Husband Hasn’t Worked in 7 Months (and I’m Over It!)

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Husband Hasn’t Worked in 7 Months (and I’m Over It!)
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@karenmassey8354 7 месяцев назад

If she takes the kids out of daycare and makes him actually take care of them he’ll probably find a job very quickly.

@fire12731 7 месяцев назад

Good idea 👍🏻

@ExpatRN 7 месяцев назад

lol 😂 My thoughts exactly….

@anneshirley9560 7 месяцев назад

Or he might just plop them in front of the tv to babysit. 😬

@shachede6828 7 месяцев назад

You get?? He will run back!

@cherzum 7 месяцев назад

Agree and should have done it six months ago.

@GixxerRider1991 7 месяцев назад

If he's home applying for jobs, why are they spending money on daycare?

@Globewanderer000 7 месяцев назад

Because he's a deadbeat husband AND father. An absolute loser. She deserves better.

@David-wo9un 7 месяцев назад

Because very little time is being sent applying for jobs.

@VivPhotography 7 месяцев назад

I was wondering the same thing... Edit: Now that I've listened to most of it she does say they'll take the kids out of daycare for him to be a stay at home dad if it continues. It does take a lot of time to apply for jobs, but 7 months is too long to keep paying for daycare.

@elizabetha8565 7 месяцев назад

She is probably afraid that his new excuse will be well we don't have daycare so I declined the interview or offer.

@cameronrichardson1416 7 месяцев назад

Yeah that's crazy

@russiantroubleyakutsk1612 7 месяцев назад

If you don't have a job, then your full time job is looking for a job, and if you can't find a job you want, you take a job that you can get until you can find a job you want.

@Jack-pd4ps 7 месяцев назад

It’s not a good idea to make it a full time job to look for a job. It’s better to apply for 1-2 jobs at a time. I usually pick the best job for my interest that pays well and I know that I’ll qualify for. An unemployed person is a Salesperson. A good Salesperson does research and makes effort. Applying everywhere possible is like walking down the street and putting flyers on doors. Most people throw flyers in the trash. Applying for a job takes skill and patience.

@V1CT0RY 5 месяцев назад

Jobenomics lol

@sparkles999rose2 Месяц назад

No one wants a job the goal is to find a way not to get a job

@baileycurtis6531 7 месяцев назад

Listening to this call makes me appreciate my husband tenfold. He resigned by his own decision, from a 6-figure job May 2022 due to some ethical issues in management. He took about 1 month to get his bearings, then took a local job for a contractor for 2 months, then left that a took a mechanic job for another 3 months. In that time he decided he wanted to go back to school to become a police officer. We agreed and he put so much effort into his decision, graduated top of his class and got on with the local police department. I am so proud of him and proud to be his wife. I gain a lot of perspective hearing others stories of their struggles. I am just so thankful for my husband and I hope this caller’s husband can find purpose and motivation for himself and his family again. ❤

@snOags 7 месяцев назад

Good story thanks for sharing

@Jesussaveme85 7 месяцев назад

Gotta love a man in uniform. So happy for you guys. I have so much respect for a man that has morals and goes after what he wants to take care of home.

@chrislim7976 7 месяцев назад

You should know your husband also has a good wife. Not every woman stands by their man.

@DominickSpano 7 месяцев назад

Your husband sounds like an awesome guy! Thanks for his civil service.

@MaddieFishblob 7 месяцев назад

It takes guts to resign from a high paying job on the grounds of ethics. So many ppl would simply compromise their own morals for the sake of the company. The fact that he had the courage to quit and start from scratch is actually something I find extremely admirable

@skateata1 7 месяцев назад

My dad works the graveyard shift at walmart even though he has a masters degree. The job market he worked in wasn't doing well.

@roshinvarghese6879 7 месяцев назад

What degree?

@skateata1 7 месяцев назад

@@roshinvarghese6879 business. He did home mortgages.

@lbacchus 6 месяцев назад

good question. alot of ppl take on studies with few or extremely competitive job prospects then are surprised that the cant find a suitable job.@@roshinvarghese6879

@rabblerousin8981 3 месяца назад

What was his industry?

@skateata1 3 месяца назад

@@roshinvarghese6879 home mortgages

@Ilovedachshunddogs 7 месяцев назад

My ex got a degree and he was shocked that he couldn’t get a job. He took a job at a grocery store and was embarrassed/bitter. He ended up quitting the job because the grocery store was “beneath him”. I was working 60 hours a week in an unpaid residency. We lived off my loans almost getting evicted while he chose not to work. I was so resentful

@lbacchus 6 месяцев назад

I can imagine. I have no issue with taking on a study that you're passionate about, BUT there has to be some kind of pragmatism when considering the earning potential and job prospects of the study. Some people choose studies which have very little to no prospects for a job afterward, then they are shocked that its almost impossible to find a job and then be too proud to take on something that allows them to earn!

@yummynesss 6 месяцев назад

I know there's 2 sides to every story but he sounds selfish

@firefly9838 6 месяцев назад

Yet you chose to choose a path where you wouldn't get paid. How stupid.

@mr.fettesq.7705 6 месяцев назад

I get that completely. Its a mans job to get out an provide. Its a huge amount of the reason his wife or whatever has respect for him. This is why for men...its a big deal if or when his wife starts to become overweight beyond reason and wont do anything to fix it. Because for men thats a huge part of attraction. Just like going out and working and providing and doing whatever you have to regardless of the situation is a huge part of attraction for a woman.

@fredjung 6 месяцев назад

Yes he needed to keep the job. But it doesn’t make sense for you to work 60 hours for free.

@ufchighlights1 7 месяцев назад

Every time I’ve lost a job, by that next Monday I was starting a new one. I’m a savage when it comes to finding work. I show up, I’m ready, I’m coachable and my reliable. Who wouldn’t hire that?

@mirabella2154 7 месяцев назад

Wow, you really Love yourself, don't you ? 😂

@ufchighlights1 7 месяцев назад

@@mirabella2154 don’t project your insecurities onto me. self love is the best love.

@shachede6828 7 месяцев назад

Honestly applause to you!

@texasgoddess323 7 месяцев назад

@@mirabella2154More people should love themselves.🌻

@Globe2274 6 месяцев назад

That's not even realistic or possibly. No applications, no interviewing? Are you mowing lawns?

@helenhilton2158 7 месяцев назад

I am a delivery driver at Pizza Hut, and I HATE it! But I’m applying at other places for a better job, and I find that my customer service experience at Pizza Hut is a big plus in conveying some of my qualifications to potential employers.

@lisalister8002 7 месяцев назад

Respect for you working a job that you don't like.... but so you can pay the bills and feed your family.

@jillianwilliams1 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for putting your pride aside to care for your family. Good luck for a great job !!

@LauraSnow-in3nx 7 месяцев назад

I wouldn’t even say 2 weeks. When I lost my job I took 24 hours to grieve. Then I was out & looking for another job. He is eatting through your savings because he knows he can. He is taking your place at home raising kids while you figure out the finances & then come home to your second shift.

@maam-yj8ph 7 месяцев назад

He's not even taking her place. He's taking the place of his future 30 yr old son who's addicted to drugs and porn and video games.

@alinegutierrez 2 дня назад

He’s not even doing that, they are in daycare.

@mle011 7 месяцев назад

I count myself lucky- when my husband lost his job (twice since we’ve been together), he had a better job lined up within 1 month. Both times. He’s a hard worker and hustles. I can’t imagine being with someone that makes that many excuses. The resentment would set in.

@dawnbastian7537 7 месяцев назад

My husband and I went through this many years ago. At one point I was working three jobs. I found his behavior selfish. I got to the point where I was resentful and felt that if I was doing everything then I should just do it on my own. Needless to say we are divorced. He wasn’t willing to put our family first.

@firefly9838 6 месяцев назад

Were you happier just cutting someone out of your life for money? I would never give up on someone I actually loved for that... but you probably didn't actually love him. Lots of couples today pretend to be in love and aren't.

@dawnbastian7537 6 месяцев назад

It wasn’t about money but the disrespect to our family. At one point I was working three jobs and he found it beneath him to get any job. That is a deal breaker in my book.

@EmilyWhite2013z 6 месяцев назад

@@firefly9838it was about the fact that she was killing herself with working and he wasn’t willing to step up.

@coreyfranco7060 5 месяцев назад

Welcome to how almost every man feels in America

@queenwhatever5217 5 месяцев назад

@@coreyfranco7060 Except most men in America are in a relationship with a woman who also works. And if they cohabitate or are married, the woman spends twice as much time doing household chores and child rearing than the man. So he’s objectively not doing everything by himself. Facts don’t care about your feelings.

@jillianwilliams1 7 месяцев назад

I'm in the same boat. Husband has been unemployed for over a year. Both our kids are in school. There's no excuses. There are plenty of jobs out there like John alluded too. They just don't want to work. It's the principle of it all. For me there will be some serious decisions to make if major changes aren't made soon.

@Imhere12345 7 месяцев назад

He can be a stay home dad. Make him clean and cook

@barbthegreat586 6 месяцев назад

@@Imhere12345Do you really think that a guy who doesn't want to take a job will be cooking and cleaning at home? Maybe in Tralaland.

@iabbervocium 7 месяцев назад

I feel her pain, once the resentment settles in it's hard to turn back. Living with a deadbeat sucks the life out of you.

@mrL9122 4 месяца назад

What if roles were reversed? Do you only love your man for the money he brings in? This guy should be watching his kids at a bare minimum while applying for jobs. I think this woman needs to be honest with herself, and decide if he was only good while he made money.

@listrahtes 4 месяца назад

Come on, it seems he provided well to that point and created a lot of savings. Then dire tly to burger king would not put out the resentment but inflamed it. If the money is so much in reserve then use parts of it and let him look for a job longer. But I agree on the daycare cancel. He can and should do that

@JudePi-jx7yo Месяц назад

@@mrL9122 Reversed normal in this podcast.

@juicysmith38235 7 месяцев назад

My ex of 8 yrs did this for YEARS claiming he couldn't find a job. After a YR I said give me your resume, I will also apply for job on your behalf & I challenge you to see how many interviews we both get. I fixed his resume and applied to a dozen jobs which garnered several interview requests. It proved he wasn't even trying. I told him to go to the church for their resume workshops & see his doctor for depression. Years later he still never got a job. At that time He went a total of 7 yrs unemployed with his mommy paying his bills. I was young and dumb staying that long. It's been 7 yrs since we split and I heard he held 1 minimum wage job for less than a month.... so in total he hasn't work now in 15 yrs besides 1 month. Mommy pays his bills, why would he work? Praying for your family, I hope your situation turns out better for the sake of your kids 🙏

@lindsay3793 7 месяцев назад

Yeah, mommy pays their bills but then they resent you for having your shxx together. This is a silent epidemic.

@gjeffrey14 7 месяцев назад

Their situation isn't the same. Not even close.

@ufchighlights1 7 месяцев назад

That’s insane lowkey

@paulkersey7458 5 месяцев назад

Never take on a partner as a “project”.

@MsKaraWhiplash 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for saying ppl working at BK & fast food are important. I’m so sick of hearing how they are not. Everyone has a lot in life. Some ppl with disabilities strive so hard to work at fast food, other ppl work at Wal-Mart & take great pride in it. My step grandma is one of the best ppl I know & has been poor all her life, aside of living with my grandpa. If I owned a business, I’d hire her 1st thing because she has the best attitude, makes everyone feel loved, does the best job she can always. She can learn anything else, but being a good person isn’t that easy to learn.

@lisalamphier1410 7 месяцев назад

Wow! I didn't know that taking time off to grieve for a lost job was even an option. As the sole breadwinner, this is good to know!

@gassmann1947 7 месяцев назад

A few years ago, my 20 yr old son got fired & was laying around playing games that same day. I told him, You get off your ass & get a job this week. Or, on Friday, you move out. Period.

@Jaycarbrownie12 2 месяца назад

Tough love is the best love ! I was kicked out at 20 was in undergrad worked so hard became a nurse and compared to my counterparts I’m doing much better than all. Thank my parents for that tough love.

@WW-he9mz 7 месяцев назад

My ex boyfriend was laid off as an IT manager from a top firm nearly 20 years ago. He was making over $100,000 a year. He has not worked since then. His girlfriend at the time kept helping him to look for various jobs, like as a bank teller, but he just would not work. After several years, she left him. Now he finally reached 65 to get Medicare and collect on Social Security. He said he is depressed over Christmas and New Year's every year. Perhaps if he had worked, be productive instead of draining his life savings for 20 years, he would be less depressed.

@hannahdewinter5515 7 месяцев назад

My question is, why the heck are the kids still going to daycare if hes been home 7 months....if he is not working he could at least cut the daycare costs for the family and watch the kids. Daycare is so expensive.....

@rengurenge 6 месяцев назад

Can't sleep around if he have to take care of kid. I knew 2 situations like that where man didn't work or couldn't keep job and turns out they were cheating and paying for that with wifes money.

@jordanhowe5998 4 месяца назад

Some places have daycare waiting lists... If they take the kids out and he gets a job next week there may not be a place to put them... It can be a tough balance.

@pb-gv1nc 7 месяцев назад

A real man doesn't have time to mourn losing his job. The bills don't care.

@thenorthface4 6 месяцев назад

Agreed. My ex husband lost a job a year while I was with him and would lay around on the couch licking his wounds every time for MONTHS. He relied on me to support HIM…

@pb-gv1nc 6 месяцев назад

@thenorthface4 and that's why he's your ex.. lol in all seriousness, that is not attractive or manly behavior. A man will make things happen

@thenorthface4 6 месяцев назад

@@pb-gv1nc exactly! Well said

@songriver1232 6 месяцев назад

Everyone needs time to mourn. But 6 m past the time it's tolerable

@leslietarter2096 4 месяца назад

Even the show "everybody loves Raymond" a true Mama's boy ... provided for his family 🙄

@maryfrey 7 месяцев назад

I feel for the custodial staff that got fired in John's story, just so the church could hire the former executive. That seems cruel. 😕

@Gioli565 7 месяцев назад

I thought the same thing. Weird story.

@heyu9225 7 месяцев назад

When church’s can’t balance their budget they lay off the “low hanging fruit” first. The upper level staff now have to pick up job duties that those employees used to do.

@fionnualagray9906 7 месяцев назад

That's not the story he told though. Sounds like they had some low income staff who's actual job it was and they just handed over their jobs to their buddy the former exec. It's not a very nice story cause it speaks to privilege and nepotism. Hopefully he paid it forward many times over when he became a teacher.

@maryfrey 7 месяцев назад

@@fionnualagray9906 That's how it sounded to me.

@maryfrey 7 месяцев назад

@@Austenfan177 Good thought. I hope you're right.

@tonytoni1150 7 месяцев назад

I like how straight up and honest John was on this call. 7 months without a job? Unacceptable.

@jaysmith6013 5 месяцев назад

I got laid off when my wife is 7 months pregnant. I gave myself time to grieve, exactly 1 day. After that the hunt was on and I was lucky enough to land a better paying job and secure benefits before the baby was born

@CyeOutsider 3 месяца назад

Yeah, having a new baby definitely puts a fire under your but to find work.

@Julian-zc9vm 7 месяцев назад

100% he wants to hide in a gig job rather than get behind the counter at a McDonald’s register and face the public and a cohort of coworker peers.

@cptfreeman8966 7 месяцев назад

The gig jobs pay more so what’s the issue?

@Julian-zc9vm 7 месяцев назад

@@cptfreeman8966 If you watch the video the issue is that he's waitlisted for a gig job so he hasn't been able to get a gig job, and in the meantime he refuses to get a regular service job while his wife goes to work, his kids go to daycare, while he sits at home all day.

@cptfreeman8966 7 месяцев назад

Dude is probably depressed and going through it. Job loss is one of the most emasculating things to happen to a man and some just don't know how to cope. I've been there more than once no shame in my game neither. But regardless I don't have kids at the VERY LEAST he should get those kids out of daycare and watch them himself until he gets a job@@Julian-zc9vm

@Dabearscubsfan 5 месяцев назад

Gig jobs get a bad rep for some reason..if you bust it you can easily make 200 plus a day But you have to grind .. and depending on location obviously

@norelease2 4 месяца назад

I don't understand this...surely most gig jobs involve interaction with the public?

@BourbonDrinker 3 месяца назад

My wife decided to "never work again", we have 3 young girls, we kept them in daycare and school, and she refused to go back to work. If the roles were reversed, everyone would be telling my wife to divorce me because I am lazy.

@bachristus 9 дней назад

Was she depressed or something? What was the reason you suspect?

@Jesussaveme85 7 месяцев назад

I feel this because my dad hasn’t worked a job in 10 years. I don’t know how my mom did it with a 6 year old son. I glad I could help as her daughter but I should not have had to.

@Jaycarbrownie12 2 месяца назад

Is your dad sick ?

@Jesussaveme85 2 месяца назад

@@Jaycarbrownie12No, not at all.

@smustipher 7 месяцев назад

I've been working since age 18. I am in my mid 40's. I have NEVER not had a job or some kind of work going on. Anytime I lost a job, I had something lined up within a week. I don't get people who are ok going jobless for extended periods. And I'm single l, I'd hate to stress my spouse out by being unemployed.

@chrislim7976 7 месяцев назад

It also depends what you do. People do lose jobs. Depending on the job and income you don't always have something lined up. Never losing a job also means you've never felt kicked in the teeth as a guy.

@lisacatalano841 7 месяцев назад

Sometimes a job loss can cause so much stress that it can cause a nervous breakdown. It's crippling. Everyone handles things differently, and it's important to keep that in mind.

@smustipher 7 месяцев назад

@lisacatalano841 everyone is different - I get that - when I got laid off during the pandemic I popped open a bottle of bubbles, made myself a nice dinner and had a relaxing stress free evening. The thing is, I don't have a family to support, so no it wasn't very stressful for me. BUT - every adult knows that layoffs happen. It should not come as a shock or a surprise. Resumes should.stay updated. Networking and reaching out to new prospects should be an ongoing practice. If you want to have a job, you have to always be working on keeping or finding a job. Staying out of the game too long makes you less employable. I hope this guy can get it together soon, not just for the finances, but for his WIFE, who is starting to lose faith in him.

@keniasloan523 7 месяцев назад

@@lisacatalano841I just had a friend pass away due to excessive alcoholism from severe depression. He got laid off from his job and never recovered

@dakotaflower5926 7 месяцев назад

Honestly depends. When I worked jobs paying $15-35hr it was easy to pick something up fast. When your talking Upper Management & Executive positions you spend decades working towards…. Those jobs take weeks/months to line up. My current position was 5 interviews over the course of 4 weeks to ensure I was the right person. It wasn’t the only position I applied for obviously. I was out for 3 months and that was a quick climb back for most in that position.

@lnlywriter9618 6 месяцев назад

I went through this very thing for 3 months and boy did I ever get angry and resentful. My ex got laid off from a job and basically sat on his ass at home watching TV while I went to work and paid all the bills. Supposedly he was applying online on and in person at various storefronts, but when I got home every night....he hadn't started dinner or done one load of laundry and I heard a ton of the same excuses as this woman calling in. Finally after 3 solid months of no income, I finally told him he can either get a job or leave. He finally got a job, but it was a matter of time before the marriage ended. I lost so much respect for him.

@CyeOutsider 3 месяца назад

I'd resent the fact that I not only had to go out and work, but that when I come home I would still have do all the cooking and housework while my partner was just watching TV all day. Yeah, I'd be fuming. If you're not bringing money into the household, you should be contributing to the household in other ways.

@myyt3824 7 месяцев назад

My parents had 5-6 jobs between them when my sister and I were little. They had vending machines and did pampered chef, in home daycare, my mom did taste testing and secret shopping, and my dad worked full time at a pain company and stayed late to clean the toilets for extra cash. I respect the heck out of my parents for that. They are incredible. This guy needs to get a grip. My husband was unemployed for 6 months after a work injury. I was able to hold it down because I was making $3-$3.5k a week during the busy season. But when that started to end, I got him a referral to a local union making $40 an hour plus OT. When you have a family, you do whatever you have to.

@firefly9838 6 месяцев назад

12k a month and that wasn't enough. Must've been living very nicely.

@TheMan8719ttv 7 месяцев назад

Burger king is not a noble job, doing a sh*tty job for the sake of your children and family, yeah, thats noble.

@nkengasong5078 7 месяцев назад

I echo your thoughts completely 🤩

@agricolaregs 7 месяцев назад

As long as the money is equal to or better than the unemployment. Don’t give up unemployment to be in a worse position. Assuming someone gets unemployment.

@calebburghardt3391 7 месяцев назад

Really?? I honestly respect, hard-working people in the service industry way more than I respect people with made up useless office jobs

@agricolaregs 6 месяцев назад

@@calebburghardt3391 I think he was saying it’s not an ideal job. Like no one grows up saying they want to be a fast food worker. They always say doctor or fireman or something like that. I mean no one says they want to be an accountant when they’re 10 either. But I think that’s what they meant. All work is hard. Some is more physically demanding while other more mentally taxing. Some is just emotionally exhausting. Some, all three. My point is you pay into unemployment. Don’t give it up unless the pay is better. No sense in putting your family in a worse position billwise for the sake of just getting any job.

@songriver1232 6 месяцев назад

It is a Nobel job. It's something to bring in some money till he can move on.

@DuncanClair 5 месяцев назад

A lot of people in these comments saying “work work work, no matter what”. Most people hate their jobs, so they end up spending most of their waking life in a place they hate, which makes them bitter and resentful, which effects their home life. People act like work is the most important thing in the world, but then their crappy dead-end jobs mess up the really important things.

@JLeeurbancouture 2 месяца назад

Most jobs are never fun, even the artist that do what they love still get burned out. There are responsibilities in life, how are you going to tell the kids that daddy doesn’t like his job so he can sit at home for 7 months.

@donaldshotts4429 Месяц назад

You're only stuck in a dead end job if you're a dead end employee. Go work towards something that has a future. Inflation is high, but everyone is hiring

@rebeccabamford5505 6 месяцев назад

When I was in my 20s, My husband cleared our accounts,took all the money, tools in the house,my third child was two weeks old with a heart condition. Like John said,I had little one’s looking to be fed and needing a roof over their heads. Someone had to be a parent. I worked whereever I could to take care of my kids.

@Jaycarbrownie12 2 месяца назад

Go Mama

@CG-MP 2 месяца назад

my brother-in-law's father did that. Took off when they found out one child had severe special needs, left his wife high and dry. I think men like that should be shunned. You have no common decency or basic morality and deserve no place in society.

@sydguitar99 7 месяцев назад

I remember I had gotten a software engineering job that had required me to move to a new town and then 3 months later I was out of that job because of the pandemic. I still had to pay my bills, rent so i ended up tutoring part time and ubering part time. There is always an option

@Gioli565 7 месяцев назад

Hardest time of my marriage was my husbands 8 months of unemployment. The respect and trust was at an all time low. Thank god we over came that.

@lbacchus 6 месяцев назад

I had the same except Ive dealt with it for more than a year and still dealing with it because he is only taking on gig jobs that only go for some months. He's too proud to get any stable job that brings in something, but absolutely fine with being a housedad to a teenager and having me pay for everything. Not only that, this is a double hit because the longer he does not work the less pension he can receive, which means that he would have to depend on my pension entirely in retirement. I expressed my disappointment at his approach - I also told him we will have a big problem between us if it continued; yes absolutely the nuclear option because he now has a job he hates (still not taking responsibility for improving his circumstances) and blames me every time for him being miserable and frustrated that he lost credibility with me.

@Jp-do9ny 6 месяцев назад

Crazy how women turn as soon as their husband lose their job. Yall definitely don't understand unconditional love

@73cidalia 6 месяцев назад

@@Jp-do9nyYou're oversimplifying it. It's about husbands who give up, put no effort, become a burden, and oftentimes aren't even contributing to run the household. Like the guy in the phone call making excuses to keep the kids in daycare because he doesn't want to take care of them while he's unemployed. He's just another dependent for her to take care of and cook for, etc.

@tyrabandz2845 5 месяцев назад

@@Jp-do9ny Is “Unconditional love” putting strain on your family by refusing to be GROWN and help provide or even watch the kids at least (why are they in daycare, if dad has been jobless and at home for 7 months ?!?). We are adults, Unconditional love will actually get you stuck with spouses like this guy

@demetriuspowell29 3 месяца назад

@@lbacchusdid you leave

@joygarrett8397 7 месяцев назад

I had a husband who went through jobs . . Always managed to get himself fired (I could see it coming by change in attitude); then spend months “supposedly” looking all day on the computer (turns out looking at porn, boats, etc) failed to file or keep up on unemployment stuff, did Nothing around the house while I was at work (he wanted his “momma” to still take care of everything) . . . I could go on & on. Unwilling to take anything in the interim, just visited his folks up north & go fishing . . After years of this merry go round he’s now my ex . . .

@jet4415 7 месяцев назад

I am sure you’re in one of the statistics where the woman instigated the divorce. (The statistic is that 80% of divorces are started by women). You, as the female spouse, had to complete the divorce paperwork because he would never start it or follow through.

@xyznumber123 7 месяцев назад

I cleaned houses with one Master's degree and months away from earning the second. Bills don't pay themselves, and I did what I had to do. If I findyself unemployed again, I will find a job.

@CPMG2000 7 месяцев назад

Judge Judy says it best: You can say "Medium or Large", so you can work!

@lindsay3793 7 месяцев назад

In the words of the great Britney Spears, "You better work, bxxxx."

@smustipher 7 месяцев назад

😅😅😅😅

@towpottsfam7631 7 месяцев назад

Lol..." got to have a j.o.b. if you wanna be with me" 🎶🎵

@dahliaherrod4301 7 месяцев назад

Yassss. That's my song! My fave workout song to push myself.

@anndeecosita3586 6 месяцев назад

Unless you’re kevin Federline. 😂

@kathylovesmk 7 месяцев назад

Agree with you 💯 John! No time for excuses or pity party when you have kids. Get a job TODAY!

@stuffedchicken420 7 месяцев назад

I had a year and a half break in my profession. I took a job running the beer cooler at the liquor store around the corner from where I lived.. good times, great people, steady Monday through Friday paycheck.

@yogaqueen1527 7 месяцев назад

McDonald's is NOT $20 an hour. It says UP to $20 which means its not $20. And if it is, it's the manager position

@FlyyHigh834 7 месяцев назад

why are u angry lol

@yogaqueen1527 7 месяцев назад

@@FlyyHigh834 who is angry? Stating facts make me angry....okkkkk

@FlyyHigh834 7 месяцев назад

@yogaqueen1527 How do u know what every McDonald's pays?? U dnt... u dnt own a McDonald's franchise I've seen McDonald's AND wendy's tht are paying $20 For REGULAR employees not managers

@yogaqueen1527 7 месяцев назад

@@FlyyHigh834 do you think about about to sit and argue with a random on the internet? No. You got the wrong one. Go find someone else to kill time with. I won't respond back. Good day

@FlyyHigh834 7 месяцев назад

@@yogaqueen1527 exactly u dnt.. goodbye

@lisalister8002 7 месяцев назад

My now ex-husband couldn't find a job and yet still refused to watch our child while I went to work.

@CyeOutsider 3 месяца назад

Or do any housework I'm betting.

@chrysiarose 7 месяцев назад

As a woman, I would feel terrible if I didn't have a job in that length of time. I've had numerous jobs after layoffs, pretty fast. The only time I deliberately quit any job was because my master's program required a 2nd year internship (unpaid of course) at 20 hours a week, daytime hours only. My boss said it was either job or school, he couldn't accommodate the schedule. I saved enough to finish my degree, without a paying job, but I felt guilty. I did graduate, and went back to work.

@propainaccessories 7 месяцев назад

4:50 this. I miss when men used to be men. I see so many women around me doing full time work, school while their guys are at home smoking tree and playing video games all day complaining. I've asked young men in my area why they won't go back to college. They have every excuse while blowing money on sports betting and corn. It's sad really. My dad used to work anywhere from 60-90 hours of work to send 8 kids to college. There are adults betting on financial aid for their kids to go to college.

@machutson5493 7 месяцев назад

He doesn't want to work, IMHO.

@Jack-pd4ps 7 месяцев назад

The amount of child support and alimony she may have to pay if she leaves him will probably hurt if they’re in a state that punishes the breadwinner. She may have to think really seriously about leaving him. This situation happens a lot to men in marriages and it’s costly if the relationship doesn’t last. Not only is it costly in money, it’s very costly in time.

@show_me_your_kitties 7 месяцев назад

If he was taking care of the kids, which he's not, she is paying for daycare.

@Imhere12345 7 месяцев назад

@@show_me_your_kittiesalimony

@David-wo9un 7 месяцев назад

It’s not uncommon to be asked to do a small project so your prospective employer can get a glimpse of the quality of your work before getting hired.

@cyrenedomogalla5127 7 месяцев назад

Not uncommon, but definitely questionable hiring practice. In my field, such a thing is a huge red flag, possibly scammy

@genxx2724 7 месяцев назад

They need to pay up front for that demonstration.

@genxx2724 7 месяцев назад

@@cyrenedomogalla5127 Scam per Joshua Fluke.

@brianwright11 7 месяцев назад

This has happened to me before where I was laid off from a decent job and had to go work in grocery deli just to make some money for a season or two. But let’s not blow smoke here, in no way is it noble to work at Buger King because you’re “helping people eat.” You’re there because you do what you have to do. If retail was noble then perhaps the customers wouldn’t be so damn rude and entitled.

@NomadicLifer 4 месяца назад

I got laid off during the pandemic with a 1 year old, and we were a one income household. We did something drastic to change our circumstances. Instead of sulking about it, I started a side hustle while applying to jobs all day every day. We moved to Mexico with our kid and found an apartment for $400 a month. We figured out a way to live on $900 a month. It took 4 months to get unemployment, but since they laid me off after the federal aid, I was getting 1600 a month vs the 4500 I used to make. After 5 months, I got a job, and we started saving like no tomorrow. I also got a second job to build up our savings. This gave us a cushion, and now I've been working like crazy for the last 4 years, so I'm never in that position again. Being let go from a job is devastating, but you can't just sit and whine about it when you have a family to take care of. I built up my side hustle to 7k a month at one point. I woke up at 2 am and worked my butt off. He is choosing to let you carry the burden. I'd be pissed if I were her, too.

@kctexan 6 месяцев назад

This happened to my ex when our eldest was 3. I stayed with him for 20 years and 2 more children. He never got another job and came up with one cockamamie excuse after another. He had the degree; I didn't. His earning potential was more than mine. But I chose to work 2 jobs and be away from my kids while he stayed home and played being a house husband (he sucked at it). It was hell and I eventually left when the physical abuse started. Would that I had possessed the courage to give him an ultimatum when I should have. I hope this woman is strong and does what I didn't do.

@dr.janetkern9100 6 месяцев назад

I get it.

@Thesussysuscat 7 месяцев назад

Why are the kids in daycare?

@distorbia20 7 месяцев назад

Time to cut the daycare costs and hubby to look after kids whilst applying for jobs. The days he has interviews hire someone to look after the kids for couple hours. Re-enrol the kids in daycare when he finds a job. Currently they are spending way too much on daycare and she is the only one earning income. Hopefully he is pulling his weight around the house too

@debbiem73 7 месяцев назад

John - the fired executive got the entire custodial staff at the church fired? What about those people?

@londonlemons 7 месяцев назад

I had the same thought! I was like but you just put someone else who probably doesn’t have as many job prospects or a good savings account out of work? I could see hiring him alongside the custodial staff for sure but laying them off to hire him, yikes I don’t know 😂

@todd2324 7 месяцев назад

True, the only thing I was thinking was that the custodial staff was doing a poor job, and they finally found someone who would be willing to go above and beyond to do the job well.

@londonlemons 7 месяцев назад

@@todd2324 I hope that was the case, it would be hard to justify that decision otherwise >.

@shannonrose4916 7 месяцев назад

That's what I was thinking. The audacity!

@CarnivoreStork 7 месяцев назад

I’ve never hear of a ‘waitlist’ for Uber or door dash....anyone else?

@patriciacatlinbrown3804 7 месяцев назад

No, but I’ve never seriously looked into it.

@jonahpeacock2561 7 месяцев назад

In some areas, it is a thing, but not most.

@Jack-pd4ps 7 месяцев назад

The waitlist is for people waiting to destroy their personal vehicle and have to buy another one. That kind of work wares the car down and maybe shows up in the carfax report. Would you buy a car that has rideshare on the carfax report?

@DominickSpano 7 месяцев назад

I briefly worked for Uber and Lyft. Trust me, you barely make any $ at all. Try something else. And there is a short wait period for your license and background to be examined.

@James_Hough 6 месяцев назад

Hearing this, I think of my son who lost his lob due to the pandemic shutdowns. Because of the way unemployment worked during the shutdowns and a reduction in expenses, he netted more money than working. But he couldn't stand not working, found a job 2 states away, moved and continued on with his career. So proud, but he was raised to believe that working is noble and important.

@winstonmiller4854 5 месяцев назад

Work provides dignity. Its really that simple.

@RadCenter 5 месяцев назад

I'm here to defend the custodial staff at the church who got fired so the executive dude could take their job(s). Not fair.

@tate6809 7 месяцев назад

They fired their janitors to give their hurting "executive" friend a job? Does that sound pretty $hitty to anyone else? "F-U Pedro, my buddy isn't going to make the payment on his mercedes or his beach house this month, he needs this job more than you do"

@GoKU-xx2vg 7 месяцев назад

Maybe the janitors were from a service company they were using. Then they decided to bring it in house since he was willing to do it.

@CG-MP 2 месяца назад

lol, assuming the janitor is hispanic. "If you kick every Latino out of this country, then who is going to be cleaning your toilet, Donald Trump?"--Kelly Osbourne on The View

@Ja50nkAt 7 месяцев назад

Literally every fast food joint or small business has a "now hiring" sign on it in my town. He could get job but he probably wants to stay in his career field that might be competitive with higher pay. Something happens to a man when his pay is knocked down.

@barbthegreat586 6 месяцев назад

If he spends any more time out if ant work, he'll no longer be competitive

@riseredeos 7 месяцев назад

Im in a rural agricultural town. The waitlist for daycare for young children is 8 months. I applied before my child was born- even with a long parental leave planned. You do not just pull kids out of daycare and put them back at a whim.

@cheesecake125 6 месяцев назад

There’s a saying in Chinese that we use ‘ride a cow whilst you find the horse’. You can’t find the job you want then you have to do a back up job to find it

@ButHearMeOutTho 6 месяцев назад

I had an ex fiance who pulled thos stunt. He stayed home for almost a year. im so thankful he pulled that stunt because that proved he wasnt the one. he did it on purpose too, he really wanted to make 6figs right off the bat. then he started complaining about me making more than him. hed stay home, all day and drink. id come home from work and still cook and clean. covid really unveiled alot of true colors. im so thankful we didnt have kids, id be depressed 😂

@user-fy6cq7se9n 7 месяцев назад

He’s comfortable.

@swannyriver75 7 месяцев назад

7 months he ain't grieving a job no more he chilling 😎 start leaving the kids with him watch how quick he find a job and when I say leave breakfast, bathing, lunch, snacks, teaching the whole 9 yards he'll have a job shoveling snow in summer 😂😂

@hannahwilliams2143 6 месяцев назад

John is right…. 7 months? That’s ridiculous… It should take no more than 2 weeks, but even then you could have a job in a day if you were actually trying. He is wasting your time and money.

@abcdlilbit11 7 месяцев назад

I’m starting to think Johnny has a part-time gig as a spokesman for McDonald’s. He’s starting with selling unrealistic wages. And will slowly move into… “I found this 5 star hamburger joint. They only uses fresh, high quality ingredients. And top of the line grass fed beef!”

@micahwright5901 7 месяцев назад

It’s just a conservative cliché He doesn’t mean it in an ill way. But companies also look for any reason to not offer/pay what they advertise too. Regardless the man needs to work somewhere. And I hate work.

@samanthabeee6138 7 месяцев назад

Is this before he asks "are you safe?" 😂😂😂

@abcdlilbit11 7 месяцев назад

@@samanthabeee6138 I was gonna put that in there. But I couldn’t squeeze it in anywhere. He loves asking women that one 😂😂😂 And telling guys if they golf or workout, or work OT they are cheaters.

@EdieRoxUrSox15 7 месяцев назад

My ex did this. He was willing to do anything to get a 6 figure job, except for getting a job for less than that. 😂

@reneel2441 7 месяцев назад

No more day care! Let him watch the kids!

@anndeecosita3586 6 месяцев назад

I have a friend who was a stay at home dad when I met him and his wife. I know him because we both play music gigs. He would always tell everyone about some bit part he had in a movie so he’s an “actor”. Once his daughter started school his wife said he needed to go back to working regularly to help the family out financially or the marriage was over. He wouldn’t do it and she eventually filed for divorce. He was crying to me about how he’s Catholic and divorce is a sin. I was thinking if you care so much to save your marriage why not get a job? That was like 10 years ago and he still has never had a job so he definitely doesn’t pay child support. He just plays gigs here and there and mooches off of his elderly mother.

@fredjung 6 месяцев назад

I constantly get laid off. Last was 2019 and was unemployed for 2 years. Did my wife support me? Not at all. She kept every penny and still made me pay all the bills. I delivered food for UberEats and other app and had a part time job in my field. Until a friend at church offered me a full time job.

@mmmbeer3645 5 месяцев назад

This conversation is much needed.

@michaelkensington2494 7 месяцев назад

Let him stay home and be a full time dad. That is noble. If the tables were turned we wouldnt be having this conversation

@abigailloar956 7 месяцев назад

Unless he was the breadwinner, and they cannot survive indefinitely on her income. Or he sucks at taking care of the home, and it would cause resentment for her to come home and still have to do everything, which I have seen with either gender. It's why I stayed home instead of my husband, even though I was making more at the time. Because I knew I would always keep up on the home and make nice meals, but if my husband stayed, I would have grown to resent him.

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

Dr. John said that at 9:53 that he could become a SAHD but he has to do something and right now he isn’t. If there was a wife not working and their kids were in daycare it would be the same conversation! It’s not about working, it’s about contribution and purpose.

@brocklarson457 7 месяцев назад

@@abigailloar956you didn’t stay home cause your husband “sucks at taking care of the home.” You stayed home cause you couldn’t possibly stand paying a man’s bills and have him play stay at home mommy role. Double standard, but you can admit it. Most of us men accept it, but be honest please. Thank you.

@abigailloar956 7 месяцев назад

@brocklarson457 sure yup. You obviously know me very well. Been married for 11 years in harmony, but you obviously have it all figured out.

@tonytoni1150 7 месяцев назад

A stay at home dad is usually a pu*sy. Get your ass to WORK

@jeanniefelix6534 7 месяцев назад

He's content giving her the heavy burden of supporting them, sad

@brendaababey 5 месяцев назад

Since the moment I got pregnant my husband has changed jobs about 5 times. Always hustling always looking for opportunities always climbing he has gone to work sick , tired , poor but he has never made excuses of not having or finding work . Zero empathy for that man that is okay with having no work for 7months Jesus . YOU GOT A FAMILY SNAP OUT OF IT

@a.h.6461 5 месяцев назад

My (now ex) husband is still mad at me that I suggested that he take a delivery service job when he couldn‘t find a job.

@signalfire15 7 месяцев назад

7 months is way too long. Give yourself 2 weeks, maybe even a month IF you can afford it. But after that, pick yourself up and find a job, ANY job, until you find your dream job.

@musicjunkie31karma 7 месяцев назад

I LOVE YOUR SHIRT!!!

@adamsartjourney 6 месяцев назад

A lot of these jobs that people equate to dead end can be great opportunities. He might have already got promoted to a management roll in 7 months at some of these fast food joints.

@rebeccashields9626 5 месяцев назад

Yeah even fast food you can get promoted in-store quite quickly, and if they are a corporate chain usually all the upper level operations staff came from the stores.

@stephenwishburne1034 7 месяцев назад

Men who show up to work every single day and are reliable are way too often overlooked.

@mikesmith-wk7vy 7 месяцев назад

i will say applying and applying and always getting rejected is so absolutely demoralizing and crushing

@ptulip 7 месяцев назад

Having those kids n daycare while he is out of. work is ridiculous. Poor lady is afraid of saying something and not saying something! Men need to put the egos aside or she is going to really start to resent him.

@debstewart4558 7 месяцев назад

Anne I'm 56 and my ex husband would do something to get fired or he would quit. I'm on disability for the rest of my life. How are you doing this? I have no children. I did it All on my check. Less than 2k a month. Good luck Anne.

@geometerfpv2804 6 месяцев назад

Probably shouldn't lecture people if you're sitting around on disability...

@debstewart4558 6 месяцев назад

@@geometerfpv2804 Hey Geo. Come here and live my life. You nothing about me big mouth. I would love to go and get a job asshole. I can't. You know why? Because of people like you who don't know people like me. Try this. I want you to stay in your home for one year. You can't leave. If you need anything someone has to go get it for you because you can't. One year. That's all. I've been a shut in for more than ten years. I can't see my family or the two friends that I have unless they come here. One year asshole . Try it. I bet you can't do it. If answer back I won't read it. One year. Never leave or go outside. No not even to the porch. May God bless you and keep you from life.

@JohnBeezy3 6 месяцев назад

Baloney makes some good points. However, he is being dishonest. I see this a lot. I guarantee that is Ramsey laid him off tomorrow and he couldn’t find work, he wouldn’t go work at Burger King. It’s easy for everyone to say “Oh just go get a job anywhere”. But he wouldn’t and he knows it.

@NIkki-ox1ej 7 месяцев назад

I worked at tj max before I got a job in my field

@Meggiebeth19 4 месяца назад

Agree 100% w/Dr. John. My brother in law did this for years & my sister was the provider. She still is the bread winner but he does work. Lazy.

@CyeOutsider 3 месяца назад

I was made redundant during thr GFC in 2008. Walked into my job at 9am, had to clear my desk by 10am. It was scary - I'd always worked full time my entire life up to that point and never lost a job before. Straight away i began looking for another full time job, but my industry pretty much had a hiring freeze on at that time - at least for full time work. My applications went no where. My redundancy pay at the time was about $5000. So i took a break to reassess. For about 3 weeks, i enjoyed just not working - went for walks, cooked read, relaxed, recharged, etc. But soon the money began to dry up. So I decided to just go for whatever temp job i could find - a little bit of money coming in was better than none. I think my 3rd temp job was a 7 month mat leave cover. I figured what the hell: 7 months of stable pay is better than nothing at all. I stayed in that job for 10 years, lol - full time 😊 Moral of the story is you may not get the job you want straight away, but just grab opportunities where you can and see where it takes you. And little money coming in is better than nothing at all.

@kayn2756 7 месяцев назад

😢 this is a big problem in today's America.

@coxrocks25 7 месяцев назад

This is the tough love people need to hear...

@alanbennett133 25 дней назад

I went through this. I married someone with a disabled daughter. I had a daughter as well. Her dad paid support and she received social security and fs etc. And Medicaid. Everytime I went to work, she lost all that and blamed me. Her father was still in the picture and paid some child support. Any job I got wasn't good enough, unless I was stuck paying astronomical insurance for her child who's Dad was in the picture. It was a lose lose so I gave up. When I did work I was belittliled for the pay. After we divorced, she moved in with a friend of mine, started dating him, and signed a fake lease to remain on government assistance. All everyone else knew was I wouldn't work. She didn't tell them she wouldn't let me . Always get both sides.

@Cyblps 7 месяцев назад

One of my good friends’s husband was unemployed multiple times. The longest period was over 3 years. I always wondered why he chose to be unemployed than working. Recently, someone mentioned getting unemployment paycheck is easier than working a minimum wage job. Wow. Thought my judgement of my husband couldn’t get lower. This man is over 50 and still financially dependent on his dad.

@Life23Live 7 месяцев назад

Me and my husband just moved 900 miles away from home . It's very hard to switch every little thing especially jobs lucky he works for autozone as a manager but here in Kissimmee FL they didn't pay him as well as DC so while he is bringing home money every 2 weeks it's barely enough where I am working overnights bringing in 2x what he does . I can tell he is always bringing up looking for another job but he can try harder.. I also give him some grace because i just went back to my field in March 2023 after being a sahm for a year where my husband took care of everything. I just tell myself atleast he is trying but I can also see where she is coming from too

@dannwhitehead6193 7 месяцев назад

I looked forward to going back to work today after taking vacation after Christmas. Most days off I did not get out of bed till 9 am, realizing how much time I wasted not being productive.

@AnthonyMcNeil 7 месяцев назад

Pride is tough to put aside but your pride will make it where you won't be willing to do what you have to provide for your family. Its funny, I work at a grocery store. Many managers don't even have college degrees and they're making six figures. He's gotta put the pride aside.

@genxx2724 7 месяцев назад

My friend worked her way up to grocery store manager by the time she graduated college. Her salary was so good she couldn’t afford to quit and get into her chosen field.

@yummynesss 6 месяцев назад

He should be cleaning cooking, doing laundry, taking care of the kids packing her lunch... as a man he needs to be flexible, doing all those things while applying for a job, to me hes to prideful and luckily he has a patient wife to put up with it

@stephenwishburne1034 7 месяцев назад

This call right here is why voting is soooo important!

@fire12731 7 месяцев назад

I’m shocked they are spending daycare!!!! The kids should have been pulled out immediately so they can save that money or at least part time. Wow wth

@fire12731 7 месяцев назад

@@Austenfan177 I agree

@ryanlisterman1864 5 месяцев назад

People want that 6 figure income but as soon as they hit a road bump they sit at home for 7 months. That’s not what 6 figure income earners do. I got fired once, as I was driving into the office for the meeting I was setting up interviews for that afternoon, was hired by the end of the day.

@califdad4 3 месяца назад

Ill admit my ex-wife has worked for UPS for 35 years and her seniority she gets overtime first, but part time regular working 6 days a week making 100k, she actually decided she needed to back off a bit because of income taxes

@tristanrodenhauser5267 6 месяцев назад

I’m glad she makes a comfortable income to support two in daycare and a husband that’s not working for 7 months. No massive stress on bills getting paid.

@snopure 6 месяцев назад

There was no mention of her income, but she did say they have a lot in savings they can tap when the severance pay runs out, so perhaps her pay wouldn't have been enough to cover all expenses if they hadn't saved. Perhaps what's in savings is the reason he's in no hurry to get a new job, though he could use his wife's wisdom in not allowing it to erode away.

@thenorthface4 6 месяцев назад

I’ve been a single mom for 11 years, zero child support received, I’ve had to heal through abuse, divorce and everything in between. I’ve made it work because my child counts on me. If she wants to play sports, I have to work two jobs to make it work…