I don't need male friends. 

Agreed lots of men, especially single men, can’t decipher genuine kindness from flirting bc half the time they only compliment the women they’re interested in not just random compliments like women tend to do, so they think we’re coming from that same flirty place. At least from my experience I can’t see myself being friends with men because most of the time it was just a gateway to my energy and presence and they ended up “having feelings” unless they were gay or already had a girlfriend. Men love to “can we be friends” their way into a situation ship just to not really want a relationship anyway just want a lucky night. And don’t get me wrong not all men but definitely the majority let’s be real

You can't be attractive and be nice to men. They think you're flirting.

I also hate when they put other women down to compliment !! I feel you on how that’s such a turn off

I learned that in my 20s. It doesn’t matter if they are married, have a happy family, faith in God, if they have a great reputation, or anything else that makes them seem like they have it all together. They WILL try you at some point. Its only a matter of time. It sucks but it is what it is.

I realized this about three years ago that I have enough men in my life. I have brothers, male cousins, uncles and a father. Men who aren’t related to me, I don’t need to be connected to on a personal level. Female friendships are more important to me atp in my life

I'm a Catholic. (since 2019), and I decided not to date until I was 19ish. I underestimated how entitled other Catholic (and protestant, and spiritual non-religious, occasionally muslim) men feel to you just because you're beautiful and believe in God. I have so many systems in place to protect myself and my energy that I didn't when I started. Sometimes it really does seem like nobody had a conversation with these men about how a woman doesn't need to fall in love with you just because you held her door open. But I stopped entertaining male friendships (with few exceptions) a while back and it just makes life so much easier. I love your stories.

Kelly, if no one else tells you, I certainly will: that purple sweater looks SO good on you 10/10

love when they tell you all their baggage on the first date

Ive learned this as i started working male dominated job. Hes got a gf? IT DOESNT MATTER. Hes married? IT DOESNT MATTER? Has 5 kids and a baby mama? IT DOESNT MATTER. Hes 20 years older than you? IT DOESNT MATTER. THEY WILL HIT ON YOU

I do feel bad for these men seeing as how they have to deal with massive amounts of rejection before they meet their person but no means no and violating someone's boundaries is not ok. I blame all those rom coms where the persistent stalker guy gets the girl after she turned him down 10 times. It only works for Joe Goldberg.

i resonated with this video on a spiritual level. you will never catch me being friends with men. it either turns into them trying to get out of the friend zone or trauma dumping about how no girl likes them. and whenever that happens, i don't reassure them or say it'll get better like i'm not a shoulder to cry on i'm sorry 💀 but shout out to my girl friends out there because i will literally go the extra mile even if we just met in the bathroom 2 seconds ago lol

I dont tell men im not interested because i need male validation but because im scared of being unalived

I just don’t understand how telling a man “I don’t want you” is not enough. I’ve done it many of times and it’s like they push back even harder.

I love the ending! Normal male to the rescue! I too have suffered from being too nice to men. If you tell them at one period f time that you’re not interested and months or years, go by and then they just wanna get together for lunch and you think everything’s cool and they understood where you stood in the past. No they come dressed up in a three piece suit thinking they’re winning you over again and you feel like you have to break up with them all over again it’s so frustrating. 😂

Girl. I needed this video. A similar thing just happened to me except the guy is 62. I'm 23.😳 I realized like you said-- that being platonic is impossible!

Decentering and protecting oneself from men is my new motto.

In my experience, gym bros/bodybuilders have been the main types of guy I've encountered that truly cannot take no for an answer and are sooo persistent!! They love a "challenge" which they begin to view you as as soon as you reject them. I had a bodybuilder I went on one date with hound me for months, and a personal trainer I went on a few dates with still asks me to hang out to this day despite me saying no every time. I've never experienced this level of persistence from anyone else.

It’s not just LA, it’s everywhere. And it gets more aggressive as you get older. Welcome to womanhood lol

I have also experienced that men expect something from you after you are nice... it seems that they believe if you pay any attention to them it is a "yes" to pushing themselves into your space and lives. It's fucking annoying. Men usually don't have the capacity emotionally to deal with rejection, and seems to turn to anger, it's what makes women feel unsafe. Thanks Kel..❤

For some reaosn, society has taught men that they should be persistent and that its flattering. I had something similar recently where a guy at the gym came to talk to me, he was super cute but the age gap was the same in your scenario. He recently texted me, and I showed interester (a bit of flirting), and its like after that point he thought I was definitely going to hook up with him and started every convo with a sexual comment. To the point where I had to say hey, relax, I think you're cute but xyz. And his response was that I shouldnt make sex seem like its a 'sure thing' then. As if telling someone theyre cute means you're entitled to their body, and every point after that :)

You have some of the best intros.This good/ creepy storytime gave me something to watch; while having lunch. It's great you didn't let said guy, make you uncomfortable. However he definitely seemed to get more intense;as time went on. Stay safe;and keep up the good work .

Just like Kelly, the American health care system was off the (recently torn rotator) cuff when Kelly was unable to navigate the glucose guardian levels of sugary customer service in order to pick the sweetest health care plan that was right for her.

I wouldn't agree 100% just because I have a unicorn male friend that is amazing and is like a brother to me. But they are hard to come by for sureeee

Omg… guys really are weird and you can’t be friends with them. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you use to be the girl who only had guy friends and was kinda sheltered. A lot of guys don’t just wanna be your friend and they start stalking or talking down on you.

Kelly, I’m so thankful for your videos. I just found your account recently and you’re a breath of fresh air in my day.

Found that out while I was working my old retail job in college. I was showing this male customer where a t shirt was at and we got on the topic of college and I was kind of complaining to him about the college i was attending. And he was giving me good advice and told me to just stick it out. Then he just made it weird after I checked him out talking about what’s your phone number? Like wtf? And I was really awkward and asked him why? He said so you can be my lil friend, you a cute dark brown girl.😩😭. I was just utterly flabbergasted and just felt weird because I wasn’t flirting with him , and my parents wonder why I like to stay in my house and barely have a social life😒. Because people act weird!

AHHHHHH this literally came at the PERFECT time in my life because I JUST now learned that you can’t be nice to men literally last week!!! So so very sad and quiet terrifying, but seriously thank you so much for sharing your story because it genuinely made me laugh and also feel a lot better about my own experience. ♥️

Chile…I have SO many stories I don’t even know where to begin. It is pretty unnerving to be on the receiving end of this type of behavior (especially when the guy lacks a sense of awareness to know when he’s being creepy or not)

I’m also very kind to people, including strangers. I’ll smile at everyone, say hi, offer compliments, etc. I’m a people pleaser and a bit socially awkward. That being said, guys sometimes think I’m interested in them and I’m just being friendly. I don’t want that. It’s happened with past male friends and always gets weird eventually.

girly, you’re late on this one, never be nice to men unless you’re interested. I got a stalker just from being nice 😢

Men think any form of eye contact or even holding a door open or a nice shirt that you wanna get with them lmao😂

Took me a while to discover that too. Thank you for covering this topic.

Loved your story time! Similar thing used to happen to me. I always looked younger than my age so even younger guys would approach when I was running errands on my lunch break from work. They always had the same line, "Oh I like older women." They would then ask what I'm doing later and I would say I'm going back to work, where do you work? They would start to stutter. I just wonder why young men have time to hang around and try to pick up women. Why aren't they working or going to school in the middle of the day. Sends ends up a red flag for me.

People. Please please please PLEASE. don't think every male is like this. Because they are not. Please have in mind that there are plenty men that are actually good. Keep high hopes and don't put everyone in the same box. Good luck 💕

When you started singing shackles off my feet I was dyinggg. You're so funny Kelly!

Sadly this behavior is not unique to large cities such as LA. This happened to me all the time when I used to live in the suburbs of Washington DC. These type of men are everywhere. I’m glad that you had someone there who was willing to deflect him. That doesn’t always happen.❤

The men need to heal, and be taught, bc I feel most of them weren't given those lessons of boundaries, expressing themselves as a man, and whatnot

Some men really cant take no its quite ridiculous.

Lady! You are on the road to 1,000,000! Let’s share this video to get her to 1,000,000 followers! I love your content. You are so much like my daughter. Happy to have attended Stampede U for several years.

Omg!!! XDDD I feel for you Kelly! It reminds me of my son's dad! We've been long broken up. I let him back in only to try to be coparents again because he wanted to try to be in his son's life after not being there for 3 years. I'd schedule meet ups so they could get re-aquainted, however, he'd also try to invite me to go to the movies and concerts with him, help him pick out furniture for his new place, even talked about giving me a spare key to his new apartment. (He had a girlfriend of 1 year mind you.) I had to explain to him that I'm trying to manifest a husband and I can't do that hanging out with him. He told me he understood, but then tried to invite me to hangout with him and his friend anyway. Not too long after our first conversation, we got in a huge argument. He tried to guilt me by saying that he thought we were "friends." Frankly, I cut contact with him real quick after that (for other big reasons as well). But you really can't be nice to some of these men! Honestly! Thank you for sharing your story!

Really relatable video. Recently learned this through a bad experience. Used to be friendly with everyone, now I am not. One boy told me that if a guy asks me if I’m going to a party and I say “maybe”… that means I am flirting and being suggestive that I wanna party with him??💀 when I literally mean maybe yes maybe no… I just don’t get it. Male communication is so indirect and emotional. Trying to find more female friends but I’m struggling :(

As a man, I can tell you that for young men that there's no such thing as too old. If you're attractive and 40, all is game.

“Glucose Guardian” is wild. 😂😂

The more I watch your videos the more I realize we think a like. I do agree that men and women do not need to be friends for any reason. It does not benefit one another. Keep up the great videos. It's nice listening to your storytelling.

Kelly is like a Christian Carrie Bradshaw with so many interesting stories 😄. Glad you are safe though.

Gurl I learned that in middle school. Dudes would act creepy towards me everytime I would just me be nice to them. Trying to touch me a crap

Not entertaining male friendships saves sooo much time & energy they were trying to leech off you

Glucose guardian is hilarious! I'm glad Professor Stamps is safe and well!

The background music was the perfect touch to story time!

That’s what men do. They go after what they want. They pursue. I think he was just awkward about meeting another human in real life and not online lol and wanted a friend, but I’m sorry you felt unsafe.

It’s everywhere yesterday I turned down a guy while I was out and his friend got mad and started being rude too me and I just kept walking. They were also very huge as well. I’m 23….. and I learned early guys hate rejection and I was so nice to him I said, “I’m just having a bad night but thank you” and he was very respectful about it until his friend came over there for whatever reason idk

as a male stampede,its so trauma inducing to hear about this,its like every mans cannon event LMAO

i'm speechless. This is entertaining and hilarious, but irl annoying that it happened. But, yes, Kelly. Thank you for sharing w Stampede University. We have learned our lesson lol

This is true. I was a hairdresser and if I complimented their hair ...they would be bring up their wife or gf and how happy they are. Thinking I want them. 😅😂 I had a couple come back looking for me if I want to hang out. Just goes to show you man don't know how to have platonic relationships with women.

I went to the store and got hit on by an employee. And I said no I have a bf and I go back in there sometimes and he still tries to talk to me ugh. 💀 It’s annoying it’s like take a hint! I said no, go away lol

I can’t actually watch right this minute, but I had to come and say the thumbnail is HOT. Thank you for listening. Can’t wait to take this lecture later.

Thr idea of being "just friends" with a straight male is a paradox because men generally show interest in women they have initial physical attraction to. The hard truth.

off topic but kelly youre glowinggg in this video you look like a princess and that purple looks amazing on you

"I'm too old for you" vs " You're to young for me" have different rings to them. No excuse for making you uncomfortable, but I think men, if you tell them I'm not qualified for...reason and you meet what they want, they see it as a challenge. Versus when you're clear that THEY are not want you want, the point comes across.🤷‍♀️

This is true. For some people, you can not compliment them. At all. Your kind words mean something completely different to them.

“Bumble get ready to rumble”… Truth. I LOL’d! 😂😂😂

Opened the app to a new Kelly video 😭🙏🏽

Ok I must share this story- visiting my home town I randomly ran into a guy I went to high school with that I used to be friends with and have a crush on (at the time). It was a very brief interaction, like hey happy to see you! And exchanged numbers to keep in touch. He went back to Arizona where he had been living..called me to talk to me and we chatted on the phone for maybe 30 minutes. Anyways literally a few days later he shows up in my town in California saying he's moved there. I was like woah, random? But we ended up meeting up for drinks to catch up and he told me he moved there for me/to be with me. And then tried to come home with me because he had nowhere to stay...followed me to my car even though I said I couldn't have him over, etc. I ended up shaking him eventually but it was super creepy!!

Being a Gemini is a frustrating, hot mess. But I wouldn’t change that for anything in the world! Be free! 🥰

Girl I am cryin laughing at ur pretend phonecall...why do we do this?😂😂😂...I'm at the gym listening to u cracking UP!

@ Kelly Stamps I must say, ( in addition to the 2 latest videos themselves ) your signature " throwback style " thumbnails are so adorable! 😊😊😊

As a man I typically only hangout with women in group settings unless they show genuine interest in me beyond flirting because it usually leads to a misunderstanding. I've had many female friends that I've hung out with 1 on 1 only to turn around and hear them say I was trying to get with them when that wasn't the case. Being able to tell the difference between jokes and flirting seems to have become a very blurry line for them. That said, when I do approach a woman I'm interested in, I ask them out on what is clearly stated to be a date and about 60% of the time it's just "something free" for them while the other 40% is a mix of a successful relationships, rejections, or genuine friendship which is fine. There's too many people in this country that don't understand how forming relationships and romantic relationships work and it shows. That being said don't sh*t where you eat to avoid obviously awkward situations i.e don't give them the time of day.

Thank you for sharing Kelly. I’m glad the nice man came to your defense and helped you out. I will always stand by the fact that there AREA nice, genuine, non-weird single young men out there, it’s all in God’s timing when we they come into our life

“isnt it funny someone can be born in 2002” -me born in 2003-🥲

"Let's start by going to get a pedicure... I've seen some of your feet!" 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 Kelly, you're hilarious...😂

the thumbnail, one of my favs with my other fav I'm all here for it

KELLY! 😂I dont have time for this girl. Its too early for storytime.

Glucose Guardian 😂 I can’t with you Kelly!!

I found my boyfriend through bumble, haha. I think he’s pretty great and we’ve been dating for 3 years but I was probably just lucky 😂

GLUCOSE GUARDIAN 😂😂😂😂😂 I caaaan’t

"glucose guardian" 🤣🤣🤣

Oh gosh… one of many stories but this reminded me of a time when I worked at a frozen yogurt shop. I was 18, a freshmen in college and a new hire came in, 15 at the time. Nice kid, but a little too friendly m that I requested to not work shifts with him lol. A few years past and when I was 24 (currently 26 now) he randomly followed me on Instagram and he started messaging me. I didn’t think anything at first and just had small talk. Eventually he would send voice notes and asked me to “hang out at his COLLEGE DORM”. I tried letting him down nicely and he’s upset because we aren’t “friends”. Every now and then he tries coming back claiming he is older now… as if it would make any difference🏃🏻‍♀️💨

Kelly KELLY Kelly ❤ As a happy domesticated Texan girl, I wish you the best of luck. If you make it big (in the kitchen) I owe you a drink at Chez Fabian in Grapevine. My husband is 57 and I’m 32. You gotta get what you need out of this life and I love your go get it attitude. Thank you as always ❤

I had an old childhood friend who is a guy that i texted from time to time, twice a year maybe, in college, just talking about school, life, basic things. I even told him i was dating someone. I thought i was keeping in contact with a good friend. He thought i was flirting with him 🙃 so you think I'm a cheater?? i was really upset and taken aback at the time. Anyways, thanks Kelly ❤

“I’ve seen some of your feet” 😂

lmao glucose guardian! Prof Stamps thank you💌

Kelly!!! pls pls pls put us on the brands you wearrr (unless u wanna gatekeep which i totally respect). In another video you were wearing this white dress (i think it's "I SIMPLY GIVE UP") and as a fellow tall girlie i find it so hard to find cute clothes like the one that you're wearing in the thumbnail. luvya

Needed this! People keep telling me that I need guy friends and I'm like naur

I love your content, I am having the exact realizations you are having. I relate to the things you say. I guess I am growing and becoming more mature.

Yikes when she said hes 20, i shed a tear

I really related to this story and thank you for telling it. I'm a 55 year old female and I used a have a few close gay male friends, but things have changed around a lot for me in the past 4 years and I no longer associate with a lot of people I have known in the past. This year, I tried to be friends with two straight men - one was 46 and the other 54. I am decent looking for my age but past the point of peak attractiveness so I figured that plutonic friendship with men was possible. I was wrong. It didn't work out with either of them. I'm not sure what it is with guys, but it always turns sexual. Years ago, when I was 39 and lived in NYC, I tried being friends with a heterosexual male and it ended badly. I didn't try again until this year. I thought I would have different results because I am older now but it was still the exact same result. Many (but not all) men will seem to accept when you tell them, "I just want to be friends," but they take it as some kind of challenge or entry point. I have had better luck in my interactions with younger men. I would not want to be a 20-35 year old woman right now.

“glucose guardian” LMAOO KELLY

Oh Lort! How many places will @KellyStamps have to cross off the map?! 🗺️ At least you’re metacognitive! Love that about you. 💖

I recall a time when I was saying goodnight to my platonic friend after a party when a guy slipped into her car just as she was leaving. Jokingly, she said to me "Are you my brother too?". I didn't know where she was coming from. I told her she didn't have to go. I told her I could be anybody. She said "I know". I never saw her again.

Teen tried to holla at Kelly😂

getting kicked off my parents health insurance in february.... im dreading that😭💀

I don’t have that type of ego to think that every woman wants me.

Let’s talk about Kelly’s Make-up glow uppppp- tutorial ❤

Your are so real 😭😭

Same, I made this decision this year. Looking back, I noticed male "friends" were only waiting for an opening. If we aren't family, I don't need to be in contact with you, no please. Not saying they all are like this or every situation is doomed, but for me, NO please, safer for everyone.

thank you

Agree heavily. They have nothing to offer.

When I watch your videos it feels like my brain is taking a shower

this nikka said "howdy friend" hahahaha

glucose guardian im dead lol