How To Train People To Treat You Well 

So many of us do and there's nothing wrong with it as long as you don't make that your only source of happiness.

You're very welcome.

Excellent realization. Remember you don't have to be mean or overly confrontational. You're just not going to let people walk on you.

Comment as much as you like! Glad you're putting these practices and techniques to work. Yes, I'm giving away a lot of useful content away and it's a compliment that you're making good use of it. Thank you. Remember to not just write these things out. Say them. Hear yourself say it. Try it on. How does it feel? Make changes if you need to and keep saying it until it feels right.

So do I practice saying them out loud similar to doing affirmations? Or in front of a mirror? What would you suggest? And would you suggest a daily practice of this? It is interesting, its like practicing in private who we want to become in public. I guess this is how we fundamentally change. I always think of the concept that the catapillar never makes it out of the cocoon alive. :) Btw, I seriously had to google characteristics of a healthy relationships. My criteria for how people treat me has been very very narrow. Seems like a hella important part of our lives that maybe I should put some thought into!

This is definitely different than affirmations. It's about saying the words and feeling them. This is who you already are not who you aspire to be. This is about practicing communicating that to others. You can do it in front of a mirror to give yourself the awareness of what others will see, but it's not necessary. I would say practice it until you know it and feel it. If doubt creeps in, practice some more. Most people don't know what they want and that includes how they want to be treated. They just know it when they're not treated well. Most people focus more on what they don't want than what they do want. But we can change that.

Try reframing confrontation as an opportunity to connect with someone, to understand and to be understood. Have a vision beyond the confrontation of how you would like the interaction to evolve and go for that.

Thank you and it's my pleasure to share.

You're welcome! What was your big takeaway?

NLP Gym Being very specific and clear about what exactly I want or do not want.

Great! Let me know how it goes.

Thank you. It's great for the workplace too and no doubt great in personal relationships even your closest ones.

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really not many people talk about nlp which is a shame because it is so powerful. Also the focus of the video is on a topic many people could benefit on

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No problem, thank you too for your helpful videos!

You're welcome. What do you like about the video?

NLP Gym the end. I needed that.

NLP Gym "and know it."

Excellent! Glad it helped you.

Thank you

Yes, if you're not in a position where you have to interact with them, this works well.

Good question and thank you for the compliment. Bruce Lee is a huge inspiration for me and has been since I was a kid. Writers Henry Miller and Hunter S. Thompson also inspire me. Right now I'm collaborating with Dr. Matt, the guy in my last two videos and this has been quite inspiring. Certain activities inspire me. Travel and self-discovery through writing and teaching are very inspiring.

NLP Gym Of course, it is no problem. I believe working with Dr. Matt may be one of the best things you can get involved with. Highly intellectual individual from what I've gathered. It's very important to have a excellent mentor, how did you come to such a opportunity? I've realized it's important to have a circle of people who have the same goals and aspirations as yourself and it not be a "echo chamber" all the way through. There's a few things I wouldn't mind discussing with you if you were to have the time, is there any way I can contact you via email or Facebook?

How did I meet Dr. Matt and start collaborating with him? We met at a hypnosis training and we both quickly realized we had a lot in common. I also quickly realized that he was the most highly skilled person in the room even more so than the teacher so I bombarded him with questions. Instead of running away from me he happily answered everything and we hit it off as friends and we realized we could probably do something working together that we couldn't do not working together. You can email me at damon@nlp-gym.com

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NLP Gym you made it so plain

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The devil is in the details. It all depends on the situation. In general though, if someone is treating you a certain way that you don't like, don't give them the response they want until they change how they treat you. Make sure you first tell them though that how they're treating you is not okay and give them instruction on how to treat you. If they don't, like I mentioned, don't give them the response they want until they treat you the way you want.

@@DamonCart Thankyou so much...And the staement has somehow stick in my mind..YOU TRAIN PEOPLE HOW TO TREAR YOU.Thanks very much once again😊

shitmandood - I'm not the expert here, just answering because I see nobody answered you in 7 mos. Maybe your problem has resolved by now? Certain sense of humor turns some people off? Though shitmandood is funny to you and some, it tells others that you don't value you, by being disrespectful to yourself. People tend to avoid those that they don't want to continue to associate with. In the beginning they didn't really knew you and maybe latter something in your personality or behavior turned them off? You could guess all kinds of things, but the only way to know is to ask one of those friends to be honest and tell you why they ignore you, and what about you turns them off, this way you can try to improve yourself if that is what you choose. On the other hand if you are happy with the way you are, just be yourself and find those who can appreciate and accept you for who you are, we can't please everyone all of the time. Hope I didn't offend you, just trying to help, best regards!

There's no way I can answer that for you. However, you may want to look inside yourself and become aware of what you're projecting externally. Take one of those situations and rewind the video in your mind and find the intent you expressed just before someone got competitive with you.

NLP Gym Ok thanks! I'll be mindful of that

Peacocks flock together.

Taran Marduk OK so you mean it's a reflection of my own internal state possibly? I dont know,I honestly and practice my killer instinct but try to use it in a focused way.

Without knowing the situation it's hard to say. However, if whatever happened still bothers you and you need to find peace with it and you feel like going to the person and telling them that whatever they did was not okay, go for it. It might serve two purposes; letting them know that what they did wasn't okay and that you won't tolerate being treated like that in the future and you can make peace with it so you're no longer burdened memory. You might even start the conversation with "I know this happened over a month ago but I need to get this off my chest..."

I decided to not say anything; I will be ready for the next time. I've noticed it's harder to set boundaries that stick with siblings. Is that the historical issue you mentioned? (I mean, siblings grow up together and fall back onto old childlike ways and I take responsibility for that old childish behavior and have tried to change that dynamic in my interactions with siblings). With one sister I've noticed a cycle of abuse and manipulation for all 5 of us siblings and she is the master manipulator and perpetuator of this cycle: either you agree with her and are "in" and treated nicely or you disagree with her and you are "out" and mistreated. Over the years, I've set boundaries with her, but she continues to overstep. I will continue to calmly state my statement like you suggest. You have shown me that it's important to clearly state what is OK and is not OK. I feel she feels my internal shift already. "It is not ok for you to respond to me via text or any form of communication in a rude manner no matter what the circumstances. I expect you to reply to me with respect and consideration." Thank you, Damon.

Yes with siblings and parents it can be very hard no matter how old you are to break the patterns of mistreatment. It's so important though to do this. Otherwise they will continue to categorize you in their minds the way they want you to be and their behavior toward you will reflect that. When you know where your boundaries are and you start telling them when they've overstepped, it will surprise them. Sometimes they'll get angry, but in most cases I've dealt with standing up to bullies they back down and while they may test the boundary again they're likely not to.

I'm not sure I understand your question. Someone stole something from you and they won't talk to you and you want to know what to do?

I use a raised voice as an example in this video, which is when a person is raising their voice to intimidate or try to push you to get what they want. That's different than a person who just speaks loudly.

Thank you for the clarification.

I don't understand what you are trying to say. But I'd love to know.

Nothing personal to you and I think i said it. take care

About the titles though 'how to train people to treat you well' do you think that is a admirable tag ? I came across it and it made me comment. BTW trained by Tad James. In the 'game for seven years. I know your are just trying to make a living and I will bow out now. Best of luck

@@alanballsshinpad3069 I think the tag is fine. I mean yes the word "train" well sounds bad. That's what you do with a dog. If you told someone "I'm training you to treat me well" it would be offensive. But I get what he actually means. He's trying to emphasize it's on the victim to take control of the situation and create boundaries. And the actual content is really good. I think it gives great advice for someone who is struggling with someone who mistreats them. You help yourself put into words the way you don't want to be treated and own that and become aware of it. Then you go in prepared not only with how you don't want to be treated but with what alternative behavior is better. I think it's a fantastic strategy and I'm glad he made this video. So far as a moneymaking scam, where is the scam? He's giving good advice that actually helps people, and people are getting it for free. It's a win for everyone and I for one much appreciated the video. If you were actually scammed it would be helpful to share some more details. Because otherwise you're kind of making empty statements without any more detail to explain yourself. It might help someone else avoid a bad situation if you shared.

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