1. DIRECT VERBAL CHALLENGE A. Agree and exaggerate it B. Ignore it completely C. Take it as a huge complement 2. JEALOUSY TEST A. Don’t react negatively 3. FAVORS TEST A. Don’t be easy, ask her to do a favor too. B. Politely decline her big favor at the beginning stage 4. FLAKE TEST A. She’s not interested in you B. She could be testing you C. Emergency came up (rare to happen) Response positively, be cool about and let her re-engage with you. Gentlemen, be cool and don’t be an easy prey. All the best.
The big favor part is really crappy. I declined a friend/date who is a model and way too ego-oriented who asked me to pick up a dress for her, to which I politely declined. She once left a bra in my backpack and I returned it to her job as a package deliverer... I think that beyond the occasional sex, nothing good is coming out of that and I only have that purpose as well. Such a bad thing.
If a woman tries to make me jealous by telling him how awesome her ex is, where he took her, what he drives or how much he spent on her...I would say, that’s nice...you should get back with him he sounds awesome...and watch how they react lol
Yeah well I simply told one girl after about 3 weeks that ,no I'm done trying to impress you if your not interested or if you dont know that your going to stay with me by now. I guess you should leave. I'm not going to compete so make up your mind so she stuck around for about another month and I say so be it .good by .
@@Shitaljit2 it’s natural for us to test each other. We do this unconsciously rather we know it or not. That’s the nature of masculine and feminine relationships. Wouldn’t you think that we both want to see if the other is worthy. There is a really good book that’s I’ve read it’s called the way of the superior man. It’s available on RU-vid as an audiobook. It’s a great book that gives great insight on masculine and feminine interactions
Im a woman and just realized I do numbers 1 and 3 often, subconsciously. But I never do the jealousy test that’s childish and a red flag imo. I only “flake” for an emergency and I’ll always offer to reschedule if I’m interested.
My rule is this: If she cancels, then I will not ask her out again. It is then up to her to make it up to me by asking me out. Just like sales negotiations, always be prepared to walk away.
essess essess finally some guy with a pair of balls in these pua videos to say that today's women are frauds!we shouldn't change who we are and have to play childish mind games just to get a girlfriend!before feminism almost everybody got a partner. Now its almost impossible to dos with how picky and bitchy women have gotten!
SaintTrinianz. Don't care, don't want them. If I can't get a quality woman with old fashioned morals better to be alone. The little enjoyment upfront isn't worth a lifetime of suffering, which I witnessed others have first hand.
alb12345672 I agree with you completely! Of course a woman with old fashioned morals wants a man with old fashioned morals, not someone who disappears in a cloud of disappointment and disgust as soon as he realizes she has too much self respect to be his fuck buddy* or to ever want to be with a good old fashioned fucker. This is why I am hard working, independent. celibate and relatively content. I still like men but none of them seem to want to be friends unless there will be sex. *FB fine print: Good enough to fuck until someone new comes along. Fuckers are only capable of fucking each other up. It’s no mystery, just the nature of the relationship...
+SaintTrinianz. I don't believe in any double standards and I totally believe in dating without sex until things are very serious (e.g. considering person for lifetime partner). Sex and dating are separate, you can have sex without dating someone and vice versa. If I can't build a deep friendship with a woman I'm only going to be heartbroken and more depressed than I am. Obviously I'm not a "catch" for many modern women, but I know the quality of women that DID want me. I do not like fuckbuddy arrangements, I truly believe it is special for two people to share for a lifetime. I am also health conscious and don't want to go there. I'm generation X, so I'm a bit older too. I was raised mostly by women, so maybe that worked against me. A woman with more than a handful (preferably NONE) sex partners could never pairbond. The guy is never special. I mean, people are concerned about buying a used car with more than 2-3 owners, and you can cut your losses from that quickly. Maybe not the best analogy but some things are just not meant to be passed around. I don't judge anyone for doing what they do but I have my preferences.
On my second date with now my wife I said to her... We both grown ass adult, if you want to know something, just ask... but be prepared if you can't handle the answer you dont want to hear, then don"t ask. She was telling me her ex was this and that... I stopped her right there and then I said Im not here to compete with someone who cant keep a woman, and I definately dont want to be with someone that cant keep a man who she thinks so highly of... She later told me she fell in love with me at the moment...
Best way to handle it, You find her interesting, you know she’s playing it hard. Keep her in the cycle, aka have other females to talk to. To ease the pain.
What do you mean if she wants to play mind games? It is not that they plan this all night long, it just comes absolutely naturally for them. It is something you can not avoid because eventually ALL women will make you this kind of comments. They do not really think "Ok, I will tell him this to see how he reacts", she just says it and if you react in a negative way this is where she starts thinking "WTF is wrong with him??". And yes, it s a fact that the most you don't give a shit about anything negative happening and you make fun of that, the more she will like you and the better time you will have together.
It's a subconscious system. Women can do it in their sleep. There is a very good reason women test guys for weakness. If you aren't gonna be the emotionally strong protector, she will have better things to do aswell.
Whenever a woman challenges me I just look at her straight in the face and say "sure".. and then I let her deal with the shock factor that I don't give 2 shi@$ and I move on with my day. The next time I see her I see that she see's me as a no-nonsense type guy and a deeper sense of respect for me. End of story.
I am constantly in awe at how much we men have to look out for when dating a woman...being nice isnt enough, doing favors is bad, practically everything will make her lose respect for me, bending backwards and being chivalrous makes u look like a beta, and now there are fucking ‘subconscious’ tests as well. And money is big factor for them as well...seriously
@@phytorjackpack5543 true.Like when she cant pay the bilsl dont just say thats ok honey.Get on her about it cause if you dont she will just stop paying for good
This guy is legit. If I remember correctly, he actually went to a university for this stuff. Very smart guy. I have shown a friend or two to this channel. They have already bought his book.
We were new dating friends...she asked for help..she was moving to a different apartment. Helped her two whole days. On third day asked her to give me a full dinner treat. Later at her new apartment again told her I needed beer. She agreed. We end up sleeping together. So, a big help can land you good.
The jealousy test is an interesting one, until now I didn't know about it. My ex-used it on me and it completely messed with my head coursing retro-active jealousy. Wish I had seen this video a while ago! Keep them coming.
Modalsoul - Mature women do test men. They test when they doubt our masculine core. Then can't help it. Testing and immature game playing are completely different. One is a concious response. The other is an unconsious response.
Cheese Face well even if your right , what gives her the right to do that? I'm sorry but I wasn't put here to live up to a woman's unrealistic standards. I Like her, she likes me , that should be enough.
Some testing is a good thing. As the video says, it is to gain respect for one another which is fine, because you want to see if that person is going to be there for you and if they are confident or not. But constantly testing is not okay and can be taxing, especially if you do not realize it.
A lot of these dating advice channels are b.s. but this one is spot on! I know I know but for me and my experiences this is pure gold. Agree 100%. I realized that I failed their tests but only because I thought “naw she’s not playing games or testing me” but in fact consciously and subconsciously it was happening and I had a gut feeling but didn’t go with my gut feeling when I should’ve. Now I know and knowing is half the battle...Go Joe!!
"S-Tests" are good for the guy too, because they tell you more about the particular nature of each specific woman. Here are the ways I'd advise to respond to these 4 tests.. 1). Direct Verbal Challenges: You simply respond authentically. And, if you [authentically] get emotionally bent out of shape from her verbal challenges, then this means you may not be adequately equipped to handle a relationship with this particular woman. Because, these tests are indicative of who this woman is and what there's likely to be more of. So, if you inauthentically "pass" her tests, you will eventually fail them in the future, bcuz the authentic "you" is not equipt to handle everything that comes with her. This "authenticity" rule applies to all 4 tests. 2). Jealousy Test: Speak up and voice if you were uncomfortable with her behavior and you felt it was inappropriate. Respectfully state your feelings and boundaries. Give her the opportunity to decide if she's willing to respect and agree to your boundaries. If not, then you know she's not the right woman for you. Thence, you've saved the both of you time, headaches and possible heartaches. And, you'll have eloquently done so whilst honoring and maintaining your own sense of dignity. 3). Favors Test: If favors become too big, too frequent, or inappropriate, then let her know how you feel. Then, allow her to decide if she's willing to respect your feelings and boundaries, or not. If she does like you and/or respect you enough, then she'll stop asking for these favors. If she doesn't stop, then simply let her know that you won't tolerate it and she'll have to either change her behavior, or you'll have to end things with her. Then, the ball is in her court. (And, you'll maintain your power and your dignity). 4). Flake Test: Respond exactly the same way as the "favors test". Be reasonable and fair. But, express how you feel if it's crossed the line into disrespectful behavior (whether being excessively late with no calls, or making excuses, or being frequently late). Whenever she begins displaying disrespectful behavior in any way, respectfully let her know that it's not okay, and it won't be tolerated. Then, it's up to her to decide if she's willing to put in the extra effort to change her behavior. If she's not, then you know that you aren't that important to her, and you can simply cut ties with her. This way you'll prevent yourself from wasting any extra time with the wrong person.
It looks like they enjoy narccistic abuse tacticts. The better looking they are, the more games they play. When they play their stupid games too long, they end up long in the tooth and then become lonely cat women. Karma can also be a bitch.
Be wary of the 'princess test' as my step-mother calls it... the idea is basically a knight devotes his life to a princess and to prove his faith she tosses a napkin into a pit of dragons telling him to get it. She doesn't value your life and is just testing to see how far you'll go until you break.
omg...such a dishonest diplomatic society we live in... Why can't we both males and females just be honest, simple and lovely just from the first meeting. This whole strategic bullshit is so annoying.
There's seems so much to think about but a lot of it is actually quite simple, its just the patience , maybe us guys can be impatient , even if we a bit older. Its always the worry if you have met someone and you really interested, you consider the possibility she might find another guy or not tell you everything. Especially if you haven't known her that long, its all a matter of time to develop the trust loyalty, honesty, and of course playing all your cards right by not seeming weak, or not confident. Trying to get through that first stage to give the best impression and do as much as right as possible.
Right on target! She tested me with all 4 of them and 2 years later we are still together. My suggestion remain calm and don't say much...that's how I did it.
I remember that a girl and I were going to hang out but she tried to flake. When she said “Oh I can’t make it because...” an hour before, I left her in open for about a half hour and when I checked my phone, she left me three messages. We ended up hanging out and catching up. Ahhh living the life!
But for how long? She will keep pushing it. If I'm out with a girl and she wants to make me jealous, i disappear. Literally I leave. And I hope I drove. It's the best.
My fiancée has never “tested me” by talking up her exes or flirting with other men. I’m perfectly comfortable with her having male friends but if she did something like that in front of me to “test me” we wouldn’t have made it this far. Don’t stand for shit off psycho women everybody
Wow. 18 minutes of my life I can't get back. The moral of the story here gents, is DO NOT TOLERATE THE BAD BEHAVIOR OF OTHERS, regardless of their genitals. Tests are reserved for the Department of Motor Vehicles and school buildings, not casual interactions with the opposite sex.
Yeah i dont play that shit either. Ive left chicks at the bar without a ride plenty of times. Shell be calling you back in no time, usually wanting to get smashed
exact my style bro. but... speaking to other women, while your date speaks to other guys gets you laid faster tho. either with your date later ir with some new woman - just be proactive!😎✌️
I've found most communication with women is a test and I find myself doing similar tests with them (just never as intense) sort of fun but must be cautious of what I find!
I wish before I got married I would have not only HEARD this info, but STUDIED it and made it apart from my fabric. It’s still good to modify and employ these tactics.
Both genders test each other when you're dating. It's part of getting to know one another. Or you can be straight up and tell her what you feel. Why any one settles for someone they have to walk on eggshells for, is beyond me. Her, "You're lame." Me, "You aren't funny, learn some manners." If you let her get away with rudeness aka bs. That's how she'll be for all of the relationship.
That favor thing is cultural. Obviously this is mostly aimed at Americans, but in places like in Korea it's basic customary for a date or boyfriend to hold the women's things. It is not seen as weak or submissive but carrying and kind. I can't imagine asking my girlfriend to get me something every time she asks me to hold something for her. That's just so American;
We do different types of tests on women. They usually begin with a cavity sizing exercise. Then move onto a throat depth test. There are lots of measurements to be taken first..
Sounds like your telling guys to be a bata blue pill doormat. Not a chance in hell will I ever except a "challenge". Women doing that mess is showing a total disrespect for the man.
Thanku so much, but now i understood that i did everything reverse what you suggested to do. She doesn't texting me or calling me as she did earlier. Please give me some suggestions to get her back. Now I'm not forcing her to call me or text me, I haven't calling /texting her right now and just waiting for her call.
Yes, they are all bonkers. Just live your life as you wish and some will attach themselves to you like burrs. Enjoy them, but don't waste too much energy on them
Omg. So much of this makes sense. Just trying to get to know someone as I'm very interested in her but don't want to keep making the same mistakes as before.
There's just waaaaaay too much room for backfire when one reacts in an uncharacteristic manner. Jealousy is not always a bad thing. I know a lot of ppl- women and men who tried to be the cool gf/bf (by not reacting to threats and cheating behaviours from the other person) just to find out the person was a serial cheater. Cheaters and players watch these videos too.
Just walk away if it happens. Keep out of sight if it's possible for a couple of weeks or months. When you make yourself present the way she responds will be your test on her.
WHAT??? If she test you it's because she likes you???? I'm sorry, but I couldn't get pass that part of this video!! People, Learning a person is much more Humanly valuable than testing a person. Testing only means "How much of yourself are you willing to give-up" to have me and to be totally controlled by me!!! Learning simply means "I like your direction, it's very similar to mine and I need to figure-out how/if I want this person to be in my life. I just watched a video entitled "What women want in bed" or something similar to that. It's funny how the person who made that video didn't mention that most women perhaps like herself date/marry men whom they are NOT sexually compatible with, but has the great job and can be a great provider. Now they're begging men to touch them in the right places and understand their sexual needs which can only happen with a "Side Dish"!!! People, I've said it once and I'll say it again....."SEXBOTS" SALES ARE ON THE RISE!!
U think u made a good point about "Girl testing" its cause she "likes you"...not cause she is "interested in".... its a huge difference, when it depends if she is a good girl !!! or a bad bitch gold duggar/player for fun!!! by doing her favors u will downgrade urself on her eyes as a tool she can use any time she want just a "thing" #sexgayslave for her entertaining, not suppose to love u ? AT ALL or willing to get attached specially when she give u silent treatment and see u go crazy or not caring, adding more and more games passing it or not... u dont get its for her fun to do that x,D making things spicy, more luck and showing her ur strong being urself will change that, but that doesnt mean u be a tool and get nothing back for fun too x,D
LOL! Me: *Sees his potential girlfriend talking to another guy* *My inner voice says, just remain calm and take several deep breaths* Me: *It's just her brother, or cousin. I am going to talk to another chick* *Talks to another chick* *My potential girlfriend finishes talking to that guy and comes back to me* Potential girlfriend: Hey, sorry, that was my brother. Something happened to his car and he wanted me to tell the rest of our family about it. I noticed you weren't jealous though. Who was that other girl you were speaking to? Me: *An old colleague from High School* Potential girlfriend: Really? Are you just friends? Me: Yeah why? Potential girlfriend: Nothing. Just curious. *In her thoughts: Good because I want you to be my boyfriend*
@@bigcheech1937 You got it! Talk about a learning lesson! It's still mind boggling to me though that a woman can say something, and its ok to do, but if a guy says the same thing, he's weird, clingy, lovey dovey, etc. etc.
@@twolf7580 They not us brother. If you go hunt, you have to understand how your prey thinks. Unfortunately when I catch myself simping, I realize I'm not hunting right. Ya dig?
@@bigcheech1937 Lol oh yeah, I get what your sayin! Ive learned my lesson as far as that goes! I'm no longer giving ladies that (undeserved) attention! I was just allowing myself to get played!
Once a woman pretended to be pregnant after dating a few time just to test how interested I was. That was completely fucked up. The more psicological needs a woman has, the more she will demand from you. There is a limit for everything; take that into account.
Charbel Younes - You obviously wasn't listening. If she tests you, it means she is interested. So if she puts you down (test) - interested. If she asks you to hold her bag or help her move (test) - interested. If she talks positively about ex boyfriends, other guys, or flirts with other guys in front of you (test) - interested. The only one that is uncertain is when she flakes. She's either telling the truth, testing you, or she is not interested. The only way you can know is just by handling it correctly by being cool with it then letting her go and not chasing her. So say she flakes but offers another day? Then it is genuine and she is interested. If she doesn't offer another day, she is either testing you or is not interested. To know for sure you have to let her go. If she re-engages you in the future, it means it was a test and you past, she's interested. If you never hear from her again, it means she was uninterested. It's really simple. I don't know what you find confusing about it. Uninterested = No tests, just a friendly vibe from her, or she'll ignore you all together. She wont ask for favours, and she wont try to make you jealous. She wont agree to definite plans, will flake without offering another day (may be a test) And you'll never hear from her again.
Cheese Face Thank you very much. Yes I listened to evry detail in this video. I'm actually dealing with a girl who seems to be very interested when communicating face to face, but otherwise she doesnt text me (she's very neutral when I text her first, and I dont like texting). I asked her out one day and she didnt make it, nor told me the day after about it. So I think she's not interested.
when she tries to make you jealous by talking about other guys, just start coughing and act like your gonna puke and when shes like o whats wrong you say your allergic to bullshit... lol
This is why dating multiple women is a good thing, makes you really not need them when they play these fucking games. I did not know a lot of this shit in my early 20s, but I did it just by sheer luck of having other women to date, not giving a fuck because I worked out, had a good solid paying job, and a Harley. But in the end it is just fucking and dumping.
Yeah its just acting in the moment in her own benefit. Nothing intelligent about it. The intelligence comes from a man how to deal with it without losing her or losing your own worth
And what if I failed that jealousy test only tell her how special she is to me 😉. People may not see it like that in our time but... loyalty and commitment is a strong factor
listen to me folks: go to school/college/church, don't waste time using these lame tactics to attract no-good women. be just aware of these tactics. If you meet the right woman of your level, you use the best tactics: genuine heart
mz z dont start a. comment with " listen to me folks" unless you just enjoy making a scene for the. drama lovers. plus genuine hearts arent worth shit. you welcome
I came here to first watch and then read the comments. Bc my gf didn't really do any of these things and I am happy to observe that other guys agree that this is nonesense. Sure, there might be some girls who do that but if you choose a cute one, she will be just happy with you :)
This is exactly why I ( a woman ) cheated on my ex because he always " politely " refused to help me. So, i went ahead and had sex with " a good guy" who understood that i had no friends and other exes from the friend zone to help me to move to other place. He despite all this bs ended being a real guy, who just helped me to move.
Thats what was happening to me at work. My co worker stay riding me at work. I FELT she liked me cause she's always saying something slick, but I never responded the right way. Don't want her anyway but just knowing how to handle that situation is cool. Thanks..
