I’ve Never Been Attracted to My Husband

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I’ve Never Been Attracted to My Husband
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@veracityhunter7777 Год назад

Word of advice: do not date or have sex when you feel badly about yourself. You're doomed to make mistakes and drag some innocent unsuspecting person down with you. Instead, go make friends, go to therapy, get some hobbies, go to the gym, advance your career, dig deeper into your spirituality, and build yourself up so you can make better decisions. Dumping your low self-esteem onto an unsuspecting person, is never the right way to go. You might not have intended to hurt them, but now you are the villain in someone else's story. It is your job to heal yourself and not put that burden on someone else who now will have to heal from you.

@mirabella2154 Год назад

Very true.

@starlingswallow Год назад

BEAUTIFULLY SAID!! 🎉❤

@maam-yj8ph Год назад

Advice from someone with depression who is terrified of taking antidepressants: Drink at least 2000 ml or 6 cups water every day. Take Vitamin D3 1000 - 2000 units 1-5 days a week. Walk 10,000 steps a day at least 4-5 days a week. Have at least one day off a week where you do nothing except take a nap/mentally rest.

@sundown6748 Год назад

maam9243 Excellent advice I’d like to add - meditation for 15 minutes a day. And clean up and declutter. Get yourself all the way ready everyday.

@NnoxLupus Год назад

So well said! 👏🏼

@9liveslisa Год назад

Dr. John hit the nail on the head! If she left him and married someone else, she'd be in the same boat. Before people get married it is sooooo important that the couple sit down and seriously talk about their needs and expectations from marriage. Most don't. They are in a honeymoon phase and everything is rainbows and unicorns. When the rainbows and unicorns disappear you are left with each other and wonder what happened. Real life happened.

@ffbr67 Год назад

Strong biblical counseling is needed. Many pastors will not marry couples unless they go through a program.

@addiskassa5165 Год назад

@@ffbr67 that's a great points! Spirituality or knows God's word prevent you so many conflicts specially on marriage, If a person of faith, the whole life views change, I wish people have appetite to listen biblical lessons!!! God is light, peace, and joy! Amen!🙏

@JKNat9004 Год назад

@@ffbr67 True.

@alqoshgirl Год назад

She sounds like a horrible woman honestly. I feel for this man. He doesn’t deserve that and sounds like an upstanding man. He on the other hand should’ve just never gotten involved with a woman that makes poor sexual decision with bad men and then being wishy washy if she wants him. Lots of red flags. So he obviously lacks good decision skills

@brandonbeck1946 Год назад

🙌🙌🙌

@silo7715 Год назад

I feel bad for her husband. She basically says she didnt want the relationship she just didn't want to be alone

@fairlyenjoyable 11 месяцев назад

There's a LOT of people who are like that, sadly. I have a friend who cannot function properly without being someone. He's always in and out of relationships. He also says he hates being alone to the point of going into a depression, but won't work on being comfortable with himself.

@sarahlund-nt3kw 10 месяцев назад

It's quite selfish of her.

@ykonratev 5 месяцев назад

What a selfish ho honestly deserves to be dumped and left with nothing the guy is clearly a cuck

@GalaxyFluke 5 месяцев назад

Yeah I’m 36, never married, no babies, but I could never settle and end up like this.

@gordocarbo 8 дней назад

@@sarahlund-nt3kw She never came out and said why she really married him. Likes the perks of being married but doesnt like being a wife

@luminous6969 Год назад

Man, I feel bad for the husband, knowing that he was just the bailout so that she wouldn't have to be alone and that she doesn't truly love him for him, he's just the provider for her and nothing more and he didn't find out until they were already married. That sucks to be taken advantage of like that and then trapped.

@Aaron-kj8dv Год назад

Yep and then he leaves he'll probably be forced to pay her a monthly alimony. That's fucking brutal lol

@jackcoleman5955 Год назад

She said she married her an architect, who kept her warm and safe and dry She would have liked to say she loved the man, but she didn’t like to lie -Auld Lang Syne

@YieldOfDreamz Год назад

This is 80% percent of marriages. There is a data out there showing that women only find about 20% of men attractive. Women are sharing the top men more and more, hence the rise in sexless/virgin males - 30+% (went from 9% to 30% in 10 years).

@nathanknight6042 Год назад

Us guys prioritize looks? Yes, we want to be sexually attractive to a woman, but us guys find a wide array of women attractive (race, height, body type, etc). From there we do care a lot about her being fit, feminine and friendly. It's that simple. So....now let's look at you women. You all desire the SAME very rare guy: over 6' tall, square jawline, full head of hair, six-pack, over 7 inches and of course makes minimum 6-figures. That's about 0.1% of male population but yet you are all princesses who deserve the very bestest. Funny too that dating app study showed men were attracted to 50% of all women (natural bell curved if graphed out). But guess what happened for women finding men's attractiveness? Women found less than 20% of men attractive 🤣. Yet guys are perceived as being shallow SMH 🙄.

@nathanknight6042 Год назад

she's depressed because her Alpha Chad left her and she feels she had to settle for a Beta male provider. The nice guy who swoops in to save yet another of these damn single moms, pays her bills, provides for her, works hard, respectful, etc. BUT none of that means sh!t because she's not sexually attracted to him like the bad boy who knocked her up. Alpha fu(ks, beta pays the bucks 😶

@salenabateman7003 Год назад

Girl- hold on tight to your husband. I bet he is a wonderful, stable step- father and father. I’m sure he is amazing. There are some terrible men out there, I mean really awful (I have single friends in there 30’s and 40’s). Keep your family together and find joy and peace in yourself with God’s help. Dr. John says you will be in the same boat- I think a much WORSE boat, truly worse. Find peace where you are

@larissagonzales6075 Год назад

Yes especially if she's dealing with depression and self-esteem it will be worse dating. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

@rickysantana5658 Год назад

She doesn't care, she's concerned with living her best life at another's expense.

@nathanknight6042 Год назад

@@larissagonzales6075 she's depressed because her Alpha Chad left her and she feels she had to settle for a Beta male provider. The nice guy who swoops in to save yet another of these damn single moms, pays her bills, provides for her, works hard, respectful, etc. BUT none of that means sh!t because she's not sexually attracted to him like the bad boy who knocked her up. Alpha fu(ks, beta pays the bucks 😶

@xreediculousx Год назад

She doesn't deserve him. At all.

@ihateutube1143 Год назад

She's the one that's terrible

@mustangthings Год назад

She says she “let him in.” No honey, he let you in.

@crzyruskie86 Год назад

And her kid

@christophermartin972 Год назад

Complete delusion

@gbear34 Год назад

Truer words

@sunshine3914 Год назад

Takes two… he could have said “no”.

@nly4607 Год назад

@@sunshine3914 one would assume she would have the basic human decency to be grateful...unfortunately single moms criminal factories and completely devoid of morals

@19GENESE13 Год назад

She got married to escape & it didn't work. I'd love to hear from her husband and how he dealt with her moving the finishline every day of their marriage.

@asimdeyaf Год назад

The finish line is always moving when you’re married.

@alqoshgirl Год назад

@A 7108 yes agree. She sounds horrible honestly. Nothing she said was bad about her husband. She seems to be a very troubled person but he also decided to fall for a woman like that

@CC12398 Год назад

@A 7108 this is a very good and very important point! Takes two to tango. Thank you for pointing out there are no victims really

@NattyGymBro Год назад

This is why men shouldn't marry damaged goods.

@Digger-Nick Год назад

@A 7108 You're pushing her fantasy lmao. Just no

@dogboydom Год назад

She wasted his time his money and his life. She should let him free from the falsified life she gave him. I didn’t hear her say once that she loved him.

@gordocarbo 8 дней назад

Agree!!! All the BS about her being confused blah blah is BS SHe married the guy because he looked stable and would take good care of her and the kid period! This guy got hosed big time...crappy marriage and if he divorces hes still screwed. She cant even be honest with the host. Dont have an ounce of sympathy for her. She had NO idea he travelled for work...the victim crap about being left alone...what is she 8 yrs old?

@valerieosborne16 Год назад

If you don’t heal you will always run away! Don’t let go of this wonderful husband that you have. Work on yourself

@jamielouthan9848 Год назад

These titles are getting click-baity. She never once said she never found her husband attractive. She said marriage looks different than she thought it would and she’s feeling depressed.

@sunshine3914 Год назад

This.

@evolutiondl1492 Год назад

She didn't say it but it's clear that she doesn't really like him. She was a single mother and when she was describing him, she was listing the things that he could do for her instead of the things that attracted her to him.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@evolutiondl1492 Him having stability for most women, will be seen as automatically attractive. I’m a child free woman and even I find that very attractive let alone a woman who has a child! If she wanted a hot guy there are plenty around. It’s very easy. You guys place looks on a pedal stool. That’s how you operate. Us women do not typically operate in that way. If we feel disengaged it’s most likely emotion based. If she didn’t find him attractive she would’ve said so. He mentioned it many times and not once did she say ‘no’. So Her problem was clearly something else. Like her feeling lonely / marriage not what it seems etc.

@luminous6969 Год назад

She's not physically unattractive to him but she realized she doesn't truly love him since she just used him as a bailout. But by then they were already married so..........

@Digger-Nick Год назад

She misses Chad and doesn't desire her secure husband.

@JJJJ-he8bz Год назад

That man is about to get hit by a category 5 hurricane and has no idea it’s coming. Hopefully he sees this video and recognizes her voice.

@oncetwice5942 Год назад

I really hope so too. It’s not fair to him at all.

@terriesmith2616 Год назад

He made a BIG mistake marrying her. She's emotionally and mentally broken and has no self accountability either. Always blaming someone else instead of looking within.

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

Desperation will make us do what we thought we’d never do. And decisions made in desperation will put us in a cycle of escaping those choices.

@jonathanmadden7675 Год назад

She made a decision to Marry this Man for the Security and stability he provides. It was a financial decision and she did him a great disservice. Now if she gets divorced, how much of this man's resources does she get to take (from him) after admitting she did this to level up?

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

This is what happens when a man has lots of money but doesn’t have the look and height to attract.

@jones2277 Год назад

funny because women are encouraged to marry for exactly those reasons, and called too picky when they place any value on attraction or compatibility.

@jonathanmadden7675 Год назад

@@jones2277 Im not really disagreeing with you here. This is true to a degree, someone should be looking for a stable partner(for a healthy relationship) but, my main issues is the resources of this Man seems to be the sole reason she chose to Marry him. Love and Attraction were never part of the equation. I have a problem with this woman being Morally Bankrupt. It's not the middle ages, kind of messed up this happens, and you know in her mind she probably thinks she "Settled" for him.

@jones2277 Год назад

@@jonathanmadden7675 unlike men, women are discouraged from "following their heart" and socially pressured to find a partner who can provide the best resources for them and their offspring by age 30. in other words, pick the "nice guy" and grow into love rather marrying for love or you're a horribly shallow and picky person with impossibly high standards. that is the message written all over the manosphere and in religious and ethnic-cultural spaces. nobody is considering how many men are convinced they can throw money at a woman and get love in return. the whole situation is sad for both parties, and it's probably one of the factors in the high divorce rate.

@sunshine3914 Год назад

@@jonathanmadden7675 “morally bankrupt”? That’s pretty judgey of you. She thought she would have a companion when she married. If American were honest, they’d acknowledge that most women marry for either financial security or personal security, & most men will marry for sexual convenience. Don’t believe me, just ask someone who’s married.

@Daim_0nic Год назад

I love every highlight, because no one actually asks the question they mean to ask. They always ask some vague question that could also be a quote you see on someone’s inspirational Instagram post 😂 The best part is John never bites; he sees right through the bullshit and drags the real question out of them immediately lol

@faxoxo2306 Год назад

😂😂😂😂 seems like you having a good time out of that

@starlingswallow Год назад

People need to stop trying to find validation in other people. It attracts abusers OR it puts weight on someone that should be solely on YOU. I went through this. I had hardly no identity. I grew up trained to look for external validation....the whole "you complete me", Jerry McGuire bull crap. It put me into a world of hurt for 14 years. Until I got safe and then found my self worth and self love, I was able to move on in a healthier way and am happily married and I KNOW myself ❤ I get validation from my husband but my main validation comes from God and me, from the inside out. I hope this caller finds herself, her worth and stops looking for it outside of herself...

@araineacutebrownnurse7315 Год назад

I honestly think she had a kid by a random guy he ditched her, she was embarrassed about being a single mother , found a nice guy who accepted her and the kid but she is simply not attracted to him 🤷🏽‍♀️ but doesnt know how to get out of it. Period

@citrustaco Год назад

Yes, a nice guy accepted her and her kid, but she accepted him. Why? Because he provides financial stability, the things that women are taught to look for and be attracted to. Here's a life lesson. No one cares about your attractiveness. Marriage is about duty. He gives you something and you give him something. "I don't find him attractive" isn't an excuse. Just do it anyway. Because if the shoe were on the other foot and the man said "I don't find her attractive", then he would be the asshole for choosing her, dragging her through this, and lowering her esteem and worth. So he should lie in the bed that he made and make it work. If he isn't attracted to her because she gained weight or whatever, HE's the one at fault and needs help. Same thing here. She chose him, so make it work. All of this "but I'm not attracted to him" is an excuse to find some other guy to sleep with. Life isn't a fairy tale.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@citrustaco she never said she doesn’t find him attractive. That was click bait lol. He even asked her and not once did she say no. She said the marriage isnt what it seems and she may have depression.

@shamelesstumuhaise3364 Год назад

@@citrustaco Nailed it

@spencergsmith Год назад

@@gailainsley6939read between the lines, she may not have said it out loud, but it’s absolutely true. Love is a choice, and the grass is always greener.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@spencergsmith He asked her. She didn’t say ‘no’. You guys want to believe this soo bad but the truth is, most of us women do not rate physical attraction highly enough. 😂 if we lose interest, it’s most likely due to other issues. Not physical 😂😴🥱

@FavoritesPersonal Год назад

This woman sounds like a self-involved twit. She doesn’t just have depression; she lacks character. She knew she wasn’t attracted to her husband and has used him for years to solve her past mistakes and improve her living situation. She’s no bargain and my heart breaks for her child and husband.

@ykonratev 5 месяцев назад

Every woman today is depressed when it's convenient it's a total joke. This woman is clearly a degenerate and deserves nothing

@lindac2554 17 часов назад

Dont be so mean You're wrong Depression can do this

@FavoritesPersonal 15 часов назад

@@lindac2554 Depression can do a lot of things, but it doesn’t change your morals and values. This woman lacks character. She might be depressed, but at her core, she’s a user. She knew she wasn’t attracted to her husband, but she married him anyway, just to improve her situation.

@jackieyoung3359 Год назад

She latched onto this guy because he provided her and her baby with physical things like the big wedding, the honeymoon, the house, financial stability. She never sought an emotional connection in the beginning of the relationship, but then all of a sudden she was surprised he had to be gone to work all the time to provide the very things she was attracted to him for?

@SonGokuSleepTherapy 4 месяца назад

she wants to have her cake and eat it too

@butchsmith-rt1ok 20 дней назад

Shes a woman. That sums it up.

@tiffanynicoley Год назад

I saw Jim Carrey once say "Depression is your avatar telling you it's tired of being the character you're trying to play". I think that is her in this case. She is tired of living a life she didn’t truly want.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

I needed to hear that. Thank you 🙏🏽

@deenaccount8994 Год назад

Hmm, it could just be the high expectations of what life is meant to look like and how life is meant to make you feel, when all of the expectations are unmet it snowballs into thinking your life is the problem. Gratitude, working on one's self, seeing the good and constantly working/battling your mindset, discipline and consistency brings peace into the mind and heart. We need to put more effort into a mental health just as much as we focus on our physical, it brings peace into your life and your loved ones especially when there are children involved

@raynaroy157 Год назад

Very well thought out. This applied to me

@katiez688 Год назад

I would be devastated if I found out someone I was married to or in a serious relationship was not actually attracted to me.

@butchsmith-rt1ok 20 дней назад

This is why men are not committing or getting married.

@fauxbro1983 Год назад

Lol. Never be in a relationship with a woman who's "luke-warm" over you lol

@carnivoreRon Год назад

If what she said is true, I bet she hid it from the man she married because she's a good actor.

@richthepup Год назад

@@carnivoreRon i think OP’s point still stand. Using your own internal barometer and the facts, if you’re being accountable you know if someone is legitimately into you vs like elements of your life and tolerating you along the way

@rosamoreno4794 Год назад

This lady made a mistake giving a random man a baby without commitment while being a broken person herself. She cheated herself and the child. 🤷🏻‍♀️Facts hurt.

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

If a man has good looks and height genetics then women will become desperate to give him a free baby. The father of her baby has a 8/10 face and is over 190cm tall.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@grizzlybear2702 False. The men I use to be in relationships with were good looking. Tall. Good genes etc etc. never once did it cross my mind to give them a baby with no commitment. And I was with one for 4 years! He would continuously ask me but I will never do that to myself or to my child as although I was young, I wasn’t silly. I always knew I wanted more for myself and my future children. Them having no money / ambition was the number 1 reason why I couldn’t see myself giving them a child. Needless to say. Number 1 for me definitely isn’t looks and neither is it for most women. I think women who fall for that trap are usually just young and naive.

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

@@gailainsley6939 even if the child is raised with very little money their financial situation will change once they reach working age. Id much rather be tall and good looking with good genetics heritage as i can eventually get a education, work hard and get a good job before age 25 because financial situations is something you can control. The bone structure of your face and height is permanently unchangeable and those factors will dictate how the whole of society will treat you and how likely you are to get promotions at work. Temporary shortage of money is better than eternal looks and height discrimination.

@citrustaco Год назад

The baby isn't free. He didn't want it, but I'm sure he's paying child support for it.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@grizzlybear2702 You think this is what you will do but most handsome dudes act like women. They think because they get laid easily by average looking girls, they can just float through life like beautiful women can. Unfortunately, many get a wake up call once they start ageing because the truth is, women do not value looks highly. Especially after a certain age. They expect you to have money and your things in order but because these guys are handsome and already getting women, they don’t have motivation. Then they get old and become shocked that they need to start paying. Have you ever noticed that handsome men rarely have beautiful women as partners unless they are celebrity? Or social media stars? The average good looking man is often with average looking even fat women. Because those women will pay (for very short time) & it’s because beautiful women often prefer money. They are very lazy. Most do not have money. And that’s why even on RU-vid the most watched videos by women have titles like ‘how to meet established/ rich men’ and NEVER ‘how to meet hot handsome guy’. It’s because we are not interested. With money you can make plastic surgery. Children don’t even have to work so who cares. 😂😴💸

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

Why do we always blame the spouse when we ourselves bought baggage into the relationship?

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

They both settled for each other... let's just be real here. He probably isn't the Casanova guy that can pick up girls easily, probably has social issues and/or is physically unattractive, so he settled for late 30s with a kid. She has a kid, so can't attract guys who she would be interested in for a long-term relationship if she is/was physically attractive. Sure, she can attract alpha guys for short-term, but the alphas aren't going to want a relationship with a woman in her late 30s with a kid since they can easily get anyone else and be the biological father to a girl of their own choosing.

@burntblonde2925 11 месяцев назад

When you’re in pain, you can’t think outside yourself, then you feel trapped, even though she’s not trapped, except by herself.

@jenj1221 10 месяцев назад

@@Michael-ke8onlate 20s LOL and who wants a man that sleeps around that can’t support himself? Possibly give you a gross disease and heart full of dirt? Idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’ve never been attracted to bad personalities, and if I had a hint of bad intentions I’d leave so quickly. From that mind set I didn’t do too bad. I was blessed with a very amazing, attractive, stable man. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Not all of us are looking for the “bad boy” in fact they are always there. Those men that run through woman ALWAYS circle back. They truly don’t go anywhere. If they DO get a “hot” younger girl, it doesn’t last. They will do anything. And be there until the end of time waiting for that moment things don’t work out. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

@blitzkrieg6872 11 месяцев назад

Do the kind thing, lady. Let him go. Let him be free to meet another woman who TRULY loves him. You don't. Don't be selfish. Just release him. He knows that you don't love him and he wants to be free to find someone that does. There is a woman out there, who is much kinder and more beautiful than you. She is waiting for you to release this man so that she can step in and love him like he deserves to be loved.

@Helibeaver Год назад

He let YOU IN, you just went cause you didn't have better option.

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

@alexandrasalvagni6269 3 месяца назад

He could’ve left when they were on again, off again. He didn’t. He knew she wasn’t sure. He accepted to be with someone who wasn’t sure.

@nkyryry Год назад

This is the problem with a lot of women. This guy married her when she had a kid. He has a job that travels a lot. She had to have known that. He’s providing… and she’s unhappy. She’s lucky ANYBODY wanted to marry her. Much less a reliable dependable guy. How do you think women stay married to truck drivers? Because they choose to. She’ll be impossible to please for anybody. It’s NOT the guy… he’s NOT the problem.

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

@bufficliff8978 5 месяцев назад

Touch grass, boys. You had chronically-online brain a year ago.

@beansandrunning 4 месяца назад

People who use Alpha man unironically really should touch some grass😂 @@Michael-ke8on

@andrea9797mdd Год назад

I'm a woman and I'm embarrassed about how childish women can get about the expectations in marriage

@keepscrolling6042 Год назад

I mean i get her where she’s coming from, its hard to make a decision when your baby’s stability and future is at stake

@carterseries4287 Год назад

You want to be with someone u not attracted too?

@nathansimpson5721 Год назад

@@keepscrolling6042 doesn't mean you literally USE another human like they're a tool

@kunya16 Год назад

Same. She married him to use him. Now when he's not enough for her she wants out. So sad and selfish.

@happyface3216 Год назад

How about how childish people can be. Both men and woman have made childish decisions.

@runnerupcsal8241 Год назад

She literally said i just married him cause i was lonely....these decent men marrying these selfish monsters are in for a world of hurt 😑😑

@Vic82toire 4 месяца назад

Are men brainless or lack agency? These things go both ways. It's also up to you not to be duped.

@kimhesketh2016 Год назад

I had a landlady once ask me if I found her boyfriend attractive. I told her I didn't and I meant it. She then said that she really didn't found him attractive either. She was such a narcissist that she needed constant attention and could not go without a boyfriend in her life. She was the kind of person that needed to talk non-stop about herself and needed someone willing to listen to her.

@jones2277 Год назад

So what's the problem? she got someone to pay her attention, and he got someone to pay attention to. win-win.

@shachede6828 Год назад

thatts your landlord and this jodie suffering from depression. your landlord too might have other issues. yall just write the word narcissist for everything

@LittleImpaler 4 месяца назад

She does that. Because she has insecurities

@energeticsoulhealer888 Год назад

If she leaves him, the right thing to do is walk away with what she came in with.... NOTHING. She used him for his resources (house, job, stability), and he got a lemon. This man took on a woman-child with another man's baby. My God, and she's not attracted TO HIM? This woman is egregious, and it's hard to have compassion for her. All I can think about is her 10 year old child, and husband, whom she duped. The best, most humane thing, she could do is leave him, and give him the possibility of living a better life, a life without her deception and manipulation. Ten years of lies is long enough. Let him go to rebuild his life. You think YOUR expectations weren't met? IMAGINE his....

@terriesmith2616 Год назад

Exactly!! Bingo!! 🎯🎯💯💯

@SuperJutah Год назад

Alpha f*cks beta bucks

@1HeatWalk Год назад

Maybe the child finally became an adult and she no longer needs the guy for support. Her leaving him and going for another guy she is attracted to is just remaking the same mistake she made in the past with the guy who gave her a kid and left.

@sidneybristow815 Год назад

You hit it on the head. When she doesn’t get joy from anything, she doesn’t know what’s wrong and attributes it to him. She needs stability from him, someone who won’t leave when she’s broken. Test his limits to do it with you, that builds strength. Do outdoor activities together, shared excitement is bonding. Psychiatrists help to find tune medication, sometimes different neurotransmitters work better than others people, at least they could prescribe directly and it would save time. Cognitive behavioral therapy would also be beneficial to reframe your thoughts and get rid of established patterns of faulty thinking. Dr John your insight and ability to cut through the fluff to get to the core of the issue is par none. If you could be cloned, the world would be a better place, peaceful and strong.

@Nah-ah Год назад

She was trying to find herself in her marriage! No hon, you don’t find yourself in a marriage, that’s where you loose yourself and some more, you become about that life pretending to like what you did and who you married! Wise words from Dr JD

@el676 Год назад

It shocks me how un self aware and selfish people can be.

@AmandaJ86 8 месяцев назад

At one point of my life I would have agreed with you. However after studying psychology and living through a ton of different Trauma( 8 on the Aces). I have realized when you are constantly in survival mode you are only seeing life through those lens. Once you work through that Trauma, you will learn how to pay attention to yourself, only then you realize how selfish mental health illnesses make you. It's all consuming. So I don't fault her for not being self aware.

@andreaarias2085 Год назад

Attending church can help a person find peace, good mental health, physical health statistically, if a person attends at least once a week according to a Harvard study.

@adamthiry868 Год назад

Church buildings are a scam. I'm much happier leaving those places behind. All your doing is helping the pastor have a better life by giving your money, so that they can lie to you and tell you what you want to hear. Meet locally, house to house, with other born again believers and leave church buildings to the lost people.

@alexyssaubrie1606 Год назад

Going to church gave me a community that I never had before. My pastor lives in a normal sized house and has the same year car I do so I don’t believe that all pastors are in it for the greed. We do have to be cautious about who we listen to, but I wouldn’t trade my church friends for the world. We do so many fun things together. I used to be depressed and now I’m not, thanks not only to Jesus, but the built in family I got when I started to walk with him. I’ve been off my SSRI’s for 5 months and am not looking back.

@stephanyg2208 11 месяцев назад

She feels like she had to settle because she had a kid. She went along with it because she thought no one else would want her and he was a nice guy. It all looked right on paper but the chemistry isn’t there. Now she feels stuck in a marriage that isn’t the love story she always wanted. That is why she is depressed. She went against her gut because she was afraid of being alone. She wants it to work but her heart isn’t in it.

@AZMR240SX 2 месяца назад

There’s no way she “settled” at all. It’s very clear that she married for personal convenience and safety/stability. He had his life together from how she tells it, and she brought her chaos and unexpected child into that… and she has the delusional to say “I let him in“. If any “settling” occur, it was him for her. Again, by her own description, her husband was doing just fine for himself. Seems like he picked the wrong mate: a single mother with a history of bad decisions who somehow thinks *she’s* too good for *him*. Just listen to her, she sold herself on some fantasy… She married someone to be your father, not her husband, and yet she expects to be swept off her feet. She even said that, despite knowing he travels a lot for work, she somehow thought that would change after they got married. No, the collar is 100% her own problem. I feel very sorry for her child and her husband.

@juliabrowder4853 Год назад

Just found this saying recently and think it has great merit: If you can’t live with the one you love, love the one you are with! Love is a choice as is happiness. In saying that I know sometimes even this does not work.

@JKNat9004 Год назад

Foundation of being happy is loving the one you're with 24/7/365; that is YOURSELF!

@kyleconnor2759 Год назад

You just came across that? It’s also a bs saying and for weak people. I feel bad for whoever you’re pretending to love rn. If you can’t be with the one you love, be alone and create other purpose in your life. Don’t hurt someone else just so you don’t have to feel lonely 😂 that’s so sick.

@willylumpnj 8 месяцев назад

That "saying" was actually a song by Stephen Sills from the early 1970s

@Teewriter 5 месяцев назад

@@kyleconnor2759Kyle is a condescending ass. Imagine being married to that.

@JoBunny87 Год назад

It amazes me how people rather be around people they dont like than being alone. I never understood that.

@auemmjee 9 месяцев назад

They don't like themselves. When you like yourself, time alone is great.

@parkerskeeper9621 Год назад

Moral of the story be careful who you sleep and have kids with. This lady cornered herself into getting involved with someone because of an income since her baby daddy left her. Also be careful who you marry because this man gave her everything and she is not content and talking about divorce what a huge disservice to someone trying to build a family.

@michaelstein7510 Год назад

Yeah, women like this are why I refuse to date single moms. I’m sure there are some good ones out there, but it’s not worth the risk. The majority of them have major, irreparable issues. It’s sad. My older brother took a chance on marrying a single mom with three kids by two deadbeat men. He was a phenomenal husband, father, and stepfather. And guess what? She cheated on him multiple times, even after he caught her and forgave her the first time. And now she’s raking him over the coals in the divorce courts for hundreds of thousands of dollars. After seeing that, among many other examples, I will never take a chance on a single mom when there are still great women out there who haven’t had any kids yet.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

If he wanted a family why did he pick a woman that already started hers? I don’t understand that. Soo many single women without children waiting to be married and start a family with financially stable guy and look at who he chose. I see this a lot and I’m always confused and start questioning the guys mental stability.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@michaelstein7510 Why did he pick her? Soo many single women without child. Did he say?

@michaelstein7510 Год назад

@@gailainsley6939 My brother has rarely had good choice in women. He’s capable of attracting good women, but he settles for low-quality women far too often. He met his ex-wife on XBox Live, and she gave up sex easily. He was very lonely at the time, and she trapped him by getting pregnant soon after they started dating. So she used him as her provider while she continued to ho it up behind his back the whole time. His ex-wife has been a disaster for our family, but his current wife finally seems like a good one, so hopefully he can maintain that relationship. But I’ve learned from his experiences, now that I’m through with school and entering the dating game. I’m very selective about the women I date. I’d rather stay single and lonely than end up with low-quality women like my brother found. Many men seek women who give up sex easily, but I’m the opposite. I’m looking for a wife I can trust, not some woman who will give up sex after a few dates.

@1HeatWalk Год назад

@@michaelstein7510 This is what happens when a man doesn't respect or love himself.

@bkstandard882 5 месяцев назад

Guys. Don't get with any woman who you had to work to get. That means she had to trick herself into liking you. Never ends well.

@zeal4god402 Год назад

Be complete and whole in God first, THEN your ready for the one you have a genuine and powerful CONNECTION with!

@InGodITrust333 2 месяца назад

Amen!

@dhritikapoor2897 Год назад

She simply doesn’t love him and is not happy . That’s that . She regrets marrying him. I don’t think she loved him even on the day of their wedding. There is no coming back from that.

@smustipher Год назад

While it is totally valid and reasonable to have wants and expectations for an intimate relationship or marriage, it seems like too many people are going into it with a "what do I get from this" mentality as opposed to a "what do I give/what can I bring" metality. Because guess what? Sometimes a partner becomes ill, loses a job, etc. Then, you are in the "better or worse" moment and YOU have to be better. Do not commit to someone unless you are willling to be a giver (not a doormatt who accepts abuse or codependent) as that could very well be your role for a time (or a long time) depending on how events unfold.

@hommy1614 Год назад

Dr. Delony called this one! I did not see it coming. I feel so bad for her, her child, and that stable, hardworking, man that loves them both.

@sidneybristow815 Год назад

It is fascinating to see people, mostly narcissistic personalities, get married, experience everyday life with someone, then leave blaming their spouse for being this or that. Then meet the love of their life, get married and it happens all over again. The only common denominator is them. Once their wife is seen as a real person and doesn’t excite them or act like they want, there’s something wrong with her, and they’re gone. Six marriages and still people let him down, leaving him upset and angry. Until he meets the next love of his life who’s like no one he’s ever met. Holy crap. My husband of 23 years has two friends like this. Nuts!

@addiskassa5165 Год назад

Women! Women! I am a woman to by the way, stop searching happiness on your husband's or your partner, Happiness found within you, it's inside out! Find a hobby or a passions you admire the most in life, gratitude more, put your shoes on your partner shoes feel it how he get the man he becomes today, We all passed so many challenges to become a responsible human being luckily!!! Good luck!!!🙏🙏🙏

@mariacorretge6615 Год назад

John Deloney, what incredible skill and wisdom.

@bcreilly180 Год назад

It was apparent that my ex wife didn't want to accept the responsibilities of being married. She wanted to be married but not work the relationship unless it was her own benefit. Didn't make me less devastated when getting the call from her saying she's leaving me. 19 months and she was like, "nope, not worth it"

@auemmjee 9 месяцев назад

What was it about her that inspired you to propose? I'm asking because many of the guys I knew chose wives based on really poor criteria.

@andreaayers4285 Год назад

This is me, currently. Thank you for this video Dr. John. It's hard to begin those steps for a better life. I pray I am able to start soon.

@Dwights_trash_can Год назад

What's with the click bait titles?

@miikellemitchell Год назад

Yeah she didnt say she wasn't attracted to her husband...those were John's words

@ominous450 Год назад

She settled

@razio1096 Год назад

Choose wisely who you want to marry. This lady was a walking red flag and this poor guy married her. Now he’s stuck with a lady who doesn’t love him, never had and never will. She’s broken.

@Ryan_DeWitt Год назад

All too common scenario. Woman has a child with the bad boy she is attracted to. Bady boy wants nothing to do with her after the kid. She then needs a provider and goes with a guy who she is not attracted to but will provider for her which only last for a while as it is very hard to be with someone you are not attracted to. A "cookie cutter" that happens ever day.

@jones2277 Год назад

i know so many more that went in the other direction: married the awkward unattractive provider, tired of boring sex and lackluster conversations, then met a guy (or woman) they were on fire for and decided to leave the marriage.

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

I don't understand why ANY woman would be attracted to a bad boy. She should just escape with a gothic novel featuring dark triad men and helpless women, but live in the real world.

@Ryan_DeWitt Год назад

@@reginasemenenko148 It's not that women want to be attracted to them. It's just that they are because you don't have a whole lot of control over who you are attracted to. There are likely biological factors behind it in terms of producing the most durable and likely to survive offspring possible.

@genxx2724 Год назад

@@Ryan_DeWitt They seem to offer protection in a primal sense, by being dare.devils and imposing physical specimens. But protection means sticking around so your offspring survives and thrives. Pick8ng these guys turns out to be nothing more than the female version of risk-taking behavior.

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

@@Ryan_DeWitt But seriously, we have to use a little reason, right?

@Dillon_Ditch Год назад

She was a single mom that was looking for stability and security and was not sexually attracted to her husband

@Josh_Morales Год назад

I’ve she was never attracted to him, why did she marry him? Also spoiler alert, no matter how attractive the man is, there will be a time when you lose attraction for him regardless because everyone is imperfect. The man will grow old and lose his attractive looks and his character is what you get left with. Pick a man with a good character.

@KnifiNtheHeart Год назад

She settled…. Plain and simple

@johnsmith-kt7ef Год назад

she will never get better than what she has... she is a single mom late 30s. She leaves this dude, it will mostly be random hook ups and casual encounters through dating apps and this type of woman (whose depressed and has abandonment issues) will be easy pickings for dudes on there.

@carnivoreRon Год назад

She settled for a man who probably loves her and will be broken when she leaves with the child he has helped raise for a decade.

@jeradkiester698 Год назад

He settled for her.

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

@@jeradkiester698 They both settled for each other... let's just be real here. He probably isn't the Casanova guy that can pick up girls easily, probably has social issues and/or is physically unattractive, so he settled for late 30s with a kid. She has a kid, so can't attract guys who she would be interested in for a long-term relationship if she is/was physically attractive. Sure, she can attract alpha guys for short-term, but the alphas aren't going to want a relationship with a woman in her late 30s with a kid since they can easily get anyone else and be the biological father to a girl of their own choosing.

@Diallelus Год назад

God bless her, her husband, and her child!

@mandyprice5735 Год назад

This is the exact same thing I’ve been struggling with my long term boyfriend of 4.5 years. I struggle a lot with confidence and lack of other relationships and lack of hobbies, etc. I tend to make it seem like my partner has to fulfill me in all the ways I don’t know how to. And I have depression as well that I have medicated for many years. I also blame our society for placing crazy toxic standards on relationships, making you think if it’s not perfect it’s not good.

@frankirwin5684 Год назад

It’s not society’s fault. It’s a lack of self love. People who walk to the beat of their own drum are happy regardless of what “society” thinks. Stop living being scared of what everyone else will think and start living with what makes you happy and the problem will be fixed

@bumblinagirl2683 Год назад

@@frankirwin5684 Easier said than done. Counseling may help you find what you value and then begin to build a self-esteem. Good luck, miss!

@taylorb6469 Год назад

Go to the gym.

@crystalglopez91623 Год назад

And try God too

@MCgrease08 Год назад

Good for you for acknowledging that. That takes courage to admit. Good luck with the journey. Hopefully you can discuss things openly with your boyfriend and hopefully he's willing to hear what you say, accept it, and start the adventure with you.

@soapyfankatie Год назад

She marred him because she didn't want to be alone. She settled. Feel bad for the husband

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

@madambutrfly23 Год назад

I wonder what responsibility the man bears in this. Why was he attracted to her? I hate how people are dumping on this woman. She’s depressed and that’s why she feels what she feels. She needs help not judgement. The man has issues too because he married her but we love to blame women for everything wrong in a relationship. I hope she gets help.

@robertm.9633 Год назад

Dr. John: “conversation with your CURRENT husband”. I think he knows how this story ends.

@kristinrichmond8185 Год назад

Stay married. If he’s a good man, stay with him. You won’t find anyone better.

@dianecelento4974 Год назад

Ditto!!!

@brianbest6097 Год назад

Unfortunately, women find out the hard way after divorcing the man who was worth a damn

@kcourtney6826 Год назад

Marriage gets a bad wrap because of broken people like this jumping into these relationships, unfortunately instead of addressing the real issues within she will probably leave him and be on her 4th marriage within 10years.

@CoffeeSA96 Год назад

When did she say she’s not attracted to him? I listened to the entire call and I didn’t hear her mention anything about that? Clickbait title

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

I don't get it. No attraction to him? The most attractive thing about him is not his money, it's that he treats you well!!!!!! No one gets everything they want in life. There is no perfect friend, job, husband, wife, child, anything. Seek out a therapist and work through your issues. Therapy takes time and nothing will be solved in one session. Keep going!

@coreyoliver3182 Год назад

If he was taller, handsomer, lean and muscular...then this call would have never happened. Truth. She wants Chad and roped in a beta male provider and now he gets to suffer by eventually losing half his net worth and raising another man's baby. I've seen this happen to a friend of mine. I warned him and warned him. Then he paid the price after a few years of absolute hell. If the woman isn't losing her mind over you at the beginning, don't bother. If a woman has slept with a bunch of guys before you, don't bother. It's just the way it is. No amount of Therapy will turn her husband into the Chad she slept with before him.

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

@SMB Girly Girl I am confused by it as well. I dated my husband for a few years and I was so attracted to the way he treated me, but I care more about the interpersonal relationship than physical appearance. It's also not realistic to expect a husband or wife to meet every need. I'm glad I had someone to sort of reinforce the idea that no one gets 100% of anything in life and that helped me adjust my expectations down to reality. I remember a mentor telling me that my career was a job that usually pays more than a lot of other jobs and that after awhile it wouldn't be that interesting. That was a truth bomb. My Mother was also a great help with regard to relationships--also saying that they ebb and flow. Of course, not everyone has people in their life to help them manage expectations. I hope she continues with therapy and that things improve for her, her husband and child.

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

@@reginasemenenko148 The reason she doesn’t find her husband attractive is because he previous partner who got her pregnant was taller and had a better looking face. He is 7 years older so it’s logical to assume his old enough to have gone completely bald which would have killed the remainder of his attractiveness. His problem is height, facial aesthetics, and possibly balding. He made plenty of money.

@marisaking5982 Год назад

People only say crazy things like this to women. We are visual as well! Physical/sexual attraction is mandatory in a romantic relationship, without it it’s just a friendship.

@isaiahh4108 Год назад

@@marisaking5982 the problem is they also wanna be provided for they all want Kings w/o realizing there only be one king in a kingdom

@lilibethvilella 2 месяца назад

& this is why I love Dr John!!! 🥹🙏🩵

@hariharankarthikeyan3604 Год назад

No Morals. He supported this woman and her kid and been a good husband and her kid. Now she is betraying her husband and planning to leave him. She doesnt know what loyalty, commitment, and love means to her. Felt bad for her husband. Hope he will leave her for a woman with culture.

@Tamar-sz8ox 11 месяцев назад

Relationships: This is a prime example of how we project all of our wants & ideals onto a person , rather than sitting and observing who is this person sitting infront of me ? invest in yourself and you & your family will benefit from it all, either way , learn to appreciate all you have and your husband and child

@jones2277 Год назад

this is why it's not wise to encourage women to settle just to get married.

@LisaSoulLevelHealing Год назад

I liked How he delved deeper.

@starlingswallow Год назад

Medication can't fix depression & anxiety, it numbs you. Dig into yourself and find the root of the internal issue ♥️ I found that me stuffing my scary feelings deep, deep, deep down inside myself is what caused my anxiety. It's scary letting that crap come up (because stuffing, ignoring, medicating doesn't make it go away) and I know it's scary as heck....but it helps! Going through the momentary pain is so worth it!!! Every time I have a good cry when past trauma comes up, I feel as if a huge rock has been lifted off my back! ❤

@wnm8888 Год назад

What type of medication are you referring to? Antidepressants, benzodiazepines, mood stabilizers, or antipsychotics?

@smustipher Год назад

Amen. I am greiving recent the loss of a mentor and it SUCKS. Some days I didn't want to move a muscle, but I worked anyway, took walks, etc.. It was tempting to go to the bar and "forget about it", but I decided to stick it out and feel the pain. Having a good therapist or trusted confidant helps too, but if you want to "feel better" after a trauma or loss, you have to be willing to "feel bad" for a time.

@veracityhunter7777 Год назад

I agree. EMDR, cbt, dbt, and internal family systems types of therapies actually help me to work out dealing with my emotions.

@ST-ff1zd Год назад

Might consider genetic testing for depression Rx choices most-likely-to-succeed for her. Also test for whether there is a mutation which limits her ability to make necessary B vitamin metabolites. These things can change a life. Also list every day something admirable about this man. One can spend a lifetime hit-or-miss with Rx for depression w/o finding the best one for the individual.

@supernova11711 Год назад

Depends on the person and the meds. I know a couple of people who have found extreme relief through the use of the right medication. An no, it definitely doesn’t “numb” them. They are vibrant and excited for life again. Genuinely happy. The one had to try a few different ones before they found one that worked for her but that’s really common.

@NaNa-lt1po Год назад

a moment of silence for the guy who got fooled..

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

@darciee.7337 Год назад

She's depressed. Like me. Did she actually say she wasn't attracted to him? My husband and I fought our way through our 9 year marriage and he was borderline abusive and I wouldn't communicate and I would freeze when he brought an uncomfortable subject up because of I have ptsd from my mom and dad's marriage, religious trauma, etc. It's real and it's hard. We're finally getting marriage counseling and I'm learning to communicate better. I identify with her so much and my heart goes out to her. All these people who are hard on her make me lol. Go learn some life lessons and grow up and have some empathy. Stop slapping a narcissistic label on anyone who has trauma. They aren't all narcissists! I feel like Dr. John listened to her only partially. I really hope he's right about his assumptions about the rest.

@sunshine3914 Год назад

Right. She never said anything bad about her husband. And narcissist wouldn’t be calling, because they already think they know everything… like so many in the comments.

@JJJJ-he8bz Год назад

Imagine how depressed he’s going to be when he finds out

@FriskyTendervittles Год назад

I appreciate your comment. You won’t be 100% attractive to your partner for the entirety of your relationship. You’re gonna go through things and we will hurt each other. If you don’t mind me asking what therapy are you going through ? Is it Imago or EFT? I’m currently researching. Best of luck to you!

@ashleyhavoc1940 Год назад

This is the kind of woman that makes the rest of us look bad...

@Crystalbomb321 Год назад

Attraction is so important. :/

@septcinq1931 2 месяца назад

Therapists are always going to say you need a therapist. I overcame a severe depression without a therapist. My attempts to go to therapy were a waste of time and money and I actually got retraumatized. I am not a fan of therapy.

@MetalGear_85 Год назад

Fear of abandonment. Unstable relationships. Unstable sense of self. Maybe it’s borderline personality disorder.

@madsaltyskills Год назад

Fresh & Fit and Rollo Tomasi would have a Field day with this 😂😂😂 Red Pill for Life!!

@ianw7329 Год назад

This lady is a mess of a person. She took advantage of this poor guy.

@jovitarich7078 Год назад

Life skills international changed my life. Headquarters is in Colorado I think. It healed me from the inside out…too bad my husband is gone doing a life with someone else and too bad my mother is has passed away and she was not able to see the new me who it’s a lot nicer and full of peace that came with the healing and from God.

@mrdee2454 Год назад

Typical, wanted a beta to look after another mans child she has zero attraction too for resources. A tale as old as time he be dropped when the baby daddy comes back

@WhiskeyActualTV Год назад

So you used your husband, and now you’re tired of him.

@michaelwoods4495 Год назад

Love includes feelings, but it isn't a feeling. It's a commitment and a way of acting. Act like a loving wife and I bet you'll become one. After over fifty years of marriage I'm due for eye surgery and I wanted to tell someone about my concerns; she didn't want to hear it. OK--even I'm not perfect, but I am committed. So I wanted to buy an airplane and she won't fly with me even though I'm a Marine and Naval Aviator (Top Gun--I'm the real thing) with an airline transport pilot's license. We're rich enough for it but I can't have everything I want because I'm committed to her.

@smustipher Год назад

Heard on love being an action. I am a caregiver for a relative who can be difficult at times (who isn't), and when I am feeling irritated, I take a break and make a POINT to be kind, to use terms of endearment, etc even if I don't "feel" like it right then and there. It helps to diffuse the situation, and makes for a more pleasant day for both of us. Love is a choice.

@girlygirl1890 Год назад

Michael Woods so, you said you are due for eye surgery and you expect her to want to fly in an airplane with you??? Marine Aviator or not. Heck, I can't blame her. (lol)

@michaelwoods4495 Год назад

@@smustipher Thank you. That's a help and I'll start right away in the morning. It's after midnight and she's asleep or I'd start now.

@JustinCase780 Год назад

Hang in there and take special care. And, do things in a routine that you enjoy like just coffee and walking.

@letsgrowandprosper6562 Год назад

Great advice but Manitoba is a snow filled frozen tundra by now which does lil help with depression!

@NilaOdiVaa Год назад

I needed this ❤

@kellharris2491 Год назад

We are always told to get married. Look for a person and get married and then we will be happy. That's what we are supposed to do. But that's not how it works.

@karencharlier3136 Год назад

Reading the headline made me think of the call that I listen to earlier today where the wife overheard him talking to his buddies that his wife is unattractive

@ThorenTravels Год назад

The Painted Veil by W. Somerset Maugham (1925).

@edb484 Год назад

So basically used him for his money and what he can provide. A lot of marriages are like this, men have to be careful. Get that prenup

@kirylspence1190 Год назад

@@elkforests nah prenup

@mmou3878 Год назад

Poor kid caught up in this.

@carnivoreRon Год назад

She was willing to have a baby with another, then that relationship ended. She's another single mother who found a decent man that she can now break by not doing the work on the relationship. She said she had no control over anything including getting married??? She just went along with it???? I bet she has abused her husband by not allowing sex to happen in a long time. She has or will have an affair and leave the poor man because it is all about her feelings. My guess is that she has never talked to him about anything. She needed a man to come and rescue her and now she is going to sink the boat.

@johnsmith-kt7ef Год назад

i would be willing to bet the arguments were started by the caller and not her husband.

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

This is because her previous partner is taller and more handsome then the man who got her pregnant during the one night stand then dumped her. She is comparing her husbands genetics to that of her previous partner hence the resentment

@charlotteboyett-napper4780 Год назад

Yes!! That is exactly what happens

@TheQueenIsWithin Год назад

He's right about her letting life happen to her. That's what depression and disassociation does. It's more like you're an observer while being a participant.

@ykonratev 5 месяцев назад

Wow depression used as another excuse amazing. This magic word depression will be an excuse for everything soon huh? A mentally unstable degenerate is now depressed okay why can't she just be an idiot who doesn't deserve anything

@Maria-jo6nn Год назад

Good advice

@ihateutube1143 Год назад

This Dr is waaaaay too nice and these chics need tough love!

@evanl889 Год назад

He asked her point blank what she wants. She won’t be honest and just say she wants a good looking guy that makes good money to give her everything she wants from her made up version of what a marriage should be.

@Michael-ke8on Год назад

@nathansimpson5721 Год назад

What a terrible person. Taking advantage of a single 36 year old man just so she could feel financially comfortable.

@melkerner Месяц назад

A lot of Women do this - they marry, have sex for a while and then shut off because they actually marry for "other reasons" - simply said, they use men and waste their lives and livelihoods for their own security

@chelsea7755 11 месяцев назад

My 18 year relationship (1.5 year marriage) did not happen overnight. We have seen some difficulty since starting to date at 15. YOU BOTH have to do the work, you both have to show up. You can't just zone out and expect things to fall into place, or this meaningful, deep love to happen. It happens through the trials and tribulations with each other, fighting to work together, for each other. I also agree she sounds depressed and would really benefit from therapy and medication. I battle it daily and it's brutal at times. But I'm honest with my partner when I'm feeling disconnected from myself and him, but I learnt to understand what helps me, as well as what he can do to support me during these tines. Please seek therapy and find out how to manage yourself, it ultimately helps your relationships.

@Happysoul_3 8 месяцев назад

Wow you relationship is a goal to me.

@kyleconnor2759 Год назад

So messed up to marry someone you’re not attracted to. Doesn’t get much lower.

@kara2162 Год назад

WOW - she played him like fiddle. Damn. Sucks to be him.

@terriesmith2616 Год назад

@A 7108 It's called faking it. She probably faked her attraction to him so he's in the dark, clueless, while she knows because she's lying to herself. It's hard to be happy when she knows she's living a lie.

@terriesmith2616 Год назад

@A 7108 True. Either that or he has a savior complex.

@terriesmith2616 Год назад

@A 7108 Agreed with you. Likes attracts likes.

@kimmyb8276 7 месяцев назад

Marriage is hard. Every day you have to get up and choose your partner over and over. Best way to do that is be friends first. Then find common ground so when the honeymoon phase is over, you have something to hold onto