We must stop blaming women for our cheating husbands they are the ones breaking the promises they made to us pls stop fighting the ladies deal with our husbands.
I am unmarried, but I hope young girls are not aspiring for this life style. Hope the young lady will heal. She may seem proud, but underneath there is hurt there. We all wanted our own families, our own husbands, not other people leftovers.... No young girl dreams of dating a married man when young. Life happens.
What kind of desperation makes y'all date married men? I'm 32 and this guy told me that soon I will get desperate and I'll date married men😂😂😂 I laughed because I've been single for years and I don't wanna be in a relationship for the sake of being in one. Being alone can be lonely but I think a married man would make me feel lonelier Thatha! Wena side dish, wena escape from reality, wena de-stressor, wena fun time 😂 and of course sexual tension reliever. Sebenza girl😂
@@JoyCharmaindo you get to nag him . Give him a hard time when you are hormonal? What’s the point of being with a man. If I don’t see the point of being with a married man….
This is the topic most people don’t want to discuss. Your married husband’s have side chicks. Just be happy if you have never seen any with your husband. Married men bayajola and that will never change.
A man can cheat and that his and his wife’s problem but a girl this young giving herself to married men is ridiculous. They protect their kids and use her and she agrees? A re ‘I don’t ask their age??? Haowa guys
Shes sugarcoating😂😂 they do it raw and married man dont respect their wives as much they spend 70% of their time with sidechicks they give them money and forget to tale enough money home 😢
Truthfully, it's been happening for as long as our grandparents were alive. Its just that our grandmothers were rather secretive about the dynamics of married life
I will say this with love, if you respect headquarters, how much more you should respect GOD. It is His institution, tswada!!! Surely this lifestyle has comebacks my dear ❤️❤️❤️
I am not married but I must say 28 years she's still young, eventually she will want to settle down and definitely she will taste her own medicine. They start like that then later on they use muthi on poor wives... Indeed we live in a sick world!!
I enjoyed this interview,life is not a one size fits all thing,these things happen and most married women are awaere of their husbands shenanigans...@promise try interviewing a wife that intentionally decide to stay in they marriages with cheating husbands!
Let us judge positively. Adelaide Thank you for being authentic, ur Boldness n Honesty. Good advise and affirming to HQ dat "they will 4ever occupy that seat in parliament. HQ shud know Side Chicks comes in levels, Promise please bring the" other level of side chick(Competing, Entitle, Wrecker type) n in both Males n Females. This is Not spoken about among society and it's happening. HQ should know that "Thz Maparas" becomes greedy!!
There are two types of side chicks. The one who is in it for the fun of it, the money and no commitment expected from the guy as long as he keeps paying up. The second one is looking to replace the "head office" and take the lead position because she sees herself as part of his future. She usually has everything except a man who wants to commit. The first type can be detached from at any moment, but the second type can be very dangerous to such an extent that they'll even use Muthi to get what they want.
There's a 3rd type, too. The one who has a man of her own, but he can't totally fulfill one or two aspects that the side piece needs in a relationship to feel complete. However, she's content enough with her man that she doesn't wanna start all over with someone new. Instead, she dates a man who's already attached who can fill in the spaces of what she's missing in her primary relationship. That void might be sexual, financial, companionship, intellectual intelligence, etc.. A lot of people tend to think that all side pieces are these lonley women who can't get a man of their own. I've met a lot of married or partnered side pieces over the years who have no intention of leaving their primary relationship. They're everywhere.
I have an experience where I was approached by a married men while I was still in Matric 😭😩. Mo guy was driving with his family (wife n kids), wearing a ring. Did he not get out of his car to come and approach me while his wife was there? He came and acted like he wanted to ask me something about my school and decorations for our matric farewell since he did decorations. He straight up told me that he is married so he told his wife that he's coming to enquire about decorations and stuff so that she wouldn't suspect 😭😭I was so shocked and traumatized 😂mo guy was bribing me telling me that he will buy me nice things. I didn't agree anyways, I've always been scared of dating older guys, let alone married men😭. I'm 22 now, done with university and I sometimes bump into the guy and he still asks me out, he doesn't forget my face shame utata wabantu😂🚮
The fight between married men, side chicks and married women will never end. This thing has been there since nako tsa our great grandparents. Rena re rasa fela mo social media but it will never end. Cycle of life
It won’t end. Women must just accept and draw up boundaries for men to cheat. Use protection Don’t make babies Don’t cheat in the area we live in Don’t get calls from sides at home Don’t take away providing for the wife and home For example
Just hold the person you have an agreement with accountable..... The rest is history. Some married people are still looking for their soulmates...they say😢 it's sick but true
We can learna thing or two with this lady. Not that being a sidechick is tight but she's somehow got it together within herself. She's not moved by anything or anyone
Promise is being judgemental, yes what she’s doing might be morally wrong but you can’t invite a guest, for you to be throwing shade and being judgemental she’s here to have a conversation with you not to be judged by you.
You can lie to Promise, lie to the viewers and lie to yourself but you cannot lie to your conscience. Deep down you know that what you are doing is not normal
It's easier to speak about what a man wants or needs from the outside, become the "head office" and see what type of man you'll be dealing with. Wives want their marriages to work so they try most wives try theyll put the kids ti bed early to spice things up but a man who lacks discipline will never be disciplined! And the same goes to women. One has to want to be faithful to remain faithful. He will always cheat until the day he decides to be and stay committed. We will be trying kamasutra in these bedrooms but if he wants to cheat he will 😂😂 love from zim Promise ...English subtitles please whenever you can❤
Men want to be respected as head of the family, they want a home with tranquility, appetising food, lots of sex and lots of children. If any one of these is missing then the man will definitely get a second or third wife. If you control him and treat him like an immature person he will look outside. The point is that men want to be treated like kings and be seen to be in control
Nope, you’d be suprised how many normal women are sidechicks. Not even for financial benefit. Educated, great job, house, Mercedes Benz. But still a side chick.
@@PalesaSawukazi-fc9mk I hope this is learning curve for her. It doesn't make for good viewing and it may deter other guests. To get the most out of your guest... remain neutral and let them talk.
I think there are pyschological issues here.the way she is explaining it she literally agreed to breadcrumbs.no normal human being wants to be second best.saying she only gets 5% tells you she is deeply wounded so is the cheating husband.they both have deep rooted issues
You know what Jonko, u are matured and so authentic like nothing. The fact that u know gore they "might" cheat cos the wife cant keep up with the side. I give it for u girl❤❤🤗
Side chicks seem to understand male nature better than wives do but not well enough to replace the wife. Wives understand men well enough to convince him to commit to them long term but not well enough to keep them entertained long term like a side chick can. It's an interesting dynamic. But being a wife seems like an innate thing I don't know if it can be taught.
Side chick will always be 100 steps ahead of wifey becoz there is no commitment, finances, kids , bills involved ...married women would also excel in being side chicks to other people's men , becoz those men are not their husbands and don't have any obligations towards them
I loved listening to Adelaide...I also enjoyed Promise s reactions and how she managed to do the interview so well.I also liked how all were laughing...I laughed too. M a married woman too.
No matter how you beautify nonsense it will still be nonsense. Someone will watch this and think it's a good idea to go for that married guy, pathetic!!!!
@@siyandamolefe1867 if u approached by a married man and you agree to it, does it make it right??.i believe both parties contributed.as ladies we can say no but we choose to tag along.
@@siyandamolefe1867 I believe some "women go for married men" because they get involved with them, and some married men approach single women. However, it doesn't lessen the crime on either side. These illicit relationships happen because both parties agree to participate in them. Willing buyer, willing seller.
What is this Promise😂,she is giving us opportunities...she should start a masterclass😅 Personally, I am surprised how passionate she is in her job...Salute Adela!!
It's all fun,game and exciting until it backfires . We have seen a lot of people menstruating non stop because of man that belong to other people or that are being fought for. Unfortunately when its that bad she won't be this excited to tell the story. When I see such I remember uthando noxolo episode of a lady that was also from hammankraal who bled to death because the boyfriend decided to have outside relationship and the woman showed that lady flames
@@nette2144I think she does have somewhat of a conscience my guess is that she’s broken. Like she admitted at first that she was in a relationship that made her insecure. If she knows that she can’t build a home on another woman’s tears then there’s hope that there’s a little bit of conscience left. Let’s just hope she grows and heals her insecurities so she can be normal again ❤
@matanato01 that's why there is or being fought for. I don't excuse man for cheating at all I just say that sometimes one will be in a relationship with a man that has someone else who will do you bad. People use things to make others suffer it does happen. So we can't intentionally go for people that are married and be proud of that because we say they are not properties they don't belong to no one. Married man belong to their families until they get out even if they can be dated by the whole world
Married men do ask for babies, some stay in these relationships for more than 6 years. Babangwe we have two babies with a married man we've been with for over 8 years.
Promise we love you but don't be shady when your guest is speaking because of what you think about them or their situation.... I also think this side chick is not make sure we need another one. It was fun to watch though ❤
Iam still saying hunger will be the end of many marriages in South Africa, I blame poverty 😢Iam a single mom with daughter's that iam creating legacies for trying to avoid such social challenges in future😢
I love how some married people act like they don’t know it’s possible for husbands to love their sides more than the “head offices”. I got shocked when I saw a married man fight for his side and chose to protect her over the wife, kore in front of phambi kwa bantu (I didn’t say it was a right thing to do). What left me speechless was how heartbroken he was when the side left him to be with someone, man still married but if you hear him talk about that girl and what she did to her🙊🙊God knows I can never be half the “mbokodo” that the wife is. Would have left him and saved myself the embarrassment because clearly this ndoda is not so inlove with the wife but knows the wife is not going anywhere akere kesa mbokodo.
I just love Adelaide she sounds so respectful while being naughty with ppls marriage 😂😂she's not here to BREAK anyone's marriage but to balance her finances there n there....and remember DONT judge modimo more rata kao fela 🥰
The driving force behind these side-chick and married men relationship is lust and greed! It would be impossible for these ladies to settle with one man,, unless they get deliverance 😢
I disagree with you if u say it will be impossible for them to settle with one 1 man.. Njani kodwa they date 1 married man at a time.... PLUS his lady said she wants to get married.
Hmmmmmm, "if you respect his wife, he will take care of you". Does this then maybe mean what men really want is for us to allow them to have their sidechicks? Shuuuu help us Jesus!
I feel sorry for her 😢. I have a sister who dated a married man for 15 years. You know she now says the man never did anything concrete for her, she waisted her life for this selfish man. Now my sister is in her 40 and it’s a bit too late for her to start a healthy relationship, she is used to that toxic environment with that married man
Adelaide said at some point she wants to get married at some point meaning she won't be dealing with married men forever. At some point she's gona be in a stable relationship (or so she hopes) but some women, like your sister (no offense), date married men all their lives until it's too late.
@@Live_More_Love_More it makes no sense but there are prostitutes and promiscuous women who are married today with kids. It may sounds stupid to us but life is not a Nigerian movie. Women like Adelaide get married while single women who have kept themselves struggle to find husbands. It happens lol
Hi Promise. Your subtitles don’t explain the other language but English and it defeats the purpose as a IsiZulu speaking lady I lost a lot in the conversation. Otherwise, thank you for the Podcast.
The Bible nowhere condemns polygamy. Some of Scripture’s most prominent figures had more than one wife. The first polygamist was Lamech. He “married two women” (Genesis 4:19). Abraham had three wives-Sarah, Hagar, and Keturah. Jacob, David, and Solomon all had multiple wives as well. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. These are some of the Old Testament’s great men of faith! It would appear that, at least for a time, God allowed polygamy.
@@robbylebotha The Bible does condemns polygamy, otherwise God wouldn't talk against adultery. Before polygamy there's adultery. Where in the Bible did God tell Abraham and others to marry more than one? Just because they did it, it doesn't mean God approved of it. Read the Bible for revelation, not to get information. There are things that happened in the Bible and were not God's will.
@@robbylebothaWhat a hypocrite. Don't quote scriptures to try and justify your wicked ways. God never told anyone to go take multiple wives and approved it. You hypocrites wouldn't want your wives to have other husbands, yet expect her to be okay with your nonsense? Disgusting!
The funny thing about being young is that you think you will be young forever, one day she will grow up and realize that she wasted her own time with these men, time she could have used to invest in her future, to build her own relationship, marriage and home. There’s nothing new under the sun, go and ask those who came before you and I hope she doesn’t wait until it’s too late !
life has no manual...here we are 27 years without stable relationships even though we don't date married men....we are just like her relationship wise. she might even get married before us
I am a great fan of this podcast, but today I was really disappointed because the discussion was in their language 😢and I am listening all the way from Namibia. Please Promise, tell your guests to speak English
