I don’t care for my partners 42 year old daughter. But she’s an adult and lives in another state)thank goodness 🙄🙄🙄🙄 Always angry at the world, eternal victim 🙄 I see why her husband left her. I told him I don’t even want her coming around. You wanna see her? Go see her at Starbucks somewhere. I refuse to allow her drama and full blown toxicity into our home. She’s still bitter that they divorced when she was two. I’m thinking she needs a new therapist 🤷♀️
Holy moly... 3 mins in and this woman has already unashamedly admitted to being in a relationship with a married man, spoken poorly about his kids and their mother, and appears to not be bothered by the fact that this man is an absent father... the sooner this lady realizes she is the problem, the better!
@@om617yota7 The paper might not mean anything but the mess he's refusing to handle does. Not to mention the confusion and disfunction he's putting these kids through. Of course the caller is going to have a hard go of it being in these kid's life (if she plans on staying with this man). For one he's still married, still has a foot in the marriage and one foot out with the separation. And two, she doesn't want to be a step mom. It's a package deal, even if he were to finalize the divorce. Which for a meaningless piece of paper, he still won't bring himself to do it after what sounds like almost 4 years.
Never date a man who’s still married, I don’t care how long they’ve been separated. He’s STILL MARRIED!!! My coworker went through this, no plans of reconciliation he went and knocked up someone else, then he and the wife worked it out. Decade later he barely has a relationship with the second kid, the wife resents him, their teenager is an understandable jerk to them both. And he thinks he’s the one stuck in the middle because his wife and baby mama dislike each other and make things tough on him instead of taking responsibility that he created it and the kids are the ones stuck in the middle. Stop being a stupid woman and leave. Your married boyfriend is a jerk and you don’t like his kids, who are already suffering being between their parents crap. You are not the messiah you will not fix and change anything and anyone. Go be by yourself until you love yourself then you can properly love someone else. People nowadays are infuriating with their behavior!
A four year old who's parents split up when he was only two years old is not a difficult child,he is a child going through something that is very difficult and has three adults who are failing him and not recognizing that he needs to feel secure in order to grow.
How can a woman see a man be a bad father, choosing to be absent, and then decide yeah I want that man… this lady has her answer. I never planned to be a step mom, so don’t be! Those kids are not going away. And if he abandons them then he’s a crappy person.
Because there are other things about him that are really good for her. They probably have chemistry, a good connection, fun together, friendship, he listens to her, etc.
In today's age there so many single men and women without children that it doesn't make sense for either people looking for partners to consider such a person bc there always in contact with their previous partner. Who wants to share a partner?
Sophie3647s, Yeah, I always think about the idea of sloppy seconds, or, being a rebound or last resort. Might sound harsh, but honest, people who didn't care to be discerning, aware, cautious, rational, etc. should be with their own kind. And people should stop collecting other people's karma like boy scout badges. Stay clean and moral and notice the lack of stress and decay in your life.
My bf has kids I just want my bf to myself but when I want to chat to my bf I can’t coz his daughter is there next him she’s really clingy to him she tries to push me aside 😢
My wicked stepmother took over my father's life. My mother died one year after the divorce and the kids got stuck with a father and stepmother who did NOT want the kids. It ruined all 4 of our lives. It was horrendous. Please don't marry a married man who has kids especially if you don't like kids. You will be ruining lives. Don't do it please! Every married man who is wooing a single woman is a selfish SOB. Sorry, that's how I feel and I've lived it. The kids paid the price for their happiness and we all left home early so we could get the hell out of there. I left at 15. Think about the kids instead of yourselves.
My mom’s stepmother was wicked too. My grandfather remarried 3 mos after my grandmother’s death (My mom was 16). She caused hell and havoc all of his life. Left him months before he died. Drove him mad!! Luckily his children pulled together and got him in the right headspace so he could leave this earth peacefully.
Yep: my husband'm mom is the wicked stepmother in this situation. She hated her step-daughter and made that girl's life a living hell every time she came to see her dad. Treated her own children wonderfully but locked up stepdaughter outside while he was away (presumably with another mistress). She's still toxic AF and I keep her far away from our kids and family. It takes a cold hearted person not to love a child.
Lady are you serious? Be an adult and end this relationship. Stop making these childrens’ lives harder. You don’t want them, and they don’t want you. If I were the wife, I would be LIVID at hearing this woman describe my 4 year old son who’s parents are going through a messy divorce as “difficult.” YOU are difficult. JESUS
100% accurate god I hate when adults make stupid choices the children are casualties and then the children are wrongly held morally culpable by the fools making the decisions.
If you were the wife, I hope you'd put that child through therapy/give them extra quality time and care/make sure that he's being parented properly. If your sole reaction would be to be "livid", you're no better than her.
The mother would have to be dead (not trying to be funny) and the kids would have to be under 3. Just bc mom dies/leaves the picture doesn't mean her influence does. That applies to adult children too. They're already attached to the ex. You'll be fighting the mom's presence regardless. She has to be GONE gone for me to involve myself. With ALL that being said, this is why I don't involve myself with men with kids, simple! 🤷🏿♀️
I’m single in my 30s and my mom passed away this year. I’ve said no to many good men with kids because I know I can not show up emotionally for them. She needs to mature and take responsibility for her actions and the consequences her choices have on others. People need to learn integrity.
I hope to God the mom gets full custody of the kids if the dad chooses to stay with this woman. She will make those kids feel like they never should have existed.
The kids need their dad. I think if he was absent the mom got the divorce partly to get the dad involved. I hope this dumb dumb caller minds her own business so this dad can stand & be a man & a dad.
I really don't understand people who date people who are married. What do you think will happen to you if you are married to that person later on? Look for a partner with morals and integrity so you can have a healthy relationship.
Once the divorce papers are filed and you're living apart, there's no moral issue about dating. You just have to wait for the divorce to be finalized to get remarried for legal reasons.
Yea dude there are plenty of moral issues for Christians. Maybe not you but plenty of people would have moral issues with divorce and intercourse after divorce.
Exactly. Poor kids. They're just pawns between this husband and his side peice. They're the ones making these decisions and don't like that the kids have a different opinion.
Lots of single dads are just looking for another live-in babysitter for their kids. If a bio-dad tries to get you to do exchanges, talk to bio-mom or be a babysitter while he works, run away fast.
"He's a difficult child " no. He's a perfectly normal child that has a difficult dad. She wants the bad guy, and she's going to make the kids lives miserable because she thinks they are the problem.
She’s not making their lives miserable. Their father, who is the one responsible for their well-being, is making their lives miserable, and he will continue doing so long after she is gone.
She very clearly said she didn't want to have kids at some point in the video (during her first marriage). She needs to find someone without kids who also doesn't want to have kids. Someone who doesn't want kids of their own is going to be especially hostile to step-kids.
Innocent children are the casualties of adult decisions. You can hear in her voice and words she is shifting her guilt onto the children for their “difficult behaviors”. They are kids. You are an adult. Go find a single man without kids or learn to be happy by yourself. Please.
If this woman doesn’t want kids, she needs to get out of this relationship. These poor babies need therapy. I find it hysterical that she thinks she knows what is good for them when she resents that they are even in her life. These kids deserve better and she needs to do the right thing and move on. She has accepted him being a bad father and is sitting back and watching it and resenting the situation at the same time. 😡
This. I didn't want kids, and even I wouldn't casually declare a freaking FOUR YEAR OLD as "a difficult child in general." Toddlers being raised by a soon-to-be single mom and an absent dad aren't difficult. They're victims of adults who don't have their lives together.
@C M Exactly. I was the stepmom in a situation where the kid was visibly distraught and highly anxious. Her mom was unstable and would regularly abandon her for months at a time to go on vacation. But everyone pretended that she was fine, because admitting the truth would mean that they’d have to take a cold hard look in the mirror (and take me, the childless, wicked stepmother, seriously for once).
For her it's about winning the guy at all costs. His marriage, children, etc. She doesn't care she's going 100 mph. He's a bad dad, liar, etc. This is where sin takes you
What’s crazy to me is when John tells her, “You can’t divorce him from his kids”, she just responds back with “Kay”….. seriously? She didn’t even try to say that’s not what she’s trying to do.. this lady clearly doesn’t give a rat’s a$$ if she ruins those kid’s lives. What a piece of work.
Does anyone else see the incoming train wreck? This is the perfect example why you DON'T blindly follow your feelings! This is where wisdom steps in and overrules feelings. Everything about this call screams RED FLAGS. I just want to yell at this lady to please STOP.
Be careful. I know a woman who didn't want kids, but fell for a guy with kids. She married him. His kids and her never got along. Then he left her, disappeared, and she was left being responsible for the kids. Disaster. Not everyone is meant to be a parent. It's hard enough when the kids are your own and you know their history from day one. Listen to your intuition.
Red flags: 🚩 They aren’t divorced yet 🚩You’re crazy in love already 🚩He’s an absent dad 🚩He has a crazy baby momma 🚩You don’t like his kids 🚩His kids will NEVER respect you because you came into their lives while their parents were still married 🚩If they stay over, he’s gonna be emotionally detached, they are gonna be emotionally starved and YOU are gonna get the brunt of it 👀 Girl run…pack up your feelings…and leave!
I once jumped into a relationship with a man going through a divorce in my early twenties and it was a hard lesson learned. In hindsight, I knew it wasn’t a good idea. I can hear in her voice that she knows this isn’t a good idea.
My ex-husband married a woman who hated my daughter (my daughter was 6 at the time). Now my ex is divorced and my daughter is 18 and has decided to have no relationship with her dad.
@@zahraawolowo6506 lots of step parents do. Because they're jealous of the relationship their partner/spouse has with the child. And the connection with the other parent. Time/attention/love is a resource and there is lots of mentally unstable shitty people that want it all to themselves and try to compete with kids. Especially ones that aren't their own, plenty of biological parents that feel that way and do it too.
@@charlottehawthorne2664fairly prominent dynamic in my house. My wife and my daughter (her stepdaughter) are constantly at odds competing for my time and attention and control over me.
@@daretodream...898 absolutely. And when John told her she can’t divorce him from his kids, she responds back with just “Okay”… like really? She didn’t even try to defend herself and say that’s not what she’s trying to do, which means that’s probably what she wants to do. They are both terrible.
The cheated on wife according to the caller "dragged her daughter into her mess of emotions". And she "made things difficult during the divorce process". Why doesn't she have the grace to make it easy for a woman that just got divorced and is so eager to have a new relationship that she will not mind becoming a home wrecker (and for sake of optics she accepts the lame statement of him being "in the process of divorce"). So she chose to go after a family man with one toddler and one kid in puberty - and is indignant that the not-yet-divorced-and-cheated-on spouse is upset.
I married a man who acted like he liked my two children. He would play board games with them, take them to record shops etc. As soon as we were all living together he showed is true colors and became dismissive and jealous of them, petty about things like food! I left him within months. But I can never change the negative things that my children experienced. I also no longer trust my judgement.
So why did she get with a married man with two kids if she doesn’t like kids? Sounds like she needs to work on herself before she involves herself in other peoples problems
This is why I won’t date a man who already has kids. I don’t want to be a step-mom to anyone. And all the awkwardness and boundaries that come with being a step-parent, in my opinion it’s not worth it. I have feelings for a man and he tells me he has kids, I’ll be like okay, thanks for talking and you have a great day, and walk away. Making those kids life difficult and your life difficult is not worth it. There are plenty of fish in the sea who don’t have kids. Go grab one of those and see how it works out for you.
I get people catch feelings for each other unexpectedly, but the lack of judgement people show when choosing to jump into relationships is crazy! I had to laugh at this call and I think we all echo Dr. John’s sigh at the beginning.
For many people that lack of judgement is also due to drugs (hormone high of a new relationship). Once that high wears off, on to the next relationship to feel it again
It's actually a trauma bond, which feels like love but isn't. They met when they were both deeply troubled. This is why you MUST heal from an old relationship before starting a new one.
MG, If only... People especially nowadays seem to lack the discipline and their priorities are out of whack. They don't care about things like healing, critical thinking, individuation or actualisation, even just general morality.
She really shouldn’t be with this man. He’s a deadbeat, she don’t like kids, and already blaming the kids’ mother, and calling the kids names. Girl bye, this isn’t for you. Be single and heal before dating anyone.
Simple answer is no. If you don't like the kids, it won't get better, but worse. End it soon. Been there, done that. It caused nothing but issues. She's dillusional and in a fog.
Never date a man who’s not been divorced at least 2 years. He’s gonna go thru his whore stage after getting divorced and will just use women until he finds another victim to marry. If you want to be the victim he marries, avoid him until he’s done whoring.
The children didn’t ask for any of this!! They are victims of one or two parents. Don’t add to their misery. They will always come before you. Their mother -rightly -will always be a voice in your new relationship. I speak from experience. You need to put the children in front of yourself & RUN.
Dr. Johs's eye roll at 1:00 was my face during this ENTIRE call. Ashley,girl... End this "situationship" NOW cause it is a hot damn mess. Protect those kids Mom and Dad- your boyfriend and his WIFE. Smh
Despite if the marriage is broken or in-between a divorce this woman is part of the problem and sounds very self-absorbed along with openly being the mistress, the last thing these kids need is another selfish adult in their life that has no natural motherly passion or desire to parent.
This is why, if you do not have children, you do not date people with children. I am child free, and I have ended two relationships because they tried to change my mind. Don’t date people who have children if you don’t have them and don’t want them.
I've been telling my 2 step children for 30yrs, they are the reason I married their dad. They were his best qualities and I couldn't bare losing them! And, I always played nice with their moms, I actually like them both.
My step children are grown 37 and 35..we still have a great relationship. My husband did me a solid, and made it very clear to all 3 of us, he made the rules, not me. He enforced his rules, not me. I got to make lunches and go on field trips.
How could anyone be in a relationship with someone who hates their kids... that's a red flag. They need to move on away from each other. Either he fixes his marriage with his wife and stays with thier kids....Or he gets Divorced and finds someone who loves his children like there own.
Oh boy… the red flags you’re willing to ignore to satisfy your dysfunction from the last relationship! Off the jump she admits to being involved with a married man, then doesn’t like his kids! That’s 2 strikes! Once you are involved with him, you take on that role of guardian as well to his kids. Those kids will know you don’t like them! And you’re gonna have to deal with their mother for the rest of your time with their dad. Child-free people shouldn’t get involved with people who have kids. You’re bringing a whole different lifestyle and dimension to you that is complicated beyond words!
Single parents shouldn’t get involved with childfree people, not the other way around. The parents are the only ones who know how hard it really is to raise kids and coparent with an ex
If you get with a man or woman who has kids... Congrats.. those are now also your kids and it's your job to love them also. Don't get with someone with kids if you are not ready to be that step parent.
WHY on earth would you date someone with kids if you don’t like kids? You can’t just make them disappear-kids are for life. There are plenty of men without kids out there. oh and by the way, UNMARRIED men. You’re the other woman who hates his kids! How can someone be so unaware and such a victim. I can’t 😮😂
He ain't getting no divorce and you don't like kids why are you with him....girl move on stop the madness...he absent because he with someone else AGAIN !!!
The first answer I think of is no! Feelings about those kids won’t change enough to be fair to them ultimately. It really isn’t fair to him, them, or you.
He's a bad husband and a bad father who is just looking for someone to be the new live-in nanny. Not exactly a great catch. Girl, find your self worth and hold out for a good man.
My uncle married the secretary je cheated with - his kids hated them both. One son refused to speak to him - or her until more kids were born. Uncle had a child with the secretary and married her post divorce. They raised the daughter, sent her to college. Then he had a stroke, the daughter got married and the secretary divorced him and is taking over his business now after he had a fall and sustained a memory loss. He has depression now. Even if this becomes long term it won’t be the fairy tale you or he deserves as humans who need love and support. Take this guidance and grow with it. Get out of their lives and see if he runs back to her. My uncle did after 2 decades when his secretary got a new partner - in more ways than 1. He dated his 1st wife, my aunt. And it was ok but it wasn’t. And she broke his heart. It might have been her chance at revenge. After 2 decades and 3 kids with 2 women. Don’t risk bringing more kids to this. End it now while you can make a clean break. Better for all of you. Move away if you have to.
These kids are normal kids who have had their parental situation completely blown up around them and shes the third adult thrown into the picture. Of course the children are going to rebel. All the kids see is " My Mom and Dad hate each other and this other woman is the reason". They are feeling unsafe, unloved and uncared for. What is she even calling John about? You cannot last in a relationship with someone you have no respect for.
What the caller wants is 100% irrelevant and unimportant in this situation. This is not about her, or her relationship with a married man. This is about the kids. All about the kids. They deserve the best parents and the best stepparents. They’re not going to get that from someone who describes them as difficult and admits she never wanted children in the first place.
Move on. She lost me whining about the kids, they come first every single time, the dude can grow up and be a dad, no kid wants some tool competing for dad's attention, they come first, he will be busy with 2 children you don't need a love life when you should be focused on healing and being a parent. Some people are so selfish and needy.
I don’t get John’s take on the situation. The answer to this whole thing is saying to this woman who do you think you are stepping into someone else’s marriage involving children being somewhere you have no business being and then wondering what to do about it, so that you continue having the good feeling that you’re feeling. Sounds like she’s all about me and needs to grow up
The two deserve each other they both trifling. He needs to man up and be a father and she need not be in a relationship with someone with kids if you don’t like kids. God forbid something happen to the mother and he gets full custody, she ain’t the stepmother 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I don’t even have to watch this, the answer is no. You marry someone, you marry their kids too. My step mother was horrid to my sibling and I and my father chose her over us eventually. It was traumatic for everyone involved. Practically destroyed my life and took years to recover from the pain of being emotionally abandoned by a parent. My dad has admitted to deeply regretting his actions but can’t face up to the shame. He ended up divorcing her years later but he has permanently damaged the relationships he could have had with us kids. All of us involved were hurt by their severely messed up priorities. You can’t recover that lost time and who knows if the rifts will ever heal. If you are someone trying to insert yourself into someone else’s life without caring for their already existing kids, you need to stop. Don’t put yourself in that position because it’s a desire born from selfishness and everyone will bear the burden long term. And if you are the parent, absolutely prioritize your kids over your romantic interests. If your kids aren’t happy, it’s highly likely you won’t be either.
If you don’t want kids of your own, you definitely are not going to be good with other peoples kids. You should go. Whether you’re the problem, the boyfriend is a problem for something else, this is not going to work. Get moving.
Some married men who have children and are getting divorced are really strange. Why would you immediately enter into a relationship if you haven’t been legally divorced for a season? Are people that desperate for someone else’s attention?
Why would you continue a relationship with someone who has kids if you don’t want children? I don’t want children and so I married a man who didn’t either.
Thank you for not allowing these women to play victim when the come into a marriage. Separation is not divorce. You cannot love the man if you dont love his children. Call me old fashioned, but they are a part of him. What does she think? The mother will take the children and the two of them will waltz into the sunset? It is sad and pitiful the delusion...if you dont want to be a stepmom then step off. FANTASY is the right word. You cannot erase the circumstances. Everyone has the right to not want children, but they did not ask for you. You only know of the marriage from what he told you.
My dad is married to a woman who hates my guts and has done since I was 14. I’m 30 now. My and my dad didn’t speak for 7 years but we reconciled in 2016 and speak multiple times a day, see each other once a week and I love him to death but in these 8 years his wife has never known we reconciled. He couldn’t be at my wedding because of it. He can’t be there at the drop of a hat should I need him. He can’t speak on the phone at just any point. He can’t just come round for a cup of tea, it has to be planned in advance so he can think up excuses. I can’t just drop in at his. I’ve not been to his house for 16 years. He has me saved under a different name in his phone book. The most painful thing? He’s allowed to speak to my sister. So I’m the secret. I love him, he is my best friend and nothing can sever that bond but I can’t respect how spineless he is for letting this slug of a woman dictate our relationship.
1: Don't get involved with someone who is still legally married: the "separation" is nonsense, wait until the divorce is finalized, period. 2. Don't get involved with someone who is a parent if you don't want to be a stepparent. Ashley and her boyfriend are a disaster no matter how you view it. End it, Ashley.
I don’t understand why you’d want to date someone who has kids when you yourself don’t want them. It’s fine to not want kids. It’s not okay to date someone that wants something different than you and waste their lives.
Why in the world would you involve yourself with someone who has kids???? Even if the divorce went as smooth as glass, you would still be dealing with his kids. There would never be a guarantee the kids would ever warm to you. If you don't like kids you don't date someone with kids. EVER.
Be very careful. I married a man at mid-life. He had adult children from his first marriage when we met. Apparently, they do not like me much or like the fact that I married their father. They pretty much ignore me and tolerate me in their father life with little communication, no acknowledgement of me, my birthday, my health in any way and so on. I have never expected to be their mom but I thought we might have some kind of mature adult relationship. I have two adult son's from my first (only other) a 27 year marriage. The do not treat my husband as their father but they are considerate and kind to him and include him in their lives in small ways. The way my husband's adult children have treated me over the years has hurt me and frustrated me but finally with the help of a therapist I gave it up. I stopped having expectations of them. I take care of my relationship with my own two sons and my biological granddaughter and encourage my husband to take care of his relationship with his children and granddaughters. This is not how I had hoped or wished it would be, but I have stopped knocking my head against the wall about it. If they do make contact, I am pleasant, but I no longer go out of my way to try to build a relationship as they have made it quite clear they have no desire for a relationship with me. BTW: My husband was divorced for 7 years before we met, and I was in no way involved in his divorce. To me there is unresolved anger with their father for breaking up the family and they seem to care more about their own lives and needs than they do their father's needs at age 77, which I find mean and sad since their father supported them financially, helped to raise them and put them through college. However, it is what it is.
Just give this possible explanation a tought - could there be any signs that his children and ex, are resenting a possible smaller inheritance, or other monetary loss for them - anyway, he could have been their money-automat, and they've counted firmly on him staying that? Your sons have no such interests and motives. If it is all about the monetary self-interest of his children, you will find it easier to accept their not accepting you as his most important relative. Be sensitive to the small signs, as they probably want to get rid of you, but not their father, the one who they might think should only think about their needs, not his own. A father and husband has a right to also strive for bring respected as an individual, and for his own happiness and well-being, as has any mother, too. This degree of self-care I think is a good example for the children and only good for them. In my ethics no one has the right to diminish another human being to a means to his/her selfish ends. All love and relationships should build on mutual caring and reciprocity.
@@DNA350ppm well to be honest that’s a real concern. My ex took our daughters college money and gave it to his new wife’s daughter and posted online his gifting them while our daughter has to work two jobs. Now he can’t understand why his children aren’t interested in him
@@LisaLisaCJ Your ex did totally wrong. It serves him right when his children are not interested in him. It sounds he uses money to get power over others. When a couple divorce all money matters should be cleared fairly into smallest detail to avoid such horrible emotional conflicts. Can you make some legal intervention, so that your children know that you are on their side? There are many crappy exes in this world, many are men, but some are women. Many men think of any relationship as how they can profit from them, and in a divorce they get very hard-core greedy. And some women, too. As a divorced mother we must always try to be above conflict, revenge, slander, because "everthing is always the mother's fault" - if we get remarried, we should insist on prenups and totally separated "half/half" economies, and all inheritance-matters should be regulated in advance in testaments and agreements. I feel much empathy for your case, Lisa, hope you can correct as much as possible of the economy, or just move on, a lot wiser, but you have no duty to try to repair your ex's relation to his daughter. What a swindler he is!
He's got Ashley to plug in as a substitute parent (both mother and father) while he continues on with his life. And she doesn't really like or want kids. And the kids don't like her. That's what I just heard. Let me tell you - if you don't want to be a parent you *really* don't want to be a stepparent.
My sister married a twice divorced man with a young daughter at home. This was 22 years ago. He didn’t cheat with my sister but I don’t think he wanted to be bothered being a parent. The ex wife was an instigator and the daughter just wanted her daddy. I know my sister would NOT have married him if she knew then what she knows now. The dynamic was wicked and continues to this day. You are both in a rebound situation and everyone’s life will be hell forever if you stay together. You will always be the woman that broke up the family, but I suspect it was actually someone else. Take time for yourself before you get into another serious relationship. Move on Ashlee!!
If they are separated when they started dating, she did not break up the marriage. Idk what Dr. John is saying. But there’s no reason they should be separated and trying to get a divorce for 3 years. I don’t like ppls kids because most ppl suck at raising them. I would ditch him and his brats. Let him and the mom sort it out. Him being absent because of his “job” is him being a coward. He should get the divorce sorted out asap. Re mom…..Mom’s are almost always bitter when the relationship ends. Girl run. Leave them in their mess and go find another single child free man. It’s ridiculous
In under 3 minutes multiple red flags have popped up. In "A Man for All Seasons', Sir Thomas More says to a misguided teen: "When your head stops spinning, I hope that your face is still pointed forward." The caller needs to stop thinking of the man with emotion, and switch to reason. Then she will make a decision which will be to her benefit and to all involved.
Why don’t people give themselves a chance to heal AFTER the divorce and leave dating long enough to do so? Why do people date separated people? This woman is saying “right” to JD and in the next sentence she wants to know how to move forward with the man and his kids she doesn’t like. She hasn’t heard a word he said.
