How to Tell Someone You Think They're Autistic

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@Sasbie65 25 дней назад

Sensory overload, repetitive behaviors, and social anxiety. Thank you for these concise descriptors!

@Catlily5 17 дней назад

I would say social difficulties. I am autistic and I don't have much social anxiety. But I say the wrong things and don't know what to say. I offend people without meaning to.

@Steph-zo5zk 25 дней назад

As a newly diagnosed autistic person I found out from an autistic friend 4 years ago who I was very close with and would share how difficult I was finding life and how I felt like I had to play this unnatural character to fit in and I want friends but I find it so hard to make and keep plans, and every so often he would be like 'yeah I feel the same way. FOR ME it's because I'm autistic....' and me being oblivious just was like 'oh interesting' and it took about 10 of these conversations before he cracked and was like 'umm have you ever thought about looking into whether you might be autistic..?' He showed me some yo samdy sam videos and hearing her talk about her childhood and university experiences was like listening to myself. That guy saved my life.

@sharonaumani8827 22 дня назад

It seems this is common.

@charlottegrace6656 26 дней назад

Me with three autistic children. My friend: "oh honey you're so autistic." My sister, after explaining my kids diagnoses to her: "You're autistic too aren't you?" Me: "Highly likely." My Mum: *cries*

@sharonaumani8827 22 дня назад

Yeah, that'll make you feel good, ha [not....I'm joking....one of those autistic people that does actually use metaphors and sarcasm and I forget, lol].

@charlottegrace6656 22 дня назад

@@sharonaumani8827 hahaha we do exist! Yeah that was a fucken awesome afternoon with my sister and mum after that, as I'm sure you can imagine.

@whitneymason406 25 дней назад

I found that sharing my autism diagnosis and experiences can sometimes provoke others to look into autism more themselves. 💞

@elvwood 25 дней назад

My wife and I had two autistic friends independently broach the subject with us. One simply said, "I don't have neurotypical friends." The other said, "I think your whole family is autistic." That's what started this journey of discovery for me, and I am grateful to them for that. I wish someone had said something sooner, but to be honest I don't think I would have reacted well if it hadn't been someone I trusted saying it.

@CreativeAutistic 26 дней назад

Such a tricky area. I think this scenario alone evidences why there needs to be SO much more education and understanding of autism at a societal level, so that individuals/parents can make the link themselves.

@daphne5770 26 дней назад

I think I'm in spectrum adult and probably my son (17) It's not easy, people don't understand because they don't know

@Sce7 13 дней назад

Would you consider at least taking your son in to a few different doctors? I asked for a few reasons. When I was younger, I was diagnosed over and over with.ADD. I remember going to be evaluated and having people come in my classroom I knew what was going on, but my mom would not give up because she wanted different results. I have an adult finally getting help with my ADD realizing that it’s not me as a failure that I just have to do things differently has really helped myself confidence. It was really hard at first as an adult learning more and more about ADD and how much easier my life would’ve been giving the help when I was younger. My son has autism the people in our life that love us have given us so much grace.. I am the one that has to remind them not to go fully out of their way with everything because he is going to need to learn what it’s like in the real world I mentioned going to a couple different doctors because I’ve noticed my ADD is very similar to the more mild side of autism. I have seen different videos with signs that you have autism and I would probably pass most of them however, I really don’t think I have it. There’s so many resources for free therapist organizations so much help you can get if your insurance is not covering it. If your son has autism, there will be a day and many more after with either telling him he has it. I can’t put into words how hurtful was with the way my mom handled it my ADD, which is minor compared to autism I save this out of love only

@PeterJoubert1972 26 дней назад

I think it is a teacher’s duty to flag their concerns with a child’s parent. Hopefully the parent will read up on it and have the child tested. I wouldn’t want a child to suffer needlessly like late diagnosed adults do. I would not confront an adult with my suspicion that they might be autistic. If I am fairly certain that they are, I would share my diagnosis with them and share some examples why I am. I would not expect them to resiprocate and share, but at least I will have planted the seed and they will think about it. I will NEVER tell someone I think they are autistic directly.

@JB-pk3bz 26 дней назад

As the old saying goes, "Never say never." For instance, what if I have an adult acquaintance who is in emotional distress, wondering why people don't understand this adult's honest attempts to communicate across a lifetime? An adult who is socially isolated and lonely? Would I walk away, without giving some clear pointers towards autism? And since that adult isn't stupid, the spectrum dots are probably going to be connected in real time. This is probably going to be a shock. Do I let that adult languish in pain or GENTLY help them to understand, cope, and overcome the social rift which hurts? In other words, do I take a risk to help someone long-term, knowing in the short-term that this person might be majorly damaged by the revelation? I don't think there is a clear answer here. Because people are different. What works for one person will not work for another. With all of that said, for those who do try to help, be prepared for major blowback; have a thick skin.

@PeterJoubert1972 26 дней назад

@@JB-pk3bz I get what you’re saying. You used the word “gently”. That is important to me. Autistic is a scary word for most people and they don’t even know what it is. We all have different styles of communication and how to approach a sensitive subject. My way might not be your way and vice versa, and that’s ok. I think the end result should be to get these undiagnosed people help.

@JB-pk3bz 26 дней назад

@@PeterJoubert1972 Well said!

@DonaldDucksRevenge 17 дней назад

If someone I cared for didn't really tell me, who was themselves autistic, I might still be in the dark.

@VrtualMe 25 дней назад

20 years ago, an online chat friend said to me, "I recently got diagnosed for something called Aspergers & I think you might have it too." That got me researching it & he was so right! I was high masking, so medical people were split on confirming it. Eventually, in my 50s, I went through an intense evaluation (two months of tests & interviews with my friends/family) with the leading expert in autism in AZ. He confirmed that I was severely autistic & a bit ADHD too.

@Carnables 4 дня назад

We have come a long way in our understanding of autism! I'm glad that we have combined aspbergers into the autism umbrella. I imagine it must have been challenging/annoying not to have a definitive answer 20 years ago. I find it ironic that they diagnosed you as "severely" autistic now. Hope you are doing well and are living better now❤

@heathergrahame9647 24 дня назад

Orion, for a while I've thought one of my brothers is autistic and, recently, I sent him a text message saying "I think this is you" along with a link to one of your videos. He replied "Thanks". Your videos are fantastic! Thank you from me too. It helps us neurotypicals understand.

@jsonbourne9799 17 дней назад

This is so delightful to watch! You all complement each other perfectly. Whoever said "I feel like I've finally found MY table in the lunch room" nailed it.

@Vandymas 12 дней назад

Thank you all for sharing 😊

@camellia8625 25 дней назад

I think it is a gift to say you suspect they could be autistic. Even if they are not open to it in the moment, it plants the seed which may lead to them getting help later. This is especially important if it is a situation with children as they need support earlier rather than later. I struggled for years and wish I had been told years earlier

@charrogate 25 дней назад

2008 the pre-school teacher brought our youngest child's autism to our attention. The other parent couldn't handle this revelation resulting in a complete breakdown of their relationship to this day and the consequently the whole family unit. Therefore ⚠️ caution 🤔

@IvyHale151 День назад

I knew but was in denial. I've learned to stop doubting myself.

@kathyrichmond5835 24 дня назад

So, coming at this from a formal diagnosis in my nephew, leading to learning in his mom, leading to discussions with me (sis) around family traits....i recognise that maybe,at 59, it seems likely that i am on the spectrum. Sharing this with my daughter she reflected that her autistic friend had askef her if her mom (me) might be autistic..., So i would like to apologise for ever saying ' isnt everybody a bit on the spectrum'. But literally this is likely to be true for my immediate family circle. Best wishes to you all. Orion- your online meltdown is one of the hardest and most empathetic youtube experience i have ever had

@katzenbekloppt2412 26 дней назад

Uff, as I wished to have known much earlier in my life and now see how many YEARS one has to wait to get an official diagnose if wanted, I hope noone did not tell me... And therefore I think I would HAVE TO say to give that person a chance to know as soon as possible. I am always very direct. I would say "I found out late that...I see xyz, and that reminds me on my own experienve/other autistics experiences, habits, so if You want to research and see if that could be a thing, I can recommemd abc."

@LadyGoddessSephiroth 25 дней назад

Not autistic but def ND. My bf was the one who told me. His exact words were "Wait you think you're NT?" He's autistic so the bluntness was real 😂 But then he started rattling off my behaviors and he was like, "NT people don't act like/do that." I wasn't offended. I'm glad he told me but I can see how that would be offensive to someone else.

@reneew.7883 25 дней назад

I think it’s better when people are direct

@darbydelane4588 25 дней назад

Such an important wondering.

@jasonuren3479 26 дней назад

Cheers for posting this, missed it before 👍

@DonaldDucksRevenge 17 дней назад

It took a caring, unself-interested person I had feelings for telling me they were Autistic, and recognized me as Autistic as well, for me to accept it could be true.

@w.7990 25 дней назад

Personally I would rather someone be entirely blunt with me. Directly starting the conversation and being direct is what I actually need to avoid confusion. When someone isn't direct with their questions I become all to analytical which then in-turn compounds the confusion and then results in becoming non-verbal. I mean its hard enough to try to follow the conversation and try to keep up. Processing delay plagues me. Its difficult to admit that my processing is inevitably slower and that can be embarrassing. I loathe conversations because of this deficiency. 😢 I'm struggling and have struggled with this my entire life. This is when sensory issues, light, noise, too many people and too much movement compounds and overwhelms me and my brain freaks out inevitably resulting in a meltdown or an outburst. Outburst...I HATE THAT DAMN WORD! It's been used continually and negatively to identify me and it's an absolutely, entirely, moronic statement used by those whom don't understand to litterally shame my actions. My rant is over now...sorry.

@mozie4258 25 дней назад

I had wondered for years if I was autistic when a coworker matter-of-factly said I had autism one day. 😂 It was actually kind of validating because I'd never fit the stereotypical portrayal of autism, but here was someone just straight up convinced I was autistic after working with me for a few months. (she apparently had an eye for this, because she correctly diagnosed her son and one other coworker 😂)

@depleteduraniumcowboy3516 26 дней назад

Write a book and let the individual read it and figure it out for themselves might be one way.

@sharonaumani8827 22 дня назад

Yes, great points. With some friends, whom you share topics of interest, and about your own diagnosis, you might be able to watch/listen to stuff together. The person watching may [or may not, if not ready] recognize traits in themselves, too, and decide to learn more about it.

@conniemastro1880 25 дней назад

I always have insights from your channel, and I am so grateful. Thank you!

@Lyrisia 20 дней назад

I started looking into it because a close friend was talking about how she did an online test and it reminded her of me. The result of the test was that there was a very high chance I'm autistic lol Although I'm still undiagnosed, it's still quite a relief to know I might not just be weird and crazy. Funnily enough a few months later, my best friend was somehow also talking about an autistic test and told me the characteristics reminded her of me xD

@ryanhuong 25 дней назад

Code for are you autistic: Do you have sensory issues too? Code for do you have ADHD: Do you have problems with focus too?

@soundbeast4957 23 дня назад

Maybe that’s why my folks act strange. Cultural. My family is not from Czechoslovakia, but my great grandparents were, and I’m the first in my family to have a formal diagnosis.

@zioah4560 25 дней назад

Hope you okay Orion.

@aroset 25 дней назад

I get it. I get that we need to respect people and their experiences. But not saying something, to me, seems illogical. Because the fastest way to global education on a massive scale is, in my autistic opinion, not to give in and use the terms typical people use and do the whole eggshell thing because that is perpetrating the very shame we're trying to eradicate no? The more shameless, open, direct discussions we're willing to have, the more understanding. Given yes that's 100% not everyone and cultural and community acceptance isn't available for all, that's a massive privilege. But I still feel, almost, an obligation to push forward and be brunt and honest and ask directly because their shame response is on them, not on me. And the further the hesitation to be open to talking about it, the more I must continue to mask and hide myself.

@AutisticAthena 24 дня назад

Apparently "I think you might be like me" is an offensive phrase to some people. That's fine. I'm offended that someone who thinks that's offensive thinks they're my "friend".

@chrismaxwell1624 25 дней назад

Depends really. If person were on spectrum too and tell me first then comments on my autistic traits. I don't have an issue with that. When some NT person just point out my autistic trait that's more of problem. Are they doing it because they noticed it or are they doing at insult. I struggle with intention there. What do they know about. I mean for years I knew very little just what psychologists told me as kid.