So you can see a guy from a mile away who’s into a girl. But if he makes fart jokes around you he’s probably not interested in you or is playing a very sneaky game.

Wow, all this time I've been flirting with girls to some degree and I haven't even realized it lol

Ooo...I like that one, just going straight forward and asking him “our you interested in me or it’s just a friendship thing?”

I have a friend that is mean/flirty with girls he likes!! I personally hate it but somehow he gets the girl!!! Some times it makes me think the girl doesn't know what she wants or doesn't know what Christ says about her; because personally I would what a man to be Christ like!!

Can you make a video on jealousy in a relationship?

Great practical points you two. I totally get where you’re coming from, Paul! I admire your desire to help people to take a different approach or have a different perspective on things in these areas. Y’all are extremely encouraging! I hope you two start a podcast! May God get the Glory!

I'm honestly binge watching all your guys' videos so I can be super mega prepared when I meet a fine specimen for myself lol. But for real, you guys are awesome and have great tips! Keep up the good work, and God bless! ☺❤

0:22 😊😊😊 that was a really cute fist bump. Awesome video!

This is perfect timing for me! the last month or two i've been talking to a really nice guy but he's not super direct in whether he's romantically interested or just as a friendship. we've hung out twice, but can't right now because of covid 19. for some reason i thought it'd be weird to just ask him what he's thinking, but i think i will after watching this.

Can’t wait to watch part 2! Thank you so much.❤️

Thankyou so much for this! The points were awesome, and helping me directly with this guy a lot. About this guy at school, he often ignores me - we are in different grades - but when he comes over to my house, he is funny, sarcastic and slowly becoming more open. I laugh at his jokes all the time, and he often grins or chuckles when I say something funny. He has just started acknowledging me at school and glancing + smiling. I'm always the one starting conversations by text, but to be fair he is quite shy and has come out of his shell around me. It's half and half.

I completely understand what your saying about the making fun of them thing Paul! It’s like playful teasing. Also, I actually tripped one time well I was talking to a guy I like, (it was so embarrassing 😩😂) but he just smiled at me... and it was really sweet and I was glad he didn’t joke about it! Lol thank you for this vid!

I’m 25 and while I’m chillin in my singleness and growing deeper in the Lord, I do get very nervous I’m like missing a deadline. A lot of my old high school friends are married and people in my small group are already married. Ah. I know it’s God’s timing but I’m getting nervous haha. But in singleness we can focus more on the things of Lord as Paul says which is awesome!!!

I do agree with the “making fun” with a girl, only in the perspective of teasing them. I think there’s a difference between teasing and actually making fun of someone. Teasing is really light-hearted and also usually not about something that could really offend them. So for example, some guy teased me because I like running and he doesn’t. He said, “oh you’re one of those?? Lol.” Personally I didn’t mind it bc I like him too 😂 so maybe it will only work on people who like you too

Wow, rewatching this in 2022 and what really struck me was when you said "after A MONTH you can ask a guy what his intentions are" and here I am putting dudes mentally on the clock maybe 24 hours after the first exchanges :D I need to chill the frick down hahahahaah thank you so much guys for the perspective and the reminder that I may be afraid of getting hurt, but it's still necessary to give my fellow humans grace!

Hey Fam, what are your thoughts on flirting?? 😊

Thank you guys so much for everything you do! This was a great video. Hopefully we can have another patreon zoom soon, that was fun!

I love you guys’ videos! The fist bump at the beginning was precious!! ☺️

thanks paul and morgan for giving me the advice to flirt even though im 57. it has gone great and i am now in a dating relationship with a Christian woman

I didn’t flirt once in my life and proud 😢 forever a spartan

I really enjoyed this one! Very helpful! It’s opened my eyes to some guys in my life that act weird lol you should make a part 2!

Your dedication to helping single people/couples is admirable. I was wondering, because I have been making YT videos lately, how is it to make videos with 2 people? I imagine it can be tricky since there are 2 people sharing their ideas. Do you folks somewhat practice what you say before filming? Or do you just film without practicing because you are already pros at RU-vid by now? LOL.😄

And that gulp? Y'all killing it!! LOVIN' THIS!

My go-to when I like a woman is to simply engage in conversation and get to know her on a personal and deeper level; I'll cut out the small talk as quick as possible. As a Christian guy, I flirt with playful teasing. I definitely am intentional to keep it nice and caring; I dont go too far. But, I dont keep it too tame and go so far as to make the girl want to have a playful sassy comeback. If I make a quality teasing joke and she lets it fall flat, especially if more than once, I usually take it as no interest. Girls, keep in mind I occasionally do the same with either guys or girls that I simply view as a very close friend and don't have any romantic interest in.

Playfully making fun of a girl I'm intrested in is my language LOL

I knew it was going to be a good video when I saw ur dog😂, and ya sarcasm is a must.

I totally get Paul’s saracasm comment! I’ve had guys flirt with me by making fun of me but playfully in a way they knew for a fact I would laugh at too.

I'm seventeen years old... never been asked out or never been in a relationship but I guess watching your videos strengthens my Christian faith and prepares me for the future. Thank you guys u two are really kawai(cute).

Paul has it on point, if this guy is showing you a lot of attention, cracking jokes and just making openings to talk, he likes you. If he makes a big goofy smile uncontrollably the minute he sees you, he’s really into you. Guys who aren’t into you in anyway won’t even talk to you. Also another sign is watch his eyes, if his eyes are on you and eyeing your body, thats a good sign.

I think laughter is definitely a big one! And eye contact is powerful too! I understand what you mean about “making fun” of her 😂 there is definitely a right balance. Like Morgan said if she trips it’s good to be able to laugh at yourself. And I think that kind of “flirting” or messing around with her should definitely be limited. I have a friend and he messes around with his wife too much 😂 and the personality of the girl is also a huge! Some like it/can take it, some hate it 😂

Flirting can be so hard sometimes!!!! Love you guys!! ❤️

First video I’ve watched of you guys so just getting a read. Don’t know how old u two are, but use why Morgan got so offended by Paul’s comment and spent minutes arguing about it. The whole point would seem to listen and get the mans point of view. Just a thought cause we all want to be listened to and be heard. Also I think any man who knows a gal to some extent and may start sending some messages may be that he wants to test that she won’t wilt if she gets a bit of a joke sent her way, and has the ability to laugh at herself which is a sign of emotional stability, sense of self and maturity. Not to mention, having a sense of humor :) I think u could be 28 years old and still find yourself making fun of the gal u like. It’s Classic teasing. Best thing is to be able to laugh with the one u love. Anyways, cheers guys!

SPONGE BOB SHIRT !!!!! love it! By the way, great vid'

I love seeing "the joy in Morgan's eyes" ;) here. now. WITH PAUL.

My girlfriend (now my wife) didn't want to keep messaging me if our friendship wasn't going anywhere.So one day she asked if we could meet in person.We are married!!

Wow this video had perfect timing in terms of relatability to my life right now!!!

I really appreciate your content, and I look forward to your weekly videos!💙

! I love your channel I literally watched your videos all night and slept at 5am I love y’all like that! ❤️

Just wanted to send you some encouragement and say I love watching your videos. They resonate with me. I love Jesus and I love ya'll too! You've put yourself out there and not everyone will get it, but you are a light. :)

love you guys' advises from all of the videos, very wise and useful! and Morgan is so cute!!

How about if the guy is looking at you a lot. When I'm at church there is a guy that is looking at me, many times I catch him do that, but he never comes to talk to me... So I don't know if he is into me or not, I don't know how to take this

Thank you so much for answering my question!!! God Bless!!!

Loved this! Thanks Paul and Morgan! Yall are the best!

This is very helpful information. Thanks so much.

Haha i went out with a guy yesterday and near the end of our hang out he told me, “I’m making fun of you because I like you”. So it is a thing 😅. I actually didn’t mind because it was playful and not rude/aggressive.

Love the insight! Also, love what y'all do (:

I would have a guy just tell me that he likes me instead of flirting. I have some difficulty reading social cues, so I can be oblivious sometimes and I will completely not notice that a guy is trying to flirt with me.

Love these videos! Thank y'all so much!

Flirting is important because it gives both the girl and guy a buffer time to assess how they feel about it without being scared away right from the get go. That way, when things happen they are prepared with their own thoughts on the subject. A friend of mine once told me that "there are some girls that are like birds, you come up to them too quickly and abruptly and they will fly away." That being said, mature girls should have a better grip of who they are and what they want and may be more appreciative of straight forward attantion. In my opinion, flirting is super important. My boyfriend and I clicked and flirted at a church camp, exchanged numbers, texted and became best friends over the course of about 5 months (long distance.) This slowly eased into a best friendship that lead to a relationship. We've been long distance official for 2 years come May 27th and see each other every 2mo or so. You marry your best friend I always say, so look for that! But that doesn't mean you have to intentionally give "friend zone" vibes to accomplish this😅. In our friendship, I felt confident in both of our intentions with the friendship because of my knowledge of our faith goals and his character and because we both flirted😉

this is actually super helpful thank you!!

This is such a lighthearted and fun video I really enjoyed it

i'm a fan of banter! but hey one thing I have noticed with a couple guys who were interested in me, they asked "what I thought of another guy" and if I was interested is said guy (I didn't catch on because I'm oblivious oof)

Maybe for the social media even for just friends and haven't been on in a long time and wanted to check up on them liking their stuff, and when your already on and they post stuff and you like it, don't be afraid to like it even if you are the first one. You don't always have to explain yourself/they probably (not always) saw you were on line when you liked it so it wasn't like- stalkerrrr.

You guys are great! My older sister loves you guys and she really wants to meet you!

Some girls LOVE IT when the guy they like makes harmless fun of them, even if it's a little "mean." 🤣

You've got me laughing through the entire video😂

Lol, the guy who liked me just straight up insulted my outfit🤦😅 ( guys plz don't insult the girl you like!😂)

I’m only liking for Paul’s sponge bob eyes. Just kidding! Love y’all!

The thing about the making fun which I think Morgan doesn't like is that it's disrespectful or can hurt someone's feelings or be rude. I thing the nature of this type of flirting however is actually assuming confidence in the other person and by making fun of them you're kinda saying " I see you as confident and mature that you could laugh at this" and that's kind of the compliment hidden there but it could also be a method chosen due to lack of confidence and being scared to be more forward and obviously complementing someone and making yourself vulnerable. So it depends on the spirit I suppose.

I need helpooo so after worship practice this guy said wanna come to my house and record this song so I was like heck yeah so we recorded it it’s called psalms 46 and so we had a good time hit me and him are like barley friends and we have beef in the past but I’m ugly he’s attractive so idk but then I checked my scripture if the day when I got home and it was psalms 46.. do you think Gods trying time show me something? HELPOO

lol in my circles, talking to a guy on the phone (even if a close friend) is considered 'inappropriate' he guy I like is so friendly and I get along with his parents who are in the music band with me. I'm not sure if he is interested in me, but I know that is loves the Lord so so i'm okay with maintaining the friendships because it makes me feel good regardless of the fact he hasn't shown obivous flirting

Wow, I’m one of the first commenters! Awesome video Paul and Morgan!! Love you guys, wish I could financially support you but sadly I’m a college student and I’m broke 😐I have a guy friend who is really outgoing and sometimes asks me how I’m doing and stuff like that but when we were talking one time he clearly said he sees me a as sister in Christ. The thing is, I had a crush on him all the way through high school and I still think he is really cute but also I have a boyfriend now and am trying to not think of my guy friend in a romantic way but it’s really hard. Any tips?

My guy friend shows a lot of these signs which makes me believe that he may be interested, but sometimes he doesn't seem to be interested, he is a great friend, which gets me confused because I can't tell if he actually likes me or if he is just being a friend.😬 So confusing!

I sometimes think that young men think that I am interested, when Im not. Im really enthousiastic and happy and outgoing (I talk to people pretty easy). How can I be nice, but not give him the feeling that I like him/guys more than friends...?

I love this! Because it saves me from so much overthinking 🙃🙂😅🤯🥰

Sarcasm and roasting is totally a language some guys speak... maybe not on a romantic relationship level ALL the time. It's definitely a sign for some guys that they like someone and want to be their friend. That's how I befriended a couple of my guy friends xD

All of these points make sense. I've been at the receiving end of some of these actions but for some reason, I only realize it much much later on, like when the guy has already moved on. But in the moment, I'm the sort of person that's just really dense and is unable to read any cues. As a result, I've stayed single for 28 years. Waiting can get lonely but I've always believed in God's perfect time. And it probably wouldn't hurt for me to be more aware and vigilant the next time. Hahahaha.

Thanks for making this video!❤

This is so helpful thank you!!!!!

What does it mean when a guy calls you everyday and says that your shyness is cute? He shows his talent too.He says he's looking for marriage. Is he persuing me?

Thought these were pretty accurate!

I needed this honestly 🖐😭

That Spongebob sweater is everything 😍😍😅

I love the jersey Paul!:) Morgan this happened to me, a christian guy spoke to me for 12 months on fb chat indepth and then i plucked up the courage to ask him out for coffee and he said no haha #epicfail! A few christian guys on fb chat/DM/text on instagram will message me a fair bit then when i call them out on it or ask where its going.. they ghost haha! Then i get the guys that say i am beautiful or attractive and Godly... but friend zone me cos maybe im intimidating lol cos im intelligent haha.. and extroverted... but then again I am definately guilty myself of talking to male friends on fb chat and having no intention of dating them and i tend to friend zone guys too lol.. at times :) I think healthy boundaries and discernment is soo important with friendship with the opposite sex especial in church/christian circles!!:)

Thanks for the video you two!!

Everyone is different. Every Woman is different, Me personally am ok with him joking with me at moments. He just has to know when it is a good time. I mean if you have been dating awhile and if he pays attention to what you are sensitive to and what you aren't to, I think that is important. I would really like someone who made me feel comfortable, where the joking doesn't sting much if it goes to far, we arent perfect 🤷‍♀️. I think if he is overall just a nice guy. You have no doubt that he is kind, caring and has a good head on his shoulder. but most of all and most important is He is a true godly man! By the fruit he produces and by the way He walks. 🤷‍♀️ He will just know how to treat you, He knows you are a daughter of the king. just my opinion tho 🤷‍♀️ love the Paul and Morgan Shooow

the guy at my church i like does a lot of eye contact seems to want to be always around and texted once and snuck this flirtatious sign in it telling me hes missing me with, but then didn't text me again but still made eye contact and is really nervous around me

Yes Paul, I totally get what your saying, although I don't do it😂 i do understand it! I love you guys!! Also Paul, love the sweater!

Love these car chats! :)

@Paulandmorgan I love it that your coat matched the doggie ^^

I just wanna say that y'all are a beautiful couple! And your videos are very helpful!

I was wondering if I could get some advise from ya'll... I have been apparently in an 'almost relationship' for about a year and a couple months now... just realizing this because I have started to wonder why nothing has really moved further yet. How it first started was that we noticed we liked each other and bla bla... anyway, it was the end of the school year and he almost asked me something very important.. so important that he got on his knees. Then he must have realized something and so he sighed and didn't say anything... just walked away. I knew he was graduating and going off to enlist in the marines... but I didn't think that would matter or maybe be his reason for not going any further... he was 18... now probably 19... I think.... but anyway, one of his ways for flirting I guess was to mimic the things I did. And now, even though I can only get in touch with him on insta, I noticed that he texts me back in a time mimicking way... texting me imminently and then the same time I texted him... just the next day. And he's been this way for a very long time. One recent example is that I hadn't been on insta for 4 days right before I texted him, and then in one of my texts (my final last one), he answered exactly 4 days later at the same time. He also never looks at my stuff on insta till that time... so I was planning to ask him what was up. The way he texts with his words have no notice that he likes me but his actions speak volumes. My gut tells me that he still likes me or maybe I am imagining it. I know it's been a year and he has never texted me on his own before... but I really liked this guy for sure and was hoping to maybe have a serious relationship... and so I've been waiting and he used to ignore some of my texts because I think he didn't trust me... but now it's been getting better so I thought that maybe I should ask him and stop thinking about him again. He is a really shy guy so it's really hard to tell. Just wondering if you could give me some advise as to if I should keep waiting for him to pursue me with words or to ask him straight out. I feel like I should ask him straight out... but I am too afraid to actually send that text. I just need any advise from anyone.

Is it a good idea to just text one on one a guy and girl back and forth if they are just friends? Meaning the guy hasn’t said he’s interested but if he was there would definitely be interest on the girls part too. Or should you try and keep it to group texts?