Psychological Tricks: How To Spot a Liar | How To Read Anyone Instantly |David Snyder NLP-Skills 

Those people paid a lot of money not to pay attention... I got this video for free and I paid with my attention...

4:04 Personal story, fear response 5:47 patterns tend to repeat 7:55 people don't believe lies cuz they have to, they do so cuz they want to 9:42 types of lies (lies of omission, misdirection, influence/perception) omission and influence are most common LoInf move u off target. 11:05 presenting problem is always a lie cuz this is the symptom not the root cause 12:11 triune brain Reptile brain (survival, reproduction, social needs, food) 12:35 three questions or lose interest (is it a threat? Can I mate with it? Do I eat it? At first time interactions) 14:01 Sizing up, reptilian brain status appraisal As a social being, society protecys Hugh status members even in modern culture this is why were driven to earn approval or appraisal of money, status, more beauty, physical resources, more power (status madkers) used by reptilian brain status appraisal to assess (sizing up) We lie to satisfy primal drives Survival based social needs chz ostracization from group= death, extinction 16:08 women and the pesky mechanic 17:54 activate primal drive = 20 mins of attention 18:43 3 Is (identity, intelligence, influence) Most powerful indicator of results u pfoduce in life is foundation of identity, yours and who u interact with. Are u the leader or the follower? The outcast? The herf leader or follower 19:39 when primal drive need is satisfied, reptilian brain generates emotion ie positive or negative stress, when that stress hits, everything you pay attention to, think is important, changes 20:10 mocroexpressions, 1/25th of second appear disappear, usually not controllable by acrdage person 21:07 emotional refractory period. People wanna believe lies for the emotional payoff Neocortex 22:44 drive (reptilian, Unconscious) creates emofions (emotional) and u generate a story (pfc) to rationalize it to yourself, to God, to society u live in The story, rationalization have nothing to do with the real issue, but they sound good eg losing weight (presenting problem, cortex) has to do with gaining weight to be not attractive (real problem, unconscious mind, drive) Accessing unconscious mind by altering state of consciousness 24:25 Rational Brain is linear thinker, controls most of internal voices 24:52 Reptilian Brian doesn't lie. Most of the time emotional Brian doesn't, tho it tries Lying is when we manipulate the process that helps escape the consequences of our actions, when we try consciously control the process of modulation of drives. Looking for lies is to look for stesd response (body signals away from equilibrium) 27:35 pearl formation as metaphor (pearl is made when smth irritating is in an oyster like a grain of sand. By the end, it's covered by a substance created by oyster till it becomes a pearl. So u have primal drive, wants to sagidy need, wrap emotion after emotion and rationalization and rationalization till the thing u defend (ur story) has nothing to do with the real drive or thing (grain of sand) 30:12 enlightenment (not to look for something outside of u, but to be more aware to reality, removing illusions, clearing the perceptual filters) 32:37 act of fomtrolling emotional response to lying allows it to be detected.using rational brain We confeal info, distort it, generalize it preconsciously to communicate 34:49 find out normal mode of behavior or baseline. (Nonverbal cues deviation from their normal) Interrogation vs interview = more stress, the faster u lose control of body, fave, hand, words, (conscious mind). All lies incur some stress 36:11 self soothing behavior to alleviate stress psychologically or physically distance. Depending on time to prepare, consequence of being caught lying, emotional involvement in issue, whether good at lying or not, wanna lie or not 36:43 cluster rule (no single cue by itself means anything) Clusters of cues interpretation depends on ur perceptual filters, what u attribute to the person ur observing, depending on ur emotional state too 37:40 u don't get a signal before an emotional state change. U realise 10-15 secs wktin it, then it's too late so u then try to control the emotion using shoulding (conscious mind control) and ur body gives it away! The body doesn't lie 38:33 to detect lies, start from feet up (not words, face) 39:51 clue 1: sudden obvious emotional response, can be Unconscious (childhood, memory). Per emotional refractory period, this new emotional state will change what u focus on, so triggers

Being raised by a narcissist taught me very early life long lessons in bullshit detection

"There are only two ways to be decieved. One is to believe a lie. The other is to refuse to believe the truth."

I would love to hear this with no interruptions...amazing talk...thanks

Thank you Dr. Snyder for making your trainings available to the public. Also, "Lie to me" is a great show! So great you value humor so much. Thanks again.

"Just remember: it's not a lie... if you believe it..." - George Castanza

The fact that you guys put all this information online I will forever be thankful.. and David I will forever be thankful from a distance until I am rich enough to travel to where ever you are to attend your training's.

I loved Quincey as a kid. Other children thought I was a weirdo. This is a great talk , im glad I found you.

This was fascinating. In the world of social media, online dating, I wonder how this all relates to only hearing a voice on the phone, texting, or seeing written words from someone. Hmmmmmmm

Everyone is complaining about the interruptions from the audience, but the interaction between the teacher and the learners is really important in the process of learning. It made the video difficult for us at home to watch, because we couldnt join in, but for those in the room and for the teacher, it makes the experience relevant to them and holds their attention. The teacher would have welcomed the interruptions because it shows him his audience is paying attention and his teaching feeds off their participation.

I cannot thank you enough, David! I wish I would have known this information years ago! So grateful I've found this to share with my family, especially my daughter!

I wax married to a narcissist. I wish I had known this stuff then. Good video. I’m on a constant watch ever since I found out the type of monster I was dealing with.

David I just want to say these videos are great! You present the material in a clear and practical way that is easy to apply even for a novice. You also present the material in a way that keeps me (and I'm sure many others) keenly interested. I hope you continue posting new material. The topics you cover are fascinating particularly when you see first hand the changes that occur upon application of the techniques you teach. Great job!

Thank you David, for sharing so much of your awareness. I enjoyed your class!

you are amazing! Thank you for this delightful course

Extremely insightful, loved your touching on enlightenment, especially when it came to the outside versus the inside, and removing the filters around us. It is where I find my "thin places" and have experienced true forgiveness for those who have harmed me. So freeing...thank you David Snyder. I'm one of your newest fans. Namaste.

Man, you are good... now I can see how I come to the realization on the result of what's going on in my personal "situation". Thanks.

Wow!!! Where to start? Every word is PACKED with voluminous information. You included all the summarized background (from lots of great insight by a lot of predecessors) and parameters for each logical step. And you spoke slowly at each of the really deep and important sentences to make sure we got every word. (I'm only on minute 41.) I'm working in a "political" arena, and deeply trying to understand the "narcissistic abuse(r)" I left 8 months ago. Thank you very much for sharing!! I am deeply grateful [another emotional spike!]!

Your'e such a wonderful presenter. I actually stumbled across this video by accident. Im now subscribed and will be watching any other of your videos i can find. Very engaging, loved it. Thank you.

I enjoyed your presentation so much I reviewed it 3 times. I really wish some members of the audience would of allowed David to speak without the constant interruptions.

Thank you. I have the hyper acuity also. I’m learning to take what feels like a burden into a super power.

Great class. I love the examples where you do not just explain an example but also act it out. I can see your martial arts background when doing that. Many times in martial arts, that is how it is taught. It may not be done so much in a large martial arts class, but when someone is use to teaching martial arts one on one. Then that teaching method can evolve to more than one, and to larger and larger groups.

This is the very first video I watched that I didn't shut off after 20 minutes! Excellent, thank you!

WTF? OK HAVE I GOT YOUR ATTENTION? I'm 26:00 minutes in and I started reading comments cuz I was less distracted than watching all the children who could not control themselves wiggle around and I have to say Have we really become this SELFISH and critical? This man is an 8th Degree blackbelt! Hello! I'm surprised he is still on the ground. That's hardcore. I'm a psychiatric R.N. specializing in Forensics. This is VALUABLE information! Believe me. I work in a maximum security Facility for the criminally insane. The most interesting piece of information I'll share is, The patients aren't as dangerous as some of my coworkers are. Truth.

I love this, thank you very much for sharing this.. consider making some alone videos, without these people interrupting you...👏👏👏👏

I have only stumbled into this course of topic by accident and find this utterly fascinating . Thanks

Fascinating! This is the most useful vid I have ever seen or heard on RU-vid!

for those complaining about quality. It's free. If you want high quality then go to David's website and buy the premium stuff LOL

David I would love to see this talk in a TedTalk format, so that the information is streamlined and easier to see how things interact with other things. It's hard to follow and see the whole package with so many interruptions.

This is great!!! I am a survivor of a Narcissistic sociopath. I totally understand you.

That was a great lecture! Thank you so much for sharing. Now to find more of your lectures.... Best regards from Western Australia 😊

Prince Andrew's interview with Emily Maitlis brought me here 🤔

Awesome Information! Thank You! I am still looking for the psychopathy speech?

Great talks, really enjoying the delivery, very easy to listen to & absorb.

Great information in this, on so many levels, obviously this lecturer has both knowledge and experience.

Thank You for posting this video. I found the information to be interesting and useful. It would be more helpful if the questions by the students were held until the end of the class.

A reptile brain is the strongest in a young child, "Mommy, why does that lady have a mustache?"

I think this is one of the best videos you have done. I do like it. It is packed with tidbits of information. A lot of hidden goodies in there also. Good, and thank you.

Great content. Thanks for putting this together.

I loved the video, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. The audience, however, was way too distracting and the questions detracted so much. I hope your future videos save the questions for the end. It was that damaging to an otherwise excellent class.

Everyone who is complaining about the audience input: David clearly opens up and invites people to ask questions and calls on people to answer them as well. He knows how boring a lecture where someone just talks at you is. The fact that there is so much interaction shows how good he is at making a whole audience of people feel comfortable. He is not bothered by people participating with him at all, in fact he initiates it. If you find this interaction distracting then I think you might be missing some secret knowledge in the video, which is about understanding the mechanics of people in general, not just about "spotting a liar". People would have walked away from this talk feeling energised and more inclined to open up discussion with each other. This is proper teaching IMO.

Fantastic in so many ways...I'm planning on watching till I catch it all verbatim. I know a great deal of what's being discussed through books I've read but love how it's all being threaded together here

Absolutely enjoyed this video! Very informative and valuable information!

You're amazing. Period.

Hello David.may I make a suggestion? Your talk was interesting but disjointed because of so many interuptions of questions and comments from audience members. May I suggest you ask audience members to wait untill the end of your presentation and THEN discuss and ask their questions.... I found all the questions and comments frustrating because I wanted to hear your presentation..thanks..

Very good first time i have ever taken nots all the way through any video , so intriguing YOU ARE VERY SKILLED {from my perspective] looking forward to part two!!!!THANKYOU

To all the people complaining about the audience speaking - this was presented as an interactive course not a lecture. Unlike us watching on RU-vid these people probably paid for the course - so they could ask questions

Thank you David for your presentation , I love how you brought humor to it . I hope to see you on a TED TALK soon, you are a wonderful facilitator.

Hold on with the side comments, I'm still listening to the teacher still.

Great class, good useful tips. Thank You!

Hi David, I just found this video. Wow very powerful. Thank you David, hope your life is happy, good and full.

After around an hour you realised you had psychopaths in your audience. (More than 4%) How Interesting. Well played.

Holy crap out of the videos I've watched of his so far this is the most immature, rudest audience. These people just cannot handle the information. I've never been to or watched a workshop where people have interrupted the speaker so much. Do these adults realize how rude that is! Damn.

Love the S.ecret H.idden I.nfluence T.echnicque protocol analysis

Definitely an entertaining and very interesting presentation. These sorts of lessons are needed, thank you for posting this and educating us more 👍

Definitely need to have people hold their questions until the end. The people spoke more than the guy did!

I'm surprised at the number of people arriving late and disrupting the audience and speaker. Totally rude, man.

Great video, thank you! So much good info., I saved it so I could watch it again and subbed.. Looking forward to more like this. I appreciate your calm confidence..Thanks again.

Amazing session! You are truly a fantastic coach and an extremely funny person 😊

Does culture play into this ?Police tend to think native americans are lying when they do not look into thier eyes when speaking to them.Traditionaly it is a sign of respect to elders to not make eye contact .How is this universal ,when cultures have completely different body language in regards to communication.

Greg Walker9 months ago "my god let david talk... iam so angry at the audience ... stfu and listen" Roger that!

I really enjoy watching all your videos.Blessed be . keep on teaching

How right he is on the suject. I love nothing more then learning the bodies tells.so many amazing facts.thank you

@ TheBob19d ... Yes, In a manner of speaking you are "pacing" but you are doing it from their perspective, NLP would call it "mind reading" liars are looking for allies and rationales that get them off the hook by justifying their actions or placing the blame on someone else. when an interrogator/interviewer is "befriending/pacing" the subject He is offering the liar an illusion of alliance and handing them a series of plausible justifications that liar can latch on too. What the liar often doesn't realize is that "any" admission of guilt, or re-framing of their story tells the interviewer a lot more than the subject realizes. The interviewer if he can't get a confession will start to look for bargaining behaviors, and other "tell tale signs" the subject is being deceptive.

Thank you, for sharing this knowledge. Because this series of seminars are available free of charge, what follows should not be interpreted as ingratitude. It is frustration. Within the first minute, it is obvious Mr. Snyder is an exceptionally well versed professional. The constant questions that interrupt his train of thought are extremely distracting. In the future, perhaps questions should be presented at the close of the seminar, with attendees jotting down their thoughts to remind them of their queries. I found the interruptions extremely disrespectful and the Professor's willingness to engage these individuals an exercise in patience and tolerance.

Ive been a mechanic professionally for over 3 decades and interacting with many walks of life about their vehicle needs has been a natural thing for me as I win people over by exampling the truth of what was found or diagnosed yet in that arena so many times Ive found the stripped down truth that you cant make any drink the water your offering due to a multitude of things be it inability to comprehend the mechanical failure or the absence of initial trust from being told lies prior or cheated out of extra money in a maliscious fashion by dishonest ethics practiced to gain from greed, and several other factors, like their own knowledge where mistrained or poorly understood even partially knowledged thinking where applying a repair or action excecuted could lead to further or instant damaged products now being the "why" they are before your services needed. Where one thinks they know a possible conflict could easily rise and lead two to disagreeing and both lose an opportunity to help each other in a cordisl integral manner. Some even deny their mistakes and beleive in no wrong done as well as lies told to me the mechanic they sought out skilled help from. It is seen prominently and mechanics often take the brunt of the common thought of being one of dishonesty. The way to recognize the truth is certainly by recognizing also the patterns that humans or creatures of habit will express. One word strikes home more than any other and that is in my mind "observation" Seeing patterns is indeed the truth of your now reality where engaging in and with others, groups create a different setting and younger persons will often opinion why this or why not that or ask as if entitled the price is too high or how do we know this fixes their problem. First of all we are not them or your party or you and I will fix the issue based upon my training efforted to learn troubleshooting and problem solving skills and awareness. Proper diagnostics do solve issues when you put effort in doing so. The family teenagers will not fix the issue but they will influence stress and interfere with dear old dads mindset as he didnt want to drive to the dealer shop in the first place and he figures alot and wants to leave and shove ice cream in his young broods faces so they can return and think with me again how we find a useful solution to his dilemma and now were getting closer to helping each other. Pattern recognition is an awesome tool I highly commend its awareness by observing simply listening and having stoic patience and remarking only enough to apply a solution that increases trust and potential retained business. I hope the awareness increases in those who need it most, thank you Dr. Snyder your videos are wonderful ingormative skills that helped me increase all of these skills, your appreciated sir.

Great voice. Love your humor,energy. Great info.

David, would love 2 hear u give a lecture on narcissist & narcissistic behavior. What R the differences & how 2 recognize if some1 or even urself is a Narc. Love ur info & presentation! Thanks 4 sharing

I've lived long enough to have come into contact with some really professional liars. Some con artists are so good that they fool even the most savvy of us. My con artist was "Per" from Norway. He told me he arrived in this country with $10 in his pocket and now had four companies, a couple of houses, etc. He drove an expensive car and was exceptionally good looking and charming, which is why I got taken in. I was in Mexico City some years ago, and there was a woman with four small children asking for money. I gave her some. The following day, I saw the same woman on a different corner with four different children. I learned the hard way never to trust anybody. Sad commentary on human nature.

Just stumbled upon your videos. Super fascinating. Loved the show Lie to Me. Definitely one of my all time favorite shows

He is a very good public speaker and teacher... I love his humour... Pretty intelligent guy... Yes, we do believe what we want to be believe...

Too many people interrupting with personal questions. It’s very disruptive to the flow of information in this presentation.

My right ear did not learn any thing!

HELLO!From Australia my first video VERY EXCITED to listen in today

This is brilliant, thank you, this is really helpful

A person isnt lying because they say, "I'm 50 pounds overweight and would like help losing weight." That could be 100% true. Just because the weight is a symptom of something doesn't mean they are lying! The words themselves are not lies either. Just because they may be ignorant of the deeper issues, doesn't make the words into lies. Yes they need to go to the source of why they are over their desired weight.

The same people love to steal time over and over again. I will return to listen to the end of this.

Awesome info! Wish I knew this a long time ago but I know it now!

LOVE Quincy. And my husband can't get away with anything. Lol. I took a class in high school on body language. Loved it.

I find this whole line of analysis very interesting and bought a book on it years ago. Of course reading a book only touches the surface of what can be learned, but it was interesting nevertheless. I had an ex who had very little trouble lying during certain phases in her bipolar disorder. Other times it seemed she was very good and would not want to lie. But one thing that bothered me was when I was asked to take a lie detector test before going to work for Radio Shak when I was 19 or 20 years old. The "expert" spoke of his great experience and told me I did not deceive on any point except the question as to whether I had tried marijuana before or not. The funny thing about it is a day or two before, I was asked the same question and was told he had never met a person who had a history as a musician who had not tried pot at least once. Truth is, I am now 62 years old and have still never tried pot, nor have I tried other drugs, have never committed adultery and have never been drunk. I have a personal goal to get to the end of my life never having done any of those things. So, the question that has haunted me is why is it that I might tend to trigger a suspicion of lying without actually telling a lie.

I thought the 3 ways to lie were: 1. Blatantly lying 2. Lying by omission 3. Denial (lying to yourself)

In my humble opinion Mr Snyder is exceptionally prepared, competent and entertaining.

Omg the non stop questions in the audience....why does everybody have a feeling they need to share their stuff..?? Awesome video! Thank you for upload.

My problem isn’t how to detect a liar- it’s how to stop attracting them to me!

There is no audio...really wanted to hear your presentation. I see below you stated the audio wasn't working and you would try to reload it...guessing that didn't work. I hope you can fix that soon! Thanks.

Thank you for sharing this. It's fascinating!

I learned so much. Thank you!!

Such a great topic, too many interruptions from the audience though. It's a shame they rob from the take away points. Thank you for sharing your lecture.

All the people yapping their jaws on here saying “Get to the point” “make shorter videos” do not deserve the free knowledge and wisdom this man studied many years to acquire. Thank you for your time sensei !

Thank you this was very helpful and informative 👍👍

holy cow! This guy looked cool and I didn't expect it to have the effect of reading Waldon!!!

My problem isn't detecting a liar. It's how to stay away from them

You are a very good speaker (and good improv too) I liked to see how at first the audience was quiet and reserved but you slowly opened them up and they started laughing more and participating and telling stories and even getting bold enough to cut you off mid-sentence to introduce a bit of humorous wit.

Thank you, quite helpful.

Okay so I accused an artist of stealing my work, and I didn’t want to accept it because ever since I confronted it, her fans started attacking me. She had this elaborate story, it started out trying to get me to pity her, then she started bringing other people into the mix. Then she had this elaborate story about how she never stole from me but someone did it to her so she knows how it feels??? Then proceeds to say we just must be similar and that’s why her song sounds exactly like mine. Then changes the subject and says she wants to be friends and we should hang… but never proceeds to hang or respond. After seeing this I know now what she did, I believe it in my soul now. Thank you. I don’t feel naive or dumb anymore… just manipulated.

Sometimes lying is something true, but it is just what the lier believes "not true".

David Snyder, you have a doppelganger... Joel Hodgson of MST3000 fame. Just thought I would throw that out into the universe.

Very educational. Thanks

This guy edits doing it's completely on point cuz I have personally used it throughout my life to survive